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New Month & New Intentions (Life Talk)
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Introduction of Rachel Noel
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Bigger talks, bigger talks.
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Another interview.
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But hear me out.
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It's not IG Live per se.
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We're in hits and history with a phenomenal, phenomenal, special person.
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She's an inspiration to me.
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She doesn't know it.
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Let's give it up for Rachel Noel.
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Yeah.
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How are you?
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I am so honored to be here and excited because you inspire me.
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OK, I mean, we could go down a whole list.
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Yes, we inspire each other.
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Yes.
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I think that's where the synergy and the connection came.
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And when I thought of this idea, let's be clear, it's October 1st.
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Yes, it is.
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It's the first of the month.
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And I said, you know what?
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We have to kind of get on some type of consistent conversation.
Rachel Noel's Multifaceted Career
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basis of just talking.
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I feel like every time we connect and we converse, it's always something powerful, meaningful, and needed for the people.
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So, you know, the intentions for today, guys, is not only to introduce Rachel as a business owner, investor, music mogul, writer, public, I mean, she's all that
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In a bag of chips.
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The queen of everything.
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Music and entertainment.
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Management.
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And she gets the job done.
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She executes.
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She has a lot of information, wisdom, experience.
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And she's done a lot in her lifetime.
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And I'm inspired.
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Thank you.
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Rachel, I just want to say thank you for being here.
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Thank you for letting us.
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use hits in history studio right off of Cahuenga to anybody you know any artists out there if you need to you know get in the studio and record a track or album come through this is a studio yeah all of it yes you guys should come and join us well it's an honor to have you here as I said and I was very excited when you suggested this I was like you know what because our our conversations are always so intellectually fulfilling and
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And spiritually grounding.
Finding Your Community or Tribe
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And in the midst of whatever we're doing, right?
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Yeah.
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We're hanging out on the field of a football, you know, game.
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And it's just the energy is crazy.
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And we're there very locked in on like, oh, like, what is that?
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What's this?
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And what's this?
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And I just I fuel off of that.
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I think we had a really cool time this past weekend talking about finding our village.
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Yeah.
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Yes, tribe.
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You know, tribe and finding the tribe of people that are, you know, that move and groove the way that you want to in life.
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So I see that in you.
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So I'm happy.
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I'm excited.
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Yes.
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You know, I got some water, some Red Bulls, some books.
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Yeah, I got some books, and we got it going on.
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Yes.
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Yeah, so let's get started.
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To the people who don't know, let's give the people a synopsis, just a brief description.
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Who is Rachel Noel?
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Like I can say you're a phenomenal, you're a mother, you're a queen, you're a boss, you're an entrepreneur, you're an angel investor, you're a real estate.
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I can say all these amazing things.
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But I feel like you can kind of add to that picture of amazing things and kind of give your side and your story of who Rachel Noel is.
The Puzzle Master Approach
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Okay.
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Well, over the years, because I do so much, I had to really come up with how do I explain myself in just one phrase, right?
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Or two words.
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How can I narrow it down?
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I consider myself a puzzle master.
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Ooh, puzzle master.
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Wow, he elaborates.
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Life throws us a bunch of pieces.
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And sometimes it takes more than just ourself to figure out where does the middle go and what, you know, I'm missing a piece, but you actually aren't missing a piece.
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You just overlooked it so many times and now you're frustrated.
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You're not seeing the piece.
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So I come in and all the varieties of things that I do in life, whether it's in the music business, real estate, you know, really, um, humankind and the philanthropy work that I do is coming in and identifying what pieces are available.
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what pieces are needed, and getting to work.
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Getting to work.
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Yeah.
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So it's really that, you know?
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So because I do so much, right?
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You pretty much said it all already in the beginning.
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It's like...
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Don't you get exhausted?
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Let me ask you this.
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Don't you get exhausted when you ask someone what they do and because they actually do 25 different things, they tell you the whole 25 list and you're wondering, what the, does this person really do?
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Yes.
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Right.
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You're like, are you in, do you sew socks?
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And then you cook bake, you know, bacon on the weekends.
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And then you also are a hat.
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So maker and you do real estate and then you also raise rats.
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Okay.
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How do you do it all together?
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I think before we came on, I was asking you, like, how do you find time to read new books?
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Right.
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Because I read a lot.
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You read a lot.
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Even audio books.
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Yeah.
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How do you find time?
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And I was discussing that I get burnt out while I hit a wall and there's so much information and so much downloading and just getting new information.
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And I'm like, hold up.
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Yeah.
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I'm just kind of hit a wall and I need to kind of just take a step back and
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marinate on information and actually retain it instead of just continuously getting more how do you find time what inspires you to read is it the work you're in is it your passion it's a variety of things and for as far as how do i find the time i schedule the time okay
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And I stayed disciplined to that time unless I absolutely can't because there are so many things that I do that even when you don't really have a whole lot going on, you find that the day kind of just takes you.
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The friend called you and now you're on a three-hour phone call and next thing you know, you find yourself at the beach and then the flowers are growing and then you're like, oh my God, it's 10 o'clock at night, right?
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Because life just naturally does that, I schedule the time.
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So I wake up at a certain time, I have my meditation and prayer at a certain time, and I fit a certain amount of time in with the book.
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And sometimes I'll find myself wanting to either stop before my time is up or continue because I'm not done with a page.
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Sometimes I'll continue because I just, I'm like, what is it, you know, like, let me just get to, I'll read a couple extra pages.
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I'm like, that's not too bad, but I want to,
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to stay true to the time management.
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Because if I don't, the day gets away from me.
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And a lot of the times, I'll read inspirational stuff, self-development things, things that are about education and the industries that I work within.
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So I like to balance my reading between spiritual and humanity and philanthropy grounding and how to just...
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operate within others and and for others and then also educating myself and whatever it is right with me it's it's always either real estate or music so i'm always constantly learning you know at this phase in real estate i'm now learning more about commercial real estate i've been doing residential flips and and that side of things for 15 plus years so even longer actually and so commercial real estate is a new thing for me in the last uh five years so you know so it just depends yeah just constantly learning
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And how has, you know, gathering that information and getting those insights and wisdom from books, meditation, spirituality, prayer has given you, you know, not only momentum, but progress and success in your life?
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How do you, what do you say contribute from reading and learning has given you in your life?
The Importance of Reading
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Well, reading became my go-to because I was broke and I couldn't afford it.
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Let's talk about it.
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Okay, right.
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So it's like everyone talks about all the, you know, go see the therapist and, you know, go to this workshop and go to the Tony Robbins, you know, power event that cost you $55,000.
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And I'm like, 55 what?
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Yeah.
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In the beginning, you know, books were just all that I had.
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And I come from a pretty traumatic childhood and there wasn't a lot of support or love and education.
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It was hell.
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Really?
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It was absolute hell.
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And, but I also now at this stage of my life can acknowledge that the strengths that I acquired in that, you know, pressing of a time.
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Make me who I am today.
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Right.
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I think we talked about that briefly at the game, how pain turns into the purpose, power, and you get to gain on the momentum.
Pain and Success
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So we also talked about being privileged.
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Right.
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Growing up, having everything given to you or not even having everything given to you.
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It's just you have to access because parents or family.
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They're pretty well off or they're decent.
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And I think our question was, what is it about someone who's experienced trauma or pain that they use that as drive and tenacity to become their best self or successful or just a powerhouse where someone who doesn't have that pain or that trauma response or negativity or challenge, it's not that they're not successful.
