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EP 14: Special announcement from one of the moms
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Today is an exciting day because one of the moms has a SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT 🎉 Tune in to hear the good news and all of the life updates surrounding the exciting news.
Shannon and Candace also discuss their undying love for Taylor Swift and recap their experiences at The Eras Tour. PLUS, the moms announce that the Mom Group Chat Facebook Group is now live!
Although today’s episode is a happy announcement, one of the moms also opens up about her experience with pregnancy loss and the anxiety that can come from dealing with loss. We have always wanted to keep these conversations authentic and honest to our experiences and we know so many of you have experienced similar difficult situations. If you find this subject triggering, you may want to stop the episode around the 23 minute mark. Either way, we’re here for you and we love you.
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Transcript
Pregnancy loss and anxiety discussion
00:00:00
Speaker
Hi moms. Although today's episode is a happy announcement, there is some talk about pregnancy loss and dealing with anxiety around loss. So we just wanted to give you a quick heads up. We have always wanted to keep these conversations authentic and honest to our experiences. And we know that so many of you have experienced similar difficult situations. If you find this subject triggering, you may want to stop the episode around the 23 minute mark. Either way, we're here for you and we love you.
00:00:35
Speaker
There's no right way to do it. Oh, we're going to get into it.
Introduction to the podcast
00:00:42
Speaker
What's up my rays of sunshine? My name is Candace and I am here with Shannon and Whitney. Welcome back to the mom group chat podcast. Yay. Oh my gosh, Shannon, you are in my favorite sweatshirt. I am. Yeah, I got this off Etsy. Um,
00:01:03
Speaker
It's a nod to Taylor Swift. It says Cornelia Street on it, New York, New York. And then there's like a little bicycle. It says 1989. So like the real ones would know. Yeah. And then everyone else is just like your New York. I love it.
00:01:18
Speaker
I know, I do love that.
Taylor Swift concert experiences
00:01:20
Speaker
We are definitely going to have a full episode on Taylor Swift. We've talked about this a lot. We went to the era's tour, Shannon and I. This summer, it was truly a highlight. I went twice. Shannon is also going twice. You still have a show ahead of you in Los Angeles. I'm very jealous of you. That's cool.
00:01:41
Speaker
Wait, hold on. We actually have to go into the details of that because Whitney, did you know that Shannon has front row tickets? Second row tickets. Second row tickets. Still. That's insane. Yeah. I am not going to be cool about it. My friend Stephanie got the tickets in all of the hubbub the day of the Ticketmaster meltdown, but she got them on StubHub.
00:02:11
Speaker
And they were pricey. They were pricey. And I was like, that's insane that you did that. And she was like, I know, I'm an insane person.
00:02:22
Speaker
But then the prices just continued to go higher and higher and higher for forever. And they still haven't gone down. So a few months ago, she just kept goading me. She was like, you have to come with me. She was going to take her husband. I guess I'm her biggest 50 fan. We talk about Taylor Swift a lot.
00:02:44
Speaker
And she was like, I don't want to go with Chris. I want to go with someone who's going to not freak out when I freak out. And then I just started envisioning myself there.
00:02:56
Speaker
second row. And every time I was listening to Taylor Swift in the car, I was like, I, I have the option to sit second row. Oh, and it's the last night of the tour. It's the finale. It's the finale. So I like came to Andrew hat in hand. Because you know, I was like,
00:03:15
Speaker
Stephanie went crazy. She did something wild. The other thing that's funny is like Stephanie's husband is Andrew's like very good friend. One of his best friends and he is like one of their bits is that Andrew doesn't spend any money and Chris like spends all of his money on like fun toys and stuff.
00:03:35
Speaker
And Andrew's like a big time saver guy. And so Chris is always like trying to get him to spend money on shit, you know? And so Chris was also go to him. He was like, you gotta let Shannon go to this concert. I basically begged. I was like, this will be my Christmas birthday. Push present everything for the rest of my life. And he was like, okay. And I'll see you there. You're so close. Like.
