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EP 147: June Catch Up
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It's time for our June catch-up episode, and as usual, we're covering a little bit of everything.
This week we share updates on life lately, including taking the kids to the dentist, the ongoing process of helping Evie say goodbye to her pacifier, and how Greydon is settling into his new big boy room. Whitney also gives us the latest on their house renovations, and we have a very relatable (and highly unqualified) conversation about all things cortisol and the many ways moms are apparently supposed to be managing it.
Of course, we couldn't end the episode without diving into Part 1 of the Summer House reunion. We break down our biggest takeaways, thoughts on the cast dynamics, and all the moments that had us yelling at our TVs.
In this episode, we cover:
- Taking young kids to the dentist
- Our thoughts on the internet's obsession with cortisol
- The latest on Evie's pacifier weaning journey
- Greydon's new big boy room
- House renovation updates
- Our recap of Summer House Reunion Part 1
- The random motherhood moments keeping us entertained lately
Whether you're folding laundry, sitting in school pickup, or hiding in your pantry for five minutes of peace, we're glad you're here.
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Transcript
Introduction and Episode Setup
00:00:07
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There's no right way to do it.
00:00:12
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Oh, we're going to get into it. What up moms? My name is Candice and I'm here with my best friend Whitney. And this is the mom group chat podcast. Hey friends. Hey friends.
Parenting Guilt and Dental Responsibilities
00:00:23
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We were just talking about the dentist, which I think you guys would remember Candice's dentist story.
00:00:31
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i think And I was like, I feel guilty because I still haven't taken them. And it's just one of those weighing on you as a parent.
00:00:43
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Yeah. That's on me and Chris. I'm going to blame it on, actually, that's on Chris. It's on Chris. It's his job. You know, like, it's his job. It's his job. It is. Like, I understand that.
00:00:57
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oh it the dentist sucks like i hate the i hate the dentist too as an adult like well yeah so i get it i get it it's not fun it really isn't there's always something wrong and i'm like yeah come so i had this was like their first appointment since the the the procedure and this you know the situation it's can you believe it's been six months since that like time is flying Um, so we, everything looks good though.
00:01:28
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i mean, a couple of things, but the, she had a second cavity that was really little. And basically they said it's not even worth filling. Like we just need to monitor it and make sure we're like, you know, keeping her teeth clean and the cavity looks the exact same. It hasn't grown or gotten worse. So.
00:01:45
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we're good to just like keep whatever they did say that this, the, um, edge of her crown is like lifted at the tiniest bit. And yeah I know what they said it, they said it can just happen. They, but they said at this point, like there's nothing to do with it. Like we just need to monitor it. And the most important thing is that we're keeping it clean and there's no cavity that they can see underneath it. So like, it's fine. Like to just leave it. Thank
Dental Discoveries and Health Reflections
00:02:13
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goodness. Um, and then Evie shocker to me, I cannot believe I haven't noticed it, but they were like, did you know she has a severe lip tie?
00:02:23
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And I was like, no. And then they showed it to me and I was like, oh shit, she does. She, her like, you know, string at the top goes all the way down to like the bottom of her teeth.
00:02:37
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Margo's was too, and we had to snip it because it was going to be in like She has a huge gap, which love. Evie does too. I love her gap, but we snipped it because it was going to be an issue later on.
00:02:51
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Okay. So our doctor said... Right now, we're just monitoring it. They said that it I asked, I said, will it affect how her teeth come in? And she said it could, it couldn't. They said sometimes when the when your adult teeth come in, because they're double the size, they kind of like it works itself out. Like it ends up looking much more or less pronounced. But we may have to snip it when she gets to like 12. Yeah.
00:03:16
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is a big monitoring group um yeah we're monitoring we're just monitoring circling circling sharks um we did it when margo got tubes we were just like knock it out oh because that's super smart yeah she was already asleep and so chris was the one that was like more so concerned about it and we knew she had it she also has like a tongue tie but We were like, whatever. She did fine, like bottle feeding.
00:03:45
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And like, that's when you really are like the most concerned about it. She was already asleep. Chris was like, go for it. Boom. Knocked it out. Yeah, that's good. i feel like that was that's smart. If we have a situation like that, come ah like arise. I will mention it and be like, let's just nip it in the bud. You're like, just do it all.
00:04:05
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Yeah. Just like, let's just check every box. um But yeah, so we, that was kind of, it was one of those things that I was like, damn, how have I never noticed that? Like, I look at you all the time. Like I look in your mouth all the time. How have I never noticed that? And she asked if I had issues nursing and I was like,
00:04:25
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I mean, yes and no. Like, it wasn't – like, she did latch, and there definite I definitely had, like, nipple pain, but, like, don't we all? I don't – So I'm just like, i don't know. I only nursed her for three months, and then I was like, that's Imagine if you're like, this nipple pain feels different from the one prior. It must be a lip tie.
