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A Call to Action
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There comes a point when what needs to be said can only be done one way: directly. This is one of those times. Everyone, myself and Karianne included, can stand to benefit from hearing what needs to be said without pulling punches. What was said in this episode has been said 10x over internally between us over the past few weeks (and longer), so trust me when I say we are all in this together.
This podcast is a call to action to be aggressive with working on yourself, serving, leading, and thriving amidst the environment we are operating. Some of what's said will sound harsh, but I assure you it is no harsher than the consequences of inaction, avoidance, and wasted opportunity.
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Transcript
Introduction: Tiger King and Cold Showers
00:00:02
Speaker
Hello. Hello. What are we going to start with? Carol. Carol. What's her name? Pause. Pause. Pause. Pause. Break. Break. Um, I can't remember her last name. Carol Baskins. Carol. Yeah. Carol Baskin. I think Carol Baskin's behind COVID-19. Bitch, Carol Baskin. Anyway,
00:00:30
Speaker
Tiger King. If you haven't seen it, watch it. It's one of the most fascinating things scarier than what we're doing now. We're speaking to Carol Baskin. We're fired up today. I'm fired up. You're fired up. You are fired. I'm fired up. I did a, I feel like the shower today was cold, colder than normal.
00:00:53
Speaker
Okay, so you've been doing cold plunges cold showers. So I do agree that No, this is um two weeks and a half. I started sunday a week ago Okay, I do like the cold tub in terms of I feel like it's more peaceful and sort of yeah, yeah But it's also not as efficient and it's not as good for water usage So we're working on making it not as good for water usage translating to complete waste of water
00:01:22
Speaker
Yeah. So we're working on making a plunge. So I'm not doing the plunge things as often. The shower though is, um, but the shower is a good place for people to start. Yeah. I feel like it's more, but I, but that's what I'm saying is I feel like it's not as, um,
00:01:40
Speaker
It's a little bit like anxiety producing, whereas the plunge, once you get in, you can kind of like breathe and be calm. The showers just constant, like you're constantly plunging, plunging, plunging, like that first second. But anyway, I did that, coached, did a workout, coached, and now we're doing this.
Honesty and Authenticity: Challenges and Benefits
00:02:01
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And I guess for the last few days,
00:02:05
Speaker
Yeah, I guess I've been a little, I don't know if I'm just more sensitized or if there's certain things that are just starting to piss me off. There we go. But I felt like today, and I'll say it, you and I spend a lot of time being very careful. We don't want to say this. We don't want to say that. I don't want to sound like this. I don't want it to seem like that. But then I think, why? Why are we not just saying what we think? And people, the reality is there are people that don't like us. Yeah.
00:02:35
Speaker
So it doesn't really matter what we say, cause they're still not going to like us. No matter what we say, those people are still going to find something to say, like, Oh, what a bunch of assholes. Why don't you, why don't you say what you think more? Yeah. And for me, like, as I've been very vocal about, and I just posted about the other day, like I spend a lot of time worrying about what other people are going to think. Yeah. What's that judgment going to be? But my point is.
00:03:01
Speaker
And this is a stupid example and I un got off of the affiliate group because I was trying to be helpful. The irony there is being super careful about how I'm crafting my words and what my intent is. And there's still judgment. So you were in a Facebook group with worldwide CrossFit gym owners that were talking about obviously recent events, how they're doing it. My point is,
00:03:30
Speaker
even when you try to be careful about how you're saying it or whatever, my realization is people are still going to judge. They're still going to think whatever. So then I think all we're doing is not actually getting our message across to people that do want to hear it, that do need it, because we're just muting everything or dampening it or adjusting it. So today I kind of said like, Hey, I think we should be
00:03:56
Speaker
Yeah. Be honest. And if people think, Hey, they're a bunch of assholes, then okay. Like the people though that are going to hear it and find value, that's who we're speaking to. So, and this isn't the made up like, like paranoid, like, Oh, they think that people don't like them. No, we know that people don't like us. Like, yeah, for a fact, it is very clear and that's fine. And honestly, I respect more if someone would just say like, Hey, I disagree with you. But no, but people don't do that. It's these weird backhanded,
00:04:26
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Yeah. So that's kind of like just saying that today to say like it might be some harsher things than like I'm not as concerned with like crafting things to make sure that doesn't offend anybody like no. Kind of fuck that. That's not happening today. Now we're talking.
00:04:47
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My home friend, uh, new friend, James Victoria, who's a, who's the Tony Robbins of creative
00:05:00
Speaker
He's an artist. He's a designer. He says shocking things. Often that's sort of his shtick, but he says authentic things. He called me up a couple months ago. I think I've talked about on here and he was like, I sense the trepidation.
00:05:18
Speaker
Mm-hmm. And this is a dude person that's not the only person and this is a dude that puts his work out and has been putting his work out for decades. Yeah He's been doing designing things. He got famous for designing a poster There was some celebration of some Native American thing who's like maybe 19 at the time and
00:05:40
Speaker
and he had this picture of like this very traditional Native American with the head wear, headdress and everything and he basically like graffitied it, axed out the eyes and kind of said like celebrating, you know, killing innocent people or whatever. So some of his things are very charged, very polarizing.
00:06:01
Speaker
And he had said months ago like stop being so fucking humble actually we were in a we were driving together to the do lectures from London and He was saying Talking a little bit about that with his own thing and some of
Influence of James Victoria and Critique of Celebrity Responsibility
00:06:15
Speaker
his clients. He's which is a scary thing to do but Yeah, it's a scary thing and so all that to say I feel like I pull punches hmm
00:06:26
Speaker
And I don't like feeling like that personally because it's a bit of a lie, like it's a bit of living a lie, you know? And when you are passionate about something, when you temper that, it kind of, it does more damage to you than it does to anyone else. The people who are not going to like what we or I
00:06:49
Speaker
Or you have to say they're not spending aren't gonna they're not gonna care the people who are like dude hit me with some truth Okay, tell me what the deal is bill fucking send it. Mm-hmm. Those people aren't getting as powerful or authentic or of or as real of a message and me personally, I feel like I build up resentment I
00:07:14
Speaker
It's fucking tiring to always feel like, well, I don't want to do this. And it is against this, not imaginary, but this just big.