00:04:05
Speaker
You're going to make eye contact and make out maybe. I don't know. Oh my God. Oh my God. Could you imagine? I don't, I think I would just turn into dust like a witch or something. Oh my God. I'm so excited for you.
The significance of Taylor Swift's era's tour
00:04:23
Speaker
It truly.
00:04:24
Speaker
I've been saying this and Shannon knows like I've definitely sent this exact text into our like Taylor Swift group but the era's tour right now is such a moment in history that I am so proud to have been a part of like the fact that we got tickets to multiple shows and were able to witness it and to like talk like I genuinely feel like this is one of the tours that like people are going to talk about forever and ever like like the way I heard my dad talk about like the
00:04:53
Speaker
a tour of the Beatles or whatever, this is gonna be that. And I am so happy that I was able to be there. I get emotional watching my videos back. I know this all sounds hella dramatic, but it's so good. It's just everything. And I'm so excited for you, Shannon. You mentioned those tickets were pricey the day of, which I'm sure they were. But now that everyone has seen the show and everyone knows what it is,
00:05:20
Speaker
The tickets are six, seven times the price they were that day. Actually, I'm sure they were pricey, but they were probably a steal. I feel like second row tickets nowadays are like 20 grand or 50 grand or something crazy insane. You probably did well, honestly. Is it tempting to sell? No. Whitney. I don't know.
00:05:44
Speaker
I mean, 20 grand in my pocket. It's not. No, this is like, to Candace's point, this is a moment in history and it's priceless. So, no, we will not be selling it yet.
00:06:02
Speaker
I say keep them. So this reminds me with
Shannon's pregnancy announcement and journey
00:06:06
Speaker
just one more Taylor Swift story and then I swear we will move on to bigger and better things here, but sure. My bachelorette party. So let's take it back to pre-COVID times. We had tickets to Loverfest, which obviously never came to fruition because of COVID times.
00:06:25
Speaker
And so we were going, at the time, Whitney lived in Rhode Island. So we were going in Boston because there was only one in Boston and one in LA, right? There were only two cities. Yeah. So we were going, we had tickets. Whitney bought a ticket with us because we were going to be, we were going to go to Boston. I'm not like the biggest fan, but like I'll go. I've seen Taylor Swift before and I'm like,
00:06:51
Speaker
Hell yeah, I'm along for the ride. Y'all stay with me. We'll go. We'll have a time. Whatever. Yeah. Shannon, I don't-
00:07:00
Speaker
Yeah, I don't know what happened that time and why how you were not included in. I think I was going to go in California because I had lived there and like, yeah, it was just kind of thing. But the Taylor Swift book club, which is like me and Candace and then her two friends, Mark and Mackenzie, I think that kind of formed at your bachelorette party.
00:07:27
Speaker
It was like you and I were aligned as Swifties, but I wasn't yet aligned with Mark and Mackenzie as Swifties.
00:07:40
Speaker
Yeah so but it was at my bachelorette party where we were like screaming cruel summer and like lover had just like more recently come out and we were like looking forward to lover fest we had the tickets and I think Whitney could just see how deep Shannon's love was for Taylor Swift and so we are
00:08:03
Speaker
probably drunk at my bachelorette party and Whitney turns, yeah. I think I hit my face on a glass door that night. Whitney turns to Shannon and was like, if you want to take my ticket, I'm cool to sit out. And Shannon just bursts into tears. Like collapsed in my arms and I was like, wait.
00:08:32
Speaker
I don't know what to do with my hands. I don't know. I was so excited because at the time I feel like the ticket, maybe the tickets were hard to get. I had it. I didn't have a plan yet for loverfest. Like that whole weekend we had just been, I had like been bonding with Mark and Mackenzie too over it. And we were all just like singing.
