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EP196: Andrew Kap - How To Use The Law Of Attraction To Win
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“All you got to do… as long as the method that you’re doing helps you feel good while you’re thinking about what you have or what you want or both—you’re doing it right.”
For men navigating ambition, heartbreak, and pressure to perform, the Law of Attraction isn’t fluff—it’s fuel. It’s a practical, repeatable framework to manifest results with discipline, not delusion. From emotional regulation to rewiring your mindset through short daily rituals, the real win is in committing to five strategic minutes a day—no airy-fairy gimmicks, just results you can feel in your body and bank account.
Andrew Kap shares methods and actionable practices like the Time-Lapse Technique, Gratitude Blitz, and 10-Minutes-Ago Visualization. He outlines a weeklong manifestation protocol for men with big goals, showing how to use structured mindset reps to attract aligned opportunities, higher income, stronger relationships, and sharper physical health—all while staying grounded in personal responsibility.
Andrew Kap is the bestselling author of The Last Law of Attraction Book You’ll Ever Need To Read. He’s helped thousands of readers stop “trying” and start creating momentum in their lives through simple, consistent manifestation techniques. His work bridges the gap between emotional mastery and practical strategy.
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Transcript
The Power of Genuine Engagement
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If it feels like you're telling yourself a lie or a tevi, that's no good. When they do it, it's gonna be really half-hearted. I'm so rich and successful, they're like, that's going nowhere. When there's variety and they're engaged and they're they're fired up, that to me is where the magic comes, where they're excited enough that they can be automatically consistent. The consistency, the momentum result, and it's a circular thing. First time it happens, you're like, ah, that might not be real.
00:00:24
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Second or third time, maybe, fourth, fifth, sixth time, you're like, okay, I don't even know if this is bullshit or not, but it keeps working, so I'm just gonna keep doing it. You're a man living in the modern world in a time when men and manhood are not what they once were. You live life on your own terms. You're self-sufficient.
00:00:45
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You think for yourself and you march to the beat of your own drum. When life knocks you down, you get back up because in your gut, you know that's what men do. You're a badass and a warrior. And on the days when you forget, we are here to remind you you really are.
00:01:04
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Great. It's a great introduction and it gives me something to live up to. So it's it's my challenge and my honor to live up to the hype on that.
Overcoming Setbacks to Achieve Success
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um The last time, I think when I spoke in the E-Circle group, I kind of said, hey, hey, Baloo, where you want me to begin? You said, well, you know tell us tell us your story.
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So I figured a good way to set the tone is let you know the context of my story and how I see this group differently than most of the people that I would usually serve or usually work with, because there's a very important distinction that I've noticed that I that i definitely want to put a spotlight on for you. but To begin, um this summer will mark 17 years since I had a really bad week.
00:01:49
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And ah to be melodramatic about the whole thing, I lost what felt like was about 90% of my life in a span of like three days. Cause I was in the middle of ah of a relationship that it was, it was on the rocks and I was simultaneously trying to work on my, my first company that was just going nowhere.
00:02:07
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And when I finally quit my company, I ended my company in this last ditch attempt to at least salvage the relationship. Three days later, she broke up with me over text.
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So, No company, no livelihood, no girlfriend, no relationship. And I'm like, okay, this is interesting. Where'd I go wrong here? And I really had to kind of look in the mirror and, you know, under, like I wasted my twenties, nothing's happening the right way. And and I had to take a look back and and I looked back on the prior few years where you know I was always looking for the secret to happiness and the secret to success and and all the things we're told we're supposed to want and we're supposed to need and we're supposed to have.
Consistency: The Key to Success
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And I can see that i explored so many modalities, the law of attraction being one of them. And I had this realization that back then it was it was always very hit and miss. It seemed very promising.
00:03:02
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It seemed very legitimate when it's described to me, but it was also very inconsistent. There was success and there was a lot of failure. And I only realized looking back in that moment that the inconsistent part of the equation was me.
