“Kill the soulmate and save your relationship.” 

Pleasure isn’t something men need to chase—it’s built into who we are. Yet life, routines, and responsibilities can bury it under layers of stress and obligation. The episode unpacks why novelty fades in long-term love, why sex slows down even in happy marriages, and how men can reclaim desire by making intentional effort, bringing polarity back, and refusing to settle for “nipple, nipple, crotch, goodnight” routines. 

Dr. Cheryl Fraser cuts through the myths with refreshing honesty. She shows how spontaneity isn’t enough—you need to cultivate responsive desire, plan for seduction, and sometimes even bring back taboo play to keep things alive. She reminds men that attraction can’t be negotiated, but how you show up either fuels desire or kills it. Sovereignty in sex, like in life, comes down to stepping up, leading, and refusing to be lazy in love. 

Cheryl is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist, and author who has spent decades helping couples reignite passion. She’s the creator of the “Passion Triangle,” a framework that blends intimacy, thrill, and sensuality, and the founder of a 12-week couples immersion program. Cheryl is also the host of the Sex, Love & Elephants podcast, where she explores the connection between erotic love and spiritual awakening. 

Cheryl is a Buddhist psychologist, sex therapist, author, and speaker who helps couples reignite passion and build love that lasts. Known for her humor, straight talk, and practical wisdom, Cheryl blends cutting-edge sex therapy with Buddhist mind training to cut through resistance and bring couples back to intimacy. 

A Fulbright scholar and acclaimed researcher on love and sexual behavior, she created the Become Passion program, hosts the Sex, Love & Elephants podcast, and wrote Buddha’s Bedroom – The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy. She’s also been featured by Tony Robbins, Jack Canfield, and Dr. Laura Berman. 

When she’s not teaching or speaking, Cheryl is often leading meditation retreats or living on Vancouver Island with her partner and their animals, practicing the passion she preaches. 

www.drcherylfraser.com 

You’re invited to come to a Sovereign Circle meeting to experience it for yourself. To learn more, go to https://www.sovereignman.ca/. While you’re there, check out the Battle Ready program and check out the store for Sovereign Man t-shirts, hats, and books.

EP214: Dr. Cheryl Fraser - Pleasure Is Your Birthright

“World power is infinitely better than willpower.” 

At the heart of every business breakthrough is the ability to turn hidden potential into repeatable skills. Freedom, friendship, and purpose aren’t things you stumble upon; they’re capabilities you can practice until they become second nature. When fundamentals like belonging, influence, and co-creation are mastered, advanced business skills—marketing, sales, partnerships, leadership—become natural extensions rather than uphill battles. 

Dave Buck shares how persistence turned him from eager student to the right-hand man of Thomas Leonard, the father of professional life coaching. He unpacks the origins of the industry, the lessons of human connection, and the coaching methods that evolved from trial, error, and challenge. His journey proves that sometimes you don’t just choose a dream—the dream chooses you. 

Buck is CEO of CoachVille and a pioneer who has spent 30 years shaping the profession of life coaching. As a mentee and daily collaborator of Thomas Leonard, he helped codify modern coaching methods and today leads programs like Get Your Power Back, designed to restore human connection as the foundation for business and leadership transformation. 

Expert action steps: 

 1. Shift from being task-oriented to mastery-oriented: focus on skills, not just tasks. 

 1. Treat fear as a teacher, not an enemy: decode what it’s trying to keep you safe from. 

 1. Leverage world power over willpower: design environments where growth becomes natural. 

Learn more & connect: 

EP712: Dave Buck - How My Mentor Invented The Coaching Industry

"I went on other people’s podcasts, ‘cause I was pretty much starting over… jumping on other people’s podcasts is really what built my career back in 2020.” 

Building meaningful business connections doesn’t require massive ad spend—it requires conversations that count. Podcast guesting is one of the most powerful ways to position yourself as a trusted authority, grow your audience, and attract clients without relying on paid marketing. By focusing on value, authenticity, and storytelling, you can transform a guest appearance into long-term opportunities. 

