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Speaker: back in the room. And so glad that you're here to join us for season two of ADHDville.
Speaker: So, did um yeah, so here we are. This is it. This is me. This is Amy. Like and so subscribe um to the new season. Things are going to be, some things are go are going to be the same and some things are going to be very, very, very different.
Speaker: So let's go to a place where the distractions are landmarks and the details are on the main roads. Welcome to ADHDville. Welcome.
Speaker: It's exactly the same. I didn't want to make a new intro, so you've got the old one for season two.
Speaker: Yay! hello my name is martin west and i was officially diagnosed with combined e poopuo platerin two thirteen and my pet rock suspects i have autism and i am joined the first time so say hello to my new cohost amy I'm Amy Eliazzo, and I am so excited to be here. I am um slightly neurodivergent, highly sensitive, fully neurotic, have a ton of sensory issues, and my pet rock, because this makes me a very interesting conversationalist, so we'll see.
Speaker: Nice. ah Did you, did you, i mean, I have to ask now, did you ever have a pet rock back in the, was it the early eighties or the late seventies? I feel like I remember having one for some reason, but I don't know. Did you like, do you decorate them or is it literally just a rock? Like, don't you put like googly eyes on them?
Speaker: It was literally a rock. Oh, no no googly eyes or stickers? No, no, no. It was literally just a rock that you could go and buy a pet rock from the store, from the shop, and you brought it home.
Speaker: Not even from your own backyard? Well, I think I probably, i i definitely didn't buy one. I may have gone out into the backyard and picked one up and go, there you go. Yeah.
Speaker: was going to say, like, just pick one up. Yeah, go in the backyard. Yeah. Like, why spend the money? Exactly. And then and then give it a name and then forget all about it.
Speaker: Yeah. now Now, Martin. Yes. Now that we're Uh-huh.
Speaker: I've been dying to ask you this question. All right. And I'm going to assume the listeners want to hear this too. And I, I, I asked you this question recently and your wife said you're asking the wrong question to get the answer you want. Oh, okay.
Speaker: The question is this, can you imitate, John Wayne, this is my way of getting Martin to do an American accent. And I feel like I can't say, can you do an American accent? I need to say, can you imitate like a Western movie star?
Speaker: Well, I mean, yeah, because that is the only accent, American accent that I can do. Right, right. I get that. All right. Okay. So, and periodically, I do try an American accent, you know, like a like a ah a normal American accent. but yeah But then I always kind of end up sounding a little bit like, you know, I should be drinking at the saloon and riding off into the sunset.
Speaker: Oh my God, that was good. was good. like, that was good. I believed you. thank you i could do british want to hear my british yeah of course okay imitate a line from bridget jones's diary hu she works for sit up britain and in this scene she's looking for tuna in the fridge and she's muttering to herself and she goes this is bridget jones for sit up britain where the fuck is the fucking tuna is that good that's pretty good yes is that all right okay yeah okay yeah this is how i thought we should just kick it off you know what i mean Yeah, yeah, with some random crap. I love it. All right. yeah i will i will just breeze past the fact that but when i I worked in London, I walked home from the from my job and passed them filming.
Speaker: They were filming um Bridget Jones' Diary. um the The first one? No, it was the second one. Okay. Okay. I believe.
Speaker: Yeah. There we go. That was it. that like that's That's the end of my... Okay. I mean, i yeah. did you did Did you see them doing a scene? Yeah, it was a scene. They were on the street.
Speaker: I mean, I'm sure if I watched it, I could probably find it. I don't know. But anyway. Okay. Anyway, let let's let's let's get little bit let's get on this week's episode, which is...
Speaker: Why do you remember your first kiss, your first ever kiss better than any other first kiss? um And I kind of came across this this thing that that was like that someone said, oh, yeah, you really remember your first kiss. And I was like, oh, God, yeah, it's seared in my memory.
Speaker: And then and then i thought, well, what about you know my so my ah my other significant other partners? Do I remember the first kiss and I was like, oh, we they were they're more hazy. Why?
Speaker: So that's why i kind of went down this route. So, I mean, do you rim remember your your first ever I remember my first, now that you mention it, I remember my first ever. And I remember my first with Sean, my current long-term boyfriend. But you're right. Everyone else, I don't really remember.
