In this episode of The Men’s Collective Podcast, Travis Goodman, LMFT, sits down with Dr. Brendan Hartman to explore the unspoken rules of masculinity that shape men’s lives—and how to finally break free.

From peer group pressure to self-policing behaviors, Brendan reveals how many men unknowingly stay trapped in invisible “cages” of outdated masculine norms, limiting emotional expression, vulnerability, and authentic confidence. Together, Travis and Brendan unpack:

 * Why peer groups influence masculinity more than fathers or media
 * How self-policing keeps men stuck in silence, shame, and isolation
 * The contradictions men feel between their true self and the version society expects
 * Why emotional vulnerability is actually a strength, not a weakness
 * Practical steps to redefine masculinity, open the “cage door,” and live with more authenticity

This episode challenges outdated scripts of what it means to “be a man” and invites you to consider: Where in your life are you silently policing yourself? What would it look like to show up as your true self instead?

If you’ve ever felt stuck, disconnected, or trapped by expectations—you’re not alone. Join the conversation and take the first step toward authentic masculinity, purpose, and connection.

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The #1 Force Shaping Masculinity (It’s Not What You Think)

In this special in-person episode, Travis Goodman and Pierre Azzam sit down for a raw, honest conversation about purpose—what it really means, why it’s so easy to feel disconnected from it, and how community plays a crucial role in helping men discover it.

Together, they explore why so many men struggle to find clarity around purpose in today’s world—and how trying to do it alone often leads to burnout, confusion, or isolation. Drawing from Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning and their own work with men, Travis and Pierre emphasize that purpose isn’t just a personal quest—it’s relational. Real meaning is forged in connection, service, and shared values.

You’ll also hear a breakdown of the 5 Ps of Purpose—a practical framework we use in The Men’s Collective to help men move from abstract goals to grounded daily action.

Key takeaways:

 * Why clarity of purpose often requires community, not just introspection
 * How ego and isolation get in the way of meaningful progress
 * What the 5 Ps of Purpose are and how they guide men toward real momentum


Where are you searching for purpose alone—and what might open up if you invited another man into the conversation?



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Finding Purpose As Men: Why Community Matters More Than Ever

This week, Travis and Pierre sit down with Jon, author of Punishment-Free Parenting, to explore what it means to lead with empathy—not control—as a father, partner, and man.

Jon shares honest stories from his own fatherhood journey and dives into how neuroscience, curiosity, and compassion can help men raise resilient kids without shame or punishment. Together, they challenge outdated models of masculinity and offer practical tools for parenting and personal growth.

Key Highlights:

 * How your experience as a son shapes how you show up as a father
 * Why punishment fails—and what real connection looks like instead
 * The power of curiosity and modeling over control or fear

Challenge:
Reflect on one lesson from your upbringing you want to break—or carry forward. Where can you lead with curiosity instead of control?

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This episode isn’t just for dads. It’s for any man ready to rewrite the story—and raise the next generation with strength and heart.

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Why Punishment-Free Parenting Works: Father's Day Special (with Jon Fogel of Whole Parent)

Why is asking for help so hard for men?
In this episode, Travis Goodman and co-founder Pierre Azzam unpack the real reasons men hesitate to seek support—fear of judgment, shame, not wanting to be a burden—and how these beliefs keep men stuck and disconnected.

They explore what real support looks like (hint: it’s not just giving advice), how to build trust in male relationships, and why presence—not fixing—is often the most powerful thing you can offer or receive.

Key Takeaways:
Why support doesn’t equal weakness
The myth of being a burden
How to ask for what you actually need
Practical ways to create safe, connected brotherhood

Challenge:
What kind of support do you actually want—advice, witnessing, or presence?
Take the risk this week: name it and share it with someone you trust.

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Why Men Struggle to Ask for Help: Breaking the Support Barrier

In the final episode of the “5 Ps of Purpose” series, Travis and Pierre explore Power—not as dominance or bravado, but as grounded, authentic confidence rooted in values, emotional awareness, and connection.

They unpack what it means to lead with strength that’s integrated, not performative—and how true power emerges when men support one another, own their stories, and redefine masculinity on their own terms.

Highlights:
Power as emotional awareness and embodied confidence
Why connection—not competition—builds lasting strength
Letting go of external validation to live with intention

Challenge:
Where are you still measuring power by someone else’s standards?
This week, reflect on your authentic strengths—and name one in another man too.

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How Men Can Build Lasting Confidence (It’s Not What You Think!)

This week, Travis and Pierre dive into the fourth “P” of purpose: Presence—the core skill every man needs to stop reacting and start responding with intention.

They break down what presence really means—beyond buzzwords—and share practical, research-backed tools from polyvagal theory to help men regulate their nervous systems, stay grounded, and live with clarity.

Why Presence Matters:

Presence isn’t just being “in the moment”—it’s your ability to check in, know what you feel, and respond with purpose, not impulse. It’s how you stay aligned with your values in real life—under pressure, in conflict, or when life feels heavy.

Key Takeaways:

 * Presence = Nervous System Awareness
   Learn how to recognize when you’re calm, triggered, or disconnected—and what to do about it.
 * Pause Before You React
   Master the “power of the pause” to break free from anger, shame, or numbing cycles.
 * Emotions Are Strength
   Emotional presence is courageous. Use emotions as signals—not something to hide.

Challenge:

Pause. Check in.
What state are you in?
What do you really need right now?
Notice how presence changes your response—and your life.

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Stop Reacting, Start Responding: Presence & Nervous System Hacks for Men

In this episode of The Men’s Collective Podcast, Travis Goodman and Dr. Pierre Azzam explore the third pillar of the Five P’s Framework—Principles.

What are the values that truly define you? How do you stay grounded in them when life gets chaotic?