00:07:25
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you know, blank face kind of group. So so all that to say, we both struggle. Yeah. But we are going to take a step into not doing that today. And yeah, we had a trepidation. Yeah. So buckle the fuck up, basically, is what we're saying. We had I'll just and maybe I'll start with just something because we had a celebrity guest, two celebrity guests coach one of our classes. Yeah.
00:07:53
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and it was crap and these people have millions of followers and It wasn't coaching right well the problem was Here's the issue That's not really the issue Okay, the issue is
00:08:13
Speaker
And I think this is an interesting thing because it ties into a lot of what we've been talking about. We talked about this a couple of podcasts ago about capitalizing, being or opportunists. Like you've spent all this time worrying about being an opportunist with between the ears. Yeah. Now here's what's fascinating about that. Currently,
00:08:31
Speaker
between the ears and and sure if there was another thing like between the ears maybe there is out there that that would be wonderful to date i have never seen anything like between the ears and yes of course no you know i'm your i'm your wife okay but
00:08:47
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at this point with what people are dealing with, just the fact of not even the fear of the virus and all that stuff, but just being in their homes, no distractions with themselves. That is almost like a necessity to be keeping up with a physical and mental practice because we're seeing after two weeks, people
00:09:05
Speaker
coming unglued. Now, what's funny about that is that is something that's very needed today. Yet you still feel badly or like, I don't want to seem opportunistic, like I'm capitalizing. But it's something that's like very needed and could help people.
Opportunism and Adaptation During the Pandemic
00:09:23
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So we took a look at yesterday. We've had multiple people come on who've been amazing. We had Noah Olson, Kari Pierce, Chris Hinshaw. They came on and they served our community truly with their presence. We're about doing something out of service. Now, all of those people, we promoted their things out of like, thank you for doing that. None of them, though, were like pushing their things.
00:09:51
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We had now yesterday, these other two, which I had asked the same of them a private coaching session for our community. We did not know.
00:10:05
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at all until the thing started that this was not going to be for our community. This was going to be for live streamed and this and that for two other gyms and all this stuff. Now that might initially sound like selfish, but I don't have a problem with that, but the fact that that was never communicated and we weren't given the option to say like, if it had been said to us, listen, we can't really do a private thing. This is what we can offer. Would you like that? Then I get that.
00:10:31
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but you don't show up saying you're going to serve a community. Now that's the thing. It wasn't about serving us. It was about how they could build their platform. And again, I'm not, I'm not faulting someone for doing that, but that's, that's just lying. That that's very well, it feels, it does feel like the intake, the, the integrity and the intention is not aligned. And that's so the fact is that this was, this became,
00:11:01
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So that start that, that kind of pushed the ball down that pushed me definitely over the edge in terms of what the F here are people who. Yeah. And I guess I believe that people who are in a leadership position, people who are celebrities, and this is the difference should have a, have a responsibility.
00:11:22
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to be leaders at this time to serve. And I think there are tons of people. Let's just call it in the CrossFit space or whatever. Who are doing that? We had Brian McKenzie came on and talked about breath work, you know, strong fit. They're putting stuff out. But when you turn something into just pure opportunistic stuff and then you don't even produce a good quality product. And that was the problem. So because of thousands of people being on our feed, our Zoom call,
00:11:52
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We lost these people several times now irrelevant of what the coaching quality was. It was not service to our members. And then it ended up being that we just took over. What's fascinating is I messaged this person and said, Hey, we lost you guys.
00:12:09
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And it was like, oh, you can hop on our live feed. And I'm like, well, that's not gonna help our classes. So you and I jumped in, we coached the rest of the class and we never heard from them again. It wasn't like, hey, sorry, we lost you, I feel really bad. And that's not what this entire podcast is about, but that's an example of some of the bullshit that's happening currently. Well, it's the steel for attention. And that's the thing. And so service is not about the attention.
00:12:36
Speaker
That you get from it, right? So it's like hey Or service is not about doing either the easy thing. What's easy? What's easy is just
00:12:46
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What would be easy is if we just said, Hey guys, we're going to work out every day in our garage at 10. We'll put the live feed on. You guys are welcome to join. Yeah. We'll put up workouts. Yeah. Well, and so somebody on a, some, someone, um, so it was Bruce actually who asked on the last between the years call, like I forget the exact question, but the essence of it was how did you guys basically make the change so fast?
00:13:14
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to go online. Before fucking anyone said to and we'll say it all the local gyms followed our lead yet again and you know what you don't like how that sounds show me the fucking details of that being different and so and we I will say we followed other people yes and we thank we personally reached out to those people and said hey thank you for being a leader yes I messaged both of those people a yoga studio and CrossFit New England and said
00:13:43
Speaker
Thank you for leading. That helped us. Yes, exactly. I have yet to receive a message from any affiliate because why would you? Why would you send out a thing? Hey, thanks for... I've sent number of messages to people saying, hey, this is what we're doing. Yes, because it's a constant... This is the thing, in my opinion, it's a constant...
00:14:07
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The CrossFit affiliate space, especially locally, the soil upon which it is built is insecurity. And that is a pathetic place. That is, in my world, my former world, that is a fucking dangerous place.
00:14:25
Speaker
when you are insecure and that drives actions to keep up, like you are going to lose. It is a losing battle when you operate from insecurity and needing to feel like you're keeping up. However, when you're operating from authenticity, ironically enough, because it's something that sometimes
00:14:43
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not being fully authentic, not by being trying to be inauthentic, but not by being fully authentic is what we struggle with, I struggle with, and vulnerability. And you operate from there. Now you have plenty of good soil to plant with. And so that's definitely upsetting a little bit. And I guess it's just like, even in saying this, there's part of me is thinking, oh shit, I hope
00:15:09
Speaker
Like, to be totally honest, God, I hope people don't think like, wow, they're such assholes or they're whatever. And then I think like, why does it matter? Like we have the frustration is, yes, taking the time to email someone. I got a message from someone not even in the state. Can you help with this affiliate?
