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Speaker: like in the room and welcome to a special spooky edition of ADHDville. So let's go to a place where the distractions are landmarks and the detours lead to the spooky house on the hill.
Speaker: Welcome to ADHDville.
Speaker: It's spooky season all over the place and Jake has joined us in his Halloween costume. Nothing. dog suit. He's dog. A dog suit of himself.
Speaker: dog suit of of him of himself huh All right. So, well yeah, I'm glad you could join us. Same. ah I know, right? And if you're new, hit the subscribe button so you can ah we can haunt your in inbox every Tuesday.
Speaker: My name is... ah Martin, the slasher West. When I was diagnosed with a combined ADHD poopy platter in 2013, my pet rock Ralph, who is dressed as Frankenstein today, um he's just over there. He thinks I have autism as well.
Speaker: Cheeky little monkey. Oh my goodness. I am Amy... What am I? The ghost? Elie Azo?
Speaker: Neurodivergent, highly sensitive, totally neurotic. My pet rock is dressed in a costume that I wore for a million years, which was like a punk rocker. And I would i would um put like studs on my jean jacket and like, you know, pink hair and we make cool makeup. and But I wish i wish it it was a little more – I wish my parents made it a little more creative because it's like I kind of feel like they – They were like, i don't know what to do with you. But you see some of these costumes that these parents make and they're incredible. And my parents were like, I'll put on a jean jacket and put some studs on it. Like, I wish they like helped a little more is what I'm saying.
Speaker: Very involved. Yeah. not Not to go into like my whole childhood, but I'm just saying. Right. ah So Halloween. Yeah. Do you, I mean, that you are drinking from your from your pink ghost mug.
Speaker: Yep. So you're very much in the in the season. So is it is is Halloween a fun time for you, Amy? Now, can I tell you a little something about when I moved to the suburbs about Halloween?
Speaker: Go on. So I lived in New York City in an apartment for many, many years, like over 20 years. And they you could put your name on a list for trick-or-treaters to come. But I never did because sweet little Jake here would bark and it would just be like a disaster. When I moved to the suburbs, I had this whole plan.
Speaker: I was like, I live in the suburbs now. i'm gonna Jake will just stay inside. i will sit on my porch. I'm going to put on cat ears and I'm going to paint little like whiskers on. I'm going to have candy for the kids. I'm going to make a bowl of punch with like alcohol for the parents. And it's just going it was like this fantasy. And then I was like, you know, maybe I should like ask around and make sure that like that I live on a road where kids go trick or treating.
Speaker: Right. Trick or treating is like barely a thing anymore. Oh, no. Now they have something. I don't know if this happens in your neighborhood. It's called trunk or treat. Oh, yes. Where, yes, the kids go to like a parking lot and all the parents open the trunk of their car and have candy. And I guess it's like it's safer. It's not as like crazy with kids running all over the neighborhood. They're in a contained space. And so my little suburban Halloween fantasy was crushed and I get a little upset about it. Well, you know what? Around here, it's getting better year on year.
Speaker: okay yeah yeah do You get trick-or-treaters? Yes. You do? Oh, I'm so jealous. but and You should just come around our house then. Should I just come over? because I mean, really, I've never in my life, even when I was little, we lived at the end of like a really long driveway. Trick or treaters wouldn't come. I've never had a trick or treater. Is it fun?
Speaker: you can borrow some of ours. um what Yes, a it is. Or is it annoying? no, no. It's fun.
Speaker: It's fun. It is. Right. What happens? right what happens Tell me what happens. Oh, God. like I mean, like what? From the... No, I mean, we just have candy. They just turn up in a herd, usually of like three, sometimes like ah a big bunch of them.
Speaker: Yeah. And they come up and they're like, two we go read and you and then you hold out the thing and they take the candy out the thing and you oh, look at that, Princess Leia. Oh, look Spider-Wonky Spider-Man.
