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41. YOUR QUALITY OF LIFE WILL DEPEND ON HOW YOU CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS!
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I look back on my past self a lot and realize how much my emotions were controlling my quality of life! I didn't realize it in the moment because I was the victim and was never in the wrong but little did I know I had a lot of work to do on myself!
It was when I started using Microcybin is when things really started to shift in my life and I realized I had a ton of work to do on myself!
Microcybin is a tool that I have been using for a few years now to really transform my brain to a whole new Adam and honestly it has helped me live a better quality of life!
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Transcript
Introduction and Weekend Wishes
00:00:00
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Welcome back to another episode of Unlocking with Adam Pike. Today is Friday. I hope you guys had a good week. I hope you guys are going to have a better weekend.
The Importance of Emotional Control
00:00:11
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But what good is a good weekend if you cannot control your emotions? The hell you talking about Adam? What are you talking about now? Well, to me,
00:00:22
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Your quality of life depends on if you can control your emotions or not.
Personal Struggles with Emotional Control
00:00:30
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Am I right or am I wrong? If you're someone that cannot control your emotions, what good is your quality of life? You let everything get to you.
00:00:42
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You prolong that emotion for much longer than it actually needs to have any sort of energy towards that emotion. You try to ruin other people's day just because your day is ruined because you cannot control your emotion. Do you get where I'm going here? The reason why I'm talking about this is because I personally,
00:01:10
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with somebody that could not control their emotions. And now someone that can, trust me, I'm still working on it, but I've come a very far away, a very far away compared to what I used to be.
00:01:26
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But I know for a fact in the past, um, I used to let my emotions control me. Um, you know, and for example, if I was at a workplace, um, maybe my boss or my coworker said something about my work or whatever, I would just let that affect me.
00:01:46
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And I would be upset. Um, maybe I would storm away. Maybe I would, uh, talk to my other coworkers about the situation. Um, maybe I would then talk to the person that I was carpooling with on the way home about the situation.
Imagining Calm Responses
00:02:01
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Then I would go home and talk about the situation with my girlfriend. And like, I just, from that one situation where I couldn't control my emotions.
00:02:14
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I then put energy into that one situation and prolonged that for the rest of the day. And my whole day was literally just about that because I couldn't control my emotions. If in that situation, I did control my emotions and my boss says something, I was like, okay, like, you know,
00:02:33
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It's not what I wanted to hear, but I get where you come from. I understand. Move on, move forward. That's it.
Influence of Others' Emotions
00:02:41
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Say fuck it and let it be. That is the better way to go about it.
00:02:49
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in the past if I was any like anywhere and I got a call from an ex girlfriend or something and like something wrong or she was pissed off at me or whatever like anytime I had an ex girlfriend and they were mad at me
00:03:06
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that would ruin my whole day because their emotions affected my emotion because I wasn't in control of my own emotions and I would let them just kind of control my life. You know what I mean? If they were happy, I was happy. If they were sad, I was sad. If they were mad, I was mad. It's so wild to me to even think about that's how I used to be and that quality of life
00:03:35
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is honestly fucking shit. And I can't imagine ever being like that again. So when I say like what good is this great Friday afternoon if you're someone that can't really control your emotions, you know what I mean? And just think of it like this. You could have like a multi-millionaire
00:03:59
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with a mansion, multiple cars, running a couple of businesses, but this person cannot control their emotions and they let everything get to them and they're always pissed off and maybe they're flipping out at their wife or their husband and they get mad at their kids for the simplest things. Do you have life figured out?
00:04:24
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is your quality of life shit. Like, yeah, you got a lot of nice things. But like, what good is all of those nice things, if you can't even simply control your emotions, and, you know, be an adult about it. Because I understand when when when children are children, like they don't really understand
Microdosing and Self-Awareness
00:04:43
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their emotions. And that's why they act out.
00:04:46
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And it took me almost 30 years for me to really be able to get in control of my own emotions. And you know, I was most of the times I used to just act like a child. You know what I mean? Turn beat red in the face and just get in a whole tizzy and like storm into the room and
00:05:05
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You know what I mean? Trust me, like I said, not perfect. I still deal with this, but I have come a very long, long way in the last couple of years, and I do believe it's because of microdosing. Microdosing really made me see myself differently. It made me more understanding and more able to take criticism.
