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#131: Gerry Hussey: Breaking through limiting beliefs to unlock your full potential
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In this episode of the Kate Hamilton Health Podcast, I sit down with leading high performance coach and author Gerry Hussey for a deeply inspiring conversation about emotional health, human potential, and the power of personal transformation. Gerry shares his unique blend of psychology, neuroscience, and spirituality, offering a powerful roadmap to help you reconnect with your true self and break free from limiting beliefs.
We dive into the emotional roots of our behaviors, the science behind small daily habits, and how to create lasting change from the inside out. Whether you're seeking more clarity, peace, or purpose in your life, this episode is full of powerful insights and practical tools to support your journey of healing and empowerment.
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:
[0:00] Welcome and today’s special guest introduction
[1:14] Who is Gerry Hussey and what drives his work
[2:17] Why emotional health and belief systems are the foundation
[3:35] A powerful shift: Gerry’s philosophy for deep transformation
[5:21] The science of daily habits and how epigenetics plays a role
[9:22] How to process and manage emotions in a healthy way
[14:33] Beliefs, emotions, and the stories we tell ourselves
[18:43] Letting go of what no longer serves you
[21:59] The inner resistance to change and how to move through it
[29:18] Why your environment and relationships matter
[35:24] Making a lasting commitment to personal growth
[36:03] Small steps that create a big ripple effect
[36:33] Why consistency is more powerful than intensity
[37:04] Following your passions to fuel transformation
[37:23] Rewriting your inner story
[37:46] How family can inspire change
[38:51] The magic of micro-changes
[45:45] Staying devoted to self-work
[47:13] Where psychology meets spirituality
[49:31] Embracing holistic healing
[54:35] Becoming the observer of your thoughts
[1:00:10] Invitation to Gerry’s upcoming empowerment event
[1:05:09] Final reflections and how to connect
Links & Resources:
- Connect with me on Instagram here
- Connect with Gerry on Instagram here
- Learn more about KHH coaching here
- Get tickets for Gerry’s Empowered event here
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Transcript
Introduction to Gerry Hussey
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kate hamilton health podcast So this episode is a real moment for me. So I've even said it on the podcast before. I talk about this guest all the time. I'm a big believer in everything he communicates and teaches.
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And I do talk a lot about his teachings within my own coaching. And I'm constantly recommending his books to clients and to listeners. And I did say, I think even on the podcast before that, if I get him onto this podcast, that I'll have made it. all All jokes aside, this is a ah big moment for me. i am so excited to be able to share and this guest with you on my podcast.
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And if anyone has never heard of him before, we are talking about Gerry Hussey. I know a lot of you will know who Gerry Hussey is, particularly from listening to me talk about him. But as well, he is quite well known, particularly in Ireland for all of the amazing work that he does. If you are unaware of Gerry Hussey, you are in for a treat.
Gerry Hussey's Impact and Philosophy
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that you are like This is step one towards true transformation.
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Gerry is a renowned performance psychologist, speaker and author, known for his powerful work in the space of human potential, emotional fitness and spiritual wellbeing. With over 20 years of experience working with Olympic athletes, high performing business leaders and everyday people striving for a better life, Gerry helps individuals unlock purpose, overcome fear and cultivate lasting inner change.
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Through his platform, Soul Space, which he co-founded with his wife, Miriam, Gerry leads transformational programs that merge psychology, neuroscience, mindfulness and spirituality. He's also the author of three books, Awaken Your Power Within, The Freedom Within and I Am, i Can, I Will.
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I can highly recommend that everybody should read Gerry's books. and attend one of his live events, which he does several times throughout the year. They really are life changing.
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And I think the little window you will get into what Gerry is all about from this podcast will be the only evidence that you need to take the next step. We talk about everything from emotional health to beliefs, limiting beliefs, empowering beliefs.
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We talk about life experiences and trauma and the stories that we tell ourselves that hold us back. We talk about letting go We talk about the ego. We talk about the soul. We talk about the true self.
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We talk about stress. We talk about habit formation and It's just been an absolute honor to be able to talk to him about these things. And I'm really excited to share this with you.
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So without further ado, here is the episode with Gerry Bussey.
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welcome to the podcast. Hello, thanks for having me. I'm really excited about this conversation and i know anyone who's listening to me all the time. and as I was saying to you there before we went on, I talk a lot about you and what you talk about on my podcast. So I'm really, really excited to to dive into everything that you do really. But I suppose if anyone has been living under a rock, doesn't know who you are or what you do, how would you describe what it is that you do?
00:03:31
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It's hard to say. I think the word empowerment is what I do. i give people back a sense of empowerment, a sense of control where people can begin to ask the deeper questions like, who am I? What do I stand for?
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And this one short, beautiful life, what is it I really want? And ultimately asking that hard question, who is it that's really stopping me?
Living in the Present and Building Habits
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Who is really holding me back?
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And I think the world can be so full of adversity and unpredictability that if we give our energy and awareness to everything outside of ourselves, we feel disillusioned, we feel afraid, we feel disempowered.
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But when we take our energy back and place our attention and awareness on who we are and what we stand for, ah and the realization that we we all get to control our response.
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Now we have an ability in any given moment to be defined not by how by what happens to us, but how we choose to respond. So that is really the work I do. It's working with anybody from you know world-class athletes to people who've just lost a child, to people that have been you know given a serious diagnosis.
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And somehow the world has fallen to pieces. They don't know where to go. and My job is to be with those people and create a space and environment in which they can begin to feel a spark of light, hope, ambition, and what awaken this inner voice. There's something incredible in the human psyche that is incredibly resilient and incredibly powerful and incredibly strong.
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And my job, I suppose, is to ignite that inner light in people that might have lost their own. Is this something that we don't need to wait to the point of crisis for? That, you know, is this something that we we can do right now to prepare us for what life throws at us, if that makes sense?
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I think every single day life is unfolding and i have an expression that every every lifetime is a day and every day is a lifetime. So I literally live my life one day at a time. um Yes, you have to financial plans and you have to have plans for your children where they're going to school and all that. But ultimately, future is fiction.
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We don't really what's going to happen in five to 10 years. So what we do know is that very often good habits in the present create the habits of the future. So if we focus more on things like our health or happiness, eating the right food, spending time with the people we love, we know that in the future, ah different person's going to appear.
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So one time ago, even when it came to our health, we thought that you know our genes ultimately defined our health destiny. Now through the incredible research for and over 30 years on things like epigenetics, we know that genes alone do not define your health destiny.