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They just don't have that urge or that urgency or that, you know, that, that,
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I got to get it done.
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And I think you came up with a great analogy.
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If you, you know, care to share, I think the people should know.
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Which analogy?
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We were talking so many.
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Which one was it?
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Yeah, so basically we talked about, say for instance... Oh, the privilege versus someone who doesn't, right?
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Right.
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So I think I remember what I had mentioned to you, and it was in regards to...
Privilege vs. Challenge Motivations
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the person who's raised privileged and protected knows that it's always there.
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Right?
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So...
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They're not looking for it.
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It's like they're not looking for it because, you know, in my case, there was no parents that I could go to and say, hey, like, you know, I'm thinking of going to school, you know, and knowing that they're going to support that idea and pay for the whole thing.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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Where my daughter had that luxury.
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Right.
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So so I see the difference in, you know, for me, I said, OK, if I need something in life, guess what?
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I got to go out and get it.
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Otherwise, it's not there for me because it.
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it's just not my situation.
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Whereas with someone like my daughter, she's known regardless of how I've grown in success over the years, she's known that no matter what I am on the front line and I am supporting her and loving her through whatever decisions that she's made.
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So I feel like when you, you know, when you have that, and I don't know, I'm only guessing cause I didn't have it.
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Is that, you know, it's like, it's, it's like,
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When you have food in the pantry versus when you don't.
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You just know it's always there.
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Right.
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When you know.
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Hey, yeah.
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Right.
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You know, when you're headed home and you're in that snack mode, you're like, oh, I got the Doritos.
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I got the Oro.
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I got the Oot, Oot.
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Yeah, you're going down the list opposed to.
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Not having it.
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Damn, I don't have anything.
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I think I might have some crackers that have been in there for three months.
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And for sure, we know they're disgusting.
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Yeah.
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Right?
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So it's.
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So it's a very interesting.
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Yeah, the ebb and flows and that's the dichotomy that I would say like sometimes the good can be bad and the bad can be good, right?
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Right.
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Because to have, not to have something,
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propels you to have something if you desire to have it desire to have it great yeah and to have something it's not that you don't want more it's just you don't have no urge to really want to have it because you have it already they say there's there's a quote that says people who say money ain't everything because they have a lot people say uh oh guys or girls who don't meet all the time i don't it's like yeah because but there's some people who don't have that
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I have friends that are couples and they get mad at each other and they fuss and they bicker.
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I'm like, some people wish they had that.
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They wish they had someone to fuss with.
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They wish they had someone to kind of tell them to get in the shower.
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We have to work tomorrow or hold them accountable.
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Right.
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Yes.
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And I think as people subconsciously, we're not grateful for the things we already have.
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You know, like, let's be honest.
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Entitlement.
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No matter what culture it is, everybody has privilege.
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Doesn't matter who we are.
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But we don't look at what we're privileged at because we're privileged in it.
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So we're not looking at it like that.
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We're looking like, oh, they have more than this because I don't have that.
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But there's something you have that they might not have, but you never looked at it like that.
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Correct.
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So I always tell people, man, it's always, it's not...
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I always tell you it's how you look at it, right?
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I can look at a problem like, you know what, Rachel?
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I don't think I can solve that.
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And you're, you know, you're the master puzzle, you know, woman.
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Puzzle master.
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Puzzle master.
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And it's like, Eric, you're not looking at it the right way.
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What about this?
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And I think that's where the diversity comes in, right?
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And I'm not even talking about color.
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I'm talking about perspective.
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Like, say, for instance, someone like your daughter who grew up having certain things.
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And say someone like me and someone in my position not having that.
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You bring those two together, they can make something greater.
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And I think for people sometimes that's where we miss the boat and say, you know what?
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You have something I don't have.
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I have something you don't have.
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How about we bring that together and create some magic?
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And I think it's beneficial not only to ourselves, but the world.
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Because, granted, we talked about it.
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I mean, if we could all operate in this mind space, you know, my God.
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Yeah, but imagine, we talked about it.
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Imagine if everybody had the same idea, the same opinion, we agreed on everything.
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There would be no life.
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There would be no yin.
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There would be no yang.
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There would be no day.
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There would be no night.
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It has to have some type of balance.
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But I just think it's always important for people to see things in a different way or in a different perspective.
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Absolutely.
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Because I know how I feel, but you might be in the same position.
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You might be motivated by something that hurt me.
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So I just I just tell people like you never know until you know.
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And for someone like yourself being a mom.
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Right.
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Because I think he told a story about when you're 23 and you move to I think it was in Vegas, you said.
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And then you move to L.A.
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and then you got this this high rise and you set the bar for yourself.
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Yes.
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Talk about that.
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Just set in a like set in a.
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setting the bar for yourself even though you feel like you're not at that level but what it does for you in your life i don't know where it became a thing for me yeah because i wasn't raised to be in a manifestation type of mindset right and we were really taught that you know oh the life of luxury that's just not what that's just not for us so i grew up in the projects and you know it was just basically if there was any kind of
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Even middle class to our upbringing was like, you know, that's the bougie people.
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It looks great to me.
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I don't know what you guys are talking about.
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So, but, you know, it got to a point where...
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I just started understanding the power that I had with my imagination and my vision.
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And it's very odd because if I reflect back when I was about six or seven years old and I lived in a traumatically abusive home, so I was always kind of imagining myself out of it, right?
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And I would have visions even in those times of being who I am today.
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eerie type of feeling, right?
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Because I would have full-on visions.
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I would see me on the front of a magazine, and it was like executive such and such.
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And at the time, I didn't, I wasn't in, there was no business minds in my home.
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There was none of that.
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But as I got older and I moved out of my, or ran away rather at 14 and never went back.
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So I have not been back home since then.
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Really?
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Yeah.
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But I started understanding that
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when you, you know, see yourself actually living a certain life, that the things that you, that you see within that life eventually start presenting themselves.
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And then you have a choice to either make it real or,
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Or pretend like it's not for you, right?
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Which is kind of, I feel like, the good and the evil of it all.
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It's like an opportunity comes, and we either accept it and be like, wow, this is what I've been dreaming for, or we sabotage the hell out of it.
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And it's like, it's not for me.
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Because it's so unfamiliar, yeah.
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Right.
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Meanwhile, you go home, and you're like, damn, I really wanted that.
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Yeah.
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So I started understanding, like, okay, like, my first...
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um i'm totally into cars i love i'm an engine enthusiast so what's your favorite car right now that you drive or you just like in general um my favorite well i have i'm a truck person got it so the g wagon is my favorite um that's my favorite truck on the market and it has been for quite some time just because it and now they have the new amg seat so like a certain ride to it yeah
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But it still rumbles, so I feel like I could run over anything if I needed to.
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But that's my favorite truck.
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And then the Tesla I love.
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It's just very smart financially.
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It's super comfortable, and it's fast.
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Oh, it is?
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It's very fast.
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Yeah, I have the S model.
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They're all pretty fast, though.
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I test drove all of them.
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But that's my favorite.
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But that's when I first started learning, like, okay, I could really...
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Create a life for myself.
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I wanted a Nissan Nissan Nissan
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king cab yeah shout out to nissan yeah i wanted a nissan king cab i forget the name of the truck um but i wanted uh hydraulics on it and i grew up around um a big latin and spanish community in new mexico when i was in high so like middle school and high school um and everyone had hydraulics and everyone you know was jazzed up on the central boulevard saturday night cruising around um
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So, yeah, so that was like my first visualization of like.
