Betrayal, Forgiveness, and Resilience in Couples Therapy: A Conversation with a Psychologist

In this episode of the EZ Conversations Podcast, Furhan engages in a compelling conversation with Bruce Chalmer, a seasoned psychologist who has been focusing on couples therapy for over 30 years. They explore themes of betrayal, forgiveness, and resilience in relationships. Bruce shares insights from his extensive practice, discussing the evolution of mental health perceptions, the impact of ideologies on relationships, and the complexities of navigating modern marital issues. The discussion extends to societal changes, the effect of technology, and the significance of faith and curiosity in healing and maintaining healthy relationships. Bruce also introduces practical concepts from his works, including his podcast 'Couples Therapy in Seven Words' and his books on couples therapy.

Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist in Vermont who has been working with couples for over thirty years. His ideas have helped thousands of couples and their therapists through his teaching, consulting, and books. With his wife, Judy Alexander, Dr. Chalmer hosts the podcast “Couples Therapy in Seven Words.”

Dr. Chalmer is the author of three books:

Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again

It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong

Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Couples Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back

Website: https://brucechalmer.com

Podcast website: https://ctin7.com 00:00 Welcome and Introduction 00:35 Bruce's Background and Career 02:37 Evolution of Mental Health 05:45 Changes in Couples Therapy 10:43 Challenges in Modern Relationships 19:37 Navigating Betrayal and Forgiveness 28:48 Understanding Betrayal and Forgiveness 29:41 Three Steps to Forgiveness 31:53 The Role of Faith in Healing 34:32 Self-Fulfilling Prophecies in Relationships 38:00 Weaponizing Knowledge in Therapy 44:11 The Impact of Ideologies on Conversations 53:21 Navigating Complex Issues in Relationships and Society 57:33 Conclusion and Resources

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