Speaker: right that they They almost have to be significant, like really yeah significant. but Can you tell us about yours? ah Yeah, ah at a party.
Speaker: So where was I? So this would be about 1980. Okay. um So how old were you? I was i think I was about ah think it was about sixteen seventeen so so so late i feel i like late too yeah late okay and that was just the kiss um so it was at a party in the hallway of the party fairly into the evening i was chatting with this girl we were getting on really well we were out in the hallway and we just started kissing and it was the most it it's like as i said it it is like a memory that is like burnt into my brain um as a
Speaker: Yeah. But, you know, the thing is, is that, it you know, as I said, it springs onto the other question, like, Wait, was it good? Was it good? Yes. Okay. It was really good.
Speaker: Wow, that's amazing. Your first kiss was good? That's amazing. Yes. Well, honestly, ah you know like that saying that there's no such thing as bad pizza? Yeah. Like any pizza is good pizza. Yes, absolutely. It's a bit like that. So my first kiss was, it was good because...
Speaker: I'd never kissed anyone before. So it's almost like I had nothing to judge it against. yeah you couldn't compare. Right. right I mean, I have, yes, but there have been other kisses that i remember that ah that have been really bad. Yeah, of course, of course yeah. And then I can go, okay, right, well, that first one was actually pretty epic. Yeah.
Speaker: But, yes, as I said, like, do you, are like, I don't remember the second person I ever kissed. Like, the second person after that? i't I don't, I have no idea.
Speaker: Yeah. No idea. Yeah. couldn Couldn't tell you. Or the third. Yeah. Yeah. And know, what I kind of find is strange, you know, even, you know, as you say, you know the the first kiss with your eventual spouse might objectively have been much more in important, you know, and then that there are kind of kisses i can remember where they are important. Yeah.
Speaker: and they stick in my brain but yet those completely sort of sort of sort of rubbishy kisses that were just like you know when you're a young adult yeah they're just like they can the as I said the the bad ones can can also get stuck in your brain so know so why does the first one get get this VIP access to your long longterm long-term memory. I think the main reason is that ah the entire
Speaker: the first kiss, is an entire the entire experience is new. Right. So it's the first time you've ever experienced someone's mouth against yours, the right pressure, the taste, the smell. Oh, like feeling, like the actual physical feeling. Right. And then like, how do you breathe?
Speaker: Right. And where do your hands go? Yes. Right. Yes. What do you do with the rest of your body? And by the way, it does not feel the way it looks in the movies the first time you kiss someone. Right.
Speaker: Like, I remember it felt very, i was like, this isn't what I thought it would feel like at all. Was this it? Is this it? Yeah. I was like, oh this is very different. Yeah. Totally. And then, you know, you have to think about what the other person is doing and you kind of go well, I'm enjoying it.
Speaker: Are they enjoying Am I doing it right? What's going on? Yeah. Help. Yeah. Oh God. so how come you don't, why, why are the other ones a little more foggy? Is it because you're, you're like, you're, it's like old school now, like you're used to it and it's not like a special event like the first one. Right. So it has to be, so the first one has the, has the added advantage of being ah completely new experience and your brain pays attention
Speaker: Yeah, yeah. To that. I think by the 10th person, if you like... You're like, I'm good. Yeah. Right. ah Kissing isn't the novel thing. It's the person that is the novel thing.
Speaker: so So it's less about the experience going on, you know, from the yeah from from below your nose and above your chin. is yeah is slightly its It's not so much about that anymore. It's actually about the person.
Speaker: so So it's a very different Yes, this is very interesting because I remember my first kiss with Jason Hartnett behind a school and it wasn't good.
Speaker: I thought it was good, but then I kissed other people and I was like, oh, I think he was bad or maybe I was bad. I don't know. One of us wasn't that good, but maybe it was me. I don't know. Maybe because it was my first kiss, but I feel like if I think back to that moment, like leaning in, I was like, it's my first kiss. It's my first kiss. It's my first kiss. But then with other people, it's like, Oh, it's Joe Schmo. It's Joe Schmo. Like I was like excited about that person. So that makes a lot of sense.
