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34: Choose Yourself w/ Misha Battiste
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Sometimes the hardest thing you can do is admit your life no longer fits you.
This week on Geneva Says, I’m joined by my very first guest, Misha Battiste — political strategist, life & leadership coach, and someone who deeply understands burnout, reinvention, and what it means to choose yourself even when it feels risky.
We get into burnout, identity, self-worth, transitions and so much more - a real conversation about identity, ambition, rest, and the pressure so many women carry silently.
Then we shift into Currently Obsessed, where we unpack why Michael hit so deeply emotionally beyond just the music — plus yes… we had to discuss Love Island 😂 including the relationship dynamics, emotional messiness, and why these shows actually reveal so much about communication, self-worth, and modern dating.
Time to say the quiet part out loud! Let's get into it.
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Transcript
Introduction and Guest Introduction
00:00:00
Speaker
Today on Geneva Says, our very first guest will be joining us. Yes!
00:00:18
Speaker
All right. I'm super excited to kick off my Geneva Says segment with our first guest, Misha Batiste. I'm so excited for this. We have never had a guest before.
00:00:31
Speaker
So this is this is a big moment. Misha, are you ready? I look, I'm honored. i' As a Leo, I am very honored to be the first. Yeah. and i Yeah. I'm so excited. And yeah, this is going to be fun.
00:00:45
Speaker
Misha, you are a life coach, a life and leadership coach and a political strategist. Tell us more about yourself. Yes.
Misha Batiste's Journey to Coaching
00:00:54
Speaker
OK, so I worked in politics for about a decade um doing Democratic campaigns.
00:01:00
Speaker
um Started off at the DNC, ended at the DNC, actually. That's a story for another day, though. ah But in 2020. Part two. But I think around 2021, was like, i don't love it here. And I don't feel like myself here.
00:01:17
Speaker
um and you know, you go through that depression, that burnout and like, what do I do? What do I do? um and a therapist helped me figure it out. So starting in 2022, started training to become a life and leadership coach.
00:01:31
Speaker
Um, I've been certified since then and, um, built my own brand called Become Your Own Muse, helping women burn the blueprint and become their own creative force.
00:01:42
Speaker
And I also work with organizations as a leadership coach as well. So yeah, it's really cool that I feel like I kind of figured it out at this point. And, um, I think some of the things I've gone through will, ah it'll make this conversation that we're about to have, um,
00:01:58
Speaker
interesting. i hope. Yeah. Yeah. And I mean, i was inspired by what you do because of how relevant it is to what I've been going through.
Host's Job Challenges and Stress
00:02:08
Speaker
Anybody who's been watching my show for the past few episodes, I've talked a lot about issues on the job and how it's been killing me. i was having like crazy headaches, chest pain, like a lot of physical things that that was kind of what led me to know that I needed to make a change.
00:02:27
Speaker
Um, And also just disliking the work day to day. and I just started in January and I didn't even really want to go back to work. I had been consulting full time for years, but the orange man came in, messed up a lot of stuff.
00:02:44
Speaker
Yes, a lot of people were laid off and that was horrible, but there was broader impacts to people like me who work in a DEI and very racial equity focused space.
00:02:56
Speaker
And a lot of the work that I did was greatly impacted. So that's what made me say to myself, I need to go back to work. I need to get a job. I need to be able to make a living. And I thought that this would be the right job for me and it wouldn't be too much of a shock, but it was a shock. It was a lot of a shock.
00:03:14
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And it really made me realize, I don't think, I don't know if I can ever have a regular job. I don't know if it's for me anymore.
Toxic Work Culture Discussion
00:03:22
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um and I was just dealing with a lot of things that were not working for me. Obviously, the physical impacts made that clear.
00:03:31
Speaker
And so I left in April. So I had only been there three months. It's May 1st today. So the beginning's for you. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. So that's very fresh.
00:03:43
Speaker
And the crazy thing is not only did I leave in that period of time, another person who was on a different team who started the same day as me left earlier than me. She left like two weeks before I did. And my manager who had been there for about a year left the same day I did.
