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EP 16: Pregnancy Pact Complete!
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Pregnancy Pact complete! There must be something in the water because this week the moms share the exciting news that Candace is pregnant with her second! The moms discuss the differences between their first and second pregnancies, gender disappointment, and ways to spark joy during pregnancy. So grab your fave mocktail and join the moms for the pregnancy pact round 2!
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Transcript
Introductions and Setting the Scene
00:00:07
Speaker
There's no right way to do it. Oh, we're going to get into it. Good morning sisters. I'm Shannon and I'm here with Candice and Whitney and this is the mom group chat podcast.
00:00:27
Speaker
I just wanted to have a little Halloween moment there. It was spooky vibes. I'm feeling a little spooky because of today's podcast topic makes me feel a little witchy. So we'll get into that in a little bit, but I just wanted to say hi gals. I'm at the lake with Andrew's family and I'm hoping the wifi like works where it's like kind of rustic out here.
00:00:57
Speaker
I was going to say, your background is rustic, but it's like cute. Like it's vibey behind you. You're giving Yaya sisterhood vibes. Oh my God. You know, I've never seen that. That's a must this week, potentially. Okay. Good and cute.
00:01:13
Speaker
Okay. I'll put that down. We just finished a movie last night because kind of the flow is, you know, we play all day.
Family Activities and Movie Chat
00:01:20
Speaker
It's just my sister-in-law, my mother-in-law, my niece, and me and Andrew and TJ right now. So it's like a bit of a smaller group, which is really nice, but we've been fruit picking in the morning. We've picked cherries and raspberries.
00:01:34
Speaker
We're in northern Michigan, so if you know it's such a bountiful harvest this time of year. It really is. I'm sorry. What year is it? You actually don't have Wi-Fi. You're living in the hunter-gatherer time. No, I am. We only pick fruit.
00:01:51
Speaker
It's like if we're eating produce, it's been handpicked if it's fruit. It's really wholesome and it makes me feel like I need to sign up for that like certified organic grocery delivery service that you can get. Have you guys ever heard of that? CSA?
00:02:08
Speaker
I'm in a crunchy era right now. So we've been fruit picking and then playing in the lake in the afternoon and then dinner time and then movie time. But it's funny because it took us three nights to watch one movie because nobody can like get through more than 30 minutes of a movie after 8 30 p.m.
00:02:29
Speaker
The movie is called Maverick with Mel Gibson. Do you know it? Oh my God. Okay. Well, I, I don't know it. I've never seen it, but I just saw a post from, this is like so niche, but I saw a post in a Facebook group about
00:02:45
Speaker
Um, it was a woman who her and her husband own a movie theater. Okay. Okay. And she was saying she, she was talking about the success of Barbie and how it like truly is changing their year basically. And like, like people don't realize how much like cinemas and movie theaters have been struggling over the past five years. And she was like, said the only thing they can compare it to is a movie called maverick and that
00:03:12
Speaker
It was the biggest blockbuster of people were lining up. I had never heard of that movie. To be honest, what I thought she was talking about was Top Gun Maverick. Right. Me too. But no, she wasn't. She was talking about some old movie called Maverick. It's a Western. Yeah. Yeah. It's really good.
00:03:32
Speaker
This is witchy, like what? Yeah, we are. We're in a simulation.
Barbie's Impact on Cinema
00:03:38
Speaker
We're in a simulation. So she was that is so weird that you say that movie because I just saw in a post about them comparing Barbie to the release of Maverick and how it was a really heartwarming post. She was talking about literally like this whole like the release of Barbie will like completely turn around their business, which is so nice. That is sweet. I love that.
00:04:00
Speaker
Yeah. Well, I watched Barbie and Maverick in one week. So big week for me. Are they comparable? They're both really good movies. I am always wary when I put on a movie that's been made before like 2008 because I'm like, this movie is going to suck. That's just my experience. Like I just really they're not good. Yeah. No, I don't like old movies. I guess that's a hot take. OK. Titanic. Obviously, there's exceptions.
00:04:29
Speaker
But Andrew likes all these movies, like all those movies that guys like, like Big Lebowski, there's this like bowling movie he likes. It's just filled with shit that... It's not funny. Or it's filled with shit that is like totally cancelable these days, like all the shit they say. I'm like, you could never say that.
00:04:49
Speaker
No, but it's not even funny. It's just mean and potty humor. And I'm like, this is not my gem. But Maverick was funny for real. Good writing. If you can get past Mel Gibson being the star, I mean, he is a good actor. He was big back then. Braveheart? OK. Yeah. Highly recommend.
