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EP 84: Moms Need Moms
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Have you ever had one of those days where everything feels like too much—the tantrums, the exhaustion, the never-ending snack requests—and then, you vent to another mom, and suddenly, you feel seen? That’s the magic of mom friendships.
In this episode, we’re talking about why moms need other moms—not just for playdates or carpool swaps, but for survival. Because nothing makes you feel more validated than hearing someone say, “Oh yeah, my kid does that too.” We dive into:
✨ The unspoken bond of motherhood that makes us feel less alone
✨ Why talking to another mom is often the only thing that truly helps
✨ How motherhood can feel isolating, even when we’re surrounded by people
✨ The importance of finding your mom group—whether online or in person
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Transcript
Introduction of Hosts
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There's no right way to do it.
00:00:12
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Oh, we're going to get into it. What up, moms? My name is Candice, and I'm here with my bestie girl, Whitney Williams, and this is the Mom Group Chat Podcast. What's up, fam?
Postpartum Hair and Pregnancy Memories
00:00:25
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um I cannot get ah hair thing over here. You guys my postpartum regrowth this time is so crazy. Like we, okay, so we did one-year-old photos for Evie's birthday and I really wanted like a casual vibe. Like I wore denim overalls and like I wanted like denim vibes, like very casual. Living Miss Honey. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:00:51
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I wanted like, I'm a homesteading guy is what I wanted. um But my, I put my hair into like a messy half half down.
00:01:03
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And my photographer, I love her so much. She was like, um I think we need to like figure out. ah ah She was like, we might have to like tuck your i tiny, twirly, swirly, like,
00:01:21
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I really had a tiny twirly-swirly, like, curly cues, like, postpartum regrowth horns. Yeah. But they were, like, not cute. They were... And I have them in the back of my neck, too, and it's so annoying. If I'm trying to do like, how are how are people doing a slicked back situation with postpartum hair regrowth without using, like, a shit ton of, like like, shellac? Like, I feel like a fucking synchronized swimmer. You know how they have, like...
00:01:51
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hard hair. That's how I feel if I want to do like a slick back look situation. I'm sorry, you had to go through something because you looked amazing during pregnancy. So okay, that is so weird that you say that.
00:02:06
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Because you know, when someone messages messages you on Instagram, and then it like you can see obviously the last time that you like talked to that person. And so someone messaged me.
00:02:18
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And the last time that we messaged was back when I was, it was January of last year. So was pregnant with Evie, like close to giving birth. And I was like, oh my God, look so beautiful. I literally actually wanted to screenshot my face.
00:02:37
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And like, whenever the the day comes where I want lip filler, I want to take the video of those lips I had. And take them to my injector and be like, I want these lips.
00:02:49
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I want my pregnancy lips. And I looked so good. i was And I even did this thing where I like walked back and showed my bump. I was like, I'm still very much pregnant. And I was like, damn, I look so good.
00:03:01
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You really did. it was... have to shoot my own horn here, but... It was so rude of you to look that fabulous pregnant. I will never know what it's like to be beautiful. I mean, i won I had one troll pregnancy and then I had one like beauty pregnancy, so... What's the next one going to bring us?
00:03:21
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I don't know.
Moving and Home Organization
00:03:22
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We'll mix You'll lose your hair and your nose will grow, but... no not the nose no my favorite picture oh god it's so good it's so good oh but anyways that was a quick little tangent but whenever i did the intro i couldn't ignore this little tindral back here i see you're in a new location
00:03:52
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I am in a new location. We are in our new house. and And I'm so excited too. It's been a little bit of a journey. i mean, a little bit of a journey. It's been a lot of a journey, but to get us into this house, but I feel like the pieces are being put put back together.
00:04:12
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i actually texted Vinny today. he like, you know, as married couples do, he was like, how was your day going? And I said to him, I said, this feels like the first normal day that we've in a long time. Like this was Alice's first day back to school, like while we're in back, like in our neighborhood. So my drive to take Alice to school is like 10 minutes.
00:04:35
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Yeah. And I took Alice to school. I came and I made her like lunch in my kitchen. we had, I made cinnamon rolls for breakfast in my kitchen.
00:04:46
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like it's just the little things, you know, of healing. Oh, it's good. It's good. It's definitely like,
00:04:57
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Smaller, but it's it's actually very functional and so like clean feeling because it's brand new. i know. It looks crispy in there. Uh-huh. It does.