Parenting Stress and Health Challenges
00:04:45
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Yeah, like, I don't – freaking so anyways but overall was like her lip blah blah I'm like okay like I didn't I didn't clock it either it's one of those things that when we're done with the dentist I'm like so relieved that I don't have to go there for six months I'm like oh thank god it's ah it's done it's like I don't have to think about it for six months like
00:05:11
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see in the next light six months is basically another lifetime from now you know so it's like see on december 10th okay like don't what to tell you um i've been getting like ah all these like tiktoks of like a time lapse of someone's get someone getting braces and their teeth like moving over the period of time and I don't know why I'm like all over this like dentist TikTok orthodontics maybe, but I have PTSD from braces. Like, did you have to get the thing where you like split your palate to widen?
00:05:48
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I've never had braces. Oh, I don't know if I knew that. i I have I was chosen one. okay I am one of the chosen ones. I don't know. ah No one in my family has ever like.
00:06:01
Speaker
No one? No one. Like my brothers, too. but And thank God, because my parents couldn't afford it. So thank God. Well, that's like Chris had to get them when he was older. But man, yeah, like it's just like PTSD because there's like this bracket that goes over your molars. Oh my God. Like I could feel it watching it on the screen. I'm like, it hurts so bad.
00:06:29
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hated it. Damn. Braces is so crazy. like that whole Like that whole phenomenon is like so wild to think about.
00:06:40
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You have him forever. i had him from sixth grade sixth grade through eighth grade and then got him off going into high school. So i was feeling like a brand new girl. I mean, thank God you got him off before high school. I mean, at least that's. Yeah.
00:06:53
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I think that's like pretty normal. A lot of my friends got them in fifth grade and I was like, oh my God, do you look older than you are. Like I always thought they made you look older, but I mean, it's such a middle school thing.
00:07:05
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Yeah. Damn. We'll see. i mean, Vinny had braces, so I'm like, our kids still could very well. I mean, even if I didn't have them, there's a chance they will. So we'll see.
00:07:18
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We'll see. Oh, we're a hundred percent getting them. Yeah. Yeah. Like, I just didn't think it was an option not to. Yeah. I don't know if I knew that. Like, my nephew, Zach, he didn't get braces.
00:07:30
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He's the only one I know. Addie did, thanks to Hunter, my brother. Yep. But I never, like, I don't wear my retainer. I wore it in college, and after that, i was like, I'm done with you, and they haven't moved, so...
00:07:46
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I asked at one of my like more recent dentist appointments, like in the last two years, I asked, I'm like, I never had braces. Does everything with like my bite look good? Or like, is there anything you would suggest? And they were like, no, honestly, like you look fine. Like I do grind my teeth a little bit. And the doctor was like, you need to chill with that or you will have to wear a night, like a mouth guard at night. How do you stop that?
00:08:09
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I'm like, can you control my cortisol, Mr. Dentist? Sir, no. Speaking of cortisol, okay. I actually had this thought at 2 a.m. last night because Evie woke up. like Are you awake? Oh, she threw up?
00:08:24
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She threw up in her bed last night because we have this like sinus infection. i had it. I got antibiotics last week and then now Evie has it. And so I got Augmentin for her. this morning but last night she was coughing so much she like made herself throw up and not thank god it was not bad it was just like water based like spit you know but she like threw up in her bed yeah but she woke up screaming i could hear her coughing so i was like kind of already half awake you know and then i heard her say throw up throw up and she was like screaming in her bedroom and And the way, like, my heart was fucking racing in my chest, like, getting out of bed and running to her room, you know? i ran into her room. Luckily, it was, like, just a tiny little pile of, like, spit vomit, you know?
00:09:14
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and I pulled her out. I changed her. And then she got out and she was like, bath, bath. I was like, we don't need a bath. It's not on you at all. It's like, you're fine. um Okay. So I got back into bed. i changed her, changed her sheets, like got her all figured out. I gave her a little bit of Benadryl, which the doctor had told us is pretty much the only fix if they're coughing at night. Give them a little bit to help them sleep and dry up the phlegm. So yeah.
00:09:40
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That's what I did. Excuse me. And I'm laying in bed and I get back in bed and I'm i'm just laying there and my heart is like racing, you know, from like dealing with like an emergency. And I, in my due date group, literally two days ago, they were talking about how like HIIT workouts aren't good for you anymore. Like at this age, they yeah it's bad for your cortisol, yeah you know? Yeah.
00:10:05
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And I'm sitting there thinking, I'm laying in bed last night at 2 a.m., m heart racing from my emergency. I'm like, HIIT workouts are not my problem, okay? Like, it's it is my children's emergencies and the middle of the night screaming and then throwing themselves off a playground. Like, there's cortisol weaved into my everyday life. Like, guys, the HIIT workouts are not my issue, okay? Yeah.
00:10:32
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Pilates, if I were to switch to Pilates, it ain't saving the cortisol issue. and I can tell you. and And I am telling you, this is like why I wouldn't go back to sleep at night.
00:10:43
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Everything was an emergency. According to my body, I was running from a bear at all points of the day, night. I could not go back to sleep. And That's just how I felt like when they were yeah really little.
00:10:58
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Now I have to like tell myself, Chris is handling it. Chris is handling it. You don't have to wake up. You don't have to. And i like, i I really have to talk to myself or else I'm up.
