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Speaker: or Back in the room. I know.
Speaker: Back in the room. Exactly. More energy. More footwork. I like that. So, obviously, I'm glad that everyone can be here and two and to join us for season two of ADHDville, home of the beautifully weird...
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Speaker: we are again it's every tuesday
Speaker: Blimey! Blimey! What does blimey mean? You know, ah you know what? I would guess it's it's is it blind to me?
Speaker: is that where is it is? Oh, really? Has it been? I am making that up. Oh, OK. But it sounds like. Yeah. Sounds like blind to me, which would be like some sort of exclamation of like, I cannot believe what is going on.
Speaker: OK. Or something. Oh, all right. All right. So, hello. My name is Martin. Yes. And I was officially diagnosed with the combined ADHD poo-poo platter in 2013, and my pet rock, ah Ralph, suspects I have autism.
Speaker: And I'm joined, as always, by Amy. um ah Hello, and my name is Amy Aliazzo, slightly neurodivergent, fully neurotic, highly sensitive, a ton of sensory issues. and my pet rock, Sandra,
Speaker: would like some eyelashes because right now she's just a rock and she feels boring. Oh, we need to sort Sandra out.
Speaker: ah for sure We'll get her a little makeover. Pink some eyeballs and eyelashes on her. Lovely. right Well, this week, this week well we're going to talk about our so our subject, which is like how much space it is your personal space. Then we're going to go to our um Am I Being Unreasonable section, and then we'll have the post bag.
Speaker: Love it. um So it's ah it's a fun-packed.
Speaker: and I'm excited to get into it. the Same. Because, like, the actually, Paul, the other podcast host of season one, I remembered him saying, like, he was saying that he went to a cinema to see a film.
Speaker: There was no one else in there. He sat somewhere in the middle. And then some guy came and sat next to him. What the hell? Why do people do that? I've heard that happening. I don't understand.
Speaker: you You have to be a sociopath. I don't get it. Like you're comfortable? i don't get it. Right. What did you do? if That's insane. Wait, is this recent?
Speaker: Oh, ah and I'm not sure. He didn't say when okay it was. But but yeah. So it's that thing of like personal space, right? it's i mean, like I think of it as like you have this sort of invisible bubble around you. And like and you can't see it. Yeah. But but you feel it when someone kind of... Invades it.
Speaker: Gets... in it, right. That person who you know like yeah who stands a little bit too close to you on the elevator or and Awful.
Speaker: Right. You know, like, you know, you're on a train and they're like sit bright opposite you. Like some weirdo. I was um getting lunch ah recently at like a takeout lunch place. And the girl in back of me was standing so fucking close. She was like, we were like touching shoulders. And then because she was standing so close to me,
Speaker: like or rushing or whatever, she ended up paying for me by accident. So like, I was kind of like, ah. so And I got so mad. She was standing so close the whole time. And then the cashier goes to her, goes, you just paid, and points to points to me, goes, you just paid for her lunch. And then I just turned to her and I go, yeah, like, I'm not surprised. You were really like standing way too close the whole time. I got like so mad.
Speaker: sir Oh, my God. that's like That's like one of the first times I've heard where someone standing too close to you paid off. I guess it did. oh i then I ended up paying for hers and it evened out. But like, why are you standing? Like what I don't get is like, why doesn't the other person feel uncomfortable?
Speaker: Right. Exactly. Because that that was like, my thing was like, where is this boundary? And and like when it comes to strangers, does everybody have the same size bubble?
Speaker: Right. and And I suspect not. Yeah, that's a good way to put it. Yeah. um All right. So there's a couple of interesting um experiments that men in lab lab coats Or women, women in a lab coat.
Speaker: ah Yes, you are quite correct. Thank you for calling that out. I guess the cliche would be like a white man in a lab coat. Is that what you were going for? And then I ruined it. Okay, I took it too seriously. okay No, no, no, no, no. you are You are perfectly right. Because in my head I had this like 1950s science experiment vision in my head yeah with men in lab coats and pens in their pocket. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker: But so, yeah, yeah. pull Pull my ass out of the 50s and into the 2026. twenty twenty six Yeah. Yeah. So they did an experiment.
Speaker: um Actually, there's a really good experiment, which I'll save for last, which is about me's men's bathrooms. Oy vey. Oy vey. Oh, my God. I was just talking about this with someone, so I'm curious to hear what you have to say. okay So they have this ah they did this experiment, which is called the stop distance technique, technique which is which is basically...
