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Baby Girl, Big Secrets & Pigeon-Fueled Lies
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Gabby finally saw Babygirl and itβs time to TALK. BDSM, kink culture, power dynamics, pleasure, the female gaze, and eradicating shame around sex. Diane and Gabby donβt hold back in this episode, so get ready! Later they read some of your hilarious confessions about the pitfalls of tracking your partnerβs location and mistaking a professional communication for flirting. Has this ever happened to you? Let us know!
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Introduction and Guest Welcome
00:00:06
Speaker
Hi guys, welcome back to Dornob Confessions. I'm here with my host Gabby and we're really excited to dive into some confessions today. hi Gabby.
00:00:18
Speaker
I'm here, I'm not hiding. hi Clearly i am not usually the one who does these intros.
Movie 'Baby Girl' Discussion Begins
00:00:25
Speaker
But night I am very hyped for talking about this movie that I have been begging Gabby to watch so we can actually talk about it on the podcast. Yes.
00:00:33
Speaker
And it is Baby Girl. Oh my gosh, Gabby, I want to hear all of your thoughts. Oh my God. Okay. Well, first of all, my first thought when I asked you when you saw this, you were like, I saw this in a movie theater. like My first thought was like, I'm too embarrassed to do that. So kudos to you. Although I think you said it was kind of like ah one of those movie theaters where you have like a private...
00:00:55
Speaker
little like two for seat area. So it kind of feels like less. Yeah, it was. yeah I don't know if I pick is like a, like a nationwide thing, but maybe it's just like a California thing, but it's I pick. So you sit in these little pods. So you have kind of like walls that kind of block you off from everybody else.
00:01:11
Speaker
And you still see people, but you're a little bit more isolated.
Exploring Themes of Power Dynamics in 'Baby Girl'
00:01:15
Speaker
Yeah, no, because i mean, it's if you guys have not seen it, it is a very intense sexual movie. I'm like the kind of person that gets like so shy, like I will wait for it to come out or I will illegally download it.
00:01:26
Speaker
um If you're the FBI, I don't. This is just for jokes. um But because like I'm like, I'm going to see this in my house. But i I have mixed feelings. I thought I was going to really like love love, love it because it kind of, you know, a twenty four the production company,
00:01:43
Speaker
They usually do a really good job. Like they push the boundaries. They do edgy shit. I love that because I and they also do like original stories, which I think we're really lacking in the movie space. You know, it's just a lot of franchises and, you know, very like watered down, you know, scripts. There's no like really it doesn't feel like it's like there's interesting stories like the way that they were.
00:02:04
Speaker
maybe like 20 years ago. Although, I mean, there was problematic things with that too. but um But I was really excited and looking forward to it also because it's, you know, about like power dynamics and um not necessarily BDSM, but like, you know, like the power dynamics of like dom sub dynamics. And that's something that I've definitely been interested in psychologically. And, you know, just like, I find it so fascinating. And um and I love Nicole Kidman. So I was like, let's do it.
00:02:33
Speaker
But yeah, mixed feelings, mixed feelings. um I don't know. Where do we start? Honestly, let's start with the milk. Let the milk scene. Yes. Let's start with the milk scene. So what are your thoughts?
00:02:48
Speaker
Well, my friend, my best friend and I, we went to go watch it and she was saying that it was the best commercial for milk since the got milk campaign. and I could not agree more.
00:02:59
Speaker
um i I've never drank a glass of milk since I was a child until I watched that movie and I got home and I was like, i am craving a glass. Now, is it the milk scene where she drinks the glass or where she drinks it out of the dish? Yeah.
00:03:15
Speaker
Probably The Glass, just because it was like in the earlier. Okay, so spoiler alert. If you haven't watched the movie, there's probably going to be some spoilers. But it just was so unexpected. i didn't know what was going on. It's so random. I also had no idea what this movie was about. My best friend just bought the tickets and i she was like, come to this movie. you went wait you went in blind?
Feminine Sexuality and The Female Gaze
00:03:35
Speaker
Oh, I went in completely. Oh my God. yeah Oh, but she was like, it's like 50 shades of gray, but better. And you'll love it. So I was like, I trust you. I'm going to go watch it. And I did in fact love it, but I'm also, I like every movie. I am not picky.
00:03:49
Speaker
The things that on Rotten Tomatoes, I have 20% on them. I'm like, Oh, that was such a great movie. It was so cinematic. So I'm not very picky. Yeah. Um, But that scene, was like the milk drinking, first of all, kudos to her, because I don't know if I could chug that big of a glass. No, we were just talking about this. Like, I have a massive lactose intolerance now. Like, I got a stomachache just watching that.
00:04:13
Speaker
No, me too.
00:04:16
Speaker
But she made it look delicious. She made it look delicious. I also saw that. She filmed that scene like four times and she was like, i was damn near like going to throw up because i just have to chug so much milk. Oh my God. it doesn't afford it and um But afterwards when he passed by and said, good girl, I like just everything shut down in my body. Yeah.
