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Speaker: So let's go to a place where the distractions are landmarks and the detours are on the main roads. Welcome to ADHDville. Oh, yes,
Speaker: Final sip of coffee before I start talking.
Speaker: It's a pretty good coffee this morning, if I do say so myself. Cheers. I have a little ghost autumn mug. Yeah, a little spooky mug with little ghosts on it. It just makes me so freaking happy, i can't even tell you.
Speaker: and ah You know what, autumn is is the fall. It is the best. best right yeah the temperature cools down it's not so hot and all the seasonal fun craziness love it there's something in the air is there's like a it smells fresh and crunching on the leaves when you walk and the yummy pumpkin apple stuff oh it's so good yeah you know what i just it yeah yeah anyway we were gonna talk all about that we will do a full epi episode pretty soon i am i am sure um we can get into all all of that uh so yeah hello my name is martin co-mare of adhdville and i was diagnosed with uh
Speaker: The combined ADHD poo-poo plateau in 2013. And my peck rock, Ralph, suspects I'm also all autistic. And I'm jo joined by my other co-mare.
Speaker: Oh, what a pleasure. Do I wave to the our constituents? Yeah, in and and a sort of mayorly... A mayoral way My name is Aliazzo. I am slightly neurodivergent, highly neurotic, highly sensitive, have a ton sensory issues. My pet rock, Sandra, is also very excited about the fall, like a basic bee, and I'm here for ah
Speaker: I have a basic B somewhere down. Anyway. Yeah. On on the floor. Oh, brilliant. All right. Well, let's just crack on. Let's just go in into. Right. Amy.
Speaker: Do you feel like you look like an Amy? I cannot tell you how many thoughts I have about this. i i I would love to hear one.
Speaker: So I don't like my first name. I feel like it's boring. It's three letters. And ah when Sean and I get married, his last name is Harris. So I will have the world's most boring name if I take his last name, Amy Harris. I just it's nothing against his name. i love his name. It makes me wish like I had a more interesting first name. So it could be like something beautiful.
Speaker: Harris, like right now, my first name is plain, but I have a good last name. Yeah, Ali Azo. So this is like a big thing that I've been thinking about. um As for whether or not I look like my name, I don't know. But I i don't love my first name.
Speaker: And I don't like that I don't like my first name. Like, I feel like it affects the confidence a little bit. Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, i there is, i i ah did a very successful TikTok about people's, why you don't like your first name. What? Why? And I kind of feel like i need to pull that up as an entire episode for this before you. please i need help. I really don't like it. I don't hate it. I just feel like it is so freaking boring. it's boring. Right.
Speaker: And i I don't like... and don't like it. Do you like yours? You know, see, the reason why i this came up in my brain was because my name is Martin, and in the UK, where I was born, and a British Martin has a kind of a vibe. What's the vibe? The vibe is, I think, is kind of like...
Speaker: slightly weird um
Speaker: white guy. A weird white guy. you know So there's an actor called Martin Clunes and he plays an or autistic doctor on a TV show. So like he always kind of comes up okay as a sort of a Martin character. Right. But the interesting thing is when I moved to the States, the perceptions about about what I looked like as a Martin changed.
Speaker: Oh, interesting. Because... In the States, you've got Martin Luther King, right? Of course. So Martin becomes much more prevalent in the black community than it did in the UK.
Speaker: Right, right. so So if you look at my name just written on a piece of paper and you think, what do I look like? It could be different yeah to how I used to come across so You think that you you mean to other people who don't know you but just meet you and learn your name is Martin? Yes.
Speaker: Fascinating. It is. And that was like really interesting to me about people's perceptions of what I looked like based on my name changed from one country to the to the next.
Speaker: do you feel like you Do you feel like you look like a Martin, whatever your definition is? In Britain, yes, do. Oh, but here, here Right, right. i don't for But there is Martin Crane from Frasier, the TV show.
Speaker: who Who plays Martin Crane? i know there's Frasier. Yes, so there's Frasier and then his dad is called... oh Martin, and he's more like a blue collar. He's like an ex-cop, right?
Speaker: And he's called Martin. So I kind of feel like there is, you know, like he you know he he's in the mix as well as yeah as a Martin character. So, yeah, it's a really in interesting. So just to kind of get into the science-y bit of it.
