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Speaker: My name is Martin. I was diagnosed with a combined ADHD poo-poo platter in 2013. And my pet rock Ralph is on vacation, but he does think that I have autism.
Speaker: And who's to argue with Ralph in Speedos? Nobody. And I'm not the only one running this beautifully weird town. So please welcome our our our at my my other co-mayor of ADHDville.
Speaker: Oh, what a delight to be co-mayor. My name is Amy. I am slightly neurodivergent, highly sensitive, fully neurotic. I have a ton of sensory issues. And my pet rock, Sandra, is actually on vacay with Ralph.
Speaker: Oh, yeah. And is um enjoying her time in the sun. Right. Just like a late summer deal. Because you know how out of season deals that you can you can get yeah around this time of year? Yeah.
Speaker: Even the Pet Rocks want that. Well, you know, I mean, they don't earn much. So, you know, they have to kind like, you know. You know, I have to say it's getting colder. So it's like beginning of October right now.
Speaker: And um i'm so I'm in that, like, I am officially now cold all the time. And so i am, you know, tucking in your shirts. My dad, when I was little, said that that keeps you warmer. And it does.
Speaker: And now I'm in that now for the rest of basically now through June, I will have a shirt tucked in at all times and socks and pants tucked into socks. It's like official. Right. i so you're I'm cold all the time. You're now in official full winter mode.
Speaker: Full winter mode. Just flick that switch. Yeah. Even though it's October, i can feel it. I'm just, I'm always warm. It's so warm outside. I know it is warm outside, but guess what? I was in my office the other day and the air conditioning was on and I was like, I'm sorry, we can't do this.
Speaker: It's October. I don't care. we just can't do it. It's the full summer's over, people. Get with the program. Get with it. Time for spooky season and scary movies. You know, Sean and I are going to watch Texas Chainsaw Massacre. Have you ever seen that? I have not. I'm not really a scary movie person.
Speaker: You're not? Okay. No. No. Okay. So I love a scary movie, and this apparently is the scary movie that inspired...
Speaker: All other scary movies. I've never seen it. Sean has seen it once and he was like, just watch the trailer. It looks insane. I mean, gory, but the gore happens off screen, but like you could still, and it's from the seventies and sort of like low budge. So we're going to go ah get some candy and watched. And at some point this weekend and watch this really scary, gory movie for spooky season.
Speaker: That sounds nice. That sounds nice. Ah, yeah. why right Well, what are we talking about today? Tell me. um Tell me. Tell you. Tell us all. Tell me everything.
Speaker: Oh, are we secretly sniffing each at each other? Which is such a weird, ah weird thing to think about. And when I came across it, I was like, okay, tell me more.
Speaker: Like how dogs do. Yeah. Yeah. Dogs are very good at sniffing things. In fact, some of them have a job to sniff things.
Speaker: I'm sure they have all their senses. Aren't all their senses like in their nose? Yeah, they have like really highly sensitive noses and ours actually don't do too badly.
Speaker: ah know everyone everyone thinks that we suck. Yeah. But actually we don't do too badly. We aren't like Ralph and Sandra because if they could smell, then then they could have a job at an at an airport.
Speaker: Right. And actually earn some decent cash and maybe... Better vacations Anyway Yeah So obviously You know like We can smell Things like perfume And like Some people's Shampoo Right Yeah And Laundry Detergent Yeah That kind of thing But it turns out That We can smell A whole bunch Of other things As well So my god Wait so when you say this You're being literal Yeah
Speaker: Oh, my God. I thought you were you were saying, like, do we sniff each other out? Like, do we sort of, when you meet someone, do you kind of suss them out? But you're being literal about it I'm being literal. Oh, we... li Oh, okay.