00:04:42
Speaker
No, that was such a moment. I would say that's one of like the better moments for me of the film too. I felt like that captured like that kind of power play in a really sexy, unexpected way. Like I really appreciated that.
00:04:55
Speaker
um And I definitely was like, that makes milk look good, like, but I can't have it. So unfortunately I was like tortured. well it was cool because it was so harmless yeah like I think a lot of and I'm and like you said too like psychologically I'm fascinated I've read so many books on why BDSM kink you know the dom sub kind of dynamics are attractive to people and it's something that it just makes so much sense to me from a a Jungian perspective right but the the situation that it kind of portrayed was so harmless it was just so innocent of like here's a glass of milk drink it right and it's just like so like
00:05:32
Speaker
innocent in a way, but it caused my ovaries to explode. was just wonderful. It was a wonderful experience for me personally. No, I'm definitely, I'm with you. And it was so funny because like we're watching this movie, I was watching it with my husband and we got, we had to download it. So it had French subtitles and stuff.
00:05:52
Speaker
And that, and like the moment happened and I like squealed, I squealed. i was like, oh And he turned to and he looked at me and he was like, okay. He's like, I don't get it.
00:06:07
Speaker
I'm like, don't worry about it. Don't worry about it. um But no, it was, I thought that was like such a, such an awesome moment. And I really like, I really loved the, like the rawness and the realness of exploring like feminine sexuality, because I think rather than painting it as like a black and white thing or something that you know, is in the male gaze, right? Like, I felt like it was 100% female gaze. Like this was about the female gaze. This was about the female sexual experience.
00:06:37
Speaker
And also how confusing it can be when you're into something that may be different, and you don't really understand why. And maybe there's feelings of shame or guilt or embarrassment.
00:06:49
Speaker
You know, Nicole Kidman is like this high powered CEO for like, basically the equivalent of Amazon. And she is in control of every aspect of her life. She is the leader, the boss of her family, um of her, you know, like, you know, her company, she's in charge and has so much responsibility and pressure.
00:07:07
Speaker
And yet there's like a part of her that craves like that kind of like letting it go and letting somebody else take control. And I love that because like, you know, I think so many of us women these days are expected to kind of do it all, right?
00:07:22
Speaker
Right. Do it all. to be the be the pro at business, be the entrepreneur, be the moneymaker, be the family woman, be the mom, be the great partner, be the sexy diva in bed, like whatever. Like, I mean, and it's a tremendous amount of pressure. And I think where.
00:07:37
Speaker
some people don't understand these the healthy kinds of dominant submissive like energies is like, they think it's about like punishment. Like the the maybe the male is a dom and it's about punishing and and humiliation and degradation. And that is a kink, that is a kink, but that's not that's not the entirety of what like it could be.
00:07:59
Speaker
And really it's like about relinquishing control to being the submissive, like is like relinquishing control to somebody else so that you don't have to think
BDSM Dynamics and Surrender
00:08:10
Speaker
about anything. Like you can be in that pleasure bubble and someone else is in charge of that pleasure.
00:08:15
Speaker
And what actually is interesting is that the submissive is the one when done correctly with all the power, because they're the ones that dictate when to stop. One is too much. Like what is, what's going to be pleasurable for me.
00:08:27
Speaker
And so actually, ironically, it's the dominant who's more in the, has to kind of like, even though they're taking charge and they're in control, they also have to do it in a way that is going to be pleasurable for their sub, which like gives us up the power. So it's, it's, I mean, it's like super interesting.
00:08:48
Speaker
Yeah. There's a lot of like kind of aspects of surrender too. And I think that a lot of women, at least, you know, from what I can see, struggle with the concept of like, what does it feel like to fully surrender because it doesn't feel safe, but in more of like a playful pleasure oriented setting, it can feel a lot more approachable and a lot more tangible for them.
00:09:10
Speaker
A scene or like a moment in the movie that was kind of unexpected, which When I first watched it, it was a little weird, but then when I and kind of, like, let it sit with me, I was like, okay, that was actually interesting, was how β oh, my gosh, I'm totally blanking on their names β but the husband yeah and then the the man that he's she's having an affair with, them interacting with one another was
Portrayal of Women in Film
00:09:31
Speaker
super fascinating. Like, it was like, oh, that's it.
00:09:33
Speaker
very interesting because they, you know, they were kind of like almost friends. Like they saw each other and they're like, Hey, it's okay. Like you're a good, like it was just like a very, and I thought a 24 did a really great job at kind of portraying that dynamic of like, it's not about me. It's not about you. It's about her. And she clearly, you know, also too, like in the beginning of the movie, she just, they portrayed her as such a wonderful mother because she was. And I think like kind of to your point, Gabby, like,
00:10:04
Speaker
the way that women mother does not negate, you know, what their interests are and how they experience pleasure, or at least how they want to experience pleasure. Yeah. I love that. And I, I actually like thought about that too, when I was watching it, you know, it's like, I think there's this, well, it goes back to kind of this Electra, I think it's Electra Madonna complex, right? This idea that either you are this loving doting mother figure. And that means that you're suddenly asexual, right? Or you're this like, you know, nymphomaniac, sex driven woman, but you you're not a mother, right? Those things are separate.