Speaker: A person stands over there in a room. someone ah Someone walks towards them and then you say stop when that person gets too close.
Speaker: yeah when you when When you start to feel like they've come yeah they've they've they've they've kind of hit that bubble. Yeah. And obviously like there there was varying amounts. But what was interesting is that there were two distinct boundaries, if you like, two distinct bubbles.
Speaker: One was where would I comfortably stand while while talking to you? So, you know, like if if you're talking with someone, a stranger, you are, they can be you're more comfortable with them being closer to you yeah and um but if not then oh no no go back back back further yeah so yeah we so there is that variation and then there's and so so obviously so now we've got two bubbles one is like
Speaker: you know if you're talking to someone or or if they're just in the general ver vicinity. And then there's an there's an autism experiment. Oh, okay. But it was quite quite small. it's like It was like 18 adults and 20 other control people.
Speaker: and And it's roughly the same thing where people – started roughly three meters away from someone, then you walk towards them.
Speaker: And then they they stopped at a point where it just starts to feel uncomfortable. Mm-hmm. And though the the interesting thing was that three out of the a autistic part participants reported at no point was the was did they feel and uncomfortable. uncomfortable Really?
Speaker: Yeah. Like three people. I know. Well, the thing is, it is, that's why I said it's a very small yeah experiment and I wouldn't expand that out, but I kind of thought it was, it was interesting because I immediately think, oh no, no, no. I, you know, as a neurodivergent person, perhaps like everyone would be,
Speaker: far away yeah right that's so so they so these people with autism kept were fine with someone coming up that's so so like ah and and and the control group i guess the neurotypical people none of them walked all the way up to the to the person in the in in the middle so obviously like there's like There's like variations yeah within neurodivergent people.
Speaker: so we're And interestingly, hu if you add eye contact, so last week we we they yeah we talked about why people looking at you is weird, makes you feel weird.
Speaker: That changes the size of the bubble too. Sure. Yeah. Yeah. Right. So ah researchers found that in in one one experiment, if you um ah people, you will allow people to get closer to you if they're not looking at you.
Speaker: I see that. and then the moment they look at you, hu it's like, whoa! Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's like too much. Because that's a you're adding a layer of like intimacy, I guess.
Speaker: Yeah. Yeah. Wow. So... it's there are all these like interesting variables and and one study that i've I found which kind of it it kind of goes into the um into the into the bucket of like wow someone actually paid for this study right kind of thing back in 1976 old was then? 12 I wasn't born how old was i then
Speaker: um i was twelve um i wasn't born ba I'm sorry. I was already, what was I doing at 12? Becoming a young man?
Speaker: Doing adolescent things, riding a bike? I don't think that that I became a young man until I had my first kiss. First kiss with Janet. Which we talked Which we talked about at 15. Yeah, season one, episode one. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker: Oh, happy days. um ah right you were still a boy raised when this when this study was conducted. Okay. Right. so So researchers wanted to know whether invading someone's personal space was
Speaker: uh makes you know like causes a hey measurable physiological change in the right now as they kind of i would think a hundred percent it does am i right Yeah, no, absolutely. Yeah.
Speaker: It does. um and And in in fact, it's we we our bodies sense that someone is too close before we actually really think about it. Oh, okay. Yeah.
Speaker: So, you know, like if if you're standing there and then someone like shuffles towards you or something and you may, and out of the corner of your eye, you kind of sense it.
Speaker: but without Yeah, yeah. So your body's obviously kind of like paying attention to what's going on and senses it. And then your brain kind of goes, then thinks logically, is this person too close? And then kind of gets that little...
Speaker: their little measuring tape out but your body knows first first yeah you know and you get a yeah and your and your your heart rate goes up and your and anxiety goes up and and you know your system's on alert I remember being on a date once and we were sitting at like one of those, at like the bar in those like high stools. And I actually was like having a really good time, but the guy was just like too close. And it had nothing to do with how I felt.
Speaker: He was just like, it's uncomfortably close. So I, I was like feeling the anxiety. And then I'm like, do I say something? And finally I go, can you move back a little And he was like, oh, and of course he was offended.
Speaker: But it's like, cool oh, well, i don't sit so close to me. Sometimes even with Sean, if we're like standing in the kitchen and he's talking, like I'm like, so I'm like, can you move back? So maybe like I have like a bigger bubble than some people. Like I like i think what you're saying about the bubble is different. Like everyone has a different size bubble around them.