Speaker: Right. Well, I hope that, that, that to Jason has put in a little bit more practice. He did say to me, okay. The next day i told my friends, you're good kisser.
Speaker: and I was like, that was my first guy I didn't tell him it was my first one. So maybe it was him, but maybe he was just being nice. You were like, nailed it. I was like, yeah, I know. I was so excited. And I never told him. he and i was 15. I was older, too.
Speaker: So then I think if you're like the age that we were, you feel a little added pressure to like pretend you know what you're doing. Right. Because you're like older. So you got a a four star Yelp a review. Yeah. What do you think your review? you You sound like you got a Michelin star. By the way, you you used the word, you said it was Yeah.
Speaker: It was epic. Oh, isn't that so this romantic and It was the first, first, first, first one. It was good. So, yeah, I would i would rate my first kiss. I would give a Yelp review of of the full five stars. Oh, my God. That's amazing.
Speaker: I know. And who was the lucky lady? Janet. Janet. Yeah. yeah Oh, Janet. Who I still speak to and I had a, yeah. and and Does she know that you were her, were she was she your, were you her first kiss?
Speaker: I don't, you what you know I don't know whether she was, ah whether I was her first kiss or not. You know what? I never but never actually... I think maybe... I don't know. Who knows? Yeah.
Speaker: I can ask her, actually, because I still speak to her. But, yeah, there there is this thing where there is there is the... You know, like, your first kiss changed... You know, your brain is really interested in it because it changes your personal history. There's, like, the you before...
Speaker: And then there's like the you afterwards. Yeah. BFK and AFK before first kiss and after first kiss. It's like such a rite of passage. It's like one of those rite of passages in life.
Speaker: It is. It is. You know, because the if because humans organize their autobiography yeah they autobiographical memories partly around this and these meaningful life events.
Speaker: So, you know, like it's stored in a in a in a very different place to everywhere else. Plus also they they one of the reasons is is because our brains pay a lot of significant attention to um so things that happen in our teens and early 20s like there's this thing called the rev the rev the reminiscence bump the reminiscence bump right um so you know ah so they are allocated so they are kind of allocated
Speaker: a special place, um, you know, because they have, you know, because it, it it is a major life trend transition. The, the, you know, like there's it's a very novel its experience. You're,
Speaker: Personal identity changes after you've had your first kiss. It's like you've become an adult. Yeah, like, right. It's like you're a man or you you've become a woman. Like, i mean, didn't you feel a little bit like you had like a strut to your stuff?
Speaker: i I mean, you walked into school a little bit different the next day. 100%. were like, I'm like, I know what's going on. I'm cool. Yeah. I got this. Yeah.
Speaker: Wait, so what is the reminiscence bump? This is people. Right. so Categorizing their experiences. So our brain will put it into a special little place um and ah we get, um and and now our brain gets very excited and actually um yeah will release will release will release a dopamine around that first kiss. So um it gets stored away. Yeah. and
Speaker: And, yeah, actually, interestingly enough, every time that we bring it up, our brain changes it slightly. so wherever we So even if we think we know every detail about that event, right ah every time we go back into it, it changes it a little until...
Speaker: We don't really know whether we're remembering the actual event or whether we remember the story around the event. so too Interesting. so eve So even if you went back to adjacent and the the behind the school yeah kiss and you and you talked to him about that, he may have a different yeah version of exactly the same event.
Speaker: Isn't that wild? It is. Yeah. Yeah. Now my first kiss with Sean, we, we actually do have a little bit of a different.
Speaker: memory so we went on a date it was like my 8 000th date on a dating app we met on hinge and we were at this coffee place it was going really well it's like a coffee wine place we were having wine and i'd had like a glass of wine and i was like feeling you know flirtatious i remember wanting him to kiss me and going um when are you going to kiss me?
Speaker: Or like something like playful and cute. He remembers me going, are you going to kiss me or what? Which I think is, like, very different.
Speaker: Oi, you. Are you going to kiss me? You bloody will what? Come on. Like, wait a minute, what? So, but I guess the, sort of like what you're saying, the idea is the same. I was basically the one who, like, said something. Who was like, hey, I'm ready. And I thought I said it in this, like, very, like, cute way. And the way he tells it, I was like...