00:03:16
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So I had this simultaneous epiphany and moment of indignation where I'm like, listen, This thing kind of worked when I actually did it and didn't stop doing it. And you know what? I don't care what happens.
00:03:27
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I don't care when it happens. I don't care why it happens. i don't care how it happens. I do not care about any of that. I am going to go all in with this, all in. And when I say all in, i'm I'm very careful about what I mean by that because while am in a group that I would probably describe as radical, intense self-accountability and commitment,
00:03:47
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um Most people aren't that way. And i was I was able to look at myself in the mirror at that point and say, listen, I can't do all day every day. It's not sustainable. I understand my own human nature. I understand that's just another trap. But what I could do is I can go five or 10 minutes every single day doing these manifesting methods that I had learned and in fact, being more strategic about it and tweaking them so that they'd be even working better for me and more enjoyable for me and they would keep me more engaged.
Manifesting Positive Life Changes
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They would better guarantee that I would actually do them because it's no longer this heavy weight that I'm lifting. It's no longer a chore. It's no longer a burden.
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It's something I look forward to. And it was almost like a movie because once I made that decision, the shifts that happened for me were Miraculous is probably the word, like the easiest word to use, even though again, that's another dramatic word.
00:04:36
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Because two weeks after beginning that process, I felt way better than anyone with a broken heart had any business feeling. And within three months, I was in a brand new, way healthier, way more aligned relationship.
00:04:51
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Four months later, I'm making way more money than at any point in my life before then. And six months later, everything is different. I'm waking up happy, I'm waking up fulfilled, I'm in the best shape of my life. I lost 25 pounds without technically trying.
00:05:05
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I mean, i joined a mixed martial arts dojo and and engaged in that, but it wasn't to lose weight, it was just to feel better about myself. The pounds just vanished. And I learned the hard way that whatever this thing is, you can call it the law of attraction, you can call it anything else. This process that i put it I put myself through, it works when you work it as evidenced by me and any anyone that I've ever seen actually follow through and actually commit to it.
00:05:30
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And Baloo was very clear, I think, and um and very right, I would hope, where he says, like, I don't like to look at this as just an airy fairy type of thing. I like to look at this as a practical perspective.
00:05:41
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So maybe you believe in the universe. Maybe you believe in God. Maybe you just believe in the power of your subconscious mind. Maybe you believe in a combination or maybe none of the above. But I can tell you from my experience,
00:05:55
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that engaging in a process of five or 10 minutes, really just five minutes a day, where you are strategically feeling positive emotion while thinking about the things that you have or the things that you want or both, and you're not attached to some outcome and you're not trying to force it and you're not trying to rush it and you're not trying to fit it in a certain box and you're not trying to decide how and when it's actually supposed to happen,
00:06:21
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Things just shift. Sometimes they shift in ways that you were hoping or expecting for. Sometimes they shift in completely radical ways that you never would have imagined. a lot of things will come faster than you might have expected.
00:06:34
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And a lot of things will come better than you were hoping for. And... It sounds so airy-fairy. It sounds so ridiculous. I mean, the good news is I'm i'm here talking to free. And if you want to spend money, my book's like four bucks. So it's not like you've got to sink thousands of dollars into finding out if this is the real deal. You can just go my YouTube channel and be like, all right, let me just watch Andrew for free.
Designing for Self-Commitment
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So the really cool thing is... It doesn't cost you a dime to actually experiment and follow through on this so and and see where it ends up. And like I said, you know, the really interesting distinction, obviously, you know, I'm i'm sitting here and, um you know, I'm watching you guys interact in the beginning and I'm i'm taking things in. and And like I just described to you, I mean, this is a group of radical self-commitment.
00:07:18
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There's a level of intensity here that that that people don't usually see. And I say that because I designed my stuff for the people that are not radically self-committed, for the people that that don't know how to get out of their comfort zone or don't want to.