Speaker: Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah. Oh God. You, you, you, you reminded me of that, that, you you know, like when, did you go to a clubs?
Speaker: Unfortunately. Right. And. Oh, terrible. so close to everybody. mean, yes, but that kind of thought of like when, when you're trying to talk to someone and you're, and there's some information that you want to try get across or, or, or, or listen to them or something. Yeah. And then you have to be like, it's so, being close because it's so loud. Yeah.
Speaker: And you're like in each other's faces shouting. Well, don't you see people sometimes, people don't want to be that close. so So you kind of like talk into the person's ear, but then like, that's weird.
Speaker: Because your cheeks are like, oh, it's so, it's I hate it. It's too much. Right. i I thought what I need is like some some ah some flip cards, right, that have common things that I may say at a club.
Speaker: Wait, what are the common things you would say at the don't Like, um I'm going to get a drink. What do you want? Because it's too loud and you hold up the card. And then there's a little pen and then they write, I'll have a rum and coke or whatever. Yeah. um Another one is like, I'm going to the but bathroom.
Speaker: Yes. Wait, this is a great, this could be like a business. I'm tired. I want to go home. Yeah, I would hold that card up five minutes after I got there. I'd be like,
Speaker: My card would like, bye. Yeah, I mean, one that's just said, yeah, it's exactly like, yeah piss off. Go away. Stand back.
Speaker: Oh, my God. ah ah Oh, yeah. So, yeah. So, ah ah toilets, bathrooms. So, these scientists. Oh, yes. Tell me. Okay. So, these scientists, right, they got funding for this.
Speaker: God bless them. um And they I think they they they conducted the experiment in in their own lab bathroom. Okay. Okay. which is important because okay because it feels weird if if it isn't.
Speaker: And it was in the men's bathroom. And what they did was that, um if you can sort of imagine it, like there were two urinals. I don't know how many they they there were. Hold on Yep.
Speaker: Yes. Clearly British people pronounce this word very differently than we do. Whoa. What do you say? Urinals? Urinals? Yeah, urinal.
Speaker: I got to say, that's going to take me a second to get used to. But before we talk about the urinals, can I just tell you something? Yes. I was having a conversation this week, so I want to say this beforehand. Yes. The conversation I was having was with ah a male co-worker, and he was saying that if there are three, you don't go in the middle. However, because someone could come in and then they're next to you. He was saying, though,
Speaker: oh He checks, this is so gross, the floor to see which one to go to. And if the floor at the ends are like gross, then he'll go in the middle. And he just assumes someone coming in knows that that's why he's in the middle. So I don't know anything about this urinal etiquette, but please enlighten me. that Well, ah you see that.
Speaker: I think he's probably in a very small group of people who have that as a cry criteria. I mean, now now that he says it, sure, understand. I get it.
Speaker: I get it. No, because I can remember um I wasted an entire um therapy session years ago.
Speaker: 50 bucks I think it cost me. And I was just talking about where you stand you have a row of men's urinals. Okay.
Speaker: And... So yes, if you have three, you do not want to be in the middle. Common sense to me. Right. um You have one, two, and three. So you would normally go to the one either closest or furthest. Closest is usually the way you would normally go. Closest to what?
Speaker: To the door. So you walk in. You don't want to go furthest away? Well, because then it signals... Oh, God. Something. And I'm not sure what it is, but it signals that you're considering something.
Speaker: Whereas if you go to the first one, it's like, no, no, I just want to go and have a piss. And I'm just going to go to that one because it's closest and I can get out. This is so fascinating. If you go to the last one, I don't know, it's saying something weird and I'm not sure what. Okay. Also, could it be...
Speaker: like Like you're hiding or something? Like you want to let someone know like someone's in here? no, is that not it? I don't know. I don't know. but mean So we're talking about the kind of open ones, right?
Speaker: Not the ones in the doors like the rooms, toilets. These are the kind of open ones. so yes so you So you either go to the first one or the last one. if there's someone in the first one, you go to the last one. You make sure there's always room.
Speaker: but but Between. yeah Right. And then the poor guy has to kind know if the third one pop pops up to do that. um I have a friend who had a trans who who's trans, who had the operation. who identified as male, went to the male bathrooms and was like, Martin, I don't understand.
