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DC Squatter, Michigan Scandal, & A Trip Scam That Ended a Friendship
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DC’s viral Airbnb squatter nightmare finally gets a courtroom twist—and it sparks a bigger fight about tenant rights, landlord power, and where “guest” ends and “tenant” begins. Then we get real messy: a University of Michigan football scandal where an inappropriate workplace relationship turns into a career-ending disaster with major legal smoke. And to finish it off, we hit a Reddit story that proves romance doesn’t cancel arithmetic: a couple tries to pay “as one person” on a friends trip… and the math is criminal.
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Chapters:
00:00 Housing Nightmares, Football Fiascos & Friendship Math Gone Wrong 🏡🏈🤯
00:21 Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives 🎙️🔥
00:50 Squatters, Side Pieces, and Split Bills 😱💔💸
02:42 DC's Tenant Laws Under Fire After Airbnb Nightmare 📜🔥🏛️
07:41 The $2,500 Deal That Changed Everything 💵📝✍️
10:39 Caught in Lies: The Eviction History Exposed 🤥⚠️📋
15:14 Protecting Tenants vs. Punishing Landlords ⚖️🏘️💭
18:08 When Side Pieces Cost $25 Million 💔💰🚨
22:09 From Head Coach to Handcuffs in 24 Hours 🏈👮♂️💔
25:39 The Executive Assistant Affair That Destroyed It All 💼❤️🔥🚫
31:02 Emotional Distress and Criminal Investigation 😰🚔📱
34:44 Black Coaches and the Grace They'll Never Get 🏈✊🏾😔
37:46 When One Person's Actions Hurt an Entire Community 💔👥⚖️
41:43 Couples Math: When 1+1 Doesn't Equal Fair 🧮💸😤
44:52 The Mountain Trip That Exposed Fake Friends 🏔️💸😡
47:39 Math Ain't Mathing: Breaking Down the Betrayal 🧮❌💯
51:15 When Money Shows You Who Really Cares 💰👀💔
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Transcript
Introduction and Topics Teaser
00:00:00
Speaker
Common sense is on life support between squatters, side pieces, and couples trying to split bills like they're one human. We gonna get into it. Let's get it.
00:00:21
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Welcome. First of all, welcome. This is Unsolicited Perspectives. I'm your host, Bruce Anthony, here to lead the conversation in important events and topics that are shaping today's society. please Join the conversation and follow us wherever you get your audio podcasts. Subscribe to our YouTube channel for our video podcast, YouTube exclusive content, and our YouTube membership.
00:00:40
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Rate, review, like, comment, share. Share with your friends, share with your family, hell, even share with your enemies. On today's episode, we're talking housing chaos, messy relationships, and why dating somebody does not magically make math stop working.
00:00:58
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But that's enough of the intro. Let's get to the show.
Update on DC Squatter Case
00:01:08
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Okay, y'all, I swear, this is the last This the last update on the squatting situation here in D.C. Because it's this squatter story is not just a story about housing.
00:01:24
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It's a story about audacity. So everything has finally been resolved over the last couple episodes. We've been giving you guys updates or I have and I've been antagonizing my sister to talk about this because look, it is in my algorithm for anything about this story to pop up.
00:01:44
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And so finally it got resolved and I'm gonna give you guys the rundown of exactly what happened. So a DC judge ruled that accused Airbnb squatter Shadiza Romero has no tenancy rights in a Northwest Washington home in order that the homeowner can have her removed. validating a prior agreement she signed to leave the property. The ruling effectively clears the way for an immediate eviction and has intensified debate over gaps in DC's tenant and squatter laws. Now, I'm going to get into the agreement that they previously
00:02:25
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and that the court was like, nah, this is valid. I talked about it previously on one of the episodes that they had an agreement, but I wanna talk about what this story has done and this area, more specifically in DC. Now, some people are gonna say this is absolutely ridiculous that this woman was able to live in this place essentially rent free for about 10 months because of laws And they're not squatter's laws. Squatting is against the law, but there was a debate of whether or not she was actually a tenant.
00:03:03
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And this would have stretched out longer had it not been for this agreement that they signed that I'll get into later. And Shadija Romero could potentially could have potentially still been in the house for an even longer period of time, costing the homeowner mad money. the The homeowner, it was reported that the homeowner was paying the four thousand dollar a month mortgage, but couldn't anymore because she wasn't getting any income and that the mortgage payment went up to ten thousand
Importance of Tenant Laws
00:03:38
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a month.
00:03:38
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I don't know what mortgage agreement that she had. I got to talk to some real estate people, but that's crazy to jump up two and a half times. Well, it's not two and a half times, but y'all know what I mean.
00:03:50
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More than double is absolutely crazy.
