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Agency & Choice
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K and I discuss what these mean, why they are important, and how you can build agency to make better choices. BTE Fitness presents daily opportunities to build agency and strengthen the power of choice. The gym is our laboratory and proving ground for personal development, but make no mistake about it - the intent is to improve life outside the gym.
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Episode Introduction and Setup
00:00:05
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How you doing? You tell me to get close, and then you pull the thing away from me. All right. Here we are. Here we are. What are we going to talk about today? We've got to settle in. I feel like we just can't jump right in. We have a new plant. If we were on video, people would see that we have a nice little studio set up with our live plant as a gift we got. No one cares about the plant.
00:00:31
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Okay. We have our coffee. It's my BT stamped mug. It's pretty cool. That's, you get one, I'm limiting K animal to one paper cup a week. Okay. We can put it in the closet and put my name on it. Don't start.
Choosing Episode Themes
00:00:47
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So what are we going to talk about? So we went back and forth. We have two,
00:00:52
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kind of options. One is more on the educational side. Okay. Why don't you explain that to you? No, you go conceptual and one is more like. Practical. Okay. I'm just gonna, what were you going to say? I was literally going to repeat the words you use, but yes, what did I say? And inspirational firing people up. Well, I think that there's a couple of things. Like it's always tough.
00:01:23
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to know maybe what's helpful to people, for folks. And we have a lot of, kind of like what we were talking about last week, we do have a lot of interactions with people in a coaching relationship.
00:01:38
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And this isn't to violate that trust and confidentiality, rather identify common themes we see in our way of coaching people and share those to people who aren't obviously privy to that without having names and specifics. And so I feel like that's kind of the direction where we'd like to go. And so then that kind of bifurcates into concepts and theories and
00:02:09
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a little bit more heavy or heady topics and then like, all right, like actual, like actionable.
Understanding Choice vs Agency
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Yeah. Actionable things. And so today's a take it and run with it. Today's I think a take it and run with it. Obviously there's going to be some conceptual stuff to it, but it's going to be kind of musings and observations from coaching people and definitely
00:02:37
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with the recent addition or opening of between years fitness, both in person as well as individual remote clients. And there's been just common themes that anybody in a helping or a service profession knows that like, oh, you start to see some themes and you start to kind of also realize like, yeah, we're all unique, but there's also a lot of similarity. So, so today we're talking about
00:03:08
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Choice. Yeah. Choice and agency. And I think maybe what the difference is between those and looking for them in, in our life and to bring it forward. So to keep it, to keep it brief, you have, you hear a kind of agency and then there's obviously choice. And so choice is an option.
00:03:34
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think we all get that. But then there's agency, which is an choice if it's an option, kind of more on the external side, right? There's these options that you can do, whatever, you choose which one. Agency, though, is one's ability to choose among choices, and the energy that comes from that. And so it's more of an internal thing. Ownership, kind of. Yeah, ownership. Yeah, ownership and agency, I would say, not looking so much at the action, but
00:04:03
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the mechanism of the action. Where is it coming from? Is it an internal driver? And that's the agency.
00:04:11
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having agency in one's choices means to recognize them available, select one and target it and go after it and really, you know, own it. You can make a choice and not have agency part of it. Yeah. And I think it gets into, I think there's probably a higher order, you know, linguistic debate, but for purposes of common with what we say, like when we want to develop agency,
00:04:38
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what we're looking at is like independence as well. And not independence in terms of free of anything, but being self independent, self dependent, having that type of internal. Reliance. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So that is a little bit heady. Of course. Yeah. So bringing it to sort of like how we bring it back to like, okay, what does that mean for people? What,
00:05:06
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Yeah.
Fitness Choices and Personal Agency
00:05:07
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So one of the things that's been interesting is in between there's fitness, you don't get told what to do on a given day, right? You have choices. You have six choices of workouts. You have, we'll just say four choices of performance tracks.
00:05:30
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No one's telling you, I'm not telling you, you're not telling anyone what they should do. We're presenting options, we're presenting choices, but it's up to the individual.