That’s why the Podcast Guesting Masterclass is designed to show you exactly how to succeed. You’ll learn how to land guest spots on the right shows, what to say to captivate listeners and build instant trust, and how to turn podcast interviews into paying clients. Scheduled for September 22, 2025, at 7:00 PM EST, this free virtual event gives you the tools to elevate your brand and business through podcasting. Spots are limited—reserve your seat now to secure your advantage. 

Alfonso Cuadra is a serial entrepreneur, creator of Wealth Genius AI, [https://www.wealthgenius.ai/] real estate investor, international speaker, and author who built his empire from humble beginnings. Known as “the godfather” of podcast guesting, he now teaches others how to harness this strategy to scale to six or even eight figures. 

🎙 Want More Clients Without Paid Ads? 

Podcast guesting is the fastest way to build authority, grow your audience, and attract clients—without the high cost of marketing. 

Join us for the Podcast Guesting Masterclass and discover: 

✅ How to land guest spots on the right shows 

✅ What to say to captivate listeners & build instant trust 

✅ How to turn podcast interviews into paying clients 

📅 Date: September 22, 2025 

🕙 Time: 7:00 PM EST 

💻 Free Virtual Event 

EP711: TL Nuggets #211 - Alfonso Cuadra - Podcast Guesting Is The Best Way To Build Relationships & Generate Leads & Sales!

"Transformation is realizing you have all the answers.” 

Brian Slade is back again. This time, to speak to some men in the Sovereign circle. In the chaos of combat, presence of mind is the difference between survival and disaster. Split-second choices can carry the weight of life or death—not just for yourself but for the men beside you. The lesson isn’t about being fearless, it’s about cutting the mental “cables” that drag you into guilt, regret, or fear of the future, and finding the discipline to act in the only place that’s real: the present. 

Brian shares the story of his first firefight, the near-fatal mission where his co-pilot was shot, and the long years of carrying invisible weight until a simple Facebook post released it. His words drive home the truth that growth can emerge from trauma when you choose to frame experience as a foundation rather than a burden. 

Brian Slade is a retired Army Apache pilot, Air Force combat search and rescue pilot, and author of Cleared Hot, [https://a.co/d/2P21b5C] a book about preparing your mind for trauma. 

Learn more & connect:  

Cleared Hot: Lessons Learned about Life, Love, and Leadership While Flying the Apache Gunship in Afghanistan and Why I Believe a Prepared Mind Can Help Minimize PTSD on Amazon: https://a.co/d/2P21b5C 

You’re invited to come to a Sovereign Circle meeting to experience it for yourself. To learn more, go to https://www.sovereignman.ca/. While you’re there, check out the Battle Ready program and check out the store for Sovereign Man t-shirts, hats, and books. 

EP213: Brian Slade - No Man Left Behind

“I just want to play all out and quit letting my fears hold me back. And one of the tenants that we have… is the only way out is through.” 

True transformation begins when you realize that nothing outside of you needs fixing—you already have everything you need within. The journey to wholeness is not about becoming someone else but about recognizing your own completeness and living boldly from that truth. 

Nicole Slade shares her powerful story of resilience, from a difficult upbringing and personal struggles to discovering the profound shift that comes from radical self-responsibility. Through her experience with transformational training, she learned the essential truth: you are enough exactly as you are. By embracing self-love and facing fears, she rebuilt her relationships, elevated her business, and created spaces where high-net-worth and high-heart-worth individuals connect with authenticity. 

Nicole is the founder of AIM Elevated and co-founder of the nonprofit Trauma to Triumph. She hosts deeply intentional gatherings where leaders, investors, and change-makers unite to connect from the heart, build trust quickly, and collaborate on life-changing projects. 

