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2. Our Journeys to Motherhood
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Morgan and Rachael share their journeys into motherhood and introduce their new segment, “Win of the Week,” where they reflect on the little moments that keep them going. Whether it’s managing to keep the kids awake until the perfect nap time or braving the pool with two active kiddos, Morgan and Rachael prove that every small victory is worth celebrating.
This episode is a mix of heartfelt and hilarious moments you won’t want to miss!
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Introduction to 'That's a Win' podcast
00:00:01
Speaker
Hey guys, Morgan and Rachel here. Welcome to that's a win podcast where we share the highs and lows of motherhood, celebrating the wins along the way. Thanks for joining us on our journey. Talk soon.
00:00:14
Speaker
Welcome back. Back to our second episode of That's a Win. Thank you all for joining us again this week. How are you doing,
Weekly check-in: Chaos and bedtime
00:00:24
Speaker
Rach? You know, I'm doing good. I feel like this week is going quick quick, but I'm like, once the kids go to bed, though, it's like, oh, This is my time to just chill. This is my relaxing time. I But yeah, it's been good. We're recording these after the kiddos are in bed and this is our, this is our time, our after bedtime talk. I should have prefaced with that. But yeah, no, I'm doing well. This week's going good. Good. But yeah, what about you?
Managing sibling dynamics
00:01:02
Speaker
Pretty good. um I feel like it's a little bit chaotic lately. i Eden and Jude are either best of friends or enemies this fighting. It's the text I got today or the photo of Jude's poor face. I know. Eden clawed him out. I don't even know what they were. fighting about but it was something and it's like sweet moments you see them together and they're being so sweet and you're just like and your heart melts into a puddle and then they're like scratching each other in the face and pushing each other down it just keeps you it just keeps you on it you're just in it all minutes of the day mm-hmm
00:01:45
Speaker
and you never know what you're gonna get. Like you said, one moment, the loving moment, the other, not so much. I will i haven't i feel like... Ivy is not, you know, like she's not walking yet. So I don't know. I don't know if it's a level like Nora hasn't like fully experienced. I don't know. Like Ivy's just a little like Jude and Eden, they're like older and can like be more independent. But I'm like, I'm just ready for the moment that Nora, and she does, she does do sweet things. But for the most part, she's just doesn't want Ivy coming near her step. yeah It's just like a whole battle. Like,
00:02:23
Speaker
whole new area to navigate like you know because she can crawl and whatnot and she wants to see everything that Nora is doing but Nora ain't about it. She's like that's my stuff which okay you know it is. I don't blame her. I feel like it goes through the different phases you know it's like now you know when they become mobile it's like okay wait they're getting into my stuff and then I feel like when Eden was like a year old it was like okay now we can like kind of play together but figuring out like watching their relationship too like okay now we can like fight over things rather than just like Eden sitting there as like a little baby so
00:03:03
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It like developed and then they were like really sweet and I don't know. It's just like new phases all the time. Yes. Keep showing your toes. I think that's the truth. So I thought we
Weekly victories highlight
00:03:15
Speaker
would start. We are going to do a segment called Win of the Week and it's pretty self-explanatory. but a way for us to kind of reflect and think back like, okay, what was a small victory or a big victory this week? And kind of keep us on the theme of being encouraging. And it, you know, when I was thinking about it, I was like, I really had to like pause and think, cause I feel like you get so busy in your day to day that you're like, you're not necessarily like really pondering on those moments as much. So I was like, this is cool. I like to right really stop and think about it.
00:03:50
Speaker
Right. And I think for me, and mine's the exact same way. Like you just, like when we were talking about let's do that, you know, going through the things we want to accomplish in the podcast. And I'm like, wait, I before this, like you and I, yeah, we would text like, Oh, that's a win. But I don't ever take time to reflect on that. And I think that's going to be really like therapeutic for us as well. and for the listeners to also take that moment to be like, wait, this was a win this week. Yes, I did this, you know? Big or small? Big or small? I love it. I think it's great. Do you want to go first? What's your win this week? So I think I'm going to be like, oh, well, this is small. But in the end, that's just, that's what we're doing here, right? So mine, I think is going to be from today.
