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EP 42: Audience Q&A
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You asked and we delivered. This week the moms answer an array of questions submitted by listeners! This fun grab bag of prompts runs the gamit from how many kids we want to future plans for the podcast.
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Introductions and Overwhelmed by Gifts
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There's no right way to do it. Oh, we're gonna get into it.
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What up moms? My name is Candace and I'm here with my bestie girl, Whitney, and this is the mom group chat podcast. Hello. Hello. I am in the most disastrous of rooms right now. Like if you can see the video, which I should post when we post this, it is a fucking madhouse in
Easter Gift Dilemma and Storage Solutions
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here.
00:00:38
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There is stuff from Easter. Okay, I need to have a conversation about Easter. Is it just my family? But like, Alice got almost as many gifts for Easter as she did for Christmas.
00:00:52
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Oh no, and you just had a birthday, so. Literally a week, four days, five days before Easter, we had her second birthday. So the reason this room is a disaster is because it's filled with Easter gifts. How sweet though. My family was out of town, so I got nada. Well, I can mail you some Easter gifts if you like them. I got a little, no, no, it's over. We're done, we're moving on.
00:01:23
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Easter's out. We're on to 4th of July, baby. Yeah. This year, I like tried to be cute and like buy her new things. And I made her an Easter basket and all of that stuff. But last year for Easter, when she was one, I shopped around my house for her Easter basket. Like I had about that. Mm hmm. There's a video about it on my TikTok, I think.
00:01:46
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I literally gathered things from the previous Easter to put in last year's Easter basket. And she opened it like everything was brand new and she had no idea. And I'm telling you, that's what I'm doing. I'm putting all of this Easter stuff in a bin and I'm marking it Easter. And next year when I have to do her Easter basket, I'm just going to shop. I mean, obviously I'm not going to use like the candy and stuff that would melt and be gross, but all of these stuffed bunnies and stickers and all of this stuff
00:02:15
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It's going in a bin and I will be repurposing for next Easter. I feel like that's Easter. Totally normal. I think I did the same thing, like gifts that we still hadn't opened from Christmas. I'll like toss it in there because sometimes people get them things like that are a little older, like for an older kid.
00:02:35
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And I'm like, okay, I think he's finally able to like control himself with the Play-Doh. Like I can leave him alone with it now. You can have it now. So I do the same. He doesn't try to eat it. Alice wants to eat it. He more so likes to, he mushes all the colors together, which whatever.
00:02:54
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And he starts to rip it up. Yeah. Rip it apart and like take it in different places. So then I'm like, you have to sit here and only play with it here because if when you start walking around with that shit and it's mushed in my carpet, we're going to have a different story.
00:03:10
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Oh, that's my, that's my biggest fear. Not necessarily the living room carpet or the living room rug is like from Amazon and with having two dogs and toddlers, I've just given up on like buying an expensive rug for that space because I'm like, we're going to replace this every year and a half, two years. And I'd rather just spend a couple hundred dollars on a rug. You know what I mean? Then having it cleaned. And they're so expensive. I know like nice area rugs are so
Home Essentials Recommendation
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expensive. So that's why.
00:03:39
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I actually love my Amazon rug. If anyone wants a link, send me a DM because I really like it. Um, but yeah, this room is a disaster. So if you see bags and boxes and all sorts of stuff in the background of this video, just ignore, just keeping it real. I love that. Yeah. And I cannot, I'm counting down the days until my she shed is ready. Guys counting down.
00:04:08
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I feel like we need a pick update on the story. Yeah, yeah. So we are on the horizon. The goal is by end of June. So this weekend on 4-20, LOL. If you know my husband, you know why that's funny. He's doing a big work day this weekend.
00:04:30
Speaker
They're putting in drywall. They're finishing the roof. They're putting in the ceiling of it. They're insulating it. So it's going to look a lot different at the end of this weekend. And then I got to start picking finishes. We have to go pick out flooring. So fun.
00:04:52
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I know that part I really am going to document because right now like we have a bunch of like time lapses of stuff that he's done like construction wise but
00:05:02
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I'm so excited. I'm already dreaming of the kind of chair I want to sit in for podcast recording. I'm going to try and create one of the reasons we built that is for it to be a podcast studio for me.
Podcast Future and Tribute to Shannon
00:05:15
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So I'm excited to make it vibey, make it mom group chat vibes, and to not be sitting on the floor of this disgusting nursery. Not disgusting, that's dramatic, but of this messy nursery anymore.
00:05:30
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And then hopefully I can replicate it on my side and it'll look like we're in the same room all the time. Yeah. So this kind of brings me to the first question. So today's episode is just going to be a general Q&A. It's been a while since we've done one of these, um, probably since, you know, we, our last one was with Shannon, right? Like towards the beginning.