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It's the environment in which the gene exists. And what's the environment? It's your internal chemistry and biology. It's your blood. It's your nervous system. If we're living in a constant, all we saw in stress mode, we're switching on the genes of stress, the genes of survival.
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If we're living in a world where we regularly experience joy and love and peace and happiness, we're switching on the genes and of healing. So what we know from science is that the way we spend our life, the things we think about, the emotions we hold are switching on and off searching genes.
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So our future, it's like an Olympic athlete. You might want to be Olympic champion. But sitting around and waiting for that to happen is not going to make it work. You got to go and do the work every day.
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And the more you do that work every day the more the future happens. So I tend to live my life. Yes, I have long-term ideas and ambitions, but they change all the time. So I spend most of my time focused on a very simple thing called WIN, W-I-N, what's important now.
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And regularly, because I'm changing. I mean, I've i've two kids and my dad. A few years ago, I didn't have kids. So I'm changing all the time. So my dreams change, my ambitions change, the things that bring my heart on fire change, the things that set my soul alight change, the things that make me happy change.
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So that if I was still chasing the same dream that I had five or 10 years ago, it either means that I haven't changed, evolved and grown as a human being, or it means my dreams are actually redundant.
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So we are never the same person two days in a row. There's a beautiful expression that says no man steps in the same stream twice because when he so steps in the second time, the man is different and the water is different.
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Yeah. So for me, it's not about waiting for anything. Because this is life. Life is happening right now.
Understanding Emotions and Beliefs
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It is extremely short. This is not a dress rehearsal.
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And this is actually the most important day of your life. It's the only day of your life. So like, I suppose for a lot of people, I know when people like come to me and they want to get healthier, they want to lose weight. Quite often when they come to me, they're like, I just want to lose weight.
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And that they don't have any awareness. And myself included and back in the day as well, of what they actually want. in life, like what is actually important to them. And what I've discovered from my own health journey is that I discovered who I was, what I wanted.
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And you're so right, that changes all the time. and So I try and use my coaching very much as that stepping stone to, right, let's start exploring who you are. But what I find for a lot of people that gets in the way is emotions, limiting beliefs and even when they do discover what they actually want, they're like, oh, but I couldn't have that.
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and Or they'll try and they'll fall into that. Like if we take it from, let's say, a dieting perspective, trying another diet, failing again, gaining the weight again, starting new habits, falling back into old habits and just that vicious cycle.
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So I suppose if we talked a little bit maybe about emotions, but if we could start there, like emotional health, how Can we move past that cycle that we seem to get stuck in when we want to change, but we don't know how?
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Yeah, the first thing is, you know, emotions, there's no such thing as a negative or positive emotion. All emotions are information and that's all they are. Emotions are chemical, physiological changes that happen in the body.
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We must be aware that emotions have nothing to do with the human brain. The human brain cannot, will not, will never experience emotion or pain. It has no pain receptor.
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You can cut the human brain in half with a knife. It doesn't feel it. So emotions are physical disturbances that happen in the body. Even that alone going surprise someone.
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Emotions are physiological changes that happen in the body. So now you begin to realize that emotions are held in the body. The fastest way to change an emotion is by moving the body. Trauma has nothing to do with the brain.
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So even in psychology, sitting down talking about trauma, science has proven that's not very effective. because trauma is not anything to do with the brain, it's the body. So we firstly have to recognize the mind and body cannot be separated.
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You cannot separate physical health and mental health. They're both the same thing. It's the same conversation. And people talk about the mind-body connection. It's not a connection, it's health. And we know that if we hold certain emotions,
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like anger, shame, guilt, they undeniably and scientifically make changes in your hormone system, your endocrine system, and your immune system.
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Holding emotions, thinking negative thoughts creates changes in your major systems in the body, but also in your cells and your genes. So now we have to think of everything as ah a thing.
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So what are emotions then? Emotions are triggers to show you that something is not well, that something needs to be addressed. So anger, where's that coming from?
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So one is how do I deal with the emotion? and There's a thing called an emotional refractory phase. Having an emotion of fear, shame, guilt, or anger is not a negative thing.
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It's an important thing. What we do with that is important. No emotion can last more than 90 seconds. Imagine that. If we leave an emotion alone, it's gone in 90 seconds.
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What happens is we feel an emotion and we get attached to it and we buy into it and we keep poking it and we keep adding to it. We perpetuate the emotion. So what all the science and all the years of wisdom have shown us is that it is perfectly okay and normal.
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In fact, some people have every right to feel angry and bitter. You sit in front of someone who's just lost a three-year-old child. You're telling me they don't have every right to be angry and bitter. It is and natural part of the human existence.
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But what we've done is we've hijacked this thing called happy. And we have this deluded idea that people should be happy all the time. But happiness is just another temporary human emotion.
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So when we look at emotions, emotions are simply triggers that shows when something is right and something isn't right. When something is in balance and something is out of balance.
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Therefore, what we have to become good at is firstly feeling our emotion. Sometimes we feel tired, but we just push on. Drink coffee, push on. We feel sad, but we bottle it up.
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We're in a job that's destroying our soul and we just push on. We're in a relationship that is loveless and we just get on with it. So the first thing is we have to stop ignoring suppressing emotions.
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The only dangerous emotion is a suppressed emotion. So now we have become very good at identifying emotions, listening to them, allowing them, not trying to outrun them, out train them, out think them, listen to them, sit into them, allow them to bubble up and then ask if the emotion is the symptom, what's the root cause?
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Where's this really coming from? Nobody can make you feel an emotion that you're not already holding. So, so many people say, oh, well, Kate made me angry. That's wrong.
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That's a victim statement. That's saying that Kate has the ability to control my emotions, which she doesn't. The statement should be, Kate said something that triggered my anger.
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Now you begin to see the things we're triggered by as something we're holding. So now sometimes the place of your greatest emotional distress is the roadmap to your the potential of your greatest healing.
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So now you begin to ask, why did I get so angry when Kate said that? Why do I take negative feedback so harsh? Why do I need to be loved all the time? Why?
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And you go deeper and you begin to realize that emotions are expressions of beliefs. You cannot be emotional about something you don't believe in.
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If you did not believe in a ghost and you're in bed one night and you're snuggled up and you're lovely and warm and you're you're just content. And I came in and said, quick, quick, quick, there's a ghost under your bed.
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You're just going to say, Jerry, get out and and you'd fall back to sleep. But however, if you believed in a ghost and I said the exact same statement, your emotional response would be different.
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So emotions are triggered by beliefs. So the when we have an emotion, we should be asking ourselves, what is the belief that that has triggered?