00:15:28
Speaker
Sure. Send them an email. I never even got a response back. Like what is wrong with people? And I'm sorry, but like we're fucking busy. So don't tell me it's because you're busy. I get it. We're all busy. You and I are doing.
00:15:42
Speaker
Everything everything and I'm not and that's not a knock on that's by choice That's because we feel like that's the right thing and we have people that are you know, certainly our head coach and our Admin and our other coaches who are doing kids classes like people it's not because they're not stepping up and I know it's also because it's what we owe it That's our job as well in this in this particular situation I think some of the things that that translates into this is all sort of backstory to the point of today is
00:16:11
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is as it relates to a number of things, whether it's you at home, like as a, just a human, if it's affiliate owners, small business, if you are putting your head in the sand and just riding it out, like, all right, how many more days it's going to be? Just one, probably one more week or one more month. Like one, number one, first and foremost,
00:16:32
Speaker
you are doing yourself a massive disservice for your mental health, for your business's health. Like that shit is a, not a good trajectory. And so it's like, okay. And two, as we've talked about in another podcast, like we said, this talked about this last week perspective, like you're missing a whole freaking opportunity. You know, this morning I was biking,
00:16:59
Speaker
And I was thinking like, what, what's funny about this situation is if this was in like a normal scenario, okay? Like normal world irrelevant of COVID-19. And someone was like, Hey.
00:17:13
Speaker
This is a $2 million experiment
Pandemic as an Opportunity for Personal Growth
00:17:18
Speaker
thing. We're selecting very few people. We're going to give it to you for free, and you're going to go and be isolated for a month, and you're going to work on mindset. People will be like, oh, man, that would be so awesome. What a great opportunity. Man, can you imagine? Or if someone who had a lot of money could afford to go and
00:17:37
Speaker
Do that like maybe it costs a lot of money people be like hating on it like oh well I guess if you had a lot of money you could go do that and you could work on yourself and read and do all that stuff but I have life. You're in it. You are in that fucking experiment. Now I get it. There's challenges with jobs and things. Good. But like this is all one big fucking experiment and if you're just gonna like look the other way and pretend it's not there and
00:18:02
Speaker
You're missing, you're missing it. You're missing all of it. I mean, the part of me wants to also say, like, if you're just gonna, if we're all walking down the beach and you're sticking your head in the sand, part of me wants to say, get the fuck out of my way. If you want to do that, that's fine, but get out of the way. But then that would insinuate that you actually had the awareness that you're in someone else's way. And that's my problem with a lot of this, la, la, la, like, just close your eyes. It'll all be fine. Oh, it's another two days, another two weeks.
00:18:31
Speaker
That was like the essence of my post, like, do not complain. Like, I will not complain. I can be pissed off. And let's be clear, this is not complaining. This is acknowledging what is some, some atmospherics, but also saying this is what we will do about it. Right. What are we going to choose to do? Complaining is just being, it's, I'm, I just say. So anyway, so, so we were asked. Basically, how did you guys, what drove you guys to do what you did as fast as you did and as good as you did?
00:19:01
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And I said, obviously I couldn't speak for you, but it was only me on the call, but I said like, yes, because we are driven to lead, to provide value, and to serve. And those elements don't always come with comfort, convenience, known, certainly not likability,
00:19:28
Speaker
there's a higher level of risk. Everybody is going to do whatever it is as soon as the first person did. It's like the Roger Bannister effect. It's like everyone, of course, like, oh, yeah, now I can run a sub four minute mile. It's like, yeah, but guess what? Like you didn't at first. And so and in every community there are. And it's OK, not everybody can be the first person or everybody can be the leader. So it's no it's not a scoff on people that like aren't in that position.
00:19:56
Speaker
But that is the position we have taken. Right. And so that's from a business standpoint. From an individual standpoint, you better fucking look at how you are leading yourself during this. Because even though it's just about you, you influence other people. Yeah. And that is a major thing here.
00:20:19
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One of the problems, not one of the problems, one of my concerns is that we often, I often will say like, look, you can hold your breath for like, if we look at like, like these little challenges, right? These stupid 30 day challenges that don't actually do anything. You can hold your breath. Okay. Now I get at the whole point of, Oh, well, maybe it, maybe it raises your awareness and your attention to doing something and you get in the groove. Yep. Check. I got that.
00:20:49
Speaker
This is not that, right? We are getting to a point where if you hold your breath, everybody's done this. As a kid, you always used to do this in the pool. How long can you hold your breath for? You get to that point where there's that signal in your body, the buildup of, I guess, CO2. And it's like, oh fuck, I can't breathe.
00:21:13
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That's where we are. We are right now. We're not at the beginning where it's like, look at me, I'm underwater and I'm holding my breath. And it's like, Oh, okay. Okay. Yeah. Now it's like, you know, now it's like, there's a signal within you and it's like, Oh shit, this is real. Right. Unlike a pool. You get to control or in a pool you get to control or when you're on your couch, you get to control when you breathe. That's not the environment that we are in right now.
00:21:43
Speaker
You don't get to control that. Sure. You don't get to control what's happening. You don't get to control when this thing ends. Yes. Okay. There are things you do have control over. There are things you do have control over. Okay. And so that is where.