00:05:53
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So it's been a while. We felt like we wanted to do an updated Q&A. Which I love these. I think they're really fun. Me too. And it kind of takes the pressure off of us. We're like, yay, someone's asking us questions. Yeah, exactly. We asked you guys on Instagram and inside of our Facebook group. So I'm excited. And this kind of brings me to the first question. I was talking about this podcast studio. Someone asked,
00:06:21
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what is the future of the podcast look like, merch, guests, et cetera, like future plans, which y'all, we got plans, we got lots of plans. We're going off air, so.
00:06:37
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Just kidding. Oh, my God. Not you scaring me like I don't know the plans. I was like, what? We're done. Thanks, everybody. Great. Oh, my God. So scary. You don't say that. Just kidding.
00:06:54
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We have a lot of plans in motion. We are, I mean, I don't know how many beans we want to spill right now, but we have a lot of really exciting guests coming up. Obviously, we were super excited for Dr. Gowdy at Nosebot. We have another really amazing female, actually two female founders coming on of amazing brands. So those will be coming out soon.
00:07:21
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And yeah, we've gotten so many amazing inquiries. If you're ever interested in being a guest on our show, send us an email at momgroupchatpodcastatgmail.com. We love guests, but we also know that you guys love as listeners just hearing us shoot the shit like this. So don't worry. The guests will be like here and there, but you're stuck with Whitney and I for good.
00:07:45
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And the other fun thing is merch. Yeah, I want I want merch. Real bad. Merch has been on our vision board for a very long time. We're going to do a little tiny rebrand in this next couple weeks and not we're still going to be the mom group chat. You know and love all of the vibes are the same. We just kind of want a more like cohesive
00:08:14
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you know, branding and we wanted to do that before we launch merch so that everything is new and fresh. But yeah, we're so excited about that. So excited to rebrand and really the idea behind that too was I felt like we're at a good place where we're growing so quickly and everyone's really engaging and it just seems like the next step. So it's like, yeah.
00:08:41
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wow this journey like just an idea two years ago is really coming to fruition so really excited and be on the lookout for merch maybe this fall
00:08:53
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I'm so excited. Also, I don't know that Whitney, you and I have even talked about this, but we're coming up on the one year anniversary of our first episode. We are Mother's Day. Yeah. It was like May 17th or something. I need to look it up, but we're definitely going to do something. We should do something fun on Instagram for that.
00:09:16
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I don't know what we're going to have to figure out, but we haven't even talked about it. But yeah, there's so much that we have in the works and plans for mom group chat. It is such a passion for both of us. Everything we do, at least this is how I think about it.
00:09:35
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is seeing out the wishes of Shannon and like she was such an amazing, I mean, she was one third of the show and I won't go too deep into this, but we had Shannon's like Tampa funeral this past weekend. So I got to connect and see so many people that like loved her and
00:09:56
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I got to see TJ and Andrew and her parents and all the people that loved her the most. I had so many people at the funeral come up to me and say,
00:10:14
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I'm so happy you guys continued the show or I love the show. I'm so happy that all of that is in the world and Shannon is like living forever through that. And I've told everyone the same thing is like we had such big plans for the show that Shannon was all in on and she would be so mad if we didn't continue. So all of this is for Shannon as well.
00:10:38
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And we love her and miss her so much. And we hope that we always used to say to the moon. So we're taking this to the moon for her. And yeah, we love her and miss her so much. I would have done anything to be there. So sad I had to miss that. No, I know. I know for sure.
00:10:59
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Oh, wait, sorry, one more comment about other future things. Okay. Because someone because someone commented on this on our in our Facebook group, they asked if we
00:11:09
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ever have plans to bring moms on to talk about their other experiences that are different than ours. And I think that's always been something we want to do. Her specific example was like, I think she had had a natural birth or a home birth, which obviously neither of us have, nor I don't think we ever will personally.
00:11:30
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But I would love to share that perspective and that experience for those moms out there that are curious about that kind of stuff. And just in general, share some mom stories that maybe are different from ours.
Building a Podcast Studio
00:11:45
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So short answer to that is yes, we definitely plan to do something like that. And
00:11:51
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share some experiences that are different than ours. That C-section, I've had requests of stepmoms. Yeah, totally. All different perspectives and how the child is with the stepmom. We have lots of ideas and- Definitely. It's coming for sure. Yeah, that's just a wealth of knowledge.
00:12:16
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For the first question or second question, I guess, what or when was the moment when you and your family realized you were ready for baby number two? In my head, I have a timeline. So my son and baby number two are three-ish years apart. My son is one in a few weeks. So we'd probably start trying next summer since I was a May or June baby. And I have the summer off again. This is such a good question.