Speaker: a barbarian like like I don't know so but I remember that also because like he's you know my current person and he's very special to me so I remember that wait a minute what what was your first kiss with your now wife my friend Tricia do you remember that I I remember where airport Oh, my God.
Speaker: How romantic is that? Wait, what? um Driving to the airport? No. so though So I'd just flown over from the UK. Okay. so And she met me at the air airport. And i I do remember that.
Speaker: But it's not it's it's not in in HD 4K quality than the first one.
Speaker: Right, right. um Well, it's completely different. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But there have been other... kisses with my wife that are you know that are seared into my brain right right that way it's just it wasn't the the first one but I be but but there are others that that kind of that do you know occupy that same right importance importance and level of detail now here's my question yes you and your wife came over for dinner and
Speaker: and Speaking of kissing, dating, she told me something that I felt was like I couldn't get over about when you first started dating. And I think many Americans will be like – What the fuck?
Speaker: And this is what it is. I think you were in England and you were at like a bar or something and she picked up a sandwich.
Speaker: All right. And like we Americans do to to eat with our hands. And you were like horrified that she wasn't eating it with a knife and a fork. Right.
Speaker: Right. I... Please, please, please, please explain this. I don't... I remember...
Speaker: being in the States... like flying over and visiting. And thinking we're bunch of animals. And we went out to a bar and see, I don't remember being a sandwich unless, of course, no i' see, I don't. I think it was pizza. Okay. Okay. And she picked up with with her hands and I was horrified because at that point in time, if we had pizza, we we we we used a knife and and fork. i mean, it's different now.
Speaker: the Kids use their hands. The kids use... deep Oh, you don't really watch Seinfeld, but there's like ah an episode where um Elaine's boss eats a Snickers bar. He's this very like prim and proper. yes I remember him, yeah. Yeah, and he eats a Snickers bar with a knife and fork. And she was like, what the hell is going on? And then by the end of the episode, like everyone is eating candy bars and like cookies with a knife and fork. And she's like, has everyone gone mad?
Speaker: Like that's how I... Like it's so... That's such a culture shock. Like you must have been like America is a messy, sloppy, everyone is a mess. Right.
Speaker: Because you also use your knife and fork differently. yeah. what Wait, how? Because what we do in the UK is we have a knife and a fork and we pick them up and we have them in both hands and we like yeah use them, right? Whereas here, we'll tend to just pick up the fork, move it to the other hand, use that. And then occasionally, if you have to cut something, you'll move your fork back, pick up the knife, cut it.
Speaker: Like, it's not always, you don't, it's not like one hand, one implement, right? That fork can swap around. That's what I'm saying. There's this woman who I follow on Instagram. Her name is Micah Meyer. And she's like an etiquette expert and she, she's American, but she like studied under the queen and whatever. And so she gives really easy to understand, um like,
Speaker: 10 second tips about like, like four ice cubes is the amount of ice cubes you're supposed to put in someone's drink. Didn't know that. If you eat a cheeseburger, you're supposed to cut it in half. Didn't know that.
Speaker: Like all this very interesting. Cause it's like neater. Right. So she, so I used to do the knife and fork thing you're talking about. And it just felt like weird and clumsy. And then I learned from her that you're always supposed to leave the fork in the same hand and almost like,
Speaker: Like eat with it upside down, which feels weird, but I guess that's the right way to do it instead of switching hands, which is clumsy. Right. Yeah. Yeah. So, you know, yeah. i You know, as as as you can probably tell, like – Great Britain, England, whatever, they they tend to have like, there are lots of unspoken rules, right, about how you do things, e etiquette, and you just pick up along the way and no one really tells you, but you just learn stuff.
Speaker: so So when I came to America, all of a sudden it's very, very different. And of course, like, yeah, as you say, it it it was a culture shock.
Speaker: yeah i was like, what the hell's going on? yeah I think there are also unspoken things that like not everyone does. Okay, like i like when you were over for dinner, you were saying like, you go to someone's house. Oh no, Tricia was saying, your wife was saying, apparently like in England, you go to someone's house a house and they offer you tea, like immediately. Absolutely. Absolutely.
