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Psychological Hacks (Part 1): Job Interviews and First Dates
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The only two questions to ask when you're interviewing someone - and a whole bunch of hacks for you to nail your next interview. Bonus: these hacks will also get you a second date. Wink, wink.
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Transcript
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This is our podcast song. It isn't very long.
Introduction and Podcast Overview
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Hi, Sarah. Hi, Christina. Thanks, everyone, for tuning in to Laughing with Ginger's. The podcasts were two feisty redheads with loud laughs, shared crazy stories, play games, and spread silliness and joy. That little fresh back into the Californias.
00:00:28
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Rain? Hey, yes. Stole is my partner in crime on the Laughing with Ginger's podcast, Christina Curry. And that is Sarah Alopin, a prankster monk and my co host of Laughing with Ginger's. I'm ready for today. Are you? Are you? Are you ready to laugh? I'm ready to laugh. I'm ready to get inside of everyone's heads.
Episode Topic: Psychological Hacks
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So today we are talking about psychological hacks. So are we doing a two-parter on this? Did we decide that? Yeah, let's do a two-parter because I basically have two buckets of psychological hacks that I have to tell you everyone. All right, sounds good. And I have some psychological hacks that I am going to quiz you on whether or not you know them.
00:01:25
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Ooh, okay. Well, I wonder if some of them I found. So maybe that'll get right. I am very curious. Some of these I knew, some of these I didn't. So I'm kind of, I think it'll be interesting. Yeah. Ready? Depart the brain. All right. Do you want to start?
Psychological Hacks for Interviews
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Okay, yeah, I've got I've got kind of four big buckets of psychological hacks that work all the time every time in interviews. So if you are going on an interview, this these four tips are like a must to get that job.
00:02:08
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Also, I feel like they're kind of good for if you're like on a first date too. If I'm being honest. I mean, that would make sense. Yeah. Yeah. Interviews and first dates are super similar. They both be stressful. That's true. That's true. And a lot of mine are related to stress. Oh, interesting.
00:02:36
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Okay, so here's one psychological hack that works all the time in interviews. This article was very confident because that is literally the title. These work all this time.
00:02:52
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So research has proven that all of us tend to like people who are most similar to us. And so the same goes for what happens in a lot of interviews. So that's why it's kind of good to maybe do a little digging before you go to the interview. Are they a Bears fan? Do they go to college at your college? Any little tiny thing that you can connect with them on.
00:03:15
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is like or like a shared hobby or anything would get it's like a good in a really good end and you can just casually mention and be like oh so yeah I went to you know blah blah University and then they will be like oh wow no way I did too and you'll win them over you'll win them over I feel like that's the same like when you see sports fans wearing the same hat out in public there's this like common
00:03:45
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Hey, what's up? You know, yep, totally, totally. It builds camaraderie. It does instant in instant in instant. Yeah. Mm hmm. Yeah. Yeah. So yeah, that was my first first how to win at an interview tip psychological hack. I love that. Very smart. Also very true. And I could see it working in the dating world as well.
00:04:15
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Um, yeah, you want my first, uh, my first walk away of the interview process. The first walk away. What do you mean? Like when you're at an interview and you're like, bye. Yep. And you know, you need to get out. Ooh. Okay. Okay. And out a psychological hack to get out. Yep. Yep. Well, sort of, um,
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to know when you need to get out.
Avoiding Hasty Decisions Under Pressure
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So if someone is trying to pressure you to make a decision in a hurry, they are probably giving you a very bad deal. Ooh, ooh, that's interesting. Mm hmm. Yeah. OK, I can totally see that because they want you to make that choice right then and there. Yeah. Yep. And that's another.
00:05:07
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I was thinking about this from, so this whole thing was kind of interesting to me because my dad is still having some stroke symptoms in the judgment center of his brain. So he's falling for scams again. Oh no. And I've been kind of trying to build like a toolkit for him to identify scams. So that is another one where they're trying to like pressure you to make. So it's another, it's like,
00:05:35
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not just interview style, but also if somebody's trying to hustle you into making a decision, think of it like they use car salesmen or like a scammer. They're like, I need you to send this to me now. Can you send this to me now? Please send this to me. Hello. Are you there? Are you there?
00:05:56
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It's so stressful. I just got stressed out. See? Oh my God. Yeah, totally. It's that pressure and like push, push, push. Yep. Yep. You want it to just stop. You're like, yeah, I'll send it. Whatever. Go away. Yeah. Yep. That's so terrible. It really is. So walk away. Walk away. Just walk away.
00:06:27
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All right. You want to give me one? Okay. Cool. All right. Yeah. I have a bonus one actually that kind of stems off of like finding this, you know, similarities and like another secret to making people like you subconsciously is having them do something for you. I have this on my list. Go ahead. Really? Okay. So I'll tell you mine and then you can elaborate if I
Engaging Interview Techniques
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miss something.