00:12:44
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I feel like at least my experience, it would be different for each pregnancy. The gap for me is going to be different. I feel like after Alice, I knew for sure we wanted more than one. That's the first thing. I also knew I wanted them close-ish in age. I also hated being pregnant, especially with Alice's pregnancy, and I was on team. Let's get it over with.
00:13:11
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Like truly, I was like, the sooner we do this, the sooner I'm done being pregnant. So I don't know. I feel like for us, it's like when, when I felt like we hit a little bit of a plateau of the craziness, like the newborn life is crazy. Baby life is crazy. But I felt like there was a point where we hit a plateau of like, okay, we've got this handled. And like, I feel confident as a mom,
00:13:37
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I feel like Vinny felt confident as a dad and I was like, we could totally add someone else to the mix of this or I could be pregnant and I feel like we could still handle everything we're handling now. You know what I mean?
00:13:53
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Yeah. And for me, I didn't have a choice. I accidentally got pregnant with Margo, which, thank God, love the nug. But like Candice, I knew I wanted a second. That was never
00:14:15
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a thing like I always wanted to. I think if I had a choice, I would have waited longer. The two under two is hard. I think I would have rather had like a two and a half, three year age gap, which I don't have perspective on that either. So I'm like, I'm sure it has its nuances as well. But I think I personally would have waited just because Graydon is still very much a baby as well, which. Yeah.
00:14:45
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That also comes with two diapers, which is fine. I'm already in that mindset, but he I just mean like
00:14:53
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emotionally for them both to still and like be in baby world. It's tough. Yeah. I think three years is great. Like what you have, what she's asking is a great gap. I would say if you are feeling like confident and like not completely overwhelmed with like the current stage you're in, like
00:15:18
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You could be ready for another one, but I kind of feel like it's a mom gut thing, too, of like just being like, I feel ready. You know, we're both 20. They're both 23 months apart. Right. Yeah. So yeah, we were both our our kids were 14 months old when we both got pregnant. So which is good. Crazy to think about. Well, it's a good time. I mean, Graydon was already walking still a little teetering around, but
00:15:48
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you don't have to handhold as much even though they're like getting in the fireplace, running after rocks and putting them in their mouth. You know, it's like you kind of have those things, but you're all good. You've kind of got it figured out. So you're in a good spot. I will say we are, and this is one of the questions. So I'm just going to do a two for one here. Someone asked how many kids do you want for us? Like we are totally undecided on if
Family Planning Decisions
00:16:14
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we're going to have a third.
00:16:16
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Um, my husband personally is petrified about having another girl and us being like a three girl family. So that is kind of holding, like if you were to like gun to my head and gun to my husband's head, I would say, we're going to try for a third. And he would say, we're done.
00:16:36
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So I have said this time, if we do have a third, I would like a little bit more of an age gap. I don't think we would even start to think about it until Evie is two. Um, so that's what I've told him. Cause he's quick to say like, we're, I think we're done. And I'm like, listen, honey, we're not even having this conversation yet. Like I don't want to say so for sure. We'll talk about it when Evie turns two and we'll see where we're at.
00:17:06
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And I think that's smart, so. Yeah. Two's a great age to start trying again. And that actually leads into another question someone asked me specifically. Yeah. Why or when did we make the decision for Chris to get a vasectomy, which I hadn't really touched on. I talked about it with Olivia, but we haven't talked about it together. Yeah. Give us a give us a little like rundown on that.
00:17:34
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So I had always said that we would wait until we were 35 and make the decision then. But once we found out Margo was a girl, you know, it was December and Margo was like, what? Three, four months old at that point. And we had hit our deductible and we were just like, you know what? We got the boy and girl. Let's not push our luck. Like,
00:18:00
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We're happy this we feel good as a unit. I like the four of us. So we just made the decision that we were happy and content. And, you know, another thing that we think about.
00:18:14
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or that we were asking ourselves was when one of my best friends, say Candice, tells me that she's pregnant with her third, would I be jealous, sad, or would I be happy for her? And even thinking those thoughts now or down the road, I'm like, I'm just happy. I'm not jealous. I'm not wishing, oh, I wish that was
00:18:37
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me like I'm content in my decision. And I think that's what everyone should consider if you're making that permanent of a decision. So yeah, that's why we made it really. We were good. Do you think OK, I'm going to ask you a question. No. Do you feel like when Margo starts to exit the baby phase at all, like and starts to look like a kid that you're going to be like, oh, like
00:19:05
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Or no, not really. I I guess you're not really like a newborn person. I'm not. I think, though, that I will love to be that helping hand and be like, oh, they're so sweet. Like, and I will know the stages and I will know what my friends are going through. And I just want to be that helping hand.