00:03:55
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But there's a reason why there are tenant laws. Because as crazy as this story is, and is as unfortunate as it is for this homeowner, and let's make no mistake about it, it is absolutely a travesty for this homeowner.
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If you also pay attention to DC housing, you will know there are a lot of shoddy landlords You'll know that they are and that they will have people living in squalor, breaking the law, and that there are still laws that protect landlords.
00:04:32
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And people, tenants have to take landlords to court to get them to do their job, slumlords. So while everybody is looking at this and while there is a hubbub, God, that is so corny and old, but whatever.
00:04:47
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There is a hubbub over this story. This harkens back to a couple of episodes that I did a few weeks ago where I talked about making rash decisions, making emotional decisions lead to bad things, right? So everybody, and we had people in DC council, you have people in the city of DC, because this story is so bad, you have people now calling for a reversal or a scrubbing of these tenant laws.
00:05:23
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And I'm like, hold up, wait a minute, because realize there are way more slumlords in DC than there are actually squatter cases. This was a a a crazy case. And like I said, I feel for the homeowner.
00:05:43
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This was some bullshit that she had to go through. And this squatter, Shadija Romero, had done this before. She had done this before and knew the system. There are always going to be shysty people that manipulate the system for their benefit.
00:05:58
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That's always going to be the case. Remember them PPP loans? Now, those loans were went out during COVID to help businesses. There were businesses that legitimately need that help.
00:06:10
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Some people finesse the system. And now people are like, well, since they finessed the system, the whole system was wrecked. No, there are going to be people that are always going to finesse the system. That's just how life works.
00:06:22
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People are always going to find a way to get over. That doesn't mean that you sacrifice the many because of a few bad apples. But Let me get back to the story. Don't worry.
00:06:37
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I will be going on my off the beaten path comments as I'm reading to you guys what what the latest updates is for the story. The judge found that Romero is not a legal tenant and that a written cash for key style agreement she signed in October confirming she was a short term Airbnb guest with no lease or tenant rights.
00:06:58
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Remains valid because she does not have Tennessee rights. The court said the homeowner can move forward with having her removed from the property as early as the day of the ruling rather than going through a prolonged landlord tenant process.
00:07:13
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So this is what I was talking about earlier, because the court ruled she ain't no tenant. You should. the owner didn't have to go through a long process of evicting a person. And that is a long process, right? It is a long process of evicting people, but because she was never a tenant. And let my let me remind you guys what that agreement was. So,
00:07:40
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When she went past her, when Shadija Romero went past her Airbnb time period of 32 days, right? Because she knew exactly how many days that she needed to go.
00:07:52
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The landlord was like, hey, look, what's going on? After a couple of months, the landlord was like, look, sign this agreement that you were an Airbnb guest. You are not a tenant. Here's $2,500 and get the hell and get the hell out And more Romero agreed to it initially and then backed out the deal.
00:08:15
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But because she had already signed that agreement, the judge was like, nah, that's valid. You're not a tenant. You need to go ahead and get the hell out.
Legal Loopholes and Housing Dynamics
00:08:25
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But Shadija was trying to claim that she was a tenant.
00:08:29
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This agreement that she signed where she said she wasn't a tenant proved that she wasn't a tenant. But she had already done a whole bunch of other things. She had changed the locks. And because of the tenant protection framework, the homeowner wasn't allowed to just go ahead and kick her out and change the locks. Because before this court case, this was a tenant landlord disagreement they went to this emergency courtrk court case where the judge was like no this is not a tenant landlord agree uh disagreement this person was an airbnb guest they're not a tenant those rules and laws for tenants do not apply to this person go on and get the hell out and i have to just keep acknowledging
00:09:17
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that Shadija Romero is the one who said she wasn't a tenant before she tried to flip back and say that she was a tenant, but she signed that piece of paperwork. Fact of the matter is, she should have took the deal months ago.
00:09:32
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She could have took the deal, took that $2,500 and bounced. But, and this is just my theory.
00:09:42
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She probably couldn't. And the reason why she probably couldn't is because she had prior evictions on her record, which means that odds are she can't get in the apartment. Plus her credit I know has to be poor because she has evictions and she has car repossessions.
00:10:04
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Maybe not car repossessions, but not. She put a down payment on the car, kept the car, didn't make any more payments on it. I know typically you get repossessed, but I can't confirm that she's ever had a car repossessed. When she showed up to court, she sure as hell had a car.
00:10:19
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Don't know how she got it. Maybe she got it from Eastern Motors where your job's your credit. But your jo her job is an entrepreneur and working for this nonprofit, which if I was the owner of the nonprofit, she got to go.
00:10:33
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She got to go. So, Here's some crazy stuff. During the latest hearing, Romero was placed under oath and her prior history of evictions and non-payment cases in D.C., Maryland and Virginia was introduced into evidence after she had publicly denied ever being evicted.
