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3 Helpful Tips for High Achieving Perfectionist Moms on Thanksgiving
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In this concise and heartfelt Thanksgiving episode, Leanna invites you to pause amid the cooking, coordinating, and family dynamics to check in with yourself and honor what you need today. She shares three grounding reminders to help you stay regulated during a high-pressure holiday: giving yourself permission to take a breather, releasing the expectation of perfection, and remembering that you’re fully capable of handling whatever comes your way. Tune in for a few minutes of encouragement and perspective as you head into a beautifully imperfect Thanksgiving.
You’re Invited! Leanna is offering Seasonal Support Sessions for moms balancing leadership and family during the holidays, who may be craving connection, support, and a moment to breathe. Sign up for one or both sessions today at www.coachleanna.com!
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Introduction to the Podcast
00:00:04
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Welcome to the Executive Coach for Moms podcast, where we support women who are attempting to find balance and joy while simultaneously leading people at work and at home.
00:00:14
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I'm your host, Leanna Lasky-McGrath, former tech exec turned full-time mom, recovering perfectionist and workaholic, and certified executive coach.
Holiday Preparations & Self-Care
00:00:27
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Hi, everyone. Happy Thanksgiving. i am going to make this one short and sweet today because I imagine you have lots to do today, whether you're hosting or going somewhere or maybe you've decided to just boycott the whole thing and you're on a trip somewhere. I'm a little bit jealous, not going to lie, but I know everybody's got things going on today.
00:00:48
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We have both sides of the family coming to our house. We started this I think the second year after we've moved back to Pennsylvania, because the first year we just felt like we were like running all over the place. And then it was a four day weekend and already a couple of the days were gone. And so we said, you know what, we're just going to hosted our house and have both sides of the family and everyone could come together for Thanksgiving.
00:01:13
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And we've done that ever since for the last three or four years and we love it and everyone looks forward to it. So I am going to be cooking two turkeys and a ham and lots and lots of sides and I'm looking forward to it. So I want to share three quick tips with you today and then just two quick things after that. So first off, we're We have been talking all fall about taking care of ourselves. and my guests and I have shared lots of different tips and ideas for keeping yourself regulated so you can show up as the person that you want to be, the mother, the partner, the daughter, the sister. And i think that this amazing.
00:01:56
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So important all the time, but especially on big days like holidays where there's a higher level of pressure, where there are expectations, where there's lots going on, especially if you're spending it with your family of origin And maybe there are, you know, things that people say sometimes that maybe rub on bruises that were made a long time ago.
00:02:20
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And you're having to kind of regulate through that while also navigating your children and their emotions and them being dysregulated or off schedule. And so it's just, it's a lot today. And so I just invite you to check in with yourself, check in with what you need today, and to make sure that you give it to yourself. If you need to step outside for some fresh air, or you need to go upstairs and do a five minute meditation, whatever you need, you are allowed to need that. There's nothing wrong with you for needing something. And I hope that you'll honor your needs.
Embracing Imperfections during Holidays
00:03:00
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The second thing I want to say is just to remember that you are human. Remember that your kids are human, your partner, and everyone you're going to interact with today. And humans are not perfect. Humans make mistakes. They're not always able to be at their absolute best. And I think that obviously we all know this, right? that everyone's a human, that's obvious. But I think sometimes we hold ourselves and others to a really high standard that is beyond what is capable for a human to attain on a consistent basis, like to be that way all the time. And I think that we usually... expect everyone to be that way on this day because it's a special day. And unfortunately, that's just not really how it works.
00:03:49
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And so that kind of goes into my third thing I want to say is to check in on your vision for today. Is it realistic? Because I think sometimes we have these kind of delusions of grandeur, or these perfect visions of how everything's going to go, how everyone's going to act, and that we're going to just create these like perfect holiday memories that we imagine in our heads or that we see on social media.
00:04:17
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or that we have from our own childhood because we have lots of distance between that and now. And, you know, maybe the stars will align and everyone will act perfectly and everything will go perfectly and there will be just these absolutely perfect memories. Maybe.