00:07:32
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And I've kind of structured and designed this thing so that rather than being a burden and and something that you don't want to deal with. It's something that you genuinely look forward to because my mindset is for most people, if you don't have to, if it doesn't have to be a commitment and actually it's, it becomes ah a positive routine and a positive habit that you just enjoy, you are going to have the level of consistency that will create the level of moment and momentum that will lead to the kind of results that you were looking for in the first place. Whereas most people, again, they, they'll misapply things and they'll go in the wrong direction.
00:08:04
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They will get in their own way. And ah if Baloo wants to take us down certain questions and roads from the book, we can do that because ah there's there's certainly a way to articulate that. But most people will get in their own way and they will prevent themselves from doing simple five minutes a day for 30 days just to see what happens, whether it's something really subtle or something really dramatic or somewhere in between.
00:08:24
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so um That's really all I've got just in terms of like an onset. Like I was telling Baloo, sometimes a good way of doing this is just kind of like putting myself up front and say, what are the questions that Baloo has or anyone might have?
00:08:40
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Because to me, the the book's out there already. Like what kind of magic might come If someone throws a complete curveball at me that I'm not expecting and I'm forced to actually rely on my genuine, authentic understanding and paradigm of my world around me and how I apply this.
00:08:55
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So with that said, whether it's Baloo or anyone else, if you had questions, you had comments, if there's anywhere you wanted to direct this conversation, I want to roll out the red carpet for you. Yes, Santanara.
The Gender Gap in Manifesting
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Right off the bat, brother, salute. um'm I'm a student and a practitioner myself for many, many years. Love that you're doing this, love that you're here, you know, bringing this to to us men.
00:09:19
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Thank you. I guess one of my questions I'll throw to to you, Because traditionally, men have more difficulty with this than women. I find women are much better, much easier manifestors than men because they' because there's a big feminine element to it that is releasing, allowing attachment, shit like that.
00:09:38
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what are your What are your best like strategies or ideas for men to get better at receiving naturally, manifesting naturally? Yeah, well, so it's it's interesting to hear you say that. And um before, i guess, to kind of help with the context and and address that, I first said, you know, why are women better, right?
00:09:55
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And in my humble opinion, it's like, well, they're more unstifled when it comes to their emotions because there is an emotional element. And for me, i don't I don't like to put a lot of weight on the emotion because I think sometimes the emotion will come naturally.
00:10:12
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But obviously for women, you know i think anyone on this call right now has been an experience where she went from zero to 100 to 500 back to 80 and it happened in 20 seconds. You're like, what the fuck just happened there? Whereas most men just, they're a lot more stoic, both internally and externally. And it just, it feels like such a ah radical thing.
00:10:32
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So because of that, um some men, they will, they'll go down the road of these methods and they won't feel some weird significant impact. And they're like, well, there's nothing to this. So a lot of times they they might quit too soon to kind of get an impact on it.
00:10:48
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um But, but also, I think also just the the airy fairiness to the way it's usually described, most men will write that off. So that's another thing where it's just like, this is stupid.
00:10:59
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So they won't have the opportunity to engage. I think any man, again, I think anyone here in this room, to just again, there's you have a level of of commitment to yourself and a level of accountability to each each other and yourself where that stuff would become a non-issue. With that said...
00:11:13
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my best advice, and this is going to be like, oh, Andrew's like, you know, um easy answer right here. If you just do it, it'll take care of itself. there's there's like there's no that There's nothing that a man needs to know more than a woman, as long as they're actually willing to take themselves down the road and have the patience with this, that they're not trying to force it. And It could be a really frustrating thing to be like, well, no, I want this thing right now.
00:11:36
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And I've seen so many people, I see all these success stories and I don't even know if they're bullshit. i don't know what's going on. I want this to work. Where me, my strategy of how I do this for myself, it's just like, it's kind of like brushing your teeth. You do it every day.