Speaker: there's an unconscious part. it says that there's an unconscious part of our brain... that is actually collecting all this other information about people that we're not really, that that we don't really think about because it's not really a unless someone actually,
Speaker: smells and you can smell them you know so as i said perfume you know or they or they haven't washed for a week or whatever so you you know like you can you can consciously smell stuff but there's this other hidden world of other stuff and i will give you an example Yeah, like a subconscious smelling? Yeah, so there's the handshake experiment. Okay. Right, which is it it goes back to like 2015, and researchers secretly filmed volunteers before and after they shook hands with with one of the people doing the experiment.
Speaker: Wait, they secretly filmed volunteers? Yeah. But the volunteers knew, so it's not secret. I see, see... What? Am I wrong?
Speaker: Well, see, this is something that you find when you when when you look at at research stuff, is that quite often what they'll do is is is is they'll go, okay, we need volunteers for this experiment, right?
Speaker: And these volunteers, they all turn up for thisit for this experiment and they do that experiment. But actually, what the people are doing, they're actually...
Speaker: Looking at something else. Got it. Got it. Okay. It's ah it's like a trick that they do. Yeah. they Yeah. All these subjects think that they're doing one thing and they're actually being looked at for something else. Got they're all there. Mm-hmm. Right? And they're being secretly filmed. Mm-hmm.
Speaker: And one guy is going around shaking hands with with everyone. And they found that people frequently brought their hands to their noses.
Speaker: Really? After shaking hands with them. Oh, my gosh. That's so interesting. Well, yeah so To smell him out.
Speaker: Right. And what they did find is, is you know, is is that it it tended to be someone of the same sex. So males, if that they yeah would sniff and another male's hand and female sniffer a another female you know and they And they also demonstrated that there were chemicals that were passed from one hand to another. Yeah. So there was something there to smell.
Speaker: Right. um But so there was something going on, but they they didn't go as far as to say what it was that that they were
Speaker: smelling and and what in in in in from what information that the that they were getting just that they were it was going on it was a thing that the the subconscious like way to almost like not judge a person but for lack of a better word to judge someone one Yeah, that' like there was some sort of information.
Speaker: Wow. I know, which which which kind of got me on to like this other thing of like, can you smell fear? You know, like that that expression.
Speaker: Well, this is really funny because as you know, i um today had someone coming over to repair something and sweet little Jake doesn't like it when strangers come over. So whenever someone comes over to fix something and a trainer told me to do this, I just have to put him in another room and he will just bark the whole time. And every time this happens,
Speaker: Sure enough, when that person leaves and I open the door up, to I put treats in the room and like toys, like I want him to be comfortable. It doesn't matter. I might as well not. I mean, he's like, he freaks out. And every time I open the door when the person leaves, I always say to Sean, I could smell his fear.
Speaker: I could smell Jake's fear. And I said that today while I was home alone today, but I said to myself that the repairman left and I opened the door. i had Jake and Sean's bathroom and I opened it and I could smell his fear. I yeah hate it. and So I think that's I don't know. Is that true with people? I don't know. But I've always said that about Jake. Is it?
Speaker: yeah Well, yeah, we can smell fear someone's fear. So, you know, like, so yeah. So, I mean, you know, re researchers have collected sweat from pi from people who are going through like fear and and and and and stress. And yeah, you know, like yeah when when people smelled that,
Speaker: There was like facial, you know, like they could, there was like a response, a physical response that you kind of got from it.
Speaker: Wow. I also think this is very interesting in the dating world because I remember when I was dating, I guess there were sort of three smell categories oh that that I noticed. I would notice if someone didn't smell at all. Okay. Neutral.
Speaker: Yeah, neutral. I would go in to say hello and greet them and give them like a hug or a kiss. Neutral. And you're going... ah You're neutral. Okay. I never noticed bad.
Speaker: So I guess there are technically four categories if you include bad. Thank God I never noticed bad. I would notice neutral. Nah. I would notice cologne. Okay.
Speaker: and then there was this one amazing, it was my favorite smell. And I remember this one guy had it. It was a mixture of like gum and a slight whiff of cologne, okay which I found so attractive because to me that says, i care about what I'm presenting to you.