00:05:16
Speaker
Yeah. Okay. I might have to watch it. Just that post about the movie theater had me intrigued. I was like, huh, I might need to check out that movie. I haven't been to the movies in a minute, so you need to go see Barbie. Yeah. My mom and I, Vinnie and I already have a date night planned Saturday, so I can't do it this weekend, but I think next weekend Vinnie's going to watch Alice and we are, my mom and I are going to go see Barbie.
00:05:40
Speaker
And hopefully by that time it's a little bit chilled out because I looked to go last weekend and it was sold out everywhere. I need to tell this story because I feel like the listeners will appreciate that I told you guys about the guys sitting next to me in the movie theater. Oh yeah, this is good.
00:05:58
Speaker
So I accidentally went on opening day. I didn't know that it was opening day. My friend Courtney did the tickets, so everyone was really hyped. And I was like, damn, everyone's so stoked for this movie, a la Candace's article. But there's like three 14, 15 year old boys sitting next to me. And I was like, that's odd. Were you nervous? They weren't that cute. I'm not gonna lie. Are they looking at me?
00:06:26
Speaker
Are they gonna hold my hand? Oh my god. I mean they did make me nervous because I heard them chatting and turned out they were just there because they were like obsessed with Margot Robbie. They were talking about her
00:06:41
Speaker
As you would expect a 14 year old 15, 14 or 15 year old horny ass guy to say, I can't sugar coat it because this is how they were talking about her. They were like, she's so fucking hot. Can't wait to see Marco Robbie. She's literally perfect. I was like, oh my God, I can't believe I have to send it to them for the whole movie. The first scene, no spoilers, but the first scene is like kind of a body shot of her.
00:07:08
Speaker
there's a first seat or a body shot of her very early on. And they were like, literally quaking in their boots. They were like, Oh, yeah, the guy next to me literally like made a fist and was like, Yeah, yeah. And I was like, I can't believe my son is gonna be 14. Don't tell me that. No, I'm just gonna stick him in a closet for a few years and be like, Come out when you're 25.
00:07:35
Speaker
Yeah, I know. And then there's like, but then I was happy they were there because as you probably know, like the overall message of Barbie is very like pro feminism. And I was like, y'all need to see this young boys of America.
00:07:53
Speaker
Were you expecting this? I still don't know the plot at all, but from seeing TikToks and people reacting and stuff now, I do know that it's very much about... Actually, I don't know. But it's very much about Barbie and Ken. Where are we going with this? I see a lot of posts where people are like, I've been crying after. And I'm like, geez, what happened?
00:08:21
Speaker
I think it'll be good for me to see it in this current part of my life.
Feminist Themes in Barbie
00:08:27
Speaker
I was going to say, are we are we ready to segue? I don't know. I just I wanted to say that, but I. But yeah, I'm excited. I definitely want to see it. I was a big, big Barbie fan and I'm a big fan of.
00:08:43
Speaker
feminist propaganda so I'm into it. It's really good. It's like just it's got a good touch to it. It's not too in your face. It's like there's no way I think anybody could disagree with the message or say that she was over the top.
00:09:02
Speaker
That's really good. I'm excited. I will just say one thing. I am a little peeve this movie is blowing up the year I'm naming my daughter, Margot. Yeah. I've actually been meaning to ask you that. I don't want people to think I'm naming her after what's going on right now.
00:09:21
Speaker
I just want to put the statement out there. I picked this name before this movie exploded. Okay. You've had this name before Margot Robbie was born. Yeah. It's just a little peeve because I know the name is going to spike even more now. And I'm like, damn it. Oh well. It's okay. You were the first. We're the first person to think of. Wait, are we, are we older than Margot Robbie? No, she's like third. I think she's one year older than us.
00:09:51
Speaker
So we still have time is what I'm saying. To look like her. To look like her, to have as much money as her. It's all possible. Listen, a lack can change in the ear, right?
00:10:06
Speaker
A lot can change in here. That is true. So I mean, getting into what today is about, we have another surprise. Big surprise. Big surprise. Another special announcement.
Pregnancy Announcements
00:10:25
Speaker
Which is wild. We're really excited. So who wants to? The special announcement is
00:10:34
Speaker
Candice is pregnant. Oh my goodness. We are all witches. We have put a fertility spell on this group so that, and we did it guys. We are all pregnant at the same time. Same dance time.