00:04:45
Speaker
Nora had a dentist appointment and it was during Ivy's nap time ish on the way into preface and Ivy will fall asleep anytime the car is moving basically as you know she just loves the car that girl totally opposite from Nora Nora would never sleep anywhere other than her bed sound machine on dark lights you know and Ivy just sleeps wherever, so we just struggle with that, keeping her awake, whatnot. She stayed awake all the way, well, to the dentist.
00:05:24
Speaker
ah That was fine but on the way home when I was getting her back in the car like I saw her yawning and Nora's like I think I was trying to fall asleep mom and I'm like keep her up. So she stayed away got to get home let her have a crib nap and she slept actually two hours. Wow. So that's my win because if she would have slept in the car it probably would have been like a 30 minute little nap. So that's my win. Her not falling asleep in the car today and getting a nap. Yes. There you go. Inner crib. ah Some would say that's small, but some would say that's huge. So I think that's a big win. There we go. I love it. Yes. Okay, Moryi, your turn.
00:06:07
Speaker
Well, so I would have to say my win of the week this week is that I took the kids to the pool by myself two times. And I know that seems maybe not that crazy, but just navigating this summer with like two active toddlers now, like Eden wasn't walking last summer. She could just chill in her bouncer. It I, you know, it took me a little bit to be comfortable just by myself. You know, anything around water obviously is just a little nerve wracking anyways. And so they're getting more comfortable. I'm getting more comfortable. We had nice, you know, it was like really fun. Jude's learning his swimming. Like he's really making progress. He didn't just happy to be there. And yeah, so I was like, you know, the goggles. She.
00:07:00
Speaker
So I got Jude a pair of goggles and of course, silly, silly me. I didn't get Eden a pair and she wants everything that Jude has. So I'm like, I got to start getting to of everything now, I guess. So I got her hers and I don't know what it is about goggles, but it makes their eyes look hilarious they like well i was i did and Literally. Here's the part where I don't know if podcasts, you can like clip a video in, but you need to clip Eden's little video for cheese in her little goggles. I know, I definitely do. Sweet girl. No, that's totally a win. Totally. I'm giving myself a pat on the back. Yes, absolutely. As you should. Like you said, two active toddlers. that's That's insane. I have yet to do that, so you are encouraging me
00:07:51
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to think, you know what, Rachel, you can take your girls to the pool, you can do it. There you go. If more you can do it, you can do it. It's giving experienced mom, maybe? That's right.
00:08:06
Speaker
Add that to your resume. Yeah. I can i can take two toddlers to the pool. Look at me. All jokes aside, that is legit and because water is scary anyways and the plus side of that win as well is It tires them out and you get some good naps fingers crossed. Hopefully, you know what I mean? Yes, so that absolutely way to go girly and the more you do it the easier it will get too, you know exactly And I feel like that's just with everything. It's like the more you do it you get comfortable Something seems so fearful at first, but then you show yourself. Hey, I can actually do this
00:08:48
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Yes. Give you that encouragement to do it again. Right. You got it girl. You rockstar mama. Yeah, I love that. I love having the win of the week. Starting off strong here.
Morgan's motherhood journey
00:09:00
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So today we are going to talk about our journeys into motherhood and I guess we'll just each kind of go into our stories. I guess, do you want me to go first since I put you on the spot for the win of the week? I do want you to go first. I was about to say, you got it. You take this love please. So yeah, it's kind of Crazy. How?
00:09:22
Speaker
We've been in it three and four years and it's, you know, again, reflecting, looking back, it's like that almost feels like a lifetime ago, like starting out on this journey, but I'm excited to kind of go, go through it. But obviously first comes love, then comes marriage, and then comes babies. So we can't do a disservice to our wonderful husbands without bringing them into the picture here. Cause they were part of this, part of this equation. Just sit a little hard. and Wow. So this goes really far back. So Cole is my husband and we were high school sweethearts, but we met in fourth grade, which is crazy. Um, I guess similar to like around the time that me and you met, which is wild. Just how like involved in our lives that we've all been with each other. I just always had a crush on him. Like I would write about him in my journal in middle school and like, you know, it was always kind of there. He says he did me too, but
00:10:19
Speaker
I never felt that. So, you know, the boys pick on you and he's like, no, I had a crush on you. i'm like Okay. That's a weird way of showing it, but okay. Um, yeah, so we started dating freshman year of high school and then, um, really just continued on into dating in college. I feel like that's when our, obviously. our our relationships changed a lot. um We both changed a lot, obviously, as people grew in our relationships with the Lord and just, you know, high school, some of the things you look back on, you're like, oh my goodness, I can't believe that.
