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Loneliness, Race, and Romance: Exploring the Ressa Tessa Story
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In today's episode of "Unsolicited Perspectives," Bruce Anthony delves deep into the tale of loneliness, race, and romance through the incredible journey of Ressa Tessa. Join us as we explore how societal pressures and the profound desire for connection can lead individuals down complex paths, often intertwining with issues of identity and societal expectations. From the depths of personal stories to the broader implications on cultural norms, this episode is a testament to our ongoing quest for understanding and empathy. #Loneliness #Race #Romance #RessaTessa #UnsolicitedPerspectives
Bruce's conversation is not just a tale told; it's an invitation to look beyond the surface, challenging viewers to confront their own perceptions and biases. As we navigate through Ressa Tessa's story, we're reminded of the power of storytelling in understanding the nuanced realities of race, the craving for love, and the resilience of the human spirit.
This episode also takes you on a journey through the complexities of human emotions, societal roles, and the invisible threads that connect us all. It's a must-watch for anyone passionate about diving into the heart of what makes us tick, laugh, cry, and, most importantly, grow.
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CHAPTERS:
0:00 - Intro
0:57 - Catching Up
6:12 - The Floor is Lava Game Show
9:04 - Jamelle Hill’s Perspective on the Game Show
18:16 - Why People Don’t Want to Talk About Race
18:56 - Me Too Movement
23:19 - Dennis from Always Sunny in Philadelphia
25:11 - Liquid IV
28:14 - Ressa Tessa
39:00 - The Power of Perception vs Reality
43:10 - People Will Believe a Lie Because They Want to Believe It
45:30 - The Power of Intuition
46:25 - Why People Settle
51:20 - What is Your Legacy
54:14 - Final Thoughts on Rea Teia
57:57 - Outro
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Introduction and Podcast Promotion
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Speaker
Welcome. First of all, welcome. This is unsolicited perspectives. I'm your host, Bruce Anthony, here to lead the conversation in important events and topics that are shaping today's society. Join the conversation and follow us wherever you get your audio podcasts. Subscribe to our YouTube channel to watch our video podcasts. Rate, review, like, comment, share, share with your friends, share with your family, help, even share with
Sibling Happy Hour and Viral Sensation
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your enemies.
00:00:35
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On today's episode, it's a sibling happy hour redo. I'm here with my sis, J Andrea. We're going to be deadly daddling a little bit, and then we're going to talk about this viral sensation, Risa Tisa. That's enough of the intro. Let's get to the show. What up, sis? What up, brother?
00:01:01
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I can't call it, look, this is a for real happy hour because I'm lit and you are lit. So we don't know where this show is going to go. It's really starting off the rails.
Recording Challenges and Roscoe's Antics
00:01:15
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Why are you saying starting off the rails?
00:01:18
Speaker
Because of what you just said. I'm saying that in response to what you just said. Well, OK. Well, look, to the listening and watching the audience, we ain't going to be quick with our responses today because we're a little inebriated, but it's the happy hour. And it's a special edition that we do. It's literally the title of the show, guys. Right. It was good to see you in person. I know people are going to be asking, why didn't y'all do the show in person? Because I don't have the equipment to do that.
00:01:46
Speaker
We do, but we just, we don't just the logistics. But we don't have the equipment to do it. I mean.
00:01:54
Speaker
Me and you have gone, all right, behind the scenes, ladies and gentlemen, me and my sister have gone back and forth about, do we have the equipment to do it live and in person? Yes, sorta, no, kinda. Okay, so that's really the answer to the question. Can we get the equipment to do it in person? Absolutely, that's not a problem. I can set that all up. Yeah. Did we have the capability to do it in person this weekend? Maybe. Yeah, we did.
00:02:24
Speaker
Okay, maybe we did, but it would have meant more work for me in post-production. What does that have to do
Black Representation and Racial Ignorance Discussion
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with me? Okay, exactly. Ladies and gentlemen, that's our relationship right there. That's our relationship right there. That seems like something, that's a personal problem.
00:02:39
Speaker
Okay, that you work out on your own, but that doesn't mean that we couldn't have done it. We definitely could have. And so ladies and gentlemen, Bruce has robbed you of that. So what are you talking about? What are you talking about? No, that is crazy. But no, I think I think that the live or in person show that I think that's I think that's coming.
00:03:04
Speaker
Yeah, I mean, it's coming. It's just not the way that you wanted to do it when you were here. Like I said, it's more work for me. I want to do it so there's a smoother transition after we film the episode. But that's giving people too much. Jay, what was that? I got to meet Roscoe. I'm going to get to that. I'm going to get to the other thing that I was going to talk about. But I got to meet Roscoe. Yes. That little bugger. I'm telling y'all. He's going to hit this entire trip. Of course he has because he's freaking adorable. Yeah.
