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Jing and the Family Stones
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We continue last weeks episode on how to conserve Jing and go over cures for the ever dreaded blue balls.
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Prolonging Intercourse Techniques
00:00:09
Speaker
Cool, so those were the beginning techniques. Nice, yep. And then what's next on the list? Oh, you know, as soon as the amount didn't say this, but another good, good technique start a little slower, right? We don't have to like go straight ah ahead and start slow, maybe a little foreplay or this or that. That's a really reasonable thing to do in there. changed positions a lot. Now he talked about what should the male position like what should the male body be doing to stop ejaculating, but he didn't actually say, actually change the sexual position. And sometimes that's just you know it's just a matter of, well, that certain area of tissue isn't being overstimulated. Now you can when you shift positions, you're going to stimulate a different area of your you know um your parts and stuff. it's just It's just generally a good idea.
00:00:53
Speaker
Um, if you have, you know, that's another one is just switch as you need. So kind of those sorts of things in general, remember, don't over tense the body. Um, specifically you don't over tense the lower part of the body. We're doing things to it, right? We're talking to hips and everything else. And then the upper body, you're, you're, you're are supposed to add a little bit of strengthening or tensioning into, um, but it's that all of those lastly to upright positioning is usually a good idea. And this is because Yang likes to rise. And when Yang is rising, you're not usually descending out the bottom.
Energy Flow in Chinese Medicine
00:01:23
Speaker
So for instance, if ah the male is on you know laying on the bed or whatever during the sex and maybe the female or or whoever else is on top, then if the male is about to come, it probably makes a lot of sense for the male to try and go upright again to get the Yang to rise again.
00:01:38
Speaker
This is the same idea why Chinese medicine doesn't really recommend studying while laying down because the yang isn't rising up to your head. Well, if the yang is not rising up to your head, then it's easier for it to descend out through the bottom. So this is the idea of uprightness. I think another one with that too, just in my own personal experience is that having your feet grounded e is nice too. And oftentimes if you're if you're on a bed or if you're in a different position, it's like you don't get that, but if you're standing up, then you have your head up and you have your feet down and then opening up that qua like we said, qua. Yeah. ah the Yeah. This one is more y'all.
00:02:16
Speaker
Yeah, good toss in there though. Well, um it it becomes you you kind of understand that alignment easier and you understand because everything stacks way better too. Yes. um This is for like the martial or qigong side of getting that power to go through and move an energy move through your body. But the loads are stacked better in that way. but Did you just so say your loads were stacked? Yeah. You're like like a Taoist, Stephen, as a mind of a child. It's the perfect episode for it. Yeah, it really is. ah But Asher was spot on, so I didn't mean to interrupt you, but he's he's so right. So ground those feet, and it really makes a huge difference. Try it out. and Your partner maybe could be on a bed or whatever, and then you can do the standing, shift positions, all all those different things, and then absolutely, just like Asher is saying.
00:03:11
Speaker
Sweet. Do you want to talk about quick rotations? I don't know what you mean by that. Oh, yeah. So quick rotations. um That's an interesting one. That that again, wasn't a sense of meow thing. I added that additionally. And that's activating your shaoyang. So when we rotate the body, which means your rotate to your left, rotate your right, like you're going to look over your shoulder sort of thing. Anytime you do that, you're activating your shaoyang. um which is why you can see Bagua Zhang, people usually have pretty stellar Shaoyang channels because you're literally walking in a circle and so one of your Shaoyangs has to be activated the entire time. And then of course you should be walking in the other direction as well, so both. um So this is the idea where any sort of rotational side-to- side to side can activate that that that what we call an intermediate layer. Now the Shaoyang is the intermediate between the frontal yangming and the back taiyang.
00:04:04
Speaker
But don't forget the liver is also on the side of the body, which is the hub between the two yins, the frontal tai yin and the more to the rear, shao yin. So we've got the two hub layers, the one that is the hub between the two yang layers and the one that's the hub between the two yin layers. And rotational movement is how we activate that. So why is this so important? Because when you activate, then you flow between those channels much better and nothing gets stuck.
Benefits of Lasting Longer
00:04:31
Speaker
um And so that's a really good one for trying to shift and kind of change body, what's happening, right? Over activation of say the front of the body, rotate, and then you start connecting to all your other channels. um We also do use this exact same idea when we're talking about relieving what we call the five fatigues of the body. So sitting too long, laying too long. The best way to do that is rotational movement. So there's qigong postures about rotating that are really good for relieving that five five fatigues.
