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Imposter Syndrome - The Struggle is Fake
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Hey there, it's Salman Qureshi back with another episode of The Expat Brat! Today, we're going to talk about something that affects a lot of people, including myself - imposter syndrome. It's that pesky feeling that you're not really good enough and that you're going to be found out as a fraud any minute now.
In this episode, I'm going to share some of my personal experiences with imposter syndrome and how it's affected me as a comedian and content creator. But don't worry, it's not going to be a downer - I promise to sprinkle in some jokes and laughs along the way.
We'll dive into what imposter syndrome is all about and what the consequences can be if you let it control your life. But fear not, my dear listeners, because we'll also talk about some strategies for overcoming imposter syndrome. We'll cover the role of a growth mindset and how it can help you overcome that nagging feeling of self-doubt.
So join me on this journey of self-discovery and let's banish imposter syndrome once and for all. Trust me, it'll be a lot more fun than wallowing in self-doubt!
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Introduction to Imposter Syndrome
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Hey guys, it's Lamont Graishi.
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You're listening to the Expat Brad Podcast and I'm sharing my take on the imposter syndrome in this episode.
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But first, I hope you guys are having a great week as always and you're listening to this podcast in a
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in a fun mood, or maybe you've turned to it because you're in a bad mood and you need something to lighten up your life, but then you've clicked on this episode about imposter syndrome.
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So maybe then you've clicked on this because you suffer from it, but we'll get to that stuff later.
Summer Dread and Outdoor Challenges
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I am dreading summer.
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It's upon us.
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June is here in a couple of weeks and June starts this awful weather here that's just humid and hot, man.
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And so all your outdoor activities are kind of curtailed quite a bit.
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Your life revolves around malls.
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And for me,
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Having a kid that loves going out to the park, it adds this stress of like, what am I going to do with him?
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You know, at this point, I feel like I should have listened to my wife and we should have had more kids.
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And then maybe if he had more siblings, I could just push them off and go, hey, it's your problem.
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You guys, you guys sort it out.
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You guys play.
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You do whatever the hell you want.
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You know, it would be kind of cool that way, wouldn't it?
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I think that's why some parents have these kids.
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At least that's what my sister kept telling me.
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They play with each other and then you have free time.
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Although I don't think she truly believes it or it really works completely that way.
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Who knows?
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Who knows?
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The truth is the situation is...
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I don't know what I'm going to do with it, man.
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Just doing stuff indoors is so much money here as well.
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Just spending it on indoor play areas and whatnot.
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We need parks that have huge fans around them.
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It's just constructed.
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Like every park should be like the Qatar World Cup stadium, just air conditioned so you can enjoy it for the whole year.
Basketball Playoff Excitement and Conspiracies
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I mean, you know, it's five, six months of the year that that are being underused in the parks and stuff.
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And I I think at the risk of pissing off people who are worried about the climate, we just need more outdoor air conditioning.
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That's what they did.
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Right.
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Yeah.
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So yeah, I don't know.
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It's coming.
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We're going to have to deal with it.
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I'll let you know how it goes.
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Hopefully, we'll also get away for the summer.
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We have our plans.
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If all goes well, then Zeyan will spend about a month maybe in the UK and he can enjoy that.
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Which, yeah.
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And then apart from that, I'm just happy with the basketball playoffs.
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It's quite interesting.
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I feel bad with the Celtics playing the 76ers because I feel I wish both of them on one side could be in the finals.
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But it's been a great series so far if you're watching them.
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And then the Nuggets and the Suns, that's another great one, man.
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I feel for this guy, the Joker.
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He's putting up numbers and stuff.
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And...
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Unfortunately, I don't know if it's enough to get through the Suns, you know, with Katie and Booker being so hot and stuff.
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Yeah, I still think the conspiracy part of me still thinks it's going to be the Lakers and Celtics and it's all planned.
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Or at least the Lakers winning the championship and it'll all be like, well, look at this guy.
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Can you imagine the amount of money and interest and merchandise that will sell from LeBron's side?
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If the Lakers win the championship.
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So it's all about that, man.
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It's all about the money.
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So speaking of sports, here's the deal.
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All right.