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So how, like, because I think I struggle or have a challenge with like the imagination part, right?
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So I would go to the dealership.
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Yeah.
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And I couldn't afford not one of those cars.
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So I would go and just pretend and have a conversation as if I was going to buy it and go sit in the car.
00:17:52
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You would actually go to the dealership.
00:17:54
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Go to the dealership.
00:17:55
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Got it.
00:17:55
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Yes.
00:17:56
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Interesting.
00:17:56
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Because my question was, how does someone who don't have that blueprint or they don't see it create that in their mind?
00:18:03
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Because I believe with social media and just any of life, people go off what they see and not what they know.
00:18:08
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So how do you imagine something you don't see?
00:18:11
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Or maybe you do see it in a magazine, a movie, or you see some friends, but like you said, you go to the dealership.
00:18:16
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Yeah, and then initially it's me seeing other people drive around and seeing, you know, in that case it was vehicles.
00:18:22
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And I would ditch school and go to the arcade and play the racing game.
00:18:25
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So my driving skills are pristine, let me tell you.
Curiosity Beyond Baltimore
00:18:29
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Get me on the track!
00:18:30
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Let's go!
00:18:31
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Let's go.
00:18:32
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No, it's interesting you say that because in Baltimore, I remember at 15, I was like, it has to be something more than just Baltimore.
00:18:39
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I know it is.
00:18:39
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This just can't just be it.
00:18:40
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You just can't just be, you know, selling drugs and playing sports and going to school.
00:18:44
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Like, this can't just be life.
00:18:47
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And I think that curiosity created my imagination.
00:18:50
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And now that I'm thinking, talking to you,
00:18:53
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Being curious does create your imagination.
00:18:55
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Yeah.
00:18:56
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Because you're wondering, and then I feel like the universe brings you things, books, right?
00:19:00
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They say, you know, knowledge is the precursor to experience.
00:19:03
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The next thing you know, fast forward, I'm in L.A.
00:19:07
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Next thing you know, I'm traveling the world.
00:19:08
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I'm here, I'm there.
00:19:10
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But in my mind, as a kid, because basketball was my favorite sport, my passion, I wanted to play ball professionally.
00:19:16
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That didn't happen.
00:19:18
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So I was like, you know what?
00:19:19
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I got to go pro in life.
00:19:20
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But I didn't know what I was saying.
00:19:22
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so let me read books let me learn but when I got to a point where I started getting the things I felt it wasn't even about what I saw because I was like I felt like you can feel like I feel like I belong here I feel like I'm a professional in life even though I wish I was a professional in sports so it's funny how the imagination or the senses right how you feel how you think your thoughts create your reality and
00:19:46
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Yeah.
00:19:47
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If I back it all the way up to thinking like what person in my life helped me see that there was other possibilities, it was one of the questions.
00:19:55
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It was my grandmother.
00:19:55
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Let's talk about it.
00:19:57
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So because I would spend every summer.
00:20:01
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Every summer since I was five years old with my grandma.
00:20:04
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And it started at five because that's when you can fly by yourself.
00:20:08
Speaker
Oh, really?
00:20:08
Speaker
So I was, yes, put on a plane and sent to... Oh, you were just living life before life was happening at five years old.
00:20:15
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I mean, get a flight.
00:20:17
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I mean, you know, good old Southwest.
00:20:18
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Ha, ha, ha, ha.
00:20:20
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Shouts out to Southwest.
00:20:21
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Okay, round trip.
00:20:22
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Let's go.
00:20:25
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So my home, as I mentioned, was a very dark place.
00:20:28
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And so when I would go with my grandmother, who would take me on...
00:20:33
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summer vacations and we'd go out to the farm in Colorado and I, she's, and she was a, you know, she had a job, she worked at the hospital, so she was a very independent, but also had a very loving marriage.
00:20:45
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She had everything in her home that I only saw on TV in my, um,
00:20:50
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And so I started understanding that there was life on TV actually could happen because my grandmother was living it.
00:20:59
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So that's where it first started.
00:21:01
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Like, oh, OK, like actually this little bubble that I'm being raised in is not it.
00:21:06
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It's not the end all be all.
00:21:08
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And thank God.
00:21:10
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Holy.
00:21:11
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Holy moly.
00:21:11
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Don't up.
00:21:12
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Hallelujah.
00:21:13
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Amen.
00:21:13
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Grandma.
00:21:14
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We love you.
00:21:15
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Yes.
00:21:15
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Yes.
00:21:16
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So my grandmother turned 83 yesterday.
00:21:18
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Oh, look at this.
00:21:19
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Perfect time.
00:21:20
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And happy belated.
00:21:21
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Lucky Libra.
00:21:23
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Wow.
00:21:25
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And she is she is my rock.
00:21:27
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Yeah.
00:21:28
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And, you know, she's, you know, getting older and she's got dementia and she's getting into her last chapter of life, which I can respect.
00:21:35
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And I love her so much.
00:21:36
Speaker
How does that make you feel in general?
00:21:40
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At first, it was, I mean, I just kind of stuffed it, right?
00:21:46
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I just didn't want to think about it, didn't want to deal with it.
00:21:49
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And then it got to a point where, because now she doesn't remember me.
00:21:53
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So that's probably one of the hardest things.
00:21:55
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My grandfather, he didn't know who I was when I saw him, you know, before he passed.
00:21:59
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And I was like, man, he's always giving me money every time I saw him.
00:22:03
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Gee, son, come here.
00:22:04
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It's $200.
00:22:04
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It's $200.
00:22:05
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I'm like, hey, you always remember to give me money.
00:22:07
Speaker
What's up, buddy?
00:22:08
Speaker
What's up?
00:22:09
Speaker
I had like 100 keys, you know, but it is an odd feeling, at least for me it was.
00:22:15
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It's very odd.
00:22:15
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And it kind of like threw me off.
00:22:16
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I'm like, damn.
00:22:17
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Okay, let me process that.
00:22:19
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Yeah.
00:22:20
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That's probably the hardest part to process with it, you know, because she's ready and I can sense that, you know.
00:22:27
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So for me, I just love her so much.
00:22:29
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I want her to be happy and transition and not have to live in any, you know, room.
00:22:35
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Yeah, and none of it, you know.
00:22:37
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And half the time she doesn't know where she's at.
00:22:39
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But she's very loved and the family's there and she's, you know.
00:22:42
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And where is she?
00:22:43
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She's in Durango, Colorado on the farm.
00:22:45
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Okay.
00:22:46
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And, yeah, so she was really the first person that helped me understand that life,
00:22:52
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in the TV was actually a possibility.
00:22:57
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Yeah.
00:22:57
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And then I was like, oh, well, that person's riding a unicorn.
00:23:01
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Where's the unicorn at?
00:23:02
Speaker
And then I just became like... And then as I started...
00:23:07
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So maturing and understanding, especially when I was on my own, right?
00:23:10
Speaker
It was like I didn't have to, I didn't really have to do anything I didn't want to do, which is a very dangerous place to be in because you don't, you're only accountable for yourself.
00:23:20
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So if I don't feel like being accountable, if I don't feel like going to school today, guess what?
00:23:23
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I'm not going to, you know?
00:23:25
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So, because I did not, I got my GED.
00:23:28
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Yeah.
00:23:29
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But I dropped out as a sophomore because life was,
00:23:33
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Horrendous.
00:23:34
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So initially school was the escape.
00:23:36
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And then it got to a point where I left the home and I was living with my boyfriend that I had for four and a half years.
00:23:42
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Bless his heart.