Speaker: Yeah. yeah yeah It's it's ah all good fun. fun Now, what happens like that evening? do you like what are you doing? Are you like, OK, we're going to like be ready for the trick or treaters. We're going to like sit on the couch, the bowl of candies by the door. And we're going to like, let's say, like watch a movie and know we're going to get interrupted every 20 minutes. But that's OK because it's fun.
Speaker: Yeah. Oh, okay. I don't know because I've never experienced this, but it just sounds so nice. It is. Yeah. All right. Well, let's crack into this. So my the my thought was yeah Halloween, it's really good because it's like you i like but before, it's older than Christianity. It kind of goes back a long way.
Speaker: But the kind of modern-day Halloween, like what what we're talking about, like, you know, ah candy, mayhem, trick-or-treat, the kind of ghosty-googly stories and all of that, is I kind of thought it's a bit of a neurodivergent thing.
Speaker: I think... Yeah. yeah Halloween, the the kind of modern Halloween, as we know it, is a neurodivergent invention.
Speaker: and his And historians prove me wrong. And I'm going to lay out my case. Yeah. ah Very, I mean, in in right. So the thesis.
Speaker: Right. of this is that the modern day Halloween is a monster creation of neurodivergent culture no bones about it from our gift of storytelling to to to to dressing up our connection to the weirder side potions and spooky insights rule breaking and mischief no tricks just treats we conjured up the modern day Halloween and frankly we slayed
Speaker: um ah You did. If this is then an invention, yes. I know that it's not everyone's favourite. Okay, go on. Because, I mean, just to kind of like just quickly cover off couple of things. One, ah getting your costume last minute is a nightmare. like yeah Because it requires pre-planning.
Speaker: Of course. And we're not great at the pre-planning bit. So we tend to panic at the last minute. And if you've ever been down to like Spirit Halloween that um or Party's Hitty, you know,
Speaker: You know, like the day before Halloween. Nightmare. It's lines around the corner. yes I used to work at Party City headquarters and so i worked for corporate.
Speaker: Okay. um and And they make, well, I think the company's now gone, but they used to make almost all of their yearly earnings on Halloween alone. No, really? It was like the biggest chunk of their business for the year. Wait, did they sell costumes?
Speaker: Yes. Party city? lot of costumes. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, i didn't know that. And so they tried to get, so every year they would get people from the corporate head office to work at the Halloween stores over Halloween. So we were encouraged to go and work there.
Speaker: Did you? No. ah thank i know. How'd you get out of it? I just didn't go. Oh, okay. You had a choice. Yes. There was a choice. They didn't make you go. Okay, okay. They didn't make me, but yeah. Did they say like, hey, go to the Halloween store. We'll give you time and a half. No.
Speaker: Oh. It was just go and help out in this mad, crazy rush. So, yeah. So, ah last minute Halloween costumes, nightmare. That's not great. Right. um hello ah Parties. If you don't really like going to parties, there were generally quite a few parties. Yeah.
Speaker: around that that that time. you know and you know And the whole getting the decorations is out, if you're going to do like a front yard thing with headstones and stuff, that it's all like pre-planning stuff and Halloween gets coached closer and closer.
Speaker: but But on the good side, yeah it is a really good time of year for neurodivergent people, weather-wise. It kind of cools down. Summer's not so hot. But it's not winter yet, and so it's not too cold. kind of like this this slightly chilly vibe. We can put the hoodies on.
Speaker: perfect it is It is a hoodie. There's nothing better. Yeah, it's nice. It's cozy. Yeah. Right. So my arguments for why this is a neurodivergent. So as we said, so Halloween has its roots in this Celtic festival called Samhain.
Speaker: called de son And it's like a like a time for, it's like the end of the summer, beginning of the winter harvest time. um It's a time of storytelling around the fire and this kind of idea of the of the veil between the two worlds getting thin, right? So so we kind of start to kind of get into that into that Halloween-y vibe.
Speaker: you know And, you know, ADHD is especially, but also neurodivergent, you know, like many neurodivergent people, storytelling is really strong with us.
