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Stay Sparked #13- "Self Care Practices"
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On this episode of Stay Sparked, we talk about self-care practices and the art of self-care, the importance of self-care, and some techniques that we use. We also talk about how to find neutrality if there is a downward spiral approaching, and finding ways to move into an upward spiral of feeling really good on a daily basis. We also touch on how to reframe daily activities so they can be part of a self-care practice.
HOSTS
BETSY FINKLEHOO is a healer of massage therapy, CranioSacral and Dharma Coaching. She is an 8 year burner and has spent the last several years seeped in the personal development world, cultivating her passion for transformation and growth. Her recent project, The Power Affirmation Journal and virtual group empowers women to cultivate self awareness and healthy habits so they can live in greater freedom, mind body and spirit.
http://poweraffirmation.com/
Click here to get a FREE affirmation for Stay Sparked Listeners!
HALCYON is full-time Love Ambassador. He is the founder of Hug Nation YouTube channel and daily zoom gratitude circles. He is co-founder of the Pink Heart Burning Man camp and the 1st Saturdays project for people experiencing homelessness. In his free time he coaches individuals on how to live joyfully and authentically. His other podcast is "Hard on The 80's."
http://JohnStyn.com (for Zoom gratitude circles and free sticker!)
JANUS REDMOON is a 10-time Burner, and has spent the last several years as an advocate for psychedelic medicine research and treatment. He is the founder and CEO of NuWorld Nutritionals, a nutritional supplement company providing mushroom-based, all-natural products to improve and maintain health for both body and mind. (Use code "SPARKED" for 10% off)
http://www.nuworldnutritionals.com
MASSIVE Thank you to Dub Sutra for their beautiful opening music. Check out their incredible music catalogue online.
https://dubsutra.com
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Transcript
Introduction to Stay Sparked Show
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Welcome to Stay Sparked.
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On this show, we explore how to stay inspired in the modern world through the most profound lessons from Burning Man, relationships, entrepreneurship, psychedelics, spirituality, travel, and more.
Emphasizing the Importance of Self-Care
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On this episode of Stay Sparked, we talk about self-care practices, the art of self-care, the importance of self-care, and some techniques that we use to get ourselves feeling good.
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We share sparks of inspiration on how to find neutrality if there is a downward spiral approaching and finding ways to move on the upward spiral of feeling really good on a daily basis.
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We also touch on how to reframe daily activities, things we're already doing on a daily basis, and we can reframe those into a self-care practice for ourselves.
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Enjoy the episode.
Meet the Hosts
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Welcome to Stay Sparked.
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I'm Betsy.
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I'm Halthion.
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And I am Yannous.
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I am the founder and creator of the Power Affirmation Project, a holistic healing practitioner, energy intuitive, and guide.
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I am the author of Love More Fear Less, Float More Steer Less, and Protagonist, and the host of the Hug Nation YouTube channel.
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And I am the founder and CEO of New World Nutritionals, a nutritional supplement company with products designed to achieve a healthy state of mind.
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Together, we are three friends here to share sparks of inspiration with you.
Gratitude in Learning and Solitude
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And we always love starting with gratitude.
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So I'd love to start us off with my gratitude this morning.
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I am truly so grateful for learning.
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I recently just got a chance to start a new course with a teacher of Reiki.
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And as a healer and practitioner of many modalities, I always love getting to learn from
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wonderful teachers and from ancient traditions.
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And this weekend, I got a chance to start a three-month journey of learning this next phase of my Reiki certification.
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Awesome.
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Yeah, I am.
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I'm grateful for therapy.
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I had a session with my therapist this weekend that I kind of felt like, yeah, I know what's going on with me as I went into it.
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And then there's so many little reminders and redirections and kind of reflections that helped me to really get insight into some deep, old,
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trauma response stuff that I'm just kind of in awe of how it's affecting so much of my life.
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So I'm just so grateful for professional therapy.
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And also I'm grateful for how the attitude in our culture is becoming so much more accepting of that as a healthy part of self-care.
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Fantastic.
Personal Journeys in Self-Care
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I am grateful today for having a weekend that had a lot of solitude this weekend.
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My partner was out of town, and it was a nice break from that.
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It's just always nice to get some alone time for myself, not because of just that, but it also, like, things kind of lined up for me to not...
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have a lot of have to's over the weekend.
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Like I had a lot of get to's over the weekend.
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It's like, Oh, I get to do this or I get to focus on this as opposed to, Oh no, I got to do this.
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So it was, uh, it was good.
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It was good.
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I had some nice, uh, nice time with my cats and nice relaxation time.
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So I woke up today feeling pretty recharged.
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So I'm grateful for that.
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Woo.
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It's amazing.
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Well, that's so perfect, Janus, because our topic today is all about self-care.
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What our relationship to self-care is, some of our treasured self-care practices, and we just wanted to get into a conversation around self-care.
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So that was the perfect way to introduce our topic today.
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And so perhaps we'll just start with a little inquiry.
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Whoever wants to share first, what is your relationship with self-care and what does it actually mean to you?
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I'll jump in and say that for a long time, I...
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did not put any sort of priority on self-care and had a real, like my to-do list guided everything.
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And if something was not productive in a very traditional sense of what productive is, then it felt like a waste of time.
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And I could not enjoy things without a feeling of guilt.
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And there was this huge aspect of life that even if it was something that could be enjoyable or relaxing was not because it was so plagued with a sense of this is not on my productivity list.
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This is not productive.
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And so about maybe 15 years ago, I really had this shift where I was able to
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see self-care things and fun things, but see them as something that is productive.