Speaker: and And what if they don't? They're rude? Oh, if they don't, you... You you you check them off the list. When you leave their house, you just bitch about them all the way home. So, okay. So, but that's an unspoken thing?
Speaker: It's just like common courtesy there? yeah, yeah. It's like you were right. I mean, like, you know, I would come home from school, go to my friend's house, I'd come in the door,
Speaker: and sit down and we put an album on and his mum would pop out from somewhere and go, do you want a cup of tea? ah And you say, yes, I would love a cup of tea.
Speaker: um Although actually, funnily enough, i because I had a stammer as a stutter, it's it's actually easier to say no than it is to say yes. Oh, so, okay. So I would turn down lots of things that I really wanted because it was easier to say no.
Speaker: It was physically easier to to to to say no than it was to say to say yes Oh, my God. That's crazy. And and now what?
Speaker: Do you still? Do you still turn things down? No. Okay. No. I guess that comes with swelling up. I mean, do you find, is there any, like, that there's more anxiety around swelling?
Speaker: saying yes to something than to saying no to something because if you say no to something then apart from like then then then you're in the status quo the status of quo right nothing changes whereas if you say yes to something then things change and something new and different is going to happen and you have to deal with the the consequences of saying yes to something Yes, and I also think that I don't want to be like a bother. so
Speaker: So for example, I work in an office and when someone comes in, i always offer them water. But I do that like at my house too. I always offer someone water. So I'll offer someone water and I'm always like kind of relieved when they say no. But if they say yes, that's fine.
Speaker: But there have been times where I've been like, can I get you something to drink? And the person will be like, do you have a decaf espresso? And I'm like, what the fuck? Are you out of your mind? Yes.
Speaker: What is a stop box? I know. I'm like, I'm not a barista. You get the water or maybe I'll make you a coffee if you ask for it. like, I would never have the nerve to go into someone's office or even their home. I wouldn't. If someone offers me water, sometimes I'll take it. Although another etiquette expert, I forget who said, if someone offers you something, you're supposed to take it because it makes them feel like you're, they want to like make you comfortable.
Speaker: Yeah. So yeah that's kind of tough sometimes. and And then you have to consume the thing yeah because it's even worse if you say yes and then you get the cup of tea or the, or the cookie or whatever it is. because you don't have it. And then you, it's just, then you, you, you leave and then they look down and there it is. It's still there.
Speaker: And then do they have to throw it away because you because you only had a bite and then did you waste their food? It's like a whole thing. Yeah. hello I'm pretty sure if that's ever happened to me, someone's left a slice of cake, I'm pretty sure I would still eat it.
Speaker: Oh, you would? Yeah, probably. Yeah. Yeah. I would say confidently. Yes.
Speaker: When they leave, you'll eat the cake you'll save it. Yeah, All right. Okay. Oh, well, there we go. All right. Yeah, you're right. Who knows? Nobody knows. I'll have it. I'll have it. Yeah.
Speaker: I'm very excited. Right. About what we have coming up. All right. Let's get into it. What is it?
Speaker: Now, wait, how do we do this? This is our first time. Do you do your thing first or do I explain Yeah. um i Well, it's, ah a I have a little sound bump right for it. so So I'm going to play that. Okay.
Speaker: And then. We'll talk about it. this new section is is ah is called ah Am I Being Unreasonable? Am I Being Unreasonable? Am I Being Unreasonable?
Speaker: spiraling out. yeah I love it. I just would like to compliment you on creating that sound. It is like letter perfect for this. I love it. Okay, so I put a little post on social media, but I'll just reiterate it very quickly here. This is going to be a segment where you and i debate a moral quandary that someone, a listener, asks of us. The example I gave on my social media post is that I personally do not like at my office when I open the Keurig and someone's old Keurig pod is in there and I have to throw it out. I think it's inconsiderate. Am I being unreasonable?
Speaker: Who knows? People tell me I am. i really don't give a shit. I think it's going worse. So this is so, so, well so I have, so someone got in touch with us ah and this is going to be our first, am I being unreasonable?