00:21:59
Speaker
That has always been my concern with this thing, because unlike most people, and again, this isn't to elevate myself, it's to show, it's just to say that unlike most people, I have spent quite a bit of time in isolation. I have spent like significant stress
00:22:21
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one by being confined like in that type of thing where sure I mean there was a time where it was half of a day locked in a small box with absurd things being played crying babies and torture and all of that stuff there's also been long periods under stress of complete silence and time with yourself
00:22:46
Speaker
What, what I have no, what I know, and I've seen it both on the success side and the failure side of people that are unable to be with themselves. There is, there is a, we are grossly unprepared for that in our society today. The phone distraction, Netflix distraction, the gym for a lot of folks distraction. Um,
00:23:17
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insert every other thing, right? So there's a disruption to that. What we're also learning is that the gym is
00:23:28
Speaker
The value of the gym is not people's development of physical fitness. The value of the gym is the human connection. The value of the gym is that stuff that extends far beyond, are you improving as
Leadership and Empathy in the Fitness Community
00:23:42
Speaker
an athlete? It doesn't matter. That is no longer what we're concerned with right now.
00:23:47
Speaker
Sure. I do think some of the value of the gym though is that interactive piece like and the normalcy of it. Yeah. And I think that's where the, I guess for some people, if your gym doesn't do a good job of coaching or whatever your coaching level is at your gym, whatever's happening online, as long as it's the same thing that was happening in the gym, at least there's a little bit of that normalcy. So keeping it the same. So that, so yes. Now here's the thing. That's one hour.
00:24:16
Speaker
So you've got a little bit of a sip of air with that one hour that cannot make up for the rest of the day, the rest of the environment. One of the things that fires you up is that.
00:24:31
Speaker
It's kind of like our people love us, not you. This isn't you. This is a general affiliate thing. This is like our people love us. People support us. They're so happy to have whatever. And that's just what we're at. Someone actually put up, I'm not going to stress myself right now trying to like try to coach them online. They love us. They support us. They're just happy to connect right now. And my issue is with some, with people in a leadership role, and I'm sorry, if you are an affiliate owner, if you are a business owner,
00:25:01
Speaker
You are in a leadership role. Like if you don't think that, I'm sorry, your business probably sucks. Leaders currently need to step up. They need to serve. But being in a leadership role and being a leader.
00:25:15
Speaker
Of course. Yes. Major difference. So how are you serving your people? And yes, the day that I said like, yeah, you know what? I don't really want to stress about it. I cannot even imagine those words coming out of my mouth. Now, what's interesting about that is just like everybody else and to your point,
00:25:35
Speaker
I need to be with myself and figure out not letting that service to others or the work I'm doing be a distraction either. I have my own, everybody's in their own unique situation, whether it's that you have a corporate job and you have little kids at home and we're coaching more classes, whatever that is. But this isn't the time to say, yeah, you know what? I'm just going to
00:26:01
Speaker
Sit back and like we'll take a back seat. I don't understand how I don't understand how anyone in a coaching capacity, be it CrossFit or whatever other kind of coaching would essentially say. I'm not going to stress right now, because basically what the changes I have to make given the universal application of what's happening from this pandemic.
00:26:31
Speaker
Like, no shit they didn't sign up for that. Obviously, people didn't sign up for at-home virtual fitness. But that is just the level of laziness that that is angering. But people also, as we know, want to look at that. And this was my issue with that group and say, oh, good. Other people are being lazy too. And that's the influence.
00:27:00
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you know someone else is looking at other and there were plenty of people on there who looked at who were saying like this is what we're doing anybody have thoughts like I want to be better but at this point I guess that's kind of our thing that I'm not sure and there's plenty of people we've run into
00:27:17
Speaker
You know, even in the neighborhood of walks like, yeah, I'm ready for this to be over with. OK, thank you for sitting the obvious. Like now part of it is, of course, I would like this to be over because every day that goes by and knowing the medical staff and seeing all these videos like it is not it is a horrible thing that is happening. There's people in the hospital right now. Yeah.
00:27:40
Speaker
And even the implications of that with people that are not sick related to this, like people who are pregnant, who now, what's that like? Delivering a baby.
00:27:51
Speaker
sick kids who their parents can't come see them in the hospital. There's all these things that are not good right now. I'll be honest. So of course, we want it to be over. Yeah, I'll be honest. I don't want this to be over for me. I could care less. I could go on like this probably forever. Right. It's about the other people that are suffering. It's about the other people. Yes, there is suffering in the world. And that's the whole thing. It's about the people who are actually experiencing the danger. Yes.
00:28:19
Speaker
Not the inconvenience. Now, there's this in-between of people who are, let's say, they lost their job, right? That's a tough one. That's a hardship now. That goes into that. I want this to be over for them so that they can get back to work, all right? And if you didn't lose your job,
Positivity and Unity in Times of Crisis
00:28:41
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If your stress level is just higher, and that's really the only thing that changed, you didn't lose your job, you still have your health, you as the individual, now what, you have to deal with your kids more, or you have to see your husband more, or your wife more, or whatever. And we're in that camp. Yeah, we're in that camp. We are not affected by this. Now, there's an effect, obviously, but we're not being victimized. We are not at risk of... So that group, our group,
00:29:11
Speaker
where we're in. And I think like to be honest, like in transparent, like I am working on and trying to be very aware of like, you know, okay, I am healthy, we do have an opportunity to still run our business. Sure, there have been some implications in that and it is scary to think of what could happen. However, today, what I can do, I have a brain and I have the ability, I have an outlet, I have a platform and I can continue to work. So
00:29:40
Speaker
The stress that we experience, which to be honest, my stress is thinking about like the other things, the other people that are suffering, what's going to happen. But there are ways to manage that. It's a lot easier to manage that. There are tools for that stress relief and how we learn about ourselves. That's our point.
00:30:02
Speaker
There's not the same tools for if you lost your job right now. If you lost your job, not a lot that you can like, no, you can now put yourself in that opportunity of like, okay, how do I still deal with this? Cause you have to go on every day.
00:30:14
Speaker
But I guess what I'm saying is most of us are in the camp of things have changed. There is an element of stress, but it's stuff that we can manage and we can learn and use it as an opportunity. And a lot of people are not doing that. We've received a couple of emails or, you know, which is, and people I think say like, don't feel the need to respond. And we respond, of course, saying like, it is incredible to hear people, you know, trying to,
00:30:43
Speaker
focus on their growth.