00:11:10
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and stressed but it's also like the fact that I know that Graydon will go down easily again if he like accidentally pees in the bed or something else like he just wakes up like I know he can be put back like it used to be really hard and it would stress me out and I'd wake up thinking oh he's coming back he's coming back like why am I like this with my own child but I was like literally my cortisol was peaked No, it's so true because Alice was the type who was hard to put back, like when she especially when she was a newborn and a baby. And even now sometimes like she'll fight it. Evie is easy. So if she wakes up in the middle of the night, most of the time I'm laying there and I'm like, it takes me five or 10 minutes. like i I have to like breathe and like tell my body, like you are safe. Everything is fine. Close your eyes. Let's go back to sleep. I have to like talk myself just like you said. but
00:12:07
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Alice, like I would sit there waiting for the next scream or waiting for the next shoe to drop. Like it was always tough with her. So I get it. i get it. Wow. That's why I listen to audio books in the night. I'm like, like distract me or something. don't know.
00:12:27
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Did you see that um pillow that someone sent us in the DMs? No. Someone sent us a, um it was like a, it's like a speaker pillow that you can only hear when you put your head down.
00:12:40
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me yeah and And I was like, wait, this is genius. She was like, Whitney needs this. I thought it was you were talking about like, i don't know, like a monogram thing that talks about like cortisol, like how I like it's there's like this hat that says, baby, please come down. You're spiking mommy's cortisol or something. And it's just so funny.
00:13:03
Speaker
You're making mommy less beautiful. That's what it was. Oh, yeah, yeah. Truly. my Thank God for Botox. We were just talking about our shiny foreheads. Oh, my God. Yeah. I was like looking at myself in the camera and I'm like, God, I'm shining in all the right places. Like all I can lift is this. Look. And it ain't it ain't moving.
00:13:22
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Oh God, it's so good. It's making me feel like really tan. just Yeah, so there's definitely like a glowing effect about it. and just feeling really tan and smooth.
00:13:35
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I was feeling tan earlier. Well, I feel like I don't know. we um So today was kind of a weird day. Sorry, I'm just getting into like daily recap here. But ah my mom wasn't feeling well, so I don't have child care today, and which is fine.
00:13:52
Speaker
I'm trying. Again, I'm trying this new thing where I'm telling myself it's not an emergency. It's not urgent. It's fine. Everything is fine. It's going to be okay. And so we ended up meeting with up with our friends, Hannah and Aubrey and Hallie, and they we walked on Bayshore, and she had her mom and her sister and brother are in town. So she she had extra people with her and I was like, perfect. I have a 1030 call. We'll walk on Bayshore. You guys get one of y'all can take this, my stroller and I'll hang back and just do my call.
00:14:24
Speaker
And it worked out perfectly. I was able to do my 1030 call. And, um, ah what is the point of the story? i forgot. Oh, oh, oh, sorry. It was cloudy when we got out there, but but as we walked, like literally five minutes in, the clouds parted and it got so sunny. And when we got in the car, I looked down and my shoulder was like brown. i was like, oh, I didn't expect that. Got a little tan. Yeah. My mom was telling me that I looked tan and I was like, I think it's just like from walking, just walking during during the day. Like if I get a break, I love to go like step out as they say, touch grass. Yeah. uh just to like i don't know center me and i like to go listen to my book or a podcast and i just I feel like I'm getting freaking tan just from walking yeah it is so true love it well this is our June catch up it feels so crazy to say that just I don't know why but June the fact that it's June is like really throwing me
00:15:28
Speaker
It came fast. It came really fast. and i'm like oh I don't know. I love summer now that I have children. Me too. do too. My whole world has changed since having kids. like I was never a summer person and now I am just like... I love hanging out by the pool. Like we swam in the morning yesterday, like when the kids come home from school, if it is nice out. God, it's been raining here for like two weeks. um We will like swim in the afternoon. It's just like popsicle season and burgers and grilling. And I'm like, God, every day feels like the 4th of July. it. It does. It does. It's so, nice.
00:16:08
Speaker
I just, I've always been a summer girl, you know, I love the summertime and I feel like we've been already like living it up. We've been doing lots of summer things. We went to a baseball game yesterday, which feels like summery for some reason. I don't know. It just does. I mean, a hot dog and a beer.
00:16:26
Speaker
o So good. I know inspired I inspired me. I, um, I feel like i Halloween's coming out. inspireded ah
Family Outings and Parenting Triumphs
00:16:39
Speaker
I want to go to a sounds game. Cause we've taken Graydon when he was little and he had so much fun. Like he truly enjoyed it. And I think he's gone since with Chris, but we went with a big group and we like sat in the grass. Cause you can sit in like this little knoll area, but they have lots of games at the sounds. Like, They've made it to where it's like, okay, we know people don't like baseball anymore because, you know, I mean, it's the sound. It's not like major league like yours, but um they made it like really freaking fun over there. There's like putt putt. There's all kinds of stuff.