00:05:43
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to have the agency, to have that internal connection and decide and what choice to do and choose what to do among other choices. You can choose to do something when there's only one choice, right? And that's kind of like, well, I'm either am or I'm not. But when you have many different choices, that's where we start to look at like agency. And so what's interesting is that that is a novel approach to the fitness for sure.
00:06:12
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So pause right there. So that's a novel approach to fitness because currently what the standard of pretty much most fitness outlets irrelevant of them, whether it's soul cycle, you have a personal trainer, you go to orange theory, CrossFit, group exercise, anything.
00:06:35
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You're there and someone's telling you we're going to do this, this, and this. Yeah, I would say the current climate, which I understand why. Yeah, just I'm just. It's not a knock or anything. It's just what is going on. There is a wide spectrum of choice and zero and very, very little agency. So it's kind of like you can.
00:07:00
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You know, you're being told basically what you're going to do. And some within some parameters, CrossFit does the best job of saying, Hey, you can scale it. You can do this. You can do that. You can make subs. But generally speaking, you're going to be in whatever a personal trainer, on the other hand, most of the time just puts you through a workout that they came up with. Now, of course, they're going to know, hopefully through a port and working with you this and that.
00:07:26
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toll cycle, like you're not going to be like, you know what? I want to actually run today. Not fucking possible. You're going to be on the bike. And so some of them are just, Hey, that's what you signed up for, right? That's like what it is. But you, you don't, you, you're, there's a mindlessness to it and there's a lack of internal awareness that comes with it. And that's just to add, like there is part of it that's sort of a, um,
00:07:54
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Like if you're signed up to go and I'll just use SoulCycle as an example, cause it's, it is more, it has less diversity because it's a bike. If you're like, I really don't want to go today, it's kind of like, don't be weak, like get on the bike. So I think some of that to your point of like not really having a choice or this is sort of what you're doing by, by, by the nature of that, you're sort of shutting off any kind of,
00:08:22
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you're being asked and told that you have to shut off any decision making. Because if you're like, I don't really know if I feel like doing this today, it's like, no, that's what you're doing. Yeah. And I think that one of the things that I'm certainly sensitive to when we start talking about this stuff, and obviously we talk about it ad nauseam, but
00:08:42
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Talk about like doing what you feel like doing, okay? And there's a lot of folks who would criticize that and who would look towards that as, well, that's all well and good, but you can't just always yield to what you're feeling. And we're not saying to just do whatever you feel like doing.
00:09:08
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but we're having you look at what you're feeling and perhaps some reasons why you might be feeling like that. And that's kind of what the self assessment does. That's what a lot of the different things do. And so I just want to be very clear that when we say like, you know, we have to consider how you're feeling, consider your state, this isn't like,
00:09:31
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you know, lollipops and, and, and bubblegum for, if you don't, if you feel like, you know, if you're just feeling quote unquote weak, like, no. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. I think the other thing is, yeah. And I think this is where it's like trying to keep things simple, but it's also a complicated, it is complicated. It is conceptual because the reality is, um,
00:09:57
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like being able to get to the place where you can trust those feelings. So for example, what we know now is like someone might feel like if they've been doing high intensity all the time, their brain, like your body and your brain are just pretty smart. And so your body is like, we don't like feeling like this. It's going to send messages to try to avoid being put in that position. So you might feel,
00:10:26
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Like, wow, I'm really just not motivated anymore. I don't really want to go to that class. I don't want to get up at 5 a.m. and go get crushed. So what we're saying is like, you should probably listen to that feeling. I think over time, if you can listen to those feelings, I think the fear is, well, if I just listen to that, I'm never going to work out again.
00:10:46
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And it's like, well, that's not right right now. It's because you're kind of in the hole. If you can align the feelings you should want, there's going to be days where you don't want to work
Agency's Impact on Personal Growth
00:10:55
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out. You can trust that feeling and be like, okay, good. I don't want to. I'm not going to the next day. You might be like, I'm fired up to work out.