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You know, that the
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the life experience is so much more than just moving forward, bigger, better, more, bigger, better, more.
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And even if that was the life experience, you need to fuel, you need to rest, you need all these things.
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So when I could start to see the activities in my life that are traditionally not moving me forward as something productive, it definitely changed my ability to prioritize anything that was,
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And yeah, that was for me.
Productivity and Self-Care Balance
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Amazing.
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I can definitely relate to that.
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That's so well said.
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It seems like it's like oftentimes one of the first things that gets kicked off the list when we're busy, right?
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Even though it's actually should be one of the highest priorities.
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Yeah, it should be up there.
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And that's, that's something that a lot of us come to learn, usually a little later in life, it'd be, it'd be great if we could kind of get that piece for ourselves a little sooner, might set ourselves up for success down the road a little bit sooner.
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uh it's one of those one of those things that you need to to realize that we're you know if we look at ourselves and our our abilities and our energy to do something as a cup that we keep drawing from we definitely have to take time to do things that refill that cup and it's easy to get caught up in like what helsey is saying like the
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you know this this hamster wheel of productivity and not a hamster wheel because we actually are we are producing things we are making things happen it's good to be like a you know a mover and shaker in the world but we also have to realize how important it is to take that time it's not taking time off it's just a redirection of your focus energy it's like
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okay, I need to do something that is going to give me energy or to help me relax or to take off this stress of all this productivity so that I can be productive later.
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And it also makes you feel good.
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It definitely helps you to focus down the road.
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Yeah.
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And I, but I think that, that you, you definitely have to have the attitude and acceptance of it being a positive thing.
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You know, I saw a comic recently where the person was like, what'd you do a Sunday?
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Oh, I just stayed in bed and did nothing.
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And I just allowed myself to do whatever I wanted.
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Like, oh, that must've been relaxing.
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Oh no, no.
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All day.
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I was like, man, I can't believe I'm wasting all this time.
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I could be doing so much more.
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So it's like,
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You, you can go through the motions of self-care, but if you don't have the attitude of allowing yourself to be present in that experience, uh, it can be wasted.
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Yeah.
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Just real quick.
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Uh, just, it's like anything.
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And it's like so many things that we discuss on our podcast here.
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It's a practice.
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It can be one of those things where you have to like, all right, I need some downtime.
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And so you lie down and yeah, you'll be just sitting, just kind of lying there and being like, there's so much I could be doing.
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Um, but,
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Do that frequently, whether it's out there hiking or whatever, we're going to get into it.
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But whatever it is you're doing to recharge your batteries, it might feel like some time is being wasted, but just stick with that and you will start to see and feel the benefits of it.
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Like anything else, practice will make close to perfection on that.
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Absolutely.
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It's so true.
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It's like keeping our tank full.
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Right?
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We've all probably gotten to an experience of like burning the candle at both ends and then we get sick and then we're like, aren't actually able to be productive.
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Right?
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But if we're able to infuse practices that keep us sustaining like these simple self-care practices, then we're able to be more productive.
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Right?
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And so often I see some of my clients and friends and people I know that just push, push, push, and then they need a vacation.
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Right.
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It's like getting to a point of like forcing self-care or get sick.
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Right.
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Where I know personally, my relationship with self-care is more of preventative and maintenance and infusing simple practices that on a daily basis that keep me feeling good on a regular basis rather than like just putting it off until the weekend.
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I love getting to infuse simple things throughout the day.
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Mm hmm.
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That is such a good awareness of preventative self-care as opposed to waiting until you have an injury of your psyche or, you know, waiting until you're like, oh, it's the same with your body.
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You know, if you wait until you've hurt something and then you go to get your massage, that's way less effective.
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It's much less harder to enjoy life than if you are keeping your body healthy.
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And same with keeping your psyche healthy and keeping your mental space healthy.
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So true.
Successful Habits and Morning Routines
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Yep.
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And, you know, as a body worker, massage therapist, I work with a lot of high level CEOs and entrepreneurs and busy people.
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And the ones that have the most success that I've seen stay regular with their massage and their body work and their different practices, like the sauna and cold plunge and these kinds of things.
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And they're the ones that come to me.
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And when I ask what you want to work on, they say, I'm feeling really great.
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I'm here just to keep feeling great.
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And I love that because as we expand as leaders, as leaders,
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people in the world, busy people, the more that we can take care of ourselves, the more that we're actually able to accomplish and for farther we can reach, you know?
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So it's like this kind of, um, funny little paradox, right?
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It's like slow down so you can actually speed up, right?
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Taking that time for yourself and meditation might seem like you're not doing anything right.
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Like you were saying, no news.
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Oh man, there's so much that I could be doing.
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It's actually, that's the inspired action in the moment is to slow down, to be able to pause and to breathe and to just feel.
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And then when we're doing, doing, doing, we have that much more mindfulness, that much more awareness, that much more ease.
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We're able to respond to life in a more graceful way rather than getting all flustered or triggered or stressed out by life situations.
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The self-care actually contributes, I know for me and for the people that I work with, to more graceful fluidity throughout the day.
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One thing that I've come to learn recently, I'm surrounded by happy, successful people, thankfully.
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And the thing that is in common with the people that I consider to be like doing really well, either financially or they're always just like, you know, stoked and on fire for the next thing.
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All of them, 100% of them have a self-care practice.
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They are really good about exercising, meditation, time off,
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vacations, retreats, whatever, cleanses, whatever you want to look at, all of them have a number of things that they do that are not productivity oriented, but that allows them to stay focused, stay sharp, stay motivated to do these things.