Expert action steps: 

1. Treat every interaction as if it might be the last—leave people better than you found them. 

2. Never take rejection or criticism personally; it reflects others, not you. 

3. Lead with kindness in all situations, no matter the context. 

Learn more & connect: 

A.I.M. ELEVATED aim-elevated.com [http://aim-elevated.com/] 

Journey To Nobody Training: https://thejourneytonobody.com/ 

Also in this episode: 

 * Stephen Covey's book: The SPEED of Trust: The One Thing That Changes Everything [https://a.co/d/f3EWvLG]

EP710: Nicole Slade - You Are Whole & Complete Just The Way You Are

“Gratitude is something that you can create for yourself in an instant.” 

Gratitude is more than a feeling—it’s a driver of growth. When energy is focused on positivity, belief, and excitement, new opportunities and stronger results naturally follow. Vibing high is not about luck but about choosing a mindset that attracts success. 

Gratitude isn't necessarily a complex practice. It can come simply from noticing a sunrise, appreciating a smile, or even enjoying a fresh haircut. Small, everyday moments create momentum and open the door to bigger wins. By focusing on what is good, more good will arrive.

The challenge is simple: ask what you are grateful for today. One clear thought of gratitude is enough to shift your vibration and spark a cycle of attraction. Staying in that state builds confidence, energy, and momentum for business, relationships, and life. 

Visit https://www.eCircleAcademy.com [https://www.ecircleacademy.com/] and book a success call with Nicky to take your practice to the next level. 

EP709: TL Nuggets #210 - Vibe High

“Find strong men to hang out with who you can feed off of and who will challenge you and encourage you in the best possible way.” 

Strength is more than muscle—it’s discipline, clarity, and the refusal to settle into weakness. When men trade ambition for excuses, or numb themselves with comfort and distraction, they lose the ability to protect, to provide, and to lead. Softness might feel easier in the moment, but it leaves men exposed. 

Jake Giffin lays it out: identity shapes destiny. Men who see themselves only as sinners or victims stay stuck in cycles of anger, fear, and insecurity. But when they root their lives in strength and conviction, they become the men their families and communities can trust. He shares how proximity—both to God and to other strong men—defines the path forward. 

Jake Giffin is a men’s coach and business leader who blends biblical wisdom with practical psychology. His mission is to call men out of weakness, push them toward strength, and remind them that soft men are always targets. 

Learn more & connect:  

https://www.jakegiffin.com/ 

Also in this episode: 

• Galatians, chapter 5 (Bible) 

• John Calvin, Institutes of the Christian Religion [https://ccel.org/ccel/calvin/institutes.toc.html] 

• Jeff Hopf’s poem: Strong Men Create Good Times, Good Times Create Weak Men, Weak Men Create Hard Times 

You’re invited to come to a Sovereign Circle meeting to experience it for yourself. To learn more, go to https://www.sovereignman.ca/. While you’re there, check out the Battle Ready program and check out the store for Sovereign Man t-shirts, hats, and books.

EP212: Jake Giffin - Soft Men Are Targets

“Start scared. Start before you’re ready.” 

Lasting success rarely comes from waiting until the stars align—it comes from starting before you’re ready, staying consistent, and having the courage to take messy action. The principles that create real progress aren’t flashy; they’re rooted in clarity about what matters most and the discipline to align daily life with those values. 

In this conversation, Lan Phan opens up about her journey of transformation—shifting from chasing titles to living with purpose. She highlights the power of small daily choices, the mindset required to build resilience, and the importance of asking for opportunities instead of waiting for them. Her perspective shows that fulfillment isn’t found in status but in designing a life that reflects your true priorities. 

Lan Phan is the founder of Community of Seven, a global leadership strategist, keynote speaker, and author of Do This Daily. She equips leaders and entrepreneurs to align values, mindset, and habits so they can build businesses—and lives—that thrive. 

Expert action steps: 

1. Start before you feel ready—accept early imperfection as the price of progress.  ￼ 

2. Turn identity into action—set daily systems and keep them relentlessly.  ￼ 

3. Bet on yourself—trust your ability to figure things out when the branch shakes.   

Learn more & connect: 

https://www.communityofseven.com/ 

Lan’s book, Do This Daily: Secrets to Finding Success, Happiness, and Purpose in Work and Life is available on Amazon [https://a.co/d/bVkidy4] and at Barnes & Noble [https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/do-this-daily-lan-phan/1144569509]. 