00:10:43
Speaker
And I think like, you know, like we have to broaden our perspective on what it means to be a modern woman. And you can be all of those things at one time. Like these are aspects and parts of who we are, like speaking of Jungian work, like it's like parts, right? We have like that part of us that wants what we want and sexually craving like certain things that may not like necessarily align with what you might think um like a loving mother or an accomplished business person might want but actually like these are all different aspects and they can be contradictory and they can be controversial you know and it doesn't make it any less real or or bad in any way you know and I think like we have to like open the doors for
00:11:24
Speaker
having the conversation around like what like, what about having all of these parts of us like be okay and not having any shame or judgment. And it makes me think of like one time i was, I think maybe in high school or middle school and I went to my grandma's place. This was like my mom's parents or my dad's parents, excuse me.
00:11:44
Speaker
And they were in their, they must have been in their like 80s at this point. And I remember like going into their office at their house when they were all in the living room. I was by myself and I was looking through my grandmother and grandfather's books and they had these books that like shocked me that were all about sex for seniors. Sex After 70 was named one of them. And I was like, what?
00:12:07
Speaker
At first I was like horrified and as a child I'm like, oh my God, I don't want to see this. Like as a teenager, I'm like, oh like old people having sex, like, oh, that's so gross. um But as I've grown up, I'm like, wow, mad respect, you know, like just because you're a mother or you're older or whatever the circumstance may be, you're like, I know that this is also a big thing in the um disabled community. People saying like, oh, like,
00:12:30
Speaker
we must be asexual because we're paraplegic or because we have developmental, you know, issues or whatever's happening because we're different. um We must not be sexual and that has to be separated. And no, like we're all sexual. We're human beings. It's a part of the human experience.
00:12:46
Speaker
And it makes me sad to think like, you know, there's this expectation or idea that like you get older or you're different or something and like suddenly you're not sexual or that's a part of you that has to
Breaking Societal Taboos on Sexuality
00:12:58
Speaker
die. And that's so unhealthy. Yeah, no, absolutely. I, you know, first off, I think that's really sweet that your grandparents have that book. Obviously they're trying to,
00:13:08
Speaker
really keep it alive. um And too, like, I always like to think about like ancestrally and biologically, like human beings are animals. Animals aren't like contemplating if they should or should not have sex. Like I think as human beings, we're all, we're meant to procreate and we're meant to like, and that involves sex and whether you want children or not is a completely different story because we have brains and psyches and, you know, developed intelligence.
00:13:31
Speaker
But, um you know, I think that a lot of people, have so much of a shame shame narrative around you know being sexually active. Yeah, no, definitely. Yeah, yeah and I think that like a lot of these confessions are really great too because they kind of highlight these different aspects that people feel so much shame around. But at the end of the day, when we read them, we're like,
00:13:50
Speaker
Yeah, like, makes sense. I totally get why you feel that way. And, you know, yeah, yeah, totally. I mean, literally, like 80%, if not more of the confessions that I'm reading online and getting from people are mostly having to do with feeling shame around different aspects of their sexuality or sexual experiences they've had or things that they're questioning.
00:14:08
Speaker
about themselves. And, you know, it's, it's not, it's like not black and white, you guys, like, it's like, it's so complex and involves so many aspects of like, your psyche and, you know, what you're actually interested in, who you're interested in. And we need to just like, shed the shame around all of it and recognize that we have one life to live. And you should be doing the things that give you joy, including the sexual things.
00:14:33
Speaker
um And like the other aspect too is like like, what if things are not working with your partner, right? Like what if you know there's that, that one of the I think it was the opening scene was like super, for me, very jarring, but also very real, I think, because there's there's a lot of women out there who you know can't orgasm with their partner or their partner doesn't know how to get them there.
00:14:58
Speaker
And they kind of like fake it. I'm guilty. I faked it a bunch of times with like different partners that I've had, you know, because I don't want them to feel bad or I'm kind of tired or I'm over it and I don't want to try.
00:15:08
Speaker
like i Like, I know I'm not the only one. um But there's this idea that pleasure is its kind of exclusively for the male partner and that we're here to put on a show. And because we can't get out of our heads or because we're feeling insecure, anxious or our partner doesn't know how to like work with our bodies.
00:15:26
Speaker
Like we just don't talk about it. So our go-to is kind of this people pleasing of like, okay, I'm going to fake it. And it's not that I'm not having a good time. It's just, but I'm going to fake my orgasm because like I'm done and he's pretty much done and I don't want to like, you know, keep going.
00:15:41
Speaker
but then there's no conversation around it. There's like this, and then you go and take care of yourself, right? You know what I mean? And you know how to get yourself there, but there's no conversation with your partner about how to like help them help you.