00:15:19
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You can change all the behavior you want. You can go to all the healthy eating classes you want. You can go take up all the diets you want. You can stop smoking. You can spend a load of money on all of these courses that are going to change your behavior. And I'm telling you now, they'll change nothing.
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They will short term because until you change your deepest beliefs about who you are and about what the universe is about, you're not going to change anything.
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So emotions are critical messages that we need to listen to. We need to quickly get to the root cause of the emotion. And then we must understand that every single one of us has the power to change that emotion as quickly as we possibly can.
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So having an emotion is not a choice. Staying in emotion is a choice. And that's often what people don't want to hear. So in relation to emotions being caused by beliefs, I always thought it was thoughts, that your thoughts create your emotions.
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But then are beliefs thoughts that you think over and over again and and believe? what What is the difference between thoughts beliefs? Yeah, we used to think that thoughts create emotions. They don't.
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Neuroscience has proven that you cannot think outside of an emotion. So if you wake up somewhere and you're really happy, you're excited, you will have very different thoughts than if you're feeling down and angry.
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You cannot think outside your emotion. So the best way I could describe this is, and no offense to Mayo, I'm a big fan of Mayo football, but if you have a Dublin footballer or a Kerry footballer,
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And all their life, they have witnessed incredible comebacks.
Challenging Unchangeable Beliefs
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They have witnessed people in in their jersey pull off incredible comebacks. And deep down, they know that their county more often than not wins All-Irelands.
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If in a game, that player looks up at the scoreboard and they see two pieces of information, What is your three points down with 10 minutes to go? Probably the doubler carry football is going, look at that scoreboard and say, right, there's 10 minutes to go.
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That's the piece of information they're going to select as most important. There's 10 minutes to go. That's loads of time. We just need to win the next ball and get the next score. So their emotional response is loads of time left.
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But if you have somebody who's repeatedly felt the pain of disappointment, and repeatedly felt the trauma and that has seeped into the belief system and they've played their heart out for that game.
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And they look up at the exact same scoreboard and they get the exact same two messages. Three points down with 10 minutes to go. I promise you their emotional response is going to be different. 10 minutes to go and three points down is just two pieces of information.
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There's no emotion attached to either of those two statements. However, your response to those pieces of information is to do with your belief system. So the things we're highly emotional about are things that we have strong beliefs about.
00:18:41
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That makes so much sense. So I suppose, how do we go from someone with limiting beliefs? So like if we take one of my clients that comes to me and they're like I can't lose weight. There's no way I can get healthy. I've failed so many times. Like what you said, talking about the footballers. Is this by action?
00:18:58
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Do we do this by just trying and building evidence? to create a new belief or do we need to dig into our past? The first thing is changing the story. So how do we change a story? Just as incredible unshakable science.
00:19:14
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So there is nothing, nothing in science to suggest that anybody can't lose weight. Yeah. That's a story. So my job sometimes is to use unshakable science to expose stories. It's a belief system.
00:19:28
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And it's okay to have that belief system. We're not giving out to you for having a belief system, but where does it hold up? So the first thing we have to do is fact check this. i recently had a person that said, you know, really challenged me about weight loss.
00:19:41
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Not everybody can lose weight. And I said, are you talking about not everybody or are you talking about you? I'm talking about me. I said, right, I'm going give you a challenge. You come and live with me for 30 days.
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You eat what I eat for 30 days. You do what I do for 30 days and you train the way i train for 30 days. And I will put a sizable bet on with you that you will have lost weight at the end. They will take up the offer because it comes down to a belief story.
00:20:07
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And if the belief is I can't lose weight, I'm not good enough. I'm not clever enough. Then the ego, and the ego is not a bad thing. The ego is just trying to protect you.
00:20:19
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And the way the ego protects you is by building an identity that's fictional, but at least it becomes repeatable. It becomes predictable. It becomes understandable.
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And as long as you fulfill the expectations of the ego, you feel safe. And then it rewards you with dopamine. So you feel safe. It's like when we eat junk food, when we're stressed or when we're anxious or bored, we tend to eat.
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And that food gives us a short term hit of dopamine and then gives us pain. So the ego is constantly, whether it's through alcohol, through food, through gambling, through social media, through work, the ego is constantly trying to keep you trapped within the same behaviors and the same beliefs, even though it knows ultimately it's destructive, but at least you're predictable.
00:21:12
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So we all at some point form a story in our life. And then that story, we tell it so many times that we actually begin to think it's true. But we know that there is nothing static in the human being, not one cell, not one gene.
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There's nothing static. We are changing all the time. And we have to have a story that we are an ever-changing being, that we are capable of incredible change.
00:21:41
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that we are open and willing to let going of our past, that we can create a future totally unrecognizable to our past. As long as you're holding a belief that I can't change, nothing will change.
00:21:55
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The greatest habit we must break is the habit of being ourselves. But the question then kate comes down to why do people find it so hard to change? It's because of this. Think of someone who's at sea on a ship and they fall overboard and it's middle of the night and the ship can't find them.
00:22:12
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And eventually they find themselves in the middle of an ocean and they're going to go under. And at that moment, they think everything's lost and a log floats by and they grab that log. It's a cold, gritty log.
00:22:26
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It's sharp, it's hurting them, but at least they're not sinking. They're just surviving. And for 48 hours, they desperately, physically, chemically, emotionally, psychologically, hang on to that log.
00:22:39
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And eventually the helicopter rescue comes over them. And the winch pilot comes all the way down in a basket. And he stops about two, three meters above the person. Now that person is still desperately clinging to that log.
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And then the winch pilot says, I need you to reach up and let go and grab my hand. And most people try to do it, but they can't get their hands off the log. And eventually the winch pilot says, you need to trust me.
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You need to let go of that log. And after 48 hours of desperately clinging to that log, would that log be the one thing that was predictable and safe? What do most people say to the winch pilot?
00:23:22
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They say, I can't. I can't let go. Yeah. We all carry logs, our pain, our trauma, our past, our beliefs.
00:23:33
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And ultimately, we can't let that go because it is the only thing that is safe and predictable. And the terrifying thing for the ego is if I let you dismantle that belief, I've no idea who you're going to become.
Vision for the Future and Personal Accountability
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So therefore, I have no way of protecting you. That is why we find change so hard, because we get trapped in the safe and the predictable. and our future becomes a printout of past.
00:23:59
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The most challenging thing with the work I do is to sit in front of people who have every reason to hang on to that log. But ultimately that log is weighing them down and it's full of shame and guilt and anger and a story that I'm not enough and I'm not good enough and I can't.
