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Speaker: I am very excited to talk to our guest today.
Speaker: We are so lucky to have him because he created an app that's going to make people's lives easier and better for single people if you are tired of swiping.
Speaker: And most people are.
Speaker: The dating app fatigue just keeps increasing.
Speaker: People take the apps off their phone.
Speaker: They stop doing them.
Speaker: So insert Authenti.
Speaker: Authenti is an app that
Speaker: To bring people together, it's not your average or typical dating app.
Speaker: It is different.
Speaker: It is better.
Speaker: You don't have to swipe.
Speaker: It's really, really incredible.
Speaker: And we will be getting into that today.
Speaker: So, you know, Richard Decker.
Speaker: You said something that completely blew my mind and something I know that I'm probably going to repeat endlessly.
Speaker: So you said that 40% of couples in the world today are with someone who is not their type.
Speaker: That statistic should be made into an Amber Alert.
Speaker: It should be sent to everybody's phone.
Speaker: It should be on social media platforms everywhere.
Speaker: Because it just proves that we can get it wrong with just the way that dating apps are put together today.
Speaker: It's all about how hot somebody is.
Speaker: So your app Authenti, it has no swiping and people are connected without knowing what someone looks like first.
Speaker: Why was it important for you to eliminate swiping and the foundational mandatory superficiality of
Speaker: That's essential to every dating app.
Speaker: We're about intentional connections and the dating apps that are in service today, they're about judging a book by its cover.
Speaker: And the stats actually, it's 60% of people who are with someone who's not their type.
Speaker: Because as we grow and evolve and get a little older and then realize, you know, that blonde, that redhead, that darkhead, dude, this, that, or whatever we thought was our physical type, where did it get us now?
Speaker: There's hundreds of millions of people on dating apps.
Speaker: And there's a reason for that.
Speaker: You know, people, when dating apps first were created, they served a purpose.
Speaker: It was unique.
Speaker: It was different.
Speaker: It was bringing people from different geographics together, different communities and things like that.
Speaker: But just like every other business, they saw a financial potential if they...
Speaker: didn't service their consumer as well as they should and made it more about their revenue, which then became swipe culture, which then becomes addicting and the dopamine effect and then becomes making people judgmental and objectified.
Speaker: Everything we're not supposed to be when we're entering into any kind of relationship.
Speaker: And you're not going into authentic completely blind.
Speaker: You're going in as descriptive.
Speaker: You're not marketing yourself because when those other sites say to show your best self, you're revealing photos of yourself that may not be current because they're convincing to promote and pitch.
Speaker: It's not that people are intentionally lying or being misleading.
Speaker: They're being guided and they're being guided incorrectly.
Speaker: They're becoming a product on a platform that is now making money off of their images.
Speaker: And now you're into selling yourself instead of just being yourself.
Speaker: And with Plenty, it's all about being yourself, describing yourself.
Speaker: Well, what is it about you that attracts, you know, what are you attracted to?
Speaker: Short, tall, skinny, rounded, firm, fit, eye color, open to all.
Speaker: You're now going to describe, you know, what you're looking for.
Speaker: And it's amazing when you're not looking at it.
Speaker: you can't mislead yourself.
Speaker: Like you might have a specific type, but then somebody else's hotness might hijack that type for the moment.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Because your eyes are being misleading, right?
Speaker: Your eyes are saying, Ooh, wow.
Speaker: You know, okay.
Speaker: She's not blonde or he's not a dark hair or this, but man, they're adorable.
Speaker: Look at that.
Speaker: Look at that.
Speaker: And they're not really getting to know the person you're judging somebody based on a moment in their life.
Speaker: And then you're going to answer all our onboarding questions, which are going to be about your likes, your hobbies, your apologies, your philosophies, what turns you on, what turns you off.
Speaker: And somebody else is doing the same thing.
Speaker: And we're giving you 10 answers, multiple choice, and you get to pick five.
Speaker: Because algorithmically, now we could line up.
Speaker: Yeah, joy and rich, both like horseback riding.
Speaker: Joy and rich, both like nature.
Speaker: Joy and rich, both.
Speaker: And all of a sudden...
Speaker: you're going to get a recommendation.
Speaker: Hey, Joy, you and Rich are pretty aligned.
Speaker: You're like 55% aligned, and that's our patented spark reveal score.
Speaker: Would you like to be introduced?
Speaker: And what you're going to see when it says we're aligned, you're going to see a smoked out image of me.
Speaker: I found a statistic the other day.
Speaker: It's, you know, shocking, needless to say.
Speaker: It said, before finding a match, an average American will swipe on 4,000 profiles, which takes approximately eight months.
Speaker: And that's the statistic.
Speaker: So we have things to do.
Speaker: We have lives to live.
Speaker: We're spending our finite time on these apps.
Speaker: The world desperately needs Authentic.
