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Speaker: Oh, back in the room. Ah, back in the room. we're glad that you're here with us, um sitting on the on the couch. Oh, and yeah, there you go. And Jake, the the dog, is here. If you're watching on your YouTube, tu he's wearing a rather fetching fetching little... little hat Yes, I wanted to point this out. my um Sean's co-worker knits like matching hats for humans and dogs. So she made one for me. Looks very nice. Thank you. And she made one for Jake. Her name is Carrie Lewis.
Speaker: All right. You can DM me. You can kiss Carrie Lewis on Instagram. Good for the holidays coming up. It's a good prezzy. She'll custom make it for you. Look at that wig. You're squeezing in an ad advert. It's like she's like our first advertiser.
Speaker: i love that. All right. Well, let's go to a place where the distractions, the landmarks, and the detours are the main roads. Welcome to ADHDville with hats.
Speaker: With hats.
Speaker: It's almost time to wear my hat, but not quite. Maybe next week I'll get out my hat. And then I'll be in a hat for like six months. I support it. I fully support it. I love a hat. I freaking love a hat.
Speaker: Oh, anyway. Hello. My my name is is Martin. um What am I doing here? Oh, yeah. I was officially diagnosed with the combined poo-poo platter of ADHD in 2013 and my pet rock whose name I've forgotten.
Speaker: Ralph. That's right. Sorry, Ralph. ah my My pet rock suspects I have autism. um And I'm jo joined, as always, in season two by Amy.
Speaker: Hello. Hello. And Jake, my name is Amy. I'm slightly neurodivergent, fully neurotic, highly sensitive, have like a million sensory issues. My pet rock, I think I named her Sandra. Yes. Is very excited that...
Speaker: For those watching YouTube, it's fall. And I have my pink ghosty ah fall mug and all my fall stuff out. My Pet Rock is very excited about this. Sandra's excited. sad Yeah, because I keep thinking of Grease. Like, I remember the name because when you said your Pet Rock name is Sandra, was like, oh that oh, yeah, yeah.
Speaker: That's Sandra from Grease. Oh, Sandy? Sandy? Oh yeah. see Maybe it's just could be short for Sandra. It's Sandy. You're right. It could be short for Sandra. It's probably, i don't know. Is Sandy a full name?
Speaker: Sandy might be so yeah Sandra Bullock, Sandra Bullock. People of the actress. I've heard people call her Sandy. Right. Yeah. So, so Sandy from Greece could very well be Sandra. Yeah.
Speaker: Well, thank you. However, I did screw it up. I did get the reference entirely wrong. I own it. We make mistakes here and that's okay.
Speaker: ah Exactly. Yeah. ah All right. Well, this week um we were going to talk about, well, what what I wanted to talk about, which I thought was hilarious, is yeah o do chickens think you're hot? Yes.
Speaker: Fascinating. I'm Firstly, I guess, have you met a live check chicken? like Like, have you actually, you know, gone to one of these, like,
Speaker: farms that you can kind of visit and see a bunch of chickens around running around is this is this a thing that you've seen i'll tell you what i think i went to a farm on a school field trip when i was five projectile vomited in the car on the way home my mom made my sister clean it up and then like like three weeks ago my mom was like and by the way we never got that smell out of the car
Speaker: um That's my one experience. And I do not remember meeting a chicken because I think i was i i was overwhelmed by like the smells and that's why I threw up. so Wow. Yeah. Wow. um But.
Speaker: i am sorry to kind of bring up a childhood trauma so early. We're like four and a half minutes in. Oh my God. No, I think now if I just met a ah chicken alone, not on a farm. Right. Well, I guess they are on a farm. One-on-one. One-on-one. one one on one i could could maybe do one-on-one. I don't know if I could do like a group.
Speaker: But um have you met a chicken? I mean, have you, because you can like feed them and stuff. Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, I've i've i've met many chickens in my life. You have? um Yeah. How? I mean, I haven't got of gone out on on on dates with any of them. Right. just saying. You just have gone on dates with chicks.
