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EP 85: March Catch Up
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This week on Mom Group Chat, we’re catching up on all the life updates—because there’s been a LOT going on. Candace shares her struggles with Alice’s sleep (spoiler: it’s been rough), plus an update on finally settling into her new house after months of uncertainty. Whitney recaps her recent family ski trip, including the highs, the lows, and whether or not she actually got to relax. We also chat about the latest mom wins, fails, and everything in between.
Grab a coffee (or a glass of wine) and join us for some real talk on motherhood, transitions, and keeping it all together (or at least trying to).
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Transcript
Introduction of Hosts
00:00:07
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There's no right way to do it.
00:00:12
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Oh, we're going to get into it. What up, moms? It's me, Casper the Friendly Ghost, here with my best friend, Whitney Williams. And this is the Mom Group Chat Podcast.
Mom Struggles and Sleep Deprivation
00:00:23
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I am so pale. Is it the window? It is. I'm sitting in front of a big open window with no blinds or curtains and I have not a stitch of makeup on today. i just could not even bring myself to put makeup on today.
00:00:39
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And i look so white in this video.
00:00:45
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How can we, we're never on the same page with makeup. Like you look glamour like you know 99% of the time not that you look bad but it's like I have makeup on today for the first time in weeks you won't post a video i already know it great no no I will I will yeah okay honestly sure oh today has just been a super hard mom day I have to be honest like I barely got any sleep last night. And so this is just, you know, a testament to how much sleep can like change your day because I feel like in, like not a human being today.
Transitioning Toddlers to Beds
00:01:27
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So I'm just going to, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm just going to dive in here. Take dump on the pod, please. Yeah. I'm going to just dump it all out right now. So we moved into this house. It's been great for the most part, whatever. And we moved Alice to a toddler bed in this house.
00:01:45
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And to be honest, it's been going okay. It has not been great. Oh my God. You have not talked about that at all to me. I know. I know. And there's like so much to update actually. This is the update episode, everyone.
00:01:57
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Yes. why is the march catch This is the March catch-up. And I actually feel like I got a lot to dump today. So get your coffee, get your wine, whatever you want to drink. Get your Dr. Pepper like me today and buckle up.
00:02:12
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So it's been going okay. She will get up a couple times in the middle of the night and she'll just appear at our bedside, like quiet as a mouse. She will just like appear.
00:02:25
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Out of thin air. And I'm like, what are you doing? And then I pick her up and I take her back to her bed. And I've read a lot of stuff in my mom group. We've talked about it.
00:02:35
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And everything that I've read is like it can take about three weeks for them to get the hang of like that they have to stay in their bed. Okay. um I ordered a hatch.
00:02:47
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Very annoyingly, the hatch would not connect to my internet and I had to send it back and order a new one, which was so annoying. So I don't have the red light, green light system going yet.
00:02:58
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They have the target. I know. i think it was that I had, I still had a baby list credit and I was trying to use that, but it makes sense but at this point I need to just go to target and buy one and I can use it on something else. But so I don't know. Everything I'd read was just like, just keep taking them back to their bed in two to three weeks. They will understand that they will always get taken back to their bed and they will stay there.
Sleep Regression Challenges
00:03:24
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And to be honest, I felt like we were doing good. She was getting better. It went from like her getting out of bed three or four times in the night to like she got up once, I think, on Saturday night.
00:03:37
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Well, I don't know. We regressed hardcore last night. And I think it's because my in-laws watched them and put them to bed. She, I'm not kidding, guys, got out of bed every hour last night, every hour.
00:03:51
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And I was just up and she was more whiny than normal. It wasn't like, like usually in our experience in these two weeks, like she will get out of bed, but she's not crying or anything. She just appears. And then I pick her up and I take her back and I tuck her in and whatever.
00:04:07
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oh She was like crying and screaming last night. I probably put her back in her bed like 12 times. I'm not kidding. And I barely got any sleep. Like I never slept longer than like a 40 minute stretch.
00:04:21
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I'm running on fumes right now. man You know I feel about that. I am so sorry. There's nothing worse. I feel like my fuse is so short right now because of how like sleep deprived I am.
00:04:36
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And then work decided to take a big old dump on me this morning. and it was like everyone had an issue. Okay. Everyone had a problem. Everyone had an issue.
00:04:47
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And again, my fuse is short because I haven't slept. So I'm just like... but you're like You're fired. I'm firing you. I'm dreaming. I'm just dreaming of like taking a nap solitary confinement.
Family Trip Planning
00:05:01
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I don't know. Someone help someone commit me.
00:05:09
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Please. Literally. i I'm like, that'd be a nice break. Honestly, and you need a little vacay. was just thinking how we don't have our trip planned this year and I was getting anxiety about it. I was literally thinking it that this morning.
00:05:24
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Well, it's funny that you say that. So we, Venny and I have been talking. Well, Venny and I have been talking about, um, Lake Tahoe because we have the lake or the whole week in Lake Tahoe.