00:04:00
Speaker
And I think Part of what inspired her to do that was was my stepping out and saying, I can't do this anymore. And it's only been three months. So, yeah.
00:04:13
Speaker
I mean, on the nosy side, I'm just like, what is the management looking like there? Like three people wanting to leave, three people really struggling to ah enjoy the job or just work it in general. It says a lot about ah culture there.
00:04:30
Speaker
So i just want to acknowledge that like that's a cultural issue at that company that they need to diagnose. It just felt very it was very disempowering. ah Wow. So feeling disempowered literally made your body ache like it made you.
00:04:47
Speaker
Wow. That's a note. That's a note. That's a note. Yeah. Just like, gotcha yeah, your body does hold a lot of information. So when did that start? When are those ah that pain or the feelings in your body begin?
00:05:01
Speaker
Almost immediately. Almost immediately because i came in with an expectation. i was basically rebuilding a part of our of the team and immediately I had ideas. Let's do this. Let's do that. I'm ready to like go all in and everything was an obstacle. Well, wait, we have to do this first and do this. And there was just so much red tape and bureaucracy and so much oversight to the point where I was like giving up on even trying to do it after like yeah a very short period of time, because I was like, what's the point?
00:05:34
Speaker
And I would come in and just feel like all I'm going to do today is take orders. I work at McDonald's. All I'm doing is looking, you know, McDonald's, the little stuff comes up on the screen. I'm just looking, okay, put a burger in, put a fry in hand it to the drive-thru person. and Like,
00:05:51
Speaker
What was the point? yeah And I, some people could see that as like, oh, that's easy money. and Why wouldn't you do that? But I just felt like I have to go into the office. This is at least eight hours of my day and I have to not hate it.
00:06:04
Speaker
It has to be the cost. Yeah. Okay. Let me, i was going to ask you more questions, but I'm just, you're interviewing me. not going to start interviewing you. But I think, you know, one of the first questions that this does make me think of is sort of like, like I was saying, the physical signs were the biggest signs for me that I needed to make a change.
00:06:28
Speaker
And as you are working with people and in your own experience, what are sort of the signs, whether it's burnout or just other you know reasons why people need to revisit what they're doing?
00:06:40
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What are the signs that people need to be paying attention to?
Signs for Career Change
00:06:44
Speaker
It really is. is it is the body. It's the stomach. Like, well, yeah, it's the stomach. Like, um does it feel nervous? Like, I wonder even for you, when you got hired, what was your body feeling?
00:06:57
Speaker
ah I feel like I was... Okay. You know, when I first got the offer, obviously it was since I had two things that I was interviewing for, i was pretty nervous about like, am I making the right decision between these two things?
00:07:14
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But I was pretty at peace about going back to work. I had... come to a place where I knew that that was going to be the right decision. and interviewing with them, i thought they were great. Everybody who I met was great.
00:07:29
Speaker
I went to the office. I liked the vibes. Like, I didn't have any concerns. ah Yeah, and I so I totally understand that. I do wonder if there was still a little bit of an undertone because like that nervousness, because look, from my experience, um when I was getting hired for Elizabeth Warren's campaign, I was calling everybody like, should I do this? Should I do this? And like even sign and I was getting paid more, just something about the role and how it came about.
00:07:58
Speaker
i was just like, I don't know if this is the right thing for me. And I just felt very stressed. about accepting it. And I'm grateful that I did it. I'm so grateful that I did it, but it was a shit show. Like it was like the beginning of me being like, oh, politics isn't for me. And then even when I,
00:08:18
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started coaching and I that took like a part-time job because I wanted to try out doing ah production the way that was coming together. It was kind of like, and maybe this is just a me thing that I've had to learn, but, and I hope maybe other folks ah catch this too, that i when I accepted this production job,
00:08:38
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I accepted it knowing like, ah this isn't pay not right. I'm not sure. Like we didn't even sign a contract. I'm just like, let me go get this money and call it a day. And again, I'm grateful for the money and I'm grateful for the experience.