Speaker: Chicks. Chicks. but um
Speaker: My mother, she, for many years, her idea of of the ideal vacette family vague vacation was we would go to a farm out in the countryside, down in like Cornwall.
Speaker: Okay. Generally. Okay. So we would all trot off to the farm, and it but it was a working farm, and we had to work on the farm.
Speaker: What? I mean, wasn't like... That's not a vacation, is it? It wasn't like a full day of, like, a slave labor where you pay the farmer to work. To work.
Speaker: However, like... What it would be would be we would get up at the crack ass of morning and go and get the cows in um And we would do that in the in the evening as well. There would be cow things that we that we were expected to do. But that is work to me, getting up at the crack of dawn.
Speaker: Yes. ah You can't even sleep in on your vacation? On your own vacation. And there were chickens okay generally um as part of of of of this. So they were there.
Speaker: um i mean, I went backpacking around Cuba and there were always chickens running around there. in the wild?
Speaker: I mean, just like, well, because people would would have them. yeah So like you know in my grandparents' generation, they would have – going through wartime, they would have chickens so that they could get their eggs rather than buy them at the store. If you had a if you had your own if you had if you had your own chicken during World War II, you got more eggs. Right. And then you could eat the chickens. Yeah. So there were a lot more –
Speaker: prevalent and I would also you know I would go to farms they would be around but I never noticed that any of them thought that I was hot that thought would not cross my mind either right right I'm not thinking do you think that I'm hot all right yeah or not chi or not yeah chicken edition yeah so right So where this comes from is there was some research done where they got a bunch of photos of conventionally attractive people. right
Speaker: ah hope yeah of them I don't know if he was in there. Okay. Maybe Sandra Bullock was part of that. a b Could be. Maybe Sandy from Grease was in there too. I have no idea. Both very attractive, by the way. Both very attractive. Maybe there was, you know,
Speaker: Brad Pitt, George Clooney. Oh, this is like, these are very, very, very attractive people. I guess. Yeah. I guess they got some attractive people. Okay. um Probably not actually thinking about it. It was probably just more people that you don't know. Okay. But anyway, they showed them to humans, right?
Speaker: in ah in amongst are loads of mid-looking people and some you know not a some conventionally less attractive people, right? So a whole range.
Speaker: And then humans would pick out the people they thought were hot, were good-looking. Wait, say this again. there was like a lineup of people. is that what you're saying? Yes. And then a lineup of chickens? Yes.
Speaker: and No, no, no. So there were some human beings. Okay. They were shown photos okay of people's faces that would range from very, ah very attractive all the way to kind of like on the unattractive. Okay. Okay.
Speaker: um and the humans had to pick out which ones they thought were attractive, and they did. So they had a bunch of people that generally people thought were ah were ah ah ah attractive. And this,
Speaker: I mean, like and I think that it's been shown generally worldwide that people do generally find the same facial yeah things as being, you know, like,
Speaker: Generally, people are attractive the world over, it seems. And then they got a bunch of chickens who were trained yeah to have a to have a preference.
Speaker: Trained to have a preference. Okay. Right. So the things that they liked. And they thought were the things the that, so they were trained to show their preference, right?
Speaker: Okay. And they showed them all the same photos and they roughly picked out the same group of people as the humans.
Speaker: How did they pick them out? They like pecked at them? I'm not quite sure what their methodology was. Yeah. Only that the result was was that chickens tended to find the same people hot that we did. sounds like That's crazy.
Speaker: It is when you think about it, isn't it? Yeah. So chickens like... hi can um they're almost like similar to us. Well, right yeah, because because because what it suggests is that there's a part of brain underneath you know what we think of as as attractive in people, almost like a sort of a much earlier version of our brain that kind of finds...
Speaker: Facial, that there's beauty, if you like, or or attractiveness in certain physical qualities. Yeah. like Like, so it doesn't really matter...
