This episode welcomes the return of Mark Cusack, ICF Coach and founder of the support site “Not Defining”, to discuss his new book, Fluid: A Guide For People With Flexible Sexuality. (Finally, someone who can define one of the most commonly-used labels on this show!) We chatted about fluidity, what it means, how it’s shown up in our lives, and why it can be a helpful way to think about the sexuality spectrum – among other spectrums.

Don’t miss 17 minutes of bonus content with Mark on Patreon! We chatted about his teenage self, the cultural history of fluidity (fascinating topic), and more: https://www.patreon.com/robertbrookscohen

Buy Mark’s book, Fluid: https://uk.jkp.com/products/fluid

Mark’s website: https://www.notdefining.com/

NotDefining on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCct1pE5fNVUdIR1aw3wxPew

@NotDefining on IG: https://www.instagram.com/notdefining/

Rob’s Website: https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/

Free 25-minute intro call with Rob: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/25-minute-free-intro-call

Two Fluid Guys with Mark and Rob

This week I chatted with Jon McCray Jones and Natalie Moe, organizers of “$luts Party”, a monthly sex-positive rave that centers bi and queer people in the Chicago nightlife scene, and hosts of the Fun with $ex Podcast. We talked about their experiences attending play parties all over the world, how “Two Bi Guys” helped Jon recognize and explore his bisexuality, why they decided to create bi-inclusive and fluid-focused rave and play parties, what those parties are really like, and how that scene promotes self-discovery for individuals as well as new ways of being in relationships.

For 20+ minutes of bonus content with Jon & Natalie (on masculinity, consent, the wildest things they've seen at play parties, and more) plus full video and early access to all episodes, subscribe on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/robertbrookscohen

Sign up for group coaching with Rob: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/group-coaching-community-building

Rob’s website: https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/

$luts Party on IG: https://www.instagram.com/slutspartychi

$luts Party Linktree (events, tickets, podcast, etc.): https://linktr.ee/slutspartychi

Fun with $ex Podcast on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fun-with-sex-podcast/id1742478612

Fun with $ex Podcast on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fwspodcast

Sexually Liberated United Together – aka $LUTS Party – with Jon McCray Jones and Natalie Moe

My guest this week is Wayne Scott, a writer, psychotherapist, and teacher who recently published a new memoir, “The Maps They Gave Us”, which tells the story of a man and woman who fall in love again on their way to getting a divorce. We chatted about what it was liking knowing you were bisexual during the AIDS crisis, the unique circumstances under which he met and committed to his wife, the role bisexuality played in his marriage, why they came very, VERY close to divorce, why they decided to try opening up their marriage (and how they navigated that), and how this arrangement led to new forms of love, understanding, and partnership.

There are 10 minutes of bonus content with Wayne on Patreon, plus full video episodes: www.Patreon.com/RobertBrooksCohen [http://www.patreon.com/RobertBrooksCohen]

Sign up for group coaching: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/group-coaching-community-building

Order Wayne’s book, “The Maps They Gave Us”: https://blacklawrencepress.com/books/the-maps-they-gave-us-one-marriage-reimagined/

Wayne’s website: https://www.waynescottwrites.com/

Charting Your Own Path with Wayne Scott

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Welcome to Season 9 of Two Bi Guys! I’m trying some new things this season, including a super-sized episode all at once instead of split into two! This week I had the pleasure of chatting with Mike Joseph of the Detoxicity podcast for a crossover episode on mental health, queerness, and psychedelic therapies. You’ll hear Mike’s story about navigating his own queerness as he grew up in the 80s as well as his insightful thoughts on what men really need in our current climate. After that, we discussed Mike’s journey with ketamine as well as my recent plant medicine work. Enjoy!