00:05:38
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And we're trying to decide like how we want to use it. It's not a ski thing this year, obviously. It's like kind of like a summery thing. And um we've been trying to figure out how to use it. We're like, do we use it as a family? But going with both kids, like – I mean, it's it would be good.
00:05:57
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It would be good. It would be fun. That's one option. The other option is to just go with another like couple and just do like a child-free whatever.
00:06:07
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And then the other option that we've been kickballing around is for Vinny and I to split the week. Because ah the week is a long time. It's like a full seven days, right? Oh, like he have friends and then you have friends? Yes.
00:06:21
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so that like i can go with three other friends in like when or saturday to wednesday or whatever and then he take wednesday to saturday or whatever and we flip the week and so that we both get like friend time so i don't know i told him i was like we need to make a decision because like i just want to if it is friends i need to like Send out my invites, you know? Yeah. That's so funny.
00:06:51
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But no, we should do a bestie trip. Just you and I, too. Where should we know I don't know. We don't have to plan this right now. But I was just thinking
Concerns About Bed Transitions
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it. And I'm so sorry, too, that you're not sleeping. See, that's... I feel like that's what's going to happen with Graydon. And, like, you know, we put the bed in his... Sorry, I'm bouncing around a lot. I went from trips back to this. Okay. Okay.
00:07:15
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I don't know what happened. It's like Graydon wanted the big boy bed so bad. And then he's like, no, I just want my crib. And I'm at that point where I'm like, I don't, I just want to sleep. And if it ain't broke, don't fix it. I'm just like, Chris is so concerned about him in the crib. I'm like, I'm not at all.
00:07:31
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Like, this is the one thing that I'm like, I'm not pushing him on it because of how horrible it was in um November, October, November. i was like, I'm not, ever pushing him to leave this crib unless he is ready and I know that he feels safe in there because I think that was the issue it's like I'm not I'm not gonna if we hadn't lost our like crib and had to move I Alice would still be in a crib because she was climbing out I thought she would yeah she was Graydon doesn't even attempt he does not try honestly nothing
00:08:10
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Leave him. I wish that was my life. Which is so odd for him. I'm not going lie. he's I just keep like I'm I am totally not against a door lock situation or a child proof doorknob take for her to come out.
00:08:29
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The issue that I'm facing is that Alice likes her door cracked at night. That's like one of her things. Like, will leave my door cracked? And I'm like, yes. So we leave her door cracked open. And that's just like a comfort thing with her.
00:08:43
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And it's always like worked. She stayed at least whatever. Do you do like one of those locks?
00:08:52
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No, the ones where you can still kind of crack it. Honestly, bad idea. a bad idea. I've been meaning to Google like child door It has to safety, like fire approved. Because if that, that could
Childhood Fears and Sleep
00:09:06
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be an issue. Yeah.
00:09:06
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so Yeah. So I don't know. We got to figure it out. I got to I'm hopeful that last night was just a fluke because of she was baby like, yeah you know, she was being babysat and kind of just got the night off on a wrong foot.
00:09:23
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And it just set her into like this spiral of. you know, misbehavior, i guess. But we'll see. whoo Man, it's rough though.
00:09:36
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And today, because work has been popping off, I like, I don't really think I have time to like nap or anything. I'm so sorry.
00:09:47
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i wish I was like Olivia in this situation. It's like, all right, let's turn that frown upside down and make the best of the day, but I'm that person that leans in super hard into why I didn't sleep good and I'm pissed the whole day. eight the It's the sleep specifically, i think, that makes it hard. like I think ah other aspects like other hard aspects of like toddlerhood...
00:10:14
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like I can usually turn it around, but the lack of sleep is really something. It's really something. Yeah. There's nothing like it. And then you get the nighttime anxiety with it. But, um, and I just, already have it for tonight. I know. I'm like, I know.
00:10:31
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And I'm so sorry. It's, it's something that I feel like as a parent, you're just going to deal with the rest of your life. Like the fact that I slept in my parents' room forever. and it was because I had a legit fear. Like,
00:10:45
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they couldn't console me like I don't know if my mom laying in the bed with me and then her leaving I would have like woken up and gone in her room immediately type thing like I was so scared growing up like I just I hope it doesn't turn into that for either of them but if it does like I know how they feel and I would feel bad for them yeah i was I was like that even like when we lived together.
00:11:13
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I told Candace, was like, Whitney used to appear at my bedside the same way Alice does. Whitney would just be standing there. But I would tell everyone like why I was sleeping in certain rooms or i was like, because Candace would have been killed first at our apartment because she was downstairs and she would have screamed and I would have had a chance to escape.
00:11:35
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Yeah. Like I was a freak about It's like what you're thinking about. Oh, I mean, i did that forever. And
Music Passion and Celebrity Culture
00:11:43
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like I told Chris when we got married, I was like, I will never live in a house. I cannot live in a house because I don't want anyone to be able to like enter my door.