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I'm going to take you guys back to when I was young.
Unexpected Success and Imposter Feelings
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I was in college and I think it was my second or third year in.
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And I'm part of the cricket team for the college.
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And I'm actually the vice captain.
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And I'm possibly the vice captain.
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I'm going to be a bit honest with you guys.
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Because my friend was the captain of the team.
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And I would put myself as like a middling kind of player, at least in my head.
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I'm just, you know, again, just being honest.
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I was quite hardworking and I guess quite clever on the ground.
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So maybe that's why my friend trusted me and had me down as a vice captain and stuff.
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But it was cool.
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That was the situation.
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And then we come to this indoor cricket tournament, like an inter-university cricket tournament.
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And my friend, the captain, Sajid, he was my best friend.
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in college and he goes listen this is a one day thing we're gonna play against these guys why don't you captain this and I just want to chill and play and I was like sure so I I captained the tournament and it went well we won the whole thing we won we we won the whole about all the universities we beat everybody we won the final and then we're standing at the trophy um what do you call it the the prize ceremony
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And they announce the winners, blah, blah, blah.
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Then they come to the player of the tournament.
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And I'm standing there completely, like, really happy.
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You know, we just had a great, thrilling day.
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And they announce the name of the player, and it's Salman.
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And I pause and I'm like, I don't know who is it.
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And this is Salman Qureshi.
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And I'm like, I don't know who is there another Salman Qureshi here.
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And then they say you pointed at me and and I realized I had been given my numbers.
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I hadn't even been looking at my stats and stuff through the whole day.
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There's a lot of... I was shocked.
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I was just shocked.
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There's a lot of stuff that I can take away from that story.
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But the main thing for me was this... It was this thing that... How did I... I don't deserve this.
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I cannot believe...
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I won this.
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And the whole time, I felt embarrassed about it.
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Instead of going like, yeah, I did it.
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I did good numbers and I played well.
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I captained the team.
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I just felt like they had made a mistake.
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And it's not so much, I feel, about low self-esteem.
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I just think...
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I wasn't looking for it.
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I always felt like, shit, like I am faking it.
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I have no idea what I'm doing
Celebrity Imposter Syndrome: A Universal Experience
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with my life.
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I guess that's what imposter syndrome is, right?
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And for me, what was interesting, apart from that story, obviously facing it myself and reflecting on it these many years later,
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I was looking up these comments online from celebrities and stuff.
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And here, I'm just going to read you some, right?
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Because I collected these.
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I just feel they're really cool.
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Tina Fey, all right?
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She says, the beauty of the imposter syndrome is you vacillate.
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Vaxillate?
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I didn't even know that was a word.
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All right, let me do this again for you guys properly.
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The beauty of the imposter syndrome is you vacillate between extreme egomania and a complete feeling of, I'm a fraud.
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Okay, oh God, they're on to me.
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I'm a fraud.
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So you just, you know, I think what she's saying is you just try to ride the egomania when it comes and enjoy it and then slide through the idea of fraud.
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Okay.
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So that's Tina Fey talking about it.
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We've got Tom Hanks.
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There's so many famous people who have it.
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Tom Hanks says he feels like he's faking it as an actor.
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And this guy has won a gazillion Oscars for his performances.
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Right.
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And this guy's coming up and saying.
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So I think this one really felt close to home for me with that cricket cricket thing.
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Up until then, I'd done decently well in college as a player.
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But this thing always stayed with me, you know, that I'm faking it.
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There's two, three others, you know.
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There's Maya Angelou.
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She's one of the greatest writers.
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And she just said, I've written 11 books.
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This quote is hers.
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I've written 11 books.
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But each time I think, uh-oh, they're going to find out now.
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I've run a game on everybody and they're going to find me out.
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All right?
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Even Albert Einstein goes, the exaggerated esteem in which my life work is held makes me very ill at ease.
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I feel compelled to think of myself as an involuntary swindler.
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Oh, wow.
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These people are high achievers.
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If anybody should be confident and not have this feeling pop up...
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It should be people like them, but they're just, you know, but it happens to everybody.
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Obviously, a lot more to people who are starting out in their careers, who think maybe they're not good enough, they don't belong.