Speaker: and i spritzed a dash of cologne on and I popped some gum because I wanted to smell good. And so I just found that very appealing. ah That was my favorite smell.
Speaker: Wow. you know what? It just reminded me of, ah you know, like there are certain perfumes or scents or colognes or or as you said, like a mixture of smells yeah that the the that will kill me.
Speaker: i will I will turn into a complete puddle if I smell them. And they're, and yeah, I was reading online about this, i know, quite a while ago, but but people would have the the same reaction. So it's... Kill you in a bad way? No, well, not well I'll come to it. So there's a particular, like a...
Speaker: A spray scent and it's like a a musk scent from a brand that was around in the 80s. I don't know whether they still make this but particular musk spray.
Speaker: but but But I had a like, but my, the the ah the girl who wore that hu back when I was teenager. A ah young man. Yeah. Right.
Speaker: um And I got was was my was my very first serious a relationship. If I smell that because she would wear that on on occasion.
Speaker: If I smell that I am dead. I am like that's it. I am. um I am. I am gone. Putty in someone's hands. I am. Right. It's like that's not the best.
Speaker: Right. Yeah. They say that that smell is one of those really strong, one of the strongest, what's it called? It can bring you back to a memory very in a very strong way. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker: So, yeah, no, absolutely. And i'm I am taken back to like 1984 whatever. the best? Well, no I wore this perfume.
Speaker: Now, perfume doesn't smell on me. i think this is a big thing with body chemistry, how some people like perfume or cologne, like really smells on them. I can like douse myself in it. And it I don't know, it just my skin like soaks it. up I don't know. I just doesn't smell on me. But except for this one perfume and I wore it for like 20 years and I really liked how it smelled and it always smelled on me and people a comment on it. Someone made one comment about it.
Speaker: that I didn't like and it ruined the scent for me. And it was a guy at a perfume store. So I think he was trying to help me, but i i said, oh, i this is the perfume I wear. I had it on my wrist and I i let him smell it.
Speaker: And I was like, do you have anything like this? Or I forget what my question was, but I put my my wrist to his nose to smell it and he goes, oh yes, cognac. I was like, this perfume I love and I've been wearing for 20 years. Now you're telling me it smells like cognac? Well, I can't wear it anymore. That's all I'm going to think about. So lately, I've been slowly trying to wear it again. Right.
Speaker: And so far, so good. I gave myself a break for like 10 years. And I'm hoping it doesn't still, I don't still think of that. So I've been wearing it like once a week.
Speaker: I mean, you know. I'm not quite sure whether I trust this guy's nose because every time i walk past a perfume counter area, it smells of like everything.
Speaker: Yes, it does smell like it. Right. It does. It's great. like it's How can you smell anything in in that air, in that bubble of perfume? You know what? I think you're right.
Speaker: I think you're right. I think you're right. And I'm going to not, I'm going I got to wipe this guy clean for my brain. Yeah. His nose is fucking nothing. I know. Who's this guy? Who's this bloody guy?
Speaker: This bloody expert nose when he's like, he's almost, he's almost drowning in in other people's right perfumes. Right. Anyway, so the last one thought was quite in interesting was um that we can smell tears.
Speaker: Oh, my God. That's so creepy. easy Well, yeah, this this one is a little odd. So, i mean, you so we kind of think tend to think of like tears as like sort of salty yeah water, right? Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah. um And actually, we we can't tell the did the difference between smelling tears and smelling saline solution, right? We can't consciously pick the two apart.
Speaker: Okay. But... um In 2023, scientists took some tears from... from from from ah They were specifically women's tears.
Speaker: Okay. okay And then they then they had ah they had men and they would sniff either the tears... you understand how creepy this is?
Speaker: Or the saline tears.