00:17:13
Speaker
See, that's how ours is like and we went the the game we went to yesterday was actually like family day. So they have like extra things for the kids. And at the very end of the game, you get to line up and you get to run the bases. So the kids get to let go on the field. And y'all, it was so funny watching Evie run these bases. First of all, I was kind of nervous. I was nervous about it because you line up and then it's like you have to separate from them. Like once you get to the bases, it's like kids start running and then the kids are the parents stay on the field and you're supposed to pick up your kid at home plate once they do the full run. And it's a major league baseball field. Like it's.
00:17:56
Speaker
big, you know? And Evie's only two. i just, I was like, as they started, they just took off. And I was like, Alice, stay with Evie. I was so nervous that Evie was going to like run off or, you know, get lost. Yes. I was so nervous, but she didn't, she was with it and she made it all the way to the end. She tripped into home plate and landed on her face as she does.
00:18:21
Speaker
And it was so funny to watch. Vinny and I were dying laughing. It was so funny. are toddlers always falling? my God. Oh my God. Evie is in a clumsy, you should see she all last week, she had a full black eye from falling into the pool.
00:18:40
Speaker
Like she fell into a pool stare. Oh, yeah. And then this week, she's got a big cut on her face. ah I don't even know how it got there. her own nails. I don't freaking know.
00:18:51
Speaker
And then she when we were going to the baseball game yesterday, she was like, Band-Aid, Band-Aid. I was like, I'm not putting a Band-Aid on your face and you're not going to this baseball game looking like Nelly. OK, Nelly. OK.
00:19:03
Speaker
not happening so i was like sorry you're just gonna have to deal with the cut on your face but she's so clumsy and then last week she slid out of her car seat and banged her chin on the cup holder and like had a full like it popped open her chin like that's how hard like she was bleeding i was like what the fuck she i was like damn you look banged up every day They really do. Their legs are like so bruised. And this morning, I'm i'm telling you, Margo's taking that turn into that three-nager.
00:19:39
Speaker
i like I specifically remember you saying this about Alice when she was turning three. And you were like, I don't know what's happening. Like, where did my sweet baby go? Like, she's so different, this and that.
00:19:53
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And I think that that's what's happening. At least I know now. Like having yeah already had a kid. Because Chris and will look at each other. And then Chris like, it's just her turning three. And I'm like, oh, yeah, you brought me back down to earth. Because I was like, what the fuck is going I'm always like trying to dissect. I'm like, she's getting sick.
00:20:09
Speaker
Something's wrong. She's tired. And he's like, I think she's just turning three. I'm like, well, it's still not like my favorite answer. But it's. True. This morning, i was trying to get her out of bed. Oh, my God. She was just, like, fighting me tooth and nail. Sometimes, like, she's fine, and sometimes she's, like, just not having it. Yeah. And so I had to, like, pick her up, and she, like, bend it bent in half and hit her little nose on the crib. And now as she has this, like, huge...
00:20:36
Speaker
Red mark on her nose. And I was like, oh, my God, now I feel freaking bad that you banged your nose on the crib. And just was like, oh, and then, you know, Graydon, she was crying. Oh, because she if she gets hurt, she be crying. Yeah. Graydon was trying to talk over her.
00:20:53
Speaker
And he was like, yeah and I was like, help. help overstimulation can feel it in my brain like I can feel it in my bones I looked at Graydon I said Graydon please stop he goes I'm trying to help I'm trying to make her happy i was like you're not you're making mommy unhappy yeah god i you got Alice does that too I was just like what a way to start my day um but yeah it's just been a little bit difficult like she has got she's bringing in the attitude
00:21:27
Speaker
I cannot believe she's almost three. Like it's soon. That is so wild. I know. And just a hard age.
00:21:38
Speaker
Yeah, it is hard. It is hard. I feel like Alice was hard for a while and we've turned to, we've, I like, I'm scared to say it. I'm like four. So wonderful. It's the best age on earth. I'm convinced.
00:21:50
Speaker
we've turned a corner. Like she has been really sweet and helpful and like so grown up and like getting herself dressed. It was great. And like being more helpful with Evie. I just am like, she's buckling herself into her car seat. I always check, just don't come for me.
00:22:06
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ah But like, i I'm just like, damn, you're like growing up and being such a good little helper. i love it yeah it's that Yeah. That age is great. Yeah. and Yeah. Great. And turning five is like really effing me up. I don't, that's so big.
00:22:26
Speaker
That's a big, I feel like that's a big boy birthday. know. Okay. We have time. We have time. Yeah. Yeah. We're going to, we'll talk about that eventually. It's not that today's, today's not that day. it's not' not that Today's not that day. Okay. I feel like we have some big things to like update people on. i know i do for taking away Evie's pacifier.
00:22:50
Speaker
I feel like that is something I've talked about on this podcast of like, I've been putting off, I've been putting off, I've been putting off. Guys, I finally did it over Memorial Day weekend. We took it cold turkey.
00:23:02
Speaker
I did it the same way I did Alice's. We got a shiny little box and we were going to send them off. Well, Alice, she wanted to send them to the baby princesses. And for some reason, Evie decided to send them to the froggies.