00:10:56
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ah it I told you guys. previously that she did an interview and that and in that interview she was convincing she was convincing she had convinced me that nah she had made some payments and gotten an invoice and all that other stuff and uh she had justifiable reasons in her mind ah how she had not been evicted and she had an answer for everything that's how scammers work she's a good liar okay and In court, she says she did not recall whether she had been evicted before and argued those past cases were not relevant. While also asking the judge to seal the case, the judge agreed only to seal contact details like phone numbers and emails, but not the full file.
00:11:45
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So. Pay attention to what she did here. She's under oath. there's a risk of perjury. This is not a stupid person. This is a very intelligent person.
00:11:57
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One of the ways that you can get out of committing perjury is by saying you don't recall. That's not saying no. That's not saying yes. Nobody can question whether or not you remember doing something or not or something remember happening.
00:12:13
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It's a way around committing perjury. But people really know, if you don't recall, odds are you're probably lying, especially when they got the paperwork right there and they're saying, hey, ah you see you got these evictions, right? And then the audacity, remember what I said, this isn't a court case. This isn't just a story about housing. It's a story about audacity.
00:12:36
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Her audacity to be like, during court, to be like, Well, I don't think that's really relevant. No, it is absolutely relevant.
00:12:49
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You have a history of pulling scams evolved with housing. It is completely relevant. And the fact that she wanted it sealed, she wanted it sealed so they didn't go on a record as an eviction because she already got evictions, which also leads me to believe she knows the process of evictions, which means she did recall, but she's trying to pull some damn s scams.
Potential Housing Law Changes
00:13:19
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But this case has attracted wide attention because it highlights how DC's strong tenant protection regime can collide with situation where property owners say someone is effectively a squatter rather than a lawful renter.
00:13:34
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Local officials and lawmakers are now openly discussing possible changes to how tenant and landlord are defined, particularly for short-term rentals like Airbnb and how possession disputes should be handled in both short and long-term.
00:13:52
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Following the ruling, the homeowner proceeded to evict Romero with law enforcement present as step that was documented by the local TV cameras after months of legal back and forth.
00:14:04
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Observers say the case could become a reference point And future D.C. disputes over when an occupant crosses from guest to tenant and whether written agreements like this one can quickly restore possession to owners in similar short term rental conflicts.
00:14:24
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And this is where I see a potential problem.
00:14:33
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With fast judgment laws. that puts more power in the landlord's hands, especially if you do a quick Google search, you will find the many cases of DC landlords being sued, being taken to court for not fixing mold, not dealing with pests, not fixing, you know, stairwells and lights.
00:15:06
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Real life, Life hazards.
00:15:13
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I don't want this case to turn into a situation where power goes back to the landlords. I don't want that.
00:15:24
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The power should always be in the tenant's hands. It should, because the tenant, ma majority of the time, is paying to live someplace.
00:15:36
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is literally fighting for their home, while landlord is fighting for business. And I'm not saying that that's not important. What I'm saying is fighting for your home is more important.
00:15:50
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So I'm not saying that there shouldn't be situations where landlords should be protected. And this is a prime example. There should be a clearer definition of what a tenant and landlord is.
00:16:07
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But I don't see how that could be quickly resolved because people do short rental stays all the time. People do short rental stays. I know of people personally who have done short rental stays in homes, townhomes, apartments, three, four months because they're transitioning from selling a home to moving into a new home.
00:16:31
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Sometimes that new home is being built and they needed to sell the old home in order to build the new home. So they need temporary housing and nobody wants to sign a 12 month lease with an apartment building because trust me, anything under 12 months, you are paying $100.
00:16:53
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1980 cocaine prices. Okay. And what I mean by that is ridiculous amounts. Okay. Back in 1980s, it was 50,000 a key. That's ridiculous. Cause you get a key for probably like, I don't know what you can get a key for it now, but it's way less than that. But that's the the point I'm trying to make is shorter rentals for rental properties that are not Airbnbs are way more expensive than just doing an Airbnb for a couple of months.
00:17:24
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I don't want there to be a rush to change the laws because of this one story. Because I gave you this one story, but I can give you 25 more that go the other way.
00:17:39
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This whole case feels like a warning shot to the system. And lawmakers are definitely paying attention. But. Are the right decisions going to be made to make sure that there is an even playing ground for everybody?
00:17:58
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That's really the question.
University of Michigan Scandal: Sherron Moore
00:18:08
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Now let's talk about how bad decisions can cost you millions, your job, and your reputation. This story is exactly why HR policies exist and why i ignoring them is never worth it.