Speaker: I don't know what to do inside. Wait a minute. This person was born a woman? Right. She was female. And then and then she um she but became um became a man. and had And had the bottom surgery to become a man? Topped.
Speaker: ah Okay, but it far but night okay but but not bottom. Okay. Right. Oh, so got it. But he wanted to use the men's bathroom. Of course. And hadn't done before. Okay. um So I had to do a whole...
Speaker: This is how it works in the men's bathrooms. That's nice of you. Yeah. Where you go, you should you know, and what you should do and what happens if someone talks to you says something. Yeah. Like to what that the that's crazy to talk, isn't it? Or is it not?
Speaker: I mean, don't really know what goes on in women's bathrooms, but in guys... It's a little more acceptable to talk, but still don't don't generally talk much. Do you say hi?
Speaker: oh God, no. You don't say hi No, because because that's like, hello, I want to engage in a conversation with you, right? And it's quite direct. What you might do is make a statement and then hope that the other person might join in.
Speaker: So, for example, if you're there and there's the football on and Arsenal versus Liverpool and and Arsenal ah arsel of are winning, you might, cut you know,
Speaker: You might be in the men's bathrooms and and you might go, oh I can't believe that goal that was scored. And then the other person can then choose to they You can choose your level of of entry. You can say, yeah, mate, that was terrible. Or we can go or we can ask a question. Oh, yeah, that was that was bad. What about the one earlier, though? And then you can have a conversation. But you don't go in saying hello. Everyone would just like go, who's that?
Speaker: you but it But instead you start a conversation. Hello.
Speaker: Hello at the urinal. Exactly. but wait, but instead you're starting a... I guess the question is, is that are we in a situation where are you're strangers or where you know someone? Because I i i think those are very different.
Speaker: i I assume strangers. Okay, so if you're strangers, then of course you're not going to say hello, but you're saying you would start a conversation about the game while you're both playing? no, I mean, you might start a conversation about game. Okay,
Speaker: So I was i was telling my my friend, right, well, this is what happens if someone starts a conversation about something. This is how you get out of that whole. How do you get out?
Speaker: um Well, what did I say? Good Lord. I think I would probably have said, oh yeah, it is acceptable just to kind of go. Yeah.
Speaker: and then leave yeah like like this like there just just like a ah sort of ah a weird laughy like like acknowledgement thing yeah and then just go back to washing your hands or something right the something that was like non-committal right and wasn't saying any words so that someone would go your voice sounds a little bit high now what if what what What do you prefer? Like, do you prefer i get in and I get out?
Speaker: That seems like that's... Yeah. Yeah, okay. Surely. I mean, who who who really wants to hang around? In a public bathroom, I know. Now, for women... Michael, George Michael might.
Speaker: He might. in his In his day. Yeah, he had... there There was something going on there. But for women, i I think it's a little more acceptable, like, to talk. I don't like to...
Speaker: Because i don't want to, like if I work with someone, I don't want to hear them peeing. It's like weird to me. I just want to like get in and get out. But I do think it's a little more acceptable for women to sort of like chat a little bit while you're washing your hands.
Speaker: But yeah, but but still, i think the the etiquette for men, there it seems to be like a whole thing.
Speaker: yeah There's like a lot to consider, I feel like. There is a lot to consider. um But yeah, so back to the experiment. Oh, yeah.
Speaker: Remember this? So if you so if you can measure, there are two urinals, right? And then they allowed people to go in and out, in and out, and they measured...
Speaker: um
Speaker: How long it took for the guy to start peeing once he arrived at the urinal, right? And then how long he continued to pee.
Speaker: Wait, what was the point of this experiment? So what they did was was that they measured people and there was no one there. You just went up and you did your thing. Quicker, I bet.
Speaker: Quicker. Yeah. When there was someone next to you. Yeah. your whole bladder just kind of went, no, absolutely not. It like shrivels up. Not interested. I think that's true for women too.
Speaker: There's something, it's like a self-conscious thing. Right. So this personal bubble follows you into the bathroom and then just kind of, and just, yeah. And then affects you.
Speaker: so i love I love hearing stuff like this. i thought I could talk about it for hours. Yeah. Right. Yeah. No, actually, I mean, like, I mean, I was reading the other day about, um, there was a whole online debate, which was, it it was started by, i' am a cleaner of toilets in, don't know, can't remember where it, it was. And I find that the women's bathrooms are messier. Dirtier. I knew it. Dirtier than the men's. knew it.