00:11:02
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Yeah. And that is exactly what we want to do by building agency. Right. Because if you're in that position of, fuck, I can't, I just, I'm, maybe the next week will be this, but like, I don't feel like working out, but I work, but I, you know, I go to the five 15 a.m. or I work out five days a week. I do whatever. Like, like there's something wrong with me myself.
00:11:27
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That is saying you can't, I don't want to, I don't feel like I'm in the gym. You're like, don't listen to that. You know, the age old sort of thing. Like, well, don't feed that dog. Like there's two dogs and that whole thing. And it's like enough, you know? So.
00:11:45
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You don't then feel like you have a choice. So you go. You have no agency. It's not, Hey, here are my choices. I am going to choose to not go. It's like, no, I'm going to choose. You're not going to choose to go either though. You're just going to choose to not go. And that's a problem. So you go, you kind of go through the motions. You kind of do whatever.
00:12:09
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You don't really feel all that fulfilled. Yeah, maybe a little bit. You're like, oh, well, I'm glad I won. I saw people. I did this. I did that. I feel a little bit better afterwards. But then what about later? And how long is that prevailing? And so by having the agency of like, yeah, no, I am. I feel like I got hit by a car today.
00:12:26
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Or I just, the thought of going to the gym, I absolutely do not want to do it. I'm going to choose to not go now, and I'm going to choose to rest. And I'm also going to choose to be like, what else is going on? That is the agency that we want to develop. And it's the internal, because the choice is whatever. Hey, go to the gym in the morning. Great idea, or worst idea you could make. And so what we're doing, and what's really interesting to see people click,
00:12:53
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is it's the opposite of it's completely going in the other way of what people cynically think with, well, if you just do what you want all the time, you're never going to challenge yourself. It's like, no, come on in and train. Come on in. You think you're not going to challenge you? Get out of here. No, what you're going to do is actually provide the space and the ability to because you're not going to no matter how hard you work. I really think like if you're not in it, if you don't have the agency,
00:13:23
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you're never going to work as hard as if you do. And so that's where it's like you're providing that space to be like, Oh, like I want to challenge myself. I want to get after it. Not just dulling everything down. Yeah. And that's where it like, that's where we keep telling people, but like imposition leads to opposition. And when the workout is imposed upon us, we are going to oppose that and we're going to resist it and we are going to fight a little bit. And yeah, maybe it'll come in, but that's what we mean too. When we say like the workout one. Yeah.
00:13:53
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where it's like, you did that extra round only because the workout said, hey, it's five rounds versus me like, no, I defeated you in five. I didn't need six rounds. I got it in five. You won. Yeah, you won. And you chose to do that. And so that's where on a daily basis with the workouts, by connecting to the internal, by looking at the self-assessment and by just being like, well, what do you want? Right. It's that right there that is,
00:14:23
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Yeah, and kind of not go to what we talked about last week, but that is the process we're saying takes time. Most people initially, because they're not used to having agency, they feel much more comfortable being told. And so that initial transition is like, I don't know how I feel. I don't know what I want. That's why, of course, the self-assessment, it is
00:14:46
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Targeted questions that like help you answer things. It's not just how do you feel? That's too broad of a question, but you know I was talking to someone today about they
00:14:58
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I said I might work out today later, and they said, wow, how do you work out later in the day? They're like a morning work errater. And I was thinking about for myself, and there's a lot of great reasons to work out in the morning, no doubt. For me, I used to work out to kind of get it done, to check the box, get it over with. In the morning, though. In the morning. So I could like, okay, now I'm done. And after the workout for you was extremely rare.
00:15:25
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not because I was like physically too tired. It was just mentally, I wasn't able to. And what I realized also though is in the morning, I didn't really have time. I wasn't giving myself the time and the space to go through that assessment, to feel like, how am I feeling? I wasn't giving myself a choice. I wasn't having any agency. It was just like, this is what you do. Don't think, just do it. And in the process of that,
00:15:54
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does have an impact on you. Right. And I think there's, there's, there's a time like, and that's the, that's the tricky part. And that's why this will never be, that's why between there's will never be mass produced or for the masses. Like it's for the masses, but the masses aren't for it because it's like, there is though that other time and place where it's like, no, like you're going to turn off your thinking and just, and just do it. The thing is, is that that's, that's got to be the outlier.