00:18:21
Speaker
So y'all want to get messy? Let's get messy. Y'all heard about the University of Michigan head football coach Yeah, he just got fired. The story of him getting fired was getting crazier and crazier as each day passed.
00:18:38
Speaker
So what is the story? The University of Michigan fired head football coach, Sherron Moore, on December 10th, 2025, after an internal investigation found he had an inappropriate relationship with a staff member and concluded this violated school policy leading to a termination for cause. That's important. I'm going get into that later.
00:18:59
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Within hours of the firing, he was taken into custody and booked at the Wichita University. the Wichita County Jail as a suspect in an alleged assault connected to the situation.
00:19:15
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And he remained jailed while police pursued charges. If y'all couldn't quite follow, let me break that down again for you.
00:19:26
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The University of Michigan fired their head football coach because he had an inappropriate relationship. They found out that it violated school policy and they were allowed to terminate him for a cause. Like i said, I'm gonna get into that later.
00:19:43
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After that, my man was arrested for assault and that assault was connected to this entire situation. And he was in jail.
00:19:56
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Because the cops is like, we need to find out what the hell is going on. It might be some more charges here. It's going to be some more charges. Michigan's statement said investigators found credible evidence that Moore, 39, engaged in an inappropriate relationship with a staff member.
00:20:15
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which the school called a clear breach of university policy and grounds for immediate dismissal. Interim President D'Amico Grasso, an athletic director, both emphasized that the school has a zero tolerance stance on this kind of conduct and framed it as a serious breach of trust inside the program.
00:20:37
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Because the firing was for cause, michigan Michigan is treating his contract as void going forward, meaning the university does not intend to pay out the remaining value of a five year deal signed in 2024 last year.
00:20:54
Speaker
That was worth a base of about five point five million dollars per year through the end of the term. Officials have said the internal investigation will continue, but they have not publicly released detailed findings for the full time frame of what they knew and when.
00:21:14
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All right. So those are the facts. Let me break it down to you and Bruce Lanko.
00:21:21
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Head coach.
00:21:24
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Had a little side piece. And that side piece was a staff member. Oh yes, this head coach is married. I'll get into that later. So head coach had a little side piece.
00:21:36
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Not uncommon, unfortunately.
00:21:40
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Had himself a little side piece. The side piece happened to be the staff member. The school finds out about this. And they're like, hey, ah we got to fire him. This breaks school policy.
00:21:53
Speaker
This is some serious stuff because this is a subordinate. This is somebody under his watch that he's having an affair with. We got to fire. This man cost himself
00:22:09
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over $25 million piece. dollars for a side piece
00:22:19
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out out I don't really think y'all hear me. People in the back, stand up, open your ears. $25 million dollars for a side piece. Let me tell you something.
00:22:30
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I have loved women in my life. I have lusted for women in my life. I've been obsessed with one woman in my life.
00:22:44
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But never ever would I let them cost me $25 million. dallas I wouldn't let them cost me $2,500.
00:22:56
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$25, I'd let them cost me that. But $2,500, hey, we got to have some conversations here. But this man done ruined his whole career for a side piece.
00:23:12
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That was a staff member. Reports identify the staff member involved as Moore's executive assistant and coverage notes that she received a large pay increase between 2024 and the 2025 seasons, which has raised additional scrutiny about whether the relationship overlapped with compensation decisions.
00:23:39
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Media accounts also describe police being called to the assistant's apartment shortly before the public announcement of Moore's firing, which appears to link the personal situation directly to the events that led to his arrest later that day.
00:23:55
Speaker
Once again, ladies and gentlemen, let me break down the facts for you in Bruce Langeau.
00:24:03
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Dude had...
00:24:06
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Basically what would be considered in old times his secretary, but his executive assistant had an affair. This is, look, this is what happened in Jungle Fever.
00:24:19
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when When Flip was messing with his with his assistant. Now, she was fine, but not Flip. I forgot what his name was, but Wesley Snipes in Jungle Fever. She was fine. You will know her as one of Tony Soprano's girlfriends. You'll know her as Tulsa King's sister on the Tulsa King show.
00:24:39
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you She's done been into some other stuff. She's been fine. Matter of fact... I believe personally, on a personal note, to take a side detour, that the reason why I'm attracted to Italian women is specifically because of her and Marisa Tomei.
00:24:57
Speaker
But we've seen things like this happen before, where high-ranking men, or not even high-ranking men, have affairs with their executive assistant.
00:25:11
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that's what he did. Not only did he have an affair with her, he gave her a pay raise. Now, there have been some women that if they worked for me while I was dating them or whatever, I would have gave them a raise too because they deserved it.