00:04:58
Speaker
um because they're basically, again, hub between front and back. And remember, tension doesn't need to be eradicated, it needs to be moved. Tension is like stored up energy. I mean, if you said someone has a stored up grain house, you don't want to go burn the grain house, you want to go get grain when you need it. So if it's tension in one, like fatiguing in one area and you rotate, what you're really trying to do is circulate it to another area. Absolutely. I feel like oh a lot of this is just getting it getting energy to move and move freely throughout the body instead of it just being focused solely on you know your your reproductive organs down there. That's exactly right. Having the mind and the energy move freely and have a whole body experience too, rather than just a penile experience, um much better. So good. And if you yeah if you have too many penile experiences, it'll harm your your memory. You might have a senile experience.
00:05:55
Speaker
Oh yeah, totally. Or you get in trouble with the penal code. Oh, dang it. I didn't have a second one ready. um No, it's totally spot on, man. Yeah. And I think Azure brought up a good point. When your focus isn't just on your genitals, you do experience way more things. Your mind actually experiences different things. And that's where we can get to. basically what Ash was saying, like kind of that multi orgasmic state or like a sense of much greater satisfaction and yet not ejaculating. Absolutely. And that's the payoff that, you know, the guys that we talked about in the beginning of the episode that might not get it at first, they you know, it's like,
00:06:36
Speaker
ah You'll like it better. Your partner will definitely like it better, right? I've run into less I run into a lot of people who are just like I don't know what you're talking about I don't believe you huh very few people who once they like take the first like little bite of the cookie or like I don't want this because it's like Sexual prowess is such a thing in our society that you know, you're like, oh, hey you can last longer You can like have more fun and experience it right?
Managing Urgency and Ejaculation
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Oh, yeah, like I want that like that sounds great. So I That's a good point. You have to sell it as- Yeah, it should be a pretty good sell. That's a really good point. And it's true when you last longer and you aren't tired and you can have sex more often, maybe multiple times. If you're having the ability to have sex two to three times as often as you did before, you're just not ejaculating. I think that's a sell. I think that would be- Oh, for sure. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I think your erection has changed too like yeah and they're like strengthened bigger and it's just like, oh,
00:07:32
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I mean, if you're if you're getting older, you'll be like, oh, this is what it used to be like in my like early teens or 20s. And it's like, yeah, you can still do that. You just have to ah conserve your you jing. So so true. And you know I've heard this actually from a lot of the older males that I've talked to. So like you know anywhere from 40s, 50s, or yeah and even they'll find that they actually don't necessarily feel like they need to ejaculate every time. Like it's less of an urgency for them. And it's usually their body telling them like, man, you really have to check out for like 10 hours after you do that. Are you sure you want to do that? Um, and so sometimes they're almost the easier category to talk into this. But the sad thing is, is they've lost a lot in their previous three decades. Exactly. I mean, you, you know, you can start anywhere you can, but it's nice to get a little ahead of the curve, right? Totally. Yeah. I mean, hopefully you're on too big of a curve.
00:08:28
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Oh.
00:08:33
Speaker
Well played, well played. This is a great episode. You should do an interlude on this topic every time. um All right, let's go to some pitfalls. I feel like there's an innuendo there, but I don't see it, but you know. Don't don't fall on it. Don't step on it. Leave it alone. We have some pitfalls here. Number one, um the longer the time, the greater the urgency. and so ah yeah this can be ah Basically, when when you start getting into this, what you'll find is you get kind of waves of urgency. so When you first start playing with this, you'll be like, oh my God, I just cannot get over this.
00:09:14
Speaker
I really need to ejaculate feels very urgent. And then it calms down. If you can get through that first thing, it's like a wave, the urgency will eventually calm
Consequences of Ejaculation
00:09:22
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down. um And then it sometimes comes back and sometimes comes back even greater. You actually see this with exercise too. So for any of you who know what a a horse stance is, mabu, it's just pure pain. um It's a great training tool. If you want rock solid thighs, it's really good. It's admittedly though, not the best thing to do for your knee health, but it will make your thighs the strongest things they've ever been in the world. It's basically a wall sit without a wall um and your goal. A low horse stance you're doing. yeah Oh yeah, like parallel to the floor, horse stance. So your thighs are parallel to the floor.