Speaker: I gotta tell you. They're pretty gross. which Which kind of shattered my whole image of of of the women's bathrooms, to be honest. They're so disgusting. I don't know why.
Speaker: i don't know why. But in in the handful of times in my life where I've had to use a men's room, I've found it to be cleaner always. weird.
Speaker: ah I think it's got something to do with with the um wimp women appear to use more tissues and paper and that ends up being everywhere. so That's very nice of you to say.
Speaker: i don't think that's why. That's the common thing. but i'm not even i not even Yes, there's tissues and papers like all over the place, but Like the the physical, there's the toilets are disgusting. There's like pee all over the seat. I mean, it's really, it can be really bad. It could be really bad. And I actually had this, I took a survey a couple months ago about when women go to the bathroom in a public place, how do you do it? Because what I was doing was squatting. But then i just feel like you can risk,
Speaker: peeing on yourself. And I was just like, I don't want to risk this anymore. So what do you do? Do you build a nest of I was I was asking people. Many people said they just some people said they just this is a direct quote, put my bare ass down on the seat. I was like, I would never do that. I would rather build a nest of toilet paper. Now, I started doing this What about the time when there's pee on the seat?
Speaker: ah Now I have to take a ton of toilet paper and wipe their pee off the seat. I mean, it is so disgusting. Yeah. It is so disgusting. And i I'm confident that men's bathrooms are are a bit cleaner.
Speaker: And you know what? Good for you guys. Pfft. I don't know how this is, but anyway, I mean, like, what's what's everyone else's experience? But, you know, i mean I mean, like, since I was at school, there was a huge fear about going into the other bathrooms. Like, it was this place you could never go. and you learn that really early.
Speaker: Yeah. Like, that is a forbidden... Right. So, it so it yeah. So, like... You're lucky. You don't want to see it in there. It's gross. Anyway, so yeah. So just to finish up on the bubble thing.
Speaker: which brings us back to the question where where where is your line um because actually that's probably the wrong question it's not where is your line because your line depends on who the person is they're doing how big is your bubble i think is a is a great way to look at it right you know yeah whether they're looking at you or not whether you're going towards them or whether they're going towards you so you know And also, if you add in the neurodivergent part, we appear to have even more variation.
Speaker: Actually, yeah you know what? There was one experiment thought, which was, you know this whole kind of walking towards you and then you kind of say, you know, whether that person is too close or or not.
Speaker: Interestingly enough, there were there was an experiment with kids and they preferred a bigger distance than So their bubble was bigger but yeah um than a normal group of people. Theirs theirs was bigger.
Speaker: the The autistic kids were bigger than the their bubble was bigger than the when the neurotypical kids, I guess. um But when it came to like the adolescence, the adolescence movement,
Speaker: were closer they were their bubble was smaller than neurotypical people can i tell you my theory and it's probably totally wrong i love it um when i was very little i did not like people coming up and and hugging me or being told, you know, oh, give so-and-so a hug. I didn't like it. I think there's something about when you're little, you feel like you don't have autonomy over like who can come into your personal space. And I'm assuming that's why the little kids want a bigger bubble. However, When you're an adolescent, turning maybe 15, kissing Janet in the hallway, I think you kind of are like feeling like you might want to get closer to people. And so the bubble gets smaller. That's my theory.
Speaker: Right? No. I mean, like, you know, it yes. I mean, but science seems to like back that up. Yeah. Which is interesting. Yeah. All right. Love it. That was a very fun.
Speaker: i love I could talk about stuff like this for many, many hours. Conversations. all right, well, I think we just get to ah the next section, which is Am I Being Unreasonable?
Speaker: Am I Being Unreasonable? Whoa! Whoa, whoa! Whoa! I love that alien sound. Yeah.
Speaker: Love it. All right, I have to find my Am I Being Unreasonable section. Okay. Oh, here it is. So I'm going to read it out this week. Okay.
Speaker: Right? So ah this came from Lou, I believe. And she says- Lou's a guy. oh thank you.
Speaker: Welcome. You wouldn't have known that. I'm getting my whole gender thing. I'm like, I'm dropping the ball left or right. I'm here for you. I'll pick it up. I got you. Thank God you're here. yeah ah Yeah. So he says, I hate when people don't say thank you in in in general for any reason. I can't help but hyper fixate on it. And every time it happens, I have to teach myself. It doesn't mean they're the worst person alive.