00:25:31
Speaker
They deserved it. However, I'm going to have to deal with the consequences of if I get caught. So not only does he have a side piece, he then finagled some way to get her more bread,
Consequences and Broader Impact of Scandal
00:25:45
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jumped up. It was a large pay increase from 2024 2025. Then they are the reports stating that
00:25:54
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then they are saying the reports are stating that after the school finished their investigation, they pull him aside. They say, hey, man, we letting you go.
00:26:07
Speaker
Four calls. Your contract is void. You got to move on hell out because you having affair with your executive assistant. And oh, by the way, you didn't cost us some bread because you didn't gave her a raise.
00:26:19
Speaker
He flips out. He drives straight to his side piece's house and causes a ruckus that gets him arrested. I also told you he was married, right?
00:26:34
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I told you he was mayor. I'm going to get into that later. But some outlets citing law enforcement documents and unnamed sources say Moore had repeatedly contacted or visited the woman over several months before the incident that drew police response. At the same time, university and police statements stress that because of the sensitive nature of the allegations and the ongoing crisis,
00:27:01
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Criminal investigation. They are limiting specific public details about what happened.
00:27:10
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Criminal investigation. like Ladies and gentlemen, this was the head football coach for the University of Michigan. I have a friend. I have several friends. I wanted to go to the University of Michigan to play basketball.
00:27:23
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I was a huge University of Michigan fan. I have friends that went to the University of Michigan. I'm not going to call them to to rub this in the face because that's just tacky. I'm not going to do that. That's something that old Bruce would do. New Bruce, older new Bruce, because I'm older, but a new version um of me is not going to do something like that.
00:27:44
Speaker
But this man was the head football coach at a traditional blue blood football powerhouse. Head coach, first black head coach, University of Michigan history too, by the way, I'm gonna get into more of that later, but head coach, his side piece not only cost him 25 million, and I'm not blaming her, by the way, I'm not blaming her, I'm blaming him being irresponsible, not responsible.
00:28:19
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I messed up that whole word, but y'all what was trying to say. I'm still a little sick, okay? Irresponsible, okay? With his actions. I'm not blaming her. I'm just saying, look how stupid this sounds.
00:28:33
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His side piece, because he wanted to have a side piece, then cost him over $25 million. His actions of having a side piece have cost him over $25 million, and it rest...
00:28:48
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and a full-fledged criminal investigation. Because it kind of sound like he was stalking her.
00:28:57
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I'm gonna read between the lines. This is just my unsolicited perspective. This just my unsolicited gossip.
00:29:05
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Police had been saying that he had been contacting and popping up at the house for several months before this incident where he was arrested.
00:29:19
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Could it have been that she cut it off and he couldn't handle? Because it's kind of seemed like if you got an assault charge and there's more charges that could be potentially pending because there's a full fledged criminal investigation on your actions.
00:29:41
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Kind of sounds like she broke it off. He wasn't feeling that. And he reacted in the worst possible way for somebody who was the head football coach for the University of Michigan.
00:29:59
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Booking records show Moore was taken into custody just hours after his dismissal enlisted as a suspect in an alleged assault tied to the same situation in the university's investigation. also Authorities have said he is expected to be formally arraigned once prosecutors finish reviewing the case, and they have not announced formal charges yet as of the latest reporting.
00:30:25
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which when this releases, there might be more to this story, but it's not like I record this and then drop it as soon as I finish recording. So there'll probably be more to this story. News reports describe Moore as suicidal or in severe emotional distress when officers encountered him after responding to the assistance residence. Details that come from news report described assistance residence.
00:30:57
Speaker
These are from the details that come from the police narratives referencing the media coverage. OK, law enforcement has declined to give full public account while emphasizing victim safety and the need to preserve the integrity of the investigation.
00:31:13
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I mean, if I had lost the love of my life and 25 million, I might have some emotional distress. That's a joke, ladies and gentlemen. This is all, all of this is happening because of his piss poor decision making.
00:31:31
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that's That's just what it is. It's because of his piss poor... yeah and and And let's not get it twisted. Was he a good football coach? Michigan wasn't bad, right? Michigan had just been hit by sanction sanctions because the coach, Jim Harbaugh, after winning the national championship, had done some funny stuff, right? I'm not even goingnna get i'm not going to get into all of the scandal or the funny stuff, but...
00:31:55
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Michigan had done some funny stuff. They had some sanctions. So they were under kind of like a probation. And he was still having Michigan as a top 20 team. When you're under those type of sanctions and probation, you lose scholarships. So you can't recruit as well as you did. And he was being fairly successful.
00:32:13
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Right. When you're still a top 20 team after having sanctions. Yeah. Because it took Jim Harbaugh a long time to win a national championship there. Matter of fact, they were getting kind of restless that he wouldn't get it done until he finally had it done.
00:32:27
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So the coach was being successful. This wasn't a case of him not being successful and them trying to do some screwy stuff to fire Right. Right.