00:09:57
Speaker
yeah Yeah. And your knees technically should be directly over your feet. The feet should be hugging inward. The knees should be pressing outward. Oh, it gets spicy. I mean, if you can do that for 60 seconds, you are strong. If you can do that like a well-formed horse and your hips should be tucked underneath and you should be as vertical as possible. If you can do that for five minutes, um you've been training for quite some time to do a well-positioned horse stance for that long. it i mean it'll And it'll do the same thing. It'll send waves of pain through your legs. like That first one is like, oh, man, that's really starting to burn. And then you'll be like, oh.
00:10:30
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you know After 30 seconds of burn, it does kind of wear off. And then it comes back stronger in that second minute. And then third minute, you get a different wave. And oftentimes, these waves get stronger. So don't be don't feel like after that first wave goes, you've just mastered this technique. It's the pitfall here. Sometimes that second wave comes in real strong, sometimes a little stronger than first. So you've got to be kind of ready for it. right Absolutely. That's tricky. And then we talked to you a little bit about Yeah, you're making it a couple of times and then you're like, oh, I haven't ejaculated and then um you do ejaculate. Well, now you're you're back to almost like the first time again. It'll be a little bit easier, but still your your body will have the same kind of, like Steven said, urgency to want to ejaculate. um But it does get easier ah in general. Those other waves can be strung too.
00:11:22
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and This is a fascinating way. I think we maybe said this in the first one too, right after you ejaculate once. So if you've been practicing this for a little while and you can do like maybe two or three sessions or whatever else without ejaculating, then you you do come. and Then you'll if you try it again the next day, you're like, oh man, why is it so much harder now? And it's basically you broke the seal. right This is like the Chinese medicine version of you broke the seal. It really is. it's like From our perspective, what you did is you decreased your kidney qi by straining your kidney in. That kidney yang had to FFS and you just lost that. And now you're your kidney qi function is lower. And one of the five most essential functions of a kidney qi is consolidate inward.
00:12:04
Speaker
So you might end up peeing. So some people will notice this. Maybe if they don't ejaculate for a while, they're fine. They don't ever have to get up in the middle of the night. And then if they do ejaculate, maybe like that that one time, then they're like, for the next night, maybe a couple nights, they have to get up and pee in the middle of the night. That's literally your kidney china holding as well because you drained it, right? So this is the idea that don't don't forget that if you do end up coming, that next couple days is a sensitive spot where you want to be extra careful not to just let it slip out again and again.
Dampness and Sexual Urgency
00:12:34
Speaker
And then that's also, of course, going to damage your kidneys more if you're coming right next to each each other rather than being able to space it out and go for a couple of weeks between.
00:12:43
Speaker
Right. And I feel like that's our huge issue in today's modern world where you just have, we're oversexed in all the different ways. and And so it's easy to get stimulated like that. and And it's fun too. It's not like the body makes it like an easy thing. It's not like ejaculation says, oh, this terrible thing. It's like, no, it feels really good. There's reasons. We'll take the discipline and yeah and that consistency too, that we always talk about. Yeah. Yeah, and to know what's coming down the pipe literally um is very helpful so you can yeah ah adjust your behavior accordingly. All right, then we go to number two, pitfall. um This one is dampness. So this is a little bit, um I think yeah even a lot of muggles have heard this word, um hopefully from your practitioners or somewhere else. Anyway, this idea of dampness, what it means is stagnant fluid.
00:13:38
Speaker
And the worst thing for urgency is dampness in the lower burner. You can actually have dampness in the upper burner, and it's not a huge issue. Dampness in the middle burner, you'll probably be fine. But dampness, which it means a buildup of stagnant fluid in the lower burner, is just like the worst thing for urgency. And for anyone who's at UTI, you know why. So people who have UTIs, which generally all have an element of damp. They don't necessarily have to have all all element of heat, though often they do. Some are just pure damp. um Some are even blood stasis or blood heat and other things too. But damp is almost universal between all of them because you're dealing with the urinary system, which is a very wet, damp system. So here, what we're talking about is um for UTIs, a really classic symptom is everybody has you know people have to go to um
00:14:26
Speaker
the bathroom a lot more urgently than they would otherwise, and there's ah not always a lot to pee out. So frequent trips with not a lot to pee, that's a classic sign of dampness. So, you can imagine if you've got this urgency to pee, you also have the same urgency if you translate that into a sexual realm to ejaculate. It's literally a downbearing sensation kind of making you want to release and ejaculate. And it's because your body knows, well, if I can release some of that dampness, I'll feel better. Yeah, but if you release the dampness at the cost of your kidney jing, that's a big no-no, right?