Speaker: if you're a human or a or or a chicken, we we tend to find the same things ah same things it attractive to. So, of course, then I went, well, you know, so if it's about what the brain or the nervous system or whatever thinks is attractive, because if you're neurodivergent, we have slightly different brains. Yeah. Do we think that?
Speaker: Other people, don does that apply to us too? Right, right. And I went down a bit of a research rad rabbit hole, just to cut the long story short. yes.
Speaker: it doesn't really matter. We tend to find the same people sorts of people that people attractive as well. I mean, that's interesting because everyone definitely finds different things attractive about people.
Speaker: But I feel like what this experiment is saying is like, the fact is some people are attractive and some people aren't. Whether or not like you like green eyes and someone likes brown eyes, that's sort of like a preference.
Speaker: Right. But what this is saying is like, a fact is a fact. Right. that That there is this sort of underlying...
Speaker: thing where we find the same sorts of things be physically sort of beautiful. Now, I mean, yeah, because when you layer on sort of attractiveness, that's a whole other bunch of stuff. That's like, you know, it could be like how someone, how someone dresses, what their attitude is, whether they've got tattoos.
Speaker: tattoos or the hairstyle or makeup or what you know but like this what they smell like i mean like there's so many other things that get bundled into whether you find someone someone attractive or not so so that part of it that kind of underlying physiological brain thing is just yeah it's just an interesting thing underneath all of that but that doesn't that's not everything that's not right that's not the chickens don't know that they're just looking at like a picture yeah that's like
Speaker: But that's kind of, if the chicken didn't find me attractive, I feel like I'd be offended. you know? Right? I would. I would. Me too. I, I, yeah.
Speaker: And then someone would go, it's just a chicken. It doesn't matter. But if they found me attractive, I'd be like, oh my God, see? The chickens are, like, it it's very interesting. You know what? That is so interesting in in interesting because it's just like Paul and I were at a party.
Speaker: aha um So we had a, one of our friends was was gay and he was holding holding a party and he said, look, come along guys, but everyone there is gay, right? We went, we don't care. We're just going to go and have a good time. This is cool. And we went and we had a really good time.
Speaker: And I can remember thinking, i remember thinking, um what if these some of these people don't think that I'm attractive? like Yeah.
Speaker: Even though, even though. the It doesn't, you're not gay. Well, yes. Yeah. So even though it made no difference, I was like, i haven't been hit on all night. yeah.
Speaker: I get it. haven't been hit on. Why? Am I am i ugly? like Maybe they knew that you were straight. You know what? i I think probably they... Yeah, they knew they had no chance.
Speaker: I was probably giving out, like, all these straight cues from what I was wearing right and how I sounded and everything. I was probably screaming like a straight...
Speaker: straight guy vibes right yeah a hundred percent but i you know but i get it because you're like i can't like i want to be hit on even though even though nothing will happen i get it i think you are probably screaming straight guy with your energy Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. yeah Thank you.
Speaker: Yeah. Okay, so. That was it. That was it. so That was it? Yeah, so the they there there we go. So if a chicken doesn't find you hot, I think, yeah, don't take it too personally. Not too personally. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But if they do find you hot.
Speaker: Yeah, take it. Take it. Yeah, yeah, take it. Okay, so speaking of birds. Uh-huh. I had this incident happen last week that I like couldn't get over. Okay. So basically,
Speaker: oh So I work in an office building for people who don't know, like New York city, there's midtown Manhattan. Obviously that's in the middle, the upper West side, the upper East side, obviously that's far away and downtown. So I work in midtown Manhattan in an office on the 20th floor.