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And that was a real, that's something that I kind of realized, I
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Last year, I was like, wow, the people I know who are really successful all take time in their day and their week to attend to themselves and attend to their well-being.
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And that's not a coincidence.
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So I was like, all right, I definitely.
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So I definitely gleaned some insight from that and have since then been like, all right, I need to actually make this a priority like the people that are around me that are really successful are doing.
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Absolutely.
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And there, you can find so much information out there about the power of a morning practice.
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I would, I would guess that many of those people that you're talking about have a very strong morning practice.
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I know that's been major fuel for my growth and for my health and for my vitality and for my consistent joy.
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I actually have a little quick story.
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So right at the beginning of the
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quarantine a few years ago, I had a really, really big insight around the importance of my mindfulness practices in the morning.
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And it became very clear to me that those morning practices are
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Now my water, they're just as important as water.
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I got quite sick at the very beginning and it was a, thankfully it was a 24 hour flu.
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But of course, right at the beginning of the pandemic, I had all these thoughts going saying, oh God, what if this is COVID?
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What if I die?
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All of these things.
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And it became very, very clear in my moment of feeling so run down and feeling so sick that I could barely even reach for my water.
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This voice in my head was like, you need to do your self-care right now.
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You need to cleanse yourself in these different ways and pull your cards and do your spiritual practices and do the things that helped me to stay uplifted.
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And I'm so grateful that that came so early on a very tumultuous time because it helped me to maintain a sense of hopefulness, a sense of gratitude, a sense of inner fortitude and strength.
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And now my morning practice is just so solid and it is
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It is my life force and it changes every day.
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You know, sometimes it's five minutes, sometimes it's 20 minutes, sometimes it's two hours, depending on how early I get up and what I have going on for the day.
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But it's like one of the simple practices that I do is drinking water and infusing that water with lemon, green powder and affirmations.
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And that is such a vital part of the way that I start my day.
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It helps me in the physical with the hydration and alkalinity and the mindset with affirmations.
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And just spiritually too, it's a practice to be able to just really be present to this very simple thing that I do every morning.
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I love that.
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Yeah, I think morning practice is so critical.
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I'm just getting back into mine.
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So I will share some things that have worked well for me in the past and that I'm reintegrating now.
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Super helpful for me to start the day with stretching or a little bit of yoga.
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Now I'm doing my physical therapy for certain injuries.
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And I like to listen to something that is sometimes an audio book or a podcast that I'm enjoying.
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But my go-to is a Alan Watts chill step mixes that are all over YouTube where there's calming down tempo music with Alan Watts quotes within it, which just kind of keeps my head kind of stirring into beautiful places as I'm also attending to my body before I start the day.
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That sounds cool.
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So that's good.
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Something that I've done before and I'm about to do again is, you know, like we talked about the idea of morning practice and whatever it is we're doing, whether it's exercise or stretching or something, definitely some body movement, some body motion in the morning is a great way for me that I found to get me going.
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And like Halstyn's saying, even if it's like five minutes or it can go a little longer,
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It's important to move that body, stretching, yoga.
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I'm actually going to get back into the gym myself.
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Even just a couple days a week, just pushing some weights around.
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Feels good.
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Feels good for me to do that.
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The positive thing I think about, or one of the better things I think about doing the morning practice, it's so easy for our days to get away from us and be like, okay, I'm going to do this at noon, or I'm going to do this
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after work, before dinner, and there's just way too many variables that can come in during your day to kind of throw that off.
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So if you are able to get it done in the morning upon waking after coffee or tea or what have you, or even as that is happening, it's good to get that started earlier in the day, the better, and your day is off to a fantastic start.
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So true.
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And, you know, I feel like it's important to be able to set ourselves up for success.
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And we've talked about this in previous episodes, just around like how to remind ourselves to do these things.
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So one of the hacks that I've been doing on myself is that in the night before I go to sleep, I'm
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We'll have like either my journal or I'll have something that I have written that's positive, whether it's affirmations or just some journal entry that is inspiring.
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And then I put that entry or the page open in my journal right next to my phone.
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So that way in the morning, instead of like, cause it's kind of a tendency, I think for a lot of us to want to reach for the phone as the first thing to do.
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Right.
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And so I've tricked myself to, as I reach over for the phone, I'm like, oh, there's my journal.
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Let me read that first.
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As I'm like still in this sort of like in between sleepy and awake space, I'm going to infuse my consciousness with affirmations or with some positive reflections rather than like checking
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the messages or checking whatever it is that is alive on my phone.
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And so that's one way.
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And then sometimes I'll also put like a flower right next to my phone or like something beautiful.
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So like the first thing that I see when I wake up, I like open my eyes and I'm like, oh, beauty.
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Oh yeah.
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I'm going to start my day with some beauty.
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So I love getting to kind of trick myself so that way I don't get into the habit of just grabbing the phone right away.
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That's so huge.
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And I think that that's something that, you know, it's, that is such a significant thing.
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If you can do something other than grab your phone first, whether it's five minutes of stretching, or I love the idea of setting it up the night before, that is not something that I generally
Starting the Day Positively
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do.
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I generally have a don't do phone rule and then try to figure out what I'm going to do first instead of that.
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But I love, you know, starting, you know, having the, the kind of
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directions ready for you to start the day with.
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And that's a big part of, you know, when I coach people, we get to develop a series of affirmation-like things that, what's the punch card that you want to insert into your computer to direct your day?
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Because if you direct your day in a certain direction from the beginning, it avoids that tendency to be reactive from the get go.