00:11:01
Speaker
Oh, y'all. It's so hard not talking about being pregnant. And then not talking about Candice being pregnant, just like living life and recording episodes and not talking about pregnancy is like the hardest.
00:11:17
Speaker
thing ever. Yeah. Especially we've known from the beginning on all of us because we're psychos and track everything. I can't keep a secret. Yeah. Well, and it's like a, you know, we're like guys, like, and show the test, like pregnant and then immediately call each other like, holy shit, it happened. Which we all did.
00:11:35
Speaker
Yeah. And this time, so I think I've talked about on here, I we tried for six or seven months with Alice. And this time, like, first of all, I was using the pre mom app. And like I said, I ovulate on day 21, which I didn't know until I was, you know, into after having Alice, all of that. And this time we literally like didn't even try. I got pregnant in like two months, which is crazy.
00:12:04
Speaker
It's awesome. Just a testament to the pre-mom app and knowing when you're ovulating. I was not even testing really ovulation that month, which is so crazy. It happened. I love that for you. Very blessed. Took the pressure off this time. Yes, definitely.
00:12:25
Speaker
Well, we're excited. Tell us how far along you are. How are you feeling? So as of when this episode comes out, I'll be 13 weeks and one day. And I just found out the gender of the baby.
00:12:44
Speaker
And you guys, Finney's sperm does, in fact, only have eyelashes. Because I am having another girl. Yay! Girl squad. I mean, like, selfishly, like, we literally have a pop group, like, and I couldn't be more thrilled. The witch vibes continue to explode. Like, we all three managed to get pregnant again.
00:13:12
Speaker
all three with girls. I'm almost afraid to get them in a room together, but obviously we're going to. We are literally creating mom group chat next generation. This is in 30 years from now, they're going to have their own mom group chat.
00:13:30
Speaker
next generation brand show. They're going to be just talking shit about their moms. For real. But it's okay. So I'll go into a little bit about like how I've been feeling because this pregnancy was much different than my
Adjusting to a Growing Family
00:13:47
Speaker
pregnancy with Alice.
00:13:49
Speaker
which will go into why I really, really thought I was having a boy, and this will all make sense, but this pregnancy has been different. I have not been as sick. I have only thrown up once. Don't get me wrong. I have still been super nauseous and feeling like absolute shit, but I haven't been as sick and awful as I was with Alice.
00:14:15
Speaker
Something else that's been different is my skin was crazy with Alice. I had full-fledged acne and bacne with Alice. I love it. Really bad. With this pregnancy, my skin has been clear and beautiful. I was 90
00:14:37
Speaker
eight percent sure I was having a boy. Like I felt so different. This one's different. I was so sure. And then we get the results of the gender and I open it up and it says female. And I am shocked.
00:14:55
Speaker
Like I have a video of it. I don't know that I'll post it anywhere because honestly, the video is like chaotic. Alice is like spilling a cup at the same time. It's like pure chaos. But I just was so shocked. I kept closing out of it and reopening it because I thought I was reading it wrong. Like, you know, like my gender is female. So I'm thinking like, oh, I'm I'm reading like my gender.
00:15:20
Speaker
Like I kept, I'm not kidding. I opened it up like three or four times and I was like, this is wrong. Like I, it's male, like my gosh. So I definitely, and Vinny and I, I, it's probably my fault because I have just been so sure that it was a boy that I, I probably made my husband feel like it was also a boy. And so we both were just like.
00:15:46
Speaker
What? Shocked. Yeah. I am such an intuition person. I'm someone who really puts a lot of weight into my gut and my intuition. I think one of the hardest things for me is I feel betrayed by my own intuition. I just felt so sure that it was a boy that to see, girl, I was like,
00:16:11
Speaker
What the fuck intuition. Yeah. So yeah, that's jarring. Yeah. Don't get me wrong. I still am excited, but I did feel a little bit of like gender disappointment. And I don't know if it's just that I felt so sure that it was a boy and I felt like
00:16:29
Speaker
my pregnancy felt different. I also have been very open on here like I don't love being pregnant and so part of me was like well if this is a boy then maybe I can like call it a day and like have a girl and a boy and like that will be it and to see the girl like I won't lie like I in one of my immediate thoughts was shit I'm gonna have to do this again. Really?
00:16:57
Speaker
Yeah, and I feel guilty saying that because I know, I know, I know, I just need everyone to know, I know that it is such a blessing that I was able to get pregnant and I have a healthy pregnancy and then all the chromosomes are normal and I'm so lucky for that. So I do feel like that perspective, like I just needed a second to like have that perspective, but my initial reaction was, fuck, I gotta do this again.