00:08:53
Speaker
But I did sell myself short through doing that. And like I had that, like I knew I was making a decision like that. um And so just even before you get into these roles, because I think that a lot of us,
00:09:07
Speaker
take jobs. We're like, oh my God, it's the dream job. It's going to be the great job. And then like it all, it never really, um, feels good in the end. i want us to like pay attention to what our body is feeling or what our mind is telling us before we even enter the job.
The Future of Work: Consulting and Gig Economy
00:09:21
Speaker
Um, cause maybe you'll be at the least, if you still take it, maybe you'll be less surprised yeah that you don't enjoy it. But yeah, back to your question. I think one is the body. I think two,
00:09:33
Speaker
when you become resentful of the manager or even the work, like as soon as you become resentful, not a good sign. Cause I think, um, at least resentful to the way that you can't like logic your way out of it. Right. Like, cause I think with maturity, um,
00:09:53
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there's times where you can like, well, that's just my feelings. Let me like fall back and like keep it pushing. But if it if it really does become like a kind of strong resentment that again, you feel in your body like a dislike when you're and interacting with the person and all of that, I think that that's a red flag for you that this job or like at least this working relationship that you have with someone is not, it's not the move.
00:10:17
Speaker
But the thing is, and that's why I'm kind of ranting a little bit, but I feel like you caught it pretty quickly that this job was not for you. i think a lot of people, like I have a friend who thought it was a dream job for them. About a month then it was not. And like dealt with a lot of sadness. And it it it took them maybe like a year and a half to finally leave.
00:10:41
Speaker
It didn't take you no time. It honestly not time. Here's the reason why. Because I've done that before. So now, now I'm used to it. I had a job.
00:10:52
Speaker
I started back in like 2018 that ah month in, ah once again, I knew I wasn't right. It took me till about six months to decide I'm going to leave.
00:11:05
Speaker
And then I left like around a year, a little bit shy of a year. So I have the experience of being on a job and knowing it's not for me and leaving. So I this time I was like, I don't need to take the whole nine months.
00:11:20
Speaker
I'm just going to go. Good. debt And like you said earlier that you don't think you'll get another job. Y'all.
00:11:31
Speaker
None of us should be getting to the future is not these big corporations. These jobs are dying. Everyone. just gonna cut to the chase. Everyone needs to figure out what their zone of genius is and start to figure out how they want to provide a service around that or whatever.
00:11:53
Speaker
The future
Separation of Work and Personal Identity
00:11:54
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is each of us being some type of consultant, some type of coach, whatever it is And let's say you're an accountant, right?
00:12:04
Speaker
So you got, you know, your account, you whatever. So let's say you're an accountant, someone else is a social media create a manager, someone else is a business consultant.
00:12:15
Speaker
Y'all can come in together for one client. I think it's going to be like consultant collectives is the future. These jobs ain't coming back though. what What would you say? Because I've seen people post online like, look, I'm not meant to be an entrepreneur. I want a nine to five. I don't want to be my own boss.
00:12:35
Speaker
How would you respond to people like that who say, I don't want to be a consultant. I like the security of a nine to five and benefits and all of that. I think that like for me, as I grow Become Your Own Muse, I will hire people. Like I think that the jobs will come from small businesses, like the business that you continue to to blossom.
00:12:58
Speaker
You will be able to hire people um to support that. i I don't think it's going to be like these big company kind of jobs. I think it's going to be like small community, like small businesses. ah Even for me, when I first started out coaching,
00:13:12
Speaker
um i um I wanted to do political coaching. So I saw that a firm was already doing that. And so I reached out to them, like, instead of me building my own leadership practice, why don't I just be like, be an associate coach for you guys.
00:13:30
Speaker
And so I started getting clients that way. So I didn't have to like spend so much time like building my own thing. So I think it is going to be kind of like those collaboration partnerships until you figure it out. It is hard, right?
00:13:42
Speaker
Um, But I think it is the future. I think that that is something that we're going to have to adapt to. I do. Yeah. I mean, I agree with you. Yeah. Okay. I agree. I think that the future of work is...