Speaker: Meaning like people neurodivergent ADHD are good storytellers? Yeah. Oh, tell me why. no Not universally, but we do tend to be quite theatrical. Oh, We kind of like the kind of storytelling aspect. So if we're all, you know, if we're going back medieval times and back to like druid days, yeah you know, we would sit around a fire and we would tell a story and we would...
Speaker: make it exciting right and fun and we were told ghost stories so so we were the ones who who were kind of keeping that keeping those stories alive right and then you know it it it doesn't take too much of leap to kind of go oh you know what this story could do with costumes and Let's make some costumes. Yes. Oh, this makes a lot of sense.
Speaker: Right. Yeah. I mean, you know, and and there's also like, yeah. So, you know, ah I think, you know, that's so, so the kind of telling of the ghost stories and bringing the the spirits and and and, and, and also kind of like just that kind of slightly witchy side yeah that is That is very neurodivergent thing. I mean, you see it.
Speaker: i mean, I see it everywhere, you know, like witches, astrology, the, you know, tarot cards. It's all kind of like part of our culture.
Speaker: Now, do you like believe in that stuff? what um Like, do you believe if you were to get a tarot card reading, do you believe in that?
Speaker: Oh, no. See, that the interesting thing, if you'd asked me, i don't know, a year ago, I would have said no, I don't. Okay. ah Do I still think...
Speaker: Now, I actually have some, oh, it's over here. I'm just showing it to the camera. I have some um some Oracle cards, right? Okay.
Speaker: And these are just like, there's a whole deck of them. And you just kind of pull pull them out and like there are like fun illustrations on them. And is it you pull one out and it kind of set it sort of is like, but i like if you pulled one out right now, would it be telling you something about you today?
Speaker: Right. So let's do one for you, right? okay I'm going to do one for you for today, right? just to kind of like I'm i just going to pull one out. And I'll be honest if I think it's accurate.
Speaker: Right. Well, because this kind of deck is is really just, um um so I'm just going to hold it up. It says, it says, a don't spend time on it.
Speaker: Don't spend time on it Spend time in it. So that' sort of like there's you being fabulous, right? Uh-huh. i get the fabulous part, yeah. in the In the middle. So that is like card 31. You know what?
Speaker: What? I got to give that a thumbs down. i don't get it and I don't like it. Why don't we do one for you? Maybe you have to pull. Okay, go, go, go. I know. See how intense I got? Go ahead. I know, right? So it says reading and research will only take you so far.
Speaker: bring in the Bring in the field. The being in the field can offer a greater understanding than textbooks. Go out and get your hands dirty. So you can think.
Speaker: So whatever's going on today, you can think about it. And you can think about it too long and actually not execute, not actually just do it.
Speaker: Oh, was that part of the card? Yes. Oh, that was like the explanation. That I, okay. You know what? Change my mind. Thumbs up. Right. So don't spend time on it. I think thinking about it, spend time in it, actually doing the thing.
Speaker: Interesting. Anyway, so I tend to think about tarot cards as actually, yes, i don't tend to think about it as a connection to something like woo-woo spirit god something. I just tend to think like...
Speaker: what It can be like a little guidance, maybe. Right. it Yeah. Something about a card will will trigger something in you and you go, oh, that's interesting. Yeah. should think about that. Right. Or that's an interesting way of looking at the thing that I'm concerned about. Right. And then it will just give you another little point of view. Yeah, like another perspective. Right. Right.
Speaker: so Now, speak can I tell a ghost story? Absolutely. This happened to my parents, but i I never forgot it because it was like so crazy. So they moved into a house before I was born and they had um like a cleaning lady who was very into the tarot cards and the spirits and whatever. And every day she would talk about Oh, I saw a ghost. I saw a ghost. She would talk about this, this one ghost and she was not scared. She was just, oh. And then finally, one day my parents were like, what does this ghost look like? Can you see him? And she said, yeah, he has like a blue, um, like jacket on with a name tag on it. And he has like crazy hair and blah, blah, blah, blah. blah
Speaker: Uh, and my parent, what does the name say? She said, oh, it says Lou. Okay. My parents went across the street. They had just moved into this house like a couple months ago. And like weird stuff, by the way, had been happening ah in the house. My mom had a menorah. It was like tied in like a knot.