00:17:24
Speaker
to tell you the truth, number one, your feelings are completely validated. This happens way more than you think. I kind of went through that with grade and I told you as well as like, oh my God, I don't know what to do with a boy. I just always expected to have a girl first. And when I saw a boy, actually when I saw a male, it immediately put him as like an old man in my mind. And I was like,
00:17:46
Speaker
I don't know what to do with that. I was expecting like, it's a boy, but it was male. And I was like, ew, OK. Great. Yuck. Well, birthing a man. But seriously, though, like.
00:18:06
Speaker
It's completely validating. I think what you're saying is I would have felt the same way if I had another boy, I would have been like, yes. And the way I know Chris feels he would definitely wanted to be done with two. It was going to be a fight or pressure at that point to be like, Chris, we're going to have to do this again because I want to try for that girl or whatever.
00:18:28
Speaker
Um, but I, I just want you to know I've felt those feelings and you're good. Yeah. I think another part of it, which I don't know if I even mentioned in our group chat when I found this out, but one of the things that felt immediately overwhelming was like so much in our lives has to change. If we're going to have a third kid, we can't have another third. We can't have a third kid in our current house a lot.
00:18:56
Speaker
financially, I think needs to change if we were to have a third. And I just immediately like felt a sense of like overwhelm of like, Oh my gosh, like I'm 30, I'll be 33 this year. I definitely think I would like to try for a boy and oh my gosh, like so much has to change in the next four years for me to have this next step. And I, it honestly took me a couple hours to like.
00:19:23
Speaker
realize that that catastrophic, overwhelmed thinking was so irrational. Yes, but that's exactly where my mind would go to. Instead of obviously thinking about the moment that you're in, it's like, okay, well, what's next? Because if we want X, we need to go through A through X to get there. Yeah.
00:19:48
Speaker
That's a panic attack. That's a lot. Yeah, that's how I was feeling. And it just took me a couple hours. It's funny because Vinny had plans that night that we found out he had plans to go out with friends who were only in town for one night. And I think it was the best thing ever for me to process by myself and have some moments of
00:20:13
Speaker
Again, I just need to preface. I was not sad. I'm so happy to have another girl. I cannot tell you how much I have loved being a girl mom to Alice. She is so fun. Girl stuff is so fun. I love being a girl myself. I'm so excited to raise girls.
00:20:33
Speaker
But I also needed some process time when I was so sure that it was a boy. So it was the best thing ever to have that night alone. You guys were so supportive and helpful in the group chat. Whitney sent me a picture. I'm blanking on her last name, Julia. Girl.
00:20:51
Speaker
I'm going to butcher this. I feel like everyone, she, her name's like Julia. Yeah. Yeah. It's like, you know, she's like that gorgeous. She used to be a gal meets glam. You see her name. She did like a branding and it's just her name. And she has the two daughters and I sent her to Candice and I was like,
00:21:13
Speaker
This is going to be you. Like, yeah, it that picture. I'm such a visual person. That picture made me so excited. And I literally texted back in the group and I was like, literally adding this to my vision board because it just changed my perspective to be like, so excited to have another girl and.
00:21:32
Speaker
I do think about like the ashtrays, the Kardashians, like these big girly, like loud, fun families that are all just like sisterhood for forever. Yeah, that's fun. And Candice doesn't know because she has two brothers. Shannon and I have the sisters. And so we both were like.
00:21:52
Speaker
Dude, you're so lucky. It's so nice having a sister because I'm obsessed. I was like, I'm actually kind of jealous because Chris and I are probably done. And I'm like, dang, neither of my kids are going to experience having the same gender as a sibling. So it's kind of like, I'm jealous. Yeah. And like you said, I never had a sister. So that is something I always wanted. I have two brothers. So it will be so fun to
00:22:22
Speaker
get to experience sisters through them and raise sisters. It is a little scary because I've seen some sisters fight and it's brutal. When they're close in age, they can share clothes and I think that's where it starts.