Mike’s website: https://www.mike-joseph.com/

Follow Mike on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mikejosephcoaching/

Detoxicity podcast: https://detoxpod.podbean.com/

The Detoxicity episode Rob was on in Dec 2023: https://detoxpod.podbean.com/e/detoxpod-153-robert-brooks-cohen-screenwriterauthor/

Radiolab episode about neuroplasticity: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/radiolab/id152249110?i=1000676210394

Rob’s website: https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/

Rob’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/robertbrookscohen

Free 30-minute coaching session with Rob (extended through end of Feb 2025): https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/meeting-with-rob

Detoxing and Resetting with Mike Joseph

Time to take a look back at 2024 before we move into the new year! My year was transformative, and I hope 2025 brings you even more peace, progress, and love. This isn't exactly a "best of", because all my guests are the best, but more of a year in review, six clips that are really resonating with me at the moment. Enjoy!

Until January 10, take advantage of discount pricing for  one-on-one coaching! I specialize in helping bi, queer, non-monogamous or questioning people navigate challenges surrounding identity and relationships. Learn more and book a free 25-minute intro call at my website: www.robertbrookscohen.com/coaching [https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/coaching]

Stay tuned in 2025 for more episodes of Two Bi Guys (By One Bi Guy) as well as new courses and coaching offerings. Happy new year!

Best of Two Bi Guys 2024

This week features part two of my chat with Aaron Hammersly, filmmaker and production executive at Disney, board member on the LA Bi+ Task Force, and outspoken advocate for the LGBTQ+ community, working especially for more inclusive representation in front of and behind the camera. In this episode, we continued discussing “Bi+ Narratives: A Guide to Authentic Representation in Storytelling”, the first comprehensive guide to portraying bi+ characters in film and television, which Aaron co-authored, diving into dozens of case studies of bi+ representation in the current film & TV landscape (like Schitt’s Creek, Heartstopper, Game of Thrones, Call Me By Your Name, Baby Reindeer, and many more), what they’re doing well, what’s backwards or harmful, what’s missing, and what we’d ideally like to see in the future. We also discussed the “manic pixie bi boy” trend, and finally we went through the guide’s test for creatives to determine if what they’re producing is authentic Bi+ representation.

Thanks for listening to season 8 of Two Bi Guys (By One Bi Guy)! We’ll be back in 2025!

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Follow Aaron on IG: https://www.instagram.com/secretsyrin/

The Bi+ Narratives Guide: https://www.rewritethebiline.com/bi-test

“Manic Pixie Bi Boys”: https://www.queermajority.com/essays-all/the-manic-pixie-bi-boys

Bi+ Stories Matter with Aaron Hammersly (Season Finale!)

This week I sat down with my friend Aaron Hammersly, filmmaker and production executive at Disney, board member on the LA Bi+ Task Force, and outspoken advocate for the LGBTQ+ community, working especially for more inclusive representation in front of and behind the camera. Earlier this year, Aaron co-authored Re-Write the Bi-Line’s “Bi+ Narratives: A Guide to Authentic Representation in Storytelling”, the first comprehensive guide to portraying bi+ characters in film and television.

In this IN-PERSON (!!) interview, we talked about Aaron’s queer journey; “the social insidious nature of biphobia and bi erasure”; why it’s difficult to represent queerness within the major studio system and in our current climate; the costs and benefits of being out at work for writers, producers, and other creatives; why it’s unfair and unproductive when writers’ rooms fill a “diversity slot” instead of valuing diverse identities and experiences across the board; and how Aaron got involved with “Still Bisexual”, “Rewrite the Bi-Line”, and co-author Christina Fialho in order to write the Bi+ Narratives Guide.

We then dove into the recommendations in the guide (like “if the audience does not know if the character is bi+, we cannot change the narrative for bi+ people”, and “expand opportunities and empower new voices”), and we began to discuss case studies of bi+ representation in the current film & TV landscape. Stay tuned for more with Aaron in next week’s season finale when we continue going through the guide!