00:15:01
Speaker
um You can even see this. I remember I was watching some comedy episode. I think it was Michael Che. You know that guy he was on the yeah and he's a SNL dude with them the other guy, Colin Jost. Anyway, so in one of his standups, he was talking about how like he decided maybe he doesn't need to hold out from like from ejaculating so quickly, um which is funny because it's kind of exact opposite of what we're saying. And he's like he was talking about basically like not wanting to keep doing it because he's like, why am I like biting through my own lip just to not come um you know for two three two, three minutes longer? I can tell you right now, I'm sure he's he's a brilliant comedian, but he's got dampness in his lower burner.
Herbs for Managing Dampness
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If it's that urgent,
00:15:44
Speaker
Like right away from the get-go, he's got some dampness in that lower burner. So i let's fix that up. So you can fix that with a lot of different things. you can't There are Western herbs. Sting nettle root is one idea that some Western people use for that. um It's the root, though, not the leaf. But from our perspective, um there's a couple of things. And I think our herbs are actually much more targeted. Staining not a root can be a very useful herb, but um we have lots of different ones. We have consolidators, we have lifters, we have damp clears, all these sorts of things. And one big thing is there are some herbs that actually make this worse. So a good example is a wonderful herb, fooling.
00:16:22
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um and Fooling is ah is one of our all-time best herbs. It's in so many different Schenglin formulas. It's great, great herb, but it pushes down in the system, which is partly why it's so good for things like anxiety or if people know what running piglet syndrome is or Bundtwin, which should actually be called squirming piglet syndrome. It's great for that because it calms, descends, clears out excess fluid, but don't forget all of those things make it harder not to ejaculate. and not the calming part, but the descending and the clearing out fluids, it literally pushes fluids out of our know genitals. Well, that's not helpful for not ejaculating. So, fooling makes people want to ejaculate more. um So, just be careful. Sometimes, if you know if if you're if they're on herbs and so forth, you don't want to tell them these techniques and then make it harder for them to do it.
00:17:07
Speaker
um by adding things like fooding. So you can see there's certain formulas that we talk about with this. A good example would be a formula called wan dai tang, which means um ending the excess discharge formula. And this is for women who have like an incredible amount of excess discharge. like These are the the sort of female patients who like they'll sit down on a chair and the they'll be self-conscious because they might have left like a little pool or puddle. Oh, wow. So it's like a lot, a lot of discharge. And that's totally fine. We can treat that very well. Well, this formula does an amazing job. But as you might guess, it's got some strengtheners, it's got some spleen tonifiers. It's got basically a very classic formula called Sejunzutang. But very importantly, they take out the footing. Because you don't want to exacerbate the downward um clearing out. You want to do the strengthening and the lifting. And then you can dry the dampers on the inside.
00:18:01
Speaker
So if someone has dampness in their patient and they're also trying to control their ejaculation. Correct. you're going to balance out the draining downward damp or you're just not going to use draining downward damp herbs? or Correct. so if Yeah, you can balance it out or you would um and by balancing out, it means a string and hold in while you get rid of. and Then very importantly, you can actually do you can switch techniques. so There's lots of great ways to get rid of dampness and um draining through the urination is only one of them.
Integrating Chinese and Western Medicine
00:18:32
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Another great one is drying. So if people really do have this amount of excess um dampness internally, then you can just dry it. So for those of you who are in herb land, the herbs like Fuling and Cho Tianzi, these ones clear out through the urination. And absolutely you can use them, but you probably want to join ah you know um add to them some astringers. So Wu Weiz is an option. It's a very strong astringer. If you don't want to go that strong, you can go to something like Shan Yao. or you can just switch techniques and dry the dampness. So there's an herb called Cangju, which is very effective for drying dampness internally, but doesn't exacerbate that downward push. Got it. Very classic formula. Only two herbs here, Cangju and Huangbai, makes a formula called Armiaosan, which is sometimes translated as the two miracle powder. It shouldn't be miracle, it should be like two adroit, like very not like two adroit, two adroit,
00:19:28
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exploit. I don't know. um Right? Did you hear some MC Hammer in there? Yeah, I was confused of what you're saying to the two adroit. Yeah, two meaning the two herbs and then adroit or like subtly effective and how it does it. Oh, like a joy as in function, right? Like a high effective expert use of function. Okay. Yeah. The only reason I bring this up is the reason why um the name is so important is it tells us how effective it is and yet how gentle that formula is. so So when people are afraid of using herbs, because maybe they've misused them and gotten bad results, this is an example of a damp clearing formula for the lower burner that's very safe. If you give ArmioSign to someone wrong, you're right, this is a big deal. We have to think like, okay, sometimes you're wrong.