00:08:55
Speaker
I'm sure the rest of the house was just like, show it the pool. Let's listen to something else. And then Whitney, with her heart of gold, was like, you know what? I'm going to give this to someone who really needs it. And she offered it to me. And I was like, I hit the ground. I was like, oh my god. Thank you so much. It's been so much to me. I was like, y'all have fun. I'll see you before and after, and we'll party.
00:09:22
Speaker
around that and y'all have fun. Well, fun. Spoiler alert, it never happened. So we'll never know. She's making up for it. Like, yeah. Wait, sorry. Just one more thing. She had literally four shows planned. Now she's doing like four shows per city.
00:09:40
Speaker
Yeah, that's crazy. Crazy. It's crazy. And we're all just annoying at the altar. We're all like, just literally spending our life savings to be one of 80,000 to be there. No, you're going to kiss her in LA, so. Turn to dust. I can't wait.
00:10:01
Speaker
Just glitter. Yeah, that's not a picture. Yeah, yeah. OK, we've really been beating around the bush here because there is much bigger and better things to talk about. And that is that we have a very exciting announcement today on Mom Group Chat. Are you ready? Drumroll. Are you ready for it? I'm pregnant. Yeah.
00:10:31
Speaker
It's Shannon. We're so thrilled. Yes. Our very own Shannon is pregnant with child. And you may have heard her talking about ovulation testing and all that. It worked people.
00:10:55
Speaker
We're so excited. Yeah. Give us the full rundown. How far along are you? How are you feeling? When's your due date, et cetera, et cetera. Um, this is where we should splice in the audio clip from when we recorded in March. And I was saying how we were going to pause.
00:11:12
Speaker
in April because I didn't want another December baby because it would just be too much in December. No. We didn't and the due date is December 29th.
00:11:28
Speaker
Candace's birthday, which is no fun. I'm going to have a little birthday twin. Yes. TJ's due date was January 5th and then he was born December 31st. So it'll be somewhere around there. So December is lit in our house and we'll be lit for forever. Um, I think that puts I I'm 13 weeks or very close to 13. Yay. So.
00:11:56
Speaker
It's a girl, which we're really excited about.
00:12:02
Speaker
Yes. Little girl coming to the fam. We're so excited. We're thrilled because, well, Shannon's son, TJ, he'll be two right around the time that you're having little girl. So they'll be almost, I mean, exactly two years apart, which is perfection. And then since you already have a son and you're having a daughter, it's just the best news. And we've just
00:12:27
Speaker
I think we actually have a video of us reacting. We do. I'll splice that in here. I found out that gender literally props to people who are like, I'm going to wait. How? I don't have that chip. I don't have that delayed gratification chip. I eat the marshmallows as soon as the proctor of the study leaves. Sorry. So we were compulsively checking the lab results.
00:12:57
Speaker
and found out immediately. So it's a girl. And then we were demanding immediately to them. Yeah. I was like, tell us right now. We're like, look, I get it that Andrew's your partner, but we're important. We need to know. Yeah. We were recording when I got the, I think I got the information right before we started recording, but Andrew was gone and we paused recording so I could go to.
00:13:22
Speaker
open it up with him. And then I came back and I was like, he's a girl. My heart was in my butt hole the whole time. Yeah, I was so I love like, we like finding out the gender of your own baby is obviously like so exciting. But that's what's fun about having a baby is I mean, for me finding out what it is like with your friends, because then you get to start
00:13:45
Speaker
dreaming and shopping and all of the fun stuff. I feel like finding out the gender is what makes it so real seeming. You're like, okay, I can start to like manifest this baby in my head. Like what are they going to be like? Who are they? You can pick a name. There is like, I feel like finding out the gender truly makes it real.
