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Jimbo Paris Show #88 – Transformation for Success (Jeevan Matharu)
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“You have to be willing to put in the effort. Reflect on what you need to improve on what's going well, and continue to devote your time and resources.”
– Jeevan Matharu
Welcome to The Jimbo Paris Show #88 – Transformation for Success (Jeevan Matharu)
Jeevan Matharu is an Author and Transformational Coach, as well as a Financial Advisor and Retirement planner. He was in the Times Newspaper as one of the Top Advisers in 2021.
Jeevan likes to learn, constantly learning about interesting ideas and topics.
Outside of this research, he enjoys hiking, Judo, and walking his dog.
He is currently ranked as the 22nd top player in the UK for weight u73kg in Judo. He has acquired qualifications in life coaching, psychology, and counseling. He is also a member of Mensa (which means an IQ in the top 2%).
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Transcript
Introduction and Guest Overview
00:00:05
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I am Jumbo Paris and you are listening to the Jumbo
00:00:17
Speaker
All right, how's it going everyone? This is Jimbo Paris. Welcome to the Jimbo Paris show. Today we have Jeevan Mathroom and he's basically a management partner as well as a transformational coach. And again, very impressive guy, very successful guy. What kind of got my attention was that he was both a transformational coach that had a kind of a holistic approach to kind of teaching people on finances.
00:00:44
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And additionally, he was a judo guy. So let's see what he has to say.
Jeevan's Financial Coaching Philosophy
00:00:50
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Hi Jimbo. Thanks for having me on. It's a pleasure to meet you. Pleasure to meet you. You too. So can you kind of give me a gist of who you are, what you're about, and what your message is? Yes.
00:01:05
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To sort of touch on what you just mentioned a moment ago really Jimbo, I've got my sort of finger in a lot of pies and I think as a man I think it's really important to try and have a lot going on in your life.
00:01:18
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So from a business perspective I work as a financial advisor so that's something predominantly for people looking to retire and helping those out with their finances. So that's more my sort of nine-to-five as it were, not that I work as a nine-to-five but it's probably the easiest way to explain it. I also work as a transformational coach so that's helping people who want to help sort their own life out so people who maybe lack
00:01:42
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Goal focus may be people who want to develop their own skill set, who want to get rid of limiting beliefs and actually develop as a person.
Authorship and Self-Improvement
00:01:51
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In line with that, I actually wrote a book as well. So it's a book called Become a Person of Value that breaks down all of the aspects that helps an individual to become their best self, whether it's time management, setting goals, mastering your own psychology.
00:02:07
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um you know to self-improvement on a on a general basis motivation so all of that encompasses into one book and it really works in parallel with the coaching side just as an aside from that actually is i'm writing a second book as well that should be out later on in the year and we'll probably come on to talk about that at some point
00:02:26
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Outside of work, I enjoy hiking, walking the dog.
Jeevan's Judo Journey
00:02:30
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And as you said, judo. So something I took up at the age of 30. I did do it as a kid for a few years as well. But I got to that age of 30. And obviously, with 30 being a pretty big age, I don't know how old you are, Jimbo, but 30 is a pretty big age. And you start to see that life is continuing to move on. And you sit down and think, well, actually, we'll come on to how important questions are.
00:02:54
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what do I really want for my life? Do you know what sort of hobbies did I enjoy as a kid and what do I want to pursue? So for me judo is a great way to to have some sort of physical combat but also make good friends and keep fit. So I started at age 30, I'm now 32 and I've managed to get myself into a good position. I'm actually in the rankings
00:03:14
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at the moment, which is good, and obviously want to continue to progress up the rankings. I've got my own goals, and I sort of train three, four, five times a week. So as with anything, to be the best, the 10,000 hour rule
Developing a Diverse Skill Set
00:03:26
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comes to mind. You have to be willing to, in the effort, reflect on what you need to improve on, what's going well, and continue to devote your time and resources to that endeavor. So yeah, I hope that's a good briefing as to who I am. Obviously, if you want to delve deeper, that's what we're here for.
00:03:45
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yeah you know definitely you know when i first heard you you went into judo at 30 you know that takes a different frame of mind because at that age you know don't get me wrong it's still young but
00:03:57
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you know, getting into a combat sport at that age, it must be tougher, you know, the average person, but it seems like you have a certain type of mindset. And from what I could tell additionally, you know, you're a very skilled person as well, you know, financial advisor, retirement planner. So you have a wide array of different skills. Where did this mindset come in? This kind of headspace that built this amazing,
00:04:23
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foundation of skills that you have now? Well I think sometimes in life it's it's stuff that you don't have that you need to develop so you know a lot of times people let's say they're not very social they actually can become very social later on because they think well actually what do I need to work on I need to work on becoming more social and they proactively go about their life in a way to become more social go to more events you know go speak to people you know cold approach females if that's their thing
Overcoming Educational Challenges
00:04:51
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And it helps you to develop in that basis. So for me, I was actually kicked out of school as a kid. I was very smart. I'm actually a member of Mentor, if you're familiar with what Mentor is. Yeah, Mentor Selector. Yeah, so Mentor is top 2% of IQ. You take an IQ test, and if you're in the top 2% of IQ, you know, you're guessing. You're generally between a 132 and a 145 to get into Mentor as an IQ range.