00:05:09
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good. And like your little living room looks crispy. Like the couch fit like a glove with your table. was like, I want to go to there. I want to sit. It is really cozy.
00:05:19
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Yeah. And yesterday afternoon, like I took a second to sit down like and the sun was shining through the window and I like there. in the sun in my new couch. And I was like, know with your main character moment, like literally, i really did. i was like, wow, I'm gonna have a full moment right here.
00:05:38
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um So it's feeling so good. And I'm just so excited to it's a, you know, it's a work in progress. So I'm excited to feel like even more settled.
00:05:49
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We'll feel I've I'm going to feel a big change after today and after this weekend when, cause this weekend we get to pick up our dresser and bedside tables from the furniture store, which just to be able to put those like miscellaneous stuff away and like set up my bedside table and then all of our clothes to be able to put them away, it's going to be game changing.
00:06:13
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so I'm really excited about that. And yeah. It's going good, though. It's good. and know. It's so weird. I'm like that person that wants to get in the house and, like, do everything and immediately. That's how am, too. um and it doesn't turn out that way. Like, I feel like I do it. And now that I've been here three months, I'm, like, I'm moving things around now and, like, changing all over the place. so I'm, like, it's still, like, evolving and it just gets better and better.
00:06:43
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Yeah. Yeah.
Antique Show and Estate Sales: Finding Joy in Hobbies
00:06:45
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No, it definitely... Like, I still feel like our house looks pretty plain, but we literally just moved in. And i you know, because I had posted on my Instagram, like I wanted this like colorful theme and all that. And I feel like people probably saw my Instagram story of my like light couch and they're like, uh...
00:07:06
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No, it's the accessories that make it Yeah. But that kind of stuff you have to like curate over time, you know? So, and I like, I'm never going to be able to shop one day and get like the accessories to have a house that feels like fun and curated. So, you know, it's a work in progress.
00:07:25
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And, um, Yeah, I'm excited. I'm glad I waited to like buy some art because there's things like, I mean, I had just went to the Nashville Antique Show. And I mean, I posted this all over my Instagram, but ah and I think I see some of her art right back there, right?
00:07:48
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Yes, that's my favorite one. She lives by my bed. my bed So I wake up to her. Oh, that's so good. um Yeah, that's my favorite painting. But um I got to see Mary Maguire and I hadn't seen her since like 2018, 19, maybe when I went to Brimfield in Massachusetts.
00:08:09
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It's like a huge show, kind of like Round Top, but like up in Mass, close to Boston. And she came down here like the shock of my life because I'm so dramatic that way but i was so excited like Candice I'm telling you I told Chris like that whole day I was buzzing like I was like this is probably how people feel before they go to a concert to someone they really love yeah you probably like you all day before Taylor Swift you're probably like so excited like This was my Taylor Swift concert. ie
00:08:43
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was manic. I was hyper. I was bouncing off the walls. I like dressed to the nines. My mom um and dad met me there and they were like shooketh by how much I was dressed up because I i wasn't in my like comfy uniform.
00:08:57
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And they were like, oh my God, no. You're like, I'm meeting the queen. Like, it i wanted to look my best. And, oh my gosh, we just spent so much time with her.
00:09:08
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And um I ended up going back on so or on Saturday with Chris so he could meet her in person because he never had. We took the kids and... I made it my whole personality over the weekend and I got this huge painting for over my fireplace that fit so perfectly. And I'm just so glad I waited because that was like a spot that had been bothering me the past few months. Cause I was like, oh this is a focal point and it's empty. And then it just came to me and I was like, and now I can't stop staring at my kitchen. I'm like obsessed. It feels like a whole new house with that in there. It's crazy.
00:09:46
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I love that. and It was such a thrill. It's so beautiful. And I love the oval. It's like so unique, you know, I know I was looking for a big boy and there was one that was bigger, um but rectangle. And I was like, you know, I want the oval.
00:10:03
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I wanted like it to be different and it's just very us, you know, it's ships. Don't I have so many in my house, but I love them. They bring me joy. So,
00:10:15
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It was just so fun. So, so fun. That's so fun. I mean, this is like everyone's allowed to, I mean, everyone is allowed, but also like should have hobbies and like interests and things they love. Like that is such a cool thing to do. And that's a great, like, I don't know. Like you said, that's like me getting so excited for Taylor Swift or like, I don't know. I see ads all the time for that like big Sephora convention that you can buy tickets for. I'm like, that's something would I would love to go to that.