00:11:48
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And it's not even a thing where you're fighting categori cavities. You just know the cavities don't come because you're brushing your teeth every day. And it's a thing where like, this is just a part of my life now where I commit five minutes to doing some aspect.
00:12:02
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And it's not even a thing where, I mean, I'm, I'm working on goals. I'm inviting better events, but I'm also really just managing my baseline to, so that more good things happen to me than bad things.
00:12:17
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It's just, it's like really just a strategic way of me approaching my life. So I don't know ah if I, if I addressed your question with that, but, but I'm hoping that that kind of got you were where I was looking for there. Yeah, it's cool. You, you distinguished why men have more difficulty and what men can do. And, um,
00:12:35
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I was wondering if there were specific strategies and I know you mentioned, like you spoke language that I understand. So you made it make sense in terms of habits and things, but I don't know if you want to give certain strategies or or tools or if you save that for your book.
00:12:48
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so Well, no, no. um And by the way, just, you know, no pun intended, I'm an open book here. So I have no qualms. I'm like, I'm not, I don't want to like um hog the methods so that you you guys don't get. Like um if that's cool, like to offer you a couple of methods that are from the book. Well, so,
00:13:04
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Baloo will know this one. He knows like this one was my favorite from the book. So here's the
The Time-Lapse Method for Gratitude
00:13:08
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interesting thing. I don't want to put too much weight on this one, but this was one of the ones that 17 years ago, I specifically tweaked in this way because I knew would be more enjoyable for me.
00:13:19
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And it's one of the ones that I obviously used a lot when I was making such that massive shift in my life. I'll tell you then the one that I do every day now, but that's a different one. But the one from the book, It's called the time-lapse method.
00:13:29
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And the process is is pretty simple. All you're gonna do is you're gonna write down 15 things that you are grateful for in your life. Five of them are from your past, five are from your present, and five are things that you want in your future.
00:13:43
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But the catch is you're gonna write all of them in the present tense as if they're happening now. So for example, If I just say, I'm so happy and grateful, well, i' not even happy and grateful, that's the overused language. like I'm just like, I'm so grateful for my awesome apartment.
00:13:57
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All right, is that the one that I was living in? The one I am living in or the one I am going to? Like, you can't tell. So you phrase it in the present tense. But when you've got that list of 15 things, then you're going to jumble up the list. So maybe the first thing is a past and then there's a present.
00:14:10
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There's another present. There's another past. There's a future. It's all jumbled up in any weird order. And what you're going to do is then you're just going to go one at a time. You're going to read in your mind or out loud, depending on your preference, that statement that you're happy for the thing.
00:14:23
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And you're going to give yourself 30 to 60 seconds to just bask in the gratitude of that thing specifically. And what I really love, you could probably tell already, I'm i'm like a strategy guy. What I love about this method in particular is because...
00:14:36
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but You know, we as human beings don't downshift psychologically very easily, especially as men. But two thirds of that list is real because it's the past and the present. Right. Meaning the gratitude that you feel for those things will have a level of authenticity and impact and certainty that just can't be replicated. But since we don't downshift, when you read the future ones, also that level of gratitude and certainty is going to carry over. So not only are you feeling really good for the stuff that you have or have had, but you're so You know, what again, whether you believe in the universe and vibration or you believe in your subconscious mind or a combination, you're kind of greasing the wheels for that future stuff because you're feeling really like a lot more of and of strong, authentic emotion around that also.
00:15:19
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um Another easy one. I'll give you two more. um One is one from the book is is a gratitude blitz. And all you do is you basically set a timer for as long as you want. And you think about as many things as you can that you're grateful for.
00:15:32
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And you could do this around a theme. You could do it around your body. You could do it around a certain relationship. You could do around all the things that are in the room you're in right now. Or you could just do a free for all. So the really cool thing about that is like, let me give you a quick one. Like, you know, me, I'm grateful for ah my heart that's been beating in my chest every second of every minute of every hour of every day of every week of every month of every year of every decade I've been alive tirelessly.