Speaker: briefly right so there was this experiment in like 2017 where where people were shown photographs of complete strangers and they had to kind of ah decide what their first name was based on like four or five possible possibilities right so here's here's a very short list of names here's a bunch of strangers can you kind of like guess which name goes with which face and then just randomly guessing they kind of got about 20 25 right so that was the kind of like so we're not so that's not great right but apparently with the name gary we are way more likely to spot a gary from a photograph
Speaker: I totally get that. Don't you? Gary's a vibe. Yes. I don't know what kind of vibe. No. ah Right. ah Yes. In my head, a yeah a Gary is sort of slightly, it's like this normal guy who wants to be edgy or is edgy.
Speaker: Right. Just slightly on the edge of a normal person. Yeah, not quite. There's some sort of air about a Gary.
Speaker: Right. it's not avi It's not like the coolest name. Right. That's okay. I don't like my name either, Gary. So we're good.
Speaker: Right. But yeah, i there are some names that are a real vibe. When I found out your name was Martin, I didn't think anything of it. Yeah, that's... that's ah Yeah, I mean, that's interesting.
Speaker: why did you Do you know why your parents named you Martin? See, this is, I have to go back to when I was born. Yeah. Because I asked my mom, why am I called Martin? Because I, again, I don't like my first name, right? oh you don't. Okay. Right. That sucks. It sucks. I think ah a lot of neurodivergent people don't like their first names, right? Wait a minute. Why? Why do you think that?
Speaker: we'll we'll we'll We'll do a podcast episode about it, right? Okay. I'm fascinated. I have facts. Oh, ah okay. or And so slash theories. Okay. Got it. um Got it. Okay. So, we're yeah, i i I asked my mom, why am I called one? She said, I don't know. i thought, oh, well, that's really, really, really, really not helpful. Yeah, yeah. Thanks for that. So I had to dig into what was going on at the time. And the Beatles were like number one okay when I was born.
Speaker: okay right And my middle name is Paul. okay And again, i went, why is my middle name Paul? yeah And she went, I don't know.
Speaker: I'm like, what the fuck? It's so frustrating. Right. So I think, okay, Paul, right. Well, Paul mc mc McCartney, he's in the Beatles. The Beatles is number one.
Speaker: I think my middle name just kind of comes from that right fact. And I think Martin might come from George Martin, who was the per producer of the Beatles. I don't know.
Speaker: Like, my name could be completely Beatle related. but Do you like the Beatles, by the way? Yes. Yeah, of course. So this is really funny because I had something similar where I asked my parents and I got nowhere. And I don't understand, like like, what's so difficult about this question? So my mother had a best friend named Amy who she passed away when I was like seven. And I kind of assumed I was named after her, even though when I was born, she was still alive.
Speaker: And I have asked my mom no less than eight times, like, am I named after her? I don't know why I keep asking. I think I expect that she'll eventually just say, yes, you're named after her. But she she gives me like the most unsatisfying answer. She'll go, eh, I don't know.
Speaker: And then I'm like, what do you mean you don't know? She's your best friend. So like, did you name me after ah I don't know. When you like someone, you like their name. And I'm like, okay, so am I named after her?
Speaker: I don't know. And then finally one day i said, when I was born and and and you introduced me to her, did you hand me to her like in her arms and say, meet Amy? And then she cried?
Speaker: yes Give me some clues. Yeah, like tell me. And my mom goes, no, not really. oh come on. And I'm like, the fuck? Like, I'm just going to. So then her children, I remember one time I said to them, am am I named after your mom?
Speaker: And they were like, yeah. i don't I think they just assume also. I don't know what the story is. I don't know why my mom won't tell me. But I guess I'm just going to assume. But I don't understand these parents. Don't they know? Obviously we want like some sort of meaningful answer. Mm-hmm.
Speaker: So it's like, just give it to us. Right. Yeah. True. Yeah. All right. Well, you know, like, I think, you know, like, there is definitely like, I feel like ah a stereotype around some names like, you like Gary or Bob, right? There's,
Speaker: or or Michelle, right? I think i think that there's just a sort of a thing that kind of comes up. And there's an interesting experiment called the Boba Kiki effect.
Speaker: Okay. Boba Kiki, right? So basically ah people were kind of given um ah these two shapes. One was called, one was soft and round. Okay.
Speaker: And the other shape was spiky. Okay. and they And they had to guess which shape was called Boba and which shape was called Kiki. Can I tell you what I think? Tell me.