00:22:38
Speaker
Yeah, I last night was on Amazon and I was looking for some like girl mom books like raising strong females and there's a book that's like how to raise girls that love themselves and that's something I feel like that's like a platform of mine in general before like
00:22:56
Speaker
I knew I was having another girl is like, I want to raise amazing, strong, female. But before I knew I was having another girl with Alice, I want to raise an amazing, strong, independent female. And so I feel like the universe is handing me another girl to be like, you're going to do a great
Raising Strong Girls
00:23:15
Speaker
job. You're going to raise badass women and it'll be great. And maybe we have another, maybe we don't. I think I do. I am one of those people who
00:23:26
Speaker
I do think like everything happens for a reason. So I know that it will be amazing, but I'm hoping that here on this podcast, or I just appreciate that you guys have given me the space to kind of like process it slash yes, tell you guys my true feelings. And I know I'm sure there are moms who have felt the same way. And well, can I say one thing that Shannon said last night that I thought was like,
00:23:54
Speaker
so helpful because I feel like we always talk about how people are like, just give it time, give it time. And you're like, I need help in the moment. Like what can I do in the moment? And Shannon came up with the cutest idea. Like, Hey, I know this might not as be as exciting this go around, but let's create milestones along the way that we want to hit or talk about or do together. Cause they're going to be close. We haven't talked about that yet.
00:24:20
Speaker
We're going to be very close in age and I thought that is such a good idea for anyone that's having the same gender or might feel that gender disappointment. Having those little maybe monthly get togethers and talking about what did we do this month that was fun for the baby. I thought that was such a good idea.
00:24:41
Speaker
disappointment like is real and I think like the realest part of it because I would have felt this too Candice if we had a second boy is just like there's there's not much different here like I already have all the things we've talked about before how the second pregnancy is just like
00:25:00
Speaker
Not as exciting. Like people aren't as excited. You're like not tracking everything to the day. Like you're not counting. If you're us. Yeah. You're just kind of like, okay, I know how this goes. And it's actually like not that fun being pregnant. Um, so felt overall less magical. Like I feel like the first pregnancy you're treated like a precious gem. Like everyone in your family and your husband is like, Oh,
00:25:28
Speaker
and you're just like treated amazingly and not that I'm not saying my husband is like not treating me well or my family it's just like less it's like less in the forefront of everything like yeah like you're a breeder now yeah like that's just how it is every time we're with family or like
00:25:48
Speaker
I see people like, I feel like people don't even ask me about it. Whereas like in the first pregnancy, it was like, Oh my gosh, how are you feeling? What's happening this week? Like blah, blah, blah. And this time it's like, no one even mentions it. I used to have people stop me in the store and I'm like, am I giving off like gremlin vibes? Like don't look at me this time. Or like, was I last time? Like everyone like.
00:26:08
Speaker
I mentioned my bump, like this is new. And I'm like, I tell people this time around is like a little less magical because I already know what's going on and a lot more of I'm not allowed to do this. I'm not allowed to drink. I'm not allowed to have this. And I'm like, I don't like being told what to do anymore. I am 32 years old. This is my life. I want to live it. Yeah. So that's how it feels. It's weird.
00:26:34
Speaker
And I think this, what I was hoping for, cause I've just felt like not as much like pulsing energy through this pregnancy. That sounds very strange, but what I meant, what I mean is like, it's just kind of felt blah, like mundane.
00:26:50
Speaker
And I thought hearing that it's a boy and it's something new and exciting would just like breathe some energy back into this pregnancy and like make it feel exciting and new. So to see that it was a girl and then I'm not going to lie, like
00:27:07
Speaker
Vinny said something last night that I think like spiraled me a little bit, or not spiraled, that's so dramatic Candace. But it's kind of what spurred that thought of like, I need something to feel excited about because almost immediately one of the things he said was like, well, we have everything we need. Like we don't need anything. Like he literally was like,
00:27:30
Speaker
He literally was like, I mean, that's a plus, which don't get me wrong. Like it kind of is, but it also just felt like, damn, I don't even get to like do any of the fun stuff. You know, we're still going to do fun stuff. Yeah. So I know what you mean. Yeah. Yeah. So I just needed like, and you were so, you guys were so great last, you know, when I found this out, like.
00:27:50
Speaker
to be like, it's okay, we're gonna plan some things and put some things into place to make it feel exciting. And I am super excited now. I know also when we pick a name, which we literally haven't talked about girls' names at all because I thought I was a boy. So we've only talked about boy names. So once we pick a name and we start to maybe do a little nursery, I think things will
00:28:20
Speaker
feel more exciting and real. Plus you need to get into that second try and you'll get that pep in your stuff again. And it's night and day for sure. Are you planning to, cause I know we've talked about your guest room becoming the new nursery.
00:28:36
Speaker
Yeah. And Alice staying in her current room. Yeah. Is that still the plan? Cause you have like a whole campus there to like create a new girl vibe. That is so interesting that you say that I've always thought that we would still turn the guest room in to.