Speaker: So what are Authentic members saying about the app?
Speaker: And can you let us know when you launched, where your app is operating, and what users are saying about it?
Speaker: Okay, so it's a nationwide app, but we're strategically launching city by city to build up the database.
Speaker: So people in New York are matching with people in California.
Speaker: We're about authentically growing, getting the right people involved, people who want intentional connections.
Speaker: We do events and we do specific events.
Speaker: We have an event coming up.
Speaker: We're selecting the date now for mid-July at a place called East Hampton Indoor Tennis, which has a miniature golf course out back.
Speaker: And we'll have girls playing golf at each hole where men will go around and they meet the girls.
Speaker: It's kind of like a take on speed dating, but it's more event organized and you're intentionally putting in what type of person you're meeting.
Speaker: So we're going to be responsible to make sure those type of people are at this event.
Speaker: And then we have a bowling event coming up and then we have some events going in South Street Seaport and more in August.
Speaker: So we like our events to be events.
Speaker: We don't like it just sitting across a table and speed dating kind of thing.
Speaker: We want people to be having fun.
Speaker: and letting their hair down while they're getting to know each other.
Speaker: And then they can invite their friends at the end of the events.
Speaker: So we do New York first.
Speaker: And then I believe we're going to Chicago.
Speaker: From Chicago, it's either Miami or Nashville.
Speaker: I don't have my website up in front of me.
Speaker: And we go founding members.
Speaker: We do 10,000 founding members in each city.
Speaker: In your opinion, what's the biggest misconception that people have about online dating?
Speaker: I can answer this question first if you'd like, or you could go answer first.
Speaker: I'd love to hear your answer.
Speaker: So the biggest misconception is that people think that people who are out of their league are interested in them.
Speaker: And because they see these profiles or because they see how attractive the people are on the abs, they will think that they have a chance with them.
Speaker: And then people who that they people that they would have a better chance with, they're ignoring because they're just enamored, enamored with the stereotypically hot.
Speaker: people.
Speaker: And, you know, I also, I host singles events for a company.
Speaker: And so I see this play out in real time.
Speaker: I see everybody, all the girls wanting the tall, handsome guy and all the men wanting the, you know, stereotypically hot girl, even though they have so many great options in front of them.
Speaker: And so many people that they're having these great
Speaker: interactions with these great speed dates with whatever, they don't care about any of those people because I will ask them, I'll ask people, who do you like?
Speaker: Who do you like?
Speaker: And everybody is saying the same person.
Speaker: So it's just the superficiality that,
Speaker: is just so crucial to these apps.
Speaker: I didn't know that it was 60%, you know, as far as people, 60% of them said there was somebody who wasn't their type, but I just, I don't even believe in the phrase, my type, like it's overused.
Speaker: It's completely overused and it's narrow because I think a lot of people would be more open if they just didn't think, okay, somebody has to
Speaker: check these very specific superficial materialistic boxes.
Speaker: And so I just don't think that's what it boils down to because you meet so many people who they're married to someone where they're like, I didn't like them at first or this person was not my type.
Speaker: This person is the opposite of everybody I've been with.
Speaker: So people just really need to be more open-minded.
Speaker: But yeah, what do you think the biggest misconception is about online dating?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Well, I think you hit the nail on the head, right?
Speaker: Online dating is all about judging the book by its cover.
Speaker: And what we're doing with Authentiz, we're trying to shut the brain off and open up with the heart and open up with energy connections and feelings.
Speaker: And that's when you really get to know somebody.
Speaker: It's hard to get past that.
Speaker: And it goes both ways, right?
Speaker: So you have your stereotypical tall, dark, and handsome and hot or whatever you want to call either side of it, right?
Speaker: But then also, you know, people take your last name and they do a deep dive or your profile shows that you have multiple homes and a boat and a Ferrari and all this other stuff.
Speaker: So all of a sudden that five foot seven dude is six five and he looks like, you know, Fabio because people get attached to that materialistic side of things and not the person side.
Speaker: But in all the research that I've done since I decided to become involved in this industry, the most powerful couples in the world were literally,
Speaker: nobody to be observed or nobody to be known.
Speaker: as we know them today, until they got together and then they became the power couple because their love aligned and then nothing could get in their way.
Speaker: And that's from top athletes to top finances, to top politicians, to top philanthropists, you name it.
Speaker: You could go down to top inventors.
Speaker: There was just something about that spark of genuine connection and energetic love that catapulted them to the stratosphere of extremely success in any field that these people were in.
Speaker: And a lot of them,
Speaker: or Beauty and the Beast on both sides.
Speaker: They're not a couple you would see together.
Speaker: Not at all.
Speaker: They were like Shrek and Fiona.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: I don't like where this is going.
Speaker: I don't like where this is going.
Speaker: Physical traction is important, but I get what you're saying.
Speaker: You're saying there's more to it.
