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12. Why Do Men Bottle Up Emotions - Not Giving A Fu*k For A Happier Life - With William Tithecott
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Just a couple of boys being vulnerable and sharing some good insight on men bottling up emotions and how it can play a huge factor on your daily life!
I really enjoyed this conversation because it hits home for me, enjoy!
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Transcript
Introduction and Guest Introduction
00:00:00
Speaker
Welcome back to another episode of Unlocking It with Adam Pike and this podcast is sponsored by Microcybin. This is a company that is fantastic. If you're looking to level up your life, go to Microcybin. So I have a guest on today and his name is William Teithcott. Did I say that right? Did I say that right? You got it, bud. How's it going, my man? Going great. Really good, bud.
00:00:27
Speaker
So yeah, me and Will kind of connected over, for those of you listening, we connected over social media and whatnot, and he posted a video the other day just talking about a topic, and I watched that video three times, man, because it's such a huge thing that's happening in the world, right? But before we jump into that, just tell us a little bit about yourself.
00:00:49
Speaker
Okay.
Will's Background and Passion
00:00:50
Speaker
Uh, I am a personal trainer. I have been a trainer for well over 15 years. Nice. Uh, it's obviously my passion. I love what I do. Uh, health of fitness has just been a major part of my life. Uh, even balance. So I like to go and have fun every once in a while, but you know, accordingly. Yeah.
00:01:11
Speaker
Those are the very, very important things. You can't just be like straight and narrow all the way through, I find. Some people can. It's not for me. I like to have a little fun once in a while, but yeah. Training has been my passion. It's what I do. It's what I love. I love to help people as best I can. And hell, it's created a great living for me. And maybe because of it, who I am today because of it. And you're an Edmonton boy, right? I'm an Edmonton boy, yeah. Born and raised?
00:01:37
Speaker
Basically, I was raised in a small town outside of Edmonton, about a half hour from here, south of it. Okay. What's it called? Kalmar. No, we know it. I did spend a lot of time up that way when I was in the oil fields and whatnot, so maybe I drove past it. Who fucking knows? I don't miss the cold. I don't miss that negative 50 temperatures. I don't know if it's been that cold up there this year, but what's it like right now?
00:02:06
Speaker
Actually, it's not too bad. I think it's like minus 10 or 15 or something today. That's not bad. It's not too bad. Honestly, we've had a pretty mild winter, minus December. It was pretty fucking cold in December for a bit there, but in January, we've been lucky. I'm pretty lucky. I'm waiting to get it still. I'm sure it's coming.
Cold Plunging and Personal Growth
00:02:25
Speaker
You're starting off the cold plunging. Oh, buddy. I love it.
00:02:29
Speaker
How's that? Oh, it's great. Like five days in now, uh, compared to cold showers, cold showers was like, you know, you did that for years and it was great. Different elements, a different demon. I think like it's a good way to get yourself into it, the cold showers, but the plan, man, phenomenal. Like I look forward to it right now. I'm sure by day 20, I won't be looking forward to it as much as I am right now.
00:02:51
Speaker
But at this point, it's great. And adding the breathing techniques, you recommended the Wim Hof. Yeah. How was that? Honestly, phenomenal. Today, I was able to get to like, almost nine minutes. Shocking me. But, man, I don't know what my temperature is. I'm getting a thermometer. It's coming tomorrow because I got every day. All my boys are like, well, how warm is it? It looks like it's a little warm. There's no ice in there. Dude, it's in the garage. It's the temperature of outside. It's pretty fucking cold. Like, my head.
00:03:21
Speaker
pins and needles at like two minutes right yeah when i first started um it wasn't like super cold and i remember one time i was in there for like 16 minutes but i know it definitely wasn't super cold but like i showed you last night like it's fucking filled with ice bro and like i i was in for like just under two minutes today and i was like fuck i gotta get out like it's it's that's another
00:03:50
Speaker
It's supposed to get a little colder next few days. I'm sure it's going to be a lot colder coming up, but I can't imagine breaking ice on that. Maybe in a month from now, I might venture out to that level. That's pretty good. It's hard to say if I'm really noticing massive benefits from it.
00:04:11
Speaker
You know what I mean? Like I'm I'm doing it. And I know it's like it takes a lot of discipline to fucking go out there and like get in that thing because I fucking hate doing it. But like, am I really noticing big benefits? I don't know. Like.
00:04:27
Speaker
The only thing I noticed is I just feel great when I'm done. I come out, energized, I'm thinking clear, ready to rock, and there's no sludge in the morning like I used to. That in itself, it's like a great catalyst to get the day rolling for me at this point. Yeah, so you're doing a first thing in the mornings, eh? I do the first thing, I go, I'll do my cardio, 15, 20 minutes, get the sweat, I'm just going to get sweat, and then I go right into the cold plunge after that.