Speaker: pigeons like to shit all over our windows and window ledges. It's disgusting. And they make noise. It's like so gross. So I come into work the other day and instead of the usual pigeon, my coworker is like, oh, there's like like a bird sitting on the windowsill and it's not a pigeon. And I looked and my coworker like looked it up. It was a starling people who know about birds. Okay. And it looked like it could have been like stuck maybe in the corner of like where the window is. So another coworker, like I was like, I think it's stuck. And another coworker like opened the window and the bird kind of like wriggled out.
Speaker: And then we closed the window and I thought, okay, the bird's going to fly away. And it didn't. And it sat in that same spot for like two hours. Right. And it was like closing its eyes. And like, i was like, I know, I was like, I think something's going on here. Yikes.
Speaker: I called the building and there's this handyman who I'm friendly with. And I and he came up and I was like, I am not asking you to like do anything here. But has this ever happened? Like, what's the protocol? I think this bird is injured. Right. and It's just like hang it literally like hanging on the window. Now, the handyman who's just like tough guy and like he had this other guy with him. And the handyman's like, I mean, i don't know. I think he's going to fall. He's going to go bye-bye. Like, we don't – I don't know what to tell you. and I came all the way up here for this. I know. I was like – But then the other guy, i said, do you have any pets?
Speaker: And he says, yes, and my dog just died. And i was like, oh, my God, I'm so sorry. But I got to him. i said, can you imagine seeing your dog like this? Like, I – Yeah. Yeah. And he was like, well, and he like looked on his phone. There's like a New York City wildlife emergency service number you can call. right gives me the number.
Speaker: i I call, I leave a message. They text me back. They tell me to join a Facebook group where someone will come and get the bird. So I i try to join the group. I can't join because they have to approve. So I'm like, well, I don't have time to wait for them to approve. right What's my next step? so so that it's It's an emergency. So then the I'm texting the person. She gives me another number to call.
Speaker: Meanwhile, I work with mostly men and they like, I don't want to be, they could not have cared less. And I was like a little annoyed, but I also understand. They're just like, it's a freaking bird, but i I can't like see something who's clearly in distress and like ignore it.
Speaker: Okay. I call this wildlife number. The woman goes like this. This bird is really, this bird's life is in your hands. And so what you have to do is pick it up And I go with my bare hand. I go, I don't have gloves.
Speaker: You don't need them. Pick it up like a Nerf ball, put it in a box or a bag with holes cut out into it and take it in a cab to the Upper West Side to our office.
Speaker: Okay. Which is like 20 minutes away. And I was like, are you out of your fucking mind that you're expecting me to do all this? Like I'm trying to do the right thing. Grab a diseased bird probably with my bare hands like a Nerf ball and find a box with holes in it? I don't have a box. I'm in my office.
Speaker: So then I said, oh I thought like... um Someone could, I don't know, come pick it up. Like, isn't that the point of this organization? I didn't say that part, but and she was just like, no, we don't do that.
Speaker: So i was like, what? a ah oh I don't understand what I'm like. I have to leave work. My boss is going to think I'm crazy. i have to leave work, open the window and grab the bird with my bare hand. Like what? And so I was like, it was like really I was just sort of in a tizzy about it. I went to lunch to go think about it. And then when I came back, the bird wasn't there.
Speaker: And of course, nobody saw it fly away or whatever it did. I don't know. Right. So then I felt terrible. And I emailed the bird place just to say, like, thank you for helping. I don't know what happened to it.
Speaker: Thinking I'm like, I'm out of the situation. They write back. Did you see where it went? Uh-oh. I'm like, what? Now I have to go look for this thing? No. i said we We work above a construction site. So I don't know what happened. But I guess my point is, is that I was trying to do the right thing.
Speaker: and like, I just felt like, ah very torn. You're kind of stuck. Yeah. Like, do I leave my office in the middle of the day and spend $30 on a cab, $30 only one way only on a cab to this place with like a wild bird.