00:20:19
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When you're wrong with herbs, it's very notable. Yeah. So when you give Armya-san to someone, the wrong person, it actually doesn't matter that much. It really doesn't backfire too bad. If you give like, you know, longdan, like qiagantang or something like that to someone and they shouldn't have it, you'll wreck everything. But if you give this formula, that's like, that's not that bad. Maybe they'll be like, yeah, it was just a little thirstier or something. So it's weirdly gentle. And yet if you give it to the right person, they're like night and day, they're like, Oh my God, like my prostate just like does not feel like it's blocking my urination anymore or some other really important stuff. Right. Yeah. I have a side tangent here. Um,
00:21:03
Speaker
One of my patients is on, um he's an older man, he's like 89, and they put him on drugs to stop his nighttime urination. But then he's also very, very dry. And I'm wondering if the you know the herbs, the pharmaceuticals that he's on, if they're not helping him rebuild yin et al. They're just somehow stopping his his weak yang from escaping. right They just seal that passageway. But but boy, is it not doing him any favors either. And then a bunch of his other symptoms started like on that same time scale two years ago. And I was just like, oh my God, all this other dry and heat stuff, mostly dry stuff,
00:21:47
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started happening. I'm like, man, just. Yeah, so right. So right. And it's true. Like, so oftentimes, there's a lot of different things, but we're usually looking at kidneys. So especially for older patients, not and not guaranteed by any means, but we're usually looking at kidneys. And so a lot of nighttime urination, you want to double check their kidney pulses. Sometimes it's just one is lower than the other. Most of the time, it's both are pretty low. And if that's the case, then we have a great formula called the kidney cheap pill. Oh yeah, another one. Yeah, Shen Chi Wan. Sometimes called Jingui Shen Chi Wan. Can you give it to them even with whatever pharmaceuticals are at the double check? Yeah, you can. You absolutely can. It's it's very helpful. um That's a really fascinating one because it literally kind of restarts kidney function, as do a lot of our lower burner stuff. So there's different kinds of functions we're aiming at, but Chihua is the big one. Chihua.
00:22:39
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exactly Check out it. So that's that's a good one. um But yeah, you can give it at the same time. For most, we'd probably want to double check exactly which medication it is, but most of the time you can. The cool thing is um if they have a way of decreasing their Western meds, this is also a really great way to start weaning them off their meds by replacing it with herbs. Yeah, I know. Do you know what's really hard is finding a Western doc that will take off, stop prescribing herbs. Yeah, or stop prescribing meds for herbs. Or yeah, they're pharmaceuticals. Yeah, you're absolutely exact. Yeah.
Holistic Approach of Chinese Medicine
00:23:19
Speaker
Even without the symptoms. I'm like, what are you guys doing? They're like, you know the one ah client that we share, she had the upsurging stomach stuff ah for over a year. And they tried all these different herbs and she came in for acupuncture and it went away.
00:23:33
Speaker
and they go, oh, it just started working. They're like the pharmaceuticals. She was like, no, it didn't. She's like, I want to stop the herbs. They're like, don't, don't, don't stop the pharmaceuticals. Like you got to keep on taking your meds. Like otherwise it will come back. She's like, fuck you guys stop taking it. And she's been fine. Totally. But if you know we can't tell clients to do that, patients to do that, and you know we shouldn't. It's just a bummer that the Western docs are so afraid of taking them off of medication. Yeah. I think it's overly litigious and other things. And also ah hubristic, I think it's definitely where they think their medicine is the only medicine that counts. If the patient's... Yeah, that's all there. But if the patient's really the one pushing for it,
00:24:18
Speaker
yeah so One of my patients just got off of blood thinner because they they so found some clots in his in this calf. I mean, my goodness, we we do that all day long with herbs, right? And he was the one who like went to his practitioners, like, I want to get off this. I don't think I need this anymore. It's been years. like i I want to get off this. It's not helping me anymore. And his MDs were really into it. They were they they listened. They they get definitely were like, OK, well, do this. I want you to have a prescription just as a backup. So fill this one last time, and then you can you can do your herbs or whatever else you want to do. And then, of course, you was really into the herb side.