00:04:53
Speaker
Yeah, that's something that I that's something that I kind of shied away from is doing it in the mornings I've been kind of doing it like late at night It's almost like I just I'm starting to hate because I'm 27 days straight now and I'm like man. I don't want to fucking do this today Night time it's almost like it's the reverse effects. It doesn't energize you wake you up right before bed. I
00:05:16
Speaker
Not really man, I've been taking these CBD gummies. I'm not a big weed smoker, are you?
00:05:25
Speaker
I do smoke weed. I'm not huge. I'm like a puff or two before bed. Yeah. Like I don't, I like never ever smoke weed. And like I'd say last two weeks I've been taking these weed gummies and it knocks me the fuck out. Like, I mean, I could sleep for 10 hours and not wake up. So that definitely helps. Absolutely. Yeah. That definitely helps for sure. For sure.
Emotional Openness in Men
00:05:48
Speaker
So yeah, let's just talk about that video that you posted about men not opening up. I'll let you take the role if you want to just jump in there.
00:06:01
Speaker
I just find definitely, obviously, it's a big thing going on right now. We're seeing it everywhere on social media. Everyone's saying, you know, men need to open up more. We need to be more emotional, which I get it. We do. And I think it's a big thing. We do need to start, you know, evoking this.
00:06:19
Speaker
It's almost like a double-edged sword at the same time I find because the pain who you open up to and when you do it, we do get hit with backlash or some shame, right? So I think you got to be careful who we open up to, but it is a big thing. We need to start doing it because the more we push these emotions down, don't talk to anybody about this stuff.
00:06:39
Speaker
something that you deeply trust, admire, you care to that they maybe are going through the same thing or there is something that can truly listen. We don't do that. We bottle them up and just push them down and just keep forgetting. And I find instead of dealing with that pain, it just kind of sits there and then you, it does start building. And I know I've been a victim of it every once in a while. I'm showing a lot of friends that are people I know you gravitate to other things to distract yourself.
00:07:04
Speaker
instead of talking about it. And there's many different distractions, many different things we do. A big important, not important one. So a big one people do is, you know, party. And you go and get that dopamine dump, whatever you need to do, go get ripped up and
00:07:18
Speaker
When you do that, you bottle that shit up, you forget about it, and then the weekend's over. Usually you're hungover, you're depressed. Your serotonin's down nice and low because you've been ripping it up so hard for all weekend. And it usually takes like Wednesday or Thursday mentally before you're actually fully there. Physically you're probably fine by Monday, but mentally it's not there. And then all those things you internalize through all those three days. Why the fuck did I do this? All the same shit, I find. We all move the corner ahead and then
00:07:48
Speaker
the weekend comes again, right? And dealing with it, it's much easier just to go out, grab some beers, the boys, wherever it may be, hit a party up, go grab a bag of blow, whatever it is that these guys do. I've done in the past, I've done it myself, right? And you just get to a point where like,
00:08:06
Speaker
I'm fucking sick of my own bullshit, and if I don't do anything, I'm gonna rip my own self apart. I'm turning fucking 40 this year, right? Are you? Yeah, I turned 40 this year. Wow, you look great. I didn't expect that at all. I thought you were my age. No, yeah. I think that to fitness. Definitely fitness has been
00:08:28
Speaker
the best anti-aging thing there you go people there you go get at it you can still do fitness and party a little bit and still keep it young but you gotta stay in the gym lifting those fucking weights i tell you yeah what what kind of stuck with me uh in that video is like when you're getting around the boys or if you're going to work and you like if you if you say something they're gonna chirp you right and it's like me working in oil fields and like around all these
00:08:56
Speaker
Older men, right? Like they're always quick to say ah, shut the fuck up get back to work. Yep. You pussy. You know what I mean? and You it's it's it's like that a lot everywhere. So like I feel like men growing up I don't know how it is nowadays but like when I was younger, right you didn't want to cry because you wanted to Be like your dad and like not not cry. You know what I mean? So um
00:09:21
Speaker
Yeah, it's that kind of stuck with me a lot cuz I I don't know if it's just a Newfoundland thing because I've worked Jobs home here and it's maybe it's just that generation, right? But like it's just they don't there's no emotions and they're like if you are a little bit sensitive or whatever They either don't like you or the talking shit about you like, you know what I mean?
00:09:43
Speaker
Yeah, absolutely. They've learned to internalize things very well. I think a lot of the like say with my old man, uh, the same generation, the only new how to express was anger. And when you're upset, right? And I'm like, he would blow up.
