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Lessons from a Hurricane
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In this episode, Elias shares his experience living through Hurricane Milton and the lessons we can all take into our coaching practices. Some may say that Presence is the most important competency since, without presence, there is nothing we can truly do.
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Introduction and Welcome
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Welcome to Prime Space, a Prime Coaching Academy podcast with your host, Elias Scultori.
Impact of Hurricane Milton
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Hello coaches, thank you for listening to this podcast and for being here.
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I missed you last week, right?
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As you may know, we had Hurricane Milton crossing Florida, the state of Florida, and that disrupted my routine a little bit.
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That's why I wasn't able to record a podcast last week.
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But here we are.
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and continuing with our conversation.
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And I would love to utilize this time here today to talk about the lessons from this hurricane.
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Hurricane is a major event and lots of disruptions.
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And of course, as a coach,
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with a coach mindset, you know me by now, I'm already thinking of what are the lessons, what are the insights that we can have from an experience like that.
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And I have a couple to share with you
Coaching Amidst the Storm
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here.
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I think that something for us to keep in mind.
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I remember specifically two moments before
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in this whole process, this whole period where the hurricane was about to get here and when the hurricane was here that I would love to share with you.
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The first one is prior to the hurricane, the day before the hurricane landed in Florida.
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And, you know, if you've been through a hurricane, you know that the preparation, what happens before the hurricane can be quite stressful.
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There are a lot of things, decisions to make and things to prepare and to make sure that we have enough food, do we have enough water, do we have flashlights, are we in a place where we need to evacuate, what are the authorities saying, where is the hurricane going to pass, what is the hurricane track, what is the intensity, there is so much going on.
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And it can become quite stressful to pay attention to all of that in preparation for something that we don't have much power over.
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And I remember the day before the hurricane landed in Florida, I was still working and I had my clients and I had specifically a coaching, a coach training class that I was leading.
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for our Prime Coaching Academy and it was one of our practice studios where the students come and coach each other and receive feedback from the facilitator in the moment and it's a wonderful opportunity for us to put in practice the concept of coaching.
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But in that particular class, what we had planned is that I was going to give a coaching demonstration.
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And when we are giving a coaching demonstration, we want to be at our best.
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We really want to demonstrate the best of our skills and abilities to the students so that they have a good experience and a good sample of a good coaching conversation.
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And I was very preoccupied with the hurricane.
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And five minutes before the class started, I was thinking, like, how is this going to go?
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Because am I going to really be able to be fully present here?
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Am I going to be able to bring my best to this moment?
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But I was committed.
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So we went into the class, we started the class, and then it came the moment for me to start the demo, and I was coaching one of the students.
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And we started the coaching conversation, and I have to tell you, like,
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two seconds into the conversation, I was already in.
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I was completely in.
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And all of a sudden the storm became secondary, tertiary.
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The storm became something at a distance.
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The stress was not top of my mind anymore.
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I was there for my client.
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I was there for my students.
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I was paying attention and much more curious about what was happening with this person in front of me than any of the storm that was not even here yet.
Lessons in Presence
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So that was a moment for me that I became very conscious of the power of choice and the power of presence.
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This moment when what is about to happen, but it's not here yet.
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It's not the most important.
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It's not priority.
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What is priority is what is happening here today, in this moment.
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And I was able to go through the whole demo, and it was a wonderful conversation, and we had some discussions after that.
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And I only mentioned to the students about the stress and the storm at the end of the class, because I didn't want to distract from the whole process.
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But I so appreciated that opportunity to really practice presence and notice the power of putting things in perspective.
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The other moment was when the storm was here.
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So this was the day after.
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And throughout the day, I could see the winds getting stronger and stronger until in the evening, around 7.30 p.m., the storm was really here.
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I think the storm landed a few miles south of St.
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Petersburg and around that particular time.
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And it was about two hours or two or three hours that the winds were very, very intense.