Speaker: solution Oh, my God. Okay. a Men sniffing like a jar of women's tears is like out of a horror movie. It is, isn't it? Yes. Okay. So they would smell the women's tears. Yeah. Right.
Speaker: And then the men would go and play ah a game to kind of measure how aggressive they were. Right? God.
Speaker: So what they found interestingly, or sadly, is that the guys who were exposed to the tears, so so they they just smelled the tears, there was like a 43% reduction in their ah they're in their ah aggressive behavior.
Speaker: Oh. So Because they felt compassion? Right, so even though they couldn't smell the the difference between tears and saline solution, somehow in their brain yeah they could smell it and and actually read reduced...
Speaker: Well...
Speaker: aggression by quite a lot 43 that's kind of crazy say if i wasn't so horrified by this creepy story i would be moved by it but i'm little horrified because i'm just picturing a bunch of men opening like a jar of women's tears and like smelling them right but i mean you know i just think sort of evolutionary yeah right we obviously like know if It felt like women had to had to cry to reduce male aggression. Right. And that was part of the system of it.
Speaker: That's wild. It is wild. It is wild. it is It is wild. Oh, my God. Yeah. And then the last thing I what would just say is like, you know, if anyone can jump in the comments, but, um you know, like some some some people find some smells like really off-putting.
Speaker: Yeah, of course. And some people can kind of smell odd things like, you know, like they can smell, don't know, they can hear electricity, elect electricitys but I think someone said that they could smell it as well, but maybe it's just the dust on the thing. But, you know, like there are there are certain, some some some people have a real reaction to certain.
Speaker: Yeah, to certain smell, of course. Smells. and then And then, you know, like if you're if you have ADHD, that can be a very distracting thing. So for example, if they smell like, was it con cognac and but but but bubble gum or something, or, you know, like, yeah or in my case, musk. If someone just walked past me with like musk,
Speaker: nineteen eighty s musk on them that's like that that my brain will just oh totally shut down i have a friend with um who wears this great perfume of course she looked she loaned me some um and it didn't smell on me because nothing smells on me but occasionally i'll pass someone on the street or in the supermarket wearing that perfume and it just always reminds me of her and i'll text her and i'll be like I'll be like thinking of you. i just passed on with your perfume. So it could be a nice, yeah, it could be like a nice thing.
Speaker: Yeah. Yeah. There we go. So there's a couple of things there. I know that, you know, there's, there's also a bunch of other things that we can smell a disease. it So, so, you so, you know, like dogs can smell cancer.
Speaker: oh i've heard that right and they can smell like we yeah yeah yeah i mean oddy we so um our dog eddie we would like watch him because if he was like not interested in my wife at all like he would just kind of switch off it was like oh wonder why that is what can he smell And would she just, would it be she was sick or something? Like she had a cold or something? Well, I mean, she she did have to go to surgery, right? Like, you know, last year. right. Yeah.
Speaker: And is that when he lost interest? So you can kind of like, yeah. I mean, it kind of tallies. It kind of tallies him.
Speaker: That is wild. By the way, she's happy and healthy now and we're very grateful. But wow. so you So when you were talking about, you know, you said, you know, this week I want to talk about like sniffing each other out.
Speaker: reminded me of this experience I had with, um I don't know if you've ever felt like this. what Have you ever seen the movie, The Truman Show?
Speaker: Yes. Okay. I, well, I guess for those who don't know, the Truman Show is, um it's Jim Carrey and he plays a man whose life is being filmed as if it's a reality TV show, but he doesn't know it.
Speaker: Right. And um there is... this. Sometimes I feel like am I on the Truman Show? Because do you know, and for anybody listening, if you pay attention to your surroundings, when you're out and about when you're walking down the street in the village you live in, like, do you notice like sometimes you see the same people?
Speaker: Right. And sometimes I'm like, am I on the Truman show? And this person is a paid extra, just like walking around pretending that they don't know who I am anyway. Right. um One of my, the little extras in my life is this um like older man.