00:15:53
Speaker
And I don't know, is it because we don't want to hurt their feelings? Is it because we're embarrassed to talk about it? I mean, what do you think?
Women's Sexual Empowerment
00:16:01
Speaker
I think that, I think ultimately it dwindles down to people pleasing behavior and how so many women are raised with kind of having two people please and that very much reflects in the in the bedroom. And and you know I think that too, it's almost like this comfort of advocating for yourself And ultimately, like it it is our responsibility, despite the conditioning that we've received, we've received to express like what our needs are, but that feels so viscerally uncomfortable for people or shameful. And it almost feels like it's their fault, or, you know, they're they're going to hurt somebody. And like you said, right, and I've definitely been there. And, and I do think at at the end of the day, it dwindles down to
00:16:44
Speaker
a lot of women, I think the majority of women have some aspect of people pleasing because societally we live in very much a man's world that was created for a man. And, and, you that's something that I'm exploring in my own life is like, how can I bring more femininity and really leaning into that feminine nature in my own life? And, and at the end of the day, I think it's also like being really empowered in what my needs are, what my beliefs are and what,
00:17:12
Speaker
you know, how I want to show up for myself, even if it makes me feel uncomfortable. Yeah, yeah, definitely. You know, it's like, ladies, like, be vocal about what you need and what you like and what you want, you know, and kind of breaking that societal pressure and conditioning around being the good girl, right? Like literally, um and making sure that everybody else is happy and satisfied around you. And you're you come last on your list, like it is time for you to come first, you know, literally and figuratively.
00:17:42
Speaker
And i you know I almost think that like the dom-sub dynamics, even in this movie, especially in this movie, kind of reflect that. right like if you're If you have a good, healthy, dominant partner and you're the submissive, they have their job is to give you pleasure.
00:18:01
Speaker
Their job is to make it feel good for you. It's not about their pleasure, although they get pleasure out of giving you pleasure, but it's about you and you taking center stage and kind of like not having to direct everything and not having to take care of everything yourself, but rather having someone that knows you so well that you can just fall into this like delicious space of surrender. And, you know, I think i think all of us could use with an experience like that. and Oh, absolutely. Absolutely. And, you know, they do say Kim Anami, Anami or Ano? I don't know if I'm butchering her name.
00:18:35
Speaker
I'm sorry if I am, but she has like a whole online course about like women needing to orgasm. And I think that's so cool because I think, you know, relationships are built upon, you know, pleasure and communication. And also she talks a lot about how It's like one of the most regulating things for the nervous system for a woman because she's not used to being surrendered and in pleasure. sure Yeah. No, a hundred percent. I totally agree with that. And I can see that. I want to take that course.
00:19:04
Speaker
Send me the link. I'll send it to you. I'll send it to Her Instagram is so fun. She sends like she like posts memes about how like you don't need to regulate your nervous system. You just need to have a big Yeah.
00:19:16
Speaker
I listen, I am all for this. Oh, for the masses, like O's for the masses. O's for everyone. You get to know, you get to know, you get to know. We all get O's. Let's Oprah it up. I love that. Amazing.
Final Thoughts on 'Baby Girl'
00:19:30
Speaker
yeah Yeah.
00:19:30
Speaker
So, I mean, I recommend this movie. I think there was like some, some areas where I was like, like, I don't know. It's not, it's not getting there. It felt like it was like the whole movie felt like we were getting to a place where they could get into a really good, like I wanted to see like a really good,
00:19:45
Speaker
flow of like the sexual power play stuff, but it felt, and maybe this was on purpose, but it felt always clumsy. Like there were some moments where it felt like, okay, he's got it, like he's getting it. But I think like,
00:19:59
Speaker
Like the motel scene, like I heard they shot that in one take and then they just let the they just let the camera roll. And it was like cringey for both of them because they didn't know what to do and it was awkward. But I think also that was a beautiful moment of capturing those first moments of trying to negotiate what is it that we're doing here and what are the rules and boundaries look like and how does this dynamic work for us?
00:20:21
Speaker
um But I really wanted to see the payoff that I, and I don't feel like I got that of like the final, ah you know, end of end stage of figuring that out where they're really in a flow, you know what I mean? And that would have been fun.
00:20:36
Speaker
Yeah, I totally agree. It was kind of like, they left me wanting a lot more. Like when the movie ended, I was like, that's it. Like, that's all they're giving. It's like, we just got started. and I know. Absolutely. But you know, overall I enjoyed the movie for sure. And I think for me personally, what I loved about it is that it was,
00:20:55
Speaker
in the female gaze. And it was just wonderful. And Harris Dickinson, I think did a really great job at portraying that.
Gabby's TikTok Obsession
00:21:01
Speaker
I have Harris Dickinson like edits all over my TikTok. Cause all I do is consume baby girl content.