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So in our cases, we're sitting here for an interview, and it's getting them to sell us this dream job for us. So your interviewers will reflect later and justify all the time and effort that they spend talking to you by concluding that they must have really liked you. So ask questions. Ask a bunch of questions. And the more they talk, they're going to feel like, yeah, I really liked them. We had a lot to talk about because they were the ones talking.
00:07:23
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Okay, so mine is a little bit different, but kind of the same. So if you ask someone to do a small favor for you, their subconscious mind is going to register that they liked you afterward because they were doing a favor for you. Oh, that's interesting. Yeah, so for all those people pleasers out there who are like, no, I'm good, I don't need any water or coffee, maybe rethink that.
00:07:51
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Yeah, I'll be like, yeah, coffee would be sweet. Yeah. How do you take your coffee? Potential glass. Me too. So I have a bonus one from the one you actually asked, because I have something that's related to that too. This is so funny. Oh my god, I love bonus. Bonus, bonus, bonuses. Woo hoo.
00:08:19
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Okay, totally. If you want somebody to open up, ask a question. If the person only partially answers, remain silent and keep eye contact. This will pressure the person into talking more. Oh, my God. Okay, so I'm adding on to you.
00:08:43
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It's so funny. Look at how like these rabbit holes we're going into. Okay, we're still in sync. I know. Okay, here is like another interview, psychological hack is pausing instantly gives you more weight to whatever you're gonna say next. So I feel like that kind of has to do with that.
00:09:05
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Pausing before even answering a difficult question, not only does it give you time to kind of think about it, but it also makes what you say next matter even more. And it also gives you an impression that you're calm, you're collected, you got your shit together, that whatever they said is meaningful enough to garner a pause before you answer.
00:09:36
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Oh, interesting. I know that one I would have a hard time with because, you know, I'm a very like knee jerk, reactive kind of person. Oh, that's funny. Yeah, I think I would like immediate like my brain fires off so quickly. And I think I would have a hard time pausing and taking a breath. Yeah, I could see that. Mm hmm. Mm hmm. Yeah. Yeah.
00:10:05
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All right. You want to give me one? All right. Nervousness and excitement have the same reaction in your body.
Managing Anxiety and Nervousness
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So if you're nervous about an interview or a speech, you can actually trick yourself into thinking you're excited instead. Whoa. That's crazy.
00:10:30
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I think that's why some people really love roller coasters and things. It's the same, but it like makes other, like some people interpret it as excitement and other people interpret it as nervousness.
00:10:43
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Yeah, I could totally see that because there have been moments where I'm excited to get up and like give a speech. And then there's moments where I'm like effing nervous and sweaty palms, you know. Yeah. Interesting. I think it's just so maybe how prepared I am to do it is how either nurse or excited I am. I think for me, it's totally new mood driven. Oh, maybe. Yeah, maybe that's that's an interesting perspective, too.
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Yeah, like if I'm in a good mood, I'm excited. And if I'm like tired, that I dread it. Which is obviously a different reaction, but it's kind of like I'm too low energy to even have a reaction. And then if it's like a situation where I'm not
00:11:39
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totally confident in the, um, yeah, I could see being more nervous in that situation, but if I'm in a bad mood, I'm usually more nervous than, um, than excited. Yeah. I agree. So weird. All right. Give me another one. This is so cool. All right.
00:12:03
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If you get someone to contribute to an idea, they are more likely to accept it. My favorite interview question, this would actually be a fun episode, is one that Philippe told me he was asked in his first job interview. It was, how many windows are there in New York City?
00:12:31
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I said, well, you can't really quantify that because are you including car windows? Are you including windows that might be between rooms inside? Are you including sliding glass doors as windows? And he's like, that was the whole point of it that you
00:12:52
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that you work the process out and they see how you actually work it out mentally. It's not a guess in the number. So asking the question and then getting the other person, even if they aren't... So the interviewer, even if they aren't answering it and contributing verbally, they're still walking through it in their brain. Were you picturing what I was saying? Totally.
00:13:20
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Yeah. And like spinning out and going, oh yeah, that, but then that and then that. Yeah. And like, what if it's like a separate pane in a larger window in like those warehouses? Do those all count as separate windows? So even if you get someone to mentally contribute, they are more likely to accept your answer. Oh, interesting. Oh, I like that. That's a good question while you interviewing people out there.
00:13:51
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I love that question. I think it's so fascinating. It really shows you how people's brains work too. Yeah, yeah, it really does. I think too like that my favorite interview question I ever got was I sat down and I think I've shared this on the podcast before but I sat down and he goes, so I like to start out my interviews with a joke and I'm like, oh, okay, cool, cool. And he's like, so tell me one.