Speaker: And I see him a couple times a week in in the town where I live and he, and I think his wife and some other friend um walk their dogs. Uh-huh.
Speaker: and ah And I was like, oh, this guy, he's a little extra in my life. And then something happened and it made me hate him. And I know he's an old man, but I don't care. to hear what it was? Yeah.
Speaker: Tell me how you feel about this. Okay. He, so I see him when I'm on my way to the train to go to my office, which is through the town I live in where all the stores are. It's like a a little main street.
Speaker: He let his dog pee on one of the like beautiful ceramic planters outside of one of the stores and now I don't like this guy I don't think I don't think that's right because I'm thinking someone paid for that plant the owner of that store probably paid to have this like beautiful planter and now there's dog pee all over it And that just made me like, really, I don't like that.
Speaker: i mean, am I being judgy? Is this what it's like when like a mom judges another parent? Like, that's what i i was like, am I that person? But don't let your dog pee on the curb. well Like, what's so difficult? I don't understand. The dog lifted his leg and just pissed all over this thing. and I was like, I cannot believe, like, that people let their dogs pee and poop on, like, everything.
Speaker: My dog, my sweet little Jake, is a nut job, but at least he pees on the curb or, like, where you're supposed to. He's not peeing on someone's planter. What are your thoughts? Right. How big was the dog by by the way? Cause that actually makes quite Not that big.
Speaker: Like Jake's size. Jake is like 18 pounds. But the pee was not just... ah The dog, I'm not kidding, lifted like and like sprayed his pee like all over the side of this planter. It was not just on the bottom.
Speaker: Yeah. I mean, generally, yeah, no, let's not do that because, you know, it's going to smell and people get me in and out of that store. And it's like, oh, come on.
Speaker: And you're like ruining someone's property a little bit. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. it's yeah In my opinion, I don't know. some i mean like I mean, like, now I think about it, like, has has Eddie ever peed on something that he really shouldn't have because I wasn wasn't paying attention. I was on my phone probably. Okay. um But, yeah, generally, yeah, don't yeah that that's not a – I mean, like, sometimes it's by accident. So I was in Home Depot, which is like a sort of a large home improvement store. Yeah.
Speaker: And I took Eddie in because i cant i can't remember why, but but um but he was in with me. And then he started to pee on the bloody, he just like. So what did you do?
Speaker: I mean, so embarrassed. Did you walk away? What did you was embarrassed. You walked away, Martin. Oh, my God. did you walk away? I don't know what I to do.
Speaker: It's like, oh, good no, stop it. Oh, God. I can't believe you. Let's just get out. All right. this get outside This is a no judgment zone. I mean, except for other people. But we don't judge each other. i can't judge you.
Speaker: You're a friend and I cannot judge you. Well, okay, look. The...
Speaker: I can't believe it. Okay, go. The difference between me and that other old guy, so me old guy and the other though any other old guy, is that I was horrified. Okay, at least you had a decency to be horrified and and run away. and right In my defense, i tried i I knew it was like a possibility, so I tried to get to pee outside, you know, like way out into the parking lot before yeah ah went in the store.
Speaker: yeah And I felt like he was safe. But there was obviously something on the floor or something where he just went... And he just started to pee. So, you know, I tried to prevent it and I was horrified. So, you know... At least you were horrified. Right.
Speaker: Some people really don't care. i was walking ah my dog with a friend once and she was walking her dog. And I don't know if this is... Really, be honest with me, if I'm being too sensitive... there was like a trash bag on the street or something. And she let her dog pee on the trash bag. And I was like, you're letting your dog pee on the trash bag? And she was like, it's a trash bag. But I was like, yeah, but someone has to handle that later. Like a garbage man is gonna come pick that up. So don't do that.
Speaker: Am I just, am I rigid? No, no. Would you let Eddie pee on trash bag? No, generally not, because I think someone's going to pick that up. Someone has to handle that. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker: All right. yeah Is this what it's like when people talk about their children? If someone listening to this doesn't have pets, oh, well, we listen to you talk about your children all the time. Mm-hmm.