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When you pick up your phone and suddenly there are people requesting things of you and you have not already set the way you want to be acting and thinking in the day,
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you fall into reaction and you and suddenly your defense defense defense and being what people want of you all day instead of choosing who you're going to be in the beginning and then as the the requests come you can be the person you want to be as you you know respond to the requests
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Yes, those are both great.
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Those are both fantastic, actually.
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And the idea of setting yourself up for success and doing this in the morning means that you have to do something the night before.
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This is actually quite powerful because if anybody's like me, when you wake up, you are absolutely on fire.
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zombie slash autopilot for the first few minutes.
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So it's easy to, you know, do the, do the habitual thing, grab your phone, grab, you know, whatever.
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So set yourself up the night before, like putting your phone underneath your journal.
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So it's like, so when you reach, it's like, oh, there's that, or the flower on top.
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It's like, it kind of allows you to focus doing whatever you can do in the morning to
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Like Halsey is saying, set yourself up for the focus of the day.
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And grabbing your phone, frankly, if there's something that I take away from this one, from this episode for myself, it's going to be that.
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Find something else to do.
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Because I'm super guilty of that, of just grabbing the phone the first thing.
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Me too.
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And you are reacting to whatever is on that screen, whether it's messages or...
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news or your fee, social media feed or whatever.
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So, I mean, I think we can all agree, not the greatest way to start your day.
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So go, you know, choose, choose L2Is and set yourself up for success.
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The phone's not going anywhere.
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It's, you can, you can check it, you know, soon, even if it's just a few minutes of, of different focus to start your day is to me, it just feels, it seems like, like something that is very powerful.
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It's like tending to our inner environment, right?
00:22:10
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Tending to that inner landscape of thoughts, right?
00:22:13
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It's like, yeah, if you reach for your phone, get some messages, and then you do your meditation.
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I know this has happened to me before.
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Then in my meditation, guess what thoughts start populating?
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Oh, that message I have to get back to, or that thing that person said, or...
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If I looked at social media, then like that person's face is popping up in my meditation and it's like, okay, yeah, no, no, let me do my meditation first.
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And then I'll allow myself to get into, into the flow of engagement and connectivity.
00:22:43
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And yeah, so one of the practices in the virtual group that I lead with the power affirmation is really about tending to our inner environment about what the media that we're taking in or just our thoughts that we're thinking and
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and also tending to the outer environment, which actually leads me to another self-care practice that has absolutely transformed my life when I realized that it was a self-care practice, was tending to my space.
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If I have clutter or things are not in a way in my space, things are piling up,
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I feel scattered.
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I feel off.
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I have a really hard time feeling like I can be in the flow.
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And when I started to realize, like when I clean my room, that's actually a self-care, an act of self-care.
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Right.
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And there's this really great video.
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Maybe we'll add it in the show notes.
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It's called clean your room.
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by Jordan.
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I don't remember his last name at this moment, but it's really about the psychology of tending to our physical environments.
00:23:48
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And it's such a powerful thing when we can really see that how much our physical space impacts how we feel, right?
00:23:56
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And so to be able to harness the power of that as a self-care practice, right?
00:24:01
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Because I think that sometimes the idea of self-care and some of the things I've heard some of my clients say, self-care is like
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taking a long bath or going on a vacation or doing these like long drawn out loving things, rubbing ourselves down with oils and all these things.
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And what it's really like actually cleaning your room or attending to your altar or not reaching for your phone first thing in the morning is these small little atomic habits.
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Here we are, right?
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Atomic habits to really create self-care as a regular part of our life.
Small Steps in Self-Care
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real quick.
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Yeah.
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That's, and that is something that a lot of us have varying, you know, abilities to that or interests to that or motivations for that.
00:24:48
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I was like, Oh, I got to clean my whole house.
00:24:49
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No, you don't have to clean your house.
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You can wipe down that counter though.
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And this, this allows you to kind of scratch when it comes to self-care, this allows you to scratch that productivity itch that you've got going like, okay, I can't,
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Just sitting in a meditation or stretching for a few minutes.
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Oh, that feels like I should be doing something.
00:25:06
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Okay, well, clean your place.
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That's literally doing something.
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Scrub out the shower.
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It doesn't have to be the whole house.
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It'd be one aspect of the house, but you might find that.
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I think we all have that experience.
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I'm going to clean this one-
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thing and then an hour later our house is sparkling because we just got you know you got the groove going so that's that's a powerful thing your your physical space uh is a reflection of what you got going on um inside so yeah just do that one thing dust off that dust off that lampshade that's behind you house and you know and uh
00:25:38
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That's, you know, that's all you have to do.
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Just start, do one thing and you'll, you'll find that you're, you're going to really enjoy the, the satisfaction that comes from that clean cleanliness and productivity.
00:25:49
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That's good in so many ways of that reminder of like, you can just do a little, like you don't have to say, I'm going to go to gym for four hours.
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You can say, I'm going to put on my shoes and walk outside.
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You know, I, this morning I walked for five minutes just so I could move my body a little bit.
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But if I had an agreement to myself that I was going to start exercising today, you know, or that I would not have done it, you know, but I just a little bit, you know, and then that felt good.
00:26:12
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That was, that was, that was enough.
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That felt like a self-care practice.
00:26:16
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I wanted to, before we get too far from morning practices, I want to invite all listeners to join me in one of my morning practices where every day at 9am Pacific, I
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I do a love morning broadcast that's on YouTube and Facebook where it is, among other things, it is a reminder of who we can be in the world each day.
00:26:37
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I try to set my sails in the direction of being a love ambassador.
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And the
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And one who is seeking kindness and connection and opportunities to connect with people and then searching for gratitude.
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So we share people show up and they share things that they're grateful for.