Speaker: um There was a window that was really difficult to close. And one day it just closed on its own. Mm-hmm. So my parents go to the neighbors, who lived here before us? And they said, oh, a dentist. His name was Lou.
Speaker: Dentist, blue dentist jacket that the cleaning lady saw. He had crazy hair. And they described like the exact same person that the cleaning lady had been talking about. And she'd never been in the house before.
Speaker: My parents had a seance. and they ah And they were very like friendly and like sort of were like, we're not scared of you, but like feel free to – Fly away. Like we're taking good care of your house and like we'll be good to the house or whatever. But isn't that wild?
Speaker: Yeah. I mean, ah honestly, if Lou is still up for doing dentist work. Oh, right. I'm i'm ah yeah. i'm i um I have some work to to do.
Speaker: Wait minute. You want to just talk? By the Yeah, want to say a little BTW about your – I didn't even mean to do that, but, like, maybe we can talk a little bit about your week.
Speaker: Yeah, yeah. Just quickly, and then I'm going to finish up on why neurodivergence – Halloween's a neurodivergent thing. Yeah. But, yeah, let's sidetrack. Okay, a little sidebar. So, yeah, I'll put out a post on Wednesday.
Speaker: um On the TikToks where I was being very vulnerable and I was crying in my car um because I'd had a back tooth taken out right at the back.
Speaker: and And why is this? Because I asked you before we recorded and do you remember what you just said to me? I said because I'm old. know.
Speaker: That's the reason. Okay. So when you're old, this, this stuff happened. Okay. And you know, yes. And also ah like many neurodivergent people, um we don't necessarily take the best care of our teeth. Okay. Just saying.
Speaker: um So yeah. So yeah. So went to the dentist to have this tooth out and the guy was like, okay, i'm going to put some and injections in the in the site and the the roots are quite deep.
Speaker: Now, can I ask a question? Did you know that you were getting your tooth taken out? Yes. Or did he just surprise you? Okay, so you knew. Yes. Okay, got it. I knew. you weren't you You weren't all of a sudden like, wait, what? like No. Yeah, okay, got it. No, I was...
Speaker: I've had the teeth taken out before, so this was nothing new. Got it. So anyway, he put in some mean injections and they were quite deep. And that hurt, but it was, i don't know.
Speaker: I, so I, I started getting really overwhelmed at that point. And I was like, it's going to be okay. It's going to be okay. Just stay in the seat. Just stay in the seat.
Speaker: And then he was back in and i and then he started to kind of like work on the tooth. Okay. And I think just think thinking back on it, one reason why i like this dentist is because they're very gentle, right?
Speaker: No pain. Love it. They are fantastic. They're very gentle and soft and they just talk you through everything. This guy was like, he only comes in on Tuesdays to do surgery. I was going to say, thought. So he's different I thought you had a female dentist. Yes.
Speaker: Okay, but this was a... Had you ever met him before? God. So he was like, right, boom, boom, boom, give this time injection, boom, boom, boom, boom. And I was like... And that was like really...
Speaker: jarring Well, I think that's like a huge part of your experience, it seems, was that you didn't know this person and they didn't know how to like handle you. Right.
Speaker: And he's just, yeah, okay, go on. He was just like banging around. God. And... I don't know where he just saw like, oh, there's a man. He can take it.
Speaker: I don't know. But anyway, so um he started work and then i was and I just became so, I just had a meltdown yeah in the seat and was like, no, I can't do this. And I just got up.
Speaker: just walked out of the of the surgery and and the the assistant behind me was going, wait, we have to finish the the procedure. And I'm like, oh, no, you don't.
Speaker: And as I'm walking through reception with the people around, I just rip off the bib. Like sort of very dramatic fashion. Right, right. But I'm just out. You just want to get out of there. Yeah. Got in the car, drove home. I was in a right old state.