Speaker: Well, no.
Speaker: Physical traction and chemistry is important, but physicality changes.
Speaker: And like I said, the reason why 60% of the people aren't their type is because what turns you on more, the way they look or the way they make you feel?
Speaker: That's a box.
Speaker: Did they check every button?
Speaker: It's like, okay, he doesn't have the eyes or the hair color.
Speaker: I thought, you know, this really isn't my type.
Speaker: But man, this guy checks every box.
Speaker: He's emotionally connected to me.
Speaker: He listens to me.
Speaker: He feels me.
Speaker: I want to hold his hand.
Speaker: I want to walk down because, you know, the whole physicality of the relationship isn't going to be the relationship in perpetuity.
Speaker: The relationship in perpetuity is how you're connected and who that person is there for you, your support, your channel, your love, your talk to, the person you want to come home after having a bad day who says, listen, honey, it's okay, man.
Speaker: We're going to be fine.
Speaker: You're safe here.
Speaker: You're safe.
Speaker: We're in our home now.
Speaker: It's not me coming home because there are 10.
Speaker: I'm like, oh my God, you rocked my boat.
Speaker: Because how many people want to have physicality when you're having a bad day?
Speaker: You just want to have maybe a little support.
Speaker: The physical concept is a great concept.
Speaker: I love it.
Speaker: Like I said, I've never used a dating app.
Speaker: I'm very comfortable meeting and introducing myself and talking to people.
Speaker: But I see a lot of my friends and family who have used them.
Speaker: And then I researched the industry.
Speaker: And it's just not...
Speaker: what it's let out to be.
Speaker: It's kind of like they're leading you down the wrong road and your heartbreak is filling their banks.
Speaker: And this just to me is wrong use of people's time and emotions.
Speaker: That's my personal opinion.
Speaker: And then in the research that I did, I'm like, wow, this, it's kind of like when Uber replaced the taxis, taxis were needed service, but man, they were just so abusing the clientele with their rates, with the conditions of the cars, with the misdriving people in charge of them more.
Speaker: Uber didn't compete with taxis.
Speaker: They replaced them.
Speaker: Yeah, something better.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: Netflix with Blockbuster.
Speaker: 85% of Blockbuster's revenue came from late fees.
Speaker: So they were riding the high wagon on charging people late fees.
Speaker: Netflix came in and said, no, there's a better way to treat the consumer.
Speaker: And there's no more blockbuster.
Speaker: They replace them.
Speaker: I could go down the list.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: This isn't about competing.
Speaker: This isn't about me saying, hey, match, you know, your Tinder, Bumble and Hinge, you're running the increase.
Speaker: They're going to do what they do.
Speaker: They're going to continue to thrive.
Speaker: They're going to continue to have business because there are people who want that transactional hookup.
Speaker: There are people who want that.
Speaker: I'm just traveling.
Speaker: I just want to meet somebody in town for a week.
Speaker: I want to have dinner.
Speaker: I want to h ave a companion.
Speaker: I get it.
Speaker: But there's a lot more people, and the dating apps have proven this, millions more people,
Speaker: that want intentional relationships.
Speaker: And I'm just giving them a better home to find that.
Speaker: I mean, here's the thing.
Speaker: Like, I fully 100% obviously support and am excited about Authentic and Your Mission.
Speaker: But dating apps as a whole are, they do, they can and they do still work.
Speaker: It's just that people are, a lot of people are using them incorrectly and they're also just investing a lot of time into sending messages and then
Speaker: They never actually have a date.
Speaker: But most of my relationships have come from dating apps.
Speaker: So I can't look at them as something that's only for hooking up or transactional meetups or whatever because they can work.
Speaker: But I had to teach myself how to use them effectively because it was just very obvious to me that these apps, they just want you to subscribe and never get off of the app.
Speaker: But if you are matching with people, if you are sending...
Speaker: messages to filter them out on the app to decide if you want to talk to them.
Speaker: If you're doing the same, when you speak to them on the phone, then you can actually meet up with people who you're aligned with, who you have a great time with and who you could actually be in a relationship with.
Speaker: But as I said, that's just not how people are using it.
Speaker: People get on the app, they send a few messages, they have a date, it's miserable.
Speaker: Well, of course it is.
Speaker: You didn't have a conversation.
Speaker: You don't know anything about them other than what they posted.
Speaker: And the likelihood that you guys are going to be incompatible is sky high versus someone that you actually got to know a little bit first.
Speaker: So that's like all part of my method and what I care to help people with.
Speaker: But people are just so salty about it that I just like leave the online dating coaching alone for the time being.
Speaker: But you said that you would like for your members to find someone within three to six months.
Speaker: of signing up on Authenti.
Speaker: Why don't you just want Authenti users to keep paying for subscriptions?
Speaker: Isn't it bad for your business if members are finding partnership within a few months?