Speaker: i mean, what do I do? And so I felt very, um, in my highly sensitive person, like element or whatever because i think for quote-unquote normal person they wouldn't think about it i thought about this bird did the bird fall is it dead did it know we were trying to help like i get really like um my compassion for other beings really goes into overdrive right yeah yeah yeah and then it when it starts to conflict with
Speaker: Like, I have a job here. I have i've got i can't ah can't just jump in cabs and, you know, that's like a that's like ah an hour and a half right right right right there, that that there and back. Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah. What would you have done? ah Well, good. Well, you see, there's the version of me is like what I would have liked to have think that I would have done. Exactly.
Speaker: which is i would have gotten a box. I would try to put it in a box and I would put the box somewhere out of everyone's way. And then maybe after work, I would have gone, but then their office would have been shut. and So i'm not i may have ended up having to take it home. And i would have been like learning how to feed bloody starlings.
Speaker: And then I would have raised it as my own kid. i know. Like, it's like you want to think you're going to do that, but... Right. Yeah. And it's, yeah. and so so I mean, like, yeah, I would have just felt, up in reality, I would have probably felt really bad and concerned and then hoped it was going to get better. And it was just having a rough day as most people in New York do. That's true. You can have a very rough day in New York City. and then route and then rally itself and then go off and then watch it fly off and go and, you know, try and steal someone's slice of pizza. Right.
Speaker: So ah do like it does remind me of this other sort of, and this might make you feel better, I think, in a roundabout way. Okay.
Speaker: Because it is ah it is a slightly other, like, um it is a another horrific story in a way. so um So...
Speaker: I, this was like, I think I was at art college at the, no, I had, I had left home. All right. Yeah. So I had left left home. There was my mom. She had a dog and ah she was out walking, walking said dog. Okay. Yeah.
Speaker: Dogs, actually. um And she came across a baby bird that had fallen out of the nest and was on the pavement, sidewalk. She was like, oh, I've got to take care of this thing now. Right. So she picks it up, oh takes it home, right, builds a little nest for it kind of thing. Oh, my God. Like, you know, feeds it with a teat pipette and all of that stuff.
Speaker: um And it it kind of grows up over over the weeks, right? And I even think... Weeks? She had it for weeks? Oh, yeah. I mean, like, this this this was a tiny bird, right?
Speaker: Oh, my God. Tiny bird. So she kind of raised it up. and then um And I even think that my brother may have had it for a little bit. What? Okay. When she went on vacation...
Speaker: vague memory that that may have happened yeah and then and then the the day came when she was gonna let it go into the backyard you know so she was gonna let it fly fly oh my god the story okay And she goes into the into the backyard, yeah um opens the box, lets the the bird um i
Speaker: get its little self together, and then it flies off. Right? And it flies around to the other side of the house where the dog is, and the dog just goes. What?
Speaker: And that's the end of the bird. The dog ate the bird? Yeah. Oh, your dog? Her dog? Her dog, yes. Oh, my God. That's insane.
Speaker: you could have taken the bird home and spent all this time and effort on it, which is a very, you know, it no noble. Yeah. But you don't necessarily know what the outcome's going. I know. When it flies away.
Speaker: so how did she realize? Did she, like, go go to the front yard and to get the dog and, like, a feather was hanging out of its mouth? Is that what happened? Well, Because of like where, I mean, just because I know the house. Yeah. um It's, it would have been, she would have let it out out the the front door and then it would have gone and flown into the backyard. Okay. But they're almost like next to each other so you can see.
Speaker: okay, okay. So you can so the you can see from the front yard, you can see the backyard because it's, because the, Front door's on the side of the house, not the front of the house. It's on the side of the house. So, you can you can so yeah, you can you can watch the horror ah unfold in front of your own eyes. Well, your mom did the right thing. Yeah, did the right thing. Holy cow, what a story. I know. Anyway, right, let's go to... Yes!
Speaker: Are you being unreasonable? Let's hit that button. Hit that button. If I'm being unreasonable... Okay. your your Your turn. My turn.
Speaker: This is a a touch different. I'll explain. Okay. So we have two people. yes We have Alex who writes, I hate when people walk in my house with shoes on.