Speaker: We'll discuss it. And then at the end we'll say reasonable and I, or I'm reasonable. All right. Okay. This is someone named Ro. Now I didn't tell you this before cause I wanted it to kind of be fresh. You know, Ro said,
Speaker: There's someone one at my job who ignores me whenever I greet them. And I think like in the morning, and I think that's rude. Am I being unreasonable? Right. ah So what's the unreasonable bit? Is Ro kind of saying, well, she's obviously kind of going, hey, and the other person's ignoring them. So what, is she's is she saying that she's being unreasonable for for just carrying on saying,
Speaker: Hey. i think Ro is saying, like, I think that's rude. Am I unreasonable to think that's rude? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Right. Do I think they're rude? Yeah, I've got it. um Yeah, come on, surely.
Speaker: on. It's rude! Come on, we're a we're a we're a, I mean, you know, we're a ah a society of people that have to coexist in our in a little space together. You know, what what's, what's the i mean, like even people I don't like.
Speaker: Right. I'll bump into them in a corridor whatever on the way to work and and I'll say, hey, and they'll go, hey. And we're both thinking, i i fucking hate that person. Yep.
Speaker: But we still say hello. Let's be civilized. Come on. Now, I think this is what really bothers me about the people in the office who don't say good morning is I think it really says something deeper, a.k.a. this person's an asshole.
Speaker: Why don't you say good? Like something. Because I had a boss. I was a receptionist. This is years ago. So I was sitting at the front desk. It was just me. And he would walk in and walk right past me and not say good morning.
Speaker: And I was like, he is a piece of shit. Because there's no excuse to not say good morning. Like ah even if you're on your phone, whatever, like you should at least like acknowledge me. Uh-huh.
Speaker: I think it says something a little deeper. Right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It reflects badly on you. Yes, it makes you look bad. Now, I was talking with someone about this, and she said something very interesting. She was saying she is not a morning person.
Speaker: Her co-worker is also not a morning person. And they sort of have this, like, unspoken thing between them, where in the morning they're both just like, huh.
Speaker: And then they each take a little time to warm up and then by like 10 o'clock or whatever, they're fine. But I think that's different because you sort of know you're both on the same page.
Speaker: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Absolutely. I love that. Yeah. So, so what, so do you think Ro is being reasonable for not liking that her coworker doesn't say good morning?
Speaker: need to, I need to, I need a little special sound that says reasonable or unreasonable. So next week I will, I will, we'll, we'll, we'll do little reasonable or unreasonable. For now, I'll just do a clap.
Speaker: Reasonable. Reasonable. Reasonable. Okay. We agree. We agree. Well, your co-worker is not nice. It's not you.
Speaker: the Boo, co-worker. Yes. Send him to HR for some training.
Speaker: oh we love HR here. kid Just kidding. Oh.
Speaker: If anyone has listened to our past episodes together, we have some issues with HR. We do. yeah That's true. yeah All right. that's So I think we can move on to the post bag.
Speaker: that's Let's I have to find it. Here we go. here we go we go Love a little mail. I know. Here we go. bag. I love it.
Speaker: love it.
Speaker: All right, so we're Alexandra writes, who's Alexandra's head of all things.
Speaker: Customer relations um for ADHD, though. She's ah she's she's the ah the the grand postmaster general. Yes, she is. She's the postmaster general. Mm-hmm.
Speaker: um And she leaves amazing ah ah comments. So there's a two things that that she said. So last week's episode was Paul's last one.
Speaker: So she said, oh, Paul, it's the end of an era. and And honestly, that was the vibe of the comment section. we yeah So obviously we we we thank Paul. And she and she says ah and she thanked him for everything, wished him well in his new job. Oh, how nice.
Speaker: Which she called exciting and exhausting. He gets to ride a bike there. How cool is how idyllic is that? I know, right? Yeah. Down some some ancient italian and medieval, yes, Italian street with some nuns walking around. And like some burrata in like his bike basket maybe? i don't know. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Absolutely. and with a with ah With a single espresso in in ah yeah in know in a very, very tiny travel mug. travel mug
Speaker: And she even put in a request for him to come back as a guest one day. So, Paul, if you're listening, you heard it here first. The people want a return episode at some point. I'm sure he will come back. Of course. To say hello and update us on what the hell's going on with him.