00:03:34
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Yeah. Now he could be Michael Jackson. How could he be Michael Jackson? Really cute as a kid and not grow up so cute. Michael did that to himself. No, no, I was going. He went through a
00:03:51
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slight ugly phase, but that wasn't slight. That was real ugly. By the time he got to the Thriller album, I mean, yes, off the wall, he was ugly on that album cover. Yes. He was ugly. Um, but by the time we got to, you know, Thriller, he, if he had just stopped there, I think he did stop there. No, he continued to hack at his face.
00:04:19
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Okay, maybe he did. Yeah, maybe he did. But now homeboy and his teenage years I was I fell down a slippery YouTube slope last night. Oh Lord of listening to old Jackson stuff because there's something that popped up on my feed. They had cast all of the Jackson brothers.
00:04:37
Speaker
Okay. And they were showing side by sides of the Jackson brothers as the Jackson brothers, the guys playing the Jackson brothers as they were during the victory tour. And oh my God.
Race, MeToo, and Self-Reflection
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This is the Michael Jackson biopic. Yeah, the Michael Jackson biopic. And oh my God, the casting phenomenal as far as the look.
00:04:59
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Yeah. So I fell down a rabbit hole just listening to Jackson songs. And sure enough, when Michael was about 16, 15, 16, yeah, he was ugly. Yeah. He was ugly. So that's what I was talking about with Roscoe. Roscoe is adorable. Might be the cutest puppy I've ever seen in my entire life. Yes. Is he always going to be that way? It's a question. I believe he will. Let's hope. Because he is my son. So. OK. OK, I don't have ugly children.
00:05:29
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All right. I think he will. I think he'll be a handsome young gentleman. How is he a hit? Oh, with everybody. With everybody. Everybody has cuddled him today. He's gotten so much love that he is exhausted. So he's in a crate in the sleep. But everybody he was a hit with everybody. Everybody thinks he's adorable. I
00:05:54
Speaker
Listen, I walk into homes and he just disappears from my arms and I don't see him
Marriage, Legacy, and Societal Pressures
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again until I'm about to leave. He just gets passed around and he loves it. And so, yeah, he's definitely he's been a hit. Even his little bark is cute. This little bark is cute. All right. You showed me something on TikTok or Instagram about this game show. Yes.
00:06:20
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And can you explain to the audience what this video was that you sent to me or that you showed me? So it's a game show on Hulu called The Floor. And I don't know anything about this game show. I'd never heard of it. But Saturday Night Live did a parody of the show and everybody thought
00:06:46
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Oh, it's just Saturday Night Live exaggerating. It's just satire. Yeah. And no, it's not. So basically it what it appears to be is they show pictures of people and you have to go back and forth with you and your opponent, identifying the person in the picture. And it could be anything. But it was always famous people, whether in, you know, entertainment or politics or whatever.
00:07:15
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And the video was a compilation of white contestants answering who's pictured in the picture. And at every
Risa Tisa's TikTok and Relationship Analysis
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time a black person was featured, they would pass.
00:07:35
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Now I'm sure they did cuts. I'm sure there were some people that did know who these black celebrities were, but it was overwhelmingly- Enough of them didn't that they were able to make this TikTok video.
00:07:50
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So, you know, I mean, that's, hey, ladies and gentlemen, I'm gonna be real honest, if you put Margot Ruby in front of me, Robbie, in front of me, and I don't know, Dakota Fanning, I might not be able to tell the difference between the two. I definitely won't be able to tell between, her name is Jamie, she's an actress, Jamie something, but she was in like Joe Dirt,
00:08:14
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She was in Joe Dirt and she was in My Name is Earl. I know, or at least I think that's who you're talking about. Her and Margaret Ruby. If you try to put them, you lost me. Them with 1990s Christina Applegate, I can't tell them apart. I understand Christina Applegate because of Mary with Children. She has distinctive, because I was such a fan of Mary with Children and
00:08:41
Speaker
Don't shoot me The Babysitter's Dead. What was the movie that she was in? Don't tell mom The Babysitter's Dead. Don't tell mom The Babysitter's Dead, which, by the way... Hilarious. Hilarious. I don't know if the movie still holds up, but I'm going to assume that it does. You know what? I think that's something I'm going to do this weekend, is watch Don't Tell Mom The Babysitter's Dead. Hey, look, going back and watching old 90s movies, not a bad thing.
00:09:03
Speaker
But the reason why I brought this up is because Jamel Hill. And for those of you who don't know Jamel Hill, Jamel Hill got her start being a sports writer. She has our own podcast, Unbothered. She's a media personality now. I have been a huge fan of hers going all the way back to, I don't know, 10, 15 years ago when she was on partner interruption. No, not partner, I'm sure, around a horn.
00:09:27
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just a brilliant, brilliant writer. She posted something on her Instagram in response to the video that you sent me. And I want to read it for the audience and for you. Okay. Because I think she had a very interesting perspective and take on this. Okay. All right. So this is Jamel Hill, you can see her Instagram at Jamel Hill.
00:09:50
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at Jamel Hill. All right, she says, it wasn't until I was in college at Michigan State that I realized how little a lot of white people knew about black people and frankly, their lack of curiosity about us in general. It was then that I also realized that white people were completely capable of designing a life where they didn't have to know anything about black people at all.