00:09:58
Speaker
But then, you know, like a couple hours later, they'd feel bad about it, come apologize, you know, which is nice, not all the time, but yeah, that's just that generation. They just, you can't, you can't express it, just go do it, do your job, you're a man, take care, take care of the family, don't think of anything else outside of that, fucking do your job. Like, man, for years and years of suppression, like you see it like in certain guys and they're like just miserable, talk themselves are negative all the time. It's so bad. Yeah, it's,
00:10:26
Speaker
It's yikes. Yeah. Um, and like, yeah, you're saying when you do mention to certain people, they chirp you or something or even I find it's like, who hurt you? They say like, you know, you're emotionally unstable. Who hurts? What? Like, why does me express myself? I mean, someone hurt me. I can't just say something like this. It makes me feel this way. I want to talk about it. It's not like me. It's just like, this is just how it is. It's just how I feel. I'm, it's okay. But when you get attacked like that, it makes you not want to say anything.
00:10:54
Speaker
Yeah, that's why I also feel it's it's good to talk about your feelings But I also feel you got to be careful in where you share don't just share it anywhere and everyone right? Yeah, I know friends and if you like to express it with their spouses their girlfriends Right, and then the girl comes up like you're too needy you're too emotional. I can't deal with this I don't want like
00:11:15
Speaker
So when a guy does that, it's hard for him to express it without getting that backlash. So how do you express it? When do you express it? Who do you do it to without all this shit coming at you? It's like, there's so many things. I'm like, do this, don't do that, but you do this, but make sure you don't do it this way. Like, fuck, man. It's a tough world out there for sure. And like, just listening to you say that when the guy opens up and the girl's like, oh, you're too needy, you're too this.
00:11:43
Speaker
I think if you're opening up to your girlfriend and she's saying that to you, I don't think she's the right girl. I'm going to be completely honest because communication is super fucking important and I find that a lot of relationships probably fail nowadays because people are not communicating and maybe the men are not opening up like they want to open up and they just kind of
00:12:08
Speaker
Just be like, fuck it, I'm done. Moving on, just on to the next girl, you know what I mean? But that don't fucking solve anything. You're just gonna be back to the same bullshit with another girl.
Relationships and Communication
00:12:18
Speaker
And it's just a fucking cycle and a cycle and a cycle and it never fucking ends. Right? Do you have a girl right now? Is there a lady? Yeah, not right now, no. He's single, girls. Your DMs is gonna be brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
00:12:36
Speaker
I'm just kidding Ron. I'm just kidding. More recently single within the last couple months, yes.
00:12:43
Speaker
Oh, okay. Yeah. I'm, uh, I'm like, I've been in with, I've been with Rebecca now like six months, six months. Things are pretty good. Things are pretty good. There's like not one bad thing to say about it. It's smooth riding. She's chill. We communicate and that's, that's good. That's great. Yeah. Usually I don't like, I feel like it's like after three months, the whole dog phase and all that kind of stuff is where everyone usually starts to come up, who you really are, your path, anything you said you,
00:13:12
Speaker
maybe you didn't do is to start coming out now, right? And that's like that whole phase is over. Now you really got to communicate the way I actually enjoy being with this person on a regular basis. Can I actually see this person being my friend and opening up to and doing these things with them? Yeah. Like after that, once you start passing that point is, yeah, I think that's one thing that I fucking struggled with over the last 10 years is just going through that constant cycle. And it was just like girlfriend, girlfriend,
00:13:40
Speaker
Girlfriend i'm like what what the fuck is happening here like and but it was it all stand like to me like not communicating and not be open and always like pointing the finger is like their fault i'm never in the wrong with all them right it's only till now you know thirty years old and i'm like.
00:13:58
Speaker
Well, microcybin is really what kind of opened up my mind a little bit more about myself and things that I was dealing with and all these patterns and shit. So now I feel like that's why I'm more open with Rebecca. I'm like, hey, I know what I want. This is what I want. I'm communicating. If I feel a certain way, I open it up instead of bottling it up and not communicating. And then maybe later down the road, you're resenting her for something that's stupid. You know what I mean?