00:24:16
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And the only question i can ask them is, how long more are you willing to let that log hole pull you down? It's risk. We've got to take risk. We've got to be willing to dare to become somebody unrecognizable.
00:24:31
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And the good news is we can do this very quickly. When I do some events, we get people moving, chanting, screaming. We're changing their chemistry. We're changing their biology. We're changing their frequency. We're opening their heart.
00:24:44
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They're feeling emotions they've never felt before. They're feeling things they haven't felt in 10 years. People say, I don't dance. Suddenly they're dancing. I don't box, they're boxing, they're chanting, they're singing, they're smiling. People that haven't smiled for 20 years.
00:25:00
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I give them the opportunity, even if it's for five minutes, to become a different person. And if you can become a different person, chemically, biologically, and from a frequency point of view, even for five minutes, you've proven to yourself, you can become a vi a different person.
00:25:16
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So it's letting the old go. But it's understanding how difficult it is to let go of our subconscious beliefs. Because in a world of uncertainty and unpredictability, when you're at sea, you'll grab onto any old log.
00:25:34
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And the day someone looks you in the face and says, let go of the log, is probably the most terrifying place. For someone to look you the eyes who cares about you and loves you enough to say most of the beliefs you've been holding and living from are fiction.
00:25:52
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And actually the only person holding you back right now is you. That's a tough thing to say to people. It's a tough thing to hear. But I've been gifted to work with coaches who loved me enough to look me in the eyes and say, Jerry, let go of that story.
00:26:10
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Let go of that emotion. let go of your past. And ultimately, if we are more connected to our past than we are the future, then our energy, awareness and attention is just dedicated to repeating the past.
00:26:26
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On the morning that you wake up, and you make a decision that I am no longer interested in or connected to my past. I am now so inspired by a vision of the future that all of my thoughts and all of my emotions and my chemistry, my cells, my genes are now so connected to the future that the past disappears.
00:26:48
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We have to become disconnected and uninterested in our own past and our own trauma. An easy thing to say, not an easy thing to do, But I promise you, it is absolutely possible.
00:26:59
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This is where it really comes down to, isn't it? Just creating the space and finding time to draw out or write out or imagine or whatever way it works for you creatively.
00:27:10
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What do you want? what Who do you want to become? And and really start creating that vision. And like that can take years as well. And like as you said, can change a lot. And then i think it's... where you say about the body, like I can tell i can totally relate to this. First of all, we were actually at your event, myself and my husband went to your event in, what was this, in February, March?
00:27:30
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John's Town House. Yes, John's Town House. And he's never, like, you know, i I talk about you to him or whatever, you know, I said, we're going to go to Gerry's event and he had no idea what to expect. The next thing we were chanting and we were boxing and jumping up and down. And he was like, what in God's name have you brought me to? Now, he loved it. He had a great day.
00:27:46
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But I had never... so And I would never have thought I'd have seen him dancing the way he was dancing. and It was brilliant. And it's when you use your body that it creates that energy and it it does detach you from the ego.
00:27:57
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But even in my own story with... When I kind of started making changes in my life, I stepped into a CrossFit class. I stepped into a CrossFit class. I'd never been to in a CrossFit gym before in my life and I dipped in and out of fitness, but it was always about how I wanted to look.
00:28:11
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It was always trying to change myself physically. I stepped into that gym and something changed in me because I was completely taken out of my mind, completely into my body, and I discovered things that I was able to do that I didn't know i was able to do.
00:28:29
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like I was like, wow, because I grew up as someone who was very afraid, very anxious, and genuinely didn't think that I was strong enough. I thought other people were better than me. Other people were stronger than me.
00:28:41
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Genuinely solid belief. And it was only when I'd see people jumping on boxes or swinging out of bars, I was like, oh, well, if she can do that, maybe I could do that. And it changed everything for me. And then as I started to get fitter and stronger, i was like, what else?
00:28:56
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What else can I do in my life? And it just opened this can of worms. And like you said, that looking back Suddenly I wasn't repeating the same patterns. Like I had, you know, tried to change habits before and give things up, like giving up things.
00:29:10
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And I was never able to actually let go of them. Whereas when I moved forward and I was like, more of this, please. it The other stuff fell away. Yeah, that's what you have to do. You have to fill your life, surround yourself with people from just are different.
00:29:25
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But what most of us tend to do is we tend to surround ourselves with people who buy into our excuses, people who are like what we have. So there's a great ah friend of mine. He helps me with my business. And sometimes I'm looking to build an online or I'm looking to do this. And the only rule he has is do not engage anybody who hasn't done exactly what you want to do.
00:29:49
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So if your goal is to make 100 million a year, Unless that guy has made a hundred million a year, do not engage. If you want to write the biggest selling book in the world, if that person hasn't done don't do So what we try to do sometimes is we ask people for advice on stuff that they've never done.
00:30:08
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So if you ask a professional soccer player, is it possible to become a professional soccer player? There's only one answer they're going give yeah yes. If you ask an Olympic athlete, is it possible to go to the Olympics? They'll tell you yes. And you'll say, um but surely it's God-given talent.
00:30:25
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Surely you're genetically disposed. And they'll say, I was born 500 meters from you. Or in fact, I was born in the same hospital as you on the same day. And we're genetically identical.
00:30:36
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When you did the community games and won a silver medal, I did the exact same race and I didn't win any medal. That stops people in their tracks. So now you begin to realize, oh, hold on a second here.
00:30:48
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How does anybody become any of this? There's a process. We think sometimes there's a great podcast recently where one of the Neville brothers talking about Cristiano Ronaldo. And he said when Cristiano, when he met Cristiano Ronaldo first, he said most of the team were actually better soccer players than And we all knew that.
00:31:07
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What we didn't appreciate was how hard he was going to work. And he's outperformed every one of us. And he's one things that we never win. And he said, we we knew it because when we got to the training ground at eight o'clock, his hair was wet.
00:31:20
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And we always thought it was because he liked gel. He was after having me a shower because his first training session the day was over. When we left at two o'clock, he was going into the gym again. And in the middle of the sessions, when we all got an hour off to sit back and drink coffee, he was out dribbling around the pitch in different ways because he was stood gifted players.
00:31:40
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He said, Cristiano Ronaldo is a phenomenal. He has, with no God given talent or no God given rights, he outperformed us all.
00:31:52
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And he now has done things that we could only dream of. But the point he's making, there was a point where we were all better players than he was. And the point he's trying to make is don't write yourself off. Some of these incredibly gifted, successful people have just figured out a process.
00:32:09
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They're not different to you. They're not without the trauma. They don't necessarily come from different places or different backgrounds. They just have developed A, a different mindset and B, they figure out a process.