00:16:22
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more often than not, right? And so not specifically with movement, but with like what we're doing and how we're structuring our day. And for you to say that you didn't have the time, it's like, well, the time is there.
Self-assessment in Fitness
00:16:40
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Like the time was definitely there. And I put a post about this today, but like the self-assessment literally takes one minute. Now the self-assessment wasn't there.
00:16:50
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The offering, right, the invitation to develop the agency was not there. And it was like, no, like, just do it. I mean, we're talking about when you were training for regionals, it was kind of just like, hey, just like, just do it. Just go faster. Just do it. And it's like, that doesn't work, you know?
00:17:09
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It's really, really interesting looking at or asking people like, what do you want? And so if you're listening and obviously you're not a member of the in-person gym where we get to engage face to face.
00:17:23
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ask yourself, like, what do I want? And it's amazing how- Like in what regard? What do I want? We'll just take the workout. We'll take just a workout because the workouts really are just microcosms of life. And not to get all like culty and weird, but like it really is. Like, and someone actually this week was kind of saying that like, wow, I can't believe I got that much out of a workout. It doesn't always have to be like that. But I went to this place and was like,
00:17:52
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It had meaning outside the gym. It had way bigger meaning than whatever the workout things are. So it's like, yeah, the workout in the gym space, wherever that is for you, has the potential to be this Petri dish laboratory that you learn things about yourself to apply outside of the laboratory and outside and into life.
00:18:14
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So what do you want? You're standing in front of, in the middle of whatever gym you have. You have every option available. You have choices. You got equipment, you got this, you got that. What do you want? And that's not an easy question for folks to answer. Like really actually answer it.
00:18:36
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And if people are like, well, I just want to be told what to do. It's like, that's not you then. Like that's not. So when you say, what do you want? Like what would be, I want to work hard today. I want to, I want to. Well, are you going to work out or are you going to work? I mean, it's. Hypothetically, it could go a million different ways, but are you going to do something today? Yeah. But what's interesting about that today. So for me, I still, it is rare that I work out at this
Personal Workout Preferences
00:19:02
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hour. Yeah. Like it's three or four o'clock. But I.
00:19:06
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you know, not, and it's not because I didn't work out yesterday. I didn't work out yesterday. I wasn't feeling great. It was feeling tired today. I didn't think the right call was plus I wasn't going to make it to swimming. And so I was like, well, I had other obligations, but now like, as the day's going on, I actually really want to work out. Okay. Why? How do you know that? Right? So I feel like I have energy. I feel like I want to,
00:19:37
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Like what's interesting is we were talking about using energy or building energy. Like I feel like I have energy to express. Like I do have energy to express. I don't feel like I need to go burn it down, but I feel like that little bit of like, yeah, like I want to move. I want to feel my body in that way. Yeah. And so that's going to, so that's going to have to be considered for then what you choose to do.
00:20:04
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And that's one of the things like, so you're not going to do zone two. I can do zone two and like, and so for people that are like, what are you talking about? Like I'm, I'm not going to do, I feel like I'm in kind of a middle of the road on one end of like what we talk about engage would be like,
00:20:19
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Burn it down. Yeah, I mean if you don't know what we're talking about sign up for the between your fitness online free trial and You'll experience them like the one side of the spectrum is going like really hard I don't feel like I have that in me and I don't feel like I need to do that. That would be That's not the other side is kind of a little bit longer a little bit more
00:20:40
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steady, calm, like I don't really have that either, like that's not really, I want a middle of the road, move my body, feel something, I don't need to have a near-death experience. So you're gonna do flow? Yeah, probably a flow or conditioning, so like a general kind of workout, work on some breathing, like I feel like I've had a busy day, and I think it would, for me working out, would help like
00:21:08
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kind of, I've been coaching other people who've been focused out. I would like to have some time to like focus in. So like for me for that, like flow, like working on breathing, that helps me do that. Yeah, that would probably be a good one. Yeah. And so that's what, so, so you have then lots of the choices. The choice this morning was, you know, workout or not workout and seal it for the day.