00:30:46
Speaker
as an individual during this time and see it as an opportunity and looking at that space. Yeah, and this is kind of getting back to not pulling punches. There's people, to include ourselves, who are, look, I think there's actually a beauty to what's happening worldwide right now. And by that, I mean at the human connection level in that
00:31:17
Speaker
I don't know when the last time that the world was this united about this, about a particular thing. Now, obviously, it would be better if it was about treating people with respect and dignity. Yeah, that would be nice, but that's not the case. I mean, around the world, there is a shared experience of this thing.
00:31:45
Speaker
There's a beauty in that, in that like we are all sort of connected in this way. And of course it sucks and no one would want it. But you, but, but that, that's the, that is the reality. And so, okay. So if you are inconvenienced, if you are, if there is higher stress because of the conditions that you have to operate within,
00:32:17
Speaker
Got it. Understood. If you have your health, if you have other people that you can talk to and connect to, even if not in person, but remotely, if you basically are being told, Hey, the best thing you can do right now is stay home, then stop your fucking crying.
00:32:40
Speaker
and step the fuck up and do something for yourself and for other people. Find a nurse
00:32:50
Speaker
and figure out how to help them. Find a doctor and figure out how to support them. So do something for yourself so that you can emerge from this better because you're not the one really sitting on your goddamn couch that's gonna get us through this. It's not you. You are a supporting element of this right now. You are not the main effort. The doctors, the nurses, everybody doing all that stuff. The people that are on the front lines. You owe it to them.
00:33:20
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To do something hmm and to be better from this because right now they are surviving They are wondering how they just don't want to get this thing Say what you will about the medical stuff of like it doesn't kill this like it doesn't matter They are the ones who have to put four different layers of protective gear on before they go ask somebody take someone's temperature I mean, that's insane, right? So they are the ones surviving you
00:33:49
Speaker
I'm pointing at you and me as well are not the ones surviving We have an opportunity to thrive and that's not being an opportunist That is serving the people who don't have that now because you know what when we get out of this thing They're gonna need that they're gonna need an opportunity to rebuild I want to believe and I think a lot of people are saying like oh, this is gonna change the world and I don't want to be a pessimist, but if you're not doing
00:34:15
Speaker
anything to grow, it's just going to snap right back to how you were. So in order for us to come out of this and having had there been, having it been, I don't want to say worth it, but having learned something from it, like in every negative thing or every tragedy, like God, if there's nothing you learn from it, then what a, what a true tragedy it was. So.
00:34:39
Speaker
That goes on many levels. That could be, and we talked about this last week, learning something. It could be something simple like, wow, you never cooked for your family, and now you do.
Embracing Change and Innovation
00:34:50
Speaker
Okay, it could be that. It could be learning what it is to support someone, as you're saying. It could be learning about yourself. It could be coming out of this and saying, wow, those three months, I learned a lot about myself. But by nature of putting your head in the sand, by nature of just counting the days,
00:35:08
Speaker
and just hoping it's only a week, that's that temporary state where you're not, you're going to look back and be like, wait, man, like every day I thought that was just it. So I didn't really do the work. Right. If you picture like, okay, this, this could very well be two months and
00:35:28
Speaker
I said this last time I disagreed on a call with another affiliate owner. I said like, yeah, we're planning for June. And I think that's even like an optimistic thing. Yeah. And it was, you know, kind of met with like, well, I'm just planning on two weeks. It's like, well, if I look at between now and June, man, there's so much I can learn. Wow. I have, I have three months to like, I can do this. I can do that. I can really sink my teeth in. If someone were to say like, well, we just have till Friday.
00:35:57
Speaker
Yeah. Yeah. Then I'm like, Oh, you know what? Like, all right, cool. I can just make it to Friday and I'll hold my breath. Right. So why wouldn't you look at the long game? What can I do? What could I,
00:36:08
Speaker
What can I build for myself, for my community, for somebody else, for my, for my work if I'm given three months? So yes, to the affiliate owners or business owners that are just going day by day. And I'm sorry, like people of course love you, but is that the right call? Like I would never,
00:36:31
Speaker
like take advantage of that people love each other in the community and that I'm just going to capitalize on that and know that they'll still pay us. No, that's bullshit. You're paying for, you can all get in a Zoom call and do a workout together and you don't need me. So if I'm going to provide a service, I'm going to learn how to provide the best service I can
00:36:55
Speaker
Like I'm building a new business. I have three months to build an incredible online business every day. And I spoke to another, you know, a yoga studio owner who has, you know, I really respect and same thing. She said, you know, today I'm looking at like, how am I doing the best job I can right now today and providing some time so I can be creative about what other solutions I can provide for this. It's a brand new business. Yeah. Um,
00:37:24
Speaker
What was I going to say? You, you said something about, you know, just the end game or what you can do in three months and not going back to just how we were learning something from it. Yeah. So when the part that really fires me up is because, oh boy, you're not fired up yet. Oh man. And this is again personal, but,
00:37:52
Speaker
I don't think it's over the top because it's not. What bothers me when I have bad days is that friends of mine, family members, friends of family members and stuff, who are no longer here, don't get to have bad days. And that drives me fucking nuts. And so right now, for those who are gonna pull through this, you owe it to them.
00:38:22
Speaker
You owe it to them, the nurses, the doctors, the garbage workers, the shop, like everybody, everybody out there that again, isn't just like, Hey man, best thing you do is sit on your ass. You owe it to them.
00:38:34
Speaker
to take advantage of this opportunity for you to get better as a human being. Because again, like they don't, they can, they will. Here's what I suspect too. The strong ones, they're going to come out of this and be like, you know what? That was awful. That was terrible. I would never wish it upon anyone. I learned so much about myself.
00:38:53
Speaker
And it's like so then so so who that is because that is who they are sure you have an opportunity right now To learn about yourself in a way that without literally a global pandemic You would not voluntarily do yeah, so look for resources look for tools and yes I will say it between the ears and the practice and all the stuff that I do with between the ears and
00:39:19
Speaker
will provide a roadmap and a guidance and coaching and interaction and all of that for it. So take that for whatever it's worth.