00:28:52
Speaker
a new nursery. And that guest room definitely has boy vibes in there right now. It has a navy wall and dark wood furniture.
Nursery Decoration Ideas
00:29:04
Speaker
And so last night, one of the things that made me excited was I went on to Pinterest and I really don't want to paint that room.
00:29:12
Speaker
To be honest, I like the Navy wall. I was kind of excited about having a boy and keeping that Navy wall. I went on to Pinterest and I typed in Navy wall girl nursery. I actually found some really cute things.
00:29:28
Speaker
do, cause the rest of the walls are white. So it's just one Navy wall. And a lot of people did like gold accessories, like a gold crib. And it was almost funny enough. It was almost like witchy vibes. Harry Potter is what I was going to say. Yeah, it's like, yeah, like, like gold accessories, like stars and sparkle, like not sparkles, but you know what I mean? And she's going to be born in winter. So it's kind of like,
00:29:58
Speaker
Would you kind of like cozy like nighttime girly? I love it. Would you consider moving Alice in there because it is the bigger room? Yeah, that's the other thought is what I did, and it made it fun because I got to design grades to room. Yeah, which could be fun because you already know Alice. You're like, I could just design Alice a new room, you know. Yeah.
00:30:23
Speaker
So that's, it's funny. I didn't, I never thought of that until right now. Um, until Shannon, you said something, but yeah, the other option is for us to move Alice into that new room. Because she'll be playing by then. She's going to, I mean, that's, that was our thought. She needs.
00:30:40
Speaker
Or, yeah, he needs more space. And I kept Margo's room blue. I left it blue, too. Yeah. Yeah. That's an option, honestly. Because I could still keep that navy wall and do a really cute, like, girl room for Alice in there and keep the nursery pink. Yep.
00:31:01
Speaker
That's an option. That is an option. It is fun. Either way, you're decorating. Yeah. I mean, that way you're doing more toddler-y vibes, and it is new.
00:31:11
Speaker
Yeah, yeah. That's a good, that's a decent thought. I think it's like if you do a new nursery though, it's like celebrating the new baby. And I don't know, it's fun to celebrate a new baby. It's also fun to celebrate Alice. So I think you just got to pick like what would be more fun for you and what would make you like more excited because this is all about making you excited.
00:31:35
Speaker
Yeah. Like I said, I'm such a visual person. So I remember when I found out I was having a girl with Alice, I made full vision boards of things I liked. And that's just my process of things. I have to do that. So I probably will spend some time over the next couple of weeks digging into that and figuring out what makes me more excited. And I don't think I said my due date. My due date is February 12th.
00:32:01
Speaker
So almost a Valentine's baby. I love it. Yeah. Yeah. So Alice and her will be 23 months apart, which is so great. They'll be so close in age. And so it'll be it'll be really fun to see them together. Also, you can dress them matching like for so long. And I'll be so cute. Yeah. That's so cute. Oh, I'm.
00:32:30
Speaker
Yeah, so your girl and your girl are like a month-ish apart. Yeah, my girls do on Candice's birthday, December 29th. Hello, which again, magic is happening. So I'll have basically Candice as my daughter, Capricorn Queen. And I don't think February 12th is my sign, but it's pretty curious. Well, water.
00:32:59
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Yeah, my aunt is, uh, an aquarium. Actually I'm doing my aunt's birthday, February 12th, and she is a bad-ass. I actually want to have her on this podcast. I've talked to her. She's the one who's the sonographer and yeah. You have so many cool family members. I know. She's the best and, uh, she's, that's her birthday and she's an Aquarius and she's a bad-ass. Plus Alice is an Aries, which is like major fire signs. So a water and a fire will, I think balance each other out.
00:33:29
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I think that's how that works. I'm, I don't know. I'm not like super into astrology, but, um, she get an astral. I was actually thinking about this. I want like a family dynamic astrologist. Like, yeah. I want to look at the signs of my family and be like, what's happening?
00:33:46
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I will have a, I have a cancer husband and now I'm going to have two Capricorn children. And like, I love you, Candice, but you guys are freaking strong. And I'm a Pisces. Like I am chill. And I feel like I'm going to get steamrolled by all these fiery people in my life. So I just need to talk to somebody about that.
00:34:07
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That's so funny. Yeah. No, I would love that. That sounds so fun. So if you're listening to this pod and you're a family dynamics astrologist or you know one, let us know. We'd love to have you on. I just come from a family of Scorpios. So we're all I was going to say Whit and Chris are both Scorpios and is Graydon. No, Graydon's a what is he? Libra? Yeah.