00:11:51
Speaker
I loved the idea of living in an apartment. Like you feel kind of tucked away. Like, why would you choose my apartment over but like the 100 other apartments like no one would ever find me in here and then now with like technology and cameras and stuff i feel so much better but i was a freak about it for a long time oh my god for no reason and that's on eggs anxiety my friends literally i don't know where that came from i have no idea but When I was little, we never i i have zero memories of ever sleeping with my parents. I feel like they were not they never allowed that.
00:12:29
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like I can't tell you a single time. But we did, as like me and Rob and Ryan, we used to sleep in the living room a lot. like As like a sleepover type thing.
00:12:41
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And we did that like a lot like a lot. A lot, a lot. Wow. I never did it. i like It wasn't until... sixth grade when I got a TV and my parents put it my room when like it helped me go to sleep.
00:12:56
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It solved everything, which is why I love TV so much. um It was like my comfort. i love Speaking of TV, we still have not put up a TV in this house and it's like we're going on two weeks.
00:13:13
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Honestly, it's hard, but also... We've been watching TV on my laptop in bed and I feel like I'm back in college. like in Oh, you always did that.
00:13:24
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Yeah. like And i Vinny and I, I've said to Vinny, I'm like, it's kind of like I kind of like watching these Bravo shows on our laptop. Candice, you were like my friend that always had their computer. Yeah.
00:13:39
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Like, what were you on? Yeah, because i was all the time I was on Tumblr all the time. I was like a Tumblr girl. Candice was the girl with the laptop on her lap.
00:13:50
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Always in ah in your bed watching something. Doing something. have always been chronically online. That's like the term I would say. like I have been on Tumblr since like it was born.
00:14:04
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I don't even think it's around anymore. Is it? Candace is chronically online. What was it? you ah My hobby is screens. Literally. Big screen, little screen, medium screen.
00:14:17
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I got my computer, my TV, and my phone on lock. Okay. I don't think that. What did you do on Tumblr? I didn't have Tumblr. Like, what do you do on that?
00:14:29
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Y'all are probably going to be like, Whitney, you're such a fucking idiot. You don't know Tumblr. No, no, no. It was kind of like...
00:14:36
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it's like ah It's like a mix between like Instagram and a blog. So there's lots of different things on there. like it could be most of the Most of the stuff I like to look at was like celebrity pop culture or like just funny shit. like There are so many funny things on Tumblr that I still to this day remember and I'm like, oh, I wish I could find that post.
00:15:00
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It was so funny. Like, yeah, I don't know. I used to love Tumblr. I also was a mentally ill human being from the years of like 2011 to 2013 about One Direction. Your frontal lobe was still forming.
00:15:18
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I was mentally ill. I'm sure there are girls listening to this that also were mentally ill over One Direction, but like I was mentally ill. It was like my whole life for two year two or three years, and I'm just so happy I came out on the other side.
00:15:36
Speaker
wish I liked something as much as y'all liked that. I mean, i don't think I ever will experience anything like that. Like... I actually talk about this all the time with my brother. I'm like, there was a moment in time where I knew their location at any time.
00:15:54
Speaker
Like literally someone could have stopped me any day in 2012 and 2013 and been like, where is Harry Styles at this very moment? And I would have been like, he's in Lisbon staying at this hotel, blah, blah, blah. I was like a psycho path.
00:16:12
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I wonder, um, don't know. I feel like a lot of people go through that. Like, I just... I don't have that experience like you do with music.
00:16:23
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Like, you love music in general. Yeah, I love music and I definitely love, like, celebrities and pop culture. Like, I... I mean, I feel like I have a version of that with Taylor Swift now. Like, I love her and I'm obsessed and, like, still follow all the, you know, stuff.
00:16:45
Speaker
I think it's just changed because, obviously, i have so much else, like, going on now as mom and a job and, like. Yeah. There's a time like time I remember like you saying your dream job would be like picking out music for like movies or shows for certain moments and like creating that that moment when you hear a song and you and you think, oh, that's from like that movie.
00:17:10
Speaker
And I remember you saying I still still To this day, wish I had really pursued that because I remember there was a – I remember sitting on my bed in the Theta house and I was like looking at internships of – because it's a music supervisor that does that, but it like takes a while for you to get there.
Pop Culture TV Discussions
00:17:28
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And so I was looking at internships like anywhere i could get, but I didn't end up like pursuing that. But I wish I would have.
00:17:39
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feel like you still could. It's –
00:17:43
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Now it's just choosing the music of our TikToks and our Instagram reels. You do great job. You're very the know with what's popular.
00:17:55
Speaker
Yeah, I like to think that about myself, that I'm like on the nose of pop culture and like what's happening. But it also has gotten harder as I've, you know, had two kids and everything.