00:23:43
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He just passed a few years ago.
00:23:45
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But another rock in my life.
00:23:47
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Really amazing individual.
00:23:50
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But it was, you know, there's a lot of maturity that was happening in that in that phase and me understanding like, wow, I could actually do anything.
00:24:00
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And so, you know, so I just started using those.
00:24:02
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Those experiences shaped your mindset and your mentality that things were possible.
00:24:07
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And I try to tell, you know, my listeners and followers, like, we're responsible, like you said, for what we do, what we say, and how we feel.
00:24:14
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Yes.
00:24:14
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Based on our perceptions, beliefs, and experiences.
00:24:17
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And I always think about...
00:24:19
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Like I said, people go off what they see, not what they know.
00:24:23
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So if a person can observe and see what's going on, they believe in their mind that that is reality or that's true.
00:24:30
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And that's why I was saying, you know, when I was young, I was like, this just can't be life.
00:24:33
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There has to be something else.
00:24:35
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Right.
00:24:36
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And by me, not this funny, by me, not seeing something allowed me to see something.
00:24:42
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And by you seeing something allowed you allowed you to feel that, you know, it was possible.
00:24:47
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Right.
00:24:48
Speaker
It's crazy how the mind works.
00:24:50
Speaker
How does it feel for you now that you've stepped into such an incredibly powerful new life for yourself, right?
00:24:58
Speaker
And then you go back to Boston.
00:25:00
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Baltimore.
00:25:00
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Baltimore.
00:25:01
Speaker
Pardon me.
00:25:02
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And, you know, connect back with whether it's friends and family and people who never left.
00:25:08
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Yeah.
00:25:09
Speaker
And you see where they've either grown, stayed.
00:25:13
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Like, how does that feel for you?
00:25:15
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Well, one, I think, you know, I get this sense of I'm the chosen one.
00:25:19
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I've been chosen to live a path and break generational carousers and traumas, but it's tough, you know, because like we spoke before we got on the mic,
00:25:31
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Just because it looks good doesn't mean it's all good.
00:25:34
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It's fun.
00:25:34
Speaker
It's fulfilling.
00:25:35
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But there's times where it's not as fun.
00:25:37
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It is low moments.
00:25:38
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It is lonely times.
00:25:40
Speaker
And I think if a person is not in it, they would never understand it.
00:25:43
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They're like, oh, yeah, but you get to do this.
00:25:45
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That's like it's a lot that come with that.
00:25:47
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So for me, I just try to actually appreciate the experience going back because it's the balance.
00:25:53
Speaker
Right.
00:25:54
Speaker
You really get to see some.
00:25:55
Speaker
Because in L.A., you can kind of hide your insecurities and hide your failures, at least materially, right?
00:26:01
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Back home, huh?
00:26:03
Speaker
Yeah, it's real.
00:26:05
Speaker
It's raw.
00:26:05
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Like, this is what's going on.
00:26:08
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People, you know, getting shot at, getting killed, people going to jail, and it's the norm.
00:26:12
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It's been going that way forever.
00:26:14
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So I always say, how can I be a force of influence in a positive way for all people back home?
00:26:20
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Right.
00:26:20
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No matter if it's my family, friends, people who don't know me, people who might not like me, I'm going to still add value to your life.
00:26:26
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Yes.
00:26:27
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Because...
00:26:28
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I might look this way, but I know what that's really like.
00:26:31
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You know, I got family members behind the wall, you know, doing time for things they made decisions for that got them there.
00:26:38
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And so for me, it's just I want to add value and just give them information, give them awareness and, you know, eventually give them exposure to certain things.
00:26:47
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But I also realize.
00:26:49
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Everything's not for everybody.
Helping Others vs. Respecting Paths
00:26:51
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Right.
00:26:51
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And I think what I struggle with sometimes is trying to pull people with me.
00:26:54
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That's what I was going to ask you.
00:26:55
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That people don't want to be pulled.
00:26:57
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And I think we spoke about the revelation you got about a scripture in the Bible about Jesus.
00:27:03
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And so when Jesus walks through a crowd of people, he doesn't make eye contact with anyone.
00:27:08
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Right.
00:27:09
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But he only connects to people who comes to him.
00:27:12
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And he gave me epiphany like, damn.
00:27:14
Speaker
I'm over here trying to help any and everybody because I feel obligated, right?
00:27:18
Speaker
Survivor's remorse or feel compelled because I want to help everybody.
00:27:22
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And people don't even want the help.
00:27:25
Speaker
Right.
00:27:25
Speaker
They like just do you.
00:27:26
Speaker
We cool.
00:27:27
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Yes.
00:27:27
Speaker
Or they don't want to live that life or that's not their reality or that they don't care.
00:27:32
Speaker
Mm hmm.
00:27:33
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And it hurt in the beginning because I'm like, damn.
00:27:37
Speaker
So was I really living a false reality of myself thinking that's what I should have done or this is what I should do?
00:27:44
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But like you said, it's all perspective.
00:27:46
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It's all lessons.
00:27:47
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You're learning.
00:27:48
Speaker
And it's like I said, I think a survivor's remorse was the tough part at first because you make it to a place and you feel like you owe or you should give anything.
00:27:57
Speaker
And then you get to a point where you're changing because you're evolving and developing, but you see people treating you different because they don't know how to experience the new you or to evolve you.
00:28:08
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So it's balanced.
00:28:10
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And I think it's part of life.
00:28:12
Speaker
And it also gives us something to talk about and let people know, like, everything is not what it seems.
00:28:18
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You can live however you want, but this is my life.
00:28:22
Speaker
And I think that's what I pulled back on these last few years instead of...
00:28:26
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Not trying to push my perspective of what I believe on to people who don't even want what I want.
00:28:30
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Yeah.
00:28:31
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And it hurts sometimes because you see people like, come on, don't you?
00:28:34
Speaker
It's like, that's OK.
00:28:36
Speaker
My therapist told me, she said, how about this?
00:28:39
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What if every person you care about love and you want to help?
00:28:43
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that they're responsible for their own path in life and there's nothing you can do about it.
00:28:47
Speaker
And I was like, damn, you're right.
00:28:50
Speaker
That's rough.
00:28:51
Speaker
That's a hard pill to swallow.
00:28:52
Speaker
You know?
00:28:53
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Like, there's nothing I can do.
00:28:55
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No matter what I do.
00:28:57
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So you learn the hard way, as I have so many times.
00:29:00
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But you appreciate it because that's, you know, like, you know, God signaling telling you, like, I don't need you to do that.
00:29:09
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I need you to focus on this.
00:29:10
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Yeah.
00:29:11
Speaker
But not focusing on that and just focusing on me is scary because I'm always focusing on that to be me to go there, right?
00:29:18
Speaker
Yes.
00:29:18
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So Nana's like, no, that ain't cool.
00:29:20
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Yeah.
00:29:20
Speaker
Right.
00:29:20
Speaker
It's not the counteract.
00:29:21
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Yeah, yeah.
00:29:22
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It's like full direct.
00:29:23
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Yeah, what's up with you?
00:29:24
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So it's just hindsight.
00:29:26
Speaker
2020 is beautiful.
00:29:27
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But it's been a journey.
00:29:30
Speaker
But I like it.
00:29:31
Speaker
I mean, because here's the thing.
00:29:32
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I've been in L.A.
00:29:33
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11 years.
00:29:34
Speaker
Okay.
00:29:35
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No one really knows what it was like.
00:29:37
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No one cared.