00:14:10
Speaker
Yeah. Hitting that 12 week mark where you can kind of relax. And then knowing gender, it's like game on. I'm about to set up my nursery. It's about to be you. It's so fun. And also because their due dates are so close to each other, I was like, please be a girl. Cause if this is a boy, I have literally nothing to shop for. I have absolutely everything I need because I'll just rinse and repeat with every single piece of clothing that we already own. But now I'm like,
00:14:39
Speaker
need a new wardrobe. Meanwhile, I'm sending links every day. I'm like, Shannon, this for a girl, because I'm having a girl too. And Candice goes, what about me? I have the girl already. And I'm like, I don't know. I'm looking at baby stuff. And Alice is. Yeah. Yeah. And Alice is such a small girl.
00:14:58
Speaker
I mean, we'll take Kami down so you have to hang on to them just in case. And then also I feel like my baby is going to be the size of Alice at like six months. Oh my God. So yeah, it's been, I was also really happy that it was a girl because as you guys know,
00:15:23
Speaker
I thought it was a girl. And I felt like it was a girl in my body. And this pregnancy has been way tougher than my first one. So I was like, Lord, give me an explanation. Like, why is this happening to me? This has to be different somehow. The girls suck the life out of you. They do.
00:15:44
Speaker
I have been like biting my tongue so much recording this podcast with you guys because we've talked about body image and like feeling disgusting and like not recognizing your own body and whatever and just all of the trials and tribulations that come with pregnancy and have been like
00:16:03
Speaker
I'm hurting. But I couldn't really say anything. And that's what sucks the most about the first trimester is you're in the most pain. But I mean, everyone does what they do with announcing. But for us, I definitely wanted to wait. So again, so glad I had some close friends, including my girls here in the group chat, to talk to about these things because
00:16:32
Speaker
I was keeping it on the DL. Yeah. Pregnancy can feel really lonely too. I struggled with that a lot with Alice and my first pregnancy. I feel like pregnancy felt super lonely. Especially when you're keeping the secret in the first trimester before it's safe to share.
00:16:56
Speaker
If you are pregnant and you're listening to this and you're feeling lonely like DMS, we are opening up a Facebook group so that all of you guys can connect with each other and chat and start your own due date groups and ask for advice and help and links and all the things. So we will definitely link that in the show notes of this episode. Plus you will also see it on our Instagram.
00:17:22
Speaker
But yeah, can't wait to connect with even more of you over there.
Challenges and dynamics of pregnancy
00:17:26
Speaker
Yeah. And you can post anonymously just kind of like how it is with baking little babies. So if you are wanting to talk or just have a certain conversation, you can do that on there anonymously, which I think is a nice safe space. Yeah, totally. And we'll listen. Yeah, always. Yeah.
00:17:46
Speaker
Absolutely. Um, yeah, I was going to say when you were talking about it feeling lonely, like, even though this is my second go round, well, it's my third go round. We can talk about that in a little bit, but, um, like Andrew is a great partner. Love him so much. But do you guys feel like when you're pregnant, like your husband doesn't believe you that you're in pain? Oh my God. Every day of my life.
00:18:13
Speaker
Even when he's being sympathetic and he has been amazing this pregnancy because I've really needed some extra support. He's been up early with TJ, taking extra shifts when I just need a nap. But I feel so guilty needing that extra support. And I'm always like, I swear to you, this is real. I feel nauseous. I feel exhausted.
00:18:39
Speaker
Even though I don't look pregnant, like, do you believe me? Do you believe me? Like, do you believe this is real? And he's like, yeah. And I'm like, I don't believe you. I feel like crisping medical helps because he's like, OK, I get it.
00:18:57
Speaker
But I don't know. It's at the same time you kind of get with any situation frustrated after a while. You're like, OK, enough's enough. Time to buck up and help again. So. Yes. And I feel like that. And again, like I can't say that this is how Andrew's feeling. This is just like in my own head. But I feel like he has the same thing where he's like, OK, like it's been several weeks now. Like are you feeling better?