00:13:57
Speaker
The gig economy, but not in the way that we think about it of like driving DoorDash or like driving Uber. I think it's going to be putting together projects and consulting and all these different things that you do that come together to make a living instead of like having one job.
00:14:15
Speaker
Yeah. And I know it sounds exhausting because that means you have to network and build relationships and Um, but the thing is is, that you will be working in your zone of being genius. You will be doing work that you enjoy.
00:14:32
Speaker
it'd be stressful, but hopefully you're able to build something that actually feels fulfilling. Um, and I think in that way, we'll kind of be working within our purpose, you know, like it's hard to have a nine to five and have that feel like your purpose. Now, I know sometimes people fulfill their purpose outside of the work, but this is a way to kind of bring them both together. Yeah.
00:14:57
Speaker
I want to ask you going back to, you know, the story I was sharing and your own experiences, your clients experiences. I know that when I started to feel like I wanted to leave the job, i felt kind of guilty because in the job market, i was very fortunate to get a job. The pay was good.
00:15:20
Speaker
All things considered, on paper, it looked really good. And I felt like, damn, am I being ungrateful here? and so I did deal with a little bit of that guilt. How do you address that? What is the way to overcome that or just manage it? Yeah. Yeah.
00:15:40
Speaker
acceptance, right? Two things can be true, that you're very blessed to have been hired at a time like this when Black women are being forced out of the workforce and the job sucks.
00:15:54
Speaker
Like, you're not enjoying it. it's I think um the more that we are able to accept feelings like this, like, I am grateful and this does not feel good. I think that's fair to you.
00:16:05
Speaker
I think that is very fair. And I think it's also a message that Maybe these jobs aren't really the prize that we think they are. That part of it. they yeah i can't I can't tell you how many jobs that like I feel proud about, but I don't feel good about. like you know like just like i didn't i didn't like i didn't enjoy myself through it and i look not everybody's like that. Like our girl, Ange works at, um, big corporation lobbying, loves it. They run her ragged, but she is growing. And like, I think she has stability there.
00:16:44
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Um, so i
00:16:48
Speaker
if y'all not liking y'all jobs, I think you need to look at what it looks like to work for yourself. And I'm not saying leave your job right now, but start planning, start, uh, having conversations, um, You said gig economy and it's like gig economy and um portfolio business, right?
AI as a Tool and Personal Identity Beyond Career
00:17:07
Speaker
Yeah. That is going to be the future. Service, frameworks, speaking engagements, media, all that.
00:17:14
Speaker
going to stop now. Yeah. And I also think Now we're going down that road. My one other thought on it is I think that helps to overcome some of the AI stuff because i do marketing and communications.
00:17:26
Speaker
Yes, there's a part of that that can easily be outsourced to AI in terms of drafting materials and different writing. But for my clients, I do a lot of media outreach and trying to get them covered in different publications.
00:17:41
Speaker
AI can't do that. Or if somebody is trying to, not successfully. um i get them speaking engagements, different you know opportunities to speak on podcasts and things like that. That's through my relationships and that's through the experience that I have. And I don't think that could be replicated by artificial intelligence.
00:18:02
Speaker
Period. Period. I'm so glad you know that. As long as we think and utilize AI as an assistant and not an advisor. Exactly. Yeah.
00:18:13
Speaker
Yeah. I'm curious, like, obviously we're talking a lot about the future of work and maybe these big jobs, big organizations and big corporations are not where it's at We are going to have to be creating the services and becoming our own business.
00:18:29
Speaker
What about people? Because I dealt with this a lot before I went out on my own. What about people who sort of have identity tied to work? You know, that big title, that big company name and what it means for them and the status and the cachet.
00:18:44
Speaker
How do you address that? Girl, I definitely had to go through that. You know, like I said, a decade in politics and was living in D.C., traveling, you know, blah, bla bla blah, blah, blah.
00:18:57
Speaker
And I got laid off from a political tech company because I was just supposed to be like a little job to hold me over as I do my coaching training. that I got laid off the same week I supposed to be moving to LA. I was going to be an LA coach and blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:19:11
Speaker
And the same week I was hiring ah movers, I got laid off. So I had to move to ah Ohio, which is where my family were living at that time. We're originally from New Orleans, um but my mom was living in Columbus, my mom and dad. So had to move back to Columbus and just I don't know. it It was a humbling experience. um It was very humbling. And I basically the the answer, the short answer to your question is figure out who you are outside of your work.