00:14:26
Speaker
Absolutely. Absolutely. It's a constant cycle, man. It's hard to break when you're stuck in that fucking cycle. Yeah, it is. And yeah, I can attest that. That Mike Forsythe would definitely help and break down those barriers for you to allow yourself just to just talk about it and like fucking step over that fear and just let it out, right? Yeah. That you think the girl thinks of you and you want to keep that image at all times as opposed to who you really are. And it's truly genuine or opposed to like,
00:14:53
Speaker
looking at certain things and gaslighting them, and like, that's your fault, duh, duh, duh. Instead of, you know, you're the common denominator, but if they gaslight them into it, it justifies why I'm feeling this way. And then you break it off. And then again, the same cyclic pattern, like you were talking about, you just keep repeating and repeating. And it's just a puppy dog phase in every single relationship. And then you almost kind of get addicted to that puppy dog feeling every time. And that's all you keep thinking, because then it gets tough all of a sudden, when you actually got to communicate and open up,
00:15:19
Speaker
You don't, and you're like, blah, blah, blah, make excuses, then break it off. And then you're like, oh, she was just like that. Oh, she was just like this. And then you go to your boys, and then you're talking shit about her, and she's talking shit about you, and it's all them, right? I used to do that, 100%. And my boys used to come to me, and I used to be like, oh, yeah, yeah. But now, if one of my boys comes up and starts talking shit about some girl I just woke up with, I'm like,
00:15:46
Speaker
Well, you were probably the reason too, right? And I'll like question them and what are you talking about? I'm like, dude, takes fucking two to tango, right? Absolutely. And I want to go back to what you said with like the partying and the drugs and like just going through that constant cycle, right? And I used to do that 100%. I was like a healthy guy during the week.
00:16:11
Speaker
Weekend would come, I'm fucking getting crazy, tearing it up. Monday would come, I'm fucking feeling like garbage. I'm still like working out during the weeks, but my workouts are now shitty because I'm hungover. I probably ate like shit the entire weekend, dehydrated, like all, that was just happening for fucking years. So that's probably why I'm not looking like you right now.
00:16:35
Speaker
I'm just kidding. I did my fair share around. I was the weekend warrior too many, many times. And you probably went hard too, eh? Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. You go to your 6 a.m. mornings, man. Yeah, I'm the type of guy that I'll stay home for a month, but that one night out, I am out. And I'm a fucking demon when I go out. I don't like New Year's resolutions, but one thing I want to be more
00:17:04
Speaker
Like, one thing I want to do more this year is just go out and have a couple beer and then go home at like a normal hour and just go to sleep. You know what I mean? It's the last time I went out with my boys. I had four drinks and I was home in this house before one o'clock. And Rebecca's like, holy shit, I didn't expect you to be home until five. I'm like, I know, it's crazy, right?
00:17:27
Speaker
and start liking being sober in the mornings and the weekends being actually productive for once instead of productive drinking productive actually the time you can actually do things versus your when you're through the week you're fucking to your nine to five or wherever is your your business wherever you're running and dealing with everything else weekend tends to be this time you can have yourself and if you're hung as shit from the party night before and then you order your skip the dishes all day long you're just eating shit watching movies wherever it is just to kind of spend the money and
00:17:56
Speaker
And in more money, yeah, I think you're right. In the Monday or Tuesday come, workout sucks if you even make it to the gym. And then you come home at the end of the day, you're still tired, so what do you do? You probably score a skip again, smoke some weed, maybe grab a beer, throw a TV on and just kind of ignore shit. So kind of, you lose like two or three days every fucking week because of this, I find. And you get nowhere. You get nowhere with your results, like nowhere. No, fuck.
00:18:19
Speaker
Drinking is the fucking devil, man. It really is. And it played a big factor on my life for a very long time. Yeah. I get it. Cause like when you start drinking, you get like a certain drink and all you get that itch. If you've been partying 200 weekend, you're like, should we call buddy? Should we call buddy every time? Right. So like it's, there's that point where it's like no return, maybe learn to have a couple and be okay. And then go away. And if you can't even do that, just don't be in that environment until long enough.
00:18:49
Speaker
to handle that environment and only have a couple and say no. That's so tough for a lot of guys because they have FOMO. They don't want to miss out. They go home. Yeah. Yeah. That was so much fun right now. You're not missing nothing. You're not missing anything. Like I was, this time last year I was going out, I'd say four times a week. I was single and it was just, I was constantly going out and I look at it now. I'm like, why in the fuck?
00:19:15
Speaker
Was I going out so much? I wasn't happy like I was not happy with myself So I was going out to like like you said get these temporary fixes But then when it would come like me home by myself on like a Tuesday night or something I'm like stuck in my head and Adam wasn't happy So like these guys that are constantly going out all the time and drinking and drinking and drink like what are you celebrating? Like what is there celebrate nothing?
00:19:39
Speaker
Yeah, you're living for the next weekend, living for the party. Some guys truly just love it so much. And so be it. If you love it that much, great. But now, my mind can't handle it because I find I just get in these highs and lows phases and I don't like that. That's the same thing. The lows are so low sometimes and it's just like...