00:32:21
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So we've got to stop surrounding ourselves with people who haven't done what we want to do because otherwise we're asking them for an opinion. And of course, their opinion is going to be your opinion.
00:32:33
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If they look like you and speak like you and work in the same type of job as you, then they're going to give it the same opinion. So the challenge is to dare to put ourselves in a circle of people who will probably tell you what you don't really want to hear, that everything is possible.
00:32:50
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And in fact, you're the only one holding yourself back. That is the way I try to live my life. I pick the type of people that I want to be, I pick the type of communicator that I want to be, the type of life I want to live.
00:33:04
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I go find people that have already done it and I badger them and harass them until they either meet me and explain. And you suddenly re realize, my God, we are capable of so much more than we at times let ourselves believe.
00:33:19
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Yeah, that can be tricky sometimes, can't it, around like family or people that you're not, we're not just like cutting off ties left, right and centre with our family members necessarily or, you know, long term friends. But like, I would be very, very picky about who I would talk to about my goals and my dreams and, you know, things that I intend to do. and Because one thing I've learned from...
00:33:40
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making a career change from a teacher to building my own business and everyone thought I was having a mental breakdown. I think, you know, to be honest, my parents thought i was having an early midlife crisis was very much that the support you're looking for from people you don't get until you you don't need it anymore.
00:33:56
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Exactly. And most people will tell you you're wrong. And most people are going to tell you you're crazy. That's okay because most people can only give you an opinion based on what they see, the eyes of the world they see.
00:34:09
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So most people don't know your eyes. They don't really know your potential. They only know their own potential. They only know their own dreams. And most people, if they don't want what you want, then they think you pursuing it is crazy because they can't experience how happy it makes you.
00:34:25
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So if somebody really wants to be a dancer, somebody who has no interest in dancing can't figure out why they sacrificed their dreams just to be a dancer or a singer. So no two people are the same.
00:34:38
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And the question we have to ask ourselves is, what is my life about? What am I here to do? And in this one short, beautiful life, if I truly loved myself and I wasn't afraid to fail, what would I dare pursue?
00:34:53
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Who would I dare become? And stop looking left or right and stop blaming your past and what I am because I am because of he or her. No, you take control. You step into accountability.
00:35:06
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You are where you are because of you. And if you're not where you are because of you, then you're staying where you are because of you.
Sustainable Lifestyle Changes and Self-care
00:35:13
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So what brought you here is one thing. But if you're not actively changing something, you're choosing it.
00:35:21
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So how do I actively change your belief? How do I actively change emotions? How do I actively change my job? Saying you're going to do something or I'm going to do it at some point. I'm going to join the gym next Monday.
00:35:33
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It's no good. You've got to put a ah date on it. And the diet starts today. And the gym starts today and give up ultra processed food today, not tomorrow, not next week, today.
00:35:46
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And if you're not willing to say I'm giving up that today, you're not serious about it because the ego has already tricked you. It has already tricked you into this idea that it'll happen sometime in the future because you don't need to change.
00:35:59
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You'll change sometime in the future. The only moment to change is now, but that change doesn't have to be massive. It can be small. If you've never exercised in your life and you go for a hundred meter walk tomorrow, now you've changed.
00:36:14
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If you've never meditated in your life and you can do meditation for one minute, now you're meditating. If you can change one thing about your diet, now you've changed your diet. If you can say one kind thing to yourself every day, now you've changed your inner self-talk.
00:36:29
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So I think small changes is the way to go. Consistency beats intensity. These mad crash, bang, wallop diet and fitness regimes, forget about them.
00:36:40
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Pick something that you love. And if your exercise regime is simply putting on your favorite song and dancing around your kitchen for 10 minutes, that's it. Because work up a sweat, get your heart right up.
00:36:52
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You'll still release endorphins. The brain will still release endocannabinoids. When you're bouncing on your toes, you'll activate your lymphatic drainage system. So you've done this. So find what you love doing.
00:37:04
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Find what you can integrate into your lifestyle and start to slowly build in more and more good food, more and more good habits, and slowly the old fall away.
00:37:15
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So it's small changes, but ultimately it starts growing. with your inner story. It starts with your belief. Because if you wake up in the morning say well, I'm just, I am because the way i am and I can't change and I don't deserve life and I don't deserve to be happy.
00:37:34
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and Nothing's ever going to change. Every single one of us is somebody's hero. Whether we know it or not, somebody looks at us and we're the hero.
00:37:46
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So put on the cape. And then people often say, oh, well, I do anything for my family. I die for my family. Don't be dying for your family. Can you get a get fit for your family?
00:37:58
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Can you change your diet for your family? Can you get out and walk 100 metres a day for your family? Can you show up with love? Dying for your family is, what would you do that for?
00:38:10
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Brian Cody once infamous said about Kilkenny hurlers and anybody that knows Brian and the Kilkenny hurlers phenomenal power and he said I'm sick to death that hearing people say we die we die for the cause we die for this die for that he said Kilkenny hurlers are not willing to die for out anything we're only willing to kill I it.
00:38:30
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Winner's mindset. I think deep down, whether it's a photograph of your inner child or your or or your baby self, or it's whether it's a photograph of your children, have a deep look at it and ask yourself, what one little thing, one little thing might I be willing to do tomorrow so that I can be around more for that person?
00:38:51
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And as I said, it doesn't matter how small it is. If you can make a tiny change tomorrow, now you've proven you can change, and you slowly build on those tiny changes, and in a year's time, you'll be unrecognizable to yourself, and you won't actually you know what point you changed.
00:39:08
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You won't really know, was it the walking or the yoga or the meditation or the diet? You won't really know what changed you. But you just know you're radically different, that you think different, you feel different, you look the world different.
00:39:21
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I don't know where I changed. From a kid that was, you know, suicidal growing up, from a kid that had a terrible stammer, couldn't speak, terrible at school. I don't really know where I changed.
00:39:33
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I can't say it was at that moment. But I know over the years I've been in therapy. I've had a lifelong dedication to moving the body every day. I've added yoga, I've added meditation, cold water immersion. I've gone back to therapy at different times.
00:39:47
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I've tried to change my diet. And as I change as a human being, I also realize that stuff that worked me five years ago is not working anymore. So I'm curious all the time. I'm trying new things.
00:39:59
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So people often say, I've tried everything. What have you really tried? So you have to be willing to open your mind. There is so much incredible information out there. There are so many different modalities.