Speaker: And then Trisha managed to kind of persuade me to go back. But the thing was is I knew I had to go back because – I didn't know quite what he'd done my mouth. So you had like an open wound probably. I probably had an open wound. Yeah. And I couldn't feel it because of the injections. And I was thinking, yeah, when those injections wear off, it's it could be an absolute nightmare. Yeah. So I was like, I have to go back.
Speaker: So, yeah, i went I went back and I got in the seat and he finished the the job, which was not pleasant. I am so sorry you went through that. And I think...
Speaker: I have had dentists and doctors who are completely insensitive like that. And the thing that's so difficult is... It's so hard to like tell them what you need in the moment because clearly they're insensitive and they like don't care about how you're feeling. So I think if you were to be like, ah um can you be a little gentle or like whatever, like they're not going to listen. It's going to make it worse. And and me, i would get even like more hysterical. So it's like I just either have to get through it or leave.
Speaker: Like but it' you can't say anything because you're obviously dealing with someone who like has no bedside manner. So if you do say something, they're not going to understand. oh yeah. no this guy didn't give a, give a, give a shit. I mean, I had headphones in listening to music blasted up full so I couldn't hear him, but no. Now, can I ask a question? Yeah.
Speaker: Would you ever, two I have two questions. Okay. One, would you ever say anything to the practice about him?
Speaker: I've, I, I, what you mean? Like, I didn't love how I can complain. I guess I've, I've not processed.
Speaker: Yeah. Whole thing. right yet so we'll we'll say yeah ill i'll i'll get on to on to that but yeah but my second sort of part of that question is like do you think you could just so go in and say i'd only like the female dentist whatever her name is oh i mean the the my regular dentist who would do like fillings and all that kind of stuff um i don't think that they were
Speaker: they they couldn't do the surgery part. That's why this guy comes in. So so so he does those bits. i don't I think they just do the other stuff.
Speaker: so Well, I'm sorry. And I think it was really vulnerable of you to share that post. And I saw that a lot of people responded and it just, you know, social media gets a bad rap. But in situations like this, when like people are having compassion and relating, i think it's a blessing.
Speaker: Right. So if you want to see a grown man crying, you can hop over to the ADHD podcast where we keep it real. For God's sake.
Speaker: All right. i've um So part two of the why Halloween isn't. of the why halloween isn't neurodivergent invention.
Speaker: Firstly, so were witches which is a classic symbol of Halloween. Come on. you know They are outside of of society. They are doing the herbs and this yeah all of that, which is all kind of very neurodivergent. So you know if there's a there's an there's an argument being...
Speaker: four you know for them yeah being neurodivergent themselves you know and then you know sort of ADHD and autistic women sort of eye identifying with them and just pulling that right into the kind of modern era you know plus you know there's there's um there's a lot of So I worked in the ad in in in industry, in in in retail advertising for like 40 years. Right.
Speaker: And we are all neurodivergent, right? Get out. What's what's the common thread there? You can throw a stone and you'll hit one and you'll hit someone with with with ADHD. ah Wait, tell me everything. I'm going to apply some lip gloss for people watching. I'm just letting you know.
Speaker: All right. Tell me tell me why. Well, because we generally are creative people. We like making things. Yeah, that makes sense. We like telling stories. We understand people yeah really well because we because we're kind of slightly outside of normal systems society. we we We are very interested in what...
Speaker: in what the general population does and thinks and how they think. Right. Yeah. um people Because, you know, we spend so much time trying to be like them some sometimes. interesting. we know people very well. We are very good at pattern recognition. which is very good for marketing as well. Like, oh, okay. so there are people doing this over here and there are people doing this over here. There's a good, I can join the dots and and create a sort of a marketing campaign out of stuff. So we we we are, we,
Speaker: you know that i mean they're all neurodivergence so you know so when halloween came along i think it was like i think milky way did one of the early halloween um adverts back in like 1952 something i love a milky way right yeah So they kind of jumped on it. And I think us being neurodivergent people in the ad industry and in marketing in general, I think we just saw this as fun.
Speaker: as a fun thing with ghosts and witches. And it was like, and we just jumped on it as a right as a thing to, you like to kind of as a, as a, as a retail event to sell things.