00:11:00
Speaker
But, you know, we grew and it was cool because we just kind of grew up together and grew closer. And um God really worked on our hearts individually. And that helped us come closer together. And we got engaged and got married. I had one semester left of college. He graduated early. So we got married in December 2015, a winter wedding, which I never pictured. But I was just like, I don't want to wait till the spring. I just want to get married. yeah But it was a beautiful wedding. I know. I will never forget. It was like that whole week, you know, Knoxville weather is unpredictable. So that whole week it was like 60 and sunny or something. And then our wedding day, it snowed, which looking back, I'm like, that was perfect. Cause it was like the winter wedding. But I remember it being freezing. Like it was outside, but it was so cold.
00:11:54
Speaker
if you're gonna have a winter or or wedding in December then you know might as well be yes yes you gotta have the snow you gotta yeah yeah definitely so that was fun and um yeah we stayed in Knoxville obviously so we got married and I finished school and we got jobs and then you know we bought a house and all that fun stuff and do you sorry I'm side tracking really quick but remember that first house that you guys I don't know if you rented it. Do you remember the house I'm talking about? The rental, the old 100-year-old home. Yes. That was so cool, but really scary. Creepy, creepy. Now looking back, we were like, why did we live there? It's torn down now. They like tore down the whole entire house. It's gone.
00:12:40
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So we were driving by and I was like, wait, the house, it's gone. Not gonna lie, I was real, real scared of the house. I can't believe I slept there every night, like thinking back. I'm like, how did I not get scared? I mean, it was cool. I guess it had cured. But like, was it? Was it cool?
00:13:02
Speaker
Obviously it's cool because we're able to talk about it now. So it gives us something, but I'm like, yes. hi Okay. Sorry. I just had to throw that in there. No, that's great. Yeah. So we were married for, I guess about four years. We tried for about almost a year to get pregnant and we got pregnant in 2019, I guess. Yes. Cause we had our first, our first child, our first born son. um June 2020, so middle of the pandemic, everything was just crazy. you know all the All the expectations you have for baby showers and just everything you imagined about being pregnant and having a baby totally blown out the window, which I know it affected everybody, so I'm not trying to be like, it just affected me. but
00:13:49
Speaker
No, you're relating. Yeah. Yeah. Not how you planned it. There were times when I didn't know if Cole was going to be able to be there with me in the hospital, like in delivery. And so thankfully he was. And I just remember just this stress. So you're like first time parent. So there's anxieties of just all of that stuff. And then it's like COVID and you're like, can we be around people? Can we not? Do we have to wear masks? Can they hold it. you know It was just like the added layer of like, what do we do? like what's you know You're just like scared. and yeah Anyway, yeah so I just kind of forgot that time. Maybe I like blocked it out of my memory. I think we all did. Seriously. That was, yeah, but I feel like
00:14:37
Speaker
We, we took it as best as we could, you know, I feel like we made the most of it in and it was still, we still had, you know, a lot of special moments in that journey. Um, and then we had Eden two years later, I guess, Jude was a little bit over two. She was born in September 22. And, um, he, yeah, I feel like he was at an age where. I was so nervous, you know, like how is the transition going to go? But he did so well with it. Like obviously he had his moments, but I remember being like surprised of like, okay, you know, I was fearful about this for not not nothing, but you know, you worry about things. And then so that, yeah, I feel like that transition went better than I ah thought it would. Obviously you have your ups and your downs, but, um, dude, dude has like the sweetest.