00:19:44
Speaker
Go back to what you actually value, what you love, what you enjoy, like truly find your identity outside of what you do. Because I absolutely did. I worked for Hillary Clinton. I worked for Elizabeth Warren. I worked for John Oslo.
00:20:00
Speaker
I really did. like I did lead with that. That was what I thought was my value at that time. But that's because I was shutting down my actual personality. I was shutting down my actual interest. like It was just very...
00:20:19
Speaker
small perspective I had of me. So I going to Ohio and just kind of having to get to know myself and hang out with myself. I just allowed that to happen. I allowed my quirks to roll over my interest in reality TV, my interest in astrology, like all of that. I just, I allowed that to kind of, um,
00:20:41
Speaker
be a way to represent me. ah Yeah. Well, I do think it's up um kind of like going back, going back to like who you were at 13 and figuring out who that girl is and bringing her along to you today.
00:20:53
Speaker
In terms of how I did it, i really just... I had to kind of grieve because I was on a corporate ladder that was making my title very big and people were like very impressed. And the organizations I was working with was very impressive, I felt shitty.
00:21:15
Speaker
and I said, I would rather feel better and just not look as impressive on paper. Like I'll just accept that. Even though I think being the CEO of my own company is impressive in its own, right?
00:21:32
Speaker
I think losing some of the more sort of like LinkedIn sexiness is just what I'm going to have to deal with because I would rather not be burned out. I would rather not be working during my vacations, which is what I was doing. i would rather not be...
00:21:50
Speaker
being on the phone all day and night, getting yelled at about stuff that was outside of my control, which was what was happening. So I just, I just accepted the trade-off.
00:22:01
Speaker
Yeah. that This is actually like, well, you describe what I described. That's, that is the birth of Become Your Own Muse. It's because your life can look good on paper, right? You got the good job, the nice apartment, you know, all of that can look so good, but inside,
00:22:17
Speaker
just like, OK, this doesn't feel that great. It's not it's not what you thought it was going to be. And a lot of our lives got shaped through societal conditioning, familial expectations and all of that. So taking a moment to step out of that and figure out who you want to be just as an individual, like who is Brittany, who is Misha,
00:22:41
Speaker
that's how you get to become your own source of creative authority or your own source of inspiration. Not looking at what other people are doing, but just like, who are you and what do you feel like you need to do in this lifetime?
Choosing Personal Happiness Over Societal Expectations
00:22:52
Speaker
and know that's a little bit like, you're like, we just talking about jobs here, but i think that is a, that's the identity work actually. That is an identity work.
00:23:02
Speaker
Yeah. So I think like what's really wrapped up in this conversation is just like choosing yourself. being bold enough and being in a place where you can just say, I choose me, even if it disappoints other people, even if it doesn't look as good on paper, what does that really look like for people to choose themselves?
00:23:25
Speaker
And how can, especially women in our situations, how can they how can they prioritize doing that? Oh, you have to de-center everything.
00:23:39
Speaker
everyone's opinions or it's, it's like a combination of decentering others, including your mom. ah as I was going to religion, but i' leave that alone. ah The boys, I say the boys and the mom, um the grandma, you know, just people who influence your decisions that much. They have to be de decentered because You are what matters in your life.
00:24:07
Speaker
Other people absolutely do. And like, it is our responsibility to care for our community. But I do not think that we are serving our community in the best way if we are not living authentic lives, right?
00:24:21
Speaker
You can't really see people if you... don't see yourself, you know, it's because it's always going to be this clouded, um this clouded perception. Like for me in my twenties, when I was like, just trying to, I was hiding from myself. I was like literally running away from, from my truth, I think. And so when I would see other people who at least seemed authentic and were like wild and said whatever they wanted, I'll be like, why that's weird. Or, know,
00:24:53
Speaker
Like, yeah, I would judge. it i was like, I don't get it. Like, aren't you so like, where's your decorum? but i grew up in the South. ah very Like I went to church three days. i mean, four days a week.