00:32:38
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He, I need to point this and make this clear. Cause I made a point of saying that he was the first black head coach at the University of Michigan. This wasn't a situation where they tried it out for a black coach for a little while. They ain't like anyone to get out of the situation.
00:32:57
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No, no, no, no, no. Even though I'm not in the know, even though I'm not in the room or having discussions, I could just look at what's being presented and read between the lines.
00:33:09
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He was a fairly successful coach that was building a program that did something egregious, and it probably all came out because she broke it off.
00:33:20
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He started stalking her. She reported it to the school saying this is what's going on. They did an investigation. They fired his ass, said with cause, you ain't getting your money. He flip out, go straight to her house, assault, whatever the hell happens, gets arrested.
00:33:38
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And oh, by the way, let me also remind you, he's married. His wife is Kelly Moore. They have three Three young daughters.
00:33:54
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This man is younger than I am. He's 39 years old. First black head coach at the University of Michigan.
00:34:04
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And he blew it because of his piss poor decision making. Now, from the outside looking in, this is a funny story to me because I'm not affected in any way. I don't care about college football.
00:34:16
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I don't care about the University of Michigan. I don't care about the plight of black coaches in college football. not It's not a part of my everyday thinking. Not that I don't care, but it's not a part of my everyday thinking, right?
00:34:31
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However, conversations are starting to be ahead about how this is a bad look for black coaches. And it is. Let me give you guys an example.
00:34:44
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Or let me explain.
00:34:47
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Black coaches don't get hired that often in college football. You would think in a sport, kind of like the NFL, right? That's the reason why they had the Rooney Rule.
00:34:58
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You would think in a sport where the sport is dominated by players that are of color, that there would be more coaches of color.
00:35:09
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One year, and remember the NCAA, Division one is like 115 plus schools. One year, it was like five black head coaches.
00:35:22
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That is crazy. And here you are, a black man getting an opportunity at a blue blood powerhouse, the University of Michigan. Yeah, you coming back. Yeah, they coming back from sanctions, but you got the opportunity and you're doing well. The team is being successful and you pull some shit like this.
00:35:41
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He's not the only head coach that's pulled some stuff like this. Bobby Petrino, Rick Pitino. There have been a a long list of head coaches that have brought scandal, specifically, specifically sexual scandal to a campus and been fired.
00:36:01
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Nine times out of 10, they get a second chance. Some of them get second, third, fourth, and fifth chances. The likelihood of this man, Mr. Moore, getting a second chance went out the window. It went out the window not solely just for the fact that he had an affair, a side piece with an executive assistant, with somebody working under him. That's bad.
00:36:30
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You could possibly recover from that. It's everything afterwards. It's the assault. It's the arrest. It's the the criminal investigation. ain't never working again. And he's out of $25 million for some booty.
00:36:45
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that's where was This is what it's about. Unless my man was in love, but it wasn't real love. Should have been still in love with his wife, Kelly. I seen Kelly. I seen a picture of Kelly. Kelly is fine.
00:36:58
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got three beautiful daughters he's got the type of life that other people would look at and be like man you got it you got it good you never know what's going on with a man inside of his own head but he got it good and he blew it and there's his discussions all over sports talk about his color and the fact that he's black and what does mean for black coaches yes This is going to affect black head coaches going forward because let me let you into a little secret if you are not black or a person of color.
00:37:40
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If you are white in this country, this is this message is for you. When somebody of color does something, it's reflected in white people's eyes for the entire grouping of that particular culture.
00:37:59
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One person. And then the whole group is looked at like this. Kind of like in the first segment, this one squatter, they're going to make rules now.
00:38:09
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That's probably going to be hurtful to tenants. This one black head coach is going to hurt black head coaches for the future. So Ryan Clark, somebody who I respect has a podcast to pivot.
00:38:21
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More intelligent than he gets credit for because most people will look at him as, oh, he's just a football player. He's also a college graduate from from Louisiana State University, right? Okay. Saying these same things that I'm saying as well, ah because it is a true statement. Luther Campbell, Uncle Luke, got on social media and said, Ryan Clark, you stupid. Why would you say something like that? Now, because you said it, that's definitely gonna be the case.
00:38:47
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They're both wrong and right at the same time. Perhaps Ryan shouldn't have said it, spoke it in public spaces to reaffirm what probably some white athletic directors and presidents to these major colleges were already thinking after this whole story broke, right?
00:39:09
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By speaking it out loud, you give it reality, you give it existence. But at the same time, Luther Campbell, it's also the truth.
00:39:20
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Right. Like whether he spoke it out and made it put it out in reality and in existence, these type of thoughts were still going to be present.
