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In this episode of the Uncommon Wealth podcast, hosts Philip Ramsey and Arron Cramer discuss the power of a simple text message that says "Do you have eight minutes?" They explore how just eight minutes of conversation with someone can completely change your mindset and help you move from a negative state to a more positive outlook. They also emphasize the importance of having people in your life who are willing to listen and support you during difficult times.
This episode offers a simple step to reach out to others and create meaningful connections.
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Introduction to the Uncommon Wealth Podcast
00:00:00
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Everyone dreams of living an uncommon life, and the best asset you have to achieve your dreams is you. Welcome to the Uncommon Wealth Podcast. We're going to introduce you the people who are living uncommonly. We're also going to give you some tools and strategies for building wealth and for pursuing an uncommon path that is uniquely right for you.
Meet Your Hosts: Philip Ramsey and Aaron Kramer
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Hello and welcome everybody to another episode of the Un-Common Wealth Podcast, where I'm your host, Philip Ramsey. And I'm Aaron Kramer. Coming at you with a simple step. Aaron has no idea what we're doing. No idea. We just hit record. Hit me here. Here we go.
Can 8 Minutes Change Your Mindset?
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All right. So I saw this video. Simon Sinek, I really like his content.
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I just like the way that he thinks the way that he produces stuff but in this video it was so interesting he said he read a study the study i don't know where was that so i'm just gonna reference the study that simon civic just reference he says that it only takes eight minutes in front of somebody to change your mindset completely to the other side so if you're in a bad state,
00:01:03
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You're like a depressed mood or like you're in a dark place. It only takes eight minutes in front of somebody in order to change your mindset to be like, you know, maybe I'm not as bad. So he says that his code word for everybody that he knows on his team is a text that says this. Hey, do you have eight minutes?
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which basically says like I'm in a bad place right and first he didn't really expand on that but I do think that it's a powerful thing of like who are your people that you can text and say hey do you have eight minutes because that all it takes is a conversation in front of somebody takes only eight minutes in order to change wherever state you're in to a more positive outlook.
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And I thought, that's super good. Because it's not always easy to say, hey, I'm in a bad place. Like that, okay.
Reaching Out for Support: The 8-Minute Signal
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But if somebody texted me and says, hey, do you have eight minutes? I'll know. So like, let this be like a public service announcement. I think I have a lot of people that could be texting me, hey, do you have eight minutes? I feel like I could be texting some people, hey, do you have eight minutes sometimes? But I wanted to say this, and poor Aaron, you don't get to talk too much, but here we go. There was one point last year was a fairly heavy year for Philip.
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and I think uncommon wealth partners. But I remember having one specific day that I texted the whole team and I said to the team, do you remember this, Aaron? I'm in a bad place. I keep staring off into space and I'm sitting on the couch and I can't get up.
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And I was in a dark place. And I remember what Aaron said to me that totally changed my mindset. And he wasn't saying like, no, Phillip, we need you. Like you can't go down. No, he didn't say that at all. I feel like God used him to say, no, Phillip, sit there for as long as you want. We'll take it from here. And about five minutes goes by and I was like, huh?
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I think I'm in a better place. Because there was nobody relying on me. And Aaron was like, yep, the team and I will take care of it. You have all the authority to sit there wherever you're at. And that was like my kind of sense before I even knew like, hey, does anybody have eight minutes? I could even text that. But I wanted to at least put this as a simple step to make sure that you have those people, not only in your life to say, hey, do you have eight minutes, but you have other people that you're communicating if you ever need eight minutes of my time.
00:03:16
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I'm totally open and I'll stop everything for it. That's my simple step. Talk to me, man.
Managing Emotions: The Art of Short Venting
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Just to touch on that, because the funnest thing that I love, I guess the best thing about the eight minutes thing that really hit me is if you stick to the eight minutes, eight to 10 minutes ago timeframe,
00:03:41
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It is truly just venting. You need time to vent. Now, if it turns into an hour conversation, now you're doing harm. You're getting all yourself all wound up.
00:03:55
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Um, that's good. So keep it tight in my experience. I'm just thinking about like, you and I have had conversations before. We're like, yeah, it was short, like 10 minutes. You know, like, Oh, I got it off my back. You know, I've called you like, Hey man, I need someone to talk. Cause you're really great to talk to. Like, I mean, I'm saying this on air. She'll never hear. We're like, I'm married. We have like every marriage has like issues. Sometimes you just need time to vent. Like, yeah.
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You're so good at like, I can vent about my wife and there's no love taken away from my wife for you. Like, no judgment. Like you love her just as much before or after. So it's like, which some friends can't do that. They end up taking your side and then they're like, they start looking bad upon the person. They're like, you don't do that. So it's one of your superpowers. And then it's like, um,
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And so I'm like, Oh, but that's, I walk away feeling great. Now there's other times about other subjects that me and you both are heated about next week. I feel like my blood pressure has grown up through this. This was not venting. This was like.
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This was complaining. Yeah. So I think there's something to be said about that. But if you ever get a text from somebody, Hey, do you
The Power of Impactful Listening
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have eight minutes? You'll know that this is kind of like a beacon or a flare to help. I need help. And then I would also say, don't worry about what you need to say. Just call, make the phone call. And my last story and we're like bumping up to five minutes. So here we go. It's a little longer.
00:05:17
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Simple step but I had a buddy call me and he was in the throes of it and all he did was cry like all he was doing was crying and like I didn't say anything and I remember praying like Lord I don't know what to say here and I didn't have any prompting to say anything.
00:05:31
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And then later, about a year later, he was like, you wanna know what the most impactful moment was when I was in the darkest moment? And I was like, I have no idea, tell me. He was like, when you just listened to me cry for, it probably had been 10 minutes, I don't know. And at the end of that, I just said, hey, I'm sorry, man. That's kind of the only thing I said. And he was like, it was so impactful that all you said was sorry.
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constitute that to the Holy Spirit, saying, "'Cause Philip likes to talk, let's be honest." But I didn't feel like I should have talked. And at the end of the day, I have confidence in jumping into those situations that somebody who texts us, hey, you have eight minutes, because I know that sometimes you don't need to talk, and that could be the most powerful thing. So there's my simple step.
Men and Emotional Sharing: A New Strength
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I gotta say this, if that friend is listening to this podcast, and for you, for both of you to handle that situation like you did, there ain't nothing more masculine than that.
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Because you know how many guys would have been scared away? I'm one of them. I'm like, Phillip, I ain't ever calling you and crying. I don't cry. It's an issue. And if I am, I'm doing it by myself with my dog. Yeah. So the fact that you listened to him, accepted it, and the fact that he felt comfortable to do that with another guy like that, Super Masculine, whoever you are out there, good job.
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It's good.
Explore More at Uncommonwealth.com
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All right. Well, you've been listening to the Uncommon Wealth Podcast. There's your simple step. You got eight minutes. We'll be here for you. Yeah. Thanks for listening. That's all for this episode brought to you by Uncommon Wealth Partners. Be sure to visit uncommonwealth.com to learn more about our services. Don't miss an episode as we introduce you to inspiring people who are actively pursuing an uncommon life.