00:23:15
Speaker
I don't know. That is just what she decided. And yeah, So to the froggies, they went and the first night was so hard. It was screaming, crying, begging, pleading for 45 minutes and like just so hard. But I just went in there every five. It was like sleep training again. Truly. That's what it was. I went in there every five minutes and I assured her that she was safe and like that I love her.
00:23:45
Speaker
She's going to be okay. I would like rub her face. never picked her up really. I just like soothed her, you know, and then I would leave. And then like five minutes later I'd come back. I do the same thing. And eventually she went to sleep and it was about 45 minutes though. That's like around maybe maybe an hour. i don't know. And,
00:24:06
Speaker
I, she woke up the next morning. She didn't ask for it at all until nap time. And then nap time was a little tough. She, but only like, she only cried for like five, 10 minutes. Like, and then she, she went to sleep. And then that night she went to bed, didn't even cry, didn't even ask for it.
00:24:23
Speaker
And it's been smooth sailing, easy sailing ever since. ah So we are officially done with the pacifiers. I feel like that is probably one of the hardest ones as a parent to like move on from. Like you are scared and you know, they love it, but you have to do it. It's hard. That's hard.
00:24:43
Speaker
And it's such a, it is. It's like, because you know, it soothes them and they love it. It feels harder for some reason. Like it's not, for some reason it feels harder than like bottles or diaper. I don't know. It feels like,
00:24:57
Speaker
It feels crueler. That's what it is. It feels more cruel and like more like you're taking away this soothing thing that they love so much. And y'all, I cried as much as she did. i That first night, I was so upset. I think it was partly because i was sad like that I was doing that to her, obviously. And I'm just sad that I'm like, oh that's like, I feel like this makes her less of a baby, you know? Yeah, it's so hard. I don't know. I just...
00:25:26
Speaker
it was really hard for me and i don't know maybe i was like a pushover a little bit and i was like still giving it to him like to sleep instead of just like all the time so it was just like really hard for him and he struggled for a really long time on learning how to like teach himself to go back to sleep i think i waited too long but It's fine. We're here.
00:25:50
Speaker
he still loves it. Like he sees pictures of him and he goes, oh, I love my past. I'm just like, please. It reminds me of in Trolls, you know, in the um what is it the The band together when he's like, give me that thing thing. Do you know what i'm talking about And they're talking about the Patsy.
00:26:09
Speaker
ah so we don't watch Trolls that much. Oh, never mind. He's like, yeah one of the trolls is like reminiscing about having a passy. And he's like, give me that thank thing, thing.
00:26:21
Speaker
ah It's funny. um So yeah, after my experience with Evie, I still am planting my flag in Team Cold Turkey. Like I got so many messages of like, oh, just cut the end or just yeah do it to just take it to nap time. Me personally, like i i will take one super hard night over like a drawn out like – thing. So I just was like, rip the bandaid. And honestly, it's, it works for us. Whatever works for you is fine. For me, I'm still team. Yeah.
00:26:56
Speaker
Take it cold Turkey. i think I'd rather do potty training over taking away the PASI from a child. Yeah. I think I would agree. So hard.
00:27:08
Speaker
Next up for us is bed. Oh my gosh. I'm just which that's another thing. oh is that, what is is that, ah is that happening soon? No, but that's just another thing of her. It's feeling like reminiscent of the age three. Like she's getting really hard to put down for nap. She's getting really hard to put down.
00:27:31
Speaker
Like she just like is like kind of running away. She's wanting to play. Like she's really like wrestling. and I'm like, Are you tired? i can't tell. Like, she's just like really pushing back on a lot of things. And I'm like, oh, you're getting so stubborn and hardheaded. ah Yeah. Very reminiscent of like that age.
00:27:53
Speaker
Remind me again. Is Greedon still napping? He will sometimes. Okay. But it's not long. Like, he they've learned this at daycare. Like, you can go in your room and have quiet time and, like, look at books or just chill. And, like, sometimes that's what he does. He, like, plays in his room. But I'd say majority he will fall asleep and it's, like, maybe 45 minutes.
00:28:18
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Okay. Okay. Oh, I'm so scared. for That's the transition I'm really scared of is losing nap time because Alice will still nap for like two hours.
00:28:28
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Oh, yeah. I think I'm like not scared of it anymore just because school has taught him to like take that time and like go in his room and he'll he knows like, all right, have to be quiet. Like that's just like my relaxing time. So I'm like,
00:28:44
Speaker
Not that scared, I guess. Okay. I think, you know, when she starts her new school in August, like that's the same thing. They do have a nap time, like where he, she can lay down, but it's also like, you can also just be quiet and like read a book. So she'll learn that at school and it'll be fine.
00:29:03
Speaker
You know, who's more nervous for it than me is Vincent Donnelly, my husband, because I've said this before. And if you're my family, just fast forward this part, but we are nap time sex people.