Speaker: um So yeah. Love it. Right. So I think, you know, like, I think, ah you know, like it's interesting um You know, like I mean, just generally, it's the one time a year when, you know, like you can go out and just weird stuff. Everyone can be weird. Right. Everyone be weird. Right.
Speaker: I love it. And we don't have to apologize for it Right. Yeah. I love it. So it's the one time where normal people can can be us. Right. And we can be ourselves.
Speaker: How great is that? Yeah. So I've been... um trying to catch up on or or to watch for the first time some classic scary movies. Oh, scary movies. What a perfect time of year for that.
Speaker: It's the best. So I've watched a couple. All right. And I'm going to tell you about the one that I watched. Now, this is... The scary movie that started it all.
Speaker: It's a very famous movie. Okay. A lot of people have heard of this movie. I don't know how many have seen it, but it's the first slasher film ever. And it was the inspiration for every other slasher film there ever was.
Speaker: Texas Chainsaw Massacre. Oh, have you seen this? I have not seen it. Don't bother. It is the dumbest movie i have ever seen in my life. Let me tell you what it's about. I'm going to ruin it for anyone. That's that's a hot take.
Speaker: All right. You know what? I don't even think and maybe it is because no one feels that way except Roger Ebert, famed film critic, agreed with me. And I think he's the only one. But I trust him, even though may he rest.
Speaker: This is what happens in the movie. All right. There's no story. OK, so before I watched it with Sean, ah my BF, he was like, do you want to watch it? Like, I haven't seen it in a while. And I was like, let me watch the trailer. And in the trailer, it's just screaming. No dialogue.
Speaker: OK, well, I go, well, that can't be the whole movie. That is the entire second half of the movie is pure screaming. No dialogue. Here's what happened. okay A couple of teenagers are in a van driving to this like abandoned house that like their parents used to live in. um And then they all get killed.
Speaker: That's it. that's That's the only thing that happens. um Most of them get killed except for one. And the entire second half of the movie, she is screaming in the woods and running away from the killer. And then at the last second, she gets away and that's it.
Speaker: It's the dumbest. There is no story. You're just watching people scream and get chased around. It's not like any of these other movies like... where there's like a a killer um and because he has like a fucked up childhood or whatever, like it's not, it's nothing like that. It's just, it's insane. It's insane. i don't get it. I get that it's the first slasher film, but I am very impassioned. I understand that it has its fans.
Speaker: I don't know why it has its fans. Maybe because of like the place it holds in cinema history. Yeah. Right. i It's probably one of those films, like if you were there at the time or whatever, then it's kind of It was like very like revolutionary. Right, right.
Speaker: But I got to tell you, it's the dumbest movie. It was a waste of time. And by the way, I'm not one to criticize. I just want to be entertained. So it takes a lot for me to say I don't like something. All right. ah My pick, if you were going to watch a a Halloween film... Tell me. Shaun of the Dead.
Speaker: Oh, I've never seen it. What? Am I missing something? Oh, my God. I got to. Hold on. I'm writing it down. He's devastated, people.
Speaker: Sean, I'm writing it down. I'm sorry. Did you just fall out of your chair? He's okay This is appropriate for a Halloween episode. It's very scary.
Speaker: back
Speaker: Oh, my God. What a dramatic reaction, which I love. Tell me everything. What is it about? I don't know a thing about it. It is a pastiche of a zombie movie. Oh, pastiche. Okay. Have you seen Hot Fuzz, the cop film?
Speaker: No. Oh, God. ah so yes last Yes. Jake say. Jake, just bite her on the arm. Anyway, Shaun of the Dead, it's a comedy, it's a pasty, as I said, it's zombie film, but it is like the best.
Speaker: Okay. Why is it the best? Can you give me like a little tease? um So the guy who wrote it, whose name now escapes me, God damn it. Okay. um he's He's done a few amazing films, like Hot Fuzz. ah But he writes his script writing is impeccable.