00:19:29
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and be that happy person that gets to hand them back, like a grandma. I'm like, woohoo, it was so good to see you. Here you go. Here's your baby back. And I think I'm just going to be like that. OK, that's fair. That's fair.
00:19:49
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I still think I want a third. Maybe I'm saying that because Evie's like the chillest baby of all time. I'm really testing my luck if I have a third. I'm also testing my luck for our wallets if it's another girl. Dear God. I feel like all my friends are gonna have a third. Everyone I've talked to, they're teetering and I'm like,
00:20:10
Speaker
Sayonara, suckers. I'll see you on the other side. I'll see you later. Oh, my gosh. Well, we also got a lot of questions in the same vein of like tips for transitioning or from going from one to two.
Parenting Challenges with Multiple Children
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We also got a question that said what was harder going from zero to one and or one to two.
00:20:36
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I know my answers for this. Whitney, what do you think was harder? Zero to one. Yeah. And I think one to two has been way harder. Oh, really? Oh, 100 percent. Oh, tell me about I don't think I know that. Yeah. I mean, I truly feel like I have no time anymore. I'm surprised by this answer.
00:21:03
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because Evie's so good or just- I don't know. I just think zero to one is such a mind shift and I don't know, you're like allowed to be selfish before and then it's like you just don't have time for the things you thought you would have time for like going out to eat or just old habits that
00:21:25
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are gone and with Graydon and Margo, it's like, well, we're not really going out to eat all the time anymore anyway. So I'm not worried about that or I'm not worried about changing diapers. I'm not worried about the runny nose. I know how to fix everything. I feel like overall, our life has changed more with having a second than the first. Wow. Yeah. Wow.
00:21:54
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I feel like it's crazy. That's so interesting. I will say, I think it's important to mention since Evie was born, there's been a lot of outstanding factors that have been happening in my life.
00:22:09
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My mom is still dealing with health issues and we've had like car issues and like just a lot of like outside stressors that I think could be a factor in that. Um, so that is fair to say that I do think there are other like extenuating circumstances that like could be adding to that. And then tips from going from one to two.
00:22:48
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My thought is to like, I don't know. This sounds like such generic advice, but like do what works for you and your family and like let go of your expectations of what it might be like. I know I've said this in the past and like another episode, but you see a lot of videos online of like what it's like to like bring your second home and, you know, have this like sweet moment time, like,
00:23:03
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T's and P's.
00:23:15
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just set the expectation that it might not be like that and it's okay if it's not. And then there's a lot of divide and conquer with having two, which I think is a big adjustment. Maybe that's the part that is hard for me. I feel like when we had Alice, there was so much that Vinny and I were tackling together.
00:23:39
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We did bath time together and we did like, we would make food together and like all that stuff. And right now it's very much we're dividing and conquering. Like you take Evie, I take Alice or vice versa. And it can feel kind of separating at time.
00:23:57
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And I don't know if you feel this way, it kind of causes like an opportunity of like playing checks and balances of like, no, I did this last time. Because don't get me wrong, like I love Alice. She's like my favorite person on the planet, but like she's more difficult than Evie is, like just being a toddler. And I feel like sometimes it's caused between Vinny and I and this divide and conquer thing being like, no, well, I took Alice last time. You know what I mean? Yeah.
00:24:24
Speaker
Well, that's I don't like that's how we set it up is we alternate nights with each of them. So which is maybe maybe we need to do that because we kind of argue. Yeah, not that we argue about it, but it's like we do it kind of are like the expectation is set like I had Margo last night. Chris had Graydon last night. And really, the only reason we
00:24:52
Speaker
The only reason we started doing that was because Graydon was only asking for Chris at bedtime and it became an issue. So we had to start rotating me in. So we started switching every night. And so I get her when I- Does Graydon like understand that? Is he like, it's mommy's night? No. Or no. No. Okay.
00:25:15
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Um, and I kind of like the divide and conquer, but they both bathed together and then we kind of separate and both do the bedtime routine. And, but yeah, I mean, it's a, it's a big transition, I think. And like, for example, with the whole like breastfeeding thing, it wasn't,
00:25:35
Speaker
for breastfeeding wasn't serving my mental health with two. I just felt too stretched thin and we officially switched to formula and I hooked up my baby Brezza. And let me tell you that thing is a
00:25:50
Speaker
Actually, my advice from one to two is to get a baby Bressa. I told you, you're so funny when you texted me and I was like, I think I waited till Margo was 10 weeks. And I was like, why did I wait so long? Did you fill that out? Cause I've been making formula bottles by hand for like a week and a half, two weeks now. And I'm like, what was I thinking?