This conversation is all about helping men identify, define, and embody their core values—the personal compass that guides your choices, shapes your identity, and builds your legacy.

Here’s what you’ll hear:

 * How to reflect on the values that matter most to you.
 * How to recognize when you’re out of sync with your principles—and what to do about it.
 * What it takes to commit to your values, even when life pushes you off course.

Travis and Pierre share practical insights, real-life experiences, and tools to help you live a values-driven life. They explore how aligning with your principles can move you from feeling stuck or lost to living with purpose, motivation, and clarity.

Key Highlights:

 * Principles as Your Compass: Your values aren’t just ideals—they’re your anchor in uncertainty.
 * When You’re Out of Sync: The cost of ignoring your principles, and how to reconnect.
 * Resilience Through Values: How having a clear “why” helps you navigate adversity.

What are you willing to sacrifice comfort for?

 * What values are worth fighting for, even when things get tough?
 * Where in your life might you be out of alignment—and what small step can you take to realign?

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Why Most Men Feel Lost—And How to Reclaim Motivation Through Values

In this episode of The Men's Collective Podcast, Travis and Pierre delve into the concept of "programming" and its influence on masculinity and self-doubt. Building on the previous episode’s discussion about perspective, the conversation in this episode centers around the narratives men hold about themselves and their roles, exploring how these perceptions contribute to self-doubt and affect personal growth.

 1. Intertwined Narratives: The discussion highlights how masculinity and self-doubt are deeply intertwined, creating a powerful narrative that impacts many men's lives. These narratives influence not only how men perceive their adequacy but also how they seek validation and belonging.
 2. Redefining Masculinity: Pierre and Travis invite listeners to redefine masculinity based on personal experiences and values, rather than societal expectations. The conversation emphasizes the importance of creating a tailored definition of mature masculinity that fosters belonging and community among men.
 3. Importance of Conversation: Bringing conversations about masculinity out of hiding and removing shame is crucial. This episode stresses the need to establish a roadmap for mature, healthy masculinity by presenting a framework that's inclusive and accommodating of diverse experiences and backgrounds.

Reflect on your own perceptions of masculinity. How do these perceptions influence your self-doubt and limiting beliefs? Take a moment to consider how you can redefine these narratives to align with your personal values and aspirations. 

Join the Men's Collective to share your journey and become part of a supportive community that empowers men to rewrite their stories. 

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Unpacking Masculinity: What It Truly Means to Be a Man

In this episode, we dive into the first pillar of the Men's Collective's five pillars of purpose: Perspective. Pierre and Travis engage in a deep discussion about what perspective means and why it’s the indispensable starting point for personal growth and true fulfillment beyond traditional measures of success.

Understanding perspective is crucial because it offers a lens through which men can reassess their life's trajectory and redefine success from personal fulfillment rather than societal expectations. This redefined view serves as a catalyst for deeper connections with oneself and others, fostering authentic interactions that transcend superficial achievements.

Highlights

 1. The Fulfillment vs. Success Dichotomy: Pierre and Travis explore the difference between traditional success markers like financial achievements or credentials and true fulfillment. They discuss the importance of understanding life stories and experiences to pave the way for a meaningful future.
 2. Zooming Out for Deeper Insight: The discussion emphasizes the value of stepping back to take a broader look at one's goals and achievements. By doing so, men can better align their daily lives with what genuinely fulfills them, beyond material accomplishments.
 3. Connection over Competition: The episode highlights the powerful shift from competition to camaraderie among men when they let go of accolades and truly connect on the basis of humanity and shared experience. It underscores the creation of a supportive community where authenticity and genuine relationships thrive.

As you reflect on this episode, consider this: How are you currently defining success in your life, and is it bringing you true fulfillment? Take a moment to zoom out and reassess. Identify one area where your perception of success might be more aligned with societal expectations than personal fulfillment, and consider what changes could help you feel more fulfilled and authentically connected to yourself and others.

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The Purpose of Perspective: Discovering True Fulfillment

In this inaugural episode of The Men's Collective podcast, Travis Goodman and Pierre Azzam share the transformative journey and vision of the Men's Collective, a space dedicated to men's development and authentic connection. They delve into the evolution of the podcast and the community from its previous iterations and discuss the significance of stepping into this new endeavor together. This episode sets the stage for the program's mission to help men show up with authenticity and purpose in their lives.

Keypoints:

 1. Evolution of the Podcast: Travis shares the progression of the podcast from "The Integrated Man Project" to "The Men's Collective," emphasizing this shift as a response to growth and the need for more interconnected engagement among men.
 2. The Heartbeat of the Men's Collective: Pierre and Travis discuss how the Men's Collective is about creating a community that encourages vulnerability, accountability, and a departure from the lone wolf mentality. They emphasize the importance of building connections that are genuinely supportive and transformative for men.
 3. Core Values and Orientation: The focus on authenticity and the expansion beyond self is discussed as key elements of the Collective. Travis highlights the integration of scientific approaches such as the polyvagal theory into this work, aiming for a holistic approach to men's development.

Reflect on areas in your life where you show up inauthentically or feel pressured to perform. What steps can you take today to begin embracing vulnerability and authenticity in those areas? Consider how joining a community of supportive men like the Men's Collective could help you in this journey. What small action could you take to connect more deeply with others in your life or community this week?



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The Men's Collective: Creating a Space for Authenticity, Vulnerability, and Growth

Welcome to The Men’s Collective Podcast—where men learn to live grounded, adaptable, authentic, and resilient. This is where purpose meets action, where real connection fuels growth, and where you step fully into the man you’re meant to be.

Hi, we are Travis Goodman, LMFT, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Mind + Body Coach & Pierre Azzam, MD, Psychiatrist and Professional Coach for men.

We look forward to journeying with you! 

Welcome!

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