00:10:12
Speaker
Black people have had to learn white people because so much of our survival and existence depends on what we know about them. So while this is amusing, speaking about the video, she says, so while this is amusing, it is also an unfortunate reminder of our precarious, how precarious our space in the world can be. And I thought, yes. Yeah, she's absolutely right. There's so many times where
00:10:39
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And this isn't a knock on white people living their lives because people
00:10:46
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People surround themselves with what's comfort and what's familial. Yeah. Black people hang out with black people, white people hang out with white people, Spanish people hang out with Spanish people, Italian people hang out with Italian people, Asian people hang out with Asian people, gay people hang out with gay people, transgender people hang out with transgender people. You identify with your tribe by and large, generally speaking. So that in and of itself isn't a problem.
00:11:10
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What is a problem is when the majority can literally segregate themselves so much to the point where they don't even know black celebrities. Yeah. Because black existence doesn't have to be included in their life. At all. They can consume media. Exactly. That does not include us whatsoever.
00:11:36
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And that's the reason why the uproar with Beyonce joining the country music got such backlash from certain people in that community. Once again, I say certain people, not all. There was a lot of people that completely embraced it because it's Beyonce, it's a major star. So I'm going to bring more eyeballs to your genre of music. But some people were like, no, this is ours. And like, first of all, it's not yours. Second of all, you can't put a claim on anything. If this is America,
00:12:06
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And we're all share share alike because it's a melting pot. Guess what? It's a melting pot. We all have our hand in it and can take claim to what is Americana. So it's just it's interesting to me that so many of my white friends don't realize that
00:12:26
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that they don't have to deal with race. And they say to me, why do you always talk about race? Because it's a part of my existence. Only because you make it no, because society makes it a part of my existence. I'm a proud black man. And what they have to understand is that the ability to live your life in such a way where race is not a factor,
00:12:52
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is white privilege, it's the definition of it. That's what we talk about when we talk about white privilege, is that you don't have, there's a whole world that you don't have to even be bothered with if you don't want to be bothered with. And we don't have that option. No. We really don't. And we don't have that option to assimilate
00:13:15
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Like so many other minorities have that ability to do. Right. Don't get it twisted. Italians, Americans, Italians, when they got here were extremely discriminated against. So what did they do? They assimilated into the culture. They changed their names. Yeah. They got rid of the accents after a certain generation. They almost denied their Italian
00:13:40
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cultural heritage. Yeah. To assimilate because that's what they were told to do all the while. America is saying, bring me everybody and it's a melting pot. It's a melting pot when you assimilate into whatever is American culture. And I still technically can't figure that out. I've always hated the term melting pot because the visual that I get is a bunch of different ingredients.
00:14:09
Speaker
being added to a pot, great. Yeah, bring me all that. But what comes out is one meal. It could be delicious though. Yeah, it could be, but it just invokes this idea of, yeah, we want all these different ingredients, but we want to see one meal. So you have to be, this is how you have to assimilate to be considered an American.
00:14:40
Speaker
Yeah. You can come here, but you have to join this one meal. Hmm. Yeah. You dropped the bar right there. You had it so that it just always gave me that image. And so I always hated the idea. I'm like, I think you guys are thinking melting pot is a good thing.
00:15:01
Speaker
And it might not be. I mean, you add your flavor to an overall dish when you're a melting pot, but you lose your essence. Yeah. You lose your individual identity. You've now become a part of this one thing called America, this business known as America.
00:15:23
Speaker
Oh, boy, here she go again. But no, so I just thought that was really interesting. And I wanted to bring it up because I love when brilliant people do think pieces on something that can make people something that's so simple, but is often overlooked.
00:15:43
Speaker
and can make people really think, and so people will constantly say, you guys always talk about race on your podcast, and it's, you know, you can learn something if you want to. We're trying to give you a perspective of which either you haven't sought out, didn't know that you weren't looking for it, didn't know that you were ignoring it, or you were trying to learn more, you came here and we're gonna give it to you. If you wanna learn,
00:16:13
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We'll teach you.
00:16:14
Speaker
we'll show you what it's like for us if it's something that you're interested in. If you're not interested in it, then you're not really interested in the bettering and the moving forward and the progression of America. And I really can't have a conversation with you. So if you're annoyed by it, you know, I'm just telling you my experience. I don't understand why in their minds the idea of bringing up or talking about or having a dialogue about race
00:16:44
Speaker
has this negative connotation to it. Well, I do know it's because it makes them uncomfortable. Yeah. Nobody else is uncomfortable talking about race, except white people. Well, no, I think a lot of people are uncomfortable talking about race. No, I don't think so. We just don't find a problem with it. But there are some black people that are uncomfortable talking about race. But they can, though. They can. I think everybody can.