00:21:08
Speaker
I love this for you. Love that for me. Um, I imagine you have some confessions for me, Gabby. Yeah, I do. I do. um but this is not a sponsored, uh, just to say not a sponsored podcast. We just, we just like the movie and recommend it. I mean, I recommend it. I wish though. I wish. like Call us, call us a 24. We'll, we'll do all of your movies. We love them. When was the last time that you let yourself really have fun?
00:21:33
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I mean, really have
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00:23:26
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Um, okay. So let's see, let's see, let's see, let's see. Well, this one's kind of funny. Um, and I don't know, i I was trying to think if I had any examples of this and maybe it'll come up, but, um, okay.
00:23:37
Speaker
So, okay. So this confession is my optician is really, really
Humorous Confessions
00:23:41
Speaker
hot. So I got very excited when he asked if I was doing anything this weekend and I replied with nothing i can't, or nothing I can't cancel with a cheeky wink.
00:23:50
Speaker
And then he said, oh, sorry, you know, I just wanted to know if you're likely to be wearing your contact lenses.
00:23:59
Speaker
Well, to be fair, that does sound very presumptuous. I mean, it does. What are you doing? Like that could have been framed any other way. Yeah.
00:24:11
Speaker
yeah Or like, you know, at least started off with like, I don't know. Like, oh, I don't know if um your contacts will be available. do you have any plans this weekend? Like, at least frame the girl for something.
00:24:23
Speaker
I know. I mean, like, do you go back to that optometrist after? Like, or are you so, like, like i'm worried? I personally wouldn't. I would, i would like, crawl into cave. would immediately develop a different optometrist. Yeah.
00:24:39
Speaker
No, for sure. For sure. i think, you know, once you've crossed that line, it's like a little awkward. And, um you know, when you think like one of the people that's like your doctors or something is hitting on you and like they're not, I don't know how you come back from that, like without being super awkward.
00:24:55
Speaker
No, truly. Yeah. Well, it reminds me of this really funny time. i was living in Bali for six months. And at the time I had made friends with this, um this girl and we had been like kind rooming together and, um you know, traveling together and having like just adventures and things like that.
00:25:10
Speaker
And one day she was like, I looked at my poop and I think I have worms. And I was like, oh first of all, shut the fuck up. I have like such, I don't know what it was, but like a parasites freak me the fuck out. Like they freak me out. Right.
00:25:25
Speaker
Like the idea that they're like little wormy worms, like in my body, like there probably are, but I don't want to know about it. And if they're eating extra calories, then they can stay. um But she was like, I think I have like worms in my poop. And I was like, she's like, can you look at it And I was like, no, I'm not looking at that. But like let's go to the doctor.
00:25:42
Speaker
And so we had to like go around. And I think we went to like three or four doctors because like they were like, oh, we don't check for that or blah, blah, blah, blah. And then finally, we found one. And it was so awkward because I was in there with them because she was nervous to go by herself, which is fine. Girl power. We stay with our sisters.
00:25:58
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um And the guy was like, put her on the table. And he was like, okay, I'm going to have to, I'm going to have to check you out. And she's like, what, what do you mean? And he was like, what is that entail? And I'm sitting there fucking hysterically laughing. Like I shouldn't have been laughing. I should have been more sensitive, but I was dying that we were here doing this. i was like, what is about to happen? I'm just a spectator.
00:26:20
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Like, I'm just like, watching and this guy like was like listen I can't give you medication like I need to I need to like check and see if you have like signs of worms she's like where and he goes your butthole and so she's like a pretty shy person when it comes to that So she looks at me. I look at her. I burst out laughing. The doctor is like this, like, i don't know, middle-aged dude. He's like, he's trying to be professional. He's trying not to laugh, but he's also like, kind of finds it funny.
00:26:48
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And he's like, okay, like, you know, let's like do it And she's like, well, like she gets on the table and she's like, well, like what, like what position it's supposed to be? And sitting in the corner peeing my pants. I'm like, I can't believe this is actually happening right now.
00:27:03
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So he's like, oh, like, you're he's like, don't you just, like, go on your stomach and then, like, you know, we'll check it out. So she actually ended up having to be on all fours and, like, fully exposed.
00:27:15
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And this guy was, like, roaming around her butthole. And I'm laughing. She's horrified. Like, she's so horrified that this is happening. And then he turns to me and he goes, oh, do you want to see me?
00:27:31
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I'm like, what? And she goes, what do you mean does she want to see? And he's like, I don't know. Like, if she's curious. She's sitting there with her shirt on, her pants off, all fours, her butt cheeks spread.
00:27:43
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And I'm like, I'm like, okay.
00:27:48
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So he's like, see, he's like, you can see here, like there's nothing there. And like her butthole looks pretty healthy. yeah And my friend is like, I hate you so much. And she's laughing and I'm laughing. I'm like, well, I feel like I've seen all of you at this point. So we have to be best friends.
00:28:02
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um But that was, that was a very interesting, we never went back to that doctor um after all that. ah she couldn't She couldn't do it. Even when she was sick with something else, we literally drove like probably 20 minutes further just to like get a different doctor. But I can understand that.