00:24:54
Speaker
Nice. That's awesome. I ah feel like the doctors out here where I'm at is like the doctors in a poor inner city type of thing where they're not, they're not, they're not that great. It's specialists is even worse. You have to fly to a different Island. If you have like an ear problem, you don't have anyone out here for that. Jeez. Yeah. Which then also brings up like another thing where it's like the Chinese medicine side is so much more effective. One practitioner can treat all the different things. Yeah. It's one appointment, right? I don't make you wait for half an hour. That's a good point. And it yeah, we're kind of like trial by fire because we have to treat everything, right?
00:25:36
Speaker
Well, if you maybe somehow just more magically started out with a very large network, then maybe you could be like, I'm only going to treat orthopedic things. But otherwise, you have to keep your you know door open, at least for the first couple of years. so And I think really, I know it's a little hard because people are like, well, how am I supposed to master all of these different things? But all you have to, yeah, you master Chinese TCM physiology. Right. Wuxing, five things. That's a good mistake. And then they turn it all the other things. It's the same thing with the Ba Gua, right? You'd be like, oh, it's eight things that then turn into all the different changes. That's a good point. You can simplify it down into like the base patterns and principles and then it ever expand off of that.
Pitfalls in Sexual Endurance Techniques
00:26:20
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And the different patients just gives you like new learning experiences. Totally. If you just see the same two things over and over again in clinic, I mean, I'd be bored out of my mind. and
00:26:31
Speaker
All right. Back pain, neck pain, back pain, neck pain. Oh, well, I mean, that's what I have to build. All right. Number three. Yeah, back to the pitfalls. Pitfall number three. All right. We got kidney deficiency. So we had, um, remember the time periods between and after and so forth. It was number one. Dampness was number two kidney deficiency, number three. And this one, um, including. This is again, going back to that day or so after ejaculating, you will be temporarily kidney deficient. And so it's easier to ejaculate again because you don't have kidneys holding inward. um But someone who's chronically kidney deficient, maybe came to you kidney deficient,
00:27:13
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They're going to be a little different. It's not just their chronic they therere kidney deficient because they just ejaculate. They're just kidney deficient all of the time, which of course is worst post-ejaculation. right But that means they might not have a very good um stringing function to begin with. So you want to make sure there um they're built up enough in order to be able to practice some of these techniques. So I just want to point out something that might seem obvious. I don't know if it's obvious to either muggles or practitioners, but B and C are opposites. B is an excess problem of dampness downbearing, making them want to ejaculate. C is a deficient problem of not enough kidney function so they can't astringe and therefore they want to ejaculate. Same output, very different input and extremely different treatment strategy, right? So just so people are aware on that. Absolutely.
00:28:06
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right Number four, a full bladder. Just like having too much dampness, if you've got a full bladder full of liquid pressing down on all your bits, um good luck. and It tends to be a little bit easier to ejaculate in the morning than it is in the evening. and This is because we've got a rising yang. People tend to be a little bit more excitable. The nervous system just woke up from a nice long sleep hopefully. and so you know Food might taste like, wow, that's a pretty strong flavor or this or that. well, you know, sex is pretty, s you know, sensory, powerfully thing. So it's kind of activating all those nerve neurons and stuff right away. So just be careful, it's a little bit easier to ejaculate tends to be in the morning and definitely don't go on a full bladder. So if you just wake up and you want to play with your partner or something, run to the bathroom and pee real quick. Absolutely. I feel like the
00:28:58
Speaker
The urination thing will get you in trouble even if you're not trying to retain and you're just trying to have a good time um because it's competing for the same space in your urethra, right? Because this is a huge difference between male and females. females have ah ah their urinary tract is only used for urination, ours, we have a double use out of it. So we have two things that can go into the same space and they're fighting over it. um You can definitely have like painful pee. Yeah. The unit tube.