Tools and Strategies for Personal Development
00:39:31
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If you wanna use the opportunity that you're in, you're in this, you're in it regardless, then we're open. And, you know, I don't know. I, you know. And I'm sorry, but I think that has,
00:39:50
Speaker
Like, and why feeling like that bothers me to feel bad about, you know, promoting that or saying like, here's a tool. There are so many people selling their shit right now. And yeah, I guess there's nothing wrong with selling whatever you're selling an ad program or whatever. But I will say at this point, selling
00:40:15
Speaker
work on how to not lose your fucking mind is probably going to trump abs right now. Yeah. And it's not only, you know, and it's like, and it's not just like, Hey, don't lose your mind. It's find your fucking self. It's find your mind. It's, you know, and so from people's perspective, people are struggling with like, I'm losing my mind and I get it like, so I discounted it 50% to practice, which is
00:40:40
Speaker
There's nothing like it. There's literally nothing like it out there. And, you know, but again, you have to actually do it. Discounted by 50 percent, which I'm not like it's not like I make like that's not a good. Yeah. You know, like I'm not retiring anytime soon. And I get the thing. It's just a crazy time right now. It's just there's just so much unknown. It's like that's the point. And I'm going to this is since we're just why why not just say it all. Go ahead.
00:41:10
Speaker
OK. Oh boy. People are people have commented all over the place about God at least the liquor stores open. Now I get it. A liquor store is also a business. So I'm not suggesting don't support businesses. I understand that. Yeah. But OK. You're spending money. Yeah. On alcohol. Right. I am sure people's budgets exceed with the practices per month on alcohol.
00:41:40
Speaker
Well, yeah, I mean, but I'm just saying it's what we're choosing. And that's just an example. Okay. I'm not, I'm not criticizing alcohol consumption. I'm not judging that. All I'm saying is yes, I understand a couple hundred dollars, whatever. And if you lost your job, like understood, like I'm not, this isn't a blanket statement, but for most people right now,
00:42:04
Speaker
It's the choice of what you're investing in. Well, it's a cup of coffee a day. It's what you're investing in. It's for three months. And for a lot of people, they lost their Starbucks. So awesome. Take that. But my point is, for a lot of people, it's about what you're going to choose to use that for and what you're going to do with it. I think what's funny, and I was thinking for us, I mean, we don't go out that much.
00:42:31
Speaker
I'm sure some of that recreational spending for people is down, whether it's by way of a vacation, a weekend trip, going out to restaurants. So maybe that is something you say like, okay, normally we spend this on recreation. I'm going to take a part of that and spend it on myself. Yeah, of course. And I think. But the fear of, I don't know, like, and that's the thing is,
00:43:00
Speaker
That in that it's like a cycle. It's like well, you're afraid of investing in that because you don't know what's gonna happen But if you invested in it, it would probably help you prepare for what's going to happen Whatever is gonna happen like so a lot of people probably that have done the you know people have told you that did the practice that prepared them for this Yes, the people that are in it where that so I have a group that's entering the final week. Mm-hmm
00:43:26
Speaker
And we had a call and, you know, been in contact with him, obviously. And I kind of said like, look, obviously I don't want this thing to happen. Yeah. But this happened at the perfect time. You've done two months of work and it's like, this is game day. Not this happened at the perfect time, but for you, you're prepared for you. The timing of this for them is the timing that this thing really kicked off. Now there's somebody in China, believe it or not.
00:43:54
Speaker
one of your still doing it. Yeah, they were ahead of it and she's crushing it doing so like and not like from oh doing workouts and no like like as a human being and learning about herself and and note and feeling these differences.
00:44:12
Speaker
By the timing element, I mean that you've done a lot of training, you've done a lot of work, you've gotten into the practice, you've gotten into the groove. Ideally, anybody listening that hasn't done it, yeah, it would have been great if you signed up two months ago, but you didn't. And that's okay, you can sign up now. And so one of the things is that it's like the game day. So by saying like, I'm not ready, so then you're telling me you're not ready for life.
00:44:40
Speaker
And that I don't understand. I think I'm empathetic, but I don't understand that. Right. It's not to say that it's a, I mean, so I started 2.0. I've done the regular practice twice, started the second iteration, and it was kind of interesting because I think when I said it to you, like,
00:45:00
Speaker
That I'm doing it I was I was really excited to have that for myself at this time like to get to have that tool right and I've done a lot of work and I'm nowhere near Done. I mean like no one is but and so for me that one week just to speak to it a little bit and
00:45:20
Speaker
Like, I mean, I could spend another month on week one, but like what I learned and one of the tools that came up and, you know, I don't want to get into details because I do think it's valuable for people to have their own experience with it. But like, man, that tool alone, like I used it yesterday. I got really frustrated yesterday when that whole thing happened with the disaster guest coaching.
00:45:44
Speaker
And I realized very quickly, like, okay, I'm seeing this very clearly where I am. Where do I need to go? What's going to help me get me there? I mean, Jesus, like, but you had that framework, that cool. Yeah. And you, but, but, and this is the thing too. And obviously you're my wife, but like, I want to, and I actually, once you finished the workout, I was like, so you can tell me about it. And you were like, can I just do this as a, like, treat me like a regular client? I'm like, all right, that's cool. I respect that.
00:46:12
Speaker
I presented to you the tool and the concept.
00:46:16
Speaker
But if you don't take it and do the work and make it yours, or if you just try to say, hey, what did he say again? No, no, no, no, no. Make it yours. That's the thing. Everybody doing this makes it theirs. It's not about reciting. It's not about thinking about it. It's about doing this stuff, finding the trueness of it within yourself, how these things apply. Yes, I'm very, very good at what I do. I will fucking say it. I'm very good at what I do.
00:46:43
Speaker
And I can help you, but I can't help you if you don't help yourself. And so if you help yourself, then you get to step into the thing. The other thing moving forward is stop looking back.