Speaker: met paul So that would be lovely. yeah Yeah. And one last thing that kind of really stopped us in our tracks. She wrote that three years ago in November, which is exactly when we started the ADHD podcast. She was having a mental but breakdown.
Speaker: um And she said that we, with no effort at all, apparently, yeah was a was really um important to her. and you know And she said that she can't even describe how grateful was.
Speaker: She is for us being there for her during a particularly difficult, you know, during one of her lowest points. So, you know, so that's not lost on us. And seriously, thank you so much for sharing that. How amazing. You just never know who you're reaching. Exactly.
Speaker: Exactly. oh that makes me, that's lovely. Oh my God. No. Yeah. I mean, occasionally did this is, you know, like I come across these things once in a while where they go, yeah, you just, you were just there at a really important time and and really kind of helped.
Speaker: Um, and those, yeah, that, that, that, that makes it all the more worthwhile. A hundred percent. That's incredible. Yeah. Wow. Yeah.
Speaker: right well Well, I have lost my script, but um where are we? Where are we in the in this in the script world? think we're wrapping up, I think. We are wrapping up. We are wrapping up.
Speaker: We're wrapping up today. All right. I yeah am very happy to be your new co-host. Thank you for asking asking me yeah And I'm just like, I'm so excited for what's to come. And also speaking about Alexandra and just people who listen, I know you said that a few people were saying they liked seeing like a female co-host. And so that just makes me happy. And I'm just, I'm very excited. I'm very excited to hear from people. I'm very excited for us to like talk every week. And it's just like a highlight of my week.
Speaker: Right. So, um, that Yeah, no, this is, you know, I feel like the this is this is going to be a you know this is gonna be a really good direction for us. So I'm i'm really excited. And you probably, I mean, like if you've listened to the podcast, you've picked up this episode, you've probably seen that the logo has changed.
Speaker: slightly it is now it is now orange instead of red so we have a new season two color uh because that's the color of adhd correct yes orange is the is the ah ah apparently is the ah the official color of of adhd so why not yeah why not indeed be orange yeah um so uh that's that's a little visual change But um so each each week we are going to kind of think, I think this is going to be the format for now, um at least, yeah which is where there is a question, an interesting thing that is not necessarily ADHD, but it's just kind of like a
Speaker: something really interesting that I kind of feel like people would be interested to kind of hear about and we'll talk about it and then we'll then we'll transition into like other things we've got and we've got new segments um am I being an non and unreasonable so kind of you know if there's as you know as Amy said if if there's anything that that that you want us to kind of input on let us know Let us know. We're open. What was your first kiss like? let Oh, my God. Oh, let us know. I love hearing about first kisses. let me get up up I want to hear those stories.
Speaker: I want to hear all of them. Oh, my God. They're just so funny. You know, I really like listening to other people's stories. other people's uh you know uh stories like the like like like that but also it makes you feel like better because i'm like whenever people are like how old are you and you had your first kiss i'm like 15 but you were around the same age and i'm like okay some people are just late bloomers Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker: So it's kind of fun because it's also like a little something to relate to, I think. Right. Yeah. I know because there's lots of things I'll think about. It's like, well, do neurodivergent people, do they kiss later than normal people?
Speaker: Because it's just a lot. It's a lot. it's ah I remember after my first kiss with Jason Hartnett, I had to go to dinner with my parents. And I was like, there's too much. and i can't And my cousin was there. And all I was thinking about was like, I just had my first kiss. And like, I can't say anything. I was like so overwhelmed.
Speaker: And you went to your parents and ate with with those lips that had just been stuck onto Jason Hartnett. Oh my God. But it was, i was, it was like sensory overload. I was just like,
Speaker: everything was like firing in my brain and i I didn't say anything and I felt weird saying something and it's all I could think about. oh my God. it's exhausting just talking about it. That was a lot.
Speaker: i need a nap that was a lot just now talking about that but yes i love hearing this stuff it's so much fun excellent all right so that just leaves me to say that uh waiting for the music yeah there it is it's the same music oh welcome back Yeah, ADHDville is delivered fresh every Tuesday to all providers of fine podcasts. Please subscribe to the pod and rate us most kissable.
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Speaker: In the meantime, be fudging kind to yourself. We're all doing the best we fudging can, and that's enough.
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