00:18:09
Speaker
But I still, that's why i love, I love, Like I have certain friends here who I've kind of talked about, like the people I watch the Grammys with and everything. Like those are my pop culture people. And like when things happen, like there's there's a group chat for that. Like it's it's fun to be able to like – shoot that shit with certain people, but it doesn't like take over my life like it used to, you know? yeah It was funny because I was in the office a few weeks ago and we have these like, I don't know, they are like lunch tables, but they're in like the lobby. I don't know. It's like I sit there for work because I don't like reserving my own little cube. I just like I don't want a big screen. I want to work off my laptop.
00:18:49
Speaker
um And like two or three people kind of gathered and scooted in. We just all started talking about Bravo. And we were just like going off and talking all about it. And then someone's like, I didn't know you were like such a Bravo Liberty, Whitney. And I was like, oh, yes.
00:19:05
Speaker
I guess I am into the pop cultures. And I really let's chat about that. Let's chat about Bravo for a second. I love talking about Bravo. What do you want to know? Okay. What are your thoughts on like Paige and Craig and everything now? I feel like we've talked about that.
00:19:20
Speaker
No, we have. But like so much shit's gone down since then. Like so many accusations. It seems like they like hate each other now. I know. It's gone real south. It's taken a turn. um My friend Kristen from my due date group, she went to the Giggly Squad like right after the announcement was made that they broke That's hot ticket. Oh!
00:19:42
Speaker
I was like, oh, girl, you better sell that ticket and get you some money. But she went. She doesn't even listen to the giggly squad, really. But she said that um basically Paige was like, I be out here. Like, I don't give a fuck. Like, she was so done. But...
00:19:57
Speaker
You know when girls are done, you're like done months ago. Well, it's so interesting to watch this season of Southern Charming and Summer House play out because I feel like I'm seeing things that like, okay, they clearly were on like different pages.
00:20:14
Speaker
No pun intended. And I think that Craig lived a little bit in like fantasy land. Like I think Craig's view of where they were at was a lot different than Paige's view of where they were at.
00:20:25
Speaker
Well, I was reading somewhere like that latest episode where they're in the Bahamas and he was like getting he was like so angry and getting pissed and he was getting pissed at like Sienna when he was like trying to overhear the conversation with Shep and people were saying like, oh, like there was already like talk of them breaking up at that point. Like and no one had known yet. So it was like he was like on edge in that episode. Yeah, totally. Yeah.
00:20:51
Speaker
Oh, speaking of that, that whole thing is crazy. Um, I don't know. I feel like Southern charm has been like, eh, I still like, okay. I don't know. Okay. I agree. There's something missing in Southern charm these days. I don't feel like, like my favorite character is Madison, honestly.
00:21:10
Speaker
She's so pretty. She's so gorgeous. saying It's insane. It's like she's breathtaking, truly. And her outfits are always like, oh, my God. I'm like, I've just never seen a more perfect person she in my life. She's literally perfect. And it's like, what plastic surgery did she have to make herself look even better than she did? Because she did.
00:21:32
Speaker
And she doesn't look like surgery. No. She doesn't. That. Yeah. Oh my God. If anyone knows, please tell me. What'd she do? Casper the ghost over here really needs help.
00:21:44
Speaker
I like that she has a lip dip because I do too. It makes me feel connected to her. ah You know how she talks and like her lip goes down? ah You have that? Yeah. Like when I smile, it's this one.
00:21:56
Speaker
Oh. Okay. I know that when you smile, it happens, but I i don't know when I talk to him. I just, growing up, my mom like told me I talked like Jim Carrey because I could move my mouth all crazy. That's musicians. So you you had watched The Mask too many times. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
00:22:19
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yeah um But i I still like Summer House the most, but it's it is kind of like that part where Jesse was... What?
00:22:30
Speaker
Are you watching Southern Hospitality, though? no it is so good so much better than southern charm have i have watched this season is so good like southern or southern hospitality vinnie and i say it every week we're like god this show is so much better than southern charm because they're all young and like chaotic i feel like everyone on southern charm is just like They're aging out, man. And so is Summer House. Like when Jesse was Jesse was pissed that she was pregnant. He's like, this is awkward, which is like I know some people were mad at that. I kind thought was funny. It was like, don't want that pregnant girl bringing the vibes down. Like, can I just tell you how in love with Jesse Solomon?
00:23:16
Speaker
i what's his name? Solomon. Are you for real? I love him. No. No. His mouth is scary.
00:23:26
Speaker
ah This is why we work. We're not attracted to the same people. am very attracted to that man. And I think he is so funny and nice and real. I'm just like, no notes.
00:23:38
Speaker
Oh, yeah. I mean, he was funny on that episode where he's like, just be happy for me. like That was hilarious. It's kind of crazy how like Wes has taken taken like a dive bomb. like Everyone loved him last season. And now it's like... um Everyone's, don't know, hates on him so hard. I know. I kind of feel like the hate is a little bit, like it's gone. It's a lot. Like, come He's like paid to like everyone, he i feel like he had a rough time after the reunion.