00:17:14
Speaker
I don't think everybody can. I think everybody can if they choose to live in that discomfort. Right. That's what I'm saying. The reason me talking about my blackness is got some negative connotation to it is because it makes you uncomfortable. It's not because what I'm saying is actually a negative thing. Right. It's just simply your own discomfort.
00:17:43
Speaker
And so now anytime we try to have conversations about race, it's got this, it already has this dark cloud hanging over it because, and nobody wants to do it and nobody wants to face it, but it's just.
00:17:58
Speaker
There's nothing wrong with having the conversation. There's just nothing wrong with it. It's just a small segment of the population has some discomfort. And so that means that all of us have to act like we're not walking around here black and brown. And that it means something to walk around here black and brown. Right.
00:18:21
Speaker
Right. You know where I see a parallel in this conversation and we'll move, we will get to Reese's Pieces. That's, again, I told you several times in pre-production, it is Reese's Tiesa. I just like Reese's Pieces. You gonna put some respect on her social media handle. Reese's Pieces, no disrespect. You still did it. No, I said Tiesa's. I said, I put the T on it, not a P. Reese's Tiesa. Well, Tiesa, Pisa. No.
00:18:51
Speaker
OK, but but going back to the race conversation, you know where I see a lot of parallels with this and especially when my white male friends and I are talking. You know, the other place where they find extreme discomfort. Racism. And then the feminism. Oh, my God, when me to. Is me to still. Out there, are there still hashtags me to now or is it kind of
00:19:19
Speaker
I think it's petered out. Yeah, it's petered out. But like George Floyd, petered out. But when Me Too was out there pumping, oh my God, so many of my white male friends got so agitated. It was like, OK, I understand. Like it's a big deal. Women are being mistreated. But I'm so tired of hearing about it. I'm like, bruh, shut up and just listen. Well, you agitated because you just found out you're a predator.
00:19:47
Speaker
Well, they found out that- No, you just found out, not you. I'm saying- Well, no, because I take the white male out of it. I'm taking just male to realize- The reason why any man hearing about women fighting back against sexual harassment
00:20:08
Speaker
finds it uncomfortable to talk about is because you just found out that you're a predator. Because whatever story is out there, whatever woman is sharing her story, it sounds real similar to some things that you've done. You was about to cuss. I saw it on your face. I almost did, but I remember this is not the after hours. It's not. It's not the after hours.
00:20:30
Speaker
But you almost, I saw it in your face. I almost hit it. Yeah, I know. But then I didn't. You're right, you didn't. You didn't, I applaud you. And I would be uncomfortable too if I found out that I was a predator. So, yeah. Take race completely out of it. Take gender. Me as a cis male.
00:20:52
Speaker
When Me Too came out, I had to really take a hard look at myself. Now, I can honestly and openly say that I believe there is no woman out there ever that's ever dealt with me that will say, Bruce did something untoward.
00:21:09
Speaker
Yeah. Well, untoward. There's degrees of that, right? I get your meaning. You get my meaning. Right. Ladies and gentlemen out there. Let me just point out that I'm a very respectful man. And I treat women with respect. I just want to put that disclaimer out there. PSA for you guys. But the thing that the thing there was a story that a woman's that I read
00:21:33
Speaker
And the woman said that she came over to a guy's house and I've had many women over my house and I'm not a small guy, right? Not a small guy. So she said in the story that she went over to a guy's house and she did things with them for fear that if she decided not to, that he would harm her because she was in his place. Yeah.
00:21:59
Speaker
alone. And he was a big guy. And I had to look at myself and I had to be like, yo, I'm a giant guy. And I often invite women over to my place. Well, for several reasons. One,
00:22:14
Speaker
Uh, I don't like going to other places. My place is comfortable. Uh, that's two, I got a full bar. So everything that you need, I got, you know what I'm saying? And Uber is to bring us all the food. So why do I need to go anywhere? Just come on over. I got a nice couch, you know, nice, nice TV. I got two TVs. If you want to watch something, I want to watch something. We can both do that. It's comfortable over here. So, uh, ladies, you gotta, you gotta catch over here.
00:22:41
Speaker
Basically, he'll take you nowhere to do nothing. But waste your time. Look, I have a lot of female friends, they be telling about the doozy dating and I know that I'm a catch because some of these dudes out here are trifling. But no, there's been a lot of times where I've had women over and I'm just like, yo, did they do things because they were in fear?
00:23:07
Speaker
Yeah. Not that I put, not that there was anything that I did to put them in fear, but just a mere situation and presence of me. Yeah. It's kind of like Dennis from, it's always sunny in Philadelphia where it's like, it's the implication, but I wasn't given an implication, but it's the implication. And so I was explaining that to some of my guy friends and some of them
00:23:33
Speaker
And not black or white, just all of them. And some of them just didn't get it. And I was like, yo. Because they just found out that they're a predator. OK. They're listening to the show right now. I'm not trying to call them all predators.
00:23:47
Speaker
If the shoe doesn't fit, then why are you so upset? Well, I mean, sometimes the shoe can fit and it could just fit real tight and be uncomfortable. Yeah, you just found out you're a predator because some story came out and you heard it and you thought for a second, that sound like when I was messing with Denise. Not Denise. Now, was it Denise Hospital? No.