00:21:33
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But throughout the day, as the day went on, having that like connecting within being like, well, I have this desire to do something and you're going to then choose what to do. That's the, that's the key and listening and honoring. You're talking about trust before. And it's amazing how.
00:21:54
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Of course we don't trust ourselves because we're constantly ignoring ourselves or telling ourselves that like, you're a liar, you're wrong, you're weak, I'm not that. And it's like, how do others create trust? They said something, hey, I'm gonna be there, I'll be there at three o'clock to pick you up. And they were there at three o'clock. Okay, expectation, delivery. That's simple trust over time.
00:22:24
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Well, what about us? What about us? Like internal signal telling us, Hey, whatever, whatever. And then just be like, Nope, Nope, Nope. And yeah, there's some value of course, to being like, the brain also plays tricks on us. And the deeper you dive and depending upon if you want to do the red pill, blue pill thing, but like, yeah, you start digging in and you start realizing like, huh, yeah.
00:22:48
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My brain does sometimes create things to protect me, to get me not out of here. And so just having to be able to interpret that language of self-dialogue, that is more along the lines of like self-mastery in between your stuff. Which takes time.
00:23:06
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which takes time, but also like you have, it's never just singular. And that's the thing. It's like, yeah, it always depends. It's like, well, that's not really an answer. Well, that is the answer. Yeah, but it's also refreshing to know that you're not really going to pick, it's less, it's not like, Oh man, I picked the wrong thing. Like it's not really like, Oh, like that was wrong. Like they're,
00:23:30
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And that's kind of freeing in many ways. But I think, you know, the trusting yourself and the physical stuff and that's a whole other podcast. But yeah, we, we really like our culture is to not honor that. Like every day is like, why would you, why would you be, why would you be different today than you were yesterday? Like, like if you're tired today,
00:23:57
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or if you're tired at two o'clock, very few people are like, wow, I'm tired, I'm gonna go lay down. It's like, I'm gonna get a cup of coffee and numb that, dull that, wake up, whatever it is. So I think that's...
00:24:13
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a much bigger challenge for people, but kind of looking at like, Oh, yeah, there's, I'm, I'm definitely not connecting to how I feel more than I am. I'm kind of numbing those signals. So it's going to take some time to sort of start peeling back the layers. Right. And I think it starts with kind of being
00:24:32
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not radically aggressive, but being deliberate and like, go find it, like go find what you want within you. Go find what you want and.
00:24:46
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That's the internal piece. That's the path, like we talked about last week with the path. That's the internal path. And if you can't answer that in a workout, not to say if you can't answer in a workout, you can't answer your life. It's not to say that, but like,
Exploring Control and Agency in Fitness
00:25:02
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Just start looking at how often are we thinking about like what you want? Because, you know, there's a lot of that, like, oh, don't be, if you want things, you're selfish. So don't be that. It's like, no, again, not, it's not this one or the other, but like, and then in your life, like, yeah, what do you want? And that's your obligation to yourself to not do what you want in terms of this, like, fuck everybody else attitude and willy nilly. No, but like.
00:25:32
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But you've got one of these, you've got one of these lives. And so if we don't even know what we want, well, what a great opportunity that is to have some really cool self-discovery. And that path, that internal path, that's one worth stepping down. Cause who else is going to answer that for you? Yeah. And I think to bring it back to
00:26:01
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you know, where people are at now, like just trying it for a week. I think there's so many, what is interesting is people get on these like regimented programs. I mean, and I'm one, I mean, I think there's a somewhere in the middle that can work. Like I've said, like Tuesdays and Thursdays, I swear. Okay, that's the program. But like really honoring, there are people that like I have to, people who are runners are a great example.
00:26:29
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They have a very hard time. Like, I have to run these 40 miles a week. But it's like you think about what your body's doing and how different it is. But yeah, you're gonna run 40 miles every week. Like, you know, because it's Thursday, because the program says so. And so just trying, whatever your program is for the week, trying to, instead of looking at what the day and the calendar, and we say that all the time, that like,
00:26:50
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the calendar's kind of the enemy, because if it's Thursday, I do intervals on Thursday. What if you looked at whatever your program is, just as a starting point, whether you do between the ears or not, and just try to really look at what you connected, like, oh, you know what?