00:40:11
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There are so many things that you might think this is nuts, but go try it and have fun while you're trying it. You don't need to be good at it. You don't need to just be willing to put yourself in situations that you never thought you'd be in.
00:40:28
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and be in that situation without judgment, without criticism and be different. And that's what we're trying to do here. So small, consistent changes where you, on a daily base, prove to yourself that you can be different.
00:40:43
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And on the days that you fall off the wagon, Let it be. It's only a day. Start again tomorrow. Don't beat yourself up. Don't give out yourself because that's not going to help.
00:40:55
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We all fall off the wagon. We all make mistakes. We all get it wrong. And if you fall off the wagon on a Wednesday, get back on it on the Thursday. Don't say, I will share it's middle of the week. i and I'll wait till next Monday.
00:41:07
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Don't be waiting. The ego tricks us into believing that quitting is actually waiting. Don't quit. There's a lovely box expression in boxing that says, we're not beaten when we get knocked down.
00:41:21
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We're only beaten when we decide we're not getting up. Boxers get back up and they get back up fast, but they get knocked down all day. Every single one of us at some point in the day or the week, we fall off the wagon.
00:41:33
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If you do, take a deep breath.
00:41:37
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Let the emotion go and ask yourself, do I dare love myself to get back up again and then get back up and go again? That's where we learn as well. but you know The more times we fall down and we pick ourselves back up, we can actually learn from it. We'll know that we notice our patterns.
00:41:52
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And I think then when we embrace that and we take away that time limit, being like, oh, Jesus, I have to lose six months in time for the wedding or, you know, I have to be in my bikini by August or, you know, like, and we get so impatient. We're like, sorry, why am I not skinny yet?
00:42:06
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It's like, okay, calm down. You're changing your life. And it's so it is so fun when you try different things that you enjoy and You discover things about yourself and even things that you're like, oh, wow, I didn't notice I had that pattern. and That's an interesting one. And I think when we approach ourselves with curiosity rather than and criticism, like curiosity.
00:42:24
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I signed up for a coach once and it was a fairly intense thing. So he does doing this type of training and yoga. It was a fairly big commitment. And I asked him one day, i said like, you know, how long have to keep doing this?
00:42:38
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I said, as soon as you're happy to go back to being miserable. You can stop. Otherwise it's lifelong. People have to accept that. To be actively happy and full of life, and it's diet it's every day.
00:42:52
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It's every day. You don't just get fit and then just stop. It's every day. So that's why it has to be small things. It has to be stuff you enjoy. This crash, bang, wallop stuff, forget about it. nonsense.
00:43:06
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I just wanted to interrupt the podcast for a moment to talk to you a little bit about Kate Hamilton Health online coaching. So we have two coaching options available. We have our elite coaching and we have our group coaching service.
00:43:22
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Our elite coaching service is bespoke individualized coaching, which will help you to finally break free from diet culture with one-to-one anytime support from your coach and with access to a safe, supportive community.
00:43:36
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This is a higher ticket coaching option. And the coaching is by application only. If you go to my website, KateHamiltonHealth.com, you will be able to apply for elite coaching through there. And we will be in touch to organize a call and to get you up and running.
00:43:51
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In relation to our group coaching, our group coaching starts on the first Monday of every month. When it's full each month, we do close the doors. With the group, coaching is about building the habits, body and energy of the healthiest version of yourself and finally make it stick.
00:44:09
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We include personalized calories and portions, food lists, recipes, meal plan ideas, step goals, home or gym based workouts, depending on what you want. And change every eight weeks.
00:44:22
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Mindset work, app access. So that's the Kate Hamilton Health app, which will be your hub for everything. Weekly yoga classes, WhatsApp group community, weekly group Q&A with myself, fun challenges, daily habits form, weekly self check in. fortnightly check-ins with your coach, a library full of lifestyle guides, a library full of lessons, seminars, and all of this is updated regularly.
00:44:48
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We have weekly group Zoom calls with myself and the team, and regular guest seminars where we get experts on to talk more to you about different topics that we need experts on for.
00:44:59
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And then we have in-person events twice a year that you will get at a major discount as being a member of the Kate Hamilton Health community. So then, as I said, this starts the first Monday of every month. If you go to my website, KateHamiltonHealth.com, you will see when the next group coaching intake is starting for you.
00:45:20
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So we close the doors as soon as that intake is full or the Monday before the group coaching starts. So usually that last Monday of the previous month. So if you head over to Kate Hamilton Health dot com, all of that information that I've talked through is on the website.
00:45:36
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You'll be able to book your spot for the next intake there. And I will chat to you all then.
00:45:45
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So this is a lifelong commitment because life will take energy from us. It will take confidence from us. ah That's what happens to us. So every day we've got refill, refill the cup.
00:45:58
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We've got to refill the joy, refill the gratitude, refill the confidence. And that'll look different day to day, won't it It's different all the time. And that's what I'm saying. The stuff I'm doing now is very different stuff I did 10 years ago I've kept some of the same stuff, but I've added loads new stuff because we all get bored of the same old ding dong.
00:46:14
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So your diet will change. Your exercise regime will change. Your meditation will change. You'll change. You have to keep it changed because you have to keep it stimulated.
00:46:25
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However, what doesn't change is the daily commitment to self, whether that's 15 minutes, which is only 1% of your time. or whether that's an hour.
00:46:36
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It is a daily commitment to honor the greatest version of you. And that is the greatest gift you can give other people. The greatest gift we can give the people we love is a healthy, they happy me.
00:46:48
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So there's nothing selfish about taking that 15 minutes or that hour. It is the greatest gift you can give the people around you.
Psychology, Spirituality, and Soul Health
00:46:54
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It is the greatest lesson you can teach to your children to take time for yourself, to prioritize happiness, prioritize health,
00:47:03
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and do more of what you love. Yeah, ah amazing. And I couldn't agree more. I would love to, before we finish up, to there's one topic I really want to discuss with you. I love the way you merge psychology with spirituality.
00:47:18
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And I've heard you mention it a good bit through through this conversation, ego. And I know that you have a business with your wife and called Soul Space. So I would love to talk a little bit about the ego, the soul,
00:47:30
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the true self, higher consciousness, a little bit, I suppose, of how that's relevant for us to become our best selves. Well, firstly, you don't merge psychology with with spirituality. So, psychology, ology means study of.
00:47:46
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yeah Psyche is the human psyche. What's the human psyche? Soul. Neuroscience concerns themselves with brain synapses and synaptic connections and brain chemistry, blah, blah, blah, blah. blah blah blah That's neuroscience.