Speaker: Kiki is the sharp one. Yes. Of course. Why did I feel that? Kiki seems like a sharp word and Boba seems round with the O's, I guess. Exactly, because, like, Boba feels yeah round. Right.
Speaker: And soft. And Kiki feels spiky. ki Yeah. Kiki, yeah, yeah. Right, so, like... Oh, that's so interesting. Right, because it zif feels like our brains are kind of, like, trying to match things up, like, yeah sounds and shapes and faces, and they they they're kind of, like... So they're kind of, like... It feels like we...
Speaker: we associate some names like Bob, for example, feels like a round right name. So I would expect a Bob to have like a sort but of a roundish face yeah yeah and to be soft.
Speaker: Right. and someone called Kiki to be a bit little bit more like punky. you know Yeah, like a little bit more edgy. Yeah. This is funny because my father goes by his middle name.
Speaker: I don't know why, because I don't even have a middle name. So I don't know what my parents were thinking. But my father goes by his middle name, which is Robert. He goes by Bob or Bobby. So i feel like Bob is like a dad name. However, i know someone dad bu yeah i know someone my age named Bobby. And so that's weird to me. So because I'm so used to associating that name with my dad, when I see someone my age, that name, it it like does some kind of weird number on me. I'm like, you're not supposed to be named that. That's for like an older parent raising me.
Speaker: Right. Yeah. Yeah. That's funny. Because actually the whole age thing does actually play into this. Yeah. ah Because but there was a 2024 study, so not that long ago, where they were looking like, right,
Speaker: Do you grow into your name? so So your younger Bob friend right person, as he gets older, will he start to look more and more Bob-like as he gets older?
Speaker: Do they? Well, you see, the interesting thing is like when we're kind of like this thing about do you look like your name? There was this 20-24 experiment, as I was saying, yeah where...
Speaker: Basically, they got pictures of people from like when they were like children. And then they got a... um So they had all these children's faces up.
Speaker: yeah And then people had to guess... from a list which which kid was called what name right so is this a chris is this a a michelle is this a susan oh susan's god don't don't don't start with susan's wait why because it's i i mean i've just i i've known quite a few seasons yeah and yeah that association they are a type in my
Speaker: um Yeah. um And so they had all these kids and they had to guess the names. And, they you know, people guessed them and they did really, really badly at guessing which ones were which. But then when they put some photos of the exact same kid, but when they were like an adult. Yeah. So they put the adult versions of those kids and then they could predict way better. Yeah.
Speaker: Which adult face was what name? So it's almost like you might start off as a young Bob and not look like a Bob. Right. But then as you get older,
Speaker: You grow into it. You become more Bob-like. Ooh, interesting. And I think, like, there's, you know, like, um I think, to i i i maybe this is somehow connected with your name and in why you kind of feel like it's boring.
Speaker: It's because as you get older, you start to meet other people called Amy. Yes. And then you start to kind of like look at their personality and who they are and what they dress like and what and and you might start to kind of like feel like you're morphing into all the other Amy's.
Speaker: Yeah. That you've ever met. like Or I'm kind of like, oh, maybe Amy's not so bad. If I meet someone named Amy and I think they're cool or whatever, or i see someone, I'm like, all right. At the end of the day, I don't like it, though. Right.
Speaker: Because if you meet another Amy, or if I meet them Martin, or if you meet someone with your name, there's this little interesting, like, little bond. You're now in a little club yes of Amys or Martins or yeah or whatever, And that's your little club and yeah and you and you're in it. And then you look at everyone else that you see in that club and kind of go, oh, he looks cool. She looks great. Oh, I like how she's done her hair.
Speaker: Yeah. right so and and And you kind of over time it could like just kind of start to Maybe like it a little. Add some of those Amy-like qualities to you so that you then start to become, so all the Amys start to like look like Amys over time. Yeah, 100%.
Speaker: Yes, I think that, um you know, it's funny. i I sort of dated this guy in college and it was very casual and then nothing. And then he ended up having a girlfriend named Amy and he and I were still friendly. And I went to a party and I met her and she clearly knew that he and I had had some sort of like whatever we had. Mm hmm.
Speaker: And then whatever, nothing. Then there were I went to another party like a month later and I saw her again and she goes, what's your name? And I wanted to be like, you're pretending you forget my name and we have the same name. ah You're bitchy and I don't like it. So I just went, Amy, same as yours. Like I was just kind of like played dumb. like ah It's like, are you kidding? You never forget someone who has your name. You just don't because you're in the club.