00:10:46
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Well, my mom and dad like made the comment, like she texted me later and she was like, I haven't seen you that like happy or excited in a long time. And I was like, I think it's because I finally got to do something that I actually want to do and care about. Like, yeah one I love shopping. I love antiques. My favorite artist was going to be there. I was like, it was literally something I truly enjoy and normally I'm getting dragged around to do stuff other people like or go on trips that other people like I don't know invited us on which is all great and dandy but it's like this is actually something I really care about so I was I feel like I've been in a good mood ever since except today I'm not as much but um other than that I've been like super
00:11:35
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I mean, it's like self-care. you You did some self-care over the weekend by doing that. You did something for yourself. You did something that like brought you joy and made you happy. like That's what we should be doing as moms, honestly. Yeah. It was so good. It made me honestly like think I should go into like researching estate sales or just be more aware of things that are coming into town like shows like that because i loved it so much i was like I've always liked antiquing my parents took me growing up but it just for I was like why don't I go a estate sell shopping like I feel like you could find some really cool stuff in Nashville or the surrounding areas of Nashville
00:12:21
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Plus, you get to go look at people's houses. Like, that's so fun. Honestly, that sounds so fun. Like, dream, like, girl date day would be, like, have a boozy lunch where you have a couple glasses of wine and then go to an estate sale. Wow. Sign me up. I mean, there's there's a girl in our sorority. This is so creepy at me, but she goes to them a lot. She's in Florida.
00:12:42
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Do know who I'm talking Oh, Sam. thought her name was Victoria. She's a redhead. Oh, I do who you're talking about. do know who talking about. She goes a lot and finds like Chanel and all kinds of stuff.
00:12:58
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She finds all kinds kinds of beautiful stuff. um Like Chanel. Like I think she kind of goes for home stuff, but she's really looking at the clothes. Yeah. I'd probably be looking at furniture and all that, but painting. Yeah. Like art and stuff.
00:13:16
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I feel like I need to get the newspaper and look it up and see what's coming. you know and i bet there's some like website or app or something that will tell you like for sure all the estate sales in the area for sure.
00:13:31
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should ask mom group chat after this episode and be like, how do you find good estate sales and what should I be on the lookout for?
00:13:43
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Maybe there's some girlies that do this. For sure there are. And something else I would also be curious about is like all of the dishware and glassware. And like you can find some really sought after like expensive things.
00:14:00
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I feel like. No, dude. Dishes. um Good point. Or China like that. You can hang on the wall, too. So it's like. Totally. You're so right.
00:14:11
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and Sounds fun. Yeah. So fun. but I'm so glad you got to do that. Okay, you mentioned that today is not as fun.
Challenges of Parenting Young Children
00:14:20
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What's happening today?
00:14:23
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i Number one, I think I'm about to start my period. So like my patience is a piece of paper. um Mine's three days late. so oh
00:14:35
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Not this again. No, I don't think it's, I really, I really don't think I'm pregnant. It's just the stress of moving and like, ah you know, so much going on, but I am three days late on my period, but I'm like, not even concerned about it.
00:14:50
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If I get to next Wednesday and it still hasn't come, I will test and I will let you know, but I just don't think there's a shadow of a doubt, like, or without a shadow of a, what's that saying? Yeah.
00:15:02
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Without? yeah with I don't know. I'm not concerned. Anyways, go on. Anyways, I'm about to get my period too. Well, this is a really fun game you like to play once a month of. My period's late, so thanks for that, Candice.
00:15:16
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You're welcome. I love to give everyone a little scare. and we can't if We can't deal with that right now, though. Truly, I would... Hey, at least she's won.
00:15:30
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you know. Anyway, no, anyway, there's, there's literally no way I would be the Virgin Mary probably like we did have sexy time, but it was not anywhere in my like fertile window window or anything. There's no way.
00:15:42
Speaker
Okay. Well, um I had two periods periods in January because it was you so long. So I'm like, and I think that they were only like 25, 26 days apart. So it was really weird that I had my period like boom so fast. So I'm like, it is getting to be the 20th. So it's probably approaching which...
00:16:06
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You know, it's why I'm getting angry. But it's just been, um you know, had the kids all weekend. And then Monday was President's Day. And Chris still goes to work. So who's left at home to watch the kids while trying to work is Mama.