00:24:12
Speaker
Oh, okay. Because I would have loved to mess with Denise Huxtable, still mess with, I still mess with Denise Huxtable. So that's, that's 100% the only reason to get upset over people fighting back against sexual harassment and assault. This is the only reason is because you just found out you're a predator and you can handle that.
00:24:35
Speaker
So basically, ladies and gentlemen, this first segment was making you feel uncomfortable, making you live in that discomfort. And hopefully, hopefully, you take a step in that discomfort, look around, and realize, hmm, maybe there's some changes I can make. I don't know. That's just my thoughts. But I've had a lot to drink, and I don't know where that's going to go. But up next, we're going to finally talk about Risa Tisa.
00:25:05
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00:28:03
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All right, sis, we're going to finally get to it. Reese's Pieces, Reese's Teethas, Teetha Reese, Reese's Teetha. I need you to put some respect on that lady's social media handle. It's Reese's Teetha. Reese's Teetha. Will you explain to the people that do not know about Reese's Teetha, who Reese's Teetha is and why we're deciding to talk about it today?
00:28:26
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Ladies and gentlemen, on February 14th of 2024. Valentine's Day. The world, as we know it, changed forever. Because the first of what would become a 50-part series on TikTok dropped
00:28:49
Speaker
on the page of a one Risa Tisa. And it was called who the F did I marry? Who the F did I marry is Risa Tisa recounting the year and a half marriage she had to a pathological liar. Yeah.
00:29:12
Speaker
A pathological liar is not a liar. They are not a compulsive liar. They are something way and far beyond that. It is a mental illness. Well, I mean, there's still liars and compulsive liars, but they're beyond that. They're beyond that. Yes. Pathological liars lie about stuff that don't nobody even care about. And this story was particularly
00:29:41
Speaker
crazy because he involved other people in the lies.
00:29:49
Speaker
Well, did he? Yes, realtors, brokers. They went to a car dealership. He involved her in these conversations that he was having with his brother every morning while they were getting ready for work. He involved other people in the lie.
00:30:13
Speaker
All right, so ladies and gentlemen, the short of the story is this woman gives these TikToks explaining how she met this man during the pandemic. They got married and his world of lies
00:30:28
Speaker
began to unravel, uh, to the point where she absolutely did not know this person at all. And it struck a chord with a lot of people, uh, because it was entertaining. She, she took full responsibility for her naivete or compliance or her complicity, her complicity in the situation. He lied about
00:30:55
Speaker
everything, where he worked, who he was, his background, how many siblings he had, how much money he had, where he went to school, where he went to school, what he did for a living before he met her. His previous marriage
00:31:10
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because he had previous marriages. He lied about everything. It's a 50-part series. It's on YouTube. Somebody decided to put all 50 parts into one long video. When I say long video, it is seven hours long. Now, you told me about this probably a week beforehand. And then you said, a couple of days later, I want to talk about this. And I was like, OK, we can talk about it. And I clicked on it. And I was like, there's a lot of parts to this.
00:31:38
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I don't feel like watching all of it. He's like, just watch the first couple. And so I sat down and I watched the first couple of TikToks that was put together on this YouTube channel, where all 50 of the episodes were put together. I watched a couple of the couple of the parts. And then the next thing I know, seven hours later, I was finished. Yeah.
00:32:01
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The idea somebody somebody somewhere in the social media landscape brought it up. The idea that we are a microwave society and that we need things instantly. You have to be short to grab attention spans. Right. This disproves all this held Tiger King. A lot of these Netflix documentaries disprove all of this. If it's entertaining, it doesn't matter how long it is. People will watch it. This was seven hours and I did it in one day. Yeah.
00:32:31
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Same. And it was just a woman explaining about her life. And it was a crazy situation. But also, it points to the loneliness people have. Yeah. And how it can make you do some crazy things. Yes. The wanting of a romantic mate.
00:32:59
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romantic partner is so strong with people and everybody out here listening, this will resonate. You will do things out of your moral compass, out of your social aspect or philosophy of life because you want a romantic partner or you're lonely.
00:33:29
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Yeah, everybody's done it. I've gone back and looked at relationships like why did I put up with that? Because at that time I wanted a romantic partner and that was the person that I chose. This is going to be my romantic partner, right? So I put up with a lot of stuff that I would not normally put up with in these series in these parts. She openly says I know he was lying. Yeah, and I let him get away with it because.
00:33:57
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He was paying all the bills. He was paying the bills. And then that's one thing. He gets a lot of riff. Legion gets a lot of riff. That's the guy that she decided to name. She named him Legion on her post. Yes.
00:34:12
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He paid them bills. Now did he go broke paying them bills? Yeah, he did. He ended up homeless. So, and he is homeless. He's homeless. So what did you, what were some of your, let's, let's dig deep. The funny is the funny, right? Like he was lying. He told some incredible lies. He always had an answer for something.