Speaker: That's me being a little snarky. All right. So should we go to you? Am I being unreasonable? Absolutely. All right. Just hit that button.
Speaker: All right, here we go. little them all right, come on. Oh, you know what? Remember I was saying some people deserve promotions, you know, for the town council? oh yes yes, yes, yes, yes. We have a listener. We have Alexandra, who's the deputy mayor. Yes. We have another listener, also Alexandra, but I she goes i think she goes by Alex.
Speaker: Okay. And um she's a therapist and she is a big fan. All right. I think we could promote her. All right.
Speaker: To the, cause she's a doctor therapist. I'm thinking the secretary of health and human services. Okay. You know what? know Let's, let's, let's, let's, all right. So you're going to put her, at her in.
Speaker: So, um all right. So next week we'll, ah we'll, ah I think we'll have a, have a, Yeah. All right. So she's consideration. She's up for consideration. And ah this person, Tara, I know also listens to every episode. So I'm just going to read what she says. We could talk about if she's, you know, she's on the town council. But this is this was what she wrote him.
Speaker: She said, I can't stand people listening to music or watching videos on their phone in public without headphones or even people who bring a speaker onto public transportation for music. There is no justification for this.
Speaker: None. Right. Is Tara being unreasonable? It's like it like the 80s when the when the when the boom boombox yes And then suddenly it was a new thing.
Speaker: Like before then, the whole like listening to music when you're on the bus or something wasn't ever a thing. And then the... Wait a minute. Wait, is that true?
Speaker: Yeah. like Wait a minute. People would really, like, seriously? What? which which Which bit of that? I mean, I feel like, yes, in the 80s, people had their boombox and and and you're like, let's say, like on the street and a bunch of people are hanging out. But yeah but are you saying in the 80s, people would go on to like public transportation? like Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker: That's insane. I didn't know that was like ah an actual. Right. you're You're saying someone would go into public transportation with their Walkman, let's say, um or with the intention of like listening to their own music, but they would play it on a speaker.
Speaker: Well, yeah, you know they would they would have the full boom box and then they would be listening to it. But like walking down the street? i always thought that was just something you saw in the movies, kind of. No. i mean, you saw it on the on the movies because that's actually...
Speaker: What happened in real life. What was going on. Yeah. yeah Yeah. Yeah. But um yeah. So when that whole thing started to kick off and there was if. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker: In fact, there was even to see even there. There was a Star Trek film. well Yeah. how would Star Trek films. Now come to think of it where they go back in time.
Speaker: Okay. To like, I guess it was the 80s and then there's some bus scene with someone with a jukebox and there's Spock. And Captain Kirk on there. And Spock does his little, afa I think he does his is it all like where' like like shoulder press.
Speaker: And then and then the then the guy falls asleep and everyone goes, ready i mean, I'm probably misremembering it. but But yeah, noise pollution. Oh, God, it it drives me insane.
Speaker: it just It just drives me insane. It is noise pollution. It's noise pollution. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, because now I'm just angry. I'm just angry. Could imagine being that person? Would you ever do that? Like, wouldn't your experience be ruined by the fact that, like, you knew deep down you were bothering people?
Speaker: Right. Yes, it it it would. It would. And I also think, you know, like when when people drive around with their car windows open and their music's really high, right?
Speaker: So obnoxious. i In my head, I'm thinking what they're thinking. They must be thinking, wow, i'm I am really educating these people on what good music is. yeah
Speaker: I've got good taste music and I'm going make sure that you know that in some way. It's so obnoxious. Anything where like you're in public and you and you have the nerve to like take over the space and you you're not respecting us's a shared space is so obnoxious. I remember I was in a Dunkin' Donuts once and it was small. It was really tiny.