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And statistically, I think 70% of people somewhere around that experience imposter syndrome at some point in their lives.
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That's crazy.
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It's that's crazy.
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It just baffles me that so many of us are walking around just telling ourselves we're faking
Inner Critic and Statistics
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this.
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We're not good enough.
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And it also amazes me because there are 30% of people going around overconfident.
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Just going, I am great.
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I'm good enough.
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This is what I deserve.
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And I'm jealous of them.
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I think, I don't know if they, you know, what is it that separates them from the majority of people?
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What sets them apart?
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What is it that...
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makes them not have this inner voice, right?
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You know, it's an inner voice.
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It's this thing in your little voice in your head telling you you're not good enough.
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You know, the one that says, who do you think you are?
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You're not smart or creative or talented enough to do this.
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And that voice is your imposter syndrome, right?
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Or Bob, as like some people like to call it.
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It's that voice is probably louder than your boss on a Monday morning.
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Right.
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It's so loud in your head.
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And on Twitter, I was I just read this today as well.
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Someone tweeted about reading a stat about how 50, 60 percent of the people do have an inner voice.
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But there are, again, like about 30%, 40% of people who don't.
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And I'm thinking, that's amazing.
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It just explains a lot of stuff about how these people walk around.
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I just can't imagine it, walking around without a voice inside your head telling you stuff.
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Like, it makes you sound crazy when I say it like that.
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But everybody's talking to themselves.
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I just assume that.
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And most of the time, I guess it's your negative critic, right?
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And who then evolves into your imposter syndrome.
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I don't know.
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It's just very highly messed up.
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All right.
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Even for my high achievers, man, all of us, we just sometimes hang around like we're just waiting for someone to tap us on the shoulder and say, sorry, there's been a mistake.
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You don't actually belong here.
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But you're not alone.
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statistically, again, like I said, most of us have it.
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Even Beyonce has said she doesn't even know who she is half the time.
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Hey, man, if Queen Bey can feel like an imposter, then there's hope for the rest of us.
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Okay, so that's a positive side of imposter syndrome.
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I think in spite of having it, people can still go ahead.
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It's only when it's over, when it takes over to the point where you're
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where you miss out on opportunities, for example.
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As long as you're not letting it control your life, I think it's fine.
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Because I'm sure there are people out there who would have got that promotion if they had just tried to put the name forward.
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I've even spoken to a friend recently who was scared of taking the, almost said no to an opportunity of promotion because they were worried about how they do.
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And I'm really glad eventually they did.
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I'm not going to name them here because, I don't know, half the world knows all my friends.
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But it was, again, very interesting to have this conversation.
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When other people say it, I just go, what's wrong with you?
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Why would you do that to yourself?
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So it's easier for me to look at other people and go, it's obvious you should do it, man.
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You'll be fine.
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But obviously I know when it comes back to yourself, everyone just shuts down.
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And so, yeah, we do that.
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And we do it not just work.
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We do it with love.
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We do it with family.
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We do it with so many, just a lot of opportunities out there that I'm sure we all miss out on because we just go, I don't think I'm good enough for it or I'm faking and they'll find out that I'm not really talented.
Imposter Syndrome in Creative Fields
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I think creative people...
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tend to have this on an extreme level because you're constantly judged for your work and and maybe it's a protective thing as well so you kind of go hey if i downplay it so if they go uh yeah that last thing you did that movie that book that joke you wrote wasn't great then you can kind of go yeah i know that's really my standard anyway i just got lucky that
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previously my stand-up bit worked or something and maybe that's what we're thinking, right?
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I've seen people like trying to overcompensate and act like knowing everything as well, right?
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So they try to go the opposite way and to the point where you're just using big words that you don't really understand and become pretty clear that
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You're faking it.
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It's that also.
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So you're not relaxed.
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You're not composed.
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You kind of go, I have to prove myself.
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And in doing so, you're putting this pressure that you don't need, right?
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And most people, too much pressure will just freeze you up when it comes to creative thinking and abilities and stuff.
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So instead of enjoying it and being in a playful place, you just...