00:34:37
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Yes, like that's funny. That's surface. But what were some things that you saw below the surface that you were just like, wow. Okay, she she's going through it or she put herself through it. Yeah, it was a lot of she put herself through it. But it was like you said earlier, kind of the power of loneliness.
00:34:58
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I didn't say it that eloquently. I didn't say the power of loneliness, that you coined that. I wish I would have came up with that power of loneliness. Yeah. Yes. That's pretty good. It sounds like an 80s ballad. The power of loneliness.
00:35:18
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Ladies and gentlemen, y'all just heard my sister's voice. Y'all didn't know she was a singer singer. She's like, for real, the singer singer. I hum. She sings. I forgot what we were talking about. We were talking about the in-depth versions of Risa Tisa and more than just a surface line.
00:35:38
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Yeah, so yeah, like I said, the power of loneliness. And it also speaks to the indoctrination in Christianity of this traditional family value. And I think a lot of people who are like her
00:36:00
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or like the way that she was at that time, kind of need to stop and think about the reasons why they want to be married. The reasons why they want a partner. Is it because you really do want to build with someone and have
00:36:19
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you know, a family with someone or is it because you're gotten to a certain age and you believe that this is what you're supposed to be doing. And when she said, um, I was desperate, I wanted to get married and I thought it was my turn. Yeah.
00:36:41
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that my turn hit hard. Yeah. And what it meant is she had been watching her friends and family get married and no, and she didn't have a prospect for that at the time and wanting to also participate in that ritual. But, but does that mean you want a marriage? You want to get wanting to get married doesn't necessarily mean you want a marriage. Yeah.
00:37:10
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the pageantry of getting married. You wanna party. Right. And you can always throw a party. You can get together with somebody. You wanna party. You wanna party like your friends had a party. You wanna party like your cousin Tiffany had a party and you can't stand her and you're upset that she got her party before you got your party. Right. Cause Tiffany always been a hoe.
00:37:33
Speaker
We knew that she was back in the day, but somehow she found somebody to turn a hoe into a housewife. Why can't, why can't Risa Tisa? And you know why? Because he's 82. Not 82. One foot in this world and one foot out. But he, but he, he using that Viagra though. You know what she's after.
00:37:57
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Oh, Otis is using that Viagra. I don't know why his name is Otis. It just sound like an 82 year old man that used Viagra would be named Otis. It's Otis Bruce. Or Bruce. Yeah. Shout out to any 82 year old out there named Otis Green. I love you. Otis Green.
00:38:18
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I found it, I had to rewind it as I was listening to the parts. Ladies and gentlemen, I truly recommend going and listening to it because I think it's an eye-opening experience for everybody as far as teaching us perception versus reality. And the thing that really tripped me out was I had to go back and rewind to look at timelines. And in this timeline,
00:38:48
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They went out on a date in March of 2020. Pandemic happens. They've known each other for two weeks, and they decide to shack up during the lockdown because they're based in Georgia, and they decide to move in together after knowing each other for two weeks. Right. Insane. Within three months, they're engaged and expecting. Yes. And I'm just like, look, the pandemic was a crazy time. Yeah.
00:39:18
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It entered in some situations during the pandemic that were interesting to say the least. We were all a little bit crazy. They're all a little crazy, but your boy,
00:39:33
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would not have moved in with somebody in two weeks. No. That was insane. Right. Like, I would at least had kept my own place and be like, hey, man, like, quarantine. They didn't say you couldn't drive on the roads and go to places. Right. You could still go to the grocery store. You could still go get gas. Some people still had to go to work. Right. So you could still had your own place. Yes. You still drove to see each other. I don't know why they thought this was a good idea.
00:40:01
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And then she really enjoyed it because he's paying all the bills. Here's the thing. Here's the thing, though. She should have known from day one. And I'm going to tell you why. OK. The moment she went over to his place for the first time. He was just in the little studio. Yeah. What's wrong with a brother in the studio? Because he's supposed to be the regional manager of a condiment company.
00:40:26
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None, a condiment, not condominium. I said condiment company. Right. But I'm saying, so what does that have to do? He had just moved, he had a story for that. He just moved into the area and they were helping him find a house. And he had an approval level for approval, an approval
00:40:43
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An approval letter that alcohol kicking in. Yeah, I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. I don't know if that was speech impediment or that's just alcohol. A little bit from column A and a little from column B. And a little from column C. And I don't know what the hell is in column C, but I don't know what that meant. But he had an excuse. He had that letter.
00:41:08
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of loan approval from Chase Bank saying that he was approved for $700,000. Now, the moment she saw that letter, she should have known it was fake. Well, because it said, dear comma, Mr. No period McCoy. Who's going to, all right. No comma. Who's going to really look at an approval letter that hard? Me. Well, that's you. The moment I look at it, I'm like, why is the punctuation off? OK.