00:28:19
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I don't know why he asked me if I wanted to look, but to this day, I still wonder. would mortified. I would be mortified to have to get on all. First of all, I don't think i could ever get back into that position without thinking about that moment.
00:28:31
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No, but how embarrassing that she actually didn't have worms. yeah I know. So now I'm like, what the hell did she see in her poop? I have no idea. But I think she was a little hypochondriac. And like, I think she kind of thought maybe there was something there that wasn't like because she said there were like little white
Health Benefits of Coffee Enemas
00:28:45
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specks. It wasn't like full on like big worms. so There was a time where I was doing coffee enemas quite often because I had an autoimmune thing. And i love coffee enemas.
00:28:55
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Um, this is not medical advice, but anyways, i was doing coffee. Don't sue us. This is not medical advice. Yeah, this is not medical advice. Don't be doing coffee enemas and then be coming after me. Um, but Tyler, recommend doing your own research. feels amazing.
00:29:07
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Anyways. I did one. And then you like release all the liquid in your, in the toilet. And I swear to God, I think I saw a warm, but it's very normal to see them. Like, cause everybody has them. I know you said, wait, shut up shut up, shut up, shut up, shut up, shut up, shut up, shut up, shut up. Wait, wait, wait. What do you mean everybody has them?
00:29:25
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It's normal, but it's just, it depends on the kind, but everybody has like some degree. Cause it's like we eat food and, but our body's able to like Nick, I need you. Nick, I need you right now. I need you to research that. Just confirm this for me, please. Can you please confirm this?
00:29:40
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Is it true? Okay. Producer Nick is going to go check because like that freaks me the fuck out. No, but there's different, it's got, it's like different levels, right? Like it's like, there is like the harmless kind. And then there are the kinds that like will eat all your calories and then you need to go to hospital.
00:29:57
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That is not normal, but like everybody has some normal kind. Anyways, I digress. I saw them in the toilet and immediately i was like, babe, come see poop.
00:30:11
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And he's a nurse. So he's like totally fine with it. And he saw it and he was like, that is actually insane because you see like a little, like mine was not a white speck. Well, because you're literally like cleansing your colon.
00:30:26
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Anyways. My jaw is on the fucking floor. Wait, i I need to do a coffee enema, i think. But it feels, I mean, it honestly feels really good. You feel so energized. I highly recommend. I can send you my coffee enema guide. on the rope Oh, please do. Please I was so upset. So do you actually get the benefits of caffeine though? Like too? Cause it's like. No, so I don't consume any caffeine. Okay. So that's what I was really worried about. And you don't, you don't get any caffeine because it like goes up your,
00:30:54
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bum instead of your throat uh oh not everyone has worms okay it confirms not everyone has worms if you're listening to this right now and you're freaking out like i am it's not it's not you might you listen you might have worms but you might not so it's a i mean 50 50 chance but that's like that's but i mean like parasites are pretty normal i think especially if you eat like sushi like raw fish things like that like you're more likely to have it But, um, once a week but yeah, no, sorry. I interrupted you, but you, act so you don't drink coffee. So you did, do you, feel did you feel the caffeine from this?
00:31:27
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No, you don't feel the caffeine, but it feels like you have caffeine because your body produces, I'm like forgetting, I'm blanking on the word right now. It is a little early for me. Um, um, I'm blanking on the word.
00:31:39
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But your like body produces like this chemical in your system once you like get all that shit out of you. Yeah. No pun intended. And it feels really, really good. It feels really heavenly. And people swear by it.
00:31:53
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And actually was helping a client. And he had ulcerative colitis. And his doctors were at kind of a loss on what to do. And we adjusted some things in his nutrition. And it was getting better, but not quite. And then we added the coffee enemas. And his ulcerative colitis completely healed.
00:32:09
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Wow. Practitioner he was working with. That was me. ever And it worked. And so like a lot of people have great benefits from it. Obviously, do your own research. You know, some people are a lot more sensitive than others.
00:32:23
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And some people would benefit. I was trying to get my partner to do it, but he's like, I'm not sticking anything up my ass. Can we talk about though, real quick, like two
Advocacy for Alternative Medicine
00:32:32
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things. Number one, I love when that happens because I've had clients as well who like are having a lot of like chronic inflammation, gut issues.
00:32:41
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um Like honestly, like really high anxiety, panic attacks, like things like that. um IBS, like, I mean, just a whole range of different things happening that have to do with like, you know, high cortisol levels and,
00:32:55
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um chronic trauma and stress in the body. And then they're doing like these alternative style practices, which really honestly are so are, they're heavily researched like interventions. They're just not used by like Western medicine very often. And I always love when like their symptoms clear up.
00:33:11
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And they're like, oh, my God, I haven't like experienced this ever. And then their doctors are like, what practitioner are you working with? And it's like, see you guys like honestly, like get on it, like read your research, your doctor, like do your continuing education, like don't just like, keep doing what you're doing for like 20 years and not actually like look at what's new, um because it could really help, you know, but it's a satisfying moment.
