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"Celebrating Wins!" #80 - ✨ SPARKLE SNACK SERIES
12 Plays6 months ago
Is it hard for you to celebrate your wins? Does it feel weird to say you are proud of yourself? Why is it so much easier to commiserate than to celebrate?
In this SPARKLE SNACK (shorter episode) @Betsyhoo and @HalcyonPink share some of the ways they practice highlighting achievements - and why it is so important.
HOSTS
BETSY FINKLEHOO is a healer of massage therapy, CranioSacral and Dharma Coaching. She is an 8 year burner and has spent the last several years seeped in the personal development world, cultivating her passion for transformation and growth. Her recent project, The Power Affirmation Journal and virtual group empowers women to cultivate self awareness and healthy habits so they can live in greater freedom, mind body and spirit.
http://poweraffirmation.com/
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HALCYON is full-time Love Ambassador. He is the founder of Hug Nation YouTube channel and daily zoom gratitude circles. He is co-founder of the Pink Heart Burning Man camp and the 1st Saturdays project for people experiencing homelessness. In his free time he coaches individuals on how to live joyfully and authentically. His other podcast is "Hard on the 80's."
http://LifeStudent.com
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Transcript
Introduction to Stay Sparked Series
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Hello and welcome to Stay Sparked, this series of sparkle episodes here to inspire a little sparkle into your day.
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I'm Betsy Finkelhoo, the creator of the Power Affirmation Project and Somatic Bodyworker.
Meet the Hosts: Betsy and John
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I am John Halcyon Stinn, the host of the Hug Nation YouTube channel and the Heart Centered Men gatherings.
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And we always love starting with gratitude.
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And today I will just share, I am grateful for technology to get our message out into the world.
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And I am grateful for houseplants.
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Woo!
The Episode Theme: Celebrating Wins
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And today we are going to offer a little bite-sized inspiration for you all on the topic of celebrating wins and what that actually means.
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And so why don't you spark us off, John?
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Love to hear your inspiration on this topic.
Sharing Wins in Men's Groups
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Yeah, I just had a men's group and we had a opportunity to share our wins.
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And it really struck me how many people in the group struggled with the very concept or the act of sharing something that they were proud of.
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And it made me think about how often we are discouraged from boasting or bragging.
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And so we end up creating an environment where we encourage and support people to share what they are struggling with and their disappointments and their frustrations.
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But we don't really encourage people to share their wins.
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And I really want to hear people's wins because I find it so much more inspiring.
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Because I know they're happening.
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So tell me what's good.
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Yes, absolutely.
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I think that's such a great question to ask people when you see them.
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So what's good in your life or what are you celebrating about this past week?
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That's one of my favorite questions to ask friends that I get to see.
Weekly Wins Practice with Sister
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You know, and my sister and I actually practice this every week.
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We get together on a Zoom and we share our wins for the week.
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And we also incorporate our growth as well.
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And what ends up happening is when I hear her wins for the week, not only does it create a sense of intimacy and understanding of what's going on for my sister, but it also sparks my inspiration around the wins and the things that I've accomplished that week.
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And so when she's in her joy of like, hey, I went to Pilates three times this week, it reminds me, it's like, oh, yeah, I got on my yoga mat four times this week and I celebrate that.
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I'm like, OK, it reminds me, OK, I'm doing good, even though there might have been some challenges that we both got to work through.
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It just is so uplifting and so inspiring to do as a regular practice, especially.
Focusing on Wins and Positivity
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And so important considering the biology of our minds and how we are so easy to focus on what we're doing wrong, what's in the way, and what we failed at.
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And so it's the reason why I do gratitude practice every day for the same reason, that I need to have an appointment with myself to get my brain focused on what's going right, what are the wins.
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And then when I hear other people, as you said, you're like, oh, I'm
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I also did that today.
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Or, oh, that's another realm of my day that I have been dismissing or even not even giving any attention to.
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And if I look back at my day without consciously focusing on the stuff that went right, I will have a narrative without it.