00:20:03
Speaker
And it's like, okay, well, what are you going to do? It's like either learn to control those lows or just stop being a degenerate as much as you have been. Okay. Like, fuck again, I'm turning 40. Do I need to continue this crazy? No. Sure. Once in a while, like every few months, a good night out, let out. You need that. You got to let out. I understand. But when it comes to the point where it's every weekend or every other weekend,
00:20:26
Speaker
You're really not progressing. You're just waiting for the next party to come and like, Oh yeah, this is going to be a good one guys. So we can't wait boy. Ah, it's just, I'm over it myself. It's just enough's enough. I want to certain things in my life and I can't do that. I can't hit that next level. If I'm still implementing the same formula I've been doing my whole last 10, 15 years, I can't expect a different outcome. I got to implement a new formula and it needs to be changes. And that's.
00:20:53
Speaker
Myself, internally, opening up, talking, expressing things, doing things like this are so paramount, I think, right now. Again, that's why
Breaking Unhealthy Cycles
00:21:02
Speaker
I feel it's so important to do that, to express that, because even I've had my own friends speak out and tell me how much that was.
00:21:10
Speaker
It meant to him to hear that like, man, that resonates with me. That's I'm that guy. I didn't even think about that. And then that was me last weekend. And they're like, I guarantee you more friends, more guys relate to that than they will admit. They just don't want to say it because, again, the backlash, this thing from other friends and get off. Fuck, man. Come on. Like, we got to go out this weekend. We got this plans. And yeah, it's yeah, you know,
00:21:32
Speaker
You just get dragged into that shit like I got a lot of friends like they don't they don't open up even my dad like I know my dad has a lot on his mind but he will not open up to me will not there's been a couple times where like he was a little bit drunk and he opened up a little bit to me and I was like oh shit but like
00:21:51
Speaker
Yeah, like I'm not afraid man. I'm after fucking crying like multiple times last year and men do cry I'm gonna fuck what you say and if you don't cry you're just suppressing your emotions and you're acting like this big tough man for Like no one really gives a fuck if you're a big tough man. Yeah, you know what I mean? Like no one really cares and you need to open up and talk about your feelings and
00:22:17
Speaker
Yeah. If you're going through it, then fucking tell somebody like I've got, man, I had some really low, low times and I like, I tell, I tell my buddy about it. I'm like, dude, like I'm having these thoughts. Like I'm like, this is kind of bad, right? And he'll, he'll just, it'll call me right away. He's like, bro, give it up. Like, just think about this for a minute. Think about who you are. Think about how many people loves you. But the only person I find that can get you out of those low moments is you.
00:22:44
Speaker
is you that's it no matter what no matter like what buddy your friend your mom says anything everybody got advice right but it's only you that can dig yourself into that fucking hole and if you want to stay there you don't do shit in your day you're gonna stay there you're gonna keep being fucking depressed yeah absolutely it's uh i find
00:23:06
Speaker
Having sometimes a lot of guys don't have direction or purpose in life like something that's a passion to follow Yeah, well the mundane shit when it helps to have that direction to
00:23:18
Speaker
lead you for sure. You don't have that. It makes things way tougher to stay in that cyclic cycle of just partying and doing that same shit and not opening up. We're happy when we're creative. We're doing things. And if you're not being creative, you don't have something that makes you happy doing it on a regular basis. You got to go out and just try new things.
00:23:38
Speaker
If you're not sure what, I don't know what makes me happy. Well, you've never asked yourself and you've never actually going to try like whatever me go like rock climbing, go bowling, go paint a picture, go for a hike. I don't care. Do something. And then you don't like, you don't like it, but keep trying. You might be like, wow, this is actually very enjoyable. I can actually do this again. And I can complete this with something else now with a, wow, you know what? If you don't try again, you stay in that whole spot. And if you're not willing to fucking do it or stick with your own bullshit until you get to that point, doesn't matter what anyone says again, you can open up too.
00:24:08
Speaker
and just gonna end one ear out the other. Absolutely. You gotta have something to look forward to, man. Like even this podcast, like I was looking forward to doing this podcast, right? So it's, I was in a weird like little phase where I was like, I did, I think I did 10, 10 episodes myself and I was too scared to bring people on or maybe it was like six or seven. I don't know. But anyways, I was like telling myself I wanted to get people on, but I was too scared to do it. I was like nervous. But I'm just, that was just me in my own head, right? So like,
00:24:35
Speaker
all week long like normally I had two guys on before you normally I'd be like super super nervous I was kind of like talking to myself all week like man just fucking go in there and have a conversation there's nothing to be nervous about nothing to be nervous about you know what I mean it's just people getting their own heads and like yeah 100% you got to have something to look forward to but I look at you right like how great is this school right yeah sure
00:25:02
Speaker
I do this, you're my first podcast I've ever done, right? I got to read, read, I'm like, oh shit. Like, but yeah, I just said, fuck it. Just go with the flow and just have a combo. If it works out, you know, so can I ask what you did before training? Before
Career Journey and Financial Lessons
00:25:23
Speaker
training. Oh fuck. That was like a long time ago. I did a sales. Yeah. And, uh,
00:25:30
Speaker
labor work. I was a tin basher for a couple of years as well. So that was not a fun job. I hated that job. So what made you want to come over to training people training? Uh, well, I always loved fitness. I was working out when I was 16, 17. Yeah. And it was just something that I always enjoyed doing. And I didn't want to make, I thought about making money for it. Be a trainer. Let's just do it. But I didn't, I didn't have anyone around me to push me, motivate me, show me the direction to go in.