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In the middle of that, my power went out.
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And so I couldn't watch TV, do any work or read or anything.
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I couldn't do anything.
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I was just...
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in silence and in the darkness and just noticing outside the reflections and the shadows of what was happening outside and I could see that it was very strong, there was a lot of noise as well and I had a choice right there at that moment, I think I mentioned this in one of our prime briefs the choice to make at that moment do I pay attention, do I focus on the fear
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Do I focus on the concern?
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What's going to happen to the house?
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Are the trees going to fall?
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What's going to happen tomorrow?
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Is the water, the rain?
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Or am I going to be present to what is happening here in this moment and experience nature?
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And I decided right there to just experience nature, be in the moment.
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So I remember clearly looking through the window and seeing the resilience of these trees around my house and seeing how the power of nature, how small we are, and just being in that moment.
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There wasn't much I could do at that point, right?
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And to be present to what's happening now.
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And I think that this is a wonderful lesson for all of us.
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I mentioned this in episode 13 of this podcast, Mindful Coaching.
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The idea of right here, the idea of our brains creating thoughts and ideas and insights and projections and being in the future or being in the past.
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And we have a choice to be in the moment.
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And this is a wonderful exercise, a wonderful practice for us as coaches.
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Not only in the moment that we are in the coaching conversation with our clients, but every moment, every minute of our lives, we have a choice.
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Where are we going to put our focus on?
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And I think that this is an important practice for all of us because we can't expect that we are only going to have that moment and that choice when we are in a coaching conversation.
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This is a practice that we do on a daily basis.
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At every single moment of our lives, where do we want to be?
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Do we want to project?
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Do we want to be on or focus on something that is not here yet?
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Do we want to put our attention on things that have happened in the past that are no longer here?
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Or do we want to put our attention
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our minds in what is happening in the moment.
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That is a practice that we, it's a muscle that we build that when we come to our coaching conversation, then we are able to fully be present in the moment.
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And I would stretch, I would go even further beyond being in the moment, being when we are in the moment in the coaching conversation, where, what is priority?
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Where are we putting our attention to?
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Is it the story that the client is telling us?
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Is it the situation, the dilemma that the client may bring to the coaching conversation?
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Or are we choosing to put our focus and our attention on the client?
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And that is the transformative aspect of coaching.
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When we are really creating a space for the client to be in the spotlight and the situations that the client may present, they are just the backdrop.
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That is the transformative aspect of coaching.
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So it's an encouragement and a challenge that I give to you.
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What is the choice that you're making every moment?
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What is the awareness?
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How aware are you of the choices that you can make?
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How much are you believing in the constructs of your mind and how much are you paying attention to what is real?
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Presence takes humility.
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The humility for us to put the other as priority.
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And put ourselves and put our minds as secondary.
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But the client is the most important.
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And it's a choice that we make every day.
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Some people say that presence perhaps can be considered as the most important competency.
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It's something to consider because without presence...
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without fully being there, we cannot do anything else.
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We cannot even be ethical if we are not truly present.
Call to Action and Conclusion
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So it always starts with a choice that we make to be present to our clients and not be distracted by anybody, anything else.
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So I hope that this story, these stories of my experience with Hurricane Milton can support you and encourage you to practice presence at every moment, regardless of how the weather is outside or inside.
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There is a choice for us to make.
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Thank you for listening, and I hope that you subscribe if you have not subscribed.
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I want to point out also that Prime Coaching Academy has a YouTube channel.
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And all of these episodes of Prime Space, Prime Brief, Prime Hour, Prime Snippets, we have all of this.
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And other videos, we have this in our YouTube channel.
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So I encourage you to go to YouTube and search for Prime Coaching Academy.
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And subscribe to that channel as well.
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We are constantly putting some new content and materials there for you and for you to support you in your coaching practice, okay, in your coaching business.
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And have a wonderful week, everyone, and I will see you next time.
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Take care.