00:27:09
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I really want to just go for a long, easy run today. Do it. Right. And that the program, you know, and some of them are great. Some of them are terrible. But I think that, you know, have a little fun and experiment and be like, well, how can I do this? Well,
00:27:27
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The other thing about learning about yourself, like go ahead, invite a little bit of chaos into your life. And in doing so, you'll learn how to create order. And that's something that I think, again, with this, like then that is an eight, then that's also building agency. That's you then choosing being deliberate. It's the same thing. And I was having this conversation with a buddy a couple of weeks ago down at, um, the vet recalibrate retreat. So I don't drink alcohol.
00:27:54
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I guess I'm an alcoholic. You could say, I could say, I don't know. I don't like to label that, but we'll just say for purposes of this, I'm an alcoholic. I don't drink alcohol anymore. And I never will. Am I in control of it because it's been wholesale removed? Like it's kind of an interesting conversation. Now I don't think I think I, I like, I think I am in control. And I think that one of the things is why I say I'm in control of it is not because
00:28:22
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It's just removed from my life now, but because I have no internal urge and driver to have a drink. None. That is not there. It is like looking at this plant. Like I don't have a desire to eat this plant either. And it's also that there's been plenty of situations where alcohol has been present. The external removal.
00:28:49
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in many ways is what fitness nutrition coaching does to try to give this cloak of control. Control comes from within just as agency comes from within. And so that's kind of one of the counting, like the macro kind. Yeah. Or the, you got to run eight miles on Tuesday, speed days on Wednesday. And you know, there's a lot of this stuff and you know, your whole thing about, um,
00:29:20
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you know basically changing day to day what you want as far as like in the little earth things. Yeah big picture life things probably not going to change all that much you know different phases of life will but yeah the workouts like
00:29:35
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you might want to do something totally different. Like yesterday, I wanted to do something and it was a great workout. Awesome workout today. No fucking way. I want to, I would want to do that. What I would want to do today is totally different. And that is also because yesterday was yesterday and today would say, which sounds like, well, of course, but like that gets missed.
00:30:01
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just the expectation that who you are today is exactly a photocopy of who you are, exactly the same clone. And it's like, no, there's, there's the weather, there's the stress, there's conversations you had, there's stuff going on, like there's sleep, there's food, there's all this stuff. So same thing with nutrition. Like you're going to eat exactly the same number of grams of protein today as you've eaten for the past 62 days. Like no matter what happened, no matter what workout you did, like that just one seems,
00:30:31
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Like it doesn't make any sense, but we seem to follow the one that doesn't make any sense because it also removes the individual's agency. And I won't go down with this. We talked about it on Friday or Saturday night, whatever that was with Jay, but talk about being controlled.
00:30:51
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Look what happens when people have no agency, then their choices are also reduced. And so, so much of this, we'll just keep it contained within the fitness space. So much of it, it's to control you. It's not to build. There's a scarcity. And then you think too, like, Ooh, it does start to, which is again, there's so many podcasts, but it does start to question, you know, it preys on the fitness industry, preys on like,
00:31:21
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the who in a bad way like who you are if you don't like
00:31:25
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I'm a less than person if I don't work out today. Yeah. Well, yeah, I'd agree. Maybe. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But there's also that thing of the overemphasis on the what. So there's the who, and maybe we will do this next week. I don't know. I want to do a video though to draw it up and stuff, but it's just all about the external, all about the external. You start talking about the internal, just, just, just observe. If you can observe, like people saying like, I don't feel like doing something.
00:31:53
Speaker
That is, and we're taught this as a kid, weakness. And it's like, okay, well, what's going on? Why would you say you don't feel like doing something? You start to peel, you don't have to go on a couch and into hypnotherapy to figure it out, but you just start asking a couple other questions. It's like, well, what's going on? Why don't you feel like that? Well, and then you start to have whatever the answers are. I didn't sleep, parents were fighting, I got fired, whatever.