00:25:59
Speaker
It was all just on my own, so I kind of just floated through life in the first 30, my early 20s and just random jobs like sales and 10 bashing. And then I remember I got laid off in 10 bashing and I think it was a 2008 recession, I think it was. That was like the housing crash or something like that.
00:26:20
Speaker
Man, I had to go through bankruptcy. I was no money value. I was just spending money. I was making good money. Tim Bastian, cash job. I was just spending credit card. Didn't think anything. No clue. And then boom, laid off nothing. I was like, shit. I had to go through bankruptcy. Lost everything. It was like the shittiest time.
00:26:38
Speaker
Yeah, it was just brutal. And then living on like EI or welfare, well EI I think it was, and trying to figure out what the fuck do I do? And I had no clue. The only thing I had that I loved was working out. I had left over from the bankruptcy, at least my bench, my bench press, shoulder press, dumbbells, all that stuff in my house. So I thought I could at least work out. I have this. And I thought, fuck it, why don't I try to become a trainer? Let's just fucking do it, take a chance.
00:27:07
Speaker
I'm sick of fucking going job to job to job. So the problem was I was broke because I went through bankruptcy. I didn't have no money for a course, nothing like that, because that's how fucking hurt I was. So I was like, okay, well, there's only one thing I can do and I have worth value and that is my gym equipment. So I decided to sell the very thing that made me happy to pay for a course so I can get my personal training degree. Wow.
00:27:34
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It was a fucking very tough decision. I just said, fuck it. I did it. I got the money for the course, took it, and I've never turned back since then. And I've been rolling and killing it from that point on. Invest in yourself, people. That was a motivational fucking story, man. God damn. That was literally the point. It was just, yeah.
00:27:54
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I guess. Are you training in your house? Yeah, now I have a studio in my basement. Yeah, it looks sick, man, because I was looking at it there and I was like, that kind of looks like in his house. Yeah, yeah, I converted the whole basement over. It was COVID kind of made that... Yeah, yeah.
00:28:11
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As shitty as it was, it was a good thing for me to do that because it allowed me to keep my business going and I ended up thriving better than I was prior to COVID actually. I think because I have a service that no one else could offer because gyms are closed. Yeah. Yeah. Fuck yeah. That's great, man. That's great. That's a fucking great story. Yeah, I find
00:28:32
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man, talking about like working when we were younger. It's one thing that I wish I would have done. And what my dad told me was save money, Adam, save money. Cause when I was younger, I was making a lot of money and as fast as it was coming in, it was also going back out. And I, when you're, when you're young like that, like a young man making fucking thousands and thousands of thousands of dollars, you're just like
00:29:01
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Yeah, fuck man. Yeah, yeah, money's not an option. But now like now I find that, you know, I'm kind of like working on my own and stuff like that. I'm more just like
00:29:17
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I'm saving a lot more money now than when I was making, when I was working in the oil field and shit. I'm not supposed to be more smarter with my money. But I'm trying to save those wild nights for if my good buddy got a birthday or if I'm going on vacation. But I will not allow myself to go out on a random weekend for no fucking reason just to go out and get fucked up.
00:29:44
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So one thing that me and the girlfriend will do now is do some mushrooms together. We just have you have you tried like a larger dose of mushroom?
00:29:55
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Oh yeah, I've done my recreational. Okay, so you know what's up. Yeah, I've had some trips, man. Have you had any life changing experiences or like any thing that kind of comes to mind that you were like, you know what I mean? Yeah, I'd say one of the craziest things I had was in Thailand, I think.
00:30:21
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in our Koh Tao, I think it was. And it's like this little hut in the side of a mountain. They had mushroom shakes. And I remember going up there as well as a craziest vacation I've been on. That was right before COVID and doing mushrooms there. I think we did like two shakes. I mean, a couple of bodies each, which was probably not a smart idea. They recommend one, but we didn't feel anything.
00:30:44
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Another round, of course. And then, as soon as you start drinking the second one, I'm like, oh shit, that was the first wave of the first one. I don't think we should be drinking the second one, but why not? Let's just fucking go with it. And like, that trip was unbelievable. I just, I don't even know how to explain the things I see in my head. You could close your eyes. And like, obviously the kaleidoscope and stuff, it was almost like I was like, puzzled, was like shifting things around in my life and planning things out ahead.