00:05:36
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You know, before when I couldn't control my emotions, anytime that anybody said anything to me, it would just make me even more mad. And I wouldn't want to listen to them. And I wouldn't want to change because I thought it was perfect. And I was just always like, everyone else is wrong. I'm the victim here, you know? And then I started microdosing and I really started to look at myself a whole lot differently.
00:06:02
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And I do believe it's because the psilocybin really opened up parts of my brain that weren't activated before. And they just made me look at everything that I was doing. You know, me not being able to control my emotions, me like turning beet red in the face, storming out of the room, acting like a child, getting upset over everything. I started viewing all that in a whole other different lens when I started microdosing.
00:06:28
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That's when I really started to make a lot of changes in myself and I really started to accept myself. I don't think I've ever used to be able to accept myself before I started microsizing.
Reflections on Emotional Control
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That, for me, was the really big shift in my life when I started to use microcybin.
00:06:49
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kind of use that as a tool to like, to just open up my mind about how I am and like realize that I needed a lot of work and my quality of life was not really that good. So like I said, like, if you cannot control your emotions, what kind of quality of life do you really have? And I want you to really like think about this for a minute when you're listening to me speak.
00:07:15
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Just ask yourself, can I control my emotions? Is there sometimes when I get triggered that I act a different way? You know what I mean? Because there's all things in life that kind of triggers us and we turn into a new identity. We have a bunch of identities. Sometimes we go to work and we're around certain people like we have a whole other identity.
00:07:41
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Um, sometimes when we're around our parents, we have another identity, but sometimes if we get triggered in, in, in a way that brings out a bad side of us, that brings out another identity. You know what I mean? So being able to get in control.
00:07:57
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of your emotions when things happen like this is really gonna give you a better quality of life. A good example is when you hit a guitar string, right? Just pretend the guitar string is your emotion that is coming in. The trigger hits the guitar string. The guitar string is the emotion.
00:08:23
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Now, if you let the guitar, like normally you hit the guitar string, if you stop, it'll just straighten out and that's it.
00:08:32
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But if you keep hitting that guitar string, it's just going to keep vibrating and going and going and going. So like when a trigger comes into your mind and you know that emotion is there and you can either react on it and give that emotion a lot more of energy than it needs. And it's just like the guitar string. And if you keep hitting it, the emotion is going to keep going in your brain.
Advice on Processing Emotions
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And this emotion could last
00:09:02
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A day could last a week, could last a month. People hold grudges about certain things for months at a time, you know what I mean? So the best way to control your emotions is if something do trigger you and an emotion do arise, okay?
00:09:21
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let it come in and process what is happening. And instead of reacting to this emotion, process this in your mind a little bit, you know, ask yourself a question like, like, I find being in tune with yourself and being aware of what's going on in your mind can really help you in these sorts of situations when, you know, a trigger comes up, um, in motion.
00:09:47
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Instead of reacting on it. You can just process it in your brain and realize like, okay Well, I react like this last time. Maybe I won't do that this time. You know what I mean? instead of always just pointing the finger and you're the perfect one and Playing the victim game and just doing the same thing over and over every single time you get triggered about something and
00:10:13
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Let that guitar string just settle down for a second.
00:10:20
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and then go, then move forward. Don't let that, don't let the guitar string hit and then boom reaction. Ah, chaos. Your blood is boiling. Like that is when you're not going to have a very good quality
Podcast Sharing and Farewell
00:10:32
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of life. So anyways, I wanted to jump on here really quick, just to fricking ask you guys, do you have a good quality of life? Can you honestly say that you are in control of your emotions or
00:10:48
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You know, maybe you think you have a really good quality of life, you have a lot of material things, but anytime you're ever triggered, you act a certain way, and you play victim, and you blame everybody else but yourself. Because if that's the way you are, then I think that you have a little bit of inner work to do, so.
00:11:15
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Hope you guys have a good Friday. I hope that you resonate with this podcast. If you did, or if you know somebody that, you know, they, they don't know how to control their emotions. I want you to send them this podcast and just say, listen, you know, it's only 10 minutes. Just listen to it. You might actually take something from it. So another thing too.
00:11:40
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Before I go, if you do like this podcast, I would really appreciate it. If you would follow this podcast, hit the subscribe button. However you listen to this podcast, hit the subscribe, hit that notification button, and that would really, really help me out, and I would appreciate that. Have a good weekend, control your emotions, and let that guitar string fizzle out before you start pouring more energy into it. Peace.