00:15:58
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pumping blood, oxygen, nutrients to all the other parts of my body that serve me. My fingers, my hands, my arms, my feet, my legs, my toes, all my other organs, my my sense of taste, my sense of touch, my eyes that see, my ears that hear, my my ability to speak and communicate, this device that I'm on right now that I run all my life and my business on.
00:16:16
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Like you notice like how easy it is. It's like a muscle that you work. It's very easy to go on and on and on. You do a blitz the first 20 seconds. You're like, yeah, whatever. But you go 90 seconds, 120 seconds, 200 seconds in.
00:16:27
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You're like, holy shit. I didn't realize how much I have in my life right now. Even if I'm having bad days, even if there's something specific that's weighing on my mind, even bless you, even if I'm going through a divorce, even if I'm like whatever it might be.
Daily Gratitude Practices
00:16:42
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And again, it's it's a very powerful thing that like the the cool thing is you're like in the driver's seat. you're You're controlling the tone. You're choosing the things that are actually important to you.
00:16:54
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And therefore, the method is always going to work best for you. To give one last one, and this is from Just Feel Good, where like the one method that I do every single day. And the reason I do it is because, again, I'm all about strategy and convenience. Like this is very easy for me to do. It fits into my day. It's fun. It's convenient.
00:17:11
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um I pull out my phone and I leave a a recorded message of all the things I'm grateful for. and it's kind of like like actually a combination of the time lapse and the gratitude books I just gave you. And I send that message to a friend of mine across the country, and he does the same thing for me.
00:17:25
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Sometimes my message gets there first, which impacts and influences his message to me, sometimes vice versa. But it's this really cool thing and really cool way of just engaging in a process.
00:17:35
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I'm on the run. I could pull up my phone and I can just speak while I'm on the way somewhere. And I feel like a million bucks. So hoping that that's a good little overview, some some fun methods that might be useful for you. yeah Man, his book, The Last Law of Attraction Book You'll Ever Need, honestly, just go to fucking Amazon and order it. It's worth reading. It's a phenomenal book.
00:17:55
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He's got three episodes on on my various podcasts, one on this one and two on the um Thought Leader Revolution. So one one of the things that I'm working on is is upgrading employees because that's that's one of their our...
00:18:14
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our biggest roadblocks in our business right now. I want to get these, you know, I want to get employees that are that are eager to work and do good work. And then it's been a challenge, that's been, I think, one of our biggest challenges over the last 16, 17 years.
00:18:31
Speaker
Yeah, you know, and, you know, I want to be able to put the right people in place. So, you know, I'm not constantly required to be babysitting them on. my So yeah, so i can I can actually spend more time with the family, especially with my my aging parents.
00:18:47
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they need They need more help now than they did before. So that's kind of where I'm at. Well, I'd say this. There's a couple of simultaneous things going on here. So rather than that be a burden, that what we make that an advantage instead. Meaning there's a lot of ah a lot of ah raw material to work with. Because...
00:19:09
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It's not just the employees. It's why though the why behind it, which again, it's spending more time with your parents, truly just time freedom. So, you you've got a lot of room to kind of dip in with with these kind of things in terms of scripting, in terms of visualization, in terms of gratitude methods, because I guess like what I would ask you or what you want to ask yourself when you're making the raw material that you're going to use for these methods is You know, what does that that time freedom look like to you?
00:19:38
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And it could be a milk like, I'm going to fill in some blanks, but you know way better than me and you know the the real part. But like for me, time freedom, it isn't just about like always being there for my parents. It's just the knowledge that if something like went crazy, i wouldn't even have to think about whether I could be around for them.