00:31:14
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Although we all have different ideas for my plans. Obviously this COVID happened as soon as I came back and those ideas went, okay, that didn't happen. That wasn't going to work. Yeah. Yeah. Go ahead.
00:31:26
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There's lots of change and lots of adapting at that point, which obviously everyone endured. Yeah. Yeah. I can't say I've had a really big experience like that, but one thing that I noticed, like the more that I'm doing those larger doses, like before it was like me and my buddies would get together, we'd take mushrooms, we're just laughing, being fucking stupid. Like you're not really thinking anything about it. No.
00:31:50
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But now it's like when I take these these mushrooms, it's like I understand what's happening more. And it's almost like
00:31:59
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It's like I'm using it to like figure something out in my life, if that makes any sense.
Microcybin and Personal Insight
00:32:04
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But I've had a couple times now where I've literally sat by myself, high on mushrooms, like crying to myself. And then the next day, I'm like, I just appreciate life a lot more. Yeah, I imagine. Yeah, it's, it's fucking mushrooms are great. Not at all. The sense of ease the next day, it's just like, you unpack
00:32:26
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And there's no hangovers. There's no hangovers. That's it. There's no hang- exactly, which is fantastic. I think I'm learning when you set like an engine sometimes if you want to do like a reset, as you may call it, mushroom high.
00:32:39
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Yeah. Set an intention of what you're trying to accomplish and what you want to focus on. And then just really get into a meditative state, close your eyes and just experience the high like that and just kind of think and go with that. That might be hard for some people because generally what most of those mushrooms you pop them to have, get high, have visuals, laugh at your friends, go trip out on shit, go walk in mother nature. But I think set an intention maybe by yourself or with someone else that you trust, you care about and they can do the same thing.
00:33:05
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You probably have a pretty fucking amazing experience. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. So I was working with a company here and they said that I had to go back to Alberta to work, right?
00:33:20
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So I was like so confused on what to do. I didn't want to go back to Alberta, obviously, because I was doing that before, like camp job, fucking hated it. And I started like thinking in my head, like what I can be doing. I was like, okay, like I can try like the whole online fitness thing. But I was like, oh, I don't know if that's going to pay the bills. I was very fucking confused. Anyways, I remember I was like, Rebecca, I'm going to do mushrooms tonight because I need to figure some shit out.
00:33:48
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And so like with mushrooms, you kind of go through these phases and I find like towards the end of it, that's when my brain starts firing the most and you come coming up with all these ideas. And I sat down and broke it down. I'm like, do I really want to go back up to Alberta, staying in these little fucking camps like for three weeks at a time doing this shit work that I fucking hate doing. It's not it's not so bad, but like,
00:34:13
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I don't want to do that type of work. I don't want to do that type of work anymore. I will do it. If it comes to the point where I have to do it, I'll go do it. But I was like, you know what? I'm just going to go for it. And I just start fucking making it work. And then I started helping out microsibing. And then I started doing online fitness. And people start trusting me and coming in. I start up the podcast. And then fucking here we are. What is it? Five months later?
00:34:42
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I'm still going. I remember watching you from following me from a while back and seeing your progression. And I'm just like, I don't even know where I found your page. Who knows, man. Maybe someone posted a following. I remember seeing it. Yeah. And saw it. I've seen you progress and then you talk to the microcybin and that's when I reached out and I'm like, okay, let's, let's try this stuff.
00:35:07
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Yeah being a lot of breakthroughs and just watching your patterns and like seeing these things happen and then fuck it take a chance on yourself and just Fucking do it man because if you've been you know, you how long have you been doing the protocols now Microsoft? Well two months now two months Maybe a little bit over maybe two and a half at this point now Yeah, honestly like
00:35:30
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When I found the thing that we were doing, we were jumping on Zoom call with the boys and talking about the products and just really diving deep into the brain and how you can use microdosing. That's when I started being like, I started realizing a lot. I did it for six months with the protocols you were following. I did it every single day, man. Didn't miss a fucking day.
00:35:54
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and that's what i feel like kind of shifted my life right so it's definitely it's definitely not for everybody but i do strongly fucking believe that if you use these products correctly and you put your intention to where it needs to be and you don't stop being a fucking piece of shit out just drinking alcohol
00:36:17
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three nights a week and just focus on your health and fitness. That's when you're going to get the most benefits from microcybin, I think. I agree. It gives you an edge for sure. Limitless drug, I don't know. Yeah, that's meant. You need to try the macrocybin Jedi's.