00:32:22
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or I feel like doing something and it's like, and then how many people are like, well, but you know, it's like, well, if you feel like doing it, then what's stopping you from doing it? And then it's.
00:32:34
Speaker
Well, then attaching it to like, well, I'm somebody who just only does whatever they want. I know I'm someone who does hard things. I'm going to eat that frog. And like, I get, I understand, of course that, you know, that's obviously the famous book and whatnot, but doing hard things, people who do hard things. The hardest thing some people can do is absolutely nothing. And so that's kind of looking at the agency and there's a whole separate side of it too, where.
00:33:00
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You start doing things that you wanna do and things within you get better. And you apply that energy towards healthy things, towards challenges, towards like, yeah, I want to push my comfort zone here beyond just this rational answer and more from this internal driver. And then that's where you see people really then, I think, in our experience with coaching people.
00:33:26
Speaker
And just personally apply, like just absolutely going to, let's see how far this thing can go in different pursuits. It's like, wow, I, and it's like, I don't know what the tips are. There are no tricks. You know, and that's like, I just felt my way through it and.
00:33:45
Speaker
That's just crazy to say we can develop that by looking at what we do for exercise, but we can. 100%. 100%. It is something I know and believe in to be true. Whether we are willing to do it is one thing. We're able to do it. Whether we're willing to is a different thing in our expectations of how fast we want it to be.
00:34:08
Speaker
I want to do two workouts and have, you know, and have Zen master qualities like, yeah, well, that's not how it works. So that's the thing looking at what you want. And the inner piece I think is if you're someone who's very resistant with like, when was the last time you asked yourself, what do I want?
00:34:34
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And if you were to ask yourself, like look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself like, and physically do it, like look yourself in the eye and ask yourself, what do I want? And pay attention to the rumblings from within that may push you maybe either off the path or chirping your ear that that's not what you want or you should want something else or this or that, like, like stay with that. Explore that. Um,
00:35:03
Speaker
you learn a lot, you know? Yeah. All right.
Introduction to Between Ears Fitness Program
00:35:09
Speaker
So, um, obviously we have a lot of this in between there's fitness in person and online. Yeah. So the online piece, what is cool about that is you don't just, if you haven't done the week, the thing is the trial week doesn't include the self assessment. Um, but for people who might be interested, basically,
00:35:34
Speaker
when you join the online piece, yes, you're getting workouts, but you can get workouts anywhere. I mean, we do have different types of workouts and there's a whole methodology there, but one of the best tools in there is the self-assessment. And I mean, we pull that up and walk people through it before their workouts. So definitely the free trial is awesome, but just know that the self-assessment is part of the membership.
00:36:03
Speaker
people who are members online and in person. We have our first monthly member call coming up, which is cool. And that'll be a chance for people to kind of like, how's it going? What questions? This first one's just sort of like a welcome and kind of hear how people are doing with it. I'm excited for the first call. I gotta say, I'm really excited.
00:36:25
Speaker
Yeah, it's cool to have people coming in from all over the place. And then from there each month, there'll be like a bit of a topic. So that's kind of cool. Yeah, we've got that. If you are local, there is a meditation course we're offering here, which is really cool.
00:36:42
Speaker
That's like something that we find value in. It's not our area of expertise. So we're bringing in an expert who it is theirs and we're taking it as well, which is cool. Um, yeah. Yeah. That's it. Now I get to go choose. What do I want to do? Choose wisely. I know.
00:37:06
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Maybe we'll talk next week about or one of these episodes. Maybe someone can help keep us on track with all the times we say we'll talk about it next week, but the answer. Finding the answer.
00:37:17
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Yeah, the answer and how we look towards that because, you know, we're rational creatures and beings. And I think often one of the challenges is we look towards the rational mind to answer it when that's not necessarily the direction that is going to provide the answer. So looking at different types of answers, maybe that's next week. Maybe not. Okay. Well, we did keep it shorter. Yeah. All right. Goodbye.