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And that's unfair to myself.
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Yeah, absolutely.
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I know we're productive beings and sometimes our success is measured by how productive we are.
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And sometimes if we're not particularly productive in a day, we can get hard on ourselves.
Celebrating Small Wins
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But when we actually choose to look through the lens of celebrating wins, we can start to find things that we actually are doing that are contributing to a good life, such as I rested today.
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That could be a win if needed.
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Or I went for a walk today.
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That's a win.
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Or I finished my book.
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Maybe it's a huge one.
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You know, and I think that it's so valuable to keep coming back to that inner celebration as well as sharing with others.
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But, you know, I had mentioned before my sister and I doing it, but we also write it down.
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And I notice in my journal, when I go back and look at what I was celebrating weeks ago, it gives me more insight into my growth as well.
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And to see what I've been focusing on, what I've been working on, kind of as a tracker in a way to through the lens of celebrating.
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Oh, I love that.
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I mean, and I think that's a great practice because when you have those times when you really are down on yourself and you can't think of anything good that you're doing, it's so nice to have a record of evidence of
Documenting Achievements to Combat Self-Judgment
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here, all the things.
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Oh, no, I can do things.
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I have done things.
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I actually have a private blog.
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that I copy-paste things when I get some praise or I get something that reminds me of accomplishments or feeling good that I can go to as like a document to disprove my self-judgment.
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And we know mental health these days is so important.
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There's a whole month dedicated to it.
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There's so many therapists and so many things out in the world now that show the importance of mental health.
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And when we can really go to the gym and tend to the strength of our mental attitude, it is so important.
Mental Health and Positive Attitude
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It has a ripple effect on how we feel in our bodies and our emotions and our lives.
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And so why not cultivate celebrations as a daily practice?
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And so that's my spark.
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I would just love to spark all of you out there as a reminder to celebrate yourself and to ask people in your life, what are you celebrating this week?
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What are you celebrating today?
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Because there's a lot of heaviness in the world.
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Unfortunately, there always has been and there always will.
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And it's really important for us to keep coming back to the good things that are happening as well.
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Yeah.
John's Productivity Approach: Love and Small Wins
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And I guess my spark will be that reframe the productivity.
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The way that I do it is I say, I want to add love in the world today.
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And if sometimes all that means is self-care, sometimes all that means is rest, sometimes all that means is...
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forgiving myself for being in bed all day.
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That's the love.
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It's the love towards me.
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And sometimes I'm more resourced and I can be spread a little bit of love to the person, the cashier that I'm interacting with.
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Or I can send a few texts saying, hey, I'm thinking about you.
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And sometimes I'm super resourced.
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And then I get out into the world and I give a gift or I'm just prepared when the opportunity comes to be more of service comes.
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But avoiding the dangerous trap of feeling like
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Those wins need to be grand.
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The wins can be teeny tiny and they can be as little as self-forgiveness.
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I forgave myself for not doing the thing that I said I was going to do yesterday.
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So beautiful.
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I love that so much.
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Yes.
Engagement and Listener Interaction
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And if anyone out there would like to share your sparks and any sparkles that are lighting up in you right now from listening, be sure to leave a comment on our Instagram, stay sparked.
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And you can find me on poweraffirmation.com where you can find tools and products to help you cultivate this inner state of radiance and transform beliefs.
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And
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And also one-on-one sessions in person with me here in Asheville, North Carolina.
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And you can find me at lifestudent.com.
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And we always close with an affirmation.
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And in the spirit of this conversation, I'm going to invite all of us into finishing the affirmation in your mind or in your heart, which is, today I am proud of myself for...
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Today I am proud of myself for.
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Today I am proud of myself for.
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Let yourself be celebrated from the inside out.
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Thank you all for listening.
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Thank you, John Halcyon.
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I love you so much.
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I love you too.
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Thanks for listening.
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We love you.
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Stay sparked.
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Stay sparked, friends.
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Thanks so much for helping us spread these sparks.