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Since coach training naturally focuses on developing coaching skills, understanding the Core Competencies, and demonstrating these tools, the issue of the coach's self-care and personal development is oftentimes overlooked. Coaching is a partnership. Coaching is a human-to-human experience. How can we expect our client to show up with their authenticity and humanity if we are not committed to our own ongoing development? Take a break and give yourself the time to reflect. Mastery comes from the core of the coach's authentic self.
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Unexpected Alaskan Adventure
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Welcome to Prime Space, a Prime Coaching Academy podcast with your host, Elias Couttori.
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So hello, my friends.
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How are you?
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I missed you.
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It's been a few weeks since our last episode and you probably have seen on social media or someplace else that I took some time off.
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I took a trip to Alaska, a faraway land, and it was actually far
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farther than i expected when i got to anchorage alaska i realized that oh my gosh i'm closer to tokyo japan than i'm to my house in florida but it was a fantastic trip i went there to work with one of my clients and then i took the opportunity to
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see that amazing state for a little while and this is what I would love to talk to you about this idea of taking a break
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I'm so guilty of
The Necessity of Breaks for Perspective
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that.
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I don't take as many breaks as I would, as perhaps I should take.
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And that's because I love my work.
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What is the saying?
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Find something that you love and you will never have to work a day of your life, something like that.
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And I, you know, perhaps that is a little too much of a truth for me.
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There is joy in what I do.
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And sometimes it's a little hard to let go of here.
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I have fun with what I do.
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But it's so important, right?
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Even if we love what we do, even if we have so much joy, as I do, in coaching and what we do, it's so important for us to not only take a break for the sake of taking a break for the body to...
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replenish and renew, but to me it's so important for me to go and change my mind, see a different perspective, breathe new air.
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I always tell my students and mentees, you know, it's so important to...
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Read a book, talk with a stranger, go see a play or something different.
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It enriches us as human beings and therefore enriches us in the way we show up with our clients.
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Seeing the world through a different perspective is so important.
Self-Care in Coaching
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But this importance of not only self-care,
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But the importance of us to work on our personal development.
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Taking care of ourselves as individuals and growing as human beings.
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This is so crucial not only for our health, but it's crucial for us as professional coaches.
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Coaching is a partnership.
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So how can we expect, I say this all the time, how can we expect our clients to show up authentically, transparent, to do the work, to go deeper?
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We say in coaching, we coach the who, not just the topic, not the situation.
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How can we expect our clients to be ready to do that work if we are not ready to do the work ourselves?
Authenticity and Growth in Coaching
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Right.
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Coaching skills, we all know this, and I always say this in this podcast here.
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I always say this all the time.
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If you have worked with me, you know how important for me standards and skills are important, right?
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How much that is important to me.
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But coaching skills alone...
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is not enough.
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Coaching skills alone without this work, this personal work is empty.
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It's like rice without salt.
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Not matched, if coaching skills is not matched by the authenticity, the vulnerability, the transparency and the integrity of the coach, it's just empty.
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It's not that we are aiming for perfection.
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That's not the goal, right?
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Humanity is not perfection.
Lifelong Personal Development
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But the commitment to our growth and our growth in our self-awareness is imperative.
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And this is not just something that we do once, that we work on a specific program or that we read a book or that we went on a retreat and, okay, done.
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This is something that we commit on an ongoing basis so that we put ourselves in this space of choice.
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so that we are living connected to our values, to the understanding of our needs.
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How often do we live out of perceptions, expectations, perhaps even playing a role that we are not even happy with?
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It is at the core of that authenticity, the authenticity of the coach, the mastery comes from.
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I'm a firm believer of that.
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I say another thing that I say all the time is that my path from PCC to MCC
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I always called that path a path of authenticity.
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Not that I was not authentic before and not that I'm perfectly authentic now.
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That's not the case.
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But my path from PCC to MCC, yeah, was perhaps understanding a little bit of the or refining some skills here and there.
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But the path to get to my MCC was truly a path, was a call for me to get closer, get closer to myself.
Prime Coaching Academy's Integrity Process
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And I continue to challenge myself every day on that path.
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In our Prime Coaching Academy program, we have what we call the personal integrity process.
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And this is a series of exercises that we do every day in our intensives, both in level one and level two, not necessarily simply to do the exercise, but to support the students in understanding the importance and giving the students some certain tools for them to work with, for them to be able to continue ongoing in working through this path.
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It's so essential.
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I say it again.
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Coaching skills alone without this internal work is empty.
Reflection and Renewal Retreats
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So it's not, I say this because I hope that it will inspire you to take the time.
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And that does not necessarily mean that you're going to take a few weeks and get a ticket to Alaska and go to the other side of the globe.
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You know, you may perhaps even right now close your eyes and take a breath.
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These trips that I do, and if you know me, you know that I like to take trips.
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It's essential to me.
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And especially when I travel alone.
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I love traveling alone.
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These are not moments for me to simply see the sights.
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These are moments for me to reflect.
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It's almost like a personal retreat that I take.
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It's moments for me to spend time with myself.
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to make an inventory of what is at play, what is happening, to see myself through the eyes of different individuals, strangers, different cultures.
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And it gives me perspective of who I am in relationship to this world.
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And it's quite renewing to me.
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And I would encourage you to find your personal retreat.
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Find that place that you are able to renew.
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That you are able to see yourself in the mirror.
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That you are able to catch a breath.
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Who are you?
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Who do you want to be?
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How do you want to show up?
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Why do you do what you do?
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What do you need to let go of?
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What do you choose right now?
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Thank you for listening.
Upcoming Episode Teaser
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Next week, I have a surprise for you.
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I will have a guest coming in.
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It's going to be a surprise.
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I'm not going to tell you who is showing up.
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I actually am very excited because in the next few months, I do have several guests.
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amazing guests coming to the podcast and I have recorded some of these conversations already and I am so excited to share these recordings with you and one of them is going to be next week a very dear person and friend of mine that I wonderful coach that I think that you're going to love listening to that particular person okay
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So I will see you next week.
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It helps so much.
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I appreciate it.
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So thank you, everyone.
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Have a wonderful week and I will see you next time.