00:48:02
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Psychology is the sort of the human soul. So psychology somewhere ways has lost its plot. If a psychologist is more focused on the neurosynaptic connections and neurotransmitters, I think you've kind of forgot what your trend does.
00:48:17
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So, psychology is the study of the soul. We know for a fact that every human being is different. We all have a spirit and energy of soul.
00:48:28
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And when that soul is nourished and we're in a job we love and we're in a ah we're living a life of of adventure and fun, somehow it rippens out. But we also know that if we carry emotions of anger, judgment, if we're working in job that just demeans us, if we're in a relationship that is loveless, that means the soul is now starved.
00:48:57
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And it sends out signals into the mind, the brain, and then the body. The future of medicine is energy medicine. We are biology.
00:49:08
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We are chemistry. But we are energy. And now, finally, science and Western medicine is beginning to realize that if someone lives a life of meaning and if someone feels loved, it changes everything.
00:49:25
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to biology, it tells changes to gene expression. So there is no separation. Psychology is the study of the human soul. And then once the soul begins to be, if you can bring the mind, the body and the soul into a state of coherence.
00:49:42
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I had a podcast with a great doctor, a cardiologist recently, and you know he does great work and has his own opinions on heart health and and how to manage it. Great stuff.
00:49:53
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But he actually made a really interesting comment. He said, but like the heart health alone, well, that's really important, but that's not the big picture. And ultimately, if you had enough measurements and enough chemistry and enough biology and enough money, you could probably extend your life to be 120. But said, what's the point?
00:50:14
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So the question he was asked is, what's the meaning of your life? Are you living a life where your soul is alive? And he said, because in all my years research, what I've realized is that keeping one part of the person healthy does not make any difference.
00:50:32
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It's when you can bring the person into alignment. And now incredible guys like him are beginning to realize as doctors, maybe we've overstudied the body too long.
00:50:47
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Maybe we neglected the impact of emotions and meaning and love and connection. So to work with a human being as a psychologist or a coach or a doctor, we all come at it probably through a different lens and a different training.
00:51:06
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But ultimately, the greatest doctors, the greatest as psychologists, the greatest coach, the greatest fitness coaches, the greatest as nutritionists, look at the whole person. And they don't look at the food they're eating. They're asking why they're eating that food.
00:51:20
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Because the body doesn't crave junk food. Boredom, anger, frustration craves food. Stress. When we're in a stress mode, we crave fast releasing sugars, croissants, biscuits.
00:51:35
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When we're angry, we chew on things, crunchy food. Why is the person eating the way they eat? Why is this person showing up with high blood pressure? What's going on here?
00:51:46
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So we're now at a point where yes, we all look at the human being through a different lens, a different window, or a different level of training, but we understand that the picture we have is only one picture.
00:51:59
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I work with wound management of company. And for years, they, you know, they pride themselves in being the number one healer. So they do everything from the, you know, the needles to stitch, the scalpels, the runes to dressing, the positive, negative pressure, incredible technology and science.
00:52:16
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But what they figured out was that even though you might have two identical people with two identical wounds, who undergo the identical treatment by this exact same surgeon with the identical equipment in the identical environment.
00:52:30
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The healing process is radically different and they couldn't figure this out. So they brought me in once and they put person A, person B. Identical people, identical wounds, identical situations, identical treatments, totally different outcomes.
00:52:45
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And they asked me, is there any reason why that might be different? So I looked at the person who didn't recover and the only question I asked was, Given the life changing severity of their wound, did they believe they could heal?
00:52:59
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Did they want to heal? Had they something to heal for? the people the room said, when everyone asked, we can't neglect the soul. The health of your soul and your spirituality is directly connected to and impacting the health of every other aspect.
00:53:17
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So that wound management company, have now a beautiful new tagline and it says, we heal the whole of the person, not the whole in the person.
00:53:28
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For two years, Western medicine looked at the whole in the person. But when I hear incredible doctors and cardiologists now saying, yes, we have an amazing tool and we're needed, we have incredible medicine.
00:53:42
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And we can, you know, you have lung expert and heart expert and a spleen expert and a kidney expert. And they're all geniuses, experts. But is there anybody sitting back putting the whole picture together?
00:53:55
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Is there anybody looking deep into the eyes of the person and asking the deeper questions about stress, ah about meaning, about love? Is anybody asking the person what's your relationship with yourself like?
00:54:09
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Because if you push yourself too hard, if you have a toxic relationship with yourself, don't tell me that's not going impact every aspect of your health. So to go behind the eyes, the eyes of the wind of the soul, and to see and figure out what's happening in the soul of the person often gives you at least an indication into why something else is happening somewhere else.
00:54:35
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Yeah. And it's really interesting as well. At the minute I'm reading the book, you know, a New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. and I've read it The Power of Now as well, but I just find myself becoming much more the observer, like that thus belief system where we think we are our ego.
00:54:52
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All these beliefs that butve we've built up and, you know, I am a teacher, I am a farmer, I am a mother, I am a whatever, you know, we we always kind of label ourselves and, you know, I am a failure, I am unfit, I'm whatever.
00:55:06
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But they're all the thoughts, they're the ego and Like did this whole concept kind of blew my mind and I was like, okay, well then who am I if I'm not? And that's where meditation comes in and that space. And for me, like meditation could quite often be just a walk by myself down by the sea, but it's creating that space where it's like, you can notice the thoughts.
00:55:24
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You don't have to criticize them, but you notice them, but you're the you that's aware of the thoughts. Like, if it's mad. I mean, I remember, you know, the first time I heard the question, if you are listening to your thoughts, then who's listening?
00:55:38
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So we know that awareness is not in the brain. Your brain is like a TV set. It receives a signal. It makes sense of the signal and transmits the signal.
00:55:50
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But if you pull the Netflix cable out of your TV, the TV goes blank. The brain receives a signal, which is incredible. Your brain responds to your thoughts.
00:56:02
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So there is a thought. There is an energy, a frequency that exists outside of the brain. And that is science. So more we dig into the science is the more we realize that there is something other.
Finding Inner Peace and Conclusion
00:56:17
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It's even like in the body, the body has this incredible ability to bring itself into a state of homeostasis, which is balance. Your blood sugar goes up and most people can rebalance. You get hot, you start to sweat.
00:56:28
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It's constantly rebalancing itself. But the question is, as the body starts to go out of balance in any one of those systems, Who recognizes that it's out of balance?
00:56:40
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Body can't regulate itself. Genes and proteins, which is what we are, you can put it a protein on a table. It can do nothing by itself. And yet we all begin as stem cells.