Speaker: You're in the club. You're in the same name club. All right. So there go. So in the comments, do you feel like you look like your name or have you somehow managed to try and not look like your name? Some sort like anti Amy. Or or do you want to change your name or have you do you go by your middle name instead? Because, you know, some people i know after high school.
Speaker: change, not change their name, but I knew someone in high school and her name was Mary. And then in college, she went by Maggie. i knew someone named BC. And then in college, he went by Barry.
Speaker: You know, I think people, when they sort of start a new chapter, they might like modify their name. hmm. So yeah let us know. Let us know. All right. Well, that was that little interesting. I love it. I hope you found it quite interesting. So think it's now the segment where we ask, am I being unreasonable? Wait a minute. Hold on. I got to talk about something. Oh, yes.
Speaker: I got to tell you. Yes. What's really bothering me this week. Okay. Tell me. I'm crossing because I'm upset and I need to go to therapy as my shirt says. Okay.
Speaker: Do you watch the Great British Baking Show? I don't, but I have seen it and I'm aware of this new season's drama.
Speaker: this see this new season's drama Let's say it together on the count of three, who it has to do with. Let's just say your name. Ready? One, two, three. Nigella. Nigella Lawson. Oh, I'm so fucking angry. Okay. And now I'm going to explain to people in case people don't know. all right.
Speaker: Great British Baking Show. It's a fabulous show. No villain. Just pure joy and love. People bake. They don't even win at anything at the end. They win a cake stand and some flowers. I mean, it's just for the joy of baking. The two hosts, Noel and Allison, are dreamy.
Speaker: Dreamy, dreaming. ah Paul Hollywood is a judge and Prue used to be a judge. yeah Now, the issue here is around the way Nigella who's the new judge who has taken over for Prue, the way she eats. Here's my thing.
Speaker: Paul obviously likes to take small bites, whether it's because it looks better on camera or because he's doing taste testing for like 12 different cakes. And so he knows he knows what he's doing. Prue.
Speaker: Prue, I always notice this about Prue, and I don't know if this is something like a man would notice, so I will point it out to you. I think she took, ah she had a way, and I thought about this when I watched her, of taking bites that were, it wouldn't ruin her lipstick. Right.
Speaker: So I think that's two things. yeah I think one, she wears a long lasting lipstick and I would like to know what kind it is because mine never lasts. And two, um she also wanted to take these very dainty bites. And someone on social media pointed out she would make comments like.
Speaker: ah This is delicious. It's worth the calories, which, you know, I don't love, even though we love Peru. Now people are all up in arms about Nigella, who I think also knows how to take a bite on camera because like that's what she does. She just takes these big bites. I think she may look a little weird because she's also trying not to ruin her lipstick. That's my opinion. But like, what People are are making so much fun of her because of the way that she samples these these cakes and foods and saying that she looks ridiculous and she looks awkward and she looks like, like you know, not feminine or dainty. And it is making me so angry.
Speaker: What are your thoughts? ah You better agree with me. i let you Yeah, yeah. No, no. I do. I mean, no i've I've seen Nigella Lawson, who's, you know, do her cook shows for years. she's She is sexy. Yeah.
Speaker: Unbelievable. You know what? Yeah. ah oh with Well, Jake's upset. Jake is is is a fan as well um as well. When I look at cook cook shows, this is something that me and Trisha did. like We would watch cook shows and we'd decide whether the chef had a good sex life or a bad sex life.
Speaker: Interesting. Based on? Based on. So you look at at some chefs like Nigella Lawson, right? And there's some sort of very sexy energy going on. And you think, yeah, yeah, no, the the they, you know, like I would put her in the good sex camp. Totally. Then there are others that I look at and kind of go, yeah, no, you're not.
Speaker: Yeah, no that's that's that's yeah not a thing in your life at all. um By the way, Prue, Prue Leith, had an affair with her father's best friend and married him. So I think her sex life is pretty good too. Right. I think chefs generally, like somehow food and sex seem to be quite correlated, right? Yeah. So, um but yeah, i you know, like Nigella is just ah just a a a walking meme. I mean, I think that all of this stuff,
Speaker: Yeah, it's like, why are you bringing this up? But but also, it does draw attention to the show. so So, you know, it's it's there's no such thing as bad publicity, as they say. 100%. And I love that women on social media are supporting her. She doesn't say anything about calories. And I think someone on the show made a comment or something. And she was like, yeah, food is meant to be enjoyed. Like, and also I feel like the camera angles weren't very flattering. People are saying, I just think let's just support her. but By the way, before this all happened, Sean and I were watching it together and I turned, him I paused it and I turned him and I go, I just have to say something in the middle of the show.