00:39:33
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So whether you said it or not doesn't change what happens in other people's minds. Not really. OK. And Luther, what you're doing is the thing that you're accusing him of.
00:39:46
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You accuse him as a black man putting down another black man. No, that black man, Mr. Moore, should be put down because he was wrong. Made a mistake. Mistakes happen.
00:39:58
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But damn, did he make it worse and worse and worse with each decision that he made?
00:40:05
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He probably going to get another job. And I don't know that I would if I was a president, not a head coaching job. You're going have to prove yourself over years. He's still young, 39. Maybe in the next 15 years, he can get a head coaching job where he works his way back up.
00:40:20
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But they're kind of both wrong and both right at the same time. But more importantly, besides what happens with the culture, the saddest part is the fallout doesn't stop with just him.
00:40:35
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It ripples through families, not just his, multiple families, all the people on his staff, all those players up under her, the young lady that was working under her and her family and communities.
00:40:53
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This is felt
Reddit Story Analysis: Friendship and Finances
00:40:54
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throughout all of that. And it brings up another uncomfortable conversation about who gets grace and who doesn't.
00:41:04
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Yes. He's not gonna get much grace. He wasn't gonna get much grace anyway. Does he still deserve grace? i don't know, it depends on what that assault was.
00:41:17
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I need more information. But i this is what I can tell you. He's a 125% dumbass for actions that done.
00:41:29
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dumb ass all of the actions that he's done
00:41:42
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All right, ladies and gentlemen, let's get to this Reddit post because the math ain't math in in this story. So, of course, went on my favorite social media site, Reddit, and got an Am I Overreacting.
00:41:57
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And i I've been pissing my sister off, so I decided to do this one by myself because I already know what she's going to say. I already know what she's going to say. I already know how she's going to respond to it. But I wanted to just give my take, just my take a alone, give her a break, give my take alone on this story because immediately when I saw it, I said,
00:42:19
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WTF? I'm not going actually say the words because I try to not say the F word on the show, but I said WTF. All right. So the title of the post is, Am I Overreacting for Wanting My Friends to Pay for Their Half of a Trip Even Though They're a Couple?
00:42:35
Speaker
And at first glance of the title, I was like, huh? Pay for their half of the trip even though they're a couple? I'm like, I'm a little confused. Now, bear with me because I've tried to clean this up.
00:42:49
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The original Reddit, goodness gracious, I'm attacking the Reddit poster and I can't even talk. The original Reddit poster, not the greatest writer.
00:43:00
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So I had to clean this a little bit and I don't, like it's it's not well written, but we're going to get through it. So, So me and my two friends planned this weekend getaway to the mountains for like six months.
00:43:14
Speaker
First of all, what? Sounds kind of dope to me. We split everything three ways initially, the cabin rental, gas, groceries, and all of it.
00:43:24
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But now that they're actually going, they're acting like because they're dating, they should only pay for one person total instead of two separate people.
00:43:36
Speaker
Huh. I get that couple share expenses in their relationship, but this was planned when we were all single and now all of a sudden to cover more, I'm supposed to cover more because they got together.
00:43:50
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The cabin sleeps six and costs $600 for the weekend. So we each agreed to pay $200. Now, they're saying they should only pay $200 total as a unit, which means that I would have to pay the $400.
00:44:06
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that's literally That's literally double what I budgeted for. They keep saying stuff like we're basically one person now and couples usually split costs differently.
00:44:17
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But like we're not all dating here. They still eat the same amount of food, use the same amount of space, and frankly, they're probably gonna be using the master bedroom while I'm stuck with the pullout couch.
00:44:30
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I told them if they wanted to pay as a couple, they should have mentioned it and when we were booking everything. And now they're saying I'm being unreasonable. My other friends agree with me, but honestly, I think they're just trying to save money and using their relationship as an excuse.
00:44:47
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Am I overreacting here or is this actually messed up? I don't want to lose friends over money, but I also don't want to be taken advantage of.
00:44:58
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Okay, so like I said at the beginning, the math ain't mathing for me for several reasons. Now, and the initial reason would be like, oh, it's three of them. Let's play three ways, right?
00:45:12
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Right, like that's the way it should be. But it's their counter. Like they say we're one unit, we're a couple now, we're one person.
00:45:26
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Okay, so how is that still paying only a third of the total cost? Y'all see what I'm saying? if they say If they say that they're one person, okay, we're doing math. If Johnny got five apples, listen to me here.
00:45:42
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It's three people. And two of those people say they are merging into one, which would mean that instead of three people going on this trip by their logic, ladies and gentlemen, by their logic, instead of three people going on this trip, it is now two people going on this trip.
00:46:00
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But even in that two person scenario, this couple is saying, oh, we pay $200.
00:46:10
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No, like even in their warped scenario, in their misguided and stupid scenario, it would be half.