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And if we have an experience of trying to be a love ambassador in the world, we share that and just trying to recognize, at least for me, I need to.
00:27:01
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I need to remind myself in advance that that's who I want to be in the day.
00:27:06
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You know, if I just let the day happen to me, just like the phone, I will be in reactive mode.
00:27:10
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But if I'm walking, as I did this morning, I had five opportunities to cross paths with other human beings.
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And my default mode would have been to just stay out of their way.
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But I started as a love ambassador.
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So I said, good morning to each person.
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And each person reflected back to me a good morning.
00:27:28
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And boom, to me, that is a huge self-care practice to remind myself that I'm connected to fellow human beings, that I'm not alone.
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And that this journey through sometimes a dark and scary world is actually filled with a bunch of love ambassadors just like me.
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And so if you're listening to this, you're probably a love ambassador.
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And I would love for you to join me any day at 9 a.m.
00:27:49
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Fantastic.
Holistic Approaches to Self-Care
00:27:50
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So anything else, Betsy?
00:27:53
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You seem to be good with these self-care modalities.
00:27:57
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What else you got?
00:27:58
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Well, I have had some friends call me the self-care queen.
00:28:04
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I do kind of like tend to seep into self-care.
00:28:08
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It's a huge part of my life and it's a really big part of my offerings in the world too with my
00:28:13
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one-on-one clients, whether virtually or in person, I really am a huge proponent of finding many, many, many ways to keep tending to the mind, the body, and the spirit.
00:28:25
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So Janusz, you were talking about moving the body in the morning.
00:28:29
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I actually really love to consider in the morning and the evening, mind, body, spirit.
00:28:34
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So what are three things that I can do in the morning and in the evening that are tending to my mind, to my body, to my spirit, right?
00:28:41
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And so, for example, in the evening, I have a crystal healing mat, which is a jade and it heats up with infrared.
00:28:51
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And I lay on that and it warms my body and it's just really a wonderful way to wind down.
00:28:57
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So that's my body practice.
00:29:00
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My mind practice is affirmations or journaling.
00:29:04
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So before I go to bed, I try and do either one of those, whether that is either listening to some affirmations on Insight Timer, which is an app for meditation, which you guys can find some of my affirmations on there, or we're journaling some gratitude or reflections from the day.
00:29:23
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And then my spirit practice in the evening time is usually something as simple as lighting a palo santo.
00:29:30
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So palo santo, for those of you that don't know, is a sacred wood from Peru, similar to sage or similar to incense.
00:29:39
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And I like to just light a little bit of it and then just breathe and smell the aroma from the palo santo and just feel myself settle from the day.
00:29:48
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And also give thanks for...
00:29:51
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for my guides or my angels, for God, for a creator, for the people in my life, and just find that connection to spirit.
00:29:59
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And so those are three simple things that I do for my mind, body, spirit practice at night.
00:30:03
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And then in the morning, very similar, but more invigorating rather than in the wind down of the evening, I do the wind up.
00:30:10
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And so I do a red light, which is red light spectrum in the morning, and that's for my body.
00:30:16
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And then I already shared the water practice.
00:30:19
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I do that in the morning too.
00:30:21
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And then affirmations is the mind usually infuse the affirmations into the water and then drink that.
00:30:27
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And then similar, the spirit practices usually going outside and connecting to the elements, connecting to nature or connecting to the sun and just really getting into that expansive mindset and that feeling of connection to all that is through nature.
00:30:45
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So mind, body, spirit wind up and mind, body, spirit wind down.
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Boom.
00:30:49
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I got to admit, I was a little, I was feeling a little uncertain and a little insecure about this topic because I know that you are the queen of self-care.
00:31:03
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And I was feeling like I don't really have the same discipline and practices.
00:31:09
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And as I've been having some struggle times, feeling like, gosh, I know I could be doing more.
00:31:14
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But I love that we have these very diverse things and there's always different things you can try and different things that can work for you.
00:31:21
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And I realize there is a few other things that I do that I would love to share.
00:31:25
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When the pandemic lockdown started, in addition to the morning love broadcast that I mentioned, I also do twice a day gratitude circles in Zoom, which are these group gratitude circles.
00:31:36
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A gratitude journal is in an exceptional practice and is recommended by scientists and almost every coach ever.
00:31:44
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I have a hard time keeping with that and keeping doing that.
00:31:47
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But I've found that a group gratitude practice is profound for me.
00:31:54
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And there's something about, even if I don't know what I can be grateful for, I'm stuck in some trench of thought where then as people start to share things in their world, this lens that I have,
00:32:07
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this gets to be expanded into people's perspectives from all over the world.
00:32:12
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And I start to go, oh, you know what?
00:32:13
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That reminds me, I am grateful about this.
00:32:17
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Oh, I do have that that's going great in my life.
00:32:19
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And then that just builds that practice.
00:32:22
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As you go through the world, you start to have a seek gratitude lens on things.
00:32:26
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And as things happen, you go, where's the lesson in this?
00:32:29
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We talked about that.
00:32:30
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A few episodes ago, like, where's the silver lining?
00:32:32
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And a gratitude practice really, really helps you to start seeing that.
00:32:36
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And as you witness other people do it, you witness somebody, they talk about some tragedy they're going through, and then they, they share gratitude for the hospice worker, you know, that that was there with their loved one.
00:32:46
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And you're like, Whoa, that's yes, that's how gratitude can really help your self care and get you into a
00:32:52
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healthy practices.
00:32:52
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So I will mention that, that if you ever want to join me, it's radically inclusive.
00:32:57
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We meet in the Zoom room, zoom.hugnation.com every day at noon and 6 p.m.