00:24:06
Speaker
I feel like it's a little bit... And don't get me wrong, I love Sierra. Like, Team Sierra, but also, like... also gorgeous. Oh, my gosh. Yeah. Another perfect specimen.
00:24:17
Speaker
My toxic trait is that, like, I feel like I could be in that cast and, like, hang. But if I did, i would be like... They'd be like, who's the potato girl that's there? Like, literally...
00:24:30
Speaker
I like to think that I would blend in when really I would be like the most sore thumb potato person. would not. I would. I'm cracking up because you're wearing brown, so you are a potato. Look at me.
00:24:48
Speaker
You looked like a mountain. Great. Like from Game of Thrones, the mountain. I can't.
00:25:00
Speaker
I can't. You Also, my chin is peeling from my ski trip because I got wind burnt and my chin is cracked to shit and I just keep... going I'm sitting here messing with it. I'm rubbing it.
00:25:18
Speaker
oh my god don't do that's gonna make it worse are you Chris has it too Chris has it too all right here like around like his his smile lines and he went to daycare yesterday and picked up the kids he came home i was like Chris you look like shit and he was like oh my god I talk to people like this he was so flaky it was scary but we both look like Shadooby that is so funny Okay, hold on. One more thing about Bravo shows and then we can, I want to hear all about your s ski trip.
00:25:50
Speaker
But I just want to close the loop on this Bravo thing. You need to start watching Southern Hospitality. It is ah like so good and the people in there are so young and Delulu and like crazy.
00:26:01
Speaker
um Whenever you do text me because like let's chat about it. And then had something else to say about Summer House. Kyle. Kyle.
00:26:13
Speaker
Yeah, Kyle is like a DJ now. i'm like, okay. That's giving the guitar guy vibes to me. Like, put your shit but So true. it Honestly, i feel like today's day and age, being a DJ is the equivalent to bringing your guitar and singing Wonderwall.
00:26:36
Speaker
Although probably would enjoy it a little more, but I also like want to be able to talk and have a conversation and I don't want you bringing your base and your speakers in my ear and I can't fucking talk.
00:26:50
Speaker
I just can't get over that that man is like 42 years old and is like still acting like 25 old. I'm sorry. i feel like their relationship is hanging on by a thread. And I'm so sorry, Amanda, if you hear this one day. i love you. But wow, how are they still together?
00:27:06
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I know.
00:27:09
Speaker
It's it's I feel like that. I don't know. I feel like it's not going to last. I know. But Amanda, we love you Best hits in the game. Her boobs are so good. Every time I watch that show, I'm like, her boobs are doing are they're they're doing great. And Sierra's.
00:27:28
Speaker
Yes. Sierra has great boobs, too. Mm hmm. who hold on then he's like ask like i'm recording sir anyway but anyways okay ski trip speaking of being cold i want to hear all about it i want to hear about greeting shredding the gnar the gnar gnar oh my goodness well um sometimes like I was saying this to
Ski Trip Reflections
00:27:54
Speaker
somebody. It was either you or someone else. I can't remember.
00:27:58
Speaker
That sometimes I forget like taking a trip with a kid. i think, oh it's going to be so fun. And you forget you are still responsible for a said kid. And you're still parenting, but in a different location, which is always so hard.
00:28:12
Speaker
And I hadn't been on a trip with them in a long time. So I'd forgotten. ah thought, oh, magical. We're going skiing. and We're going to play in the snow. And it was still... Hard. Even with one kid. Maybe that's where like my Delulu came in. it was I only have one.
00:28:26
Speaker
How hard is one? be fine. One is like zero. One is zero. No, it's not. Especially like when he is with his bestie and they are like two Tasmanian devils together. It was like we had 50 kids.
00:28:40
Speaker
Yeah. I also don't know if you feel this way. Like Alice and Evie are very different beings. Having Alice by herself is still like having two kids. Having Evie by herself is like having zero.
00:28:53
Speaker
It's hit or miss. Like if I can put green in front of the TV, it's like I literally like no one else is in the house but me. But you can't do that all day. and so I just had an epiphany.
00:29:04
Speaker
What? Because we have felt like Alice has been hard the past two weeks. But I realized we don't have a TV. Oh. That's it. Yeah. You don't have, you haven't done any screen time.
00:29:15
Speaker
That's why it's felt hard. Wow. Parenting a lot. Your, your third babysitter is not there. ah Yeah. Wow. Okay. i don I don't know why that never crossed my mind. All right. Got to go book a task. Grab it. Come hang our TV.
00:29:29
Speaker
Hurry. Put it on the floor. That's what we did forever. We, for like a month, we had it on the floor. I didn't care. Um, but, uh, we skiing went well. Like,
00:29:40
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He like didn't complain. He all he said was it was a little, a little scary, little scary. And if he fell, the instructor picked him back up. um Instructor said that like whenever he would pizza, his legs would go like really far apart. And he's like, at this age, they don't really have the muscles to like pull their legs back together.