00:29:38
Speaker
But when people see you.
00:29:40
Speaker
Right.
00:29:41
Speaker
Oh, what's up, man?
00:29:42
Speaker
How you doing?
00:29:42
Speaker
What's going on?
00:29:44
Speaker
So I just like this discussion, you know, we can move into like, you know, the month of October and talk about.
00:29:50
Speaker
What should be the intentions or what do you think people should focus on as we enter the fourth quarter of the year and a new month, new energy, new opportunities?
00:30:00
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I'm pretty sure you have your own focus.
00:30:02
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Because for me, I'm at a point in my life where it's like, I'm ready to go to another level.
00:30:07
Speaker
And it's those things I got to change and it's habits I got to get rid of.
00:30:12
Speaker
I got to really put myself in check.
00:30:14
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You know, I'm checking on everybody else.
00:30:15
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I need to check in on myself.
00:30:17
Speaker
Yes.
00:30:17
Speaker
So from your eyes and your perspective, what do you think, even for yourself or just for the world of people listening, that should be a vocal point that people... To help them get to their next levels.
00:30:27
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I do feel like people want to progress in life at some point.
00:30:30
Speaker
Whether it's a relationship, money, business, they want some type of momentum.
00:30:35
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Nobody wants to stay stagnant forever if they don't have to.
00:30:37
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Yeah.
00:30:38
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You know, I think...
00:30:41
Speaker
Especially given the state of the world and the economy and all these new challenges that as a society we're facing and, you know, all the randomness and, you know, this variant and now this and then follow that rule and all these different things.
Honesty and Goal Achievement
00:30:55
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My I think my my most solid advice in this fourth quarter and in general is to sit down and be honest with yourself.
00:31:02
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Hmm.
00:31:03
Speaker
And to truly be honest, right?
00:31:06
Speaker
Stop saying you want to have a certain body and then you never do anything to do it.
00:31:10
Speaker
Stop telling yourself that you want to learn more about yoga, but you never go.
00:31:15
Speaker
Stop saying you want to be part of the community, but you tell everybody no when they invite you.
00:31:21
Speaker
And really look at...
00:31:23
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the choices that are being made and be honest with self.
00:31:28
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Because no matter what I say, like right now, my focuses are with career and with investments.
00:31:37
Speaker
And of course, I have my normal things like my family and self that are always at the forefront because if me and my family ain't right, none of this other stuff matters to me.
00:31:47
Speaker
And of course, I love people.
00:31:49
Speaker
But if the health and the connection of my family is off or in pain of any sort, then they get all of my attention immediately.
00:31:58
Speaker
I pour into that.
00:32:00
Speaker
But being honest with ourselves and whatever it is that we're doing, right, and really executing, finding a way that works.
00:32:10
Speaker
For me, I love to write everything down.
00:32:13
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Because there's something about writing it down.
00:32:15
Speaker
Write it down and follow through.
00:32:17
Speaker
Yes.
00:32:17
Speaker
It says mental therapy.
00:32:19
Speaker
And to be honest, I had stopped writing stuff physically down for a while until the top of 2020 when I did a mentorship program with your book, Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life.
00:32:32
Speaker
Yeah.
00:32:34
Speaker
and transformation exactly it was there was a lot of writing yeah and it was a lot of repetitiveness and to be honest you and that book put me and the people that i was leading back on a for me specifically back on a trail of writing things down yeah and that's super helpful so you know i'd say with people who are
00:32:59
Speaker
Who are looking for that, one, you know, there's a book that I just finished that's amazing that I told you about.
00:33:05
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It's by Gary Bishop.
00:33:06
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Yeah.
00:33:07
Speaker
Amazing title, Stop Doing That Shit.
00:33:09
Speaker
Yeah, stop doing that shit.
00:33:10
Speaker
And basically, stop sabotaging your life and get control.
00:33:16
Speaker
And so I recommend that very highly because, one, the writing of it is very funny.
00:33:23
Speaker
And I find, because I've read so many self-help and self-development books, after a while, it's like the professor or the Charlie Brown teacher who just ends up wah, wah, wah, and starts blending, right?
00:33:35
Speaker
And I'm like, oh my God, how many times can people tell me, like, just do it?
00:33:39
Speaker
Yeah, just do it.
00:33:40
Speaker
Nike.
00:33:41
Speaker
Yeah, so that book was great because it really broke down how one would sabotage in life.
Book Recommendation for Growth
00:33:49
Speaker
And there's three saboteurs based on the book's...
00:33:53
Speaker
premise and itself uh yourself um conclusion what are you to yourself when you're by yourself right that's deep
00:34:02
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Yeah, because I mean, with with us sitting here, I could be, you know, coolio smooleo.
00:34:08
Speaker
Right.
00:34:09
Speaker
But then everybody goes home and then who knows?
00:34:11
Speaker
Like, who am I in that moment?
00:34:13
Speaker
Right.
00:34:13
Speaker
Am I doubting that our interview and my second guessing what my schedule is tomorrow?
00:34:18
Speaker
Am I talking shit because I didn't make it to the gym?
00:34:21
Speaker
Like, who am I to myself when I'm by myself?
00:34:24
Speaker
And that's why I think having people, having someone, you know, a friend, a family member, a partner, on a consistent basis to talk to, not all the time, but you need different energy around you.
00:34:35
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Because I get in spaces where I'm like, yeah, let's go, baby.
00:34:38
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It's miracle season.
00:34:39
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Hey, get that book.
00:34:40
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Boom.
00:34:40
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100 Days of Wisdom.
00:34:41
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Change your mindset, change your energy, change your life.
00:34:43
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Then I get back home and I sit and I'm like...
00:34:47
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Yeah, how was that interview?
00:34:48
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Did I do good?
00:34:48
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I'm questioning.
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And I know I'm good, but I'm overanalyzing because I want to be a perfectionist.
00:34:54
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I want it to be a certain way.
00:34:55
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I want people to see me like this.
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I don't think this look right.
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And I'm like, bro, stop doing that shit.
00:34:59
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Right.
00:35:00
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And I ask myself, where is that coming from?
00:35:03
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Right.
00:35:04
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What are you trying to protect yourself from?
00:35:06
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Just be you like it's OK.
00:35:08
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And I think it comes from being on TV all the time.
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And, you know, cameras in your face and, you know, people watching you like subconsciously, you're aware of what people are not aware of.
00:35:20
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You know, it's like, no, no one sees.
00:35:21
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I need a haircut.
00:35:22
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It's like, oh, you just got one.
00:35:24
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Yes.
00:35:24
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But all of that falls in the category of self-conclusion.
00:35:28
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Yeah.
00:35:29
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Right.
00:35:29
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When you walked out of the house that day, you already concluded your hair wasn't right.
00:35:32
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So anything about that day was going to fall in line with your hair not being right.
00:35:37
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If you saw a BTS of the video, of the, of the interview or a picture or someone TMZ caught you, it wouldn't be like, yo, TMZ caught me.
00:35:45
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It'd be like, damn, look at my hair.
00:35:46
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Yeah.
00:35:48
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So it all correlates with how we conclude, right?
00:35:52
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So self-conclusion would be something about your hair.
00:35:55
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Do the one about social, about people.
00:35:57
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I think that one was... Yeah, that was the second one.
00:36:00
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So social conclusions.
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What have we concluded about others, right?
00:36:04
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Do we wake up every day and be like, wow, humans are amazing.
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You know, people are top of my list.
00:36:10
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Or are you the person that's being like, man, all these mofos are shady.