00:26:12
Speaker
you, I don't know, you kind of black out the newborn stage. And I remember feeling left behind a lot. Um, like Chris was still going out and doing stuff with Graydon and you kind of forget that you have to just succumb to newborn life. And I was like, Oh man, this isn't
00:26:29
Speaker
Great like I want to I miss grade and so that part was hard but like now that she's seven months old we're we're moving and grooving she's coming with us to all the things like It just feels like we're hitting a good stride again. So yeah, it's ultimately like I feel like an overarching theme of motherhood is like I
00:26:54
Speaker
This is so cheesy and sounds like something that would be on like a choogie wall poster. But like this too shall pass. Like this is a phase that will pass and like things are going to feel good again. Yep. So this. What is a random weird mom fear that you have? For example, I'm scared my toddler is going to get his head stuck in a toilet and have and I have locks all over my toilets. Oh, my God. I love this question so much.
00:27:24
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I know mine, but it's like very location specific, but I just have, okay, we go to a park here that's on the water and has a big pier and I don't know why I just have a crazy fear of one of my kids falling into the open ocean.
00:27:41
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I like it's I have vivid visions of it like I just falling off the pier into the open rough ocean and one of us having to jump in I don't know why but and we're like so careful with them around those things but I'm just like
00:28:00
Speaker
For some reason, the open ocean is just so scary to me. It's not scary at all. It's not scary at all to my husband. I used to love it. I just remember putting on my big ass goggles and snorkeling and I would just float forever. And I would end up 10 miles down the way and I'd stand up and be like, where the fuck is my mom? Why did parents just not give an F? I was fine.
00:28:28
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The way my eyes would be on my child. Mine is probably getting hit by a car, which I can say because I watched my dog get hit by a car growing up. It was so
00:28:51
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Yeah, so I think it's just like I have a fear that he's gonna learn to open the door one day and just run in the street and like I just see have this vision of him like thinking I'm chasing him and he's looking back at me being like and then a car or something because we have tons of
00:29:10
Speaker
We live on like the main street, so a lot of like worker trucks, a lot of lawn care, people are like flying down the road and I'm just, it's my fear. That and him walking the point two miles to the pool, jumping the fence and getting in the water. Isn't it funny how like you literally think of these situations that like are so unrealistic, but your intrusive thoughts tell you that they might, you know?
00:29:38
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The railing is so thin too and he becomes Gumby and just somehow gets through the bars. I don't know. Yeah. There was a fear I had the other day that I told my mom and I just kept saying, my intrusive thoughts tell me that she might.
00:29:54
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Basically, I feel like I've heard from so many moms that crazy intrusive like thoughts like that are so common.
Parental Anxieties and Fears
00:30:02
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Another one I guess is like somehow climbing out of the window of a moving vehicle and just like flinging herself out the window, which like why would that ever happen? I don't know. I hate that. I don't like that. I don't like that either. Oh, tell us your favorite thing about each other.
00:30:21
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I love this question. I love you so much. Why? I don't know. You don't even know what I'm going to say. I know I'm embarrassed. Why are you embarrassed? I don't know. It's such an intimate question. Because we love each other so much? Yeah. Yeah.
00:30:39
Speaker
Candice and I really have love fests all the time. We tell each other how much we appreciate each other all the time, because we're in a relationship. Yeah, we are for sure. I told Candice the other day, she's the one person in my life, probably her and Chris, that I have never gotten tired of. Nothing she could do.
00:31:04
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would make me annoyed, upset, like, I'm sure there's things that you've said where I've been like, what the fuck? But like, I can't even think about it. It's like a weird... It doesn't happen often is what I'm trying to say. Okay, if I had to think...
00:31:23
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off the top of my head. I know Candice is like so professional on here and that is like one of her great qualities and so organized. But like my favorite thing about you is like your
00:31:39
Speaker
always down, I don't know, we always go back to where we were, and you're always down to have so much fun with me. You're my favorite person to go do anything with. Oh my God, you're so nice. And I don't know, it's just like you're my person that I wanna do everything in the world with you. Are we married? Yeah, I feel the exact same way. We could do anything, we could do anything and nothing, and I'm gonna have a good time, you know? Yeah, yeah.