00:47:00
Speaker
Enough with saying I just wanted to go back to the way it was it's fucking not it's not going to and guess what it never will Whoever thought of that one. I don't understand. Why are we saying that? It's not gonna go back. Yeah. Well, and that's that same like kind of
00:47:17
Speaker
wasted energy just like complaining. It's a huge exercise. I just wanted to go back to the way it was. Yeah, I get it. But you know what? But the other thing is pay attention to what you're saying. Because your language, and this is why when I have my mindset lecture at the seminar, the mode of self-communication, language, it matters. Don't just take it for granted. Don't just throw it away.
00:47:45
Speaker
It matters what you're saying, how you're behaving, your facial features, your body posture, the tone of the voice, the words you use, words have meanings. Meanings are important. So this whole thing, like I just wanted to go back to the way it was. Yeah. And I wish it was sunny and 75 degrees every day, but I live in New Jersey and so it's not going to happen. And so looking forward, instead of saying I wanted to go back.
00:48:08
Speaker
Right. No. What do you want to go forward? And how do you want to be? And yes, it would be, you know, and we all need tools for that. So I think, you know, the message there is there are tools.
00:48:23
Speaker
for people. I applaud people that are going, getting online, moving their tables out of the way, doing their workouts. Literally making room. Yeah. And like someone said that yesterday, it's impressive to see people literally making room for this in their life and not just having it be checking a box. One of our members said that. And that is an awesome, that is awesome, like having that accountability.
00:48:47
Speaker
and that time with yourself the next step would be beyond just the workout and with something interesting you said was people are a little more hyper aware like people are saying that they're getting more coaching now because
Adaptation and Accountability
00:49:02
Speaker
Like my awareness, I'm fixed on the screen with people. I can just move very quickly through people because they're right there in front of my face to be able to cue them. Yeah. Um, but you said also that people are a little bit more aware and tuned in. They might have music on in the background, but in order to hear me, I think most people don't. And so you are feeling like you're breathing, you're hearing yourself breathing, you're in your own space. Um, so our,
00:49:31
Speaker
thing is like the message I think today is like, do not piss away this opportunity and stop treating it like now. I think there's value to looking at each day as like today's a new opportunity. I don't think there's anything wrong with just like in a long workout, like, okay, I'm going to focus on these five quality reps and then I'm going to focus on this next five quality reps. I think it's fine to look at
00:49:59
Speaker
smaller chunks in terms of how you approach things, but understanding that it's part of a bigger, longer thing. And what do you want to do with that longer time chunk that you've been given? And so, yes, things like working on your mindset between the years, using a tool, finding a tool. If you're a business owner, Jesus, like,
00:50:22
Speaker
you should look back in three months and have built something, have done something, have provided something, not just made change. You shouldn't though, but that's the thing. You're saying you should do that and I disagree. I think the opportunity is there. Now, of course the whole, I'm kind of deviating from when the shame and the could kind of combination to make should. You don't have to.
00:50:46
Speaker
No, of course. I, what I'm saying is I, I am just as about, this is our personal opinion. Right. I'm just, but I'm saying, but you're saying you as an affiliate owner, you as a gym owner, you have a business owner, you should learn from this. And it's like, why, why should they? They should like that's, that's on them. They, there's no over, but that's what I'm, we're saying the whole time. Anybody listening, why should they, why should they? It's just cause you said they should. And I'm saying like, that's the difference though. That's your.
00:51:15
Speaker
like yes I think my personal belief is it would be a shame if you didn't learn grow yes take this opportunity and that's it that is why though quality rises well honestly that's the thing it's like hey you have time on your hands what does XYZ
00:51:38
Speaker
quality rises what's but not this is a tangent but I mean hey between the years doesn't have a million followers guess who does the person yesterday who guest coached who provided not really much service so yes that's a whole other discussion but for the people that we are serving right I will say speak for myself I would like to look back yes in three months in four months whenever yes and say wow I
00:52:07
Speaker
learned about myself. I provided service and continued continued like it's not just like cool done all right we're just going to roll this out for the next four months like continued to try to provide and grow. So how does it start how do you start that then? Right well first you start and say like I'm going to do that I'm committing to that and then I think it is
00:52:31
Speaker
Sure, taking action steps every day. So for the mindset stuff, yes, I signed up for 2.0. Now I get it. I didn't have to pay you for that. That's... Wow. But taking hold of something as a tool, I think is the main thing in both of those areas. So for an affiliate, maybe the tool is you have to learn about a new thing. So what about someone who's listening? Because I don't know how many affiliate owners listen to this. Yeah. Okay.
00:53:03
Speaker
people that are just the average person. Yeah, I think it looks a lot like some of the stuff we've talked about. What are the action things you're going to do every day to commit to that process of learning about yourself? And there's a million of them and we've been through them. What I, and this, sure, this is a plug, this is a whatever. I find personally, it's hard to do that.
00:53:29
Speaker
alone, without support, without guidance. That is why there's a coaching role. That's the same reason why people are showing up to classes, because doing it on their own, in their basement, not the same. So finding a tool, whether that's between the ears, or sure, maybe it is a book, or I don't know. I don't know what other, I have not found other tools, to be honest, other than between the ears, that have really impacted my growth as a human. But find something. But there is one, and I just put a post up about it today, and so when you listen to this, it'll be yesterday's.
00:54:00
Speaker
Open up a journal. Yeah. And start writing. Right. And that's what I love about it. It's free. Yeah. It's not contingent upon technology. And it is a giant mirror. And that is the thing that all of this work does. Sure. It's a mirror. It's a light source. It's an azimuth within yourself.
00:54:30
Speaker
And so I agree with you and be like, you know, first you have to say, I'm going to do it. Well, awareness is where it starts. Awareness is the whole. Like that is the soil or that is the foundation is like, yeah, what taking a little inventory and I think we can all do that. And maybe that's something, you know, I think I would like to do today is just doing a little inventory on like, how am I being?