00:29:30
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yeah Yeah, we got the unit tube. Just make sure you unplug it from one thing before you plug in the other, separate those two things. And you know, we all get morning wood, right? And so that's, you know, you're already aroused. like That's right. It's definitely easier. Yeah. But also take advantage of it too. But then it's like when you wake up with the morning wood, you still probably want to let it come down a little bit so you can go pee first and then use the morning wood, right? That's my routine. Yeah. So go go down at least. Have you heard of the word half chub? Has that changed? Yeah, I've heard chubs. Yeah. Okay. So people- Poor chubs, whatever, however much of a chub people got. You got to get at least to have, I mean, some people, one of my friends in China would say, he said he thought it was funny when he would pee with an erection and I was like,
00:30:17
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That's not funny, man. That stings. Yeah. No, that's how I feel, right? I'm like, oh, this was not pleasant. No one taught me this in sex ed class, like assholes. Yeah. Definitely bring it down to half job if you try. Yeah. All right. Numbers, should we continue onward? Yeah. All right, so moving on from pitfalls. So we that was like we ah like some four four key things to watch out for.
Relieving Blue Balls
00:30:42
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Now we're going on to another one, which is if you are not circulating all this stuff, right? So we said you you don't just want to lock it in, you want to circulate it. Well, if you just messed it up or if you're just learning, your body still doesn't figure stuff out. Or if you get too close to ejaculating, kind of like edging, right? But if you get too close to the edge and still stop, your body doesn't really know how to
00:31:04
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um stop entirely yet. Again, you will learn how to do all of this. it's It's just part of the training. But in the process of that, sometimes you get blue balls. So blue balls are the achy balls. Obviously, I think most men know what this is, but just so everybody's on the same page. That's where um if you didn't fully ejaculate or you kind of half ejaculated or that sort of thing, you get stuck in the middle, then you get these this ache in the balls. So most men have experienced this at some point. But this usually means either A, you went too close to the edge and then didn't, or some there's a blockage. And that's really what we're looking for, is how do you how do you stop this blockage? um But like I said, when you're first starting out to use this technique um in that first like couple months period, you might experience this like you know occasionally. So there's a couple of key methods. And most of them you can just fix actually with your own just movement and body and hands and stuff.
00:31:55
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so There's a couple twea function kind of methods, and one is called grasping method or NAFA. So this one is where we do the grasping means in TUANA where you grab a tissue and then you pull and lift it from its location. Well, in this case, what you're trying to do is you're actually kind of grabbing and you're trying to grab around the testicles, not actually squeeze the nuts themselves. So write your where there's like the space between the testicles and on the sides, you're cramp, you know, you're um grasping a little bit more firmly. And then you're leaving space for both the testicles. And then you pull down kind of an arithmetic method with your breathing. So I, you know, you can do it on the inhale, the exhale, there's not really technically a rule there. But that means you're you know slowly kind of elongating and pulling it back. And what you're literally doing is you're you know pulling your testicles back down, relaxing the vas deferens, relaxing that, that
00:32:49
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the vas deferens is the tube that that carries semen um from your testicles. And so you're pulling it back down. And when that releases, that's how you release that achy, crampy feeling, which is what people call blue balls colloquially. Yeah, when I first started doing these types of practices, um I learned from from the books from the Western books, not from Steven. So it was pretty much, you know, run the run and the do, right? Getting the energy to flow up. And I noticed just even that doing that during sex made that so when I didn't ejaculate, I didn't have all this stuck energy down on the balls or just trying to come out.
00:33:27
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of my penis, it was it's going somewhere else. And so there wasn't that blockage there. That's absolutely right. And Asher's talking about the one the the way that we want to do it. And if you didn't quite get it or something went awry, then you might end up with this blue ball. But Asher's exactly right. And so that's really just basically focusing your intention. um So if any of you have heard about the small circle of heaven, also called the microcosmic orbit, that's basically what you want to do during the sex to try and circulate it up to the brain. It means descend down the Ren channel and descend up the Du channel. The descending down the Ren, does that have to do with, um because I've kind of correlated at this point in my brain as the descending of the fire, of minister fire, back down to the kidneys? For sure. I think that's part of it, you bet. Yeah. um i would I would say that's a part of it, but but certainly a key part, yeah. Okay. It's also partly because the front Ren is all yin and so it has to descend.