Speaker: i hate water left splattered around the sink. And I hate a wet sponge that's not wrung out. All right. hina writes, I hate when people tear open bags like a savage. Use a scissor.
Speaker: So I think in general, what we're talking about with these two, these two women are the little things that like your spouse or your significant other that you live with does that drive you insane. And where's the line between reasonable and unreasonable?
Speaker: Oh man. Oh, you see the, the whole The whole premise of this is like, there is no line between reasonable and unreasonable. It's either this or that.
Speaker: I think it's all unreasonable, even though I have so many things. No, like I feel like I have so many unreasonable things that I can't stand. Right. and Or so many things I can't stand.
Speaker: And I'm being unreasonable because let the person live. But however, like when when Alex says, i hate water splattered around the sink, I don't blame her. Right. It's tough.
Speaker: Right. Yeah. it's It's like leaving the toilet seat up. Right. It's like, I mean, the things that and and not and none that that that kind of like irk me, I guess, is... yeah You know, like cereal boxes when some but someone has cereal and they like pour the cereal out and then they don't scrunchie it up. Yes. The insides up Yes.
Speaker: And do that. Right. Then that... irks me because cornflakes that keeps it fresh right because cornflakes goes soft really quick and at some point I know I'll go oh I really want some cornflakes for example and then I'll pour them out and they're like yeah these have gone stale yeah yeah so it's like what what are we supposed I don't know what we're supposed to do. I think we all have to like get over.
Speaker: i don't like crumbs. I see crumbs on the counter all the time. I just have to not say anything because it's like I want you you live with someone and it's their home.
Speaker: If they don't wring out the sponge, if they open the bag like a savage, I guess we just have to like shut up and not say anything. Well, because like who among us does things that or or doesn't do anything exactly that anyone. we We all have our own little things. So are you being unreasonable? No, you're not being unreasonable being irritated by the other person. um ah
Speaker: Should you... um pick up the crumbs and throw them in their face ah probably not although you might have the urge to um You know, Sean and I developed a system for this. All right.
Speaker: I highly recommend it to people. Oh, I like this. Here we go. Taking notes. Take notes. Crumbs. It's usually because I'm quite neurotic and nobody can live up to my insane standards. He's usually the one that commits some sort of offense, right? Right.
Speaker: he, if he pours a smoothie out in the sink, this is an example. He doesn't just pour it down the drain. He pours it down the hole in the whole sink. So the whole sink looks disgusting. I can't complain. He made me a smoothie.
Speaker: So I'm not going to be like, so instead we, we we bought, we have a little um plastic middle finger that we got at like a card store. And whenever he commits one of these offenses to avoid a fight, I will just leave the middle finger like on the sink.
Speaker: Oh, wow. Or in said place of the offense or next to the crumbs. And then next time he walks by, he sees it and he knows that he did something wrong and he fixes it and it avoids a fight. And we're all good. And then the the little middle finger hand just goes back to where it's home. Back in its original. Sometimes he doesn't put it back in its original. Oh, that's what annoys me. I know.
Speaker: So I just have to get over for that too. You need second middle finger.
Speaker: I know. know. But I complain. just have to swallow it and be like, But... but but it avoids or it not only avoids a fight but like it kind of makes us laugh he'll be like why did I get the middle finger and I'm like because and then it's like a funny thing so I sort of feel like if you can maybe have a sense of humor about it that could help right oh my god that is I love that that is amazing So Alex and Tina, I guess we both think you're be being reasonable. Yes. However, I think that turning these little acts, these little things that happen into some sort of evidence that the other person hates them.
Speaker: Right. Like, oh, my God, you hate me because, you know, you've you've not cleaned out the sink. You know, like that is evidence that you hate you hate me. Like that.