00:34:33
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I don't think he's a Sag. Libra? I think he's a Libra. The astrologist will tell us. Yeah, yeah.
00:34:41
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But yeah, overall, I'm super excited. Talking about it on here is helpful. Talking about all the exciting milestones to come just gets me more jazzed about it. And I'm so excited to have another little girl. The only thing that's a little bit mind-blowing is how Alice is so cute. I can't imagine another girl that's as cute and perfect.
00:35:11
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I hope that it's this weird thing. I hope she's similar looking, but I also hope she's different looking. It'll be so interesting to see what she is like and if they look like. I know that's what my mom says. My mom's like, I bet she's going to come out like a little carbon copy.
00:35:31
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I'm so excited we I just got so like emotional and nostalgic thinking about like my sister and granted like a bigger age gap but
00:35:43
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I loved being an older sister and I feel like Alice is going to be like, this is my girl. Like I helped take care of her. We're like, you know, she's going to have some like maternal like ownership feelings in a good way. That's what I had with my sister. Like I just wanted to like help take care of her all the time. And I feel like Alice is going to be the same way because she's so sweet. And they're going to be really cute and best friends for life.
00:36:11
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Yeah, I am. That's another thing that I thought about last night that gave me warm and fuzzy feelings was thinking about, well, this gave me warm and fuzzy feelings and then also twinges of anxiety. But the warm and fuzzy part of this was like,
00:36:29
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Okay. I'm giving her like a future made of, I'm giving them both like a maid of honor and like all of those like really cool, like, no, that's my sister type things, you know?
Sisterhood and Future Hopes
00:36:41
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But then I also thought about having to pay for two weddings, like very close to each other. And I was like, Oh shit.
00:36:48
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And this podcast is going to make us rich by then. So don't worry. I actually saw something funny about on Facebook or it was like a gif. And it was like when you see someone from your hometown and their sister isn't there made of honor and you're like, what's the tea there? Yeah, that would be psychotic. Yeah, that would be so psychotic.
00:37:10
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Thank God that my sister was mine. Yeah. No, my sister's, I was just getting mad, but she's close to being engaged, I think. And I'm like, Hey, Hannah. Hey, Matthew. What's up? No pressure, Matthew. But I'm like waiting. I'm like baited breath. I am like so ready to jump in there and start planning her wedding and
00:37:34
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Doing all the things. I'm so excited. I can't that would be tragic for sisters to not That's for trashy families sisters It was funny when I told when I texted Mackenzie and told her I was having a girl and we were just talking about like how I thought it was a boy and you know Vinnie's probably Disappointed she was like and then she goes she goes who knows maybe she'll be a
00:38:02
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Oh my god. She said, who knows? Maybe she'll be a tomboy lesbian that's super into sports.
00:38:09
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One can only hope. And Vinny was like, yeah, she's got a point. But I was like, and then I started thinking of like, you know, I was trying to like hype Vinny up too, which it's funny. I think I ended up being a little bit more like disappointed than he was. He was like, actually like, it's going to be great immediately, which is sweet. But I was like, listen, maybe they'll both be like amazing swimmers because my husband was a swimmer. So that's like what he hopes the girls will go into.
00:38:38
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And I'm like, can you imagine like on the Olympics in like 20 whatever and it'd be like the Donnelly sisters like they're both there and they're on a relay team together. They will be so jacked. Oh my God. They'll be so good. Start measuring their wingspans. Yeah.
00:38:57
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Alice is tall. She's in the 90th percentile. Good start. I love this dream. I know. I love to dream like this. It really makes things feel exciting. I want Grayden to play football for Alabama. Oh my God. He's going to get injured.
00:39:15
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Can he be a kicker at least? Yeah, no, the kickers so much pressure. That's scary. That's really fine. I think he's going to be a big dude. He can handle his own for sure. I mean, that's like a wonderful dream, but I'm scared. I'm kind of on like the no football allowed track.
00:39:33
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Well, I feel like they're changing a lot of the rules recently to where like it's a little bit safer. Wouldn't you say or no? I don't know. I pretend like I like football, but I like tailgating. So yeah. Yeah. That's really where our talents reside. You just want an excuse to tailgate. So extreme.
00:39:52
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You watch the game, I'll be at the flip cup table, okay? Like my son's on the field, I have any and all excuse to tailgate to the nines. Oh my god, I want to manifest that. Tailgating at my son's Alabama football games.