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Pacific and 3 a.m.
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Pacific.
00:33:10
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That's noon for Europeans.
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So you can meet people all over the world.
00:33:14
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I host the
00:33:15
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the noon and six, like 98% of the time.
00:33:20
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And we're celebrating our three year anniversary next month.
00:33:23
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So as I was getting down on myself for not having discipline, I will now forgive myself because I definitely have some practices that I'm dedicated to.
00:33:32
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That's amazing, Halcyon.
00:33:33
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Yeah, what a beautiful dedication that you have been
00:33:37
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just offering to the world, creating a sacred space where people should come share gratitude and to pump that muscle.
00:33:43
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And yeah, I think you bring up a really good point around releasing comparison around how we all do things differently, right?
00:33:50
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We all tend to our wellbeing in different ways.
00:33:54
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And you do it in this way that builds community.
00:33:58
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I do it in a way that is really connecting to my own sense of self, right?
00:34:02
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Right.
00:34:03
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Other people are out there doing things in different ways, going running or going swimming or tending to, you know, their spiritual faith, going to church or, you know, some chanting or whatever it might be.
00:34:14
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It's all, it's all unique to who we are.
00:34:16
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And I just really want to, um,
00:34:19
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just put a spotlight on the episode that we had last week was really about navigating some darker times and depression.
00:34:29
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And you spoke so beautifully to like how you hold space for somebody who's maybe grieving.
00:34:34
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You know, this episode around self-care is really sparked from that conversation.
Maintaining Neutral Mindset through Self-Care
00:34:39
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It is really about how do we
00:34:42
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catch ourselves in a potential downward spiral and be able to take a pause with a breath and then return to practices that can help us to not only go upward, but even just get a place of neutral, right?
00:34:57
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Get into that centered space.
00:34:59
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And so these simple things, hopefully they're these little things that we're sharing can be sparks for you guys to stay inspired and stay on that upward spiral.
00:35:08
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You know, there's so many beautiful ways that we get to do it and we each do it in our own way.
00:35:15
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Yeah.
00:35:15
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And it's it can be easy as well.
00:35:18
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This morning I was taking care of a few things and running short of time.
00:35:24
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Or so I felt when it came to like making breakfast before we were going to record.
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And I was going to run down to the local coffee shop and grab like a cinnamon roll or something.
00:35:33
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And I kind of caught myself in.
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Almost immediately after that, I'm like, I have time to make myself something good to eat.
00:35:41
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So that's what I did.
00:35:43
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I made myself a small, healthy breakfast.
00:35:46
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When the time is done with that, I definitely know I felt better afterwards than I've had if I jumped in my car, ran to the coffee shop, come back and mowed down on some cinnamon roll, which I do love my cinnamon rolls.
00:35:58
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But it's
00:35:59
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And that was, that to me felt like self-care.
00:36:02
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Like I was kind of looking out for myself, save a little bit of money and got to put something healthy in my body.
00:36:07
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So there's a lot of things that we are doing anyway, that if we just put a little twist on it, it can turn into a practice of self-care.
00:36:15
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Another one of those is getting to sleep at a decent hour.
00:36:19
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So it's easy to kind of keep ourselves up and going and running and so on.
00:36:23
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And, but,
00:36:24
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The older I get, I find I just naturally wake up earlier.
00:36:27
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So it doesn't matter what time I go to sleep.
00:36:28
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I'm waking up at 7 a.m.
00:36:30
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And so going to sleep at like one doesn't really set me up.
00:36:34
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It talks about like going back to that idea of setting ourselves up for success.
00:36:38
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So when I'm finding I'm getting in bed at a decent hour, that feels like self-care too, because I,
00:36:43
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I wake up in the morning so grateful that I'm feeling like, wow, I got a solid seven, eight hours of sleep.
00:36:49
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This is fantastic.
00:36:51
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So that is another way to kind of set ourselves up.
00:36:54
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So we're doing these things already.
00:36:56
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We can refine them so that it turns into a self-care practice.
00:37:00
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I love that.
00:37:02
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Yeah.
00:37:02
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And it goes back to some of the earlier ideas of if your attitude around something can affect your ability to enjoy it and how healing it can be.
00:37:11
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You know, a massage can be not healthy if you're like, I should be at work right now.
00:37:16
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I should be at work right now.
00:37:17
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And, you know, eating ice cream can be totally self-care if you're like, ah, this is good.
00:37:22
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I deserve this.
00:37:23
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This is perfect for me in this moment.
00:37:27
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I have a couple of other things I wanted to share.
00:37:31
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For me, I often need to have ways to kind of interrupt a pattern or a thought process that I'm in.
00:37:40
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Sometimes it's really hard for me if I am in or starting to go into a negative situation
00:37:47
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a thought process, I almost feel like I have to be committed to it, you know?
00:37:53
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So like I do this morning love broadcast and I wake up and I'm having some negative thoughts or, and I feel like, well, how dare I try to change my attitude to being happy right now because I have, I'm feeling bad.
00:38:08
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I need to stick with it, you know?
00:38:10
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And it's like, no, you don't, you do not.
00:38:13
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But it's really hard.
00:38:14
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So for me, the things that I often use are, one, I have this committed morning thing where I start and I make myself sing a song.
00:38:22
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And I find that the singing a song
00:38:27
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totally changes my biology.
00:38:29
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You know, it's almost like this little improv thing and I just kind of get like, it just changes the way that I'm feeling.
00:38:34
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And then the other thing is I do is I like almost like sticky notes, but like professional sticky notes, I have stickers that I make and put on things.