Speaker: Oh, okay. Impeccable. That's all I need. Sold. Sold. I'm going to watch it. I wrote it down. Yeah. Done. Done. Fell out of your chair. It's like a whole thing.
Speaker: I mean, like, right well yeah but do you have any particular favorite? You know, I'm i'm not averse to the Scream one. But that might be because it was like, I saw it in high school and it was like such a, and Drew Barrymore, that famous opening scene. Right.
Speaker: Nah. or or the Or original Halloween with Jamie Lee Curtis I saw for the first time and I also loved. Okay. I would say those. What about you? I remember seeing The Exorcist. yeah Oh! 1973 or something like that. It was like around about the same time.
Speaker: What did you think of that? i laughed. I laughed. What? Tell me why. thought it was hilarious. Oh! ah thought You weren't scared serious you aren't scared by it.
Speaker: You weren't scared. No. You just like, this is a joke? No. oh i was I genuinely thought it was funny. like Like when she throws yeah the pea soup? Right, or right, right. And the whole head spinning and the and everything. And I was just laughing. Yeah.
Speaker: I was just laughing. I saw like a, you know, like those e True Hollywood stories or whatever, like that talk about these people's lives. There was one on on Linda Blair who played the the girl in The Exorcist and it was so sad. She had like no friends because everyone was scared of her because she was like such a good actress in that movie and it's just like kind of sad. Mm-hmm.
Speaker: That's what I think of when I think of the actresses. Yeah. Yeah. All right, well, shall we get on to Am I Being Unreasonable? Let's just do it. Am I Being Unreasonable?
Speaker: Okay. i turned it spooky. We have, ah this this is an anonymous Am I Being Unreasonable? ah And it is Halloween themed. Here we go.
Speaker: I lived in an, quote, objectively haunted apartment. I always turn the lights off, but my roommate's alleged spirit friend kept turning them back on in the middle of the night. So I think the resulting surge in the electric bill should be charged to the ghost.
Speaker: Am I being unreasonable? Ghost meaning, obviously, the roommate. right so that Right. So I yeah i just ah think it's it's it's it's the roommate's friend. yeah the The roommate has a ghost. So this is this is obviously like this smells of the the electric bills really high.
Speaker: And then the roommates going, ah, well, wasn't me getting up at 2 a.m. and playing Xbox until 4 a.m. every night. it was It was the ghost.
Speaker: A little ridiculous. ah Yes. Honestly, i kind of feel like if... Yeah, they should be, the ghost should be drawn up into the, in into the, into these into the lease. Into the sort of lease. Yeah.
Speaker: Well, I think it's ridiculous that someone goes, it's not me, it's a ghost. And exactly like, okay, should I charge the ghost? I mean, it's like the dumbest thing I've ever, just, just, just say it's you or don't turn the lights on. well like what's so difficult?
Speaker: What's so difficult? Just turn the lights off. You know, I feel like this makes me happy. I don't live with roommates, like meaning other than like, you know, a spouse, because that stuff can get really ugly.
Speaker: like Splitting the electric bill, paying someone back. I don't know for the cable bill or whatever. Like it can just get a little dicey. And so, It could turn into a horror film.
Speaker: But you know what? I wonder if if anyone listening has a roommate, I wonder if that kind of stuff is easier now because in my day and in your day, we didn't have Venmo. So if you had to like pay someone for your half of the electric bill, let's say you had to like write them a check and that takes a long time. And then the person has to go to the bank. These days you just Venmo. So there's really no excuse to not pay your share of something.
Speaker: Right. So I wonder, i hope that makes things easier. Yeah. Also, have you got any ghost stories at home? Tell us. Well, I mean, i Do you? I kind of don't. I mean, i I lived in a house that was, everyone else in the house said was haunted.
Speaker: No! so they would smell like old women's perfume out of nowhere um um my girlfriend at the time the glasses were bent so she was in the bathroom doing her like mourning stuff and then she to put ah glasses down and then went back to them and then they were like bent at forty but forty five That's like what happened with my mom and the menorah was bad. These ghosts like to. Yeah.