Speaker: And there was a woman. that You could fit maybe four people in there at most. There was a woman. just talking so loud on her cell phone.
Speaker: And then some other woman was like a hero. and she goes, lady. mean, she literally was like like talking. Lady, we can hear your whole conversation.
Speaker: do you hear yourself? We hear you. She like kept going. And the lady kept talking on her phone. she didn't even care. But that woman who said, lady, I never forgot her. I was like, you're a hero to us all.
Speaker: What a great accent as well. I was very like New York yeah because New Yorkers are not afraid to say that kind of stuff. So i i you know, i just, I can't, it's like how we've been talking a couple times about like personal space. Like it's the same thing. Like, aren't you uncomfortable that you're making everyone else uncomfortable?
Speaker: ah ah guess that doesn't bother you, you know? i know right So what's your verdict here for Tara? and and That's just unreasonable. Come on. She's reasonable. Tara's being reasonable. Oh, yes. tas yes Tara is being yeah reasonable. Yes. Reasonable. 100%. Tara, agree.
Speaker: tara we agree Oh, yes, we agree. All right, let's just hit hit the very heavy and large post bag.
Speaker: Oh, my God, talk about the eighty s Post bag. That had a real 80s vibe. Yeah. Love it. Oh, we have a few, and so I can only just, like, ah touch on a couple of ones. Great. So, Deputy l Alexandra, that Deputy Mayor,
Speaker: um Last week, we were one of the things that we were talking about was like was like I would sit there and watch and watch celebrity chef shows.
Speaker: Yes. and and the And then decide whether the chefs had a good sex life or they had a bad sex life. Love this. um Alexandra, ah you know, in in her very obviously amazing um long comments in there. um So she was a chef.
Speaker: She was professional chef. Yes. yeah yeah yes I didn't catch that. She was. Oh, no. Oh, she didn't say that. Okay, you know that. yeah and i just I just know that. um So ah she's worked in kitchens and blah, blah, blah. So she knows what she's talking about.
Speaker: Okay. and and And there was this interesting little thing, which she said, usually male chefs have a pretty decent sex life. good for them.
Speaker: On the contrary, I have never met a female chef who was extra pleased with hers.
Speaker: Why do you think? I don't know, Alexandra. Alexandra, tell us. If you've got any any you got theories. Yeah. I'm fascinated by that.
Speaker: Well, listen, we were talking about Nigella on Bake Off, who we think has a good sex life. And I mentioned that Prue, the judge before Nigella, had an affair with her father's best friend and then married him. I assume they had a spicy sex life.
Speaker: right so So that's at least two that we can pretend that we know. Two females. So, yeah, i'm very curious. why know, right?
Speaker: hi Okay. Okay, we have ah at Julian Makes. He says, Amy is a great name. It makes me think of love. What? Amor. I didn't see that. What a nice thing to say. I know.
Speaker: i think it means, does it mean friend or something in front? Yeah. More. Okay. All right. yeah Thank you. Thank you. Yes. And he goes on, um but I'm going to just going just pull that, that bit out. Oh, he he says, I am, I am LDHD.
Speaker: Interesting to hear you both subbed. So thank you for hitting the subscriber button. Oh, subbed. Subbed. Is that lingo that I'm not aware of? Well, yeah, because, yeah. Okay.
Speaker: Well, because my mind first went to like a sort of a subdom thing maybe. my. Speaking of sex life. I know. bob yeah, because because it things I had just come off of thinking about chef's sex life. So I was in that frame of mind. I went, oh, yeah, no, no, no. he means got it love it thank you uh hey uh andy um who is my brother and he is uh he is the minister of photography yes um what does he have to say he said love amy's ghost mug so that's who said that yeah that's my brother
Speaker: Oh, I love that. You know, it's later. We're recording this later in the afternoon. So I already drank my coffee back when we're back to regularly scheduled programming next week. I will have that ghost mug. I got to tell you, little holiday, Halloween, whatever thing like that just makes me so happy.