00:56:52
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We begin as proteins. And then those proteins somehow have the ability to mobilize. Then they can mobilize into brain cells, gene cells, kidney cells.
00:57:03
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And not only can they become those things, but then they know what that thing should do. So they're downloading from a program. Nobody's telling you how to create a brain. Nobody tells the fetus how to put a nervous system together or how build an immune system.
00:57:18
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And the most amazing thing is when you build your immune system in your gut, thousands of years of wisdom has been passed down into that gut. We're downloading from a program. Nobody can answer how those cells, A, start to mobilize, and what's the plan that they're building a body from?
00:57:38
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How do they know that? And if you look at the millions of highly specialized things that have to happen to create a baby in the womb, how does it do it?
00:57:50
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There's no doctor that can tell you that. They can tell you, well, at week 15, this is what's happening. But when our kids were born, we had two different amazing consultants. And I used to say, but how? I don't know.
00:58:01
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I don't know. Yeah. Well, there's a point to which science can bring us. And there's a point to which science can simply not add answer. who we are and where awareness is and where consciousness is.
00:58:16
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Now you're moving into the true reality of what we are. That is the observer self. And I said earlier, too many people are caught up with happiness. so Forget happiness. How about peace? Yeah.
00:58:27
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Peace with what is. Peace with what's happened. We can observe our life, of ourselves and the world and still be peace with We have to make peace what we're about. And peace is the natural state of the observer self.
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So to get out of the thinking brain of the head and move back into the awareness self of the soul, that's the eternal self with no judgment and no comparison. That just wants to be at peace with what is.
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So forget happiness, make peace what we're about. I love that. And it's accessible to us all. like it's It's within us all and we can access it anywhere. And I think then just like to tie things up in order to tap into it. it Like you said there, it's ah it is detaching from the thoughts. And this is where exercise can help or meditation or swimming or cold water or like there's so many different ways to detach from your constant thoughts.
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And then you don't need to try to do anything. You just are. Exactly. Once you realize most of your thoughts are fake, most of the time we spend thinking about things that might never happen.
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Then you begin to realize, why am I buying into them? You know, you hear a noise that says, oh, there's car aside. And for that second, you believe there's a car aside, then you look, there's no car. But why did I believe that thought?
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So we make rash judgments in our head all the time that most of them don't even prove to be false. yeah So just wake up to the fact that not all your thoughts are real.
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They're just fiction. Just because you think something doesn't mean you have to believe it. Exactly. Exactly. yeah So listen, it's been a pleasure of being on with you. Thank you so much, Gerry. I really, really enjoyed this. and If anyone, what obviously, if if there's anyone here who hasn't heard of you or hasn't and checked you out yet, where would be the best place to get you and the books as well? Yeah, my Instagram page. have three books, Awaken the Power Within, The Freedom Within,
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And the new one is I am a can of whale, which always around transforming that inner voice. I have a big event coming up in Cork on the 21st of September. It's a big day called Empowered and it's a full day where you won't just be taught how to think different. I promise you you will feel different.
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It is a day of fun, excitement. It's a whole new event called Empowered. It's in Cork in the Vienna Woods Hotel on the 21st of September. And even if you're a massive skeptic, I would say come.
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And if you don't love it, I'll give you money back. And it's not about me. It's not my work. I know the science. I've known it inside out. I know it works. It has transformed my life. And I've been the one person for years saying, this can't work. This isn't me. When I got out of my own bloody way and I was willing to courageously put myself in front of people and things that terrified me, that was the moment I started to change.
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So even if you're a skeptic, I'll challenge you. Come and experience and go away and tell me you didn't experience what you experienced. So whether you're an advocate of this work or a skeptic,
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The only way to prove yourself right or wrong is to put yourself in the middle of it. And I've heard lots of journalists actually who came as skeptics, picked it to the big events. And the job was to come in and then write an article saying the whole thing pocus.
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And they've all wrote articles. The last one was a great journalist in national media said, I came as an absolute skeptic. Actually, I came angry. And I left...
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knowing that I'm not sure what I believe anymore, but I know what I felt in there. i know I felt different. I know I left different. And now I'm looking at my life in a whole new way.
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And that's what I love because it's easy to be skeptical of this work. But when you know the science behind it and you're willing to actually put yourself and you're willing to dare risk change It's amazing what happens.
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Until you're willing to take that risk, nothing's going to change. So that's my challenge to people. you know It's easy listen to something like this and say, well, it's easy for Gerry. It hasn't been easy for me. It's not easy for Kate.
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We have to turn up every day and do the work. We have the same fears. We have the same doubts. I have young children. I run my own business. I live in the real world. But I know this works.
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So I'm not in la-la land. This is highly scientific. I'm a real person with real challenges in my life. And I know this work really works. so And I think anyone who has read your books will know. They know your story. They know this is you've lived this. And if you haven't, make sure, you like I recommend it to all my clients, with like go read Gerry's books. It is literally going to point you in the right direction to find your own way.
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And that event, are the tickets on sale yet? Things are on sale. You can go to my website, gerryhussey.ie or go on my Instagram page and there's link through there. You can find them. It's called Empowered, 21st of September in Cork.
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It'd be a really great day, I hope. Amazing. I'm going to go. I'm definitely going to go. So anyone listening, I'll be there. Make that your first time to step out and to maybe surround yourself with people that are on a similar wavelength.
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Exactly. And ah like people should know, like your husband, people come to my event and they're skeptical and they've never been to something like this. So you won't be on your own. I promise you.
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It's not like you're coming into a room of people that are all brainwashed or something. You're coming into room of doctors, farmers, mechanics, electricians, yoga teachers, everybody.
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And half them are there because they want to be there and half them there because they're either curious or they've been dragged there. And that's what I love. That's what love. I'll give you a laugh about your event that we went to. So I heard about your event through Rebecca Holland. I'm friends with Rebecca. Oh, very good, Jan.
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So she was like, come to Jerry's event. And I looked at it and I was like, oh no it's Dave's birthday. My husband, Dave, it was on on his birthday. The 6th of April it was. That's when we were there. I was like, oh, I really want to go. i was like, oh you know what? I'll bring him and I'll give it to him as a birthday present.
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The worst present ever, he thought. He had a great day. And I gave him, I bought him lunch afterwards as well. So he was happy out. Yeah. And I think, you know what? Come with an open heart. Come with an open mind. And just present yourself in an open way. And I promise you, whether it's my event or any event, it doesn't matter if it's not my event. It could be different event.
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Open your mind, open your heart, be ready for change and away you go Great stuff. Thank you so much. Thank you so much. That's been so great. Thank you.
01:05:09
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01:05:32
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