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get into this weird zone and then you try doing more and doing more doesn't necessarily mean doing better work yeah and and and that kind of stuff happens and then like you just have uh this for some people the inner critic becomes really strong to the point where you could go up to people i and again i may i may have done it now i've got i'm admitting out here on on
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live on my podcast.
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And I've seen it happen to a lot of creatives again, where people go up and say, hey, you were amazing.
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And the person will downplay it, not from a humble point of view, because it genuinely, I think, believe that the other person is just trying to be nice.
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And they just said that to be nice.
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I have felt that a few times.
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It's hard also to
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kind of go, did I really do as well as I think?
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Or people are just trying to be nice to me.
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Those things are so hard.
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And they're all true as well.
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Because for me, as a live performer, the trick, the hard bit is, there might actually be a divide in the audience, there might actually be 5% of the people who think I was the greatest thing to ever happen on stage.
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And then there might be another 5%, 10% or the rest 90% who think that I was absolutely crap.
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And so how do you know, right?
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It's a
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And it's just, it's this paradox.
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Like sometimes my imposter syndrome is so bad that it actually makes me feel like an imposter about feeling like an imposter.
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It's a never ending paradox of self doubt, right?
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But I guess there's one good thing you guys can have about the imposter syndrome.
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It's like this nice blame game.
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If you're doing something and it goes wrong, hey, man, you're making pizza.
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You burn it in the oven.
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Blame it on the imposter syndrome and not about your lack of cooking skills.
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And you can just go, hey, I wasn't meant to be great anyway.
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So that's the truth about it.
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Too many people face it.
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And, you know, you sit there and go, once you're conscious of it, it's kind of like, so what do you do about it?
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Okay.
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And I've spoken to people, I've tried different things, I feel like
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I feel like one of the things to do is to kind of look at your achievements and just enjoy them.
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If you list down everything you've accomplished, big or small, and you just take time to appreciate them, I think when you start doubting yourself, you can look at that list and go, listen, I am capable of something.
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I'm not a complete moron, idiot.
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I'm not a complete fake.
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Somehow I have enough to get this done.
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And those things are good reminders and kind of fight off this imposter syndrome for me, at least.
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If you, you know, honestly, God, if you're having trouble coming up with achievements, it just doesn't.
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Write something simple like I didn't trip and fall on my way to work today.
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I swear.
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Just do that.
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And the important thing is get that list going.
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All right.
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So just write some stuff and do it.
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I have to often remind myself about the fun gigs I've done, places where I've killed with the audience and written something that I thought was a great joke and got complimented on.
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And those things offset a lot of times when you're worried about your own performance or have this syndrome issue.
00:17:50
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I also think one of the greatest bits about doing improv is that you kind of learn to embrace failure on stage all the time because it's happening constantly, perhaps more than 10 times in a night with success as well.
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So it's a real roller coaster of some of these shows.
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And just for me, recognizing failure, that it's a natural part of the learning process and that everyone makes mistakes.
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So instead of beating yourself up, you just kind of try to learn something
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And move
Growth Mindset as a Solution
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on.
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I know it's cheesy.
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But I, you know, it's like, why do you enjoy looking at blooper reels, right?
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Because it reminds us, it makes us happier to go, ah, someone else is failing as well.
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They're not as perfect as the thing they are.
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And it's nice to see them make mistakes.
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It just makes us all more human and more comfortable.
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And so...
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If you're making mistakes, just imagine that as your personal blooper reel and people would probably enjoy watching that as well and it's nice.
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So just do it.
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It moves it from a place of embarrassment to actually just having a laugh at it.
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I also think, honestly, if you have it really bad, you should also talk to someone like...
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to the point where if you need a therapist, I think that depends on how much it affects your life.
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But if it does, I think that's something you got to do.
00:19:15
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So those are some of the ways I've dealt with it in the past.
00:19:17
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I think it's worked for me.
00:19:19
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And I've recently come across this other thing that I'm trying to understand and incorporate.
00:19:24
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And it's this idea, the role of growth mindset, right?
00:19:28
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So in overcoming imposter syndrome, like so basically what I've understood so far,
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Correct me if I'm wrong.
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It's, you know, individuals with a growth mindset, like they tend to believe their abilities and talents can be developed through dedication and hard work rather than being like a fixed trait about your personality or your life or genes, like it's not in your DNA.