00:19:23
Speaker
And I'm like, no, I feel worse. I'm bedridden at this point. Yeah. That's how I felt about Vinny when I was pregnant. I felt like he would be like, okay, like you've been growing up now for six weeks.
00:19:43
Speaker
It's stopping now, right? And I'm like- You're making yourself do that. I still feel- Yeah, sometimes he would treat me like that and I'm like, I wish you could feel what I felt because it's like having the worst hangover of your life for three months straight. At least that's how it was for me personally. I threw up every day pretty much with Alice. It is so rude to have a hangover and not be hungover. It's rude. Yeah, it is. It's so rude.
00:20:11
Speaker
It's so rude. So what I did and what I suggest you guys do, um, just Google pregnancy hormone chart and it shows you like what's spiking at which time. And every time I was feeling like a total grouchy McGrouch bitch pants, I would just like send that to Andrew and be like, this is where I'm at. Like we're approaching the peak of the hyperbola, but we're not there yet. So buckle up.
00:20:38
Speaker
Cause we're on a roller coaster. I feel like Vinny would look at that chart and be like, what am I looking at? Like, I don't know what any of this means. Like, no, it's a very steep, like he knows how charts work. So he doesn't really need to know what he's looking at. It's a very aggressive, like up into the right situation. So.
00:21:00
Speaker
Okay. He'll know. But luckily you're in your, or almost in your second trimester, which is the golden time. I'm feeling better. I actually went to a workout class this morning, which like.
00:21:12
Speaker
I didn't, I didn't push myself at all, but just like going and showing up, I was like, okay, there is, there is some light here. I'm like waiting for that second trimester burst of energy, but I am definitely feeling better. And I'm so optimistic now. Nice. Cause you can still sleep through the night. Your energy comes back. You do start shopping for all the clothes and doing the nursery. And it's just so fun. Yeah.
00:21:40
Speaker
Now that I'm in my third, I'm like, uh-uh, I'm back in that dip of this isn't fun anymore. The third is tough. Yeah. I'm curious to see how this goes with because I know that you have mentioned with the second just like growing so fast and I feel that happening. Like I already feel like I look a little pregnant. My pants are already tight.
00:22:07
Speaker
And I'm going to have to be, I mean, I busted out my old maternity clothes. So I'm like already in those, which I don't think I even bought until halfway right last time. So it's a little humbling experience. The second go around for sure. And the girls apparently they carry low. So I'm just like.
00:22:29
Speaker
This whole uterus of mine is really... It's sagging. Sagging. Girl's sagging. Oh my gosh.
Coping with miscarriage
00:22:38
Speaker
So Shannon, a second ago, I know you mentioned this being your third go round. So I just wanted to know if you feel comfortable talking about that a little bit and how it's affected this pregnancy and how you've been feeling. I think we'd love to hear about that.
00:22:55
Speaker
Yeah, so we did have a miscarriage in November of last year. And I know a lot of women deal with that. So hopefully if you've dealt with that, you've found other women who have as well. I actually felt like I didn't hear about it really from other people until I started bringing it up a little bit.
00:23:22
Speaker
But it is like, when, when is someone going to like share that with you? Like it doesn't come up randomly all the time. But once I went through it, you know, it did come up here and there. And then I just learned that a lot of people I knew had actually dealt with it. You're the first close person to me that has shared that story with, with us. And yeah, it was, it's just tough to hear. Yeah. I feel like getting older.
00:23:46
Speaker
I have heard so many people close to me and not that are that have dealt with that. And I feel like as you get older, you really start to realize how common it is. And it's just crazy. And I know a lot of people talk about this online. There's a lot of
00:24:06
Speaker
influencers and celebrities and stuff who have brought attention to pregnancy loss. And I'm sure we'll have more episodes about this moving forward with some guests and things like that. But I just feel like no one really talks about it when you're younger. When you're dreaming of having a family, you don't really hear about how common it actually is.