00:25:03
Speaker
I was a good girl. i was a good girl. I went into college as a virgin. Like, you know, so. I had to, and we all who haven't done it yet, we got to get that gunk off.
00:25:17
Speaker
We got to get the, i I really do think whoever we were at 13 is likely our most honest selves. 13 and eight. I think we're our most honest selves at that point. So go back. What were you interested in at that time? Who did you want to be? Like that's that's your information right there. you know When you go through like you go through high school, college and all of that, that's when you just start to kind of conform into something um that seems right. Cause you have those outside influences, you got that um outside inspirations.
00:25:51
Speaker
And i think we, we are the leaders of our lives, right? Like our body has information. Our mind has information. Like when you see people on TV that you admire is because you see yourself in them.
00:26:08
Speaker
So use that as information for yourself, but that doesn't mean you need to have a life like them. Right. Okay. Tangent. No, that's okay. i love it. i really appreciate you dropping your wisdom, helping us get started on the path of becoming our own muses and really thinking about how work and our career choices really impact that. So I think it's been a great conversation. I'm so grateful. um And I'm excited for you. Good for choosing yourself. um
00:26:43
Speaker
Yeah. I forgot that that's what the question was. Mm hmm. I forgot. i was like, after I said like, oh, thank you for choosing yourself. I'm like, oh, that's what the question was. i don't think I ever got there. yeah no it's much me i know you said it so it was enough.
'Currently Obsessed' Segment
00:27:02
Speaker
And I hope, Misha, you'll stay with me for my last segment, Currently Obsessed, where i talk about things, whether it's movies, shows, podcasts, whatever that I'm obsessed with right now.
00:27:13
Speaker
My first one is very easy because I have already seen it twice and it's been out for less than a week. Michael. Oh, my God. I'm obsessed. Just I've been like on a Michael Jackson fixation. I've been watching every YouTube video, every, uh, we need to do they see the movie.
00:27:31
Speaker
I saw the movie. I took my nephew. Um, I proudly, he's nine years old. I put him on Michael when he was like four. The recipes. Yes. He knows how to moonwalk and like he's into it So we went to go see it. Um,
00:27:47
Speaker
Yeah, it was it's not like a love letter to Michael. I really feel like they captured the essence of him. um And it was just very kind to him, um which, you know, it's been a while since we got to see that, like just the beauty of him. So I feel like us as a black community needed this, too, because.
00:28:10
Speaker
I know when he died, we were up like, you know, as millennials obsessed, like me my friend would be on the phone at 3 a.m. like playing and singing Michael Jackson songs. But when the Neverland documentary came out, I just feel like everything quieted down. And like we all just didn't know like, what we do? What do we And so I think that this movie has allowed us to like fully embrace him again. Yeah.
00:28:35
Speaker
And to me, it gives us an opportunity to see what it would look like if he were around today in terms of just being able to watch his performances, watch the videos. If we want to go back and watch things, you know, it's fuzzy. It's in standard definition. Like it's not ah the best viewing experience. So do being able to see because Jafar really Jafar was Michael.
00:29:01
Speaker
In a crazy way. in a crazy way I know. The older the character got, the more I'm like, Michael, Michael. Like once he hit Thriller, I'm like, oh, that's Michael. Like it just, he did excellent. Like I can't believe the work he had to do for dancing. he like, how do you embody the best entertainer that we've, you know,
00:29:23
Speaker
not living. um How do you embody that? Like, ah it's good for him. Good him. it took him years. It took him years to get there. And all of it was worth it because it really paid off. Like, he, he was Michael.
00:29:37
Speaker
And I think, I'm seeing like the critics and people be so surprised that people love this movie and that it made so much money. And I'm like, why wouldn't we want to celebrate Michael Jackson? Like we can hold two things at the same time. We know that there was some controversial stuff, things going on that may have been inappropriate or worse. Yeah.