Visualizing Time Independence
00:19:57
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So it's not even just like, oh, i'm I'm ready on Thursday. It's more like if shit hit the fan on Thursday, i wouldn't have to think or worry. And there's a certain ease in my body knowing that, knowing that I have this this freedom of time, like even like this this call. So If I, me personally, if if I was stuck in a in a job or a situation or a business that i that that I was chained to, it would have been a lot more difficult to have this kind of call to take on time.
00:20:26
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Whereas i my my next committed phone call is tomorrow at 8 p.m. Eastern. So it's like, I mean, this isn't gonna go little late anyway, but it's like, there's no question of like, oh, I gotta get more sleep or I gotta do this thing. Like, no, I've got all this time freedom. So for you, it's like, you wanna dive into what it feels like to to really, you know, have that that freedom of time, but also yeah in terms of the the new employees.
00:20:51
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It's like, i i'm if if I'm you, i would be scripting or or visualizing or speaking about like how cool it is to have employees that,
00:21:02
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that I almost feel like I trust them more than me because they're so much faster. and They're not better. They're not gonna be better than you. if like like there's But they're so much faster doing the thing and and everything is like up to speed. Like they're doing the job. like Like what would it feel like where it's between you and your employees and you're just faster to hand it off to them and there's just a a level of confidence there?
00:21:24
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Just kind of like leaning into that. lean you know Even just what kind of qualities would these people have you know, and and putting that into the time-lapse method. You know, um I'm so grateful to have employees that are hyper-accountable.
00:21:38
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i'm I'm so grateful that that that I have certain employees that that like, I have women that if they were men, I'd be trying to get them in this group or that I have men that I am trying to get in this group. They have that level of hyper-accountability.
00:21:51
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um I'm grateful that, you you know, in in the interviewing process, they were so proactive. they They did all the things i needed them to do before I even asked them to do it. And every time I tested them, they rose to the occasion.
00:22:04
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And on the few times they didn't and I gave them the feedback, they learned. I'm grateful for the types of people that are free to make a small mistake, but will only make it once and will ask, will ask what they did wrong and will get feedback and will get and can receive constructive criticism. Like all these things, you're almost doing like a gratitude, like a gratitude blitz.
00:22:22
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You're talking about all these wonderful qualities and how wonderful it is to have employees that do that. And the reason I have like a flexibility where I'm not talking about like the in the perfect employee, because a perfect employee, at least to me, and maybe it's gonna be different for you, Arpa, but for me,
00:22:37
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It feels too fake and therefore it feels like I'm lying to myself and therefore I don't feel good about it. So I give myself the flexibility and the freedom to have an imperfect employee who's still fucking awesome.
00:22:49
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And most importantly, he's awesome in the ways that matter the most to me and for my vision, for my company and where they won't want to go. I would be grateful for For some, like for people that that are genuinely interested in the the health and direction and longevity of the company, and they have a vested self-interest in it, like they're that engaged with it.
00:23:08
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um Again, i would probably go through visualizations of like just spending, like what it's like spending that time with your parents, how it feels to just breathe and not have to look over your shoulder and wonder what's happening at the office right now.
00:23:21
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And like you could like literally like copy Gervasi's game plan and in terms of the um the method structure, like days one through seven, where like you'll you'll do a you know, the the Tuesdays. i almost forgot like what was Tuesday, but yeah.
00:23:39
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I did forget. But I know like in that thing, you know, there's there's the 10 minutes from now method and there's, you know, there's the scripting and there's all these like, literally like you can kind of take that template and fit in what you want.
00:23:51
Speaker
And again, like with the advanced reasons into reality, really dive into the reasons that you want it. Because when you're talking about the reasons, it just feels good. And it there's a there's a level of clarity there that that it resonates with you.
00:24:02
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And then again, the ways by which it could happen. And the ways by which it could happen is again, like you might stumble onto one key resource on Facebook who's like ah who's like a hiring mastermind that they they know how to find these right people and you hire all your people from them.