00:46:22
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It would not be 200. It would be half of 600, which would be 300. three hundred And this is in their dumb ass scenario. Okay. I'm not agreeing with it. I'm just saying that they don't know how to do simple math because they say they are now one entity, which would mean that there would be two people going on this trip if they were now one entity, which means that they would be splitting down the middle, not paying a third.
00:46:48
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Okay. That, that it it it so annoys me when people don't do math right. Cause math is simple. Like this is one plus one equals two. Like it's that simple.
00:47:01
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It is three. Now we would go to two, which means that instead of splitting in three ways, we split it two ways and this in half, which by the way, like i said, stupid scenario that I absolutely don't agree with.
00:47:15
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Okay. But that would be the math. Okay, that's what really bothered me. That's not what really, really bothered me, but that bothered me to no end. I really can't stand when people can't do simple math.
00:47:29
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it Like, ladies and gentlemen, we all we all studied math. I know they got this new math out here, but we know what math is, okay? I feel sorry for my man.
00:47:42
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because he planned a trip with his friends. They decided to get together at some point during the planning of this trip, because he said when they initially planned it, they were all single. And now these two people got together, which, I mean, you kind of should have seen it coming.
00:47:58
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Because two people that are friends just don't randomly get together. They just don't wake up one morning. I think we want you see signs, right? You see signs, but I'm not going to blame you for your current predicament.
00:48:13
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There's a couple of different things that you can do. And I'm just going to be real with you. If I were you, I would put my foot down and say, look, I give a damn what you guys consider yourselves. Now, this was the agreement when we together.
00:48:30
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I'm not being unreasonable. Either we honor the original agreement. or we don't go. And I would remain steadfast and not going. I would completely back out of the whole trip altogether. Even though it's something you've been planning for six months, it's a weekend getaway, it sounds like that's a dope ass experience.
00:48:51
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But are you really gonna have a good time if this money thing is hanging over your head? I'm damn sure I'm not paying two thirds of what it costs to be there and sleeping on a pullout couch.
00:49:05
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Like, when people care about you, when people truly care about you, they don't do these type of things to you.
00:49:20
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This is straight selfish. Now, can people that love you do selfish things from time to time? Yeah. But odds are when they really care about you and you express, yo, this hurts me, this bothers me. They'll take a step back, examine it be like, yo, okay, my bad.
00:49:39
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You were saying that sort of, kind of, but you're explaining to them that it ain't right. And they're saying that you're being unreasonable. I have to question just how good of a friend these two people are.
00:49:55
Speaker
And if I have to question it, well there's your answer. Right? Like, there's your answer. So...
00:50:07
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Young man, I'm going assume that you're young, that you're younger than me. Because if it was me, I would just say, forget it. I'm to go by myself. And I would go up to the mountains by myself. $600 for the weekend is a good damn deal. That's at least two nights. That's not bad at all.
00:50:24
Speaker
What mountain and cabin are y'all going to? is Do y'all have electricity? Is there no bugs and no rodents? Because I want to go. But... but Yeah, if you can't like pull the trigger by yourself, if they're if they're still in this steadfast, that they're not even going to pay half, that they're going to pay a third because somehow they are one entity and that allows them to pay as one person.
00:50:48
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oh And that would still mean that they only had to pay a third. If they're not going to meet you halfway, and meeting you halfway would be like,
00:51:03
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the original agreement, the original agreement. I mean, if you really, really desperate, you could say just pay half and I get the master bedroom. i would insist upon that. I'd be like, sure, that's no, that's no problem. I got to pay an extra $100. Fine. I'll pay our extra $100. get the master bedroom.
00:51:20
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I mean, that would be a a happy compromise. If they're still being adamant that they don't want to roll with that, got to come loose. yeah You don't go.
00:51:32
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And I would distance myself. I really would. Because people that care about you wouldn't wouldn't do that to you. People show you who they are. People will show you who you are. It's your choice to really pay attention or to turn a blind eye.
00:51:48
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They're telling who they are. And yeah, nobody wants to lose friends over money. But, you know, money is typically how relationships end.
00:52:01
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I mean, I'm just going to be honest. Money, when you deal with money, everybody's truth comes out. You see who they are as a person and what their character is when money is involved.
00:52:15
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And if they are trying to skate you out of money, bro, you need to Make your move. You know? Do something else. And that sucks because nobody wants to lose friends and it seems like these are really, really good friends of yours, but seems like it might be a one-way street because if they're doing this, they obviously don't care about you as as much as you care about them.
00:52:46
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And that's exactly how friendships end sometimes. Quietly, awkwardly and over Venmo like for real. that That's just how it is.
Closing and Call to Action
00:52:58
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00:53:15
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