00:30:00
Speaker
And we can also acknowledge that he was a legend and that he meant a lot to us. Like I was a fan of Jackson five. My mom put me on Jackson five when I was very young.
00:30:12
Speaker
And so I really have like a deep, long lasting connection, like way before thriller to yeah Michael Jackson. as so yeah, being able to just have this moment to celebrate him and see him.
00:30:24
Speaker
And I don't think the movie left anything out because it's ended in the 80s, you know, so we didn't get to those moments yet of controversy. And I thought it was beautiful. And I'm just, I'm like shocked by people who don't think it was because I'm just like, it was amazing. And i' would I'd see it a third time.
00:30:42
Speaker
I'm letting that go. And I'm, we gonna keep Michael. We gonna keep Michael. It's not that we don't care, but it's like, eventually I do have to let it go, especially because everything was very murky. There was no smoking guns in terms of the information that was presented about the potential abuse.
00:31:01
Speaker
So at this point, I have to hold on to what I do know is true, which is what he gave me and the world as an artist. The other...
00:31:12
Speaker
thing that I'm currently obsessed with right now. so okay. In general, I'm obsessed with Love Island.
Discussion on 'Love Island'
00:31:20
Speaker
Yes. And I'm ah very excited for that to come back in June, Susan A. Actually, i think me and Misha might be talking a little bit more because I know she's a fellow Love Island stan. Yes.
00:31:32
Speaker
It would be a dream. It would be a ger dream. do think the kids are going to stress us out, though. They are going to stress us out. After season seven, people are going to be trying to become the next Nick and Alandra instead of being authentic. And I'm just like, I'm worried about that.
00:31:46
Speaker
I know I am. I'm concerned, but I'm going to tap in. We're going to talk about it. We will. And now generally I'm obsessed with Love Island, like I said. So I gave Love Island Beyond the Villa a chance for the first time, which is the season that's on now with the season seven cast or most of them.
00:32:06
Speaker
ah I don't know. Right now it's giving, the checks are running out and we needed to find a way to revive our image. But what did you think?
00:32:17
Speaker
That's a really good way of putting it. It does like, it feels like we're watching a show of people floundering, like not sure what to do with their career. Besides Jeremiah, like Jeremiah and Amaya, they are the stars. Jeremiah he is actually the star of this season so far. And he's barely in the scenes. He's like, oh, gotta go, I gotta I got money to cash.
00:32:40
Speaker
Every, why also, like, I'm just gonna, Iris and TJ, don't, I got too much of them. I got too of them. They want us to love them. And I'm like, for what?
00:32:51
Speaker
No, no. And I also think Hannah, if she does that already, she's gonna live to regret that scene with Pepe. Mm-hmm. I just, it felt forced.
00:33:03
Speaker
It felt. I think Hannah's whole presence in this season should be regretted because before this, I felt like she was okay. You know, like that nothing super positive or negative about her, but now I dislike her because I'm like, why are you doing so much?
00:33:17
Speaker
Yeah. I, it's, I don't know. It it is, it's a bit pit on. um yeah Coco, the same. Coco, um, that girl wants to make it so bad She wants to make it so bad.
00:33:28
Speaker
and I with Clark. Talking about Clark was love bombing her. Girl, you are weird. That is weird. am with Taylor. And the fact that like, um she'd be like, you were saying that we're just the same. that And Clark is like, that don't even sound like me. Like she just looks so dry. Like it just really did make me believe like, oh, clearly like Clark is not a get a giddy ah giddy person to like say this stuff to you. so Exactly.
00:33:53
Speaker
Yeah. Let it go. whoopo One thing, if there's one nugget that I actually think Clark and T, I mean, not TJ, Clark and Taylor are somewhat interesting because they're trying to navigate how they're going to grow their individual lives, but stay together. And he has like this super strong vision for his future. And he knows exactly what he wants.
00:34:14
Speaker
And Clark is very much like discovery, exploration. She doesn't know yet. And people are trying to make it seem like he's right. But I'm like, Clark is a young 20-something woman. Like, she can explore as much as she wants. And even if Taylor is good to her, if he's getting in the way of her figuring out her journey, then I think she should let him go.