00:29:14
Speaker
um And you'll have to find a new window. That's what I'm saying. Our sex life is going to be cut in like one third because if we, I mean, obviously he's not here. and My husband's not here in the middle of the day, like ah on a weekday, but on weekends,
00:29:31
Speaker
we're that's our that's our our cadence yeah so well mornings it is you gotta wake up and know i know because we ain't doing it at night my cortisol is too high so
00:29:52
Speaker
um That's so funny. So, yeah, I don't know. we'll We'll have to stay tuned for that update when not when that happens. but I want to talk about like one big update, and it's not us, but Summer House.
00:30:06
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Oh, yeah, yeah. We got save time. Hold on. Before we switch to Summer House, give us a little house update for you because yeah I've seen the pictures of – Graydon's
Home Renovation Updates
00:30:17
Speaker
room. I've seen the painting of like the built-ins. Give us a little house reno update.
00:30:24
Speaker
Fine. um I'm just kidding. I'm happy. going you love this. You know, I was like kind of excited to talk about Summer House, but... um We're going to get there. Don't worry. yeah so everything's done.
00:30:38
Speaker
i haven't even posted a picture of my um guest bathroom, but I don't have a freaking mirror. I don't know what I'm trying to do. I'm like trying to find this perfect mirror and I'm like, all I just all i need is like a stupid mirror and then I could...
00:30:53
Speaker
reveal it but right now it looks so empty without it it's kind of shit yeah almost like the bathrooms that don't have any yeah where they you're it's like you're not allowed to look at yourself yeah you're not allowed to like spend a lot of time in here brown right that's what it's giving right now now it's like get it and get out um so that's done the built-ins like took me a second to like i was just so used to the black i guess and i've never liked them i'm so glad that i changed it because it was just not me Yeah. Black isn't you.
00:31:25
Speaker
I needed a change. And now that room is so like light and it actually feels bigger. and then Graydon's room is my favorite. Oh, it's so good. It's cozy. and it just is like screams boyhood. It's like we did a color drenching situation where we did like ceilings, trim, walls, like everything the same doors. So it's just like it reminds me of like a...
00:31:50
Speaker
a cool like library or something where you just want like a lamp light on and you just feel like you want it to be raining outside it just is so cozy we got a new bedding which my friend Kathleen gave me like the tip of the century because um she said her mom used to work at Pottery Barn and that like Graydon's bed is a queen but she was like by the king duvet and and because it just like makes it look super like Yeah. Fluffy and all that. So it just looks so much better in there. He had like quilt before and he's been sleeping better, I think, because he has an actual like duvet. Oh, yeah.
00:32:28
Speaker
It's probably kind of like a weighted blanket in a way. Like it's not weighted, obviously. But you know what I mean? It's like that big fluffy like... feeling yeah just like all consuming and like really cozy like seriously so it's just so cute and like we've hung up all the art and stuff I just bought sconces so that'll probably be like the finishing touch and then once I get like a new dresser here and there done like his room's great it looks so good oh It looks so good. Everything you've posted about it, I'm like, my God, obsessed. I wish I could take more. You're talented. thanks. I wish I took more pictures. It doesn't like photograph well. It's like really hard to tell how it like makes you feel when you walk in there. Like I can't capture it. I'm like really trying, but I can't like fully capture like the mood it's actually giving. Yeah. I think it's just like the sun is setting on a certain way.
00:33:21
Speaker
I kind of feel that way about how stuff, like there's stuff I've like hung on the walls and stuff. And I'm like in person, I'm like, oh, it looks so good. And then I'll pull out my camera to take a photo. I'm like, this doesn't look as good on... on my phone screen. It's not exuding the feeling that I'm actually like feeling when I'm looking at it. So I'll try and do better. Maybe I'll do like a video because I've had a few people ask like, can you do a little tour and like tell us like the stuff you bought? Because like most of it's new anyway, since he has a new room. So I need to just find time to do it.
00:33:56
Speaker
Yeah. Yeah. Well, it's looking amazing. um What else is coming up? Um, that's it for now. I feel like, yeah, we just did some painting stuff. if We also painted like Margo's bathroom. It was still like teal blue. And now it's just like a light pink to go with her like wallpaper in her room. Um, cute but I just like want to say we've lived here for a year and a half and like haven't really touched the house. We haven't worked on it at all. The only room we did was Margo's cause it was teal and I just couldn't do that to my, my daughter. Yeah. So yeah.
00:34:32
Speaker
I don't know. We like lived in it. And then I don't know. Sometimes it's hard to start a project when you've been, and you like, I don't know, get used to it. Yeah, It was like nice to like change the things I knew needed to be done. Yeah, that makes sense. Totally. Yeah. yeah So it was fun.
00:34:53
Speaker
That's exciting. Well, can't wait to, um well, hold on. I know that all of our audience is obsessed with your home style and as am i because you're so talented at it. So please keep sharing. Share all the things.
00:35:08
Speaker
We love to see it. I will. I just need to do it. Yeah, I know. Believe me. um um I'm like on that boat always. I'm always like, ah I need to do it.
00:35:19
Speaker
Y'all tell me if you do want to see it because sometimes I feel stupid. Please. If we were to do a poll, the poll would be 100 percent like for sure. I would say that's like in the top five topics we get asked about is like Whitney's home.