00:32:09
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Yeah. Oh, there's so many things I could say about you. I mean, your sense of humor and your comedic timing is 100%. Like one of my favorite things for sure. You just have, you like have the funniest like one liners and like, I feel like, I feel like you grasp onto like one tiny detail of a story and you can make it so funny. And that's definitely, that's my favorite compliment. Like if I'm meeting someone for the first time and they go,
00:32:39
Speaker
Oh, you're funny. I'm like, Oh, you are her though. You are really funny. And then my other thing is, I mean, it's kind of what you said about me. It's like, you are like, I don't ever feel like I have to be someone else around you. Like we can just be however we are in that moment. And like, you're not judgy. You're not like pushy. Like you are just,
00:33:09
Speaker
You just let the cards fall where they may and you let me be. Yeah, you're a dandelion floating in the wind, just ready to do whatever. But I love that about our friendship, just that we can just be and do whatever we want and it's going to be fun and a good time. Wow.
00:33:33
Speaker
Now I just feel warm and fuzzy and sweaty. What I was going to say is if I've learned anything from Shannon's passing, it's that tell you tell everyone what you're feeling all the time. And they actually talked about this in her funeral literally on Saturday.
00:33:53
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that like don't wait to the priest like told a story about this this 100 year old woman that he used to visit every day and the woman asked him to tell people not to send flowers to her funeral instead send them now when she's alive because she wants to be able to like
00:34:14
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smell them and enjoy them. And it's like, don't wait. Don't wait to like tell people you love them or enjoy something like because you never know what tomorrow brings.
00:34:26
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I especially in the past six months have been like all about just telling people what they mean to me and like, so this is your sign to call up a friend and tell them how much they mean to you. I love that. And man, my friends in Rhode Island had that perspective. We like told each other how much we liked each other all the time. I felt like a PIMP when I lived up there, it was just like, words of affirmation. Everyone was so nice. So I love that.
College Stories Teaser
00:34:56
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Well, thanks. OK, we're not going to get to all of these questions. I'm just there's so many. I know I'm trying to find. I love someone said more college stories, please. We'll need a whole episode on that. Maybe maybe we'll do it. Let me tell them on her.
00:35:14
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Well, first of all, if we told them right now, we'd take up the whole rest of this episode. OK, OK, OK, OK. So OK, we will do a trip down memory lane episode. We're glad everyone likes that. But I want I want to come armed. Like, if you're coming at me, I'm coming armed with you. You already know which story I want to tell.
00:35:33
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Maybe. Oh my God. It's my funniest. The elf one. Okay. That's what I thought. That's what I thought you were going to say. Okay. We'll have to save that for another time. Maybe a Christmas cocktail special. Yeah. That's too far. Don't want to make people wait. Okay. That was, I love that. Going right for nanny and babysitters for two kids.
00:36:00
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It's funny everywhere. I know. We literally just talked. Literally just talked about this.
Childcare Costs Discussion
00:36:05
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Like I got a quote, a quote. It sounds like I'm getting a new roof or something, but, um, I talked to someone yesterday that was $25 an hour for two kids. So, and where I live, it's 25 for one. So yeah, I got a move.
00:36:25
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Yeah, I would say to find a if you're looking for if you want like a accurate rate for your area to join like a mom group like Facebook group that's in your area or see if there's any other moms in our mom group chat Facebook group. There's seven hundred plus moms in there and there's probably someone who lives close ish to you that could maybe give you a more accurate read on what the going rate is.
00:36:54
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Yeah, that's tough. It's expensive. Nannies and babysitters, you know, it's exclusive one-on-one time with your kids. So just know that it's, it's pricey. Um, an easy question. What's your favorite drink? It's a dirty martini for sure. Oh wait, are we talking alcoholic or like, okay, let's do like, do you, okay. Morning coffee, coffee with some sort of caramel creamer.
00:37:22
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where we, I do a dash of cinnamon and vanilla bliss creamer. Okay. Are you, um, are you an ice coffee or a hot coffee girl? I like both. We have a fancy machine that Chris bought. And, um, so it's, it makes both fancy. Um, and so I usually drink it hot.
00:37:50
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but I love iced coffee. If I'm going to a place to get it, I want iced. Yeah, I'm the same way. If I'm at home, I love hot coffee in a mug, but if I'm getting a coffee out and about, it's almost always iced. Unless it's freezing outside, then I will get a hot coffee.
00:38:09
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Fun fact, I never drank coffee until I started working at 23. I never drank it in college. Everyone was obsessed with Starbucks and I never, ever set foot in there. Whoa, how come I don't remember that? I mean, I remember you trekking all the way to the Ferg to go.
00:38:28
Speaker
Oh, I, I loved Starbucks. That was like my, get myself a little treat every day. Never. Yeah. I never drink it. And then now I probably drink two a day, which really isn't a lot. I drink it in the morning. And then before I go pick up grading from daycare, I'm like time for second shift. Pick me up. Yep. So I drink it at like two o'clock. Okay. So let's do like non-alcoholic, but not like morning time.