Speaker: It's the little things. Thank you, Andy, for noticing. Yeah. And rather sadly, he ends it with, well, he says, I hate my name, always have. Oh, I did see that. I like that. I like the name Andy, Andrew. Either one is great.
Speaker: So we both, so basically me and my brother both hate our names. Yeah. There we go. You know, I'm learning a lot of people have a lot of feelings about their name. Oh, you know, yeah.
Speaker: Yeah. It's like one of those things. Like if you start talking about names. Oh, forget Everyone yeah is really, really and interested and has something say. I It's a very, it's it's a subject that no one talk talks about. but when I know.
Speaker: Everyone has thoughts. Yeah. Yeah. And then Laura, who's a, so thank you for your comments, Laura. You you started to type them out, which is amazing.
Speaker: um So this one was... um Talking about, you know, ah am I being unreasonable where we were saying small things that that your your partner does, you know, like leaving stuff in the sink or whatever that drives you insane?
Speaker: Yeah. She says, I think there's a big difference between things you don't like and things you can't live with. I know people who will who will never cohabit again, even if they get a long-term come commitment. Luckily, this is one of those things me and my partner can that ah can live with. Fussy things, but nothing that's a deal breaker.
Speaker: But I love the plastic middle finger. She said that? Yeah. How nice is that? don't know why I didn't see that. You know, i think there are some people who um are married and don't live together.
Speaker: And You know, they're all obviously all these different ways of doing things, but it is, if you think about it, it's it's an interesting thing. Like I remember when I lived alone and I lived alone for like 20 years and I come home and everything is just as I left it.
Speaker: And now I live with someone and I come home and things are sort of, even if it's a little messy, I'm like, Oh, all right. but Like, i I kind of like it, I think. Although when Sean's away and everything is just as I left it that's kind of nice, too. yeah I see both sides. I see both sides, right? Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah. Very interesting. I know. So, yeah, if you've got any comments about this show, them in the nose. If there is something where you think, am I being unreasonable? something happen to you?
Speaker: Yeah. Oscars. Also, I'm curious if of other people have ah quote unquote extras in their life. Like if they see the same people on the street. I'm not talking about like the person who works in the store you always go to. Because I feel like that's everywhere. But like, do you pass the same person every day? Like, I'm very curious about that. Like, do you, Martin? Yeah.
Speaker: ah Yeah, I mean, they take that they're also known as NPCs. What's that? Which is a gaming term. They're called non-playing carrot characters.
Speaker: so ah so so yeah So if you're playing a video game and it's populated by these people, people in it but they're not like but they're not part of the game they're just like in the background yeah right and so yeah so they're called nppcs and it's and it's it and it's interesting i've always thought how you know like people's faces It's like you're never you're not very often surprised by someone's face, right? You can walk around a supermarket and you can look at everyone's face and you're not really surprised by any. like Sometimes you might see someone has a very striking face in some way, but they're mostly in the same kinds of area. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker: And you can still pick them all out. Like you don't get confused that one of them is someone that you know. Yes. Like you still see them as individuals, even though they're very, very similar.
Speaker: my My mind is blown. And that's always like a weird yeah thing. Like somehow... How do we know? Yeah. Like, how do we understand? Wow. That's crazy. Yeah.
Speaker: That's crazy. mean, there's there's the opposite of that, which is, which is it's got a name like Sondar, which is every person. So you can walk down the street and you can see someone, right? Yeah. Who is like a little, a a NPC or ah or a just an extra.
Speaker: Right. And realize that they are the hero of their own film. They are the hero. And you're the extra. You're the NPC. Oh, my God.
Speaker: Yes, like we might. You're right. If we're seeing all these NPCs, they must notice us. And, yes, we're the NPC in their movie. Yeah, in their own film.
Speaker: My mind is blown. I love ending on this note. Whoa. oh Oh, my God. There you go. What a what what a good good place to end. So, yeah.
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