00:38:43
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And I put things on t-shirts, little mantras that will snap me out.
00:38:46
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Like I'm wearing a shirt right now that says love ambassador.
00:38:49
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So as I catch myself in the mirror or as I put it on, I'm like, right, right.
00:38:53
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That's who I am.
00:38:54
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That's what I want to be.
00:38:56
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Or I have a sticker that I put on everything that says, be present, have integrity, align with love.
00:39:03
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And I'll say, if you are a Spark listener, stay Spark listener, I would love to send you one.
00:39:08
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I will, if you go to johnstinn.com and send me a self-addressed envelope, I will send you a sticker.
00:39:13
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I would love to share that pattern interrupt sticker with anyone who would want one.
00:39:19
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Oh, that's so amazing.
00:39:20
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Yeah, some people get tattoos.
00:39:22
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Right.
00:39:22
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Stickers.
00:39:25
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I can't commit.
00:39:25
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I can't commit.
00:39:27
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That's amazing.
00:39:29
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Yeah.
00:39:29
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Ways to be able to infuse our environment with these little reminders.
00:39:34
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You know, our thoughts are so powerful and we have these little reminders around us.
00:39:39
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It's like, oh, yes, we got to stay sparked.
00:39:41
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Absolutely.
00:39:42
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That is so, so awesome.
00:39:43
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And that's what we're all here to do is we want to have a happy life, right?
00:39:47
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We all aspire to feel good.
00:39:49
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We all aspire to feel love in our hearts.
00:39:52
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We all want to be riding this, um, this beautiful journey of life in the best way that we can.
00:39:59
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And it is a crazy world.
00:40:01
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there's a lot of things to be scared about.
00:40:03
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There's a lot of things to be worried about.
00:40:05
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There's a lot of sadness.
00:40:06
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There's a lot of things to have grief about.
00:40:10
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And so it's like, how do we find a way of balancing our emotions and writing, um, yeah, it out from that, that place.
00:40:19
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And it's these little simple things that we can do on a regular basis to stay uplifted and stay inspired.
00:40:24
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Uh-huh.
00:40:26
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Absolutely.
00:40:27
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And there's there's a it kind of goes back to what I'm thinking about kind of goes back to what you were saying, Betsy, is you you seem to be tapped into, you know, appeasing your senses, so to speak.
Sensory and Environmental Enhancements
00:40:41
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You know, things like the the jade biomat burning Palo Santo in the air.
00:40:47
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This this is a this is a good practice.
00:40:50
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to do something that is going to tap into your senses, something that, do something in the house that smells good, do something that feels good tactically to your skin, to your body.
00:41:02
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That is a good way to kind of allow you to kind of narrow your focus inward.
00:41:09
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And there's a lot of times where I'll do that as well, burn palace outdoor, burn incense, or an essential oil diffuser in the house.
00:41:17
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And that definitely gets me
00:41:20
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centered, definitely allows me to like kind of breathe and kind of focus.
00:41:24
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It's not easy for me to stay stressed on something else.
00:41:27
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If I've got something nice that I'm able to smell in the house, that could be just, you know, some tea that has been been brewing that fills the house with a nice scent as well.
00:41:35
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So that that feels to me nurturing when I'm able to when my house smells good, like with with something that it's like, ah, okay, I like I like that.
00:41:43
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And that definitely helps me to focus a bit.
00:41:46
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Yeah, absolutely.
00:41:47
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You think about how powerful our olfactory is, right?
00:41:51
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If you have, if there's a foul smell in your house or somewhere, it just is like, oh God, I can't even like do anything.
00:41:59
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I just feel like so overcome by this horrible smell.
00:42:02
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What is that?
00:42:02
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I can't think straight.
00:42:03
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It can take you on a journey if it's a horrible smell, right?
00:42:07
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But if a beautiful smell scent is in the environment intentionally, ah,
00:42:15
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I feel relaxed.
00:42:16
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I feel open.
00:42:17
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I feel gentle, kind, flowing.
00:42:23
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It's, um, it's really powerful.
00:42:26
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Yeah.
00:42:26
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Thank you for that.
00:42:27
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Yeah.
00:42:28
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And, you know, I feel like, um,
00:42:30
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We could probably keep going and going and going on this topic because there is just so much to share on different ways to stay sparked in self-care.
00:42:40
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But I think it would be valuable to maybe wrap it up a little bit here with some sparks.
Service as Self-Care
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So, Halseyna, you want to start us off?
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What's your closing spark on this conversation?
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I want to close with the reminder to myself and others that the fastest way to make yourself happier or to get yourself into a feeling better is to help someone else and to be in a place of service.
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So, you know, if it can be something as teeny tiny as, you know, getting outside yourself and sending messages to a friend, which we've talked about that practice in the past, but just like, uh,
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connecting to someone else and trying to be kind to them.
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If I can give someone a ride to the airport, if there's some way that I can be helpful to another person, that rapidly changes my headspace and puts me into a feeling of worth.
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It makes my day feel like it has meaning.
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And it just changes things dramatically.
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So it can be something that you do on an ongoing basis.
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You can reach out to a local charity.
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It can just be look for an opportunity.
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You could just have a few bucks in your pocket and look for somebody on the street who needs it.
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But finding something to be of service, some way to help another human being is a really powerful self-care tool.
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Amazing.
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Yeah.
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Self-care is actually so it can be amplified by giving to others.
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Yeah.
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That's amazing.
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You're absolutely embody that.
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Thank you for that.
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Yeah.
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And that is...
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That's actually key.
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Being of service is indeed a joy.
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And I always feel better.
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There's no such thing as true altruism.