00:15:31
Speaker
Loving, sensitive, but like hilarious like little personality, little heart. I just knew he was like destined to be a good big brother. Not a big brother, but a great one. You know what I mean? like he loves. He loves. He's got a sweet little heart. He does. He has like that empathetic heart. He does. I was still working full-time when he was born and he was in daycare. and Then after I had eaten, that's when we decided that I was going to stay home. I went from you know working full-time to being home with both of them. I'm trying to remember. She was a couple months old.
00:16:10
Speaker
so Then I was a full-blown stay-at-home mom and that was a transition in and of itself. Changing from being full-time working to full-time home and also transitioning from one to two kids. So I feel like for me personally that the transition was harder for one to two than it was zero to one. I guess it was harder in different ways. You had other stuff like
00:16:35
Speaker
the other changes along with just having like another kid too that made it like a double whammy because you had a lot of changes within your career. You know what I mean? So that added to it. That's true. I feel like the baby part of it was easier because you're used to your like, okay, I know how to do this and that. And I know that I don't need to freak out about this or that, you know, you have that experience, but just juggling too. And what was personally hard for me was the divide and conquer at that beginning part. I felt like I was kind of missing out with like, Cole would just be off playing with Jude and I would be with Eden and
00:17:12
Speaker
I just wanted us all to be able to be together, and you know which kind of came over time, but that first initial period and then you know figuring out what is life like being a stay-at-home mom. I've never done this before and it was an adjustment for sure. I think it took me a little while to get situated with it. and and Then I was like, I love this. This is the best thing ever. okay Right? The hardest but best. Yes, exactly. Truly the hardest. I've never, I feel like relied on God more in my life than when I've been in that season. In this season now, just, you just realize you can't do it alone. And it's, it's so such hard. I mean, being a parent is hard no matter what. I just was challenged in ways confronted with a lot of my patients, impatience and selfishness and stuff that I feel like my heart was really like,
00:18:09
Speaker
changed a lot when I was so cool. I'm like, I feel like my life changed when I just, when I was a stay at home mom, two kids, like I really felt a big change in me, which is really cool. And yeah I'm just thankful that, you know, I got to spend those, spend that time with them and like, you can't get that back. Yeah. When they're so little. Oh my goodness. It's, it's like when you're able to write, like, yes you know, I know it that can't be for everyone and some people don't want it don't want to stay home and they would like to work. and I have friends that do that and they love that. You know what I mean? right
00:18:48
Speaker
But when you think about like how valuable those years are, if you're able to, then that's like, you can't get that time back. Yeah. yeah Totally. So yeah. And then I just now, so Eden's almost two, which was so weird.
Balancing work and parenting
00:19:04
Speaker
Yeah. What? Um, so I've been at home for about two years and then I'm going back part time right now, but they're still at home with me. So it's just, nothing really changes in terms of like my time seeing them. They'll be in their little two day a week school program and then I'll be working a little bit. So it's kind of a good balance, but I'm just thankful that I still get that, that time with them. And i I try to remind myself, I'm like, this is like the simplest that life is going to be like for them ever. And just like playing outside at home after dinner and not having, you know, they're not to the age yet where they're committed to all these activities and,
00:19:47
Speaker
sports and stuff. So I'm just like really trying to take in like the simple, the simpleness of life. Yeah. Slow down, which is hard to do, but totally, but you're right. You're right. So that's where we're at. Four-year-old, almost two-year-old. You're killing it. You're killing the game. Thanks, girl. You too. You see like your kids grow up and change. you know And then you realize, wow, I've changed a lot too. And like we're growing and learning and changing with them too. And I think that's really neat.