00:36:39
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because that's the fucking limitless drug man I haven't I haven't had that since since the summer and I remember I like I would just take one and go on out and fucking on a hike or like a run or just go to gym man I just felt like the guy off fucking limitless that's like that's how I was feeling yeah mushrooms are fucking pretty great pretty great yeah
00:37:05
Speaker
They're taking over man. I love it. It's uh, I love these and those or like your lsd even like if i'm going out Maybe take a double dose Dude like right and like it's I have a great energy i'm still in control still in check It's not like i'm tripping balls or high I just have an exceedingly higher sense of well-being that just I feel great And I just like being around people exchanging energy
00:37:30
Speaker
Yeah, yeah, I there was this one party I went to this like normally if I go to a party I'm getting trashed right, but I took two of those Macro Jedi's and I must have had a hundred conversations with multiple different people and like I was like really engaged with the conversation right it was just it was just so easy to like talk to so many different people like
00:37:54
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There's there's no hangover like you're just you're very in a controlled state. You know what I mean? The thing about that like I don't know if you've ever tried micro dosing like on your own term like just kind of Taking a little bit of actual mushrooms. Like that's how I started and it was very inconsistent So one one day one day
00:38:19
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Me and this girl, we're going to go to this place here in Newfoundland, like you drive up and it's like there's all these whales and stuff that you can see just from the shoreline, right? So I take a little bit of like a tiny little micro dose, just like what I would normally take, but it was like actual mushrooms and go pick her up. Like she got a big lunch pack, like fucking had all these like made sandwiches herself and all this shit. And we start driving. I'm like, I don't feel good.
00:38:49
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I was like, I don't feel good. So I was like, I gotta turn around. So I literally like picked her up, dropped her off within five minutes and then went home. And dude, man, I had this fucked up experience. So.
00:39:03
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My reason for saying this is that's why I like Microsoft and because it's very controlled and you know what you're getting and it's very, very consistent. It's not like hit or miss like that. You know what I mean? Yeah, I've been there done that doing trying to like we have point ones or maybe try a little point one and a half or point two and you get a different batch. The batches aren't always the same. And I've done it when I was doing was training clients at the rec center and sometimes I took a little extra not thinking and it'd be okay. You get there and just like,
00:39:40
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Dude, the fuck that reminds me. I was at this bar of Christians, right? And there's these mushrooms here called Newfoundland mushrooms. Apparently, they're really, really potent. I didn't know this. So my buddy is like, oh, do you want some? I'm like, oh, yeah, sure. Just give me a little cap, like what I would normally take. But dude, I was sitting at the fucking bar. I had to call my friend to come pick me up because I could not look people in the faces. Their faces was not faces.
00:40:09
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Yeah, so just watch what you're taking when you're doing these awesome. Yeah Anyways, um get a question for you if you were to die Today right and you had one message that you wanted to leave to the world From you what you've learned over the years of whatever just you have one message that you can leave with the world and that's what people are gonna remember you by and
00:40:38
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What would you say?
Final Advice and Conclusion
00:40:39
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I know that's a lot, but like, I just want to say I've never done this before, but I was kind of thinking like, how can I like, how, what, what can I add towards the end of the podcast? I think. Yeah, yeah, fair enough. Uh, the only thing that comes to mind would be honest at stop giving a fuck what other people fucking think of anything. Great fucking answer. And at the end of the day,
00:41:05
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They're so more concerned about what they're doing than what you're doing anyway. So just go fucking do you. And if the ones that actually fucking matter will care, but the ones that don't, we all know it doesn't really matter. They don't know you. They don't know what you've been through. Just go do what makes you happy. And if they gotta say something to say, fuck, let them say it. Fuck it. It shows more about them than it does about you. So stop giving a fuck. That's something that I've been trying to embrace. And it's helped with like imposter syndrome.
00:41:34
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Confidence just fucking do it cuz I'm happier now because this what's I want to do, right? Mm-hmm I think this is what they want me to do I this this is the vision they think I am so I should keep this story up Yeah, one more man fucking no more. I Fucking love that answer. God damn it got me amped
00:41:55
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Man, I used to care so much about people, man. I would never go out to a bar. Just say if my friends were at a bar, they're like, oh, come meet us out. But I had to go alone? No, would never do it. Be in my head. I would always care what other people were going to think. And when I stopped doing that, and I just stopped giving a fuck,
00:42:19
Speaker
That's when I became like my ultimate fucking self, just confidence through the roof. Who gives a fuck what people think, right? So that's the way to go. I love that fucking answer. Great, great. This is a fun podcast. I really appreciate you getting out of me and opening up about all this stuff. If there's anything you'd like to add or you tell people where to follow you at, the floor is yours.
00:42:46
Speaker
I'd say just toss you some follows. William Tithcott, this is my handle. It's a mouthful, I get it. Maybe we can type something up for that. I'll make sure to have this man in my store so you can find them for sure. Anyways, my man, appreciate it and we'll talk soon. Absolutely. All right. Have a good one.