00:54:59
Speaker
And I had to unsubscribe to that thing today, taking a look at some of the things I'm doing. Yeah. Okay. What am I engaging in this? That's helping and serving and what is just pure hurting and following that page and, and feeling all those, whatever. That's not.
00:55:19
Speaker
doing anything positive for me, for anybody else. So, okay. But without stopping and seeing it. Bingo. Is like, then it's just rolling into the next day. Well, and I think that the thing is that the pause, we talk about the pause all the time.
00:55:34
Speaker
You know, all the time, whatever. We're talking about the pause. The pause is super valuable. The pause is like, what I love about the pause is that I think a lot of times people view a pause and they think about like stopping something and you know, it's this temporary thing. A pause is an active expression of the present.
00:55:50
Speaker
It's truest form and that to me is so fucking cool like by pausing You're actually giving life to the present which we would say oh, that's filled with action Yes, because there is action in the pause so having the pause opens up the present and Then allows you to have the awareness by taking inventory. What do we mean by that? Okay real quick simple models and
00:56:16
Speaker
physical, mental, emotional. What am I doing? What am I thinking? What am I feeling?
00:56:24
Speaker
Okay. That's what next one. How am I thinking? How am I behaving? Right. How am I thinking? How am I feeling? How is that impacting others? Right. Well, that's the big one. Looking at it. Yeah. And like, and for a lot of people we've been, and we've said this, we've been used to being in each other's space. I do want to acknowledge, I think for a lot of people that alone,
00:56:48
Speaker
can be challenging navigating my space, your space, we're together all day. Like we've had that experience. So I think for family dynamics, for partnerships, for relationships, this could be if you're not doing that work and taking that inventory. Yeah.
00:57:05
Speaker
You know, on top of now, whatever that normal stress is, now you're adding relationship stress, which is huge. Right. That aggravation, that irritability, the fighting, then how are your kids perceiving that? Well, and you need the releases too. Yeah. Like you need the releases. Some people, it's the gym.
00:57:20
Speaker
Got it. That's great. Some people that go to an office or have work or have friends or whatever, that has been, your release valve has been blocked. The coffee dates, the water cooler, the scene, the colleague, whatever it might be, that interaction, your commute. Yeah. Big one, right? Like your commute for sure. Now what is being, not only is that release valve being blocked, but that buildup is adding to the overall pressure, which is already very, very high.
00:57:51
Speaker
the fucking journal is your release valve. And I mean, it's there. You had a couple rough days or like a rough day on Monday, I think it was. And that awareness is saying like, okay, like self-care, like what am I missing? And like you've been back to like the journaling and nobody's perfect, but like the practice of that awareness, I think can help make it something that instead of it being a week,
00:58:20
Speaker
or cascading into this week-long sort of problem, you get a day and you're able to kind of get back on track. So the practice of awareness, too, makes it a little bit easier. It's not to say you're not going to have a bad day or slip up or take a day, you know, whatever. But it does get easier. And, you know, for me, I've been
00:58:46
Speaker
Like I like, I think it's healthy for me to move in the morning. We've said that. So now when I coach the seven, I don't even leave the garage. I go right into doing my thing and then I coach the nine and like, or if you're a commuter.
00:59:01
Speaker
Maybe you get up a little early, you do your like, like, instead of commuting, you go for a walk. If you usually listen to a podcast on your commute, put your earphones in, go do a walk to, you know, like start thinking long-term in that same way of like, what are some things I can put into action? How, when can I, instead of commuting, maybe that's journaling time, maybe it's family journaling, whatever it is, but thinking ahead is the point that we were trying to make today about
00:59:28
Speaker
long term. Okay. If this is three months, how can I put in place things to be a positive?
Conclusion: Seizing Growth Opportunities
00:59:34
Speaker
Yeah. And that's the thing you have, you cannot be a passenger to this and get in the front seat and take the steering wheel, get out of the back seat. Right. While also realizing
00:59:47
Speaker
The road, like you can be a driver in very, in a little, not that much. You can't control when this thing ends. You can't control any of that. So like you don't have much control right now. Throwing your hands up in the air, putting your head in the sand is just continuing to be a passenger.
01:00:10
Speaker
when you don't have to be, when you're already a passenger, honestly, in so much. And that's kind of the thing, like, that's why it's like, yeah, it fires us up. You might not be able to control the road or where it's going, but you can like hold the steering wheel and decide how fast or slow you're going. And there's other things you can control. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
01:00:35
Speaker
Well, hopefully we didn't piss too many people off, but if we did, I don't care. Yeah.
01:00:42
Speaker
You're not listening anyway, probably. Um, all right. So what do we got? We have obviously the practice, obviously Jim, if you are from a different area and you do want, if your gym is closed or you're looking to get in on what we're talking about, um, send us a message. Be people are joining that are not locals and aren't. And once this thing ends, we'll say, awesome. See you later. Um,
01:01:10
Speaker
What else is there? You can try a class too. Yeah, you can try a class, do all that. But yeah. Yeah. So that's that's what we got going on. I think I'm going to figure out how to do an online seminar. Yeah. There's some demand for it. And it's been an idea that, you know, again, like.
01:01:28
Speaker
Pushing you to do things that you otherwise want to do. So I think for the, you know, what would be helpful to is hearing what as it relates to this stuff or your current space, what is helpful. Like now we have sort of a direction. And so as it relates to the podcast, you know, whereas before it might have been like not something people were thinking of. If there is something we can
01:01:48
Speaker
address or talk about or work through in the coming podcasts and happy to do so. So you're saying like asking for topics of discussion, like, yeah, things people are showing other. Okay. Now I'm doing this. What about that? So anyway, yeah, I will always open to having a dialogue of the interaction. So either way, do something, let us know what you do. And it's getting released on my birthday. Happy birthday, animal.
01:02:13
Speaker
Well, it's not today. But it's... Well, tomorrow. I'm telling you today, tomorrow. Okay. Goodbye. Which is today.