00:36:14
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Like, ah, or not getting into an intimate relationship because nobody can be trusted.
00:36:21
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Oh, that's me.
00:36:21
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You know?
00:36:22
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Running.
00:36:23
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Running.
00:36:23
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So, right.
00:36:24
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Well, stop running, okay, Forrest?
00:36:26
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Abortant attachment.
00:36:28
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What are you running from?
00:36:29
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You're trying to save yourself from vulnerability and intimacy and love.
00:36:33
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Yes.
00:36:34
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But, yeah.
00:36:34
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Because you have concluded that others cannot be trusted.
00:36:39
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Right.
00:36:39
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So, whenever you meet the other, whoever the other is, guess what?
00:36:43
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They are already in an uphill battle because you already told them without telling them.
00:36:47
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Yeah.
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You cannot be trusted.
00:36:49
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I can't trust you.
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I can't trust you.
00:36:50
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Yeah.
00:36:50
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But hey, let's go to dinner.
00:36:55
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Right, right.
00:36:55
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Right.
00:36:56
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And then the third one is life.
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Okay.
00:36:58
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Life conclusion, right?
00:37:00
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What is our conclusion on life, right?
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Is the world full of roses and we're just happy to be in the garden?
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Or is the world a catastrophe and full of, you know, dark politics?
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You know, all these different things.
00:37:16
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And granted, all of the conclusions are real in some way, shape, or form, but they don't, they're not real as a whole.
00:37:24
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Yeah.
00:37:24
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Right?
00:37:25
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Are people shady?
00:37:26
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Yeah.
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Some of them, absolutely.
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Can some people not be trusted?
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Of course.
00:37:30
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Yeah.
00:37:31
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But it's unfair for us to conclude.
00:37:33
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Yeah.
00:37:34
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and we're damaging yeah before we even meet them or normal you know we're trying to protect us i always do that i'm aware like e why are you doing that what are you afraid of i mean this person seems to like you this person is trying to give you why don't you want to receive you they take from you when you give why can't you take from them when they give like what are you running from i'm like oh trying to response
00:37:55
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Right.
00:37:55
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I'll share something with you that is something not so obvious that I realized over time.
00:38:01
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And this has been many, many years ago.
00:38:04
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So I went through a lot of sexual abuse as a child.
00:38:08
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Yeah.
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And my abuser had blue eyes.
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And when I became older in my young adult life, for me, it was, I will never date someone with blue eyes.
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And I wasn't correlating it with why.
00:38:23
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Makes sense.
00:38:24
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Right?
00:38:24
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But it's something even as simple as that.
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It doesn't have to be, now granted, the abuse was traumatizing.
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But I didn't associate abuse.
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I associated an eye color.
00:38:35
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Right?
00:38:35
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So now everybody who's, every man who's got blue eyes, guess what?
00:38:39
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You ain't even an option.
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You could be the most amazing person on the planet, but my internal trigger has already told me you're dangerous.
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Social conclusion.
00:38:51
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Right.
00:38:52
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So so that book was amazing.
00:38:54
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And I loved it because not only is he very comedic and kind of cracks open some of the seriousness in a much more lighter tone, but it it framed things in a way that all the other books that I've read over the last, you know, 30 years of my life.
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didn't say in a way so i would highly recommend that for anybody who's looking to have some energy and that shit now stop doing it no more self-sabotage people okay okay you know so um and you know again being honest honest you know it's like look like you know you know you know you know what you know honestly the best
00:39:30
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policy come on you know what you're doing you know what you're not doing and you know what you should be doing to get to where you're trying to get why don't people do what they know they need to do what is that about is that fear well it could be tied to a lot of different things right it's like i can always go back to my own association my own experience in life growing up no matter what i did how good i did it not good enough right so
00:39:53
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my what i i refer i refer to them as handicaps that we create for ourselves as we get older right because although that was what i was told as a child that's not real for me yeah but because it was so real growing up i carried that reality into my adulthood right so now and i've gotten over it and there's still moments there's still moments where i'm like
00:40:16
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Or to the point of dismissing small successes, which we did talk about as well.
00:40:21
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Yes.
00:40:22
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Celebrate your wins.
00:40:23
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Yes.
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Your small wins.
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Right.
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But a lot of the time, I didn't celebrate small wins because nothing was ever good enough anyway.
00:40:30
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So what's the point?
00:40:30
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That's how I was.
00:40:31
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And that's how I am sometimes.
00:40:33
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But that's not real, right?
00:40:34
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It's just an association to the old... Yeah.
00:40:38
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Yeah.
00:40:38
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information old data that we're holding in the hard drive because we're gonna hold you because i'm a big picture person even if i get to the or when i get to the big picture moment it's still gonna be ah once you do that enough you're gonna you're taking that same energy ah it's not enough
00:40:52
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And then he's like, bro, what are you chasing?
00:40:54
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Like, literally, like, you'd have done all this over here, and you can't even appreciate it.
00:40:59
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It's like having kids.
00:41:01
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I was listening to a Joe Osteen podcast, and he said, sometimes you have to slow down and enjoy the journey.
00:41:07
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So, say for instance, a person can be in a relationship with someone, and they love them, but they don't enjoy them.
00:41:13
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I can have books written.
00:41:14
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I can have seminars and speeches and courses, but I don't appreciate it because I'm like, oh, that's old stuff.
00:41:20
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It's like...
00:41:21
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Stop.
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Smell your roses.
00:41:23
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Yes.
00:41:24
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And just enjoy the other person.
00:41:26
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Enjoy this space.
00:41:27
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Hits in history.
00:41:28
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Enjoy the frequency.
00:41:29
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Enjoy the water.
00:41:30
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Because then you're able to enjoy everything that comes with that.
00:41:33
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Yeah.
00:41:34
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Because, you know, you'll meet someone and you have intention.
00:41:36
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Oh, I want this from the person.
00:41:37
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You don't even get to know.
00:41:39
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Yes.
00:41:39
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They could have been your life partner or best friend.
00:41:41
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Right.
00:41:42
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But you had a whole different angle and you miss what the situation should have been for.
00:41:47
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Yeah.
00:41:48
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And most of the core memories that are going to help us understand why are we doing that to ourselves are typically behind a closed door in our mind that we have not wanted to open for a very long time.
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And most and some of us never open.
00:42:03
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Yeah.
00:42:04
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And it's like the scary monster that's in there from the past.
00:42:08
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And the unfortunate part about healing is that you really have to go back and rewrite the script.
00:42:15
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Yeah, you got to rewrite that treatment.
00:42:18
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Yes, exactly.
00:42:19
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I found for me, it did not work for me to just stuff the memories and the traumas into a closet somewhere and be like, time heals all.
00:42:28
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We good.
00:42:29
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Yeah.
00:42:30
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We not good.
00:42:31
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Okay.
00:42:31
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The closet is still expanding with monsters and it's about to explode.
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And if I don't go in and just re even associate my thinking about the monsters that are in there, right.
00:42:44
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Open the door and be like,
00:42:46
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okay, I'm naming you Herbie and you are no longer, and really going in and rewriting some of the most horrific traumas that we associate to be traumas.
00:42:58
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Even in the book that I mentioned, Stop Doing That Shit, he associates a kid assuming a trauma was because his dad left him four aisles
00:43:09
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And Walmart.
00:43:10
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And then he, not traumatic, right?
00:43:13
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Dad just walked over to the pots and pans and left him four aisles down.
00:43:18
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And he's like, oh my God, I'm abandoned.