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The Bi+ Narratives Guide: https://www.rewritethebiline.com/bi-test

Follow Aaron on IG: https://www.instagram.com/secretsyrin/

“Manic Pixie Bi Boys”: https://www.queermajority.com/essays-all/the-manic-pixie-bi-boys

SURJ: https://surj.org/

DSA website: https://www.dsausa.org/

Authentic Bi+ Storytelling with Aaron Hammersly

PLEASE VOTE for Kamala Harris! The stakes could not be higher. Once you've done that, then you can listen to this lovely episode, the second part of my chat with Dutch bicons Vera & Leroy Duivenvoorden-Westenberg. We talked a bit more about the queer scene in the Netherlands before moving on to a longer discussion about non-monogamy, polyamory, kink, play parties, and why their sexualities bring them joy. Enjoy!

Follow Vera on IG: https://www.instagram.com/verawestenberg/

Follow Leroy on IG: https://www.instagram.com/leroyduivenvoorden/

Marketing Schmarketing: https://www.marketingschmarketing.nl/

“One Thing Does Not Exclude the Other” (Vera & Leroy’s podcast) on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/het-een-sluit-het-ander-niet-uit/id1615666895

Leroy’s photos from the Bi+ Netherlands Pride Boat: https://www.instagram.com/p/Cg_cgA1o1Wh/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

Vera’s photos from the Bi+ Netherlands Pride Boat: https://www.instagram.com/p/ChACzpmICKF/?img_index=6

VOTE! After That, Listen to This Episode with Vera & Leroy Duivenvoorden-Westenberg

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This week I’m so excited to share part 1 of my interview with Vera & Leroy Duivenvoorden-Westenberg, my friends from the Netherlands! In addition to running a marketing company together called “Marketing Schmarketing” – which designed the “Studio 54” Bi+ boat in the 2022 Amsterdam Pride canal parade – Vera & Leroy are Bi+ activists and hosts of the podcast “One Thing Does Not Exclude the Other” (“Het een sluit het ander niet uit” in Dutch). We chatted about my trip to Amsterdam Pride when we all met, their journey as a married couple both navigating bisexuality, what’s great about the queer scene in the Netherlands (and also what’s missing), and much more. Stay tuned for part 2 next week – and don’t forget to VOTE in the Nov. 5 US election!

Follow Vera on IG: https://www.instagram.com/verawestenberg/

Follow Leroy on IG: https://www.instagram.com/leroyduivenvoorden/

Marketing Schmarketing: https://www.marketingschmarketing.nl/

“One Thing Does Not Exclude the Other” (Vera & Leroy’s podcast) on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/het-een-sluit-het-ander-niet-uit/id1615666895

Leroy’s photos from the Bi+ Netherlands Pride Boat: https://www.instagram.com/p/Cg_cgA1o1Wh/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA

Vera’s photos from the Bi+ Netherlands Pride Boat: https://www.instagram.com/p/ChACzpmICKF/?img_index=6

Vera & Leroy Duivenvoorden-Westenberg Are Pretty and Bisexual, and That's Enough

To get fired up and ready to go for the upcoming Nov. 5 election (and because I was behind on editing the next episode…), today I sat down again with our bi stepfather, RJ Aguiar, to talk politics! We discussed the importance of voting, especially for queer people, and what we’re doing in the final two weeks to support the causes we care about (mostly: democracy!). Please make a plan to vote, and make sure your friends and family have a plan to vote. We cannot afford to sit this one out – the stakes are too high.

Donate to the Harris/Walz campaign: https://kamalaharris.com [https://kamalaharris.com/]

Volunteer! https://go.kamalaharris.com [https://go.kamalaharris.com/]

Donate via ActBlue: https://secure.actblue.com [https://secure.actblue.com/]

Phone bank with White Men Against MAGA / Showing Up For Racial Justice: https://www.mobilize.us/surj/event/653094/

Donate to FairVote: https://fairvote.org [https://fairvote.org/]

Learn About Represent Us (the pro-democracy and voting reform organization I couldn’t remember the name of): https://represent.us/

Visit RJ’s website: https://www.rjaguiar.com/

Follow RJ on IG: https://www.instagram.com/damnitrj/?hl=en

Visit my website: www.RobertBrooksCohen.com [http://www.robertbrookscohen.com/]

Election Special with RJ Aguiar

A podcast about sexual fluidity, the gender spectrum, masculinity, intimacy, relationships and more, now hosted by one bi guy.