00:24:19
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Or just some some other networking coincidence or or kind of thing where it just comes out of the blue like, okay, what's this like? There's so many possibilities, but don't list the ways it has to happen. List the ways it it can happen.
Enjoyable Weight Loss Journeys
00:24:31
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It can. Okay, that makes sense. Um, right now I'm on a path in the next six months to lose 53 pounds. Um, and I'd like to make, I'm going to make big headway and in the next 90 days.
00:24:45
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And I'd like some help with that. Awesome. So, um, going back to the advanced reasons into reality and the ways by which it could happen, obvious ways that you could write down.
00:24:56
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um cause the key of this, in my opinion, Dickie and Obviously, if it this doesn't resonate with you, disregard it. yeah I would hope that is this weight loss journey is enjoyable, that it's not a grind, that it doesn't feel like an uphill battle the whole time.
00:25:12
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So if if I'm you and I'm doing these reasons to reality, I would talk about discovering not even diets, but but meal plans and foods that are in harmony with this with this thing that you just love.
00:25:27
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Whether like, you know, like, not that I would tell anyone to ever follow a plan, but like I did carnivore for like a month and I lost 18 pounds effortlessly. Like, and I wasn't even working out. I wasn't doing anything. It was just like,
00:25:39
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That could happen. So you might want to say like one of the reasons reality is like discovering food or a meal plan that just like that kind of lays in there or or discovering a new aspect. ah i mean, I could be over judging. looks like you work out even just like from this angle, discovering um a workout plan, like a new routine that that your body just responds to. Yeah.
00:26:02
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Meeting someone at the gym that's an incredible accountability partner that takes you to the next level. Meeting someone that's a dieting expert, a nutritional expert. Like there's all these possible reasons that you could put there. Obviously, in terms of the reasons why you want it, you'll have that for yourself. But that's a wonderful way. um In terms of replacing the the Tuesday method.
00:26:20
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um Okay. ah um but this This is great. Because I wanted to introduce this method you guys anyway. So there's a method um I call from the book. It's called Protecting the Prize.
00:26:32
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And it was um it was inspired by, was it Rose Namajunas? I remember there was a certain UFC fighter where um she ended up becoming champion.
00:26:45
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Maybe it wasn't her, but she ended up becoming champion. and they they were talking to her about like her her plan, like like her physical game plan, her mental game plan, and one of the things her coach put her through, it wasn't just the visualization of winning the title, they walked her through the visualization of defending the title.
00:27:05
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because that's a completely different mindset. It's one thing to want to visualize like winning and holding up the belt for the first time. It's a complete different frame of mind when you already have the title and you have to defend it because it's much more rooted in being the actual champion.
Maintaining Success Post-Goals
00:27:21
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So what you might want to do for protecting the prize for this kind of like ah translating it for your thing is after you've reached the 50 pounds, what you're gonna do with your life, with your schedule, with your food, with your workout, like whatever it is, in order to maintain this in a way that like, it's not always, a you're not always like teetering on the edge where you can lose your momentum.
00:27:43
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Like, you're gonna like come from a place of like, choosing to do things in a certain way that it's like, no, I am protecting the prize. I'm now the lost 50 pounds champion, so to speak. What am I getting, like, how am I engaging with life, with my day, with my schedule, with my food, with my sleep, with the weights, with everything so that not only do I not go to overweight, but I i keep this frame and maybe even get better from there. Maybe if I gain weight, it's muscle, not a fat, therefore it's okay. like Whatever might be.
00:28:11
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Protecting the prize, I think is a good sub in for that letter. That too, okay. Cool. That's awesome, actually. That's ah that's really cool. Protecting the properties.
00:28:22
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Okay. If everyone's observing, like anyone that hasn't like volunteered or want to work on something, notice all I'm really doing here is finding what I hope is an engaging and enjoyable way of bringing this in to your psychology and into your mindset, which will then translate into your paradigm, which will translate into the way you function, the way you approach the world.