00:43:21
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And that child carried the potential of being abandoned all the way through his adult life and kept all of the love that he experienced at bay at arm's length because at some point you're going to abandon me.
00:43:33
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Yeah.
00:43:34
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So I'm going to keep you on the island over here because you're going to leave at some
Impact of Past Traumas
00:43:38
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point.
00:43:38
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So let me just keep you in the box and just wait for you to leave.
00:43:42
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And if you never leave, then it is what it is.
00:43:44
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But there's always this weird association.
00:43:48
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We're always reaffirming that emotion or that thing to keep us complacent, right?
00:43:52
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So I'll tell you about why this wasn't there as a child.
00:43:56
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And it's like, you're reaffirming like, yeah, that's right.
00:43:58
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And so I'm looking for that high off of that moment so I can be in that so I can't get out of that because it's too unfamiliar to just leave it alone.
00:44:05
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It's like you want to keep going back to the familiar because it's normal.
00:44:09
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It's the story you associate with to make you comfortable about the emotion.
00:44:13
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Right.
00:44:13
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It's like, stop that shit.
00:44:15
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Yeah, it's the reasoning of why do I feel this way?
00:44:17
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Yeah.
00:44:17
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Well, you know, my apple dropped, you know, on a Sunday afternoon and I can never have an apple again.
00:44:23
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Yeah.
00:44:24
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It's all the association and perspective.
00:44:26
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Yeah.
00:44:27
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So in regards to, you know, people coming into the final quarter of the year and really wanting to shift and change, I mean, clearly...
00:44:35
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There's, you know, so many resources of nature that I highly recommend people just getting out.
00:44:41
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Go hug a tree.
00:44:42
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Go hug a tree.
00:44:42
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There we go.
00:44:43
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Ground yourself.
00:44:44
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Ten minutes, baby.
00:44:45
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I know it sounds goofy.
00:44:46
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And trust me, I am not your normal tree person, but I love nature.
00:44:52
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And it's, you know, I look at things that are affordable or free.
00:44:57
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Right?
00:44:57
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Like, okay, great.
00:44:58
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Let me go down to the beach and I'm going to pack my lunch and I'm going to go down there.
00:45:01
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It's going to cost me maybe $3 in gas.
00:45:03
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Yeah.
00:45:04
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Right.
00:45:05
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There's so much that can be done, you know, you know, for people who are obviously, you know, it's a it's a tough economy right now.
00:45:14
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So it's not like it's like, OK, man, I just saw Eric and Rachel talking.
00:45:18
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I'm so jazzed up.
00:45:19
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Let me go buy these 15 books, sign up to the course.
00:45:22
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Get that.
00:45:22
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And now you're like 300 books in there.
00:45:26
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ebooks, you know?
00:45:28
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I mean, there it is.
00:45:28
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Yeah, you gotta find it.
00:45:29
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It's Google PDF.
00:45:30
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Yes.
00:45:31
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I found that other book the other day.
00:45:32
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Psycho Cybernetics.
00:45:33
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Psycho Cybernetics.
00:45:35
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So I have three questions and we can wrap.
00:45:38
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So three questions.
00:45:39
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So the first question is, what's your definition
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00:45:41
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of success?
00:45:41
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Hmm, that's interesting.
00:45:45
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That's a loaded question.
00:45:48
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I would say at this stage is, it's about success is feeling whole.
00:45:54
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Got it.
00:45:54
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I like that.
00:45:55
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And I used to say it's about feeling happy.
00:45:59
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But happiness is an emotion.
00:46:01
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Yeah.
00:46:02
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And emotions should be on a conveyor belt.
00:46:05
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They come and they go.
00:46:07
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We're not always going to be happy.
00:46:08
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We're not always going to be sad.
00:46:10
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We're not always going to be excited.
00:46:11
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Yeah.
00:46:12
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So success to me is feeling whole in whatever it is.
00:46:17
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And that just requires a very strategic balance within each thing.
00:46:22
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Yeah.
00:46:23
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I like this.
00:46:23
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You hear that people's success is being whole.
00:46:26
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Yes.
00:46:26
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I want to be wholesome.
00:46:28
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Yes.
00:46:28
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What's your definition of love?
00:46:34
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I mean, you know, it's, it is the fuel for life.
00:46:40
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You know, it is the, it is the power that is
00:46:44
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you know, in my philosophical, you know, it's like the element that will save the world, you know.
00:46:53
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It's, you know, it's endearing and it's deep and it's unconditional in most cases.
00:46:58
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And for me, because I love the possibilities in people, I don't have to know a person to love them, but I just love the possibilities for their life.
00:47:11
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It's really that, you know, it's really, yeah.
00:47:14
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What's your definition of miracle?
00:47:16
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Like, what is a miracle to you?
00:47:19
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Sitting at this table right now.
00:47:20
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Hey!
00:47:21
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Give me your amens.
00:47:23
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Priceless.
00:47:23
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That's a miracle.
00:47:25
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You know, I think it's, you know, the word itself, it says all it needs to say.
00:47:30
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It's like, you know, the miraculousness of, you know, the fact that you are the chosen one out of your family, right?
00:47:37
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The miraculous and the miracle of, you know, me surviving this random...
00:47:43
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upbringing to even be in a position in a mindset to even love enough and care enough to want to be in other people's lives that's a miracle in itself you know
00:47:53
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I mean, another miracle was having this amazing engineer we have today, Maddie.
00:47:59
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Maddie!
00:47:59
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Okay, because I hit her up like 20 minutes before.
00:48:04
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Like, hey, so do you think you'd be available?
00:48:08
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And, you know, by miracle chance, she said yes.
00:48:11
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Thank you, Maddie.
00:48:13
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So I feel like miracles also align with...
00:48:17
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preparation and execution yeah right it's like when you see the success of your book and the books that you do yeah it's not a miracle yeah it's it was put into motion work now granted it feels miraculous and it is miraculous but you put it in the place surreal
00:48:35
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Because I go back to psycho cybernetics, the self-image I created years before I had any book, I always wanted to write a book.
00:48:42
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I always wanted to have my own book.
00:48:45
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I'm like, I have two books that I can actually say written.
00:48:48
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Amazing.
00:48:49
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And sometimes I need to stop and just be thankful for that.
00:48:52
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Because sometimes I'm like, oh, yeah, you know, I did that.
00:48:54
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And, you know, it's like.
00:48:56
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Take it in because it's a miracle.
00:48:57
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Speaking of books, because I don't know the second one.
00:48:59
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Yeah, 100 Days of Wisdom.
00:49:01
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Okay, 100 Days of Wisdom.
00:49:02
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To live a more inspired life.
00:49:03
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It's a quote book.
00:49:04
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So every day you're going to have a quote.
00:49:06
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Okay.
00:49:07
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You're going to read it in the morning when you get up.
00:49:09
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Okay.
00:49:09
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Take your notes as needed.
00:49:10
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Then you're going to read it again at night.
00:49:12
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So is it a journaling book as well?
00:49:14
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Yeah, so you can journal with the quotes.
00:49:16
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Okay.
00:49:17
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And so every day is a new quote.
00:49:18
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For me, it's 100 days.
00:49:21
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Okay, why 100 when there's 365 in a year?
00:49:23
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This is great.
00:49:23
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I love this.
00:49:24
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Because I feel like my mom always would say, give everything 90 days.
00:49:29
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But relationship, job, new friendship, just give it 90 days to kind of access.
00:49:36
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Testing, testing phase.
00:49:37
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To see if, right?