00:16:23
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And so i stayed home Monday. Fine, whatever. Like, ah so did everyone else. And they went back to school yesterday, which cool today, snow day.
00:16:36
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canceled i was like Jesus okay it's fine and once again it's all on me and we go on vacation so it's like I didn't expect to spend this much time with my kids before vacation yeah I'm like oh my gosh what am I gonna do like I was supposed to do all this work today which you know wrenches get thrown at you in life and I I know that everyone else at corporate is going through the same thing too with their kids so I'm like okay at least we're all in this together it's not just me um but well my was my patience is a little ah little thin um just because things aren't going as planned and I'm trying to work so yeah yeah
00:17:23
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um I will say i had a serious thought Monday of like, God bless all of the stay at home moms. Like you guys are the true superheroes of this planet.
00:17:37
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Like the way like three days at home with my kids and granted, you know, we're a little unsettled, obviously. Like we still didn't have furniture all weekend when I had the girls, all of that. And I was like, I,
00:17:51
Speaker
could never do this every day. Like I could never, the way I was so excited to have a work day on Tuesday and like have a little reprieve.
00:18:01
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So shout out to all the stay at home moms. Your job is so hard and so draining. It's just like a roller coaster. There's such good moments and cute moments. And then like, and then they both cry at the same time or they're whining and fighting. And it's like, it's overstimulation central. And it's like, oh God, like it's hard.
00:18:25
Speaker
There's just like, it's a fricking roller coaster. All day. um No, it is so hard for real. And I don't know about y'all, but three is Alice is turning three in a month and it's like rearing its ugly head. It's so bad.
00:18:42
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It's really I'm not having a good time. She is so difficult to deal with. Um, it was literally, I think he had been three for a week and I looked at Chris and I said, I do not like three.
00:18:57
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already know. Like everyone always warned us and said, Oh, terrible twos aren't, are nothing. It's three major. And I was like, okay, two kind of sucked. And now I'm like, no, three. No, I look back on my, I look back on my two year old and I was like, I had a perfect sweet baby angel. Honestly.
00:19:18
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This three-year-old though, like Kim Jong-un I'm living with? Absolutely not.
00:19:28
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No. oh that's yeah I do not like her. it is hard. I mean, there are, okay, once again, pluses and minuses, they're very independent. So like, he can kind of get dressed on his own. He can take off his clothes. He's very helpful with stuff. Like,
00:19:49
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But, wow, the fights are fighting, man. And he's got a little attitude. attitude um And he be crying. He be crying.
00:20:00
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Bad. Alice is, like, mean and bossy and, like, a dictator for real. Like, and she'll say things like, don't touch me.
00:20:12
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Don't look at me. Like, she'll slam doors. um Like, she'll tell me like, if I'm doing something that she doesn't like, she'll be like, no mommy, you can't do that.
00:20:25
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And I'm like, I'm so sorry. what Like she is. And yeah, I can't even Vinny like for real looked at me on Sunday and he was like, what are we going to do? Like, it's like that. He was like, that's a bad behaved child.
00:20:43
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And I was like, yes, but also like, I think, I think, all of them are like that a little bit at three and which kind of, honestly, this brings us into our topic of today about like how moms, like we need other moms to stay sane and like the only thing that talks me off a ledge of being like, I gave birth to the devil incarnate is like other moms validating that their kids and three-year-olds are doing the same thing and acting the same way.
Importance of a Support Network for Mothers
00:21:20
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And I'm like, okay, so it's my, my child is not the problem. It's just the age they're testing the boundaries. They're, they're learning language that they don't quite know.
00:21:33
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the meanings of I don't think um and this is why I was like I wish you had had the baby first so I could be like oh thank god and I'm just guessing over here because Candace texted me the other day and telling me all this and I was like honestly it just sounds like she's turning three like yeah I was like, and um I'm over here like, are you sure?
00:21:57
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can alice was like, I think Alice is a perfectly sweet child. I think it's just their age. Three's wild.
00:22:08
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God, it's so bad. i mean, thank God for the other moms in my life, like you and the moms of my Q1 moms. Like I see what everyone else is venting about in there and it's all like within the same vein.