00:34:36
Speaker
Yeah, I... I like the way that you describe it um because you leave space for it to work out. In my head, their values don't align and they need to move on. Like she wants to be a city girl. She don't want to be in the country. She's never going to want be in the country.
00:34:53
Speaker
she Like if she wanted to be in the country, she would be there right now. Like what girl would not, well, not all, but there are women who would enjoy being in Oklahoma, hanging around with the horses, hanging out with all the animals. That's not her.
00:35:09
Speaker
I think he should find someone who does want that, unfortunately. But don't know. Maybe there is still, i don't know. She's never going to like it It doesn't seem like that at least. Yeah. And same with him. He's never going to like the city. I'm trying to leave it open because as a single lady, I'm like, if you found love, I want you to keep it. You know, don't the streets is very ghetto. I hate it So I want you to be happy if you feel like you found your person.
00:35:36
Speaker
But I agree that they are very mismatched on the types of life that they want. What do you think about Amaya and Brian? Brian, I was not on Brian's side, honestly, until he named the abuse that he got online. That made it make more sense to me. because i was like, you yeah, I was thinking he's full of shit for a while, honestly.
00:35:57
Speaker
but i still think he is because I think he never really liked Amaya. I think he noticed that she was popular and well-liked by the audience. And he saw his opening to get in there.
00:36:10
Speaker
And possibly win. And I think they won off the strength of his acting because I don't think he ever really wanted that girl. And I think when he came out, he was like, OK, let me hit the club and realize that. Oh, shoot. People are going to look at me doing that now.
00:36:27
Speaker
Y'all reality TV stars. Y'all got to be smarter. It's been like 30 years, almost 40. Yeah. Thirty five years of reality TV. you if you got if you're going to do it, play the long game.
00:36:38
Speaker
if you um if you're going to ask her to be your girlfriend on TV, you got to be with her for like at least six months. Like that's just a rule of thumb. i At least try to make an arrangement.
00:36:50
Speaker
Say, okay, girl, we're gonna keep we don't we don't want each other anymore, but let's ride this out publicly. People think Nick and Alandria are fake. I'm like, even if they are, they're playing it well. They're they're getting there each of their bread. Now, I don't think they are. I don't think they were.
00:37:04
Speaker
I think they're doing it smart. I think it's racist when people think that like Nick and Nicolandra are fake because that he was into her day one. Day one. You forgot about the blindfolds when you're saying that he didn't really want her. And that and she kissed him and Taylor.
00:37:23
Speaker
So there was always a mutual thing there. Thank you. Period. I'm nervous about this new season, though. I am. I am. But why?
00:37:36
Speaker
At a certain point, I think this show starts to lose the plot. um And I mean, to the fact that Clark and and well, okay, Nicolandria, they're still together.
00:37:49
Speaker
It's interesting that Alandria and Taylor are the two people in the relationships at this point. But i don't know. I was not going into last season, but this season it is very clear that people are going on to be influencers, which is fine. don't want to see some real love. I don't want to see no ace and and in um what's that girl's name?
00:38:07
Speaker
Shelly. I don't want to see that. want to see that. want see this game because I do now think it was a game. I do think that that was some BS. i don't want to see too much of that. Yeah. I would love for them to find people who are regular, who are not models, who are not influencers, who really are regular people.
00:38:25
Speaker
Jeremiah's. I want some Jeremiah's. I want some Nick's. i don't know. We'll see, though. I am excited. I am excited. I'm excited, too. And I'm excited for us to come back together and chat about it more.
00:38:37
Speaker
yeah so y'all stay tuned for our love, our life and leadership coach turned Love Island coach. I will be adding that to my Threads account. Perfect.
00:38:52
Speaker
Well, Misha, thank you so, so much for joining today, being the first guest on Geneva Says. I hope you enjoyed it. I think it was a wonderful conversation and I'm looking forward to chatting again soon.
00:39:06
Speaker
Thank you so much for having me. I'm so glad that i was a part of this conversation with you. i still can't believe I was your first guest, um but we'll be back soon.