00:19:50
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All right.
00:19:51
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And so I think if you keep reminding yourself that belief, it helps to fight off the feelings of being inadequate and the self-doubt that are common.
00:20:01
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With imposter syndrome.
00:20:02
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So I know it sounds very like and I speak out against these.
00:20:06
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What do you call them life coaches and and motivational speakers and stuff too often because I think you can go down that rabbit hole too much.
00:20:17
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But I think this growth mindset means instead of focusing on perceived failures or shortcomings, you can kind of reframe those experiences as opportunity for growth and learning.
00:20:30
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And I think those little things do help.
00:20:32
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And it's honestly one of the things I practice a lot when I'm teaching improv to people as well.
00:20:37
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By embracing the challenges and getting through the obstacles, like persevering through it, you can develop a sense of confidence and self-efficacy, I guess.
00:20:46
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So that change is...
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can happen.
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I think people can combat it.
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And that's what I love about, I think that's one of the main reasons why I love doing improv with people who are starting out to bring them to this world.
Improv and Embracing Failure
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And not showing off, right?
00:21:03
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So the other day I was at a stand-up gig.
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I don't know if I mentioned this in the previous episode, but one of the guys in the audience came up and said, hey, listen, I did these workshops with you about five, six years ago, and it changed my mindset.
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And I went out,
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And I created a startup.
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And I was like, wow.
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Oh, my God.
00:21:22
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Like, that's awesome.
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And he said, yeah, the startup kind of failed.
00:21:25
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And I was like, oh, shit.
00:21:26
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Oh, no.
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I was kind of embarrassed for a second.
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And he said, but that was fine because I learned again.
00:21:31
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And I kept going.
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And now I fixed the idea.
00:21:33
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And now it's working.
00:21:34
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And I'm really happy with my life.
00:21:36
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And just that stuff gave me so much confidence to go out and do stuff.
00:21:42
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And, you know, it was really great for me to hear that because it just meant,
00:21:45
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Just a reminder to me as well that we're all capable of more.
00:21:52
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And fear is something that really strikes and makes so many beautiful things from happening.
00:22:00
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And, you know, if we could move that off, I think I want to fight fear the most.
00:22:06
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It's like the most...
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brutal thing that causes possibly leads to the most evil in the world.
00:22:13
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And if we move away from that, we can get over it.
00:22:15
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I think we'd all like just have a better life.
00:22:19
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I think the world would be a better place.
00:22:21
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I think everyone would be a bit happier.
00:22:25
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And we'd all live more fulfilling lives, hopefully.
00:22:30
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Unless your fear is about killing people and getting caught and then the lack of fear means you go out and do it.
00:22:34
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Yeah.
00:22:35
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I don't know.
00:22:37
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I don't know.
00:22:37
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What if it works?
00:22:38
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Oh, no, I didn't think about that now.
00:22:40
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Oh, dear me.
00:22:43
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What if there's like a serial killer out there and one day he comes to me and goes, hey, listen, you did that workshop, man.
00:22:48
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Really freed me up.
00:22:49
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And I know what am I doing?
00:22:51
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OK, well, hopefully that's not the case.
00:22:53
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And most people are just doing great things.
00:22:57
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Guys, that's my take on this whole situation.
00:22:59
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It's my personal experience.
Final Thoughts and Upcoming Trip
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I think if you can go ahead and still do things and not let it shut you down, then you're actually fine.
00:23:07
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Nothing to worry about.
00:23:08
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But if you are, then just remember the couple of things I've mentioned here.
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Go out and do it and do it in spite of feeling like an imposter and we'll beat that.
00:23:21
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We'll beat that little voice.
00:23:22
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Okay.
00:23:22
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Cool.
00:23:23
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On that note, I'm going to go packing.
00:23:26
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I'm going to Turkey, so I'll be away for almost a week.
00:23:30
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Work and family time, so I'm quite excited.
00:23:32
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I will let you know how Istanbul goes.
00:23:34
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Till then, you guys take care.
00:23:35
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I'll catch you in the next episode, people.
00:23:38
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It's time to say goodbye, or as a dog would say, woof.