00:28:44
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um none um I imagine none of this is is new for anyone here. Everyone here seems fairly advanced to the point where like, yeah, this makes perfect sense. I understand why Andrew's saying this. I get this. I can see how the sausage is being made. i totally get it.
00:28:59
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And it doesn't ruin it for me because it makes
Variety in Affirmations
00:29:01
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perfect sense. Can I ask a very pointed question, please? Yes, sir. I'm a Tony Robbins person. And one of the things I've learned from him is doing affirmations and listening tonight.
00:29:12
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but what Tony will talk about is affirmations, again, in the present tense, but I'm just saying the same ones. And one of the things I've heard from you tonight is a variety. Is that a key thing that you believe?
00:29:24
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So yes and no. And but but so here's what, for me, here's the interesting thing. I have a huge like ego about my book and that I think like it's, it really is the last law attraction book you'll ever need to read.
00:29:38
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um and I feel like I pretty much cover everything. Yet the one question I usually get from people is they're worried that they're not doing it right. Right. And so my answer to them is, okay, because they give me like, I did it this way, Andrew, did I screw up?
00:29:52
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I say, listen, all you got to do, and and ah Cooper, you'll see where it will come full circle to answer your question. I tell him, listen, as long as the method that you're doing helps you feel good while you're thinking about what you have or what you want or both, you're doing it right.
00:30:08
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So my answer regarding the affirmations is if they feel good, then you're doing it right. If it feels like you're telling yourself a lie or a tevi, that's no good.
00:30:19
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if one If the same affirmation is boring to you, that's no good. If the same affirmation is not boring to you, great. Like me, I can recognize the value and impact of affirmations, and yet personally, they don't work for me, therefore, I don't really push them really hard.
00:30:35
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Because for me, it always felt like I was lying myself. But that's just me. And that's the really important thing. Any method works if it works for the person. And that's actually one of the reasons why I put it like, I have like 19 or 20 methods in the book because I recognize not all of them are going to be for everyone. The whole point is I want enough variety in there and and I want to be engaging enough that people look forward to it. That's another thing with the affirmations. Like if that one affirmation, Cooper, if it just feels wonderful,
00:31:03
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yeah Again, I'm used to with people that don't have the intense level of accountability that you guys do. So I'm thinking about like, if that person is not in love with that affirmation, they're not gonna do it. Or when they do it, it's gonna be really half-hearted.
00:31:14
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And it's like they're wasting time then. Like, I'm so rich and successful. they're like, that's going nowhere. Whereas when there's variety and they're engaged and they're fired up, not that they have to be like super like on cloud nine, but they're just engaged enough.
00:31:27
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That to me is where the magic comes. Like, I'm always looking for that sweet spot. I'm always looking to get to the person where they're excited enough that they can therefore be automatically consistent because that automatic consistency will have the effortless momentum and the effortless momentum will bring to the result, which will bring even more enthusiasm, which brings you back to the consistency, to the momentum, to the result, to the enthusiasm, to the consistency, the momentum result. And it's a circular thing we it's just getting bigger and bigger and better and better.
00:31:58
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And the really cool thing is it's a self-affirming thing because two, like the first time it happens, you're like, ah that might not be
Consistency in Affirmations
00:32:04
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real. Second or third time, maybe. Fourth, fifth, sixth time, you're like, okay, I don't even know if this is bullshit or not, but it keeps working, so I'm just going to keep doing it. And that's my my perspective.
00:32:15
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I have massive respect for Tony Robbins. I don't agree with everything he says, but only in the sense that if it doesn't work for me. I fully acknowledge that everything he says, it's going to work for somebody out there.
00:32:26
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Andrew, thank you so much for coming. You did a phenomenal job. Thank you for listening to the Sovereign Man podcast. If you're ready to take charge of your life and become the man you've always wanted to be, we invite you to join the movement at sovereignman.ca.