00:33:33
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it It really is. And it really affirms like everything that you research. Well, because a lot of the research studies i like look into are from like 2023, 2024. They're all within the last like five years.
00:33:46
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And my professors don't even let us cite anything that's older than five years, which I think is very telling. No, same. I mean, like, because a lot of the old stuff is getting re rewritten and, you know, reexamined and, you know, it's like, we have to evolve with modern medicine and like, without like, you know, staying stuck, but it's hard because, you know, the school systems give education that like educational, like, um, they give classes that are based on like materials that they've been using the same materials for like years and years and years and decades. And it takes a long time to go through med school. It takes a long time to get your doctorate.
00:34:20
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um And by the time you're done, all this new research has come out, but you're all the stuff that you learn is like now like kind of old, right? And so keeping up with everything is really, really important.
00:34:31
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And then the other thing I wanted to say my part due of that part due, I'm learning French um is what is it about men having an aversion to things in their butthole?
Men's Aversion to Medical Procedures
00:34:42
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Because mean, it's a fair, I also have an aversion to things in my butthole.
00:34:47
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Okay, wait, that came out wrong. I mean, I don't love putting things in my butthole. I should really reframe that.
00:34:55
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But but I find particular, like... my like My husband, I was like, listen, we're getting up there in age. I think it's important that we're like really healthy and we're scheduling our doctor's appointments and we're getting our checkups. And I'm like, you really just like prostate cancer is a real thing. like You should really get like you know a colonoscopy.
00:35:13
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And his face like went white. And he was like, when I explained to him what it was, because he didn't even know what it was. And he has, like I think there's a history of some cancer in his family, not prostate, but other cancers.
00:35:24
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And when I told him what it was, he was like, I'm, I'm absolutely not doing that unless like I have cancer. I was like, then it's too late.
00:35:32
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He's like, let me just wait until the very last second. And yeah, yeah, no, it's, uh, and then on the other hand, you have guys who get sent to the R because they fall, quote unquote, fall on things that get stuck in their buttholes. So I don't know.
00:35:46
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It's a wide range out there. It's a wide range.
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00:37:57
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Okay, so do you know what life 360
00:38:01
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Yeah. Okay.
Confessions and Meditative Practices
00:38:02
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So it's like ah kind of like a tracking app or, you know, right. Like something like that to keep an eye on your partner or whatever. So, okay. So this guy wrote, my girlfriend wants me to download life 360. So we know each other has arrived safely at work to prep dinner, et cetera. Like what our schedule is.
00:38:18
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I'm running out of excuses because I don't want her to know that after work, I feed the pigeons for half an hour as I have no friends. Yeah.
00:38:27
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Oh, wait, that's actually really wholesome. know. It's like, it's not like he's cheating or doing anything wrong, but he's feeding pigeons because he doesn't have friends. So his friends are their pig, like leave the man alone. my God. Okay. Well, this is one of my favorite things. It's a little life hack for everybody. Just frame it as a meditation.
00:38:46
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Okay. this isnt my middle This is literally what I do. i will peel. There's this Korean dish that I make and it's basically soy braised quail eggs and quail eggs are supposed to be like the king's food. It's like nutrient dense, whatever. Yada, yada.
00:39:01
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Anyways, I will, I will peel like 30 to 40 quail eggs. Like while I watch love is blind, even though i consider it my meditation. and It's kind of a meditation.
00:39:13
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It's so meditative, honestly. And so anytime I do something and people question me, I'm like, look, it's a meditative experience. Like, don't bother me. i love that. I love that. I find cooking to be so meditative. And by the way, I just made um the Korean ah soy braised eggs actually two days ago. They're in the fridge getting nice and marinated. They're amazing. They're so good. Oh, guys. They're so good.
00:39:35
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It's high in protein. It's obviously low in fat. It is delicious as fuck. You can add it to like soups. You can add it to like rice. You can add it to like literally anything and it just makes everything delicious. I'm obsessed. I'm obsessed.
00:39:48
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It's so good. Yeah. um and Yeah. So I like that.
Meditation and Daily Activities
00:39:52
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And, you know, meditation, by the way, can be anything, right? It's peeling things. It's just being in the moment, like breathing, like enjoying something. Like it doesn't have to just be sitting and you know, thinking with, or like analyzing your thoughts and like breathing slow. Like it can be like dancing, playing music, having sex can be a good meditation, Tantra, right? Like, I mean, it can be all all kinds of things, but I like that. Let's frame it as a meditation.
Social Media and Trust in Relationships
00:40:16
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and i didn't I know. And I wonder though, if the girl is on the other end, like freaking out, like, why doesn't he want to like, why doesn't he let me track him? Like, what is he doing? Right. Right. Oh my gosh. I would be like freaking out thinking the worst. And then he's like low key, just like feeding tension.
00:40:32
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I, it's well, and like kind of, you know, interesting because I think most of us women have had, if not all of us, like every woman I've talked to, honestly, not one person has not had the experience where a guy was like doing shady shit.