Speaker: Yeah, no. that that Yeah. That's it's going a little far. Let's not do that. Let's not turn that into an evidence of of our relationship and right all that or something to do with me. Yeah, no, you don't you don't have to kind of take it that far. I heard ah someone say once,
Speaker: don't let your roommate problems turn into relationship problems. All right. Yeah, yeah. And I feel like that's a good way to look at it. Yeah, I know. I love the whole middle finger thing. Yeah. That's pretty awesome. I love it. All right. Well, let's hit the post bag.
Speaker: Post bag. Post bag. Post bag. love it. Whoa. That's so weird. love it so much. You know what? You know what I think's happened is that I've uploaded the wrong file.
Speaker: Oh. ah thought I think that's why. However, I'm going to keep it as I like it. because this It's just so odd. I love it. I like it. Keep it.
Speaker: I know. All right. Well, um <unk> on YouTube, ah someone by name of... I think it's like C Seriously.
Speaker: YouTube, okay. I think that's how you pronounce it. was ah Made a comment on the episode on... Season 2, episode 2, think, if I remember rightly about. And we were I was talking about how dogs, like, um you know, like, they don't really yeah look they don't we have much. They don't show much of the whites of their eyes, unlike yeah humans. we we we we we we We show a lot.
Speaker: And this person said that dogs show the white of their eyes to show anxiety. Aww. So... There you go. so I guess. Something to. Okay. Or they're just looking at some squirrel out of the corner. Yeah. there i Yeah. I feel like there are a lot of things dogs do.
Speaker: Like when I had a dog trainer who was like, your your dog yawns and that means they're anxious all the time. Maybe sometimes he's just yawning. i don't know. They can't tell us.
Speaker: Right. Right. You know, okay. All right. Noted. is something to note. And next time you have, if you have a dog, you see the whites of their eyes, you can decide what the context is and see, oh, maybe they're anxious or maybe they're looking at a bird.
Speaker: Right. And i'm about to eat it.
Speaker: Nice callback. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. All right. ah Alexandra writes. Deputy Mayor Alexandra. oh Thank you. Deputy Mayor. That's okay.
Speaker: I'll always remind you. I need that. I need that reminder. Yeah. um Yeah. So one of the one of the funny things that she was talking about was...
Speaker: was um how when she was younger and we were talking about like personal space and and how if if if there was food on her plate that she didn't like she would just literally just go over to her mum's plate and then just like yeah with a knife just like kind of like just offload it yeah onto her mum's that was like and then that solved all of her problems until one day um her mum said no.
Speaker: Right. Do not offload your food onto my plate. And apparently she was like, she was shocked. Yeah. She was shocked. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker: which which i which i Which made me laugh. I liked that thought. Like one day your mum goes no and you go. She's like I've had enough. Yeah.
Speaker: What? She just changes like the dynamic in that way. She's like no more. Right. Yeah. And Alexander, young Alexander did not know what to do with that. I don't blame her. but Her world crashed around her. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker: and yeah and and she And she's still, as you said, that she was still shocked when it when it happens now, today, an I don't blame her. Yeah.
Speaker: As an adult. I don't blame her. See, I mean, like, that i I, where are you on, like, on, like, um,
Speaker: ah People taking stuff off of your plate. Hate it passionately. i don't like to share food. If you eat faster than me, I'm screwed. And you get more food than I do. i also don't... yeah i have very strong opinions. I don't like... um i don't like It makes me feel like I have to rush. Like I, I'll share something, but separate plates.
Speaker: I want to have my own experience and not worry about how much you're going to take. Yeah. I think I'm, I think this, this is a podcast episode oh but all by you chill but by itself.
Speaker: But where do you stand just for, for this conversation? Yeah, because it's interesting because, yeah, there is ah there there is a boundary around my plate. Oh, okay. she's like Which is like you can't come in with your little fingers and start stealing things. 100%.
Speaker: but You're right. There's a boundary. Right. There is a boundary. ah Do you and Tricia, is she free to take food off your plate? Yes.