00:20:23
Speaker
Absolutely. It's always evolving. It's always changing. You're learning, growing, and then you think you know it, and then you're like, whoa, no, I don't. yeah And then you're back. You know what I mean? It's literally like, and also along with that too. you get comfortable in whatever routine or like little schedule that you have and then it's like oh I got this and then it's like oh they drop a nap or you know this and then you're learning a whole new little schedule and routine you never you never just have it do you know what I mean like it's always changing and evolving and you're learning and growing like you were saying yep which makes it fun it keeps you on your toes it does keeps you on your toes
00:21:10
Speaker
What were you going to say? Well, I don't want to steal your thunder on your story, but about us both having like high school sweethearts, like that's you pretty unique in and of itself. So I just, that's cool. I was thinking about that. Yeah. No, it really is. Like when I meet new people here and that's, you know, I talk about that, they're like, what? That's so sweet. Like I'm like, Oh yeah. And you don't sit and think like, that is pretty cool. Mm-hmm been together and like growing and changing with your partner to you know, I mean your spouse Mm-hmm, which is cool because you've seen them in all different like stages as well boyfriend husband been daddy daddy daddy daddy
00:21:57
Speaker
but But no, you're right. That's really cool. And like going off of that, because here in a minute when I talk about like mine, my parents are high school sweethearts and so are Daniels. So that's kind of cool. Oh, I didn't know that. Yeah. Yeah. yeah Both of our parents were high school sweethearts. Isn't that crazy? That is cool. Aww. It's a generational thing, you know? It's passed down. It's in your blood. It is. Or maybe there's something wrong with us. I don't... No, I'm just kidding. Just kidding. I just keep everyone here for are the laughs and giggles. That's all. Always. But you know, I try my best. I try my best.
00:22:38
Speaker
So, just to go off of that, um I am married to Daniel, which again, high school sweetheart. um We met in high school, obviously. um I was actually dating someone else at the time and he had a friend that I had a class with and I know that we like set at different lunch tables, but it was like across from each other. And hit the friend that we both are friends with like was like, there's this Rachel girl. you know He did give Daniel my number and Daniel would text me, um but obviously I was like dating someone else. so
00:23:19
Speaker
I mean, that didn't turn out. So that, that relationship failed and then Daniel swooped in. And yeah, we talked for a little bit and then he asked me to be his girlfriend at Wendy's. and Stop. Why did I not notice? Yeah, at Wendy's. Literally, like it was after we had Thanksgiving with like our families and like, I think We went there, I don't know, for like a velocity or something. But yeah, so that I was a junior in high school and he was a senior. um Yeah.
00:23:56
Speaker
We met there, dated all throughout, obviously had the normal little like ups and downs in little high school, college type relationships. To not go too into detail, Daniel had some different things that he struggled with personally, um which kind of strained our relationship at times, as you know. And through that whole scenario, like going back And I would just pray, like, God, if I'm not supposed to be with him, then, like, make something happen to where that's not the end goal for me. And so many times, like, it was never, that scenario was never point, like, brought out to where we weren't supposed to be together. Like, I just knew, like, God's like, no, like, he is for you. Like, I feel like I saw through all that, and I knew who he was to his core.
00:24:54
Speaker
You know what I mean? um So yeah, we dated through all that. um He ended up moving away from Knoxville, again, just to kind of have a different scenery move down here to South Carolina. um his aunt and uncle live out here so he lived with them for a little bit worked out here and I was still in Tennessee so we did like the long distance thing for a little bit um and he really liked it out here so we ended up getting engaged um and then after I after we got married I moved down here with him and we've been here ever since um and that was in 2017 we got married um
00:25:43
Speaker
So yeah, without here and the first year of marriage in general, like, you know, it's crazy.
Rachel's early marriage and adaptation
00:25:49
Speaker
Like you're like learning to live with a person, you know, cause I didn't live with Daniel before. So you're learning how to live with someone. And I feel like for me that first year was like really hard. Um, being away from my family, being away from my friends, trying to get a new job, having a new job, like being married, it was just, That was really hard. It was really hard. um And got through that year. We ended up, we were in an apartment at that time. We ended up a year later.
00:26:24
Speaker
building house so we got our moved into our first house in 2018 and got pregnant with well before we got pregnant with um nora in 2020 i had a miscarriage in january right it was like a couple months before before getting pregnant with nora in march or so so yeah same thing went through um the COVID pregnancy in 2020, like you were talking about, um, doing all of like the Instacart and like DoorDash, like you couldn't go anywhere. Like grocery stores were even like weirdly closed, like, or like not well like restaurants were and stuff. Um, so that was a whole new like ball game as well.