00:24:29
Speaker
Yeah, so I mean, with you going through that, you know, back in November, how did that affect this pregnancy? I would say that was the hardest part was how it impacted this pregnancy. Well, not the hardest part, but not something to be like minimized is the anxiety that I felt. Yeah, there was just a lot more anxiety. I think in November, it was tough
00:24:56
Speaker
Because you just don't expect it. Here, I'll just get a little bit into it. And I know that everyone deals with their own journey to a healthy and happy baby. And some people have it much more difficult than just having one loss. And I feel so grateful to have TJ and then this pregnancy that's looking very healthy and on track. But it was called a missed miscarriage.
00:25:25
Speaker
It's not like in the movies when you see a miscarriage, which is just like it's somebody like has a bloody episode in the bathroom or like all of a sudden they like feel it come out of them or something like that. Like I went to the doctor and I felt like the first ultrasound that I had, the fetus was measuring like really small compared to how I felt like I should be.
00:25:52
Speaker
And I remember being like, I've been tracking, I really think I'm more like eight weeks, but it was only measuring six. So I immediately, and I think I was texting you guys, I immediately felt like something was kind of off. And so then I went into, I asked the doctor, I was like, can I just come back in a couple of weeks because this feels off to me.
00:26:16
Speaker
And they were like, sure you can, but like everything's fine. The heartbeats where it should be blah, blah, blah. And I don't know if like, if that was just an intuition or a coincidence, but I really like at that point got nervous and I was like, I think something's off. So I came back in the couple of weeks and then they were like, how are you feeling? And I was like, I feel good. Like I still feel so pregnant. I had a ton of symptoms. My boobs were huge and sore. And I was just like, I feel super pregnant.
00:26:43
Speaker
And then they did the ultrasound and I could see because it was up on the screen there that there was no heartbeat and it was only like six weeks, seven days or six weeks, six days. And I should have been like over eight weeks at that point. So I was like, fuck.
00:27:01
Speaker
That sucks. And I got emotional and you know, nothing really prepares you for that. Except that I just had this gut feeling that something was wrong. And I'm so glad I asked the doctor to go back and look because I don't know when it would have happened naturally.
00:27:19
Speaker
Yeah, you know, it was sitting in there. Like I, I mean, maybe it wouldn't like, I'm sure there are situations where your body may not pass it naturally, you know, like all the time. And you would have gone to a 12 week appointment and been like, whoa, what's going on? And then, I mean, at 12 weeks, you're like, yeah, attached and you think you're there. So, so then I went through the process of miscarrying at home and.
00:27:48
Speaker
It wasn't super painful, it was just kind of like a rough day, but I was kind of like, okay, that's over with, that's done.
00:28:00
Speaker
Moving on. No, I just feel like that's the society we live in is just kind of like pick up your bootstraps and like keep going. Like I have a healthy baby. Like there's so much to be grateful for. And I think that mentality is helpful. Yeah. So I wasn't that emotional about it. I was just kind of like, okay, like moving on now. And then I did have a session with my therapist.
00:28:24
Speaker
And she was just like asking me what was up and I was like, oh yeah, like this happened. And then she was the one who was like, we need to like
00:28:32
Speaker
We need to get some closure around this. And she talked to me for the whole session about it. And it really made me realize that I was upset about it. And I needed to process it and kind of be sad and mourn it. And after that session with her, she was amazing. I was like, whew.
00:28:55
Speaker
feel less tense like i would i just kind of went through a ritual of being like okay that was that was really fucking shitty yeah like that was really sad and yeah i would say it made it didn't really go away the anxiety of it until i got
00:29:12
Speaker
pregnant again. And luckily for us, it didn't take super, super, duper long. We got it like five or six months later. So I feel so grateful for that, but it's like the anxiety when you are trying and when you're in early pregnancy, when you've experienced loss.