00:41:37
Speaker
You would. I wouldn't even notice that the punctuation is off. Not everybody's an Englishman. That's how people get hustled by spam emails and letters and things like that. The whole punctuation is off. Yeah. Well. His full name was nowhere on that letter. Was it?
00:41:58
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No, it said Mr. McCool. It didn't have an account information. It didn't have nothing on it except a copy and paste chase logo at the top. The punctuation was all off. I've never in the history of my life seen a pre-approval letter that looked like that, that read like that. Well, if you've never seen a pre-approval letter, then you know, that might work. Y'all need to read more.
00:42:32
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I mean, look, he had an excuse. He had a line for absolutely everything. Yeah. And she showed the key is she wanted to believe it. Yeah, she wanted to believe it. People will believe a lie because they want to believe it. Mm hmm. When when my college girlfriend, that Jezebel. Oh, Lord, that hussy. Oh, she cheated on me.
00:42:58
Speaker
And she was telling me all this stuff that didn't make sense to me. And I let it slide. I let it slide because I wanted to believe the lie and didn't want to believe that she was creeping. Right. But she was. She was creeping. But inherent in wanting to believe something, quote unquote, is the knowledge that you do know the truth. Mm hmm.
00:43:22
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And you're purposefully choosing to ignore it. And she said it every time. She said, Lord, y'all, there was something. It just didn't feel right. It was like, yeah, you knew what it was. You knew what it was. It's called a lie.
00:43:37
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So when I was watching this, I found parallels in my own life, not that particular instance, but signs that my body is telling me, my mind, my intuition is telling me this particular situation, then I always have to be dating. It could be business ventures, it could be friendships, it can be going down a road, right? Making a turn. Your body kind of lets you know, intuition kind of lets you know, look,
00:44:05
Speaker
Some right here ain't right. And as I'm watching this, there were so many times that I'm listening to her and I'm thinking to myself, you know what? I really need to listen to my intuition a lot more because there has not been a time when my intuition has been wrong. There's something that's in us that recognizes when there's a lie
00:44:30
Speaker
When there is danger, we have a sixth sense. We do. It's called our brains. No, it's called our brains. It's called that we see something. We know what it is. We recognize it. And then we decide, I didn't see that. And we move on with our lives.
00:44:55
Speaker
not even subconsciously. You're saying consciously. We're like, didn't see it. Yeah. Don't want to recognize it. So that feeling in your, oh, it's a feeling in my gut is because you already know with your brain what the truth is. Yeah. I feel, I don't know, I don't know if I feel bad. Yeah. I feel bad. I've turned a new leaf in my life where
00:45:19
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I'm really, really happy being alone, almost to my detriment, almost to the point where somebody are gonna have to break down the walls and pull me out, because I'm like, look, I can do better all by myself. I know it's a Tyler Perry play, but I can. So there's extreme comfort in being alone, and I'm cool with it. But not a lot of people are.
00:45:45
Speaker
And so a lot of people are lonely. And that's one thing that I'm not as lonely. So I'm trying to identify with a lot of things that she was saying. And the reason why we're talking about this is because I think that her story will resonate with a lot of people because so many people do things because they are lonely. Y'all know,
00:46:11
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Y'all know you do not wanna be on that dating site. You're on that dating site swiping right and left because you are lonely and you are bored.
00:46:23
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And you need to take a step back because I have so many female friends and they've done this. And I tell them, you need to stop going on them data sites and just find yourself. Just be by yourself for a little while because what's going to end up happening is you're going to meet somebody and there's going to be an initial spark and you're going to be like, this person is great, but this person isn't great. They just feel that loneliness that you had. And then when they can no longer feel that loneliness that you had,
00:46:52
Speaker
you're gonna become disinterested. And for those true social paths, they ghost those people. The real honest people, and I'm not saying I'm a social path, but I have ghosted a lot of people in my lifetime. But the real honest people will say, look, this isn't working for me.
00:47:10
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and you hurt a person because maybe they were ready. Maybe they were looking for something and maybe they were into you because they felt that you were into them, but really you was just feeling the void of loneliness. And so that's what she was doing. I guarantee you if we weren't in a pandemic, she wouldn't have settled for that. Yeah, absolutely think she would have.
00:47:34
Speaker
Okay. Yeah. He was checking all the boxes for her and the boxes were he's alive. We're talking about this. He's mostly male.
00:47:54
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That concludes the list. Okay. And he paid the bills, and he paid the bills. That was a key thing. That was a bonus. That's why she let him move into her house after two weeks. She was always going to marry him because he was what? Alive and mostly male.
00:48:12
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OK, because she told you she did. I don't think she did this out of loneliness. I think she did it because of a societal pressure on women to get married. She said I was desperate. I think I wanted to get married and I thought this was my turn. Well, I mean, I think that I think loneliness is part of desperation. I don't think she I think it is that social pressure
00:48:41
Speaker
on women to get married, to be a wife, and to have children. It's not solely women. It's also men. It's for men to find a wife, to have children, to continue on their legacy. But it's more socially acceptable for a man to wait longer than it is for a woman. Once you hit a certain, it's usually around 26, people start asking.