Speaker: He goes, what? I go, I love the way she's eating this food. This is before anyone like said anything. I was like, she's just getting in there. She's excited to taste everything. like Why is that wrong?
Speaker: it just And then the internet had like such a field day with it. And the thing is is, it's not going to change because they already filmed it So we're going to keep seeing it. And I haven't seen her response. I can't wait to see what she says because she i i'm she's a badass. I don't know much about her, but anyone who eats like that, i support Yeah, I know. She's she's she's great.
Speaker: Period. We love her. We love her. All right. Now we got that off my chest. We can talk about Am I Being Unreasonable? Am I Being Unreasonable? Oh, right.
Speaker: Here we go. I'm going to hit that button. Hit that button. Am I Being Unreasonable? All right. my it's my It's my turn, i believe.
Speaker: Go ahead. Thank you for reminding me earlier. Always. All right. So this is really about city life. So if you've lived in a city like I have,
Speaker: um you are going to get this. so So there' there's two. So am I going to do... Yeah, I think because it's sort of the same thing. Yeah.
Speaker: All right. Same idea. So Christine says, I don't understand people who walk three a cre of three across on the sidewalk in New York City or anywhere, um slowing down everyone and not leaving room for others to walk at a faster pace.
Speaker: Should we just, um ah we'll just. We got disconnected, but we'll come back. Answer that one first. Okay. I think so what do you feel about about about that one I couldn't agree more i think I mean I've been a tourist in other places and I have tried I'm very aware of kind of like I try to pull over I'm always like let's pull over if we're going to slow down and I think I think this is mostly due to tourists and it's like
Speaker: on the days when I'm feeling nice, I go, oh, it's a tourist. And on most days when I just want to like get to work, I'm like, well, move the fuck out of the way. Why are you all taking up the sidewalk and walking so slow? It's so inconsiderate looking up at the big buildings, whatever. Like, and I, so normally I'm very snarky about it. And and I, I, I agree.
Speaker: I agree with Christine. What do you think? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, i mean, like if you live in a city where tourists come to.
Speaker: What city did you live in, Martin? I've lived in, I lived in Brooklyn. and went to work in man Manhattan. Oh, god yeah right. New York City, need me too. And I've ah worked in London.
Speaker: I've worked in Beijing. ah I've worked in Delhi. I've worked in Portland. And I worked in Atlanta and i don't know, some other places. You've had like 17 lives.
Speaker: Oh, yeah. yeah um And yeah, you you you the worst of the families, right? Mom, dad, one or two kids, and they walk in a line.
Speaker: across the entire sidewalk. Yeah. And then you, oh. You know what? there is a There is a truism about New York, which may apply somewhere else, but I think especially New York, which is there is always someone one right behind you.
Speaker: And, Terrible. It's true. It is true. Right. that And that ah applies to, yes, it applies to when you're walking along the sidewalk, there is someone right behind you. yeah If you're getting a coffee, there's so you have to hurry up. If you're in line for a coffee, there will always be someone behind you. So, you know, let's get ah a coffee.
Speaker: move on but also it kind of comes down to your your your your job right know right like there is someone ready to take your your place they are right behind you um so that is that kind of like hustle move move move culture which when you work in a city like that and you live in there that's You are in that kind of like go, go, go, hustle, hustle. There's someone behind you all the time.
Speaker: um And ah yeah, that's how we live. And then you get these tourists who come from like, you know, po, po, dunk. Yep. Alaska or wherever.
Speaker: Yeah. It's really, it's frustrating because you're trying to get with the hustle, like you're saying, you're trying to get where you want to go. Like I used to work in the financial district and my office, I had to pass the stock exchange and this was before COVID. So I went to work five days a week.
Speaker: Every day at the exact same time when I was when I had gotten out of the subway and was walking past the stock exchange, there was a group of, I would say, 20 people following a tour guide who had like a big umbrella yeah just so they could like see walking, taking their time at rush hour in the morning outside the stock exchange. Yeah. I was like, can you pick a better time? I didn't say that, but i I got to the point where I did not care.