00:27:14
Speaker
Yeah, had Nora in December of 2020. And by that time, I feel like the like COVID product protocol had like somewhat like lifted. um like We could have had like a visitor at a time, one at a time to come in. But I know at some places, like you couldn't even have like any visitors. So Yeah. Had her in 2020, December, right before Christmas. Christmas baby. Yeah. Her due date was actually ah twenty fourth know the No, the 23rd was the 23rd. Yeah. And I was like, Oh, please. Like at least if she's going to have a crit, like a birthday around Christmas, like let's have some space in between it. Right. Um, when they ended up inducing me at 39 weeks. So.
00:28:02
Speaker
We got to have her a week before Christmas, which was nice. And she shares a birthday with my oldest brother, which is kind of cool. simple Yeah. And I have two cousins that have that birthday also. I'm like, what? Our family just, that's a really special day, I guess. and Yeah. So life with Nora, I was a teacher. I taught. in Knoxville even before getting married and after I had Nora financially we were able to um just have Daniel work and I was able to stay home um and still am and I love it it's amazing it's great it's hard but it's nice so yeah home with her and then we decided we were ready to once Nora turned
00:28:54
Speaker
We were like, when Nora turns two, we'll try to like try for another baby or around there and, um I actually had two miscarriages back to back. Like I remember sending you that video because I was like, I'm just going to take a test, like just to see. And it said that it was, it was like pregnant. And I was like, what? So the whole thing of like, that just plays tricks with your mind. Just when you go through losses like that. um And then I go in the back of my mind, like.
00:29:27
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Rachel, like people go through worse. Like that's not, it wasn't far long enough for like, you know, but it's still, what if like, you know, you think about those things, but, and having it back to back, you know what I mean? Which is just crazy. No, that's hard. you You can be validated in that. Yeah. But yeah, so got pregnant with Ivy after those miscarriages and then, um, yeah, she was born in August of last year. So she will be one in a couple months, which is nuts. Yeah. Two months. Yeah.
Children's personalities and parenting focus
00:30:07
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She's going to be one girl.
00:30:10
Speaker
I know it's just crazy girl, but we love her. That's, it's so crazy too, because you know, people always talk about like the first born and like the second born. And I just feel like so far kids are like super textbook to that whole like stigma of like Nora is such like a rule follower doesn't stray from You know, much, she's very, you know. She likes to please and follow up. Yes, she's afraid of like things and you know, Ivy just at 10 months, like I was just telling you, she literally like will pull up and then she just turns and just like, let's go. And she just like, wherever she lands, she lands. Like I'm like, Nora never did stuff like that. Like what? So I feel like her, even at 10 months, I'm like seeing this, like her little personality like come out. Yes.
00:31:02
Speaker
But yeah, so got to have a three and a half year old and a 10 month old, almost one year old. It's crazy to think how just that we both have two kids. Sometimes I'm like, I just feel like a kid myself sometimes. and Like, are we allowed to be doing this? Right. I said this is allowed. It's like going home from the hospital and they just like hand you the baby and they're like, all right. Bye. And I'm like, wait a minute, do I need to like pass the test or something? Like an evaluation of if I'm fit for this or not? But okay. See ya. See ya. Here's your child.
00:31:46
Speaker
looking back and thinking about becoming a mom and just being a mom now to two, two what what do you think was the hardest part or one of the hardest things either like at the beginning or just like in general? so I think my hardest, it's not going to be solely like related to like my girls, but I think for me is, I guess there's like two kind of things that kind of go with it. I tend, me personally, I tend to focus so much on my kids that one, I feel like I'm not giving myself feeling my cup you know or also like my relationship with Daniel. I sometimes just put my kids first and I think that goes along with like when I stay at home. like
00:32:37
Speaker
I stay at home with them, so like they are all I know. like That's just my life and that's the season that I'm in right now. But that for me has been hard, I think, continuing like to also be putting my marriage first and not my happiness, but like you know my cup being filled as well. because I do so much for my kids. So I think, so it's not necessarily pertaining to like the actual act of like parenting my kids, you know, but that to me has been the hardest thing. It's a big shift. Yeah. Yeah. I can get lost in just focusing on them.
00:33:17
Speaker
And not that that's a bad thing, I guess, but you got to remember, well, why are, why are those kids here? You got to think of your relationship first, almost. If it wasn't for Danny boy, they wouldn't be here. That's right. So Hugo, what's, what do you think your hardest? Well, that, I mean, honestly, mine was kind of similar. I think just how all consuming it is and how it requires everything of you at all times.