00:04:33
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But the odds are that that's not what's going to happen today. There's going to be a mess at some point to clean up. There's going to be something that gets overcooked or maybe something that takes way longer to cook and it delays dinner. You're going to have kids complaining about something. You might have your partner say something that irritates you. a family member might make a comment that is off-putting. It's probably going to be some variation or combination of all of those plus lots of other examples, right? So
00:05:05
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And i think that whenever we are expecting perfection, then we feel really disappointed and it just feels kind of awful to feel that way on a holiday. So here's what I want to offer and what I would ask you to practice saying to yourself over and over and over again as it's happening and before. Today will not be perfect.
00:05:27
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And I am capable of handling anything that comes my way. A lot of times I think what happens is we feel that disappointment and then we start getting in our heads and saying like, oh I can't deal with this. You know, and and we just kind of get into that energy. But whenever we tell ourselves that we can't do it, that we are not capable of handling this, it just takes away all of our power to do anything about it, to make it into any more of a positive experience than what it might be. so just remember, it's probably not going to be a perfect day. And you are very, very capable of handling anything that happens today. Okay, you've got this.
Support for Moms in Leadership
00:06:08
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all right, the last few things I want to tell you real quick. First, I just want to let you know about my seasonal support sessions for moms holiday edition. And I want to invite you to join me. I'm offering two free calls the first two Fridays of December to bring together moms from all over who are currently in this season of motherhood, balancing that with leadership while also trying to navigate the holiday season on top of all the other responsibilities that we already have.
00:06:37
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I think sometimes one of the things that just makes it so hard is feeling that we are alone in trying to carry it all and make all the magic for everybody and manage all of the things that are happening this holiday season.
00:06:51
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And so I wanted to provide a space for us to just come together and connect and just spend a little bit of time in community because I always know that whenever I surround myself with other amazing women, that I walk away feeling so much more inspired and motivated and i just feel good. So I really hope you'll join me for one or both of those calls. Like I said, there's no charge and you can sign up over at www.coachliana.com.
00:07:22
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I hope to see you there. And then finally, i just want to say, i am so incredibly grateful for you. i know that may sound like a platitude because, you know, we talk about gratitude on Thanksgiving and what we're thankful for, but I i just want you to know that I am genuinely grateful grateful to everybody who listens to this show.
00:07:44
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Being a podcast host, it can sometimes feel like you're talking into the abyss because there's not really a way for interaction. Like if you're speaking to an audience in person you're If you are going live or posting on social media, it's kind of like you record it, you put it out there and you just hope for the best. So seeing the loyal listeners every single week, listening to the show, looking at the numbers is so fun and hearing from y'all periodically. It's just really fun and helps to keep me motivated to want to continue producing this podcast. So I just want to say thank you. And if you have a chance, maybe not today, maybe on another day that there's a little bit more downtime, I would so appreciate if you could share. an episode that you loved with a friend or family member, or tell somebody about the podcast just to help get the word out so that we can have more people be a part of this community and we can help even more women.
00:08:44
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So again, thank you so much. And I appreciate you. And thank you so much for tuning in today. i am wishing you a wonderful Thanksgiving, even with all its imperfections.
00:08:56
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Take care, everyone.
Executive Mom Reset Program Introduction
00:09:02
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If you're loving what you're learning on this podcast, I'd love to invite you to check out the Executive Mom Reset. It's my six-month coaching program for ambitious, success-driven, career-focused women who are ready to stop surviving and start thriving.
00:09:17
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Together, we'll tackle the stress, guilt, and overwhelm that come with being a high-achieving executive mom. You'll learn how to set boundaries, prioritize what truly matters, and build the confidence to show up powerfully at work, at home, and for yourself.
00:09:32
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Head on over to coachleanna.com right now to schedule a free discovery call. We'll spend an hour talking about where you are now, what you want to create, and how I can help you get there. Because every woman deserves to live the life of her dreams.
00:09:45
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Let's create yours together.