Speaker: Same thing happened. I used to work um at J.Crew in my 20s. That was right outside the Rockefeller Christmas tree. oh And I worked there during the holidays. So everyone was taking a million pictures. I did not care after a certain point. I can't pause for people's. i am probably in the background of like thousands of people's Rockefeller tree pictures because I just stopped caring. Like we have to live like this is where we live.
Speaker: i get so worked up. Oh, yeah. No, i I worked in Times Square for a year. vey. It's tough. That must have been shit show. Oh, yeah. Oh, by by the way, if you were working around the ah Rockefeller Christmas tree area um You know Saks?
Speaker: Fifth Avenue. Oh, their windows just flip display is beautiful. Right. Yeah. Were you there when they did the 3D building projections on the outside of the building? I never it. Did you see yeah i I did it.
Speaker: What? What do you mean? mean i did it. You were... operating it no no no i yes i came up with the whole design and the storyboard and oh my god i have to watch this again i'm sure there's a video of it oh yeah yeah if you like sacks fifth avenue building you know 3d building anyway that's oh my god how cool is that but just thought you might have seen it um yeah all right you know what i think if you don't mind we'll we'll we'll do tara's next week great no problem
Speaker: but yeah She'll love that her name was said. Tara is a very big fan. I think it might be to time at you know, maybe next episode to promote some of the people who listen. Yes. You know, like Alexandra's deputy mayor. I think there are a couple other people we can. That are starting to kind of like come into consideration. Yes, because if you comment and get involved with the show, we will give you a a job title in ADHDville.
Speaker: and ah And you will be up on the, you'll become part of the ADHD town council. And then right at the end of the video, there will be your name and your job title. Love it. For all eternity.
Speaker: All eternity. se All right. Well, let's ah let's hit the post posty baggers. Let's go. Post.
Speaker: Fucking. fucking
Speaker: I pissed up the wrong one and now it sounds weird. ah Anyway, okay, well, let's let's let let's do two. So the first one, Laura. Okay.
Speaker: um Welcome, Laura. i've i've Because i've i've i've I know Laura from TikTok. Okay. And I see her TikTok posts and then I will occasionally kind of go, hey, yeah, that's that's really good. and and You know, like that kind of thing has been just going on for a year or so, just, you know, the occasional comment. But um but Laura seems to have watched some episodes.
Speaker: and has jumped on board and is now commenting. Oh, love it. Oh, my gosh. So um um that is really exciting to me. Yeah. And ah she commented on them the ah the episode, think it was episode two of season two, and we where we're talking about personal so personal space.
Speaker: Like they, yeah. And she and she says, but what really gets me, though, is people walking in my blind spot. I've stopped to let people get ahead of me and been very firm with other people who knew me, at at least on an acquaintance level, that I cannot have them in my blind spot because I can feel them in my bubble but not see them.
Speaker: This is like what we were just talking about too. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I, there is, it's a, it's a feeling you can feel it. and, and and I said this before and I'll say it again.
Speaker: How is the other person not uncomfortable? Like how this person in her blind spot, don't they feel that they're standing too close? I guess not. yet Well, yeah.
Speaker: Cause I, I think, unless you're really consciously aware of it, you just like assume that, oh, I'll just walk along. You know, like when you when you're walking with someone, they're slightly ahead of you and you're kind of like behind them and off to one side and they can't quite see you, but they know you're there. Yes. um So so you're your brain has to like, doesn't like that they can't, like it just feels like,
Speaker: something going on and you can't really work work out. and yet And it makes me think of, um you know, like so for a woman, when you're walking down the street at night, the size of your bubble, of your personal space bubble gets really huge, right?
Speaker: Absolutely. It's like it includes almost like the entire visible street, right? That is how big your personal space becomes. Yeah. And, If I'm walking down the street and I can see that there's a woman on the same side of the street and I'm kind of like walking faster I'm kind of coming up on them.
Speaker: Yeah. I will go over to the other side of the street and then carry on walking. That's very nice. And then I'll come back over to the to the to the front. Because I know that.
Speaker: they're like your personal bubble at that point is like, is like street sized. It's like, so I know that I'm, I'm in it. So I have to kind of like make sure I'm, you know, not looking like a threat basically. hearinging Right. I think, I think that's very nice because it's true. And I think it also gives the impression that this is a safe person.