Parental pressures and joys
00:33:49
Speaker
And I think for me, I worry a lot about
00:33:54
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Am I doing this right? Am I doing the right things to they're going to turn out quote unquote good or whatever, you know, like I'm so concerned about their futures and who they're going to be and are they going to be kind? Are they going to be empathetic? Are they going to be trustworthy? You know, and I'm like, am I doing enough now? You know, I carry the weight of it since it's all consuming me. I carry that weight on my shoulders and I'm like, I want It's not up to me, right? I mean, they're going to be adults and they're going to choose their way in life and you got to trust the one who made them. Right. I got to bring myself back and realize like, take that pressure off because that can feel so weighty when you're trying to carry all of that. You know, I think that's one of the harder things for me to do is
00:34:46
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Realize that I don't have to carry it all and I don't have to put pressure and that takes away from, you know, the connections that are in front of you to build just what's in front of you for the day, right? Like I i get self focused on the future because again, it's not in our hands and you can only do, you can only do so much. Like you said, like they're gonna, Have their own like willpower if you if you will, you know what I mean? You we we can only do so much and guide them in the way that God has You know prepared for us to raise you know them in a godly way and the rest is Up to them. Mm-hmm, you know, we can't carry that we're not supposed to Yeah, I think I over complicated and over
00:35:46
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analyze everything, you know, it's like, oh, Morgan, just take a breath. Just enjoy, just enjoy the moment here. You know, like I don't have to carry this weight of, okay, if I'm not disciplining in this way, that means you're going to turn it like this. And then, you know, it's like going down these rabbit holes and it's like, just trust it. you're doing the best that you can. That's right. Yeah. It goes back to what you said your win of the week when you're at the pool, or maybe it wasn't at the pool, but you were saying like just enjoying the simple life of them. you know
00:36:24
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Enjoy those moments. What is right in front of you? There's no sense in and I'm preaching to myself as well. Yes I say do the same thing. I worry you worry so much about things that and then it's just like ah What good is that actually doing? But again, it comes from a place of love because we want the best for our kids You know you want your kids to succeed you want your kids to you know do and be XYZ but mm-hmm So on the flip side of that, what do you say or what would you say is the best thing about becoming a mom? I feel like there's so many. There's so many great things about it. Um, I think it's really beautiful seeing like what you and the person you love like created, you know,
00:37:12
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out of an act of love, you know, I think that's really cool. um The fact that I know, obviously, I'm their parent, but having like a little bestie, you know, like your little kids with you all the time, watching like them accomplish things is really beautiful as well. There's there really is so many things I can't like 1.1. I love watching them overcome things I look like Nora has been and she still is timid like going back to the first child but like just for instance like her little dance recital that she had I Was a nervous wreck. I was worked up. I wanted her to do so what kind of going like what you said like you want them to you know, you're you wanted that control over it and I'm like, oh I she's not even gonna get up there and she's not even gonna dance and
00:38:01
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You know, like, why are we doing this recital? You know, I was a nurse, Rick. And because she is, she is a little bit more timid until she does feel comfortable, but. girl got up there on that stage and she owned it like she the curtain opened and she's like waving to everyone the music starts she's going and then at the end like they're supposed to go sit in this little like beach chair at the end and um the people the rest of her class like goes back to the beach chair and Nora is like forget the beach chair she goes to the middle of the floor and goes down on a knee and just poses
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she
00:38:39
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And Daniel and i I like I was like getting tears in my eyes Daniel and I looked at each other we were like that's our child like look at her and I think so that's the cool that's the cool part like watching them like her she's so brave like so brave and I'm like
00:39:00