00:22:21
Speaker
And I'm like, okay, okay. So I'm not crazy and I'm not like, I don't have a devil child. It's just this age. yep And it's the only thing reassuring me, truly. No, exactly. That's exactly how I feel. But um the topic of today's conversation is... What are we calling this?
00:22:46
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I don't know. like what what What I keep like saying in my head is just like the idea that like moms need moms. And it's like the only...
00:22:58
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like there's so many, I don't know, just especially in the past like year of my life, the way that moms have shown up for me is like in a different realm than like other people can. I don't know how else to say it. Like they, it's almost like they know how to help like in the best way they know as a mom themselves, like what would help out someone who's dealing with, you know, everything we've dealt with, like,
00:23:26
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how that here's what I, you know, as a mom, here's what I think would help us. And most of the time they're right. Or it's, or it's like dealing with crazy behavior or changes in like, you know, kids schedules where I just need to vent. And they're like, no, this is, you know, here's what worked for us. Here's what we did to deal with toddler bed or like whatever. And it's just like, and I know we've kind of touched on this on the, in the past,
00:23:56
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But i I had this moment of being like, oh my gosh, if I didn't have all of these other moms in my life, like I would be such a deeply overwhelmed, anxious, lonely person because no one gets it like other moms.
00:24:17
Speaker
No, I literally like, I realized that now that I have a group for Margo and when I didn't for Graydon, like I only had you and Shannon and my friend Alyssa really to talk to.
00:24:31
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And that was still like, it's still not the same unless your kids are like these same age too. Like that makes it even deeper yeah rooted.
00:24:44
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um Like having a due date group with everyone going through the same thing. Like, yeah. There's just no bond like that because you're literally all going through the same thing at the same time. Like you get reassurance, you get kudos. Like there's nothing like having that kind of support, but.
00:25:08
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Totally. and I feel like also mom moms can sometimes get at least on the internet, I would say, feel like moms sometimes get a bad rap of like being like,
00:25:21
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catty or like judgmental or anything like that. But in truth, my experience with like mom support is like unmatched.
00:25:32
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Like moms have only helped me and made me feel seen or given me advice in the, in the best, like most loving way.
00:25:43
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and I don't know, I just wanted to like do an episode like shouting that out and like saying, thank you And just if you are a person listening to this, who feels super overwhelmed or anxious or lonely, like you gotta talk to other moms, like find a little mom group, find a community posted our Facebook group, something because i don't know. It just, it changed my life. It has changed my life and continues to add value to my life for,
00:26:17
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but to have like moms who actually get it and they become some of your best friends. Like they know you at your lowest and darkest and they've seen you succeed and try new things. Like it's just something that they, they understand like same thing with, with us. Like,
00:26:41
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I've known you before kids and after kids. Like what a special experience to have with my very best friend to like go through this together with our kids within like six months of each other. It's like kind of crazy how it worked out that way, but it only like made our bond stronger because we relate on so many levels.
00:27:00
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It's so nice to have for sure. really is a pregnancy pact. No, for Yeah. If you have friends, you all got married around the same time, like start shaking on it. Okay.
00:27:14
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Start shaking on that pregnancy, Pat, because it really is. We did that the night before Candace's wedding. Me and Shannon and Candace drunk. outside on her back patio shook hands and so we're doing it i said chris and i are trying and then shannon was like i am next month and then candace was like i am right after this wedding and so boom we dove in i literally got pregnant the next day with grayden it was crazy and literally i sprinkled some uh pregnancy dust on you and i was like let it be known
00:27:50
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Every time, dude. I just saw another one of our sorority sisters was in Truckee, California, and I wrote her. I go, I got pregnant with Margo there. yeah oh beware. Beware. So funny.
00:28:07
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Yeah. ah But yeah, no, it really is such a special experience. And don't know. Also, like the other thing I have to say is like, no one is as resourceful. And like, what a breadth of information a group of moms is like.
00:28:27
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Like, I don't know. I just feel like if you were to get 10 moms in a room, they would be more informed and more like, just have so much more knowledge than even like what Google can provide. I don't even know to explain it. Like it's like with all the different experiences of motherhood, like in life in general, like everyone brings their own perspective and experience and you can find like, I don't know, like fixes and hacks and things that like you would never find elsewhere.