00:49:38
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So I know like if I can get your attention for 90 days plus 10.
00:49:42
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Right.
00:49:43
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If you can give yourself attention in that space, I'm only asking one day, one day, read a quote, think about it, write it up and move on.
00:49:52
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Got it.
00:49:53
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If you can do that, you're going to build discipline, consistency, dedication, and you're going to know that you can accomplish something.
00:50:01
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Then I always say progress equals happiness.
00:50:04
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And so with the book, I also have a course attached to it that people can purchase and get to say, I'm doing the days with you where I'm reading the quote, breaking a quote down to you, for you, from my perspective to give you more insight.
00:50:18
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But I want you to add your perspective because this is your life and how you see it.
00:50:23
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I'm just helping you along the way.
00:50:24
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I'm the coach and the trainer and I'm holding your candle.
00:50:26
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And there's some days in the course...
00:50:29
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I'm not 100%.
00:50:29
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Yeah.
00:50:30
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I'm drained.
00:50:32
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I'm tired.
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I might have went out the night before, but I'm showing up every day.
00:50:36
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And that's a miracle because you got to get it done.
00:50:39
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So that's what it's about.
00:50:41
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Being consistent.
00:50:42
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You know, your go-to quote book.
00:50:43
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Coffee book you have on the table.
00:50:45
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Read it when you get up.
00:50:46
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Take some notes.
00:50:47
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I'm excited for this.
00:50:48
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Yeah.
00:50:48
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So.
00:50:48
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100 days.
00:50:49
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100 days of wisdom.
00:50:50
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Of wisdom.
00:50:51
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Let's go.
00:50:52
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Let's go.
00:50:53
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The next book might be 100 days of fitness.
00:50:54
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Who knows?
00:50:55
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I mean, you know.
00:50:56
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Yeah.
00:50:56
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You know.
00:50:56
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The world is ready.
00:50:58
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Yeah.
00:50:58
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Yeah, they're ready.
00:50:59
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Well, I am so grateful for this, and thank you for considering me.
00:51:03
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I appreciate your time and your energy.
00:51:05
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Is there anything you want to share with people?
00:51:07
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I mean, we've got Hits in History Studio.
00:51:09
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I know you have other recording studios here in Los Angeles.
00:51:12
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Yeah.
00:51:12
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I mean, they might be booked up.
00:51:13
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I'm not sure.
00:51:14
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Yeah, we at capacity, you know.
00:51:15
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Okay, okay.
00:51:18
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Yeah, the Hits and History Studio platform is this actual location that we're in now is more of a daily rental.
00:51:25
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So if anyone needs to come in and they want to book out an hour a week, two months, it's very flexible in regards to that.
00:51:31
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All the equipment is here.
00:51:32
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There's also a third party company that would bring any additional special equipment if certain mics or keyboards or things like that are needed.
00:51:40
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But that's what this space is for, and it's been amazing.
00:51:42
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We've been here for three years, and it's been super strong.
00:51:46
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I love it.
00:51:47
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The other location in Toluca Lake is a different business model, and it's considered a rest and record.
00:51:53
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So I have two buildings on that property.
00:51:55
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One is with four recording studios, and then the other building is two furnished apartments.
00:52:00
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And that services the studio traffic as well as some of the Airbnb traffic as well.
00:52:06
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So that's been really good.
00:52:07
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But that's more of a long-term...
00:52:10
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The people, you know, they bring their own equipment in.
00:52:13
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And, I mean, I have some amazing teams over there.
00:52:16
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All of them are on top of the charts right now.
00:52:18
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So I'm super stoked about it.
00:52:20
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And I really keep it very private.
00:52:22
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You know, there's no promotion.
00:52:24
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There's no posts.
00:52:25
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There's no listings.
00:52:26
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I'm very word of mouth with that space.
00:52:30
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You know, if you drove past it, you would have no clue what's going on, which is, you know, what I like and what I know that my –
00:52:37
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Tenants like.
00:52:39
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But, yeah, that's been going great.
00:52:40
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And outside of that, you know, I do the real estate stuff, which is fun.
00:52:43
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I do a lot of flips in New Jersey right now, which has been super fun.
00:52:48
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And we definitely do some stuff here in California as well.
00:52:51
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But, you know, it's so expensive out here.
00:52:53
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Yeah.
00:52:53
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Crazy.
00:52:53
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I could find a house in Jersey right now for $250.
00:52:55
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Mm-hmm.
00:52:57
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You know, California, you're probably looking at $800.
00:52:59
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Dang.
00:53:00
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And I didn't knock a single wall down, and I already paid it.
00:53:04
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Right.
00:53:04
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Wow.
00:53:04
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That's a big difference.
00:53:06
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So by the time you're done in Cali, you're, you know, seven figures easy before you can flip a property.
00:53:10
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Whereas, you know, you start diversifying the opportunities and looking into other smaller neighborhoods and things like that.
00:53:20
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And, yeah, so, I mean, that's pretty much outside of that.
00:53:22
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It's just...
00:53:24
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living life and yeah, having these type of conversations and really, you know, finding ways to integrate into the community and empower and,
00:53:32
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Just be whole.
00:53:34
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Be whole, people.
00:53:34
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Y'all hear that?
00:53:35
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Miracle season.
00:53:35
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Miracle season, baby.
00:53:37
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That was a wonderful, wonderful discussion with the one and only Rachel Noel Bigger Talks podcast.
00:53:44
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Bigger Talks, baby.
00:53:45
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We just had a talk that was bigger than life, bigger than us.
00:53:49
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It was the universe.
00:53:50
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It was everyone.
00:53:51
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Thank you once again.
00:53:52
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And this episode will be up soon.
00:53:55
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Okay.
00:53:55
Speaker
We're looking for... What episode number is this?
00:53:57
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I don't know.
00:53:58
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That's a good question.
00:53:59
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Maybe.
00:54:02
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45, 46?
00:54:03
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I don't know.
00:54:04
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I got to... I'm hoping it's 44, but who knows?
00:54:08
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What if it is 44?
00:54:08
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If it is, it's going to be even extra special.
00:54:12
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Wow.
00:54:14
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I got to go look that up.
00:54:16
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That's powerful.
00:54:17
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But yeah, so we'll know.
00:54:19
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Okay.
00:54:19
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But thank you once again.
00:54:21
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Again, everyone listening.
00:54:23
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We don't know.
00:54:23
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You don't have a social media, but you have a social media.
00:54:25
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You have companies.
00:54:26
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Yes, the Hits and History.
00:54:28
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Yes, and the Reading Ray Ray, which is the poetry.
00:54:30
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Yes.
00:54:30
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Personally, I stay off
00:54:32
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Stay off, yeah.
00:54:33
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You know, if you need to, if you, I'm like double O, James Bond, double O7.
00:54:38
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You know, if you know how to get to me.
00:54:39
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Always in proximity, but not really close.
00:54:42
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Right.
00:54:42
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You know, always there, but never there.
00:54:44
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But you see me, but maybe not.
00:54:46
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But that's good.
00:54:49
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Wonder Woman.
00:54:49
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Yes.
00:54:50
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But that's it.
00:54:50
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Thank you so much, Eric.
00:54:52
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We did it.
00:54:52
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Yes.
00:54:53
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Done.
00:54:53
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Peace.
00:54:54
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Wow.
00:54:54
Speaker
Maddie, how do we do?
00:54:57
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Did we pass the test?
00:54:58
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Great.
00:54:59
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Great.
00:55:00
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8 plus.