Speaker: Because that's happened to me where I see like a man, I could tell they're trying not to make me feel like scared or threatened. And also something in me goes, oh, he's like, us he's safe.
Speaker: God forbid something happens. This guy's okay. Right. And he might help. So I think that's a very ah nice thing to do for sure. Yeah. So yeah I really liked that comment because it it it allowed me also to kind of like bring up that, you know, that guys should be more aware Agree.
Speaker: um All right. So the other one from ah from Deputy Mayor Alexandra. Oh, Deputy Mayor. are you so proud you remembered to call her the Deputy Mayor? and I now write it down. oh amazing. So last week we yeah we we we ah we said the question was, um ah do chickens think you're hot?
Speaker: Mm-hmm. And, um oh, i love I love this comment so much. It made my entire day and it still does. And it will probably be, I will probably think about it for a long time. Oh, my God, I love it. She says that subject of do chickens take you hot. She said, you know, thought you meant do chickens find you hot as in the temperature. Oh, yes, I saw.
Speaker: ah and And she said, I already Googled chicken temperature to be prepared. but but But then I got results on how to cook one. So she saw the title of the podcast and then went away and did some Googling so that...
Speaker: So that she was like, you know, so... So she would know. So she would, right. And then she said, i didn't expect and it and it and experiment with trained chickens choosing their hottest celebs.
Speaker: Yeah. Guess what? That's what we do here. I loved that slight cu and confusion. Yeah. um And she said, if you want to know, Martin, no.
Speaker: Chickens don't find you hot because you're hotter. because They're hotter than you. So their body temperature runs apparently at 40.6 to 41.7 degrees C. So their body temperature is hotter than mine, so they don't see me as hot.
Speaker: Wait, what are we? 98.6? Yeah, but that that's the, yeah, that must be other one. Oh, got it. Okay, okay, okay. Right. So I loved i love not only that that there was a confusion about do chickens think you're hot, but an answer popped out the other side. i know.
Speaker: Based on the body temperatures of chickens and meat. She's committed, Alexandra. She is committed. She does the research. Yes. Listen, she's amazing. There's a reason she's deputy mayor. Right. Yeah, she she she puts in the work And also, just going going back to the earlier conversations, she says, I want five chickens.
Speaker: And she says, I have a list with names already in my notes so I won't forget. They were real. Wasn't one of them Kiki? Kiki. Like the spiky? Yeah.
Speaker: It was Kiki, Lola, Fifi, Poppy, and Ginny. So then I think, well, you get five chickens.
Speaker: How do you decide which chicken is Kiki? Right. You know, I've heard from people who have chickens or I've heard about people who have chickens that the chickens have different personalities.
Speaker: Right. So I guess based on their own. Is that true? right I'm very I'm very out of the chicken world. So I don't know. I really don't know. It just sounds kind of ridiculous. But I guess I'm wrong. All these people say the chickens have personalities.
Speaker: Well, yeah. So therefore, yeah you would go, right, which one's kiki? I'm going to look for the spiky. spunky. The spunky one. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. By the way, the word kiki is also like a slang term. Do you know that? Like, let's sit around and kiki. Almost like, let's kind of like chat. Let's gossip.
Speaker: oh yeah okay yeah all right it's just a little fun fact oh wow yeah didn't know that yes all right well that just brings us to the end of this of this uh i love this episode i loved how things actually the the kiki thing lined up and the walking on the sidewalk was lined up with with the whole the whole thing it's just been all worked out it's almost like We worked it out.
Speaker: um All right. like We could say that we did. Let's let's pretend that we did. it was on purpose. a Wink. Obviously. Wink. Wink,
Speaker: wink. Yeah. I love saying when you wink. Me too. Yeah. Saying the word as well. is really funny. You go... It is kind of... Wink!
Speaker: It is kind of funny. Yeah, I think I'm going to do that from now on. Wink! Wink! We meant the whole episode to tie together. wink.
Speaker: Wink. Double. Two winks. Oh, I'm having too much fun now. Anyway. All right. Okay. Yeah. Let's crack on. Time to go. Time to crack on, as you say. Time to crack on, everybody. Time to crack on. AJ's D-Ville is delivered fresh every Tuesday to all providers of fine podcasts. Please subscribe.
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