Speaker: Am I being unreasonable? What say you, Amy? I have a lot of thoughts. I feel like my thought is a hot take. So my instinct is, Lou, you're reasonable. But I feel like a therapist would say, lou you're not being reasonable. You're being unreasonable.
Speaker: Don't let this person who's an asshole, because I think if someone doesn't say thank you, they're an asshole. Don't let them ruin your day. Don't fixate on it. um and And I guess technically that's what we should all do. It's not about you. It's about them. Like maybe they're in their own world or maybe whatever.
Speaker: I'm picturing if someone, um I guess what I'm picturing is like if if someone holds open the door or if you hold open the door for someone, then they don't say thank you. I'm just envisioning that. um it it Like, to me, why can't you say thank you? And and I think what what else it it says is like, well, how come I or Lou or whomever, um how come I work hard to be like a polite member of society and I say thank you, but then this person doesn't have to? And like, oh, well, get over it.
Speaker: So I actually, i feel like I think he's being reasonable, but I feel like we're both kind of wrong about it and we should get over it and it would be like healthier for both of us. That's how I feel. How do you feel, Martin? Yeah, because I think my initial gut reaction is usually, oh well, really? That was that was rude. um but But then the next thought that comes into my head usually,
Speaker: is usually ah I don't know what's going on in their life. I don't know what's going on in their world. Maybe maybe their mum just died and and that's all they can think about is something else. You know, like maybe they're having worse thing than But do you really genuinely think that? So let's say you hold open the door and someone doesn't say thank you.
Speaker: Yes. You genuinely go, what an asshole. Well, i don't know what they're going. Right. but Really? Because somehow, could because stuff I've had that thought for so long. Right. um ah ah That response of of them not being polite triggers off automatically the next thought, which was like, I don't i i don't know their life.
Speaker: Oh, wow. don't know their life. Yeah. And then that kind of like... And now go, okay, well, fine. i i I don't know. So i end up in this kind of like, in this kind of, ah and maybe that's wrong too. I don't know. but no I think you're right. But that's kind of, but I think that there is somewhere in between it doesn't matter.
Speaker: And was the other one? They're the worst. Right. I think that,
Speaker: There is somewhere in but to him between, which is like, oh, that bothered me. Right. um But I can handle it.
Speaker: I think, yeah. I'm grown adult. Right. I think you're right. I think there's a gray area. Like, hey, like you could have been nice, but what am I going to do?
Speaker: Right. You know, so, I mean, and just so certainly if you're like, you know, if you're, yeah, like the other thing is like a missing thank you is just information the the that you are getting. I mean, and then you choose how you how you respond, which I think is what Lou is trying to do, right? He's trying to find this middle ground somewhere. He knows that,
Speaker: that they're not the worst person alive and he knows that a response is justified. Right. It's just like, yeah, where where do you do the middle bit?
Speaker: yeah So what's what's your final verdict? is he being on... Jesus Christ, hang on.
Speaker: I have to teach myself. It doesn't mean they're the worst person alive. Am I being unreasonable? But he tends to focus on it. ah I think he's being reasonable. I know that's not healthy. Oh, man.
Speaker: know he He is being we reasonable. He's being reasonable because I think if if we're if we both say that it's and that that he that he is being reasonable, then it means that we think that politeness is a good thing, right?
Speaker: I think that's what we're saying in that. I like your thinking. By by by doing that. Yeah. We're saying it's a it's a good thing. All right.
Speaker: Lou, you're reasonable. People should say thank you. Right. ah And next week, yeah, get get in the comments. what what What are you thinking? what What's been bugging your brain about whether you're thinking that you are reasonable about something? Let us know in the comments.
Speaker: Good Lord. All right. Let's head to the post bag. Love it. Whoa.
Speaker: wo that's weird I liked it. That was like a little, ah it was like it had a little extra something. was loud as something happened, but it was working.
Speaker: had a little sauce. It did have a little sauce. All right. So, oh you know what? I've just i've just just realized this should have been in the yeah in the am I being unreasonable section. What?
Speaker: So last, so your mom on TikTok. Oh, sorry. Yes. Responded to one of your TikToks, right? Your mom is the person's TikTok name. yeah Your mom responded to the, am I being unreasonable? Where Ro said, i don't like it when my coworker doesn't say good morning. Am I being unreasonable?