00:14:19
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And I instantly fired one off. And it was funny, of course, and cheesy. But afterwards, I got hired. And afterwards, he said out of 35 people he interviewed that day and asked that question, like instantly right away when you sit down, no one else had a joke ready. But I did.
00:14:42
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I felt really special. I'm like, oh, it all led to this moment of having a podcast called Laughing with Ginger. Mine would have been the nacho cheese joke. It's a good one. That's a good one. The one I gave him was, what did the fish say when he hit the wall? Damn.
00:15:07
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Then he wrote, he pretended to write, ooh, cussing in interviews. OK. Oh, man. Oh, man. It was good. It was good.
00:15:20
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So there's a few very important questions right there, everyone, folks, bosses out there that you can ask on potential hirees. You'll learn a lot about them. That's true. I love it. Who knew? Who knew?
00:15:38
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All right. Do you have another one? I have three more. Cool. I have three more. Oh, look at us. Oh, we are very in sync today. It must be because we haven't talked in a while. I know. Are you on your period right now? Because I am.
00:15:54
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I get it tomorrow. Oh, damn, look out. Oh, God. TMI probably won. Not an appropriate interview question. No, don't ask. Don't ask that one. That's about the right fit.
00:16:17
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All right, you want to give me one? Okay, I'll give you one. Okay, I'll give you one. And this one I actually know and I've shared this with a lot of my clients in my marketing life, how important this one is.
Creating Positive Associations
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But it's using people's names and how they experience a surge of happiness when they hear their names. And you can use it to your advantage. So remember to repeat their name during the interview. And, you know, in a natural, organic way, don't seem weird. And even most importantly, actually, at the end, when you thank them, use their name and that leaves like that lasting sort of end cap impression.
00:16:57
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Oh my God, I have a bonus to that Christina. Of course you do. Yeah, let's hear it. When someone remembers you, they are not only likely to remember the first memory but also the last. So make sure you always leave a good last impression as well. Yeah, I could totally see that. Crazy. So crazy.
00:17:26
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Could you see that Christina? Yeah, I feel like if I'm scanning my memories of people, I remember the first time I met you. And although we haven't parted ways today, I'm probably going to have this recording in my brain for the rest of the day. You're totally going to go tell Angie about this. I can already see it in your brain.
00:17:52
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I can remember my first day meeting her too. It is true. Like you do remember the first time you meet someone really easily. Yeah. Huh? Yeah. And it's weird because I met you digitally before I met you in person. I know I specifically remember the in person meeting. It's different. There's a different impression. Yeah. Oh my god, you're totally right.
00:18:16
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You're totally, totally right. Because thinking through all the people that I only have known online, it's really hard for me to drum up my first meeting with them virtually. Yeah. Ooh, that is weird. I didn't even think about that. All right. Yeah. I know. I know. We're going to have to... They must be doing psychological studies on this, and we'll hear about it at some point.
00:18:43
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Yeah. In like 15 years, we'll be using walkers. We'll be updating our audience. We'll be like, let's go back to that episode. We called it. Oh, God. All right. You go. You go. Give me one. OK.
00:19:08
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if you oh suddenly nodding when people are talking to you indicates you're generally genuinely not generally interested in what they have to say and they are going to naturally like you more. Whoa, I do not a lot. I'm a notter. Me too. I do it all the time on the wedding dish my other podcast. Yeah. And
00:19:32
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It gets people to really open up and it's very weird because I start to feel like a bobblehead at some point, but I'm actually agreeing with them. So it's like a very weird thing. I become very self-aware because I'm on video. You're staring at yourself. Like right now I have my script and stuff over the other side, but when I'm interviewing, I like have my questions kind of memorized and it's a little more organic.
00:20:01
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So I don't have to look at it as much, but I don't have facts memorized like that. It's different when I have prepared like seven questions, not seven facts I have to be accurate on. Yeah. Whoops. That I have to accurately read. So I don't know what I'm doing right now because I'm covered up.
00:20:29
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I'm looking at you, baby. You you look fine. You look fine. Maybe not so much nodding, but laughing for sure. Oh, God, I do. I am more cognizant of my nodding when I am virtually on, you know, looking at myself and I'm like, OK, OK, slow down on the nodding. Yeah, me too. Too much. Me too, especially when I'm like listening to something like if we're on
00:20:56
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on a call, like our round table or something, where we're having a discussion amongst many people and I'm trying not to dominate the conversation. I'm sitting there on mute, but I'm agreeing and I'm a big time knotted. Oh, God. We're knodders. We have a problem. Can't stop, won't stop. Rockefeller Records. Oh, my God. I just dated how old I am on that.