00:35:32
Speaker
Yeah, if I do a question box, it's always about the house. I'm like, ooh. 100%. Well, and you're always makeup. Right. that's it's like that's It's so good that we have different things, you know? Like 90% of my questions are like skincare and beauty, and 90% of your questions are like home.
00:35:48
Speaker
So it works The depth of our friendship goes i mean so deep. Yeah. certain Well, okay, shall we get into Summer House? The time has come finally.
00:36:03
Speaker
I am actually so excited that we did end up recording today because for anyone listening, we had talked, there was some back and forth about when we would record this week. And if we had done the other schedule you and I had talked about, it would mean that I'm editing on Tuesday night for a Wednesday episode. And I thought to myself like, oh my God, i can't do that because I have to be live for the reunion. so I'm so happy that we're, ended up figuring it out. Oh my God. God, okay. So reunion part one was so edited so well. like Oh my gosh.
00:36:40
Speaker
I have chills right now just starting to talk about it. Like my phone was blowing up. Like, oh my God, it just felt so fun. I was pacing in my house. Like I was pacing back and forth. That scene of like that very opening scene where like Amanda and Kyle are talking. oh my God. Like you get to see all the shit behind the scenes. And then, my God.
00:37:00
Speaker
Everything was so chef's kiss. It was. It's so like hashtag God's timing that they, like started to film the, the, the city and had cameras on them when all of this was going down. Because to be honest, until this point, like I hadn't really cared about the city that much. Like ah if page or someone were on it, I would be like more into it if I'm being really honest. But now I'm like, thank God for the city because I feel like we're able to see more. And in the fact that they had cameras up while all of this was going down, like, Oh, yeah.
00:37:39
Speaker
And to see, honestly, I loved the way we got to see all the green room stuff before, like Andy going around and talking to them. Oh, my God. he was like, you both seem calm. And they weren't.
00:37:53
Speaker
Or they were, I guess. but they They were, but they were, like, medicated. Or, like, I don't forget. Amanda, have so much to say about Amanda. Yeah.
00:38:06
Speaker
The way they are standing 10 toes down, being like it's acting like it's not a big deal is so crazy. It's crazy. It's lunatic behavior.
00:38:19
Speaker
i don't believe like anything that comes out of their mouth when the first sentences that were rattled were rattled off were that... they Yeah, she was like, yeah, we lied. We lied. We lied. We lied. that like Everything was a lie. And then when Andy was like...
00:38:34
Speaker
When was your first kiss? when was When was the first time you had sex? It's just like lie, lie, lie, you know? Okay. Do you, i just, i i I find it hard to believe that they didn't have sex till after the after the statement. You're going to ruin your whole life by, and make the whole world hate you for a man you haven't even slept with.
00:39:02
Speaker
And then when his dick pic was shown and she was like, oh, you didn't send it to me. ay ah Also, the way that that played out, first of all, so many funny things there.
00:39:14
Speaker
The fact that the very first question he asked was, am I hard, was so funny to me. And I'm like, wow, this is really what goes through men's minds that send nudes. It's like, oh my God, am i hard in the photo? Like,
00:39:27
Speaker
Which means you have a Rolodex of picks. Right. which one was it? Exactly. Exactly. And why- I send it soft. I'm sorry. That's disgusting. i I just cannot. I can't believe that at, and also like I am so all on Sierra and Amanda and Mia's team when they were talking about, it is a choice. Like, I'm sorry, but it you don't have to like, yes, okay. Maybe you had feelings for Wes or you were feeling something. You can shut that shit down. I'm sorry.
00:40:02
Speaker
I'm sorry. You can. i i get that you can't control who you feel attracted to. It doesn't matter. You can control who you act like on that with. It's just clear she's not a girl's girl like in that moment. Like that's just something you learn and it's you can't allow yourself to like go to that spot.
00:40:22
Speaker
Like, could you imagine if one of my, like, I felt attracted to one of my friend's husbands and then I was just like, oh, you know what? Sure. we've We've talked about this. We call our husbands, our friend's husbands accessories. Like you're just an accessory.
00:40:37
Speaker
Yeah. You're Candace's accessory. That's how I look at you. You're my friend. Like, that's it. That's who you are. Yeah, and that's it.
00:40:49
Speaker
That's all you are. It just is what it is. I just could not believe that they, the fact that she was not there with her tail between her legs, like they were doubling down being like, guys, like no one else has been in this situation. Like I can't help it I'm like, yes, you can.
00:41:04
Speaker
Yes, you can. And it's so weird. Like, West is so charismatic on the show, and he's, like, silly, goofy mood, but he definitely has, like, an issue with conflict. Like, everyone keeps saying, like, why isn't he protecting her? Why isn't he talking back? And I'm like, like, I don't know if they expect anything, like...
00:41:23
Speaker
more why would they would expect anything more like when he comes in these like hot seats like this he really shuts down like i i see myself in that way a little bit like if that were to happen like i totally like i wouldn't be able to think straight i'd be like fight or flight and i would be like running i don't know he's as she uh said you're so good Yeah, he, I do feel like when she was like, he's a fraudulent person. i i kind of think that that is true. Like, I think that he has put on this like front for the show of being like the charismatic, funny, like, so like sensitive guy who like cares about women, but like, I don't know. It's not adding up.