00:29:04
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and I just feel like that's so cool. when you became a mom, it made you more of like a strategic thinker or maybe the better way to put it is like anticipatory. Like I used to be such a chill, like individual, like kind of lived in the moment, but since having children, like I feel like I can anticipate situations now and I'm forward thinking on stuff. Like it's really just been,
00:29:34
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I don't know, it may be like a growing up aspect of becoming a mom, but it like, it's such a different aspect that I learned. And um from that, like, ah like what you mentioned, there's a girl in my group who said she's gone through like five months of back to back sicknesses.
00:29:51
Speaker
And I was like, Oh, my gosh, I could have written this myself because of grief. Yeah. And I went through that. by myself which was so hard I should I wish I was in a group um but I was like literally nothing helped until he got his tubes and adenoids out and he became a different child and I was like maybe that's something y'all should revisit because yeah that was the only thing that helped and everyone else in there you know only have the one and they're like I'm just you know I'm so sorry and yeah hopefully like
00:30:23
Speaker
next year they will have a better immune system and i'm like girl be proactive yeah yeah yeah doctor because i can i i feel like we may be headed to tubes with evie she's had three ear infections in four weeks in four weeks four weeks no four weeks by go She's gotten them like every 10 to 12 days.
00:30:51
Speaker
why Yeah, that means the medicine ain't doing too hot. Yeah. So, yeah, I don't know. that's ah Luckily, my father-in-law's an ear, nose, and throat doctor. so Yeah, you were so lucky with that. Like, he could probably just get her in.
00:31:07
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Yeah. um we're gonna wait and see but you know the i just little kind of hearing my mom gut is is telling me that we're headed that way yeah i mean i know it's like scary for surgery but that was like probably the easiest one for grayden i mean was so quick yeah yeah they do like 100 day Yeah.
00:31:32
Speaker
I don't know. I think something that I want to be really intentional about the rest of 2025, once we're like settled in this house and more like stable, I guess, is I feel like there were so many moms who did things for me or like showed up for me in the past year, year and a half even. And i just want to like send them a little thank you. I've been so bad about thank you notes and just like, I don't know. I just don't ever want to come off as like ungrateful or anything, but I've just have had so much going on that I don't want to like, or
00:32:10
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I just have had so much going on. i haven't had a chance to write a thank you note or like I didn't want to buy a bunch of thank you notes. I don't have anywhere to store them. You know what i mean? Yeah. oh i I really want to like make a list of all the people who have helped me or just showed me some extra love in the past year and like do something sweet for them. That is so nice. send them a little The intention is there. So the thing about a thank you note is it's never too early and it's never too late.
00:32:40
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You could send it and surprise somebody. It could come in September and they'd be like, wow, that was so nice of her to say something. You know, it's yeah it's always a nice to get. So there's no time limit.
00:32:55
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You're in no rush. It is a very nice intention. and
00:33:00
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Thanks for saying that because I definitely have like beat myself up over it a little bit. i I have to be honest, there are definitely parts of me who feel like thank you notes are a little outdated sometimes. yeah But also at the same time, like
00:33:17
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I think it would be a nice heartfelt like gesture Well, you could always send a little DM or anything. i think yeah just like acknowledging, like I just had my end of the year review with my work and my boss had pulled some quotes from, from people saying nice things. And I just typed up a quick email and i was just like, I really appreciated you taking the time to even say anything about me. And,
00:33:47
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um I just thought it was so freaking nice and sweet. So I feel you on that. um But I just sent to like a quick little email. but I don't know. Yeah. No, that's so nice.
00:34:02
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So sweet. That's a fun. i don't know. Like, I just feel like that stuff is always good to hear, you know, it's valid. And for sure. Yeah, totally.
00:34:12
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And that's kind of part of why I love. moms so much is I feel like they make me feel so
Marriage Strains with Young Children
00:34:19
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validated. like, I feel like they will celebrate the small things like because they know how the small how big the small things can feel.
00:34:28
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Like Alice stayed in her bed last night until 4am, whatever, which still working on that. But like they would know how big of a win that is, even if it's like small, you know, you know what I like is that you can rag on your kids as much as possible. And moms still understand that you love them the most in the entire world, but you can still gripe.
00:34:52
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Totally. Also like, like ability slash like openness to to talk about my husband is oh yeah so nice.
00:35:05
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Oh, yeah. like Like my venting about my husband and then to hear other other people vent about their husband and they're all like the same – is so nice it is kind of weird like you would have never caught me talking about him before kids like we were good and now it's like oh we're all just like in this together now cool love it yeah we're definitely in the hardest phase of our marriage for sure right now I'm like are we gonna make it it's fine
00:35:41
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no We're going to make it. I remember why I married you. I remember. I love you. It's so hard, y'all.