Also in this episode: 

• The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey 

• The Top Five Regrets of the Dying by Bronnie Ware (Lan referred to it as The Last Wishes of the Dying)  

• Ask! by Mark Victor Hansen (co-creator of Chicken Soup for the Soul) and his wife  

• Grit by Angela Duckworth 

EP708: Lan Phan - Be Brave Enough To Suck At Something New

“The more grateful you are, the more gratitude you express in the world, the more gratitude the world will express to you.” 

Gratitude isn’t just a nice idea—it’s a multiplier for relationships, energy, and business success. The simple act of expressing thanks creates a ripple effect that builds trust, deepens bonds, and opens doors. When you make gratitude a daily practice, you’re not just acknowledging others—you’re generating powerful momentum in your own life. 

In this Nugget, is the impact of a simple daily discipline: sending five gratitude notes for 30 days. Just 150 notes can completely transform the way opportunities, connections, and abundance flow into your life. This challenge isn’t about technique or strategy—it’s about heart. When you commit to gratitude, you feel lighter, more inspired, and more connected. And when that happens, business, relationships, and life all expand in extraordinary ways. 

Visit https://www.eCircleAcademy.com [https://www.ecircleacademy.com/] and book a success call with Nicky to take your practice to the next level. 

EP707: TL Nuggets #209 - 30 Day Gratitude Note Challenge

“Sometimes you’re chosen, you don’t choose.” 

War has a way of stripping life down to raw essentials: courage, instinct, and the will to keep moving when everything says quit. This story captures what it means to face disaster head-on—losing an engine, losing flight controls, even watching a brother bleed out beside you—and still finding a way to fight for life. It’s a lesson in focus: chaos screams in your ear, but survival demands calm action. 

In this episode, we hear firsthand how one split-second decision meant the difference between life and death and the details put you right in the cockpit of a falling Apache. 

Brian Slade is a decorated Apache pilot, Air Force and Army veteran, and author of Cleared Hot. His story of survival and post-traumatic growth turns battlefield chaos into lessons every man can live by. 

Learn more & connect:  

Book: Cleared Hot: Lessons Learned About Life, Love, and Leadership While Flying the Apache Gunship in Afghanistan and Why I Believe a Prepared Mind Can Help Minimize PTSD [https://a.co/d/aC46EWQ]  

In combat, before a pilot can release weapons, they need authorization from a ground controller or mission lead. When the controller says “cleared hot,” it’s the official go-ahead to engage the target with live fire. 

https://a.co/d/aC46EWQ 

You’re invited to come to a Sovereign Circle meeting to experience it for yourself. To learn more, go to https://www.sovereignman.ca/. While you’re there, check out the Battle Ready program and check out the store for Sovereign Man t-shirts, hats, and books. 

EP211: Brian Slade - The Apache Falling Story

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“A real man is sovereign over his own life. He takes full responsibility for becoming a better man, and owns his own successes and failures. But he also understands the value of being a part of a band of brothers, the kind that have his back, and he can call at 3 AM if he’s stuck in a jail cell, because they’ll come and get him. He understands that just like a wolf pack, the strength of the pack is the wolf, and the strength of the wolf is the pack.” — Nicky Billou Welcome to the Sovereign Man Podcast where we have the conversations that matter to you as a man, and inspire you to become the best version of yourself. You’ll learn from the best business, career, financial, relationship, and mans skills experts from around the world. The Sovereign Man Podcast is for motivated men like you who want to win in today’s world. We equip you to become better in every area of your life from establishing mastery over yourself, to defining your purpose, strengthening your family and your relationships, becoming a better leader, and learning man skills. Each week I have real, unscripted conversations with real men, successful men, and men who give a darn.

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