00:49:12
Speaker
when you're gonna get married. Why are you so single? Men can be single until they're 40 and don't nobody say nothing. That's not true. That's not true.
00:49:25
Speaker
That's not true at all. I get that question. And I've been getting that question for the last 10 years. Bruce, when are you gonna get married again? Bruce, when are you gonna have kids? Bruce, when are you gonna do that? It happens for men too. Does it happen later? Yes. It happens later for men than it does for women. But I can tell you from a male's perspective,
00:49:45
Speaker
It does still happen. People still ask you. And then when people ask you, it's, don't you want to have kids? Don't you want to continue on the legacy? And I always say, I don't really think that's the reason to have kids. No, it's a terrible reason. The reason to have kids in your mind is to continue on a legacy.
00:50:09
Speaker
That's a real narcissistic way of looking at things. Why does my legacy mean so much that it needs to continue on first and foremost? I'm not saying that I'm not important, but in the grand scheme of things, when I close my eyes and take my final breath,
00:50:32
Speaker
Well, I'll be as important as a president. I don't know. Maybe one day I might want to run for president, but I don't know. Right. So I don't know what my legacy is because I have chosen violence this entire episode. Yeah, you have to keep on reload and put in a new clip. OK, here we go. Do your thing. Go ahead.
00:50:58
Speaker
I lost my train of thought because you made me laugh. What did I make you laugh about? Because I don't know. You just hit a real low voice for some reason.
00:51:10
Speaker
Oh, that anytime you say I'm gonna choose violence. Yeah. I'm just like, okay, go ahead. Okay. What was the last thing you said that'll trigger my new life? Oh my God. I was talking about legacy and children and- Ah, correct, correct. There we go. All right. Okay. So the only people who make the legacy argument are people who don't have one because you are your legacy. Mm-hmm. Okay. It is not my children's responsibility
00:51:41
Speaker
to carry on my legacy. What about their own? So many people have children and they expect them to be miniature versions of themselves. And that can absolutely happen, right? I look at our parents and we are, all of us, not exact carbon copy miniature versions, even though I do very much
00:52:05
Speaker
look like my father. Physically very much look like my father. But I'm not a carbon copy. I have a lot of his characteristics. Yeah. I have a lot of my mom's characteristics. So do you, so do our brothers. So we're not carbon copies. I would say
00:52:25
Speaker
were evolutions of them. And that's what I think you truly want your kids. I don't have kids, but if I did have kids, I would want them to be the next evolution of me. Somebody who thinks, somebody who is open-minded, somebody who is naturally loving to all until there's a reason not to be loving. And then at that point, you can throw some hands.
00:52:52
Speaker
I want my kids to reflect themselves. I am not going to put my baggage on you. If I have a legacy, it will be because of the things that I've done. Most of the time, the people who talk about that are people who don't have one or the legacy that they do have.
00:53:21
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is not a good one. And they're hoping that the next generation can repair it. But I think, I think we need to start letting children be individual people. Yeah. I agree. What is your final thoughts on Risa Tisa? What did you learn from this? I learned about pathological liars.
00:53:49
Speaker
I mean, the lengths like it to me, that is I mean, not to me, to the DSM for it's a it's a mental illness because it's it's beyond compulsive. Yeah, it is. I don't even know what word you could use. But this man lied about every thing he did. But the only reason
00:54:20
Speaker
that he was able to do so is because she decided that she was going to be okay with that because it was her turn, damn it. She'd have seen everybody else walk down the aisle and now it's my turn. And I'm willing to legally bind myself to a human being who would knowingly and willfully get my hopes up.
00:54:49
Speaker
knowing he will not come through. Yeah. When he never had to. It was enough that you paid the bill. You could have told her you were really a forklift driver. Yeah. Because guess what? A forklift driver salary is paying all of her bills. So you could have said that you chose otherwise. Right.
00:55:14
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Or actually he didn't because he has no control over it. I truly believe I've seen his videos since then, of course, he was outed, even though Risa Tisa used the nickname that she had come up with.
00:55:29
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he ended up being outed by another TikToker and he has consistently lied to the public since then that he has a Netflix deal and it's going to be his story getting out of it, getting out there. It is that he's got, you know, all this stuff that he, he tried to post his bank statement. And if you Google bank statement,
00:55:57
Speaker
The first image to pop up was the image that he posted. Yep. So he's still lying. Yep. To America. Right. So. All right. On that note, that's it for this show. I don't know how it ended up. We'll find out. We're both a little inebriated, but I hope you guys enjoyed it. What do you want to tell the people out there?
00:56:27
Speaker
The apple of dates does not keep the doctor away. People really need to stop saying that. Who said that and where did that come from? I don't know, but I'm just saying, there are some euphemisms that I'm just like, that's not even possible and it's not even a thing. No, I think that was the farmers putting some stuff out there. But on that note, thank you for listening. Thank you for watching. And until next time, as always,
00:56:56
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a holla.
00:56:58
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