00:30:01
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so it was like a great was in a full split. I wish I could have freaking seen it, but we were taking advantage of the ah lessons and we were skiing. So um we did that in the mornings, like the first morning we skied and then we like spent the afternoon with them and got a babysitter that night, which was really fun.
00:30:23
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um and the babysitter service was great. Like so clutch. I always have like, I'm anxious to get one when I go places. I'm like, I don't want to deal and plan it. And and then you're so glad you do it it's like wow I needed the break and we had adult time and had like the nicest dinner we had amazing food in Breckenridge like everything was so good and affordable um wow yeah I mean not on the mountain you know yeah yeah but everywhere else it was affordable and then um we had a full ski morning and then got a babysitter from like 12 to 4 the next day so we skied all day which I have not done that in years like before before
00:31:03
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I was worn the fuck out at the end of the day. but Oh, my God. I was so tired. But your girl still got it. It's like riding a bike every time. And who like, do you go all the way to Black Diamond?
00:31:17
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um We didn't this time. We did in Tahoe. We did two or three. But I was like, I'm 34. I don't need to show out. Like doing some black diamonds. And ah was like, I'm good with blue. And um so that's all we did. But they had so many blue trails. It was fun. Like we did a different one every time, basically. Oh, nice.
00:31:39
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Yeah. And your knees survived. My knees survived. gold star to your knees. mean, I was, I was caution, Kathy. I was not whipping down this hill the way I would have snapped my body. My friends that came, it was like their first time skiing and they did really, really good.
00:32:00
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I was shocked. They took to it. Did they take a lesson? They took a lesson the first day and they did greens like the rest of the day. And then on Saturday they went down to blue and But it was the only blue. but um But they did so well. I was like, damn, y'all are pretty good. I think it was a really good mountain to like learn on. You would have loved it. They had ah shit ton of greens.
00:32:28
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No, we'll definitely ski again. i think we'll probably... We're obviously not skiing this year, i don't think. I think we'll go back to Lake Tahoe to ski the following year, and we will do the whole ski school thing for the girls. and Well, you know it was 2022 when we went.
00:32:46
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It was like... I know. It was kind of a long time ago, i but it fell into 2023, so I always like considered it just being two years ago, and I was like...
Managing Sibling Fights
00:32:55
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I was in 2022 last time I skied and I don't know. It was it was good overall. But like I said, it was still so busy. um I was overstimulated lot.
00:33:09
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Just. Oh, my God. Did and Graydon was good with the shoes and all the gear. He didn't complain about that at all. Wow, that's amazing.
00:33:20
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Yeah, that like was the least of our worries, to be honest. you What was his, what was his like gripe? Did he have any gripes with anything?
00:33:31
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i feel like him and his buddy just fight like brothers. And so they were just, oh my God, hot one minute, cold the next. And it was just like, oh my God, like the emotion. The fucking elevator pushing the buttons. I wanted to like,
00:33:48
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hit myself in the head with a ski because they fought over the buttons. I was like, we're done with the buttons. We're done. Holy shit. Who cares? Who lights up the fucking elevator?
00:34:00
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It's just like, oh my god that is funny. just, you know, little things like that that they were fighting over. I'm like, okay, can we not? Holy crap.
00:34:11
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But we like did this thing where we got them both the same like toys to bring ah and which was a great idea. FYI. Oh because then you know, don't have to fight anything. And they find it was same colors, same so stuff. And we kind of sprinkled it throughout the trip. Like we did one like at the airport. We got one when they got there. They got pajamas that night. Like it was really a cute idea. And they loved it. So If anyone ever needs like advice on that, if you do have siblings that kind of fight, um I highly recommend same colors and everything because that worked really well.
00:34:48
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There's okay. Okay. Y'all can't fight about that. Yeah. That's a good hot tip right there. Yeah. So that worked out well, but um yeah, I'm glad to be back and it's like 70 degrees here. it is so nice. I was like, so nice to come back to.
00:35:04
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Yeah, that is nice. Alice has been... oh this is kind of a good, like, update. So, obviously, Alice's birthday is coming up. Yes. And we are going to throw her a birthday party here at the house and, like, kind of it be our first, like, you know...
00:35:21
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Yeah. shindig here in this new home and she had always said she wanted like a princess party so that's like what i've been planning on i'm like okay we're going to do like a true princess party but she pivoted hardcore into frozen and only frozen And she keeps saying like she actually went a whole day recently where she would only answer to Elsa.
00:35:45
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She only wanted to call Elsa. And then if I called Evie, Evie, she would say, that's not Evie. It's Anna. Well, that's cute. Like she's Elsa and she's Anna, which like is cute, but she's very into Frozen and therefore into snow. And she keeps saying, Mom, I want to go to the snow soon. I want to go to the snow. oh i And I'm like, okay. Yeah.
00:36:07
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Well, that's funny because now that we're back from the snow, Graydon has hardcore pivoted to beach. He's like, I want beach. And I'm like, the how do you remember what that is? First of all, um like, well, we're going to Key West in March. So which there ain't no beach there, honey, but there's a pina colada with mama's name on it. okay Yes, it is. Oh, is he going with you to Key West, too?