Speaker: Whoa, that's, I don't know. Do you, the I believe, I mean, like, what's the explanation for that kind of stuff? I mean, but I did like, i was asleep and then I did hear a footstep on the steps and It could have been somewhere else, but i actually, i i knew that there was only me and my girlfriend at the time and she was in bed with me and there wasn't anyone else in the house.
Speaker: Were you scared? Yeah. It was more like, what's that? What's that? What's that? Oh, my God. I mean, I was only scared from the point of view, like, is there an intruder in the house? Am I being robbed? Of course. Yeah. Not so much spooky things, but, you know, real live people things.
Speaker: Did you know that this place was supposedly haunted before you moved in? no or not until, oh, not until after? Not until after. Who told you? Well, the people who were living in a house were like once in a while, they would have a spooky story. Oh, you live this is weird you lived with roommates?
Speaker: Yes. Oh, and they, oh my God. So there's me, my girlfriend, this other girl. We all lived in this one house. And they kept having weird ghost things happen.
Speaker: i know. All right. Oh, wait, so wait, hold on. Reasonable? Reasonable? So I think it's unreasonable that you can try and palm off your bad habit bad bad electrical vampire habits off onto some thick fictitious phantom.
Speaker: Right. So the person writing in you're being reasonable by saying you pass you pay. Yes. yeah You pay. Pay up, mate. Pay up. All right.
Speaker: Love the post bag. What you got? Okay, we've got a few. ah Deputy Mayor alex Alexandra. Absolutely. We were talking about ah being bored.
Speaker: Last week. And she says, I go i get bored at work when I have nothing to do. Yeah. ah When I was in Paros, which is an island, in the winter, almost no one was coming into the shop.
Speaker: maybe four days. So I guess she was working um in in the shop but the time. and And how much can you clean? Right. So then I started bringing my book and I stopped being bored. I was transferring my reading time to work and I was being paid for it.
Speaker: Great. Love it. Love that. I mean, like, I think about that sometimes. Like when people, I think I mentioned this, when someone's working in a store or in a place that's like not really busy, how do they, how do they pass time? You can only clean so much. I've been in that position too. Like I've cleaned, I've done everything.
Speaker: Read a book. i would not get mad, by the way, if I walked into like a store and I saw someone reading a book, I wouldn't care. If I need help, I'm assuming they'll help me. but like, I get it. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker: I can remember once when I had a job when the work was really slow, i For some reason, I got into painting little tiny D&D figurines. I don't know like if you've ever seen like little tiny little miniature orcs, little tiny character characters. Oh, my God.
Speaker: What a great thing to do. i would just sit there and just paint them. I didn't actually do dungeons and dragons. I just liked painting the little tiny characters.
Speaker: Yeah, I mean, you got to pass the time and that sounds fun and you're artistic, so why not? Yeah. And then on the TikToks, Andrea said, um and we were talking about ah if you were in a room, in in an empty room.
Speaker: Oh, my God. And you were bored and the only thing in there was a machine that that would give you an ill electric shock, would you do it just because you were bored?
Speaker: And Andrea says, i have to do it I'd have to do it once to see how bad the shock was and what it feels like. My brain would tell me that I may never experience it if I don't do it now.
Speaker: If I didn't shock myself, I'd spend the rest of my life wondering what it felt like. Now, I seem to be the only person who would not choose to shock myself.
Speaker: I am definitely the i the only one. ever And I get it. But I get it. I don't think I could do it. But I understand. Yeah. And then Misdiagnosed Phoenix says, I actually stuck my finger in a whirling fan blade once. I do not recommend Good to know. Noted.
Speaker: Good to know. Yeah. All right. Yeah. If you've got any, ah yeah, get get in the comments. Tell us your ghost stories. Tell us your favorite Halloween slash em scary movie. Scary movie. Tell us all of it.
Speaker: Tell us all of that good stuff. i Tell us why you hate Halloween oh you love Halloween. Or you love it. Either one. Either one. Exactly. Yeah. ah All right, well, you are now leaving...
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