00:38:56
Speaker
OK, I like polar water. The grapefruit one. Oh, that's a good one. It's a delicious little treat I like to have with my lunch. The healthy person in me wants to say I love an ice cold lime liqueur. The non-healthy version of me says I would like a root beer or a Dr. Pepper.
00:39:21
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Root beer. Oh, my God, I have root beer all the time. That's one of my biggest pregnancy cravings, too, is root beer.
00:39:32
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Yeah, I like a cherry Coke. Like if it's, instead of like doing the afternoon coffee, and sometimes I'll grab a little Coke. Ooh, that sounds so good. So yummy. And for drinks. All right, and then drink drinks. If I'm doing martini, I like a Cosmo, so basic. And then, but I am such a Chardonnay person. Like I- I associate with- I drink that a lot. Yeah, I probably drink that three times a week.
00:40:00
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if I'm being honest. Mine is a dirty martini, almost always. If I'm like out to dinner, I'm getting a dirty martini.
00:40:11
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I don't know, I love a margarita. And honestly, I still, I know, I feel like these are kind of on the way out or at least like, like you and I have talked about this of like, you just prefer wine. I do love a crisp glass of Sauvignon Blanc, but I still love like at a barbecue, like I love a high noon or a spike seltzer or something.
00:40:34
Speaker
I just never got into it. They gave me heartburn pretty bad. So I don't drink them. I love them so much. So I'm still a fan. That's a that's a fun, fun question. Like not not me saying every kind of I'm like dirty Martini and Margarita. I love a crisp glass of something a blog.
00:40:58
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We're connoisseurs. What can you say? There was like a funny at all. It's not on here, but it's like, what is one of your favorite songs of all time that you could it would come on and you'd still be like, oh, my God, I just love this. I'm like, you know, whenever you're listening to your like music and it like comes in rotation, you're just like, yes. Yeah. I know my name immediately.
00:41:27
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What? It's My My My by Troye Sivan, which is so random. But that is probably my most played song. Like if I'm in a bad mood or if I want to start my day on the right foot, I just play it and it is instantly like I'm living my best life. It is so good. It's like the perfect like pop song. I love it.
00:41:50
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I just had to look up who sings this. No, I guess I'm obscure. It is. Yeah, it's called Kiss the Sky. And don't laugh. But it's by Sean Lee's Ping Pong Orchestra. The fuck.
00:42:05
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I don't know. I don't know, but it's like you have to listen. Oh, I mean, it's, you know, my genre and I anytime it comes on. I'm like, oh, it's so good. OK, we're going to have to post these in our stories so that people can indulge. Yeah. And Candace, yeah.
00:42:24
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I don't know if we've talked about our genres of music before, but. I'm kind of all over the place. The only thing I don't really fuck with this country, but I'm having like a internal struggle with Beyonce's new album. I have like a few songs I like on there, but it's really hard. Like I'm like, I love Beyonce so much. I'm trying to do this for her, but.
00:42:49
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It's hard. Like her and Miley Cyrus' song though is so good. Like that's a song like I want to karaoke too. Yeah. I have to be honest. I haven't listened very much. I just haven't had time, but I plan to. It's on the docket. I'm going to send it to you because I actually know you would like that song.
00:43:07
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Yeah, there are definitely times where a country song is like feels good, if that makes sense, like a day drink barbecue situation in a country songs playing. I'm like, you know what? I'm cool with this. It's if it's the vibes, but I just wouldn't choose to listen to it on my own.
00:43:24
Speaker
You know, I think the songs called most wanted with Beyonce and Miley and it's a song in the summer with the windows down and you're singing your freaking heart out. That's the that's what that is. Maybe I'll go for a drive today. It's such a beautiful day and we'll listen to it. OK, let's do like one or two more questions. Yeah, yeah. Let me look through here.
00:43:49
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How about this for you? Any skincare wrecks, your skin is always glowing. I know that they're not talking to me, they're talking to you. So you can answer that.
Skincare Routine Tips
00:44:00
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Thank you so much. I am a big same care girl. You guys know this. I highly recommend the brand The Outset. It is Scarlett Johansson and Kate Foster's skincare brand.
00:44:16
Speaker
Um, it is specifically made for sensitive skin and is true, like simple, good skincare. It's honestly really good for moms because it is straight forward. Like here's the set you need. Um, that's great. Yeah. Yeah. I, um, recently learned that I had sensitive skin and I've talked about this on the
00:44:35
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either on the podcast or in our Instagram stories like during a Q&A. I developed rosacea in my last, like when I was pregnant with Evie and I still have it. And so rosacea, if you have rosacea, it automatically puts you into the sensitive skin bucket.