00:35:51
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It's hard. Moving is hard. You lost your home. You got uprooted. Yeah. Have you made any new mom friends in your new neighborhood? um I did meet them the last time it snowed here and we haven't really talked since I'm, I'm kind of waiting for summer to be that. um I thought I was really going to miss like the funness of the neighborhood, which I still do. I fricking love them. They actually came over like two weekends ago for that Superbowl party, but it's like almost like I don't have FOMO cause I don't know what's going on.
00:36:30
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Like, yeah I can't see what they're doing anymore. So I don't feel left out. It's like, we're kind of being intentional with like inviting ourselves over there or inviting them here. so it's like, Hey, just, I'll see you when I see you. And, um, I thought I was really going to like be put out about that moving here. And I don't feel that way at all. I just feel like,
00:36:56
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all right we're inside and then I guess when it gets warmer and we're bored and it stays light until 7 p.m like yeah we'll probably pop over there and be like what are y'all outside um yeah and mean at your new house like you're the pool house if you have a pool you're gonna have people over to swim all the time in the summer like you're gonna you're the party pool house hence my groundhog panic so yeah and thank you for reminding me So sorry, but you're doing a great job. You're going to be a groundhog in no time. I committed.
00:37:32
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So that, yeah. Wait. Okay. Hold on. I have a clarification thing about the groundhog. Are we currently groundhogs or we, oh, I just touched my mic.
00:37:42
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Are we currently groundhogs or are we trying to become a groundhog? That's a great, I'm trying to become the groundhog's shadow. So I'm a wisp of air.
00:37:53
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Okay.
00:37:57
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That's like even more confusing. Okay. So we are groundhogs who are trying to become thinner groundhogs and see a smaller shadow. That's where I'm going. So we're so we're just groundhogging. This is so stupid.
00:38:16
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Please, if you have like ah a more conceptualized theory of this whole groundhog thing, please send us a DM. Let us know what your take is on it because I'm a little lost.
00:38:27
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Like I know I always say I'm a groundhog. I think or I'm. Yeah, I can't stop saying groundhoggy in.
00:38:36
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I know that's what you always say. That's my favorite. I don't know, man. We gotta, maybe we gotta like workshop this a little. We have a whole like SWOT analysis on groundhogs.
00:38:49
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I need a whiteboard in here to be like, here is. We end up just drawing a groundhog with a shadow.
00:39:00
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Oh my God. That's funny. Anyway. um But yeah, I don't know. I just wanted to give like a shout out to all of my mom friends because truly what the fuck would I do without all of you? Honestly, like I don't know what I would do without other moms who have made me feel seen, who have helped out, who have validated my problems and issues and frustrations.
00:39:23
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And I don't know. I just feel so grateful that we live in a time where connecting with other moms is so easy and so like, nor, or I guess like is the norm now, because I think all the time about my mom and how siloed she may have felt and,
00:39:43
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I just am so grateful that we live in a different time than that.
Technology's Impact on Modern Parenting
00:39:47
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We're so lucky. i mean, it's like what we talked about flipping through the encyclopedias before. actually was talking to my mom ah about something random yesterday about how her, her mom, my grandmother passed away when I was five and she died of like COPD and,
00:40:03
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my mom was like, i just wish back then, like I was more helpful or knew more about it. And i was like, how could you have known? This was like 1996 when she passed away. Like you didn't have the information at your fingertips like you do now. And i was like, that is so hard.
00:40:20
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Like that mom, my mom couldn't like research what her mother was going through or what happened to her or like how she could help. Yeah. What did they do? They have to go the library And I was just like, oh my gosh, like imagine now, like we we have all that and we have friends that could like help us through that. And I mean, I'm sure she like talked on the phone for hours about it with her gals, but man, it's just a different world we live in.
00:40:48
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In the same vein of like moms know best and moms are so helpful and provide lots of hacks. I had a couple of weeks ago asked about how moms use chat GPT.
00:41:01
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And I wanted to kind of like review some of the answers we got because they were so interesting and funny. um Well, and also I saw in an Instagram reel today, this dad was talking about how um his son will ask for a very specific episode of dino, I don't know, some dinosaur show.