Speaker: And that's because... of of quite a while of me ah being okay with that. But only very few people I will be okay with right just...
Speaker: not even asking and just taking something it off my plate. and And I will feel that kind of like that little jolt of yes of something. yeah but But I'm fine were with it, with with certain people. But I mean, but that is only certain people. Right. A very a very few.
Speaker: Few people. But yeah. All right. Well, it's i I think that's a kind of like a nice little um podcasty episode. Now, wait, I have one more thing. oh yeah. I have an obsession this week. It is my obsession of the week. And I'm hoping you can put a picture up of it.
Speaker: Okay. Now that it's fall, Trader Joe's, for those who live in the United States, has my favorite fall item. And I just have to talk about it for a second. I was just in there. i was just in Trader Joe's about, i don't know, an hour ago something.
Speaker: Oh my God. Okay. For the next time, it's when you want a really easy dinner. It's ah like a frozen dinner. It's called butternut squash lasagna. All you do is put it in the oven. You put it in and for like 45 minutes and it comes out and that's it. One thing is the serving. And it is like, it does not taste like a frozen dinner. Like, or you know how you get like a frozen mac and cheese or something? It is so decadent. It has like pumpkin seeds and bechamel cheese and like squash breadcrumbs. It is so good. going to send you a picture. i just feel like it's my obsession of the week.
Speaker: Okay. I highly recommend it. if if If I'd known that an hour ago, I might have actually picked one up. Oh, God. Sean got me like four. I mean, I like buy them out because they're only out in autumn. It's like a really yummy, like, autumny tasting.
Speaker: right. Okay. I may. I am going back that way. So i may yeah i may I may get in. Maybe somebody. by Do you have an obsession of the week? I know I'm like putting you on the spot, but I'm just saying that's my, I'm obsessed.
Speaker: has Is there anything you're obsessed with this week? e No. With the new season of Traitors, maybe? Oh, yes. Yes.
Speaker: So that's... I'm not caught up. So I've... I'm about one... So there's two sees there's two episodes in the new American season that's up, and I've watched one and a half.
Speaker: um So I am... i am I'm getting into that. so good. um So, yeah. So we we will probably talk a little trade rate next week. So we'll just put that in the in the list. I mean, we won't spend eight ages on it because I know that not everyone watches it. But we do. And we we that's going be fun. And one of the traders, this isn't giving anything away, but one of them is from my home country of Long Island.
Speaker: There is, will say, lot of New Yorkers there. There are a lot of New Yorkers. Maybe that's why I like it so much. I like a lot of the, yeah. So that's an an interesting vibe.
Speaker: Yeah. um Because I'm not quite sure what, what why. Yeah, we're we're interesting. In a good way, in a bad way, who knows? But it's interesting. Right. Yeah. But it'd be interesting yeah it's interesting because normally the American traders has...
Speaker: ah tell celebrities are the the the people in the in the show, right? They get a load of influencers and YouTubers and reality stars from Housewives and whatever, Glove Island. But this season is ordinary people. Yeah. I didn't know if I'd be into it, but I'm so into it.
Speaker: I mean, yeah, because that's how the the British show started with ordinary people. And that's what I started out as. so And I like that. I kind of, that there is a different vibe.
Speaker: and Yeah, for sure. They're much more... They're less camera savvy and less aware of their brand than the celebs are. yeah so you say you So you actually get more human-y people and more human x hi experiences, yeah is which are rather than, you know, I'm trying to manage my brand while.
Speaker: vibes so yeah it's good it's all right perfect next week all right so perfect all right so next week uh what are we talking about i don't know oh no we don't say stuff we don't yeah yeah it's gonna be more interesting brain stuff and human being stuff and you know love it beautifully weird things for beautifully weird people oh i love it There we go. I like that. So that just leaves me to say that ADHDville is delivered fresh every Tuesday to what prefers a fine podcast. Please subscribe to the pod and rate us most beautiful.
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