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Identity-Based Goals
14 Plays1 year ago
It is January. It is the season to set goals for the New Year. Usually, these goals are associated with accomplishments and actions - things we want to do. What if, instead, our goals were focused on who we want to be? Building a coaching practice is intrinsically connected with building ourselves. Our brand is who we are. Whether you are a seasoned coach or just starting, the New Year is the perfect time to reflect on who you are today and the opportunities for self-discovery and self-development. That is where our brand and our personal and professional success come from.
#authenticity #brand #coachingpractice #success #selfdevelopment
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Introduction to Prime Space Podcast
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Welcome to Prime Space, a Prime Coaching Academy podcast with your host, Elias Scultori.
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Hello coaches, welcome to season two of Prime Space.
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I can't believe that is already season two.
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I'm very excited for this new chapter and what we are going to be creating here in this year.
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And thank you so much for listening and being my partner here in this process today to get started.
Goal Setting for the New Year
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I would like to talk about goals.
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It's the new year and it's that time of the year that a lot of us are thinking of what is next.
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We have a big chunk of time ahead of us.
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What are we going to do?
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What are the goals that I want to set for myself?
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So that it keeps me on target.
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It keeps me focused.
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And I make the best out of this time.
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And I'm not talking here about New Year's resolutions.
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We know that these oftentimes don't work.
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But it is good from time to time to stop and look back, see what we have accomplished, and see where we want to go from here.
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I oftentimes, with my clients, we talk about not a whole year goal, but perhaps, you know, even 90 days goal, right?
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Like what is the goals that we are going to set for the next three months?
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But anyways, regardless of the time frame, what is the next chapter?
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What are the goals that we want to set up for ourselves in this next chapter?
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And I think that it's appropriate for us to talk about this at the beginning of the year because there is a big chunk of time ahead of us.
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Usually, when we talk about these goals, we tend to focus on things that
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I want to make X amount of money this year.
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I want to bring my coaching practice to this next level.
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I want to attain a certification or sometimes more practical things.
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I want to buy a house or I want to make more friends.
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These are usually goals that I hear a lot, and usually we're encouraged to think about these goals.
Identity-Based Habits in 'Atomic Habits'
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And as I'm reflecting about this, it reminded me of James Clear in the book Atomic Habits.
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I love so many concepts that he has in that book.
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I highly recommend the book to everyone.
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But one of the concepts that it's always part of me and part of my thought process is when he talks on chapter two, the distinction between outcome-based habits and
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And identity-based habits.
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And outcome-based habits are outcome of things that there are, what the aspiration is.
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So I want to quit smoking, or I want to lose weight, or I want to write a book.
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And he encourages us to think more about identity-based habits, which is not about like I want to quit smoking, something that is so outside of us, but I am not a smoker.
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I am a healthy person and I take care of my body.
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I am a writer, and therefore I write.
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He says in the book that once we have this identity, we are anchored in these identities, then it's inevitable.
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If I am a writer, of course I'm going to write.
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If I'm not a smoker, a cigarette is out of the question.
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If I am a healthy individual, I take care of my body.
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I am careful with how I deal with my body.
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So that's an identity-based habit that he encourages us to create.
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And I think that this is a perfect example for us here as we are setting goals for this next chapter.
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Can we make more of an identity goal instead of an external goal for ourselves?
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An outcome-based goal.
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Can we make it more of an identity-based goal?
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So instead of, I want to build my coaching practice and do more coaching, I am a coach.
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That phrase alone, I am a coach, that is loaded.
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And I see even seasoned coaches sometimes struggling with that particular word, this particular phrase, I am a coach.
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I am a coach.
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And I believe so much in that statement because if we truly embody...
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This statement, I am a coach.
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If we truly embody this statement, we start behaving differently and we start interacting with prospect clients differently.
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And creating programs or even the way we go to our computers or we start planning for our programs, it's different just because we live being a coach.
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But what about other goals?
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I want to be more compassionate.
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Right.
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I am a compassionate person.
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I want more peace in my life.
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I live with a peaceful attitude.
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I want love.
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I am a loving person.
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Love is all around me.
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I want to be more present.
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I am present.
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I live present.
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This is another perfect example of how coaching is not just what we do.
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Coaching is who we are.
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It's an example of the importance of living the coaching mindset.
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Because we talk about the who, we coach the who.
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Can we live the who?
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The importance of bringing that coaching mindset and the concept of the coaching mindset to who we are today.
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So what are your goals for yourself this year?
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Who do you want to embody?
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And think more, the encouragement here is for you to think more of this identity-based mindset.
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That's where your aspirations are going to come from.
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Build your practice from who you are.
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And then the steps that you're going to take are inevitable or just a simple matter of gathering information.
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But that is so easy compared to that identity-based framework.
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Oftentimes what's happening there is that there is a conflict between who we believe we are, who we believe to be, and the things we say we want.
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So keep that in mind as you're setting your goals for this coming year.
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One
Choosing an Anchor Word for Focus
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good practice that I've had for many years, and I know of other people that have done this as well, is to set a word.
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What is the word that you want to anchor, be the anchor for this year for you?
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That's one thing for you to keep in mind.
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All right.
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So thank you.
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I hope this is helpful as you're moving forward here.
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Thank you for listening.
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As I said before, I'm very excited about season two.
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I have lots of wonderful guests and lots of wonderful topics for us to discuss.
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Okay.
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Reach out.
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Let me know how you're doing.
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And I will see you next week, everybody.
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Take good care.