00:36:31
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Both are. oh I vowed after the ski trip I said I'm never going on vacation with my kids again but Here we are month later.
00:36:43
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god God love him. he he is He is sweet. He's just a busy boy. um Yeah. yeah but yeah We're going My parents have rented a house and this is going to be like my first time bringing kids to this wild and crazy atmosphere. I'm like, I don't know how to function there with children. like ah How does this work? so her We'll see.
00:37:09
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That'll be exciting. And that's soon too. March? March when? It's literally in a month. Okay. Yeah. Exciting. Yeah. so Well, yeah, we, so anyways, we're throwing, i'm I haven't like planned anything for her party yet.
00:37:27
Speaker
So I'm going to pivot it for it to be like frozen, true frozen theme and do like icy colors, you know? Are you going to get them dresses? Yeah. Yes. Cute. Technically she already has one, but going to see if there's like a fancier one maybe. And then also kind of like a casual one that goes with the theme still because I can tell you right now she's not going to stay in that scratchy yeah dress all day.
00:37:53
Speaker
Yeah. Our Target has good ones like ah the princess section. Okay. have to see that. I'll have to check out Target. And then we're going to get a bounce house, which is what she wants.
00:38:05
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Mm-hmm. So yeah, um I'm excited about that. feel like I had something else to... oh I was going to also give a tiny update about the service that I booked this week that is hitting my life. Well, people don't know what's happening at your house. know.
00:38:25
Speaker
I haven't even shared that because I just don't even want to go down that rabbit hole, but I'll just
Discovering Laundry Services
00:38:29
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give y'all... We're having ah ah plumbing issue in our new home. like What are the fucking odds? But it's fine. We're we're getting it fixed.
00:38:37
Speaker
It's fine. But our washer is currently not able to be used. So... But rainbows and like butterflies. Yeah. I don't even care. Like we're in our own space.
00:38:49
Speaker
I'm sitting at my office desk right now. Like I got focus on the good. Okay. And one of the goods of and our washer not working is we just decided to hire a laundry service that comes and picks up the laundry from your house, takes it, washes it and delivers it perfectly clean and folded 24 hours. Yeah.
00:39:12
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And I'm not kidding, y'all. Like, why the fuck have I never done this before? That just reminded me. You know that Kanye West video? ah Oh, yeah.
00:39:22
Speaker
What the fuck she know about cameras? I'm telling you. Like, I know that our washer is going to be fixed in probably like two weeks. But that's still a long time.
00:39:35
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I feel like in seasons of life where life is crazy, I may be leaning on this laundry service. That's all I'm going to say. Like, it's worth the money to me.
00:39:46
Speaker
You found the good in this situation. Like, that's nice and convenient. It's like, it's when things are really inconvenient. Like, if you had to go sit at a laundromat and make sure no one stole your panties, you know?
00:39:58
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so Yeah, i I do have to be honest. I am a little like, huh.
00:40:06
Speaker
but So they just out have my panties. Ew. That is crazy. That's fine. It's fine. It's fine. Okay. I was going to say, when I lived in New York, this is what I did. Like, I literally dropped my laundry off. They washed it, fold it, and I would pick it up and bring it back to my apartment. Like, that's...
00:40:23
Speaker
It was also so cheap. It was so cheap. It was like literally 25 cents a pound. It was so wild. Whoa. Whenever I've only done it like at work stuff, like where I would say I had IISM, our international sales and marketing meeting went straight into like the international builder show. Like, and I was gone for two weeks. I would have to send my laundry to like,
00:40:45
Speaker
the hotel and they would clean it which was fire i mean it was so nice to have i am kind of like are they gonna keep track of everything does it gonna get mixed up with someone else's i think but i guess they do it's supposed to be i mean you have you seen those videos of all the towels that like fly down that chute holy shit what are you talking about?
00:41:08
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Like in a hotel? Yeah, and it's like they open this thing and like towels like fly out there and it piles up like Candace like a Mountain. Like Candace the Mountain.
00:41:24
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yeah candace mountain mountain mountain um wow okay i'll need to look that up i don't i've never seen a video of the towel well once again i'm getting tired of referencing things and you not Whitney, I don't have a lot of time to go on TikTok these days. i have too much. That's just like my brain dump at the end of the day, so I apologize.
00:41:49
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I did go on TikTok recently, actually, and I was like, okay, I'm going to go on TikTok and scroll for a little bit. The second video was this sad ass video of this girl saying goodbye to her dog that she was putting down.
00:42:03
Speaker
And I bawled my eyes out and went to bed. i was like, bye. um I'd also now I just remembered I have to make a public service announcement that I was wrong when I bought that Love Shack fancy dupe from HomeGoods. It is a TJ Maxx HomeGoods and I already apologized to Candace. So I just want to make that announcement.