00:29:32
Speaker
Is really high. I was going to say, I feel like it's a different ball game, honestly, because you know the risks and you know, cause like you hear about the risks. Like even if you haven't had a loss, you hear about them, blah, blah. But it's like a different thing when like that's already happened to you once.
00:29:50
Speaker
Yeah, you get really worried. Fertility issues and this like something's going on that you're going to have to go see someone about. But that's what I was going to say is you hear about them and you're kind of you kind of think of it in medical terms. You don't really process it until you or someone you know really close to you. It happens and then it becomes like, whoa, this is happening way more often than you think. And it's
00:30:17
Speaker
very emotional for that person or your friend or yourself. It's just crazy how you don't really think about it until it does happen to you or your friend. Yeah.
00:30:30
Speaker
I don't know. It becomes, it just becomes relevant to your life. It was relevant for my life. Really at the forefront for, yeah, from October to basically last week. Um, and now I feel a sense of, I do feel confident now that I'm past that 12 week mark, but.
Support and gratitude in pregnancy
00:30:54
Speaker
I have a friend that has gone through loss more than one and at a couple of points I reached out to her because I was just like, oh my God, I'm feeling so anxious and she was really helpful and she just knew what to say and she's so strong.
00:31:17
Speaker
She was a great person to reach out to her and like, I just hope that I can do that for somebody else in the future.
00:31:26
Speaker
I don't know. Maybe this is helping somebody right now, but you know, it is for sure. Yeah, it definitely is. So yeah, I would say like, listen, if you feel like something's up, talk to your doctor, like trying to advocate for yourself and it's okay to feel those feelings and be sad about a loss. Yes.
00:31:49
Speaker
Yeah, and it honestly like this one now. I just feel so Excited like yeah, I just feel like she's Even more special now. Yeah, so I'm I'm excited Yeah, I know
00:32:07
Speaker
Feeling so grateful. We're so excited. We're thrilled. And thank you so much for sharing that with everyone. If you are someone who has experienced a loss or experienced multiple losses, we hope that we can create a space for you to connect with someone else who has and get a little bit of support or
00:32:34
Speaker
You know, lightness around it or whatever you are looking for. We're hoping that, you know, our little community of mom group chat can offer that to you. So we just appreciate you sharing that with us Shannon and we're so excited for this new little baby.
00:32:52
Speaker
Yay. I'm so excited. Um, I appreciate you guys being there for me over the past couple of months while I've been keeping it a secret basically. And now it's so fun to be able to share and join in the conversations around how flipping fun pregnancy is. There's so much to be grateful for and, um, yeah, I'm
00:33:22
Speaker
called painters today. I'm texting Whitney about wallpaper and how much that costs, which is a shit ton. Um, cause we'll be, we'll be genderizing the room for TJ. I was like, all right, let's make it neutral because we never know what we're going to have. And then they're like, it's a girl. And I'm like, that's how I am. I like,
00:33:45
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I mean, I definitely am very much into Graydon's room, but doing her room, I'm like, ooh, this is so girly and so fun. I know. It's so fun. You know what? If she doesn't like it later, that's okay. It's honestly for me. This is just how it is right now. This is for me. It's like the birthday parties. It's all for us, okay? We did it. Let me have this.
00:34:08
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Oh, I loved, I loved having a girl. I'm so excited you both are having girls because I have just loved being a girl mom and they're so fun and cute and all of the girl stuff is so just, it just makes your heart sing, I
Gender prediction myths
00:34:25
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think. It's so cute. All my friends are having girls and when I was having a boy, I felt like everyone was having boys. Like Candice, you were one of the only. I was the only girly pop of the group.
00:34:36
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And now I'm like, oh my gosh, I know so many people having girls this year. I think even in our group chat for September, it's more girls than boys. I'm like, it's shifted.
00:34:48
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Yeah, well, so my sister-in-law is an OBGYN. So she's a great resource whenever I was pregnant and for this group. People are always like, can you ask Olivia? So shout out to Olivia, my sister-in-law. But she says like when she's delivering babies, like they come in waves, like that it'll be like a crazy, like mostly girls for a month and then it'll switch and be like mostly boys.