00:40:46
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Um, and you know, it's really like rare to find kind of, I feel like a pretty wholesome, straightforward male partner, you know, that isn't, especially in the day and age of social media where, and where there's only fans and where there's like porn everywhere, which I don't have a problem with porn. It's just, it can't be like the main thing that you do in your life. And also like there's porn addiction and then it can,
00:41:11
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mess up your relationships if like that's the thing you're like obsessed with and wasting all your time with um so there's a fine line right between healthy and unhealthy but with social media there's like all kinds of like you know accounts and women flaunt their stuff which is great go you go girl um but men being inappropriate with that like men who have girlfriends men who have wives like and it's just like a dm is like how you start a conversation these days with people you know and It's just a very slippery slope between like emotional cheating to physical cheating and all of these things.
00:41:44
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And so, you know, I think like most of us have become like kind of paranoid, which makes sense, but it's really nice to know that there's men like this out there, you know, when, and my husband, I was really kind of shocked when, when we first got together, I was like, and I wasn't used to this, um, kind of a person. Cause I've dated kind of jerks in the past, to be honest.
00:42:04
Speaker
Um, And I'm on my healing journey. So, you know, it's part of it. I accept without judgment. um But I had guys who like would be like connected with like friends, quote unquote, not real friends, but friends following, I should say, I guess, following people on social media, like bikini models and like whatever, whatever, twerking girls, like yada, yada.
00:42:26
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And they're actually following them. They know their names. They know like their business. like They comment. They like DM. It was like really weird and very uncomfortable. And it was a boundary that I tried to put up, but like unsuccessfully.
00:42:38
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And so when my husband and I first saw started dating, I was like, can I see who you follow on Instagram? Is that okay with you? And he was like, yeah. Yeah. And literally it's like all of these like like like a strange fact fiction pages, pages about like aliens and like ancient like Mesopotamia. And like, he's very into like, he's very into like spiritual like stuff. So it's like spiritual people.
00:43:04
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He follows zero, zero fitness bikini models, zero like any other like any of the girls, like there was only a few girls and he only follows like a hundred people. The few girls that I like pointed out, he's like, oh yeah, that's my cousin.
00:43:18
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he's like, oh yeah, that, and I now know them. So like now I know who they are in person. um But literally he follows, like he doesn't do anything sketchy. And when he's like off on his own doing something, he's like listening to a podcast again about like ancient aliens.
00:43:32
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like for hours or he watches Twitch, like, and it's not the Twitch like sexy streamers. It's just like dudes playing video games. And he's like, oh yeah, this is like my reality TV. Like I, there's hope. Like I love, I love this. The men who feed pigeons, the men who watch video games being played like innocently, like i love but there's hope. like reckon Me too. I love it so much. I feel so safe. ah Yeah. So funny.
00:44:01
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Well, I don't know. Anyway, and you're and your guy is very, he's very with it and very safe safe space. He's not really social media guy. he doesn't, I think the last time he posted was like five years ago. Yeah, I know. He's like not active on social at all. And he also like really, really likes his privacy. Same with mine, my husband. Like they don't want their shit blasted all over social media. They don't want to have a presence. Like it's like, that's great. I like that living in the real world. Yeah. Yeah.
00:44:30
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No, everyone, whenever I post anything about us, I ah always cover his face. People are like, you should tag him or you should like show us his face. was like, no, absolutely not. Even me posting these photos is like pushing the limit.
00:44:44
Speaker
You know, let's let's keep it private. Yeah, definitely. Yeah, no, he doesn't. Well, he was in the military. And so a lot of his buddies are the same way too. Like they follow a lot of these like fitness girls. And he's like, I don't want to see that shit on my feed.
00:44:57
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He's like, I want to see golf videos. And I'm like, okay. i love ever And I love that you golf. It's a passion you guys can share. It's really cute. Yeah. We go on our little golf dates and he like, he's he's already talking about how he's going to set up the golf cart for me when I'm like with child and how I can just sit in like a shaded golf cart. He like bought all these accessories. It's really sweet. yeah Oh my God.
00:45:18
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That's so sweet. I love that.
Healthy Love and Relationships
00:45:21
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He better have a snack station. Cause that's. he, I mean, he's still, he already has one for me now and I'm not even pregnant. Yeah.
00:45:30
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I need my snacks. This is healthy love. This is healthy love right here, you guys. like Take it in. Take it in. It exists. Truly. it's Amazing. Well, it's been
Podcast Wrap-up and Listener Invitation
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fun. hope you guys enjoyed this little chit chat. and We'd love to hear what your thoughts are. So feel free to leave a comment, DM us, say hi Don't forget, we do have our submissions open. We'll drop the link in the show notes so you can send us your confessions if you want us to read them.
00:45:57
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And we still have spots open for our retreat coming up in May. We would love to see you there. um But yeah, until next time, have a good day Live your life. Find that healthy love. And go see Baby Girl because I think you'll like it.
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