00:42:11
Speaker
I will say like Mia and KJ are, So protect them at all costs. Good ads to the show. I love her. i also love Bailey. Oh, yeah. She went in. on Oh, my God.
00:42:25
Speaker
I was into that. She I really like her. i really like her. Levi. Like, why are you there? But okay. Like, maybe they have a friendship that's really cute and we just didn't get to see it that much. But Bailey, I'm into. I wish her and Carl would get together, actually, for real.
00:42:45
Speaker
But... i don't know. Carl's kind of silly, goofy on the on the reunion as well. Like he came with receipts and he. Yeah. I don't know. He did a good job, I thought.
00:42:57
Speaker
And his same his um the way he explained like that. It's like singing happy birthday without using a name is so such a good example. Like I was like, wow, bravo, Carl. Like that was such good call out. They hit him with like punches and he kind of like.
00:43:16
Speaker
like it kind of brushes off like his um I don't know what's it called confidence is like cute like he was like they would come at him and he'd be like yeah like whatever you know yeah don't Yeah.
00:43:32
Speaker
I don't know Carl's grown on me a lot. i think that he looks a little scary sometimes, but he. Yeah, something's not right. There's something a little off. I can't tell if he's like too skinny like what. He's really skinny, which I'm sorry.
00:43:48
Speaker
and i Maybe his haircut. I don't know. I don't know It's giving Skeletor. I don't, I don't know. It's just something about that is off. Yeah. But, but I do think he has shown so much growth in who he is and like compared to even Kyle, like compare, if you compare Carl to Kyle, wow, that's like a tongue twister.
00:44:11
Speaker
I do feel like Carl has done the work to, to change who he is. And like that, I will always respect And Jesse, man, Jesse was an emotional man.
00:44:24
Speaker
my God. I'm like, you're, why are you crying so much? He was so teary. like, I don't want my best friend. He was like, I chose the wrong side. Yeah. And also the way he was like, i think you could tell he was just like sad about the friend group being at odds. Yeah. That's like, yeah. He was like most upset about that. He's like, no, we can't all party together. Yeah. Yeah.
00:44:48
Speaker
I could tell that was what it was. Yeah. I'm excited to watch part two. and me too. God. I will be locked in. ah me too. It's so good. Anyone that didn't watch it in um live.
00:45:03
Speaker
How? Oh my God, my phone was blowing up. I have, oh yeah, and I love that. I love when I feel like we're all connected through some sort of like pop culture zeitgeist moment. I love Well, Candace was like five minutes behind and we were giving her shit. We're like, you're worthless, catch up. like I was getting annoyed. I was like, my God, okay. I won't say anything else. Whitney, you were like, I'm in a different dimension than you right now or something. Because because it was, so much was happening so quickly that you were like, you she was like, I can't even with you right now. Like, you're behind. You were like a ripple effect. I was like, all right, we've moved past that.
00:45:50
Speaker
I will be watching in real time tomorrow. Okay. Promise. Same. ah Vinny's going to have to handle bedtime himself. Like, I can't. We can't this again. can't do this again. Okay. One last thing. was so proud Sierra and how she wasn't really emotional. I mean, she was emotional in the sense of like anger emotion, but like she wasn't crying. wasn't like feel bad for me or like anything. It was just like, you're fucking crazy psycho bitch that did this to me. I don't know. I just like, I loved how spicy she was. And that last line at the end,
00:46:29
Speaker
I saw a meme and it was like, ah it was from Game of Thrones with the dragon when she like lit, when the dragon like lit the whole place on fire. i was like, that's literally how it was at the end.
00:46:42
Speaker
That's your wife, not my wife. It's harsh. And it's like, well, yeah, because that's a reflection on you as well. yeah Sorry. Yeah. That's lest we not forget.
00:46:53
Speaker
i know. What kind of husband you were. I do feel like in part two, we'll see more of like Kyle and how this has affected him. And also Kyle wasn't the best, was not the best husband during this season. And to be honest, I think they hated each other the whole time. But I like some of the things he said and did like are not okay. And like, I think he will be held accountable in part two.
00:47:21
Speaker
Yeah. It'll just be interesting to like see that play out, you know? Can't wait. ah It makes me feel alive. Oh, me too. Wow.
00:47:33
Speaker
But yeah, that was fun. um We'll have to like recap again on the next ep.
00:47:40
Speaker
We will. Of course. After we watched it. I can't wait. All right. Well, that's all I got. I mean, we're in summertime. We're just trying to stay busy. We've switched my schedule to be like a little more loosey goosey to spend a little more time with my kids.
00:47:57
Speaker
All right. I love you. Love you. Bye. Thank you so much for being a part of our mom group chat. New episodes drop every Tuesday. And don't forget, the group chat is blowing up on our Instagram page. So make sure you're following along over there. All right. Got to go. My toddler just put something in her mouth.