00:35:14
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So it's weird how like, I wonder if like, I don't know, maybe this is woo woo of me, but I feel like the stars and the moons have something. Literally. Well, I know. I don't know. Ironically, everyone's having the opposite gender of what they've had before. I'm like, yeah, this is crazy. It does seem like that happens more than two of the same. I don't know. I was just like, I was shocked at how many of my friends are having the opposite.
00:35:44
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I think statistically it's like 50 50 literally every time. Like there's nothing about like, if you have two boys, then you're going to have a third boy. Like I'm pretty sure this was an Emily Oster thing that she told me on her, asked me anything Wednesdays, but she's like, no, literally every single time you can see if it's 50 50.
00:36:03
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Okay, cause I had read once that or heard, it could be in a TikTok, so who knows? I saw this somewhere that like, if you have an unknown resource, that if you have three gender, three of the same gender in one, like in a row, that it could mean that your sperm literally does not, like there's, like it does not carry the other one. Like, cause it's really the sperm who brings the gender. So.
00:36:33
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Like, that's why I always, yeah, like Vinny wants a boy so bad whenever we get pregnant, you know, the next time. And I'm always like, if it's not, it's your fault. Like, you're the one carrying the DNA. Vinny, your sperm has eyelashes, my guy. Like, I'm sorry.
00:36:56
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Oh my God, I can picture that. That's our next Photoshop. It has to be. Yeah. I don't know. I read that. I read that if they have three in a row, it could mean that like their sperm literally doesn't carry the other. That would be Andrew. Andrew would be so sad if I had to be like, oh, as it turns out, you have no male sperm. All of your sperm are female. How does that make you feel?
00:37:24
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They all have eyelashes. Yeah, they're all eyelashes. They all have like, I just imagined like little grannies. They have like glasses and eyelashes and like little lipsticks and they're just like. Like that's what's inside your nuts. Oh no. Oh my God, that is funny.
00:37:47
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Well, I mean, it's funny because he has some of that in there, which I'm about to go tell him right now. We're 50-50.
Connecting with expecting mothers
00:37:55
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It's exciting. Okay. Well, you're going to keep us updated on your pregnancy journey now that this is out to all of our listeners. I mean, we're a fertile bunch of girls here because Whitney is due August. I'm being induced the August 27th.
00:38:14
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So soon. So soon. August, September, October, November. Okay. So I'm five months from you. Okay. Let's do a little bit farther than last time. That'll work. It'll, it's the same year. So tell Vinny to get his eyelash sperms ready. No, hopefully his are carrying a football this time.
00:38:36
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Yeah. Yeah. Well, we're really subscribing to the general or the gender norms. They have beers. Yeah. Well, I mean, you guys had like T.J. and Graydon were twenty twenty one and Alice is twenty twenty two. So we're back on schedule, my friends. Yeah. I think it's good luck.
00:38:57
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It's good luck that Whitney and I are on par. Yeah. I'm feeling it in my bones, Candice. I've got some work to do. Get pumping. All right. Well, that one got deep. Thank you all for coming with me to that space. Appreciate all the support.
Closing and announcements
00:39:19
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I'm so excited.
00:39:21
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We'll we'll open up a thread on our Facebook group of people who are also do around the same time as you. So that may be if you wanted to start a group. Yeah, I would recommend that would be so fun. So fun. All right. Let's go look at the Facebook group you made. OK, perfect. All right, guys. Thank you so much for. Congrats Shannon. Congrats Shannon.
00:39:46
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Love you guys. Love you. Thank you so much for being a part of our mom group chat. New episodes drop every Tuesday. And don't forget the group chat is blowing up on our Instagram page. So make sure you're following along over there. All right. Got to go. My toddler just put something in her mouth.