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Whatever we do, we kind of do it because it makes us feel good.
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So being of service does feel good.
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It actually does produce those happy chemicals.
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And you don't even have to be thanked for that.
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It could just be something.
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We know when we've done something, quote unquote, good.
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And we get it.
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We get a boost from that.
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And a simple thing that I had done in the past, and I just was reminded by Halcyon is super simple.
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In the morning, I would walk around the block and just pick up garbage around the block.
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Super, super short walk.
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I was usually back within 10 minutes, just throw some rubber gloves on or have those little like pinchy grabber things.
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Just went out with the grocery bag, picked up.
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And sometimes it was like five items.
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Sometimes it was a full bag that I couldn't even like put in anymore.
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But I was doing that for a couple of months a few years ago.
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And that was a fantastic way to start my day.
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I was just like, you know, all right, I feel good.
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I feel good.
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And some people like neighbor.
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I actually met a couple of neighbors who were like,
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Like, thank you.
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I thought you were doing that yesterday.
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That's awesome.
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I was like, oh, thanks.
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So, yeah, getting outside, being of service is like checking all these boxes of one activity.
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So, yes, being of service to your community, connecting with others, that is a fantastic way to end up feeling good, feeling good about what you're doing and how you're showing up in the world.
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Mm-hmm.
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Amazing.
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I love that so much.
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Yeah.
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As long as I know, I personally, if I go out and I start picking up trash, I'm like, oh gosh, why are all these people littering?
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I'm so angry.
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It makes me so mad.
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So if I go do that, I got to make sure that I'm like calling in my affirmations.
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I am compassionate.
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I'm doing a good thing.
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I'm kind.
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Yeah.
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Mindfulness while doing it, of course.
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Yes.
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Yes.
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Yeah.
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So my spark, I think, from this conversation is really about infusing habits into our daily life.
New Beginnings in Self-Care
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practices, even small little habits.
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And then also remembering the words start again.
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There's always room to start again, right?
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Because we could fall off our morning practice days and days and days and days and days go by and then we don't have a morning practice anymore.
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but we can always have an opportunity to start again, right?
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We stop working out.
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Well, tomorrow's a new day.
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We can start again.
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You know, these practices are always there to come back to the meditation, start again, right?
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Keep coming back.
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And I feel like that's always a mantra that has helped me in so many ways to just stay committed to my wellbeing, mind, body, and spirit.
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Every day is a new beginning.
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Every day is a new beginning for sure.
00:47:11
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So true.
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Cool.
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Thank you, Betsy.
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Of course.
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And in the spirit of staying sparked with all of our unique offerings, Halcyon, would you like to share how people can find you and stay inspired with your beautiful work in the world?
Promotions and Offerings
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Yes, I have mentioned a number of things during this episode of the morning broadcasts and the gratitude circles.
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I also have a book, a couple books, Love More Fearless and Protagonist and would love to be connected.
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I would love to see your face in a Zoom meeting.
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All those links are available at johnstinn.com.
00:47:52
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Amazing.
00:47:52
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Thank you.
00:47:53
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How about you, Janus?
00:47:56
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As mentioned, I've got a nutritional supplement company called New World Nutritionals, and we put together a lot of different supplements that are mushroom-based and that are all good for improving your state of mind, helping focus, improve memory, improve learning, elevate your mood.
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um all sorts of you know fantastic results and being used to treat a lot of uh the symptoms of a lot of different ailments as well to like really get to fantastic results it's the feedback that we're getting is excellent so uh you can find us on newworldnutritionals.com that is newworldnutritionals.com and you can use the code spark to save 10 on all of our products awesome how about you betsy
00:48:38
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Amazing.
00:48:40
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So yes, I am here to share my gifts with the world through many different modalities of mind, body, spirit.
00:48:47
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So I work with women online, infusing affirmations into their practices, as well as embodiment practices and spiritual practices with the Power Affirmation Project.
00:48:58
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That's poweraffirmation.com.
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It's also a journal that goes along with these, these beautiful virtual practices.
00:49:05
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We plant trees worldwide, and that has been fueling a lot of my inspiration.
00:49:10
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And I also am a intuitive energy worker and body worker here in Southern California.
00:49:17
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And I love getting to work with people one-on-one.
00:49:22
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So if you guys are local and want to reach out, I'd love to
00:49:25
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support you in your self-care through massage or energy work through spiritual practices.
00:49:30
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And also sparked on my website, we'll save you 10% on the journal as well.
00:49:35
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And the show notes, I put together a free gift for you guys.
00:49:38
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And so there's an audio affirmation that you can download to help keep your mind focused on, on building trust.
00:49:48
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So you can check that out.
00:49:51
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So grateful to get to be here with you guys.
Conclusion and Call for Feedback
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And in the Stay Sparked tradition, love to close this off with an affirmation.
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Please do.
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You guys ready?
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All right.
00:50:01
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And also in the spirit of the self-care conversation, this is another very simple thing that we can do.
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Placing one hand on the heart, one hand on the belly or the solar plexus, and just taking a moment to close the eyes and take a deep breath.
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feeling the warmth of your hands on your body.
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And the affirmation here is to focus our mind and thoughts on presence.
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I am present.
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Just repeating this affirmation very simply in your mind, either or out loud.
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I am present.
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I am present.
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I am present.
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I am present.
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I'm continuing to expand this affirmation.
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I am present, peaceful.
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passionate and purposeful.
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I am present, peaceful, passionate and purposeful.
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One more time.
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I am present, peaceful, passionate and purposeful.
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One more deep breath.
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Thanks for having this conversation, you guys.
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