Speaker: Right. Right. Yeah, and ah many people were on the side of the co-worker, shockingly.
Speaker: Yeah. um like Saying like, yeah, maybe they're in a bad mood. and Yeah. Right, actually, big which is quite similar to what I was saying earlier, I guess. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah so yeah. yeah, that maybe they're not a morning person. Maybe they're cranky. Maybe they had they hadn't had their coffee yet.
Speaker: um And then your mum, the person, commented, i am not a morning person and I don't love greeting everyone as I walk in, but I get the fuck over it because we live in a society.
Speaker: Amen, your mum. i loved that answer because to me it's like... I'm saying both things. Like me personally, um I say good morning.
Speaker: It's not a big deal. But I think it's very like responsible, societally responsible of your mom saying, I'm not a morning person, but I know that I have to be around people. I fucking say good morning.
Speaker: Like get over it. right and And so I just i just want to point out to your mom that I love that comment. Nice. All right. i I won't hit the post bag thing again. Remember when I did the post bag song last week?
Speaker: Yeah. I thought it was pretty good. Yeah. All right. liked it. Okay. I mean, you could do one now. but Post bag. There we go.
Speaker: Who needs a little jingle when when I've got i i know you doing Right um in person doing it. I know. um I've got um a Alexandra. um Deputy Mayor.
Speaker: Deputy Mayor. So last week's episode was, yeah, it's about staring, but it was also quite a lot about about Elizabeth Holmes. who who is the um who who that bloody trailer is still out out there. And I noticed on TikTok, people have cut the part of the trailer out where she's staring and she and she says something like,
Speaker: why would I lie to you? yeah and yeah And then they're using that on their TikToks about things. Oh, that's funny. Yeah, I've seen that too.
Speaker: So, yeah. I can't actually think of a good example off of my head. So it's kind it's that whole thing is starting to spread. Anyway, she she writes on TikTok, great comment as always. She says, first of all, I didn't know who who Elizabeth Holmes was.
Speaker: Get ready, Alexandra. Yeah. I know. I obsessively watch Guy Ritchie's Young Sherlock on Prime. So i guess being being inspired by Sherlock, she yeah she Googled her.
Speaker: then And then her then her her her s summation was, she's not nice, I guess.
Speaker: Correct. Correct. and She says, oh, I got a promotion. I didn't know. Thank you. Well, ah you you you you didn't know until we actually gave it to you. Right.
Speaker: And it's well deserved. Absolutely. Yes. She said, thank you. I love you too. I love you guys too. And then she asks, um which is a fair question because she lives in Greece.
Speaker: um What are porch bakeries? What are you doing there? So do you want to kind of like...
Speaker: it's sort of It's sort of a newer thing. um i i think I wrote back to Alexandra and I explained it's sort of a newer trend, I guess, here in the United States where people who like to bake will have baked goods on their porch. And you can either...
Speaker: give them to the, you know, put up a sign saying, take whatever you like, like for free, or you can do the honor system and trust that people will leave money. Some people, um actually, I've seen TikToks of this, and I think it's just delightful and adorable. They like almost open up their porch as if it's a store and kind of like set up a little store on their porch or in their driveway and just like have coffee and pastries and stuff for all the neighbors walking and and sell them to like all the neighbors walking by who are walking their dogs and stuff. um It's just become this new thing. I think it's adorable actually.
Speaker: I really want someone someone in my street, preferably right next door, to suddenly start baking and selling stuff on their porch. Me too. Yeah. ah And she finishes. Great. a Great episode again. Loved it. Your chemistry is great. why Isn't that so nice?
Speaker: Yes. Yeah, it's nice to say that we have good chemistry. Because, you know, i had 40 years of of relationship with Paul. Yeah. And you've done what Paul did in... You've done it in one episode. Oh, how nice. And it took 40 years to get that.
Speaker: ah Well, I can't wait to finally meet him when he comes back on as a guest. I know, what is that for people who are... I don't know. So on YouTube, I have this little squeezy dog. And then when you squeeze him, ears pop up in a comedy manner. It's so cute.
Speaker: pop up in a comedy manner
Speaker: it's so cute think you should point this way actually you should point at the camera there we go so he's just hanging out um on my mic um very cute yeah alright that's it that's all that's it that's our episode here's the yeah have the ah I have the outro oh ah taped to to the wall it was too far away um and I couldn't see it
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