00:42:24
Speaker
Yes, it I knew it. I'm like, I've literally never seen HomeGoods with the clothes in it. I drove by yesterday. I said, huh, she was correct. Yeah. I was correct. at That is something like, I'm struggling so hard.
00:42:40
Speaker
Again, this is my last thing going vent about. and then I swear to God, I'll shut the fuck up. But being a mom, one of the hardest things is like, if you do have free time, like if you have a whole day, like I have now designated Thursdays as like, I don't have any calls. I don't have any meetings. Thursdays are my days of like, I just get to have a free day.
00:43:02
Speaker
And of course I still have to work, but I'm not going to like have any... yeah And so last Thursday I had that day and I was like, oh my God, I have so much to do. And I have so much to do around here. Like, do I organize the drawers in the kids' room? Do I go and get my nails done? Because I have literally two nails left hanging on.
00:43:20
Speaker
Do i go to HomeGoods and look for nicks and nacks and bobs that I need? And I just feel like I get paralyzed by all that I need to do. And that to the point where I end up doing nothing. You don't anything?
00:43:35
Speaker
Yes. Oh my God. I feel that so hard. I feel that so hard. Like I've had a box that I've been needing to send you for two weeks, but I've been kind of waiting for you to move into your
Utilizing Mom's Free Time Effectively
00:43:45
Speaker
new house. And I see it sitting there. I'm like, I could do that today.
00:43:49
Speaker
have a bunch of Amazon returns. i need to do that today. I hate going to the post office here. It's not convenient. Oh, I don't go to the post office. I returned them at UPS store. Well, this has to be shipped to you. so i have to go to the post office.
00:44:03
Speaker
It's just some clothes for Evie. Oh, Evie girl. Yeah. And I'm like, I have to hurry and give them to her. She's already. She's a big one.
00:44:16
Speaker
So I got to hurry. I mean that in the most loving way. She's perfect. Chunky angel. I love her. o I told you this, this call was going to change my day. I was, I was down and the i was down in the dumpsicles and now I'm, it always makes me feel better.
00:44:33
Speaker
it like every time I get done with it, I have like, I'm a ball of energy every time. I like love it to start my day because I'm like, I'm going conquer the freaking world now. For real.
00:44:45
Speaker
But I still want to nap. No, you should. I mean, when you can. I mean, i have a three o'clock call, but I have kind of open between, well, I need to post a mom group chat clip. That's what I'm going to first.
00:44:57
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But then I have like from 1.30 to...
00:45:01
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to three there you go all you need is 20 minutes candace you got this i also keep frantically checking my email because i saw that my photographer was working on our edits in her instagram story she posted like a picture of alice as like in her instagram story and i was like i want the pictures oh i know i'm excited to see them i have photos for margo next week the Oh my gosh. Wow.
00:45:33
Speaker
Her hair's so long. I know. She's Rapunzel, literally.
00:45:39
Speaker
She needs a haircut. I need to take the girl and get a haircut. I also need to tell y'all that a chop is in my future. As soon as I drop like 25 pounds, it's I am chopping.
00:45:50
Speaker
I'm going back to the Bob life. Let's like post a picture of a groundhog with a Bob. hey Yeah, that's me. In like, like by June, I'm going to be down 25 pounds and have a Bob.
00:46:03
Speaker
You look so good either way. yeah i mean, Candace is like, oh my I'm so good with short hair. It's insane. i will never forget. always If people haven't seen me with short hair and they see, because i I like this, I'm not saying this to sound like I have great hair, but I do have good hair.
00:46:23
Speaker
And so when they see my long hair, they're like, no, no. I'm like, you haven't seen me with the short hair. I'll never forget. It's like whenever I lived in... First moved to Nashville and I had random roommates and someone like saw on my Instagram that i was friends with you and like clicked on your Instagram.
00:46:40
Speaker
They're like, who's this? I was like, that's my best friend. And they're like, she's fucking cool. And it was when you had the bob like in that... Actually, and I remember the picture and you had black overalls on with like a white t-shirt with your hair really short.
00:46:54
Speaker
And I was like, I know, she lives in New York. And that was like... ah Now I'm just a basic Tampa bitch. No, you're not. With long It's okay. I'm coming back to- I'm umm a groundhog mountain.
00:47:10
Speaker
She's groundhog mountain. Groundhog mountain. ah Let's not make a mountain out of a molehill, baby. You got this. I'm just trying to get back down to a molehill. I'm trying to be a mountain that's downgrading to a molehill.
00:47:26
Speaker
I'm dying. All right. Well, I love you guys. This was so fun. I love these ketchup episodes. um Me too. Made my whole day. Made my whole week.
00:47:38
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um I love you guys. We'll see you next week. Bye. Bye. Thank you so much for being a part of our mom group chat. New episodes drop every Tuesday. And don't forget, the group chat is blowing up on our Instagram page. So make sure you're following along over there.
00:47:54
Speaker
All right. Got to go. My toddler just put something in her mouth.