00:21:28
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You ain't give me one. Yeah. Yeah, I realized Oh, wait, I only have one more left because I skipped over to add on to my bonus for one of yours. I only have one left too. So Oh, okay. All right, here we go. So
00:21:45
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Here's what to do when you exit the interview. So this trick is a sure-fire way of getting companies to reach out faster and earlier because now you leave an interview and you have to wait for like a month before they respond. So scarcity breeds demand. So nearing the end of your interview after you have thoroughly blown them away with saying all the things that you're supposed to say, you might hear the standard, oh, waiting time will be about two weeks when HR gets back to you.
00:22:15
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Cool, great. Now's the time to share that you're in the midst of attending other interviews or that you might have other offers at hand. Obviously, you really want to work hard to make sure that that's actually true as it's going to help tremendously with your offer negotiation. But saying these things can guarantee to your hiring team that you are indeed seriously looking and that also your skills are in high demand elsewhere in the market or we're still at their competitor. Brum, Brum, Brum.
00:22:43
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I don't know if I'd have to say this. Unless it was, it had to have been pretty true, because I have a hard time lying like that. Yeah, I mean, I would I'd be so weird thing that you probably don't know about me is that I have only interviewed like three times ever because I was a teacher.
00:23:07
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Wow, I've been reviewed so many times. Yeah, so I like didn't really I mean I other than like jobs that were like, you know, waiting tables or something, not like, not like a high paying high stakes job, like one that was very easily replaceable. So the only time that I ever did that was I had told one of the schools that
00:23:37
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I would get back to them by Friday and I had been told by the other school that I really wanted that they would get back to me by Friday and I hadn't heard from them and it was like a half hour before and I called and I was like, Hey, I just want to let you know, like I'm going to have to take this offer because I don't have an offer from you and I have to tell the school by end of day.
00:24:02
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And the principal was like in the hospital getting a procedure done and they called her and had her hire me on the spot. Oh my God, that's so aqua-taco. Awkward. I was like, that's why you weren't getting back to me. Oh, that's justified. Oh my God, that's so awkward. It was super awkward, but it was like my dream school. I really wanted to work there. I wanted to work for that principal.
00:24:32
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Yeah, you went after it. You claimed it. I did. You claimed it. Yeah, boss ass bitch. Yeah, I like it. Are you ready for my last one? Yeah. Yeah. And this one totally goes for dating too. For sure. If you take a moment to look at someone's eye color, when you meet them, you're giving the perfect amount of eye contact.
Engagement and Confidence Tips
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Weird. Yeah. It's just like slightly longer, like just like a full thought instead of like a, you know, name look away. It's like you have to have a separate thought afterward. Yeah.
00:25:16
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I could totally see that. There's another one that's a really weird one along those lines. It's that your pupils dilate when you're looking at someone you're attracted to.
00:25:33
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And it's really funny because Jennifer, we all know Jennifer, you know, tipsy Mango, my friend Jennifer, who's been who's a her ginger soul is a ginger. Yes, yes. She every boyfriend she's ever have has had has told her that her pupils
00:25:52
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are so big and it's like I think her out of everyone like they truly get super big when she's like attracted to someone and like dating people that she likes it's like so obvious on her on her eyes in her eyes I guess oh that's funny how what color are her eyes
00:26:14
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They're like a like a light blueish color. So it's probably easy to see the pupils, right? And then yeah, it just happened so frequently that finally I'm like, what is up with you and your pupils and these guys? And I'm like, looking at her pupils, I'm like, they look normal. And then we figured it out that she likes them.
00:26:35
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You know, and then they just kept getting bit. It's so funny. It's weird. Yeah, that's hysterical that we had. We couldn't ignore it. That's really funny. Yeah.
00:26:51
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That was fun. That was fun. Hey, if anyone out there uses the R2 bonus questions to ask interviewees, tell us how it went. I'm dying to know. Yes. Yes. Definitely reach out and let us know. I know. I kind of want to use them when I interview people. Why not? It's not like they're copyrighted. I know. I know. All right. Next person I interview, I'm going to ask both of those questions.
00:27:20
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The joke one is going to feel a little awkward because it flips the script so quickly and suddenly I'm going to feel a little awkward doing it, but it'll be hilarious. Well, damn. I know. Oh, man. Thank you, everyone, for joining us on this psychological hack. I have a lot of issues with laughing with ginger.
00:27:50
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We are so happy to have you listening to our silly podcast where I swear we can actually speak. Sometimes your brain works faster than your mouth can go. True. That's very true. We need a hack for that.
00:28:05
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I know. Where's the hat for that one? I guess it's pause, Christina, before you speak.
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