00:40:10
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It sounds fun. Wow. The other thing we just need to mention because you guys brought this up last night and it was so smart. I was talking, I always say like either Graydon or TJ will marry Alice. We've been manifesting that forever. And then Whitney last night was like, wait, dot, dot, dot. And I now have two girls and between the two of you have two boys. So I'm just saying there's a chance
00:40:35
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for all of us to be related. Like one of your boys gets one of my girls. And then they have kids and then like we all have children who are related. Like we all have grandchildren who are related to each other. Yeah. The dream. I mean the dream.
00:40:52
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Truly. But I really want one of them to live in Chapel Hill, so. That's fine. I'm OK with that because I will just be a jet setter. Like I'm going to I will be retired by then, hopefully. And or just, you know, I that's I'm fine with that. We discussed this. Our boys are leaving us. They're going to go with Candace. You know what? Yeah, but I'm going to share. Tampa is OK because I have roots. It's like home. I mean, I would not be mad about that at all.
00:41:21
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Well, can we just all get like a joint shared beach house that like whoever needs to come and stay in Tampa can stay? And then we'll be together forever. Plan with or without the marriage. Yeah. Yeah. Well, with all of this, you're going to be fine paying for those weddings, Candace. It sounds like you're flush. I'm not worried. I got to work my ass off in the next four years so that I can build a different house and have a boy.
00:41:48
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Oh my God. Although, you know what? I was talking about moving the girls to the bigger room had me thinking like they could have bunk beds in there and like we could make it work for a little bit. The girls can share room. Yeah. I think I just had like crazy catastrophic thinking for a hot sec, but I think, I think I'm back.
00:42:07
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We're back, baby. You do. I feel stoked after this conversation. Yeah. I really want to in our Facebook group, which if you haven't joined, hop on over there. It's been so fun. It's so fun in there. I want to. Well, a few people have mentioned due date groups. I'm not sure if we like have enough people for that, but we could something we could throw out there. But this like conversation around
00:42:36
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like ways to celebrate your pregnancies. Yeah, that's a second and third and fourth. Anybody out there is on their fourth. God bless you. Um, pregnancies two weeks so we can get some ideas going. Cause like Candice, I legit want to like calendarize celebrations for us. I love that. Yeah. And have like, okay, on this month we're going to order like monogrammed shit. Yeah. This month we're going to
00:43:03
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and I'll order more monogrammed. That's all we got. Those are the ideas. And so on and so forth. That's why I need to crowdsource some ideas because I only have one idea. Yeah. But that is such a good idea. That makes it fun. Yeah. Maybe we can order an heirloom quilt like Whitney did. I definitely. Boom. Yeah. I'm obsessed with mine. If you see that all over my Instagram, I'm sorry. It's the only background I have now.
00:43:31
Speaker
I'm so sorry. You should make an Instagram for the quilt. Yeah. Adventures of the quilt. Adventures of Margot's quilt. It's like later years dragged through the mud. I'm like, she went through the ringer this time, guys. She has a whole storyline at that point. Oh my God. It's going to be like one of those things that when she takes to college, when she's like 20, that's like in shreds, that people are like, ew, why'd you bring that?
00:43:58
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It's my quilt. It's my quilt. Well, I appreciate all of the excitement. I've been so excited to announce. Like I definitely have dropped some comments that people are probably like, oh, because in your announcement episode, Shannon, you said you said something like, do you ever do you ever think or do you ever feel like your husband doesn't believe you? And I said every day of my life and people are probably like,
00:44:25
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And the time I talked about maternity shorts and you're like, I'm going to order those. I was like, yeah, you were like four weeks then. I know I was so early, but it's been so hard not to talk about it. Oh, my God. I because like I'm just silently struggling over here. So it's been so like this will feel like such a release. Honestly, put it out into the universe. Yeah. Yeah. She is.
00:44:51
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And then we can start all the pregnancy conversations in the Facebook group and then upcoming episodes. I'm so excited. And I appreciate all of the love. You guys have already made it feel so special. So I'm so grateful. Me too. Well, I love you.
00:45:11
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Love you. Love the little girl in your belly and love the little girl in your belly with and in my belly. I was going to say weird girl gang. Love you. Bye. Love you. Bye. Thank you so much for being a part of our mom group chat. New episodes drop every Tuesday and don't forget the group chat is blowing up on our Instagram page. So make sure you're following along over there. All right. Got to go. My toddler just put something in her mouth.