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Like I'm the one holding, I'm the, I'm the one holding her back because of my own like feelings toward things. And I'm like, Rachel, you gotta let her go. Don't let her go, but you know, like spread her wings and and go. She's almost four. She's ready to go. Own apartment. Get her a car. You know what I mean? They're like spread her wings. Like don't hold her back. And we, so we've tried really hard. Like even when we go to like our little neighborhood pool or something. Like, I remember before, like, I was so afraid, like, kids would be mean to her. So, like, she'd be like, I want to go say hi. And I'd be like, oh, well, it looks like they're playing. Like, let's not go over there. And I was holding her back. And now this year at our neighborhood pool now, like, I don't stop her now. Like, if there was that scenario where they didn't talk to her, then I would have that conversation with her then. But I'm trying to let her in the start. Like, if she wants to go over there and it's like a safe situation, you know,
00:39:58
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I'm going to let her go and be brave and play with kids. And it's worked out, you know, but like before I i was holding her back and she wanted to go play. So I'm learning. I'm learning as well. I'm learning. That's my favorite part of it is watching them just succeed and learn new things and, you know, being their cheerleader from the side. That's sweet. So you go. There's so many. I think so. I'm going to tell a story about how I cried over a spider. This might seem random, but it's not a real spider. It was a um Beanie Baby spider dude got for his birthday. And he is like this really big, big spider. And he we just have made this game of like throwing it around and be like,
00:40:52
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oh no there's a spider in our house and like play this little game about it and i was walking downstairs the other night i was going to take our dogs out and the spider was on the floor by the stairs and I just like looked at it and I was like I'm gonna like cry now. It was just like you made me cry I like went to the future and I came like and I was like picturing like our house empty and like no little spiders like yeah around and I was just like just the simple little games and like just the innocence of like a child like I don't know it's just so
00:41:31
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Girl, what are you doing? This is only podcast number two. We're supposed to save the tears for like 10, 11, 12. Do you know me? I do know you. I do know you. I know you very well. I can't help it. I'm so emotional. It's so true. The littlest things. The small things. The small things. And a lot of those things sometimes I feel like we will take for granted. And like you said, when you look back, it's like, I saw this like little video and it talked about that. Like you're going to, you're going to spend more time with your kids, like as they're like older and adults than you are in this timeframe when they're kids.
00:42:16
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like Think about that. You know you only get so much time with their little brain. Like you said, the innocence of the child. you and I feel like sometimes it can be taken for granted. like you know and The fact that that spider was just placed perfectly right there. I know. and I just started crying as I was always walking down because I was like, man, one day, like I don't know. and Days can be really tough and be really challenging and I can have tears for other reasons at the end of the day because it's been so hard. But it was just one of those days, one of those little glimpses of like, I love when you have those moments where you just like feel like you're like, wow, you know, you're just grateful. And I'm like, this little spider, it's not going to be here one day. And like, I just pictured this little voice of like, there's a spider in the house, you know? And just like, they're so innocent and just sweet and obviously has challenges too. I'm not trying to negate that.
00:43:11
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right But all of those little happy moments right there are what keep you going. Yes. You know, it keeps you going. It does. I love that. That was a good little story. I didn't think I was going to cry again, but you know, here we are. Well, you are Morgan. so likechman I know. I love it though. Hey, that's all right. It's good to cry. It is. It feels good sometimes, you know. Oh, absolutely. I love a good cry. Put on some music for me and sit in the bath and I'll just cry. Turn off the lights.
00:43:51
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No, but sometimes I do love a good cry. I really do. Cause I think I'm like an emotional person as well. You know, I would agree with that. Right? I am. Do you remember the last time you cried? Whoa. Just now? When you told me the dank spider story? No. All out. All out cried? Not off the top of my head. I was probably in a fight with Daniel or something. Like his golf tee time went too long or something. He played golf too long. Oh no. Just kidding. Who's been there? Who's been there? Let's be honest. Let's be honest. We're going to be done at this time.
00:44:35
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not just kidding that wasn't on it but um what about you I don't know I was trying to think too it's hard I'm sure like at some point maybe we just do it so much that like we can't really pinpoint this specific time because it's like an everyday doesn't stand out just who we are two we are It's fun to reminisce and you know just reflect back on our journeys into this whole motherhood thing. Yes. That's where it all started. Well, with that, I think that that's our episode. Thank you guys for listening and hope you have a good week. Bye. Bye. Thanks so much for listening to another episode. Remember, everyone is worth celebrating. Talk soon.