00:41:25
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And, um, he was like, yeah, the one where he's in green shoes and whatever. And the dad was like, I don't fucking know what episode that is. you kidding me? And someone wrote in the comments, like, just ask chat GBT what your son is describing and they know.
00:41:40
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And I did it. I like asked Alice, I'm like, what episode of blue do you want to say? And she was like, the one where they go to the beach and throw a stick.
00:41:51
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And I'm like, i don't, know i asked chat gbt and it told me the episode um so that's one one way okay all right here are some of the responses how to word my thoughts in a professional way instead of mom mush brain literally my whole job now is write an email that says x y and into chat gbt that's so funny um
00:42:21
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A lot of people said recipes, meal planning, recipe ideas, high protein recipes, create a shopping list um from a group of recipes.
00:42:33
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That's a smart one, actually. so like input the recipes you want to do for the week and be like, create me a shopping list. love that idea. Yeah. Or even like when they say like, this is what I have at home. What could I make?
00:42:46
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Yeah. Mm hmm. And then someone said Elf on the Shelf. Whenever the Elf does finally enter my home, chajibi that it will be sponsored by ChatGPT, honestly.
00:43:00
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um Party invite wording. I have also done that of like how to specifically ask for certain gifts or ask for no gifts, stuff like that.
00:43:12
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Smart. Vacay planner, input budget, flight parameters, hotel activity preps, ask for an itinerary. That's cool. Yeah.
Using ChatGPT for Parenting Tasks
00:43:25
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Okay. This one I did recently when Evie was sick. How many milliliters of medicine for my baby's weight when I'm too lazy to look at the chart? So smart. I did that and it works.
00:43:37
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Um,
00:43:42
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Okay, i again, I did this for packing. Packing lists when traveling, i.e. build me a list for X, Y, and Z climate for my two-year-old daughter. i smart.
00:43:54
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Yeah.
00:43:57
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Okay, I've also done this. Come up with baby names that flow with our current kids. Ooh. um I might do that now. I just want to see what my third child would be named.
00:44:08
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Here, let's do it. Let's do it live. Okay, okay, okay.
00:44:14
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Oh, Beckett is one of mine. Oh, really? Oh, that makes sense, I feel like. have Everett, Sullivan, which Sullivan was one of my names I had. And then for girls, I have Eloise, Lucille, Camilla.
00:44:30
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Yep, that kind of tracks. I like Camilla. Clara, Margaret, Beatrice. I'm like, not quite. I love Margaret. I like Margaret, too Lillian,
00:44:44
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um charlotte florence adelaide violet eleanor these are these are true philia
00:44:55
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um and then for brother henry theodore arthur i'm pretty sure all those names were on our boy list charles williams james very classic all those are all very classy yeah very classic benjamin thomas August, Sebastian, Julian, Hugo, Walter, George.
00:45:16
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Interesting. Yeah, I think that we will, if we do have a third, we'll stick with the vowel starts. So i pretty much only look at names that start with A-E-I-R-U. Ezekiel Cole.
00:45:29
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I actually like Everett a lot. Well, yeah, Everett's fire. That's such a good name. Shout out to Taylor Everett. Yeah. Yeah. um Okay.
00:45:40
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Let's see what else. She said, literally just had an entire combo about sleep. And I felt like I was talking to a sleep coach. Like about their toddler sleep, which I thought was so in interesting. oh yeah
00:45:54
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um And then someone put research specific. products which you can put in, like, I'm looking for a new shampoo and conditioner for my toddler. Can you give me some of like the highest rated or the best ones with the best ingredients?
00:46:10
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And then someone said, and to help write greeting cards, I use it as a starting point. But um they they must not have responded here in the actual question box.
00:46:23
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But someone in our DM said that they use it to create funny songs for their kids they're like they input they like input their name and like about unicorns and princesses or whatever and have it write you a funny like cute little song you can sing to your kids and I thought that was so cute and like different ah love it I love yeah GPT me all right well I have to run unfortunately I love you
00:46:55
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I love you so much. And I love all of you moms truly. Like what would I do without all of you? and yeah, I just love you all so much. Bye. Bye. Thank you so much for being a part of our mom group chat. New episodes drop every Tuesday. And don't forget the group chat is blowing up on our Instagram page. So make sure you're following along over there.
00:47:17
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All right. Gotta go. My toddler just put something in her mouth.