00:34:26
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and the back yang is the rising, so that's the one that you want to ascend. Right. yeah Yeah. But getting that that the heat to descend in an arousal state is like this extra challenging thing. like Getting the dew to go up during an arousal state, kind of easy, not super hard. I mean, it's you know wherever you're at, you come to it with the knowledge that you have. But I found that much easier than descending down the front side because it's like, no, I'm i'm aroused. like Everything's flowing up. everything It feels good flowing up. you know It's like, OK.
00:34:58
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that counter flow, that balance flow, that's a tricky bit. That is an interesting point. Yeah, that's a really good point. If you try and just literally deep abdominal breathe, it feels kind of like you're adding, kind of like a bellows pumping, it almost adds strength to the lower abdomen, and therefore it feels good. Yeah. Yeah, so you can kind of think of it as like- The diaphragm's a pump now. That's right, which really should be all the time, you bet. So we got that kind of the grasping of the scrotum and kind of pulling it downward. That's one. Another technique that you can use is um what we call borpha or strumming method. Sometimes mistranslated is plucking method. But of course, you would not want to be plucking these things in the genital region. No plucking, please. Strumming still feels a little strumming of you. What's that? Is this the same term that you should pluck the vessels before you needle them? Oh.
00:35:56
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Um, well, maybe usually we would say you would want to palpate. So maybe that's more. Yeah. Because strumming is, it's how we get rid of excess tension. Okay. So is it cross fiber then? It is cross fiber. Oh, okay. That makes sense. Correct. And if it's with fiber, then there's lots of other techniques that are like that, but the best and, or I would say the most useful one is called Lufa, which is like gliding method. Maybe it's how you translate that one. Yeah. Okay. so So what are we strumming here, Stephen? So here we're strumming the basically the vas deferens kind of like right under Huayin area. So from from the base, um really not the testicles itself, but from the base of the penis towards the
00:36:42
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anus So basically the entire taint, you're you're strumming this. And you'll find that if you are blue balled, that is usually kind of extra pronounced, extra like palpable and kind of swollen feeling. And so you strum it cross fiber. So it's going from front to back. You're strumming it from left to right, gently, right? And you when you strum, you could do a whole 20 episode, I guess, but it means don't stay in one spot too long. So it means go cross fiber with you know your fingers or your thumb. again, you're not trying to crush anything, you're just trying to push, ah move it across. So you feel it, and then push across it. And then you do that about five times, move down a little bit, do it five times, move it down a little bit. So you can get the entire length of the cord. um And that's another really great way to relieve some of that tension. Yeah. And I mean, you might find that there's a lot of tension down there. I know, like, we don't spend a lot of time and, know you know, you can get
00:37:33
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bodywork done on you a lot and not have anyone go down there and strum your taint. So it's certainly a thing that you should play with. The other thing I was going to say is that palpation wise, you know you're the chains that you're going to get out of this, like it can be very soft and minute. But that's still like moving mountains in this case. So you don't feel like you have to like feel this whole tight muscle or whatever you're feeling release and resolve immediately. Just the beginning of the change is enough to so get longer change in the long term. Totally. And usually enough to get some pain relief if it's really
Final Advice and Humor
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achy. Yeah. You bet.
00:38:14
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You bet. All right, third one, third twin on one. This is where we're also grabbing the testicles, just like we said before. But this one is also where we kind of lift at the base of the penis so that we're lifting one direction and we're pulling the testicles down the other direction. Same idea, basically, but it's still just trying to elongate that vas deferens back down. And then the last one would be where it's actually not very 20. You just kind of get up and with a straight legs, you kind of do a little hop. You don't have to Olympic jump this one, but just a little hop and then land directly on your heels. You do need to stack your joints very clearly on this one. If you don't, you'll jiggle the heck out of your brain, which is not good at all.
00:38:53
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but it's just a light jiggle and you want to kind of land basically straight-legged and just more or less send shockwaves up your spine, which kind of like loosen up any blockages. Yeah. It's kind of like shaking it out in a way. Yeah. yeah hot Specifically with the that but ah the tour this summer. Oh, let's shake it off. Let's shake it out. yeah no I just thought I was, I thought it was hip. I was the opposite of hip. I was like, dude, you're shaking your willy on tour.
00:39:25
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sorry cause issues That's true. That's true.