00:44:56
Speaker
So I have been trying to really focus on products for sensitive skin. And I got a facial recently and the woman was like, yeah, you definitely have sensitive skin. And I told her I was using the outset and that she was like, that's
00:45:10
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amazing. She also recommended the SkinCeuticals spray that I'll post it on our stories. It is specifically for redness. If you deal with redness at all, you need this spray. You kind of use it like a toner. Cool.
00:45:27
Speaker
Let's see, what else do I love? I love Paula's Choice. That's a great brand that I've loved using. But I'll post, I have a whole list of my skincare recs in a link so I can post it on our stories. But I highly recommend the outset. It's really just simple, good skincare, honestly.
00:45:53
Speaker
I probably once a year, I'm like, I need a skincare routine and I need it labeled out. Step one, step two, step three. That's why this, you should check out the outset because it's like you, like here are the four things you need. You know what I mean? I feel like there's a lot in the beauty world and don't get me wrong. Like I get sucked into this too, but it, they overcomplicate things. And as moms, like we don't have time for overcomplicating it. Like.
00:46:22
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So I'm hoping I'll be inspired in a future episode. Yeah, I think you will. One more question. Most annoying thing your toddler does and lovable thing.
00:46:38
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Right now, Graydon talks over us, like if Chris and I are having a conversation or if I'm trying to send Candace a voice note, he interrupts and it's just like an attention-seeking thing.
00:46:56
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and it's like he hasn't quite learned to not talk while we're talking and I know people say like teach them by grabbing their hand and like giving them a squeeze like I hear you I will answer when I'm done talking but man it is like so apparent when I'm talking to someone I don't normally talk to a lot or like my parents are over and he's just like like just trying to interrupt yeah it's annoying
00:47:23
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Yeah, that's annoying. I also deal with that. But I think the thing that.
00:47:30
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makes my blood boil the most is still her throwing food and her forks and spoons on the floor. And she I just recently have started to do like the whole sizzle time thing with her doing that because I she does it now for a reaction. And I don't know. I don't know why it boils my blood so much. Like I should just.
00:47:59
Speaker
It's a moms on call thing. I was going to mention it. Someone else asked a question. I think one of these questions was like recommendations for toddlers constantly hitting. I highly recommend Googling moms on call sizzle time. It's basically like an updated version of a timeout. And it tells you exactly what to do with sizzle time and like how to talk to them about what they did wrong.
00:48:24
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And I just did a sizzle time yesterday with Alice throwing her fork on the floor. And I feel like it worked for the rest of mealtime. So Google sizzle time. It's a good, um, it's a good, like if you were like, okay, we're starting to see some behavior things here of like toddler twos rearing its head. I feel like sizzle time is a good place to start. Okay. Yeah.
00:48:53
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Most lovable thing. Oh, most lovable. She does so many things that are lovable. It's like we're annoyed. I'm in love.
00:49:05
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Parenting is a whiplash, okay? Let me tell you. I would say, just recently, she's been saying this thing that is so cute, and she definitely learned it from me, I think, because I would say this to her. Like, I would say, I love you so much, I'd do anything for you. And now she'll say, Mama, I love you, I'd do anything for you. And I'm like, I love you. Okay, stop throwing your fork on the floor. That's what I want.
00:49:31
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I know it's like the most annoying thing is talking yet. I love that he can talk now and express himself. And I'll say like anytime that he's polite and he's just like, and he includes your name in a, well, thank you, mama. You know, just, he's so freaking cute. And when he feels like, you can tell when he feels like a love rush for Margo and he'll be like, I go take care of Margo like the other day.
00:50:00
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She woke up and he grabbed the flashlight. He goes, Mama, I'm going to go get Margot. And he grabbed the flashlight like he was going to go hunting for her and get her out of bed. And he just like has times where he's obsessed and times where he like could care less. But the times that he's obsessed
00:50:18
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He's so sweet and he's always been really good to her. He might be jealous at times, but he's always been very good. He's going to be a good brother. So good times. That's so sweet. He's such a sweetie. Well, this has been so fun. There are some questions we didn't get to. So I don't know if we want to do a part two at some point or we'll just save them for another episode. Um, I think we got to a good bit of them though. Yeah.
00:50:45
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Well, I love you. Definitely check out our Facebook group if you're not in there. People are asking questions like this all the time and it's fun to see everyone's answers. If you need a recommendation for something or just want to feel less alone, that's a good place to be.
00:51:06
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We love you guys. Love you. Bye. Thank you so much for being a part of our mom group chat. New episodes drop every Tuesday. And don't forget, the group chat is blowing up on our Instagram page. So make sure you're following along over there. All right, gotta go. My toddler just put something in her mouth.