00:05:16
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So I had the intelligence there, but I didn't have the devotion and the focus really to be my best self. So at school, you know, I'll split today, stars and stuff. And, you know, I still got great, but I didn't have the work ethic and the determination and the focus to actually achieve what I needed to achieve. As I got older, obviously you start to think, well, where could I be and where am I? Where's that discrepancy?
00:05:40
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Where's that come from? And how can I close that gap? And that's where, you know, as you said, I wrote a book and now sort of worked myself both on the translational coaching and the wealth management side, because you've got to look at where you want to be and backpedaling and look at what you need to do now. You know, as a man, for me, you need to be able to fight, you need to have your own business.
00:06:01
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You need to have a good friendship circle. You need to be in good physical shape, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. And to get those attributes, you need to be doing certain things. So with the Judo side, yeah, it's difficult to start that at 30, but I did do it, as I said, as a kid from, I don't know, seven to 10 or seven to 11. So there is some sort of extrapolation of that at an older age. It's maybe tapping back into what you learned at that age. I did karate as well, but I don't...
00:06:26
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think karate is as useful as judo. There's not enough combat. For people listening, there's combat sports and there's martial arts. Combat sports are ones where you British fight every time you go, like jiu-jitsu or judo or boxing, then more combat-based sports. Whereas martial arts, you get your kung fu, your karate, etc. It's more technical-based. You'll see a lot of it's like punching fair and stuff. For me, that didn't really help as much as
00:06:52
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the combat side. The problem with people is that they tend to set negative base goals to you know, they will say, well, I don't want this. I don't want that. I don't want this. I don't want to be fat. I don't want to be single, blah, blah, blah. Why not look at what you do want instead? I want a relationship. I want to be able to fight. I want to be in good shape. Although they mean the same thing, they don't really mean the same thing to your subconscious mind. So it's all about the direction you're heading and where you're charting your course, essentially. Like for you, you know, if you've got your own podcast,
00:07:22
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You will have thought to yourself in your head, oh, I want to start a podcast. This is the sort of thing that I want to, the message I want to put across. These are the sort of demographic of people that I want to serve. These are the sort of guests that I want to have on board. And these are the sorts of topics that we want to discuss. You know, you have to have something built in the mind before it appears in reality. You know, the house that you're sitting in now, it was built by an architect and designed by an architect first.
00:07:48
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in the mind, it was built and here you are. So as with anything, you know, business, becoming a boxer or footballer, you have to have that initial impetus in the mind first. And for those people who think, well, I actually haven't got anything, you have to ask yourself questions. You know, who do I want to be? What sort of legacy do I want to leave? What skill set do I have? What personality type I am? What do I enjoy doing my time?
00:08:13
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Because if you can marry all of that up, that's where you're going to be most productive. Okay. Okay. So when it came to your life and sort of transforming, what was the first step in transforming your life and where did you begin? And so, as I said, my life wasn't going that badly. You know, I went to university, you know, got to one.
00:08:33
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and get a good paid job and professional workers and advisor. As I said, it's not a case of doing well or doing badly, it's discrepancy as to what your potential is versus where you are. Usain Bolt, let's say he ran 100 meters in 11 seconds, that's pretty quick, but it's not as close to what his optimal 9.7 or whatever it is, 9.6 something. So it's trying to find out how to improve or reduce that discrepancy. So I was looking at a job and
00:09:02
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are starting to understand how important time management is. So I was driving five, six hours a day in the car to go to
Mindset Transformation for Success
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like meetings and stuff. Instead of listening to the same playlist over and over again, the same songs, I know all the words do.
00:09:14
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or songs that I've just listened to a lot. I thought, well, why can't I use this six hours to learn something, develop, I don't know, time management skills, sales skills, mentality skills, et cetera, et cetera. And it really developed from there, you know, listening to people like Jim Rowan and Brian Tracy, you know, Nightingale, et cetera, et cetera. And that sort of helped me to trigger my own mind that subsequently has led me here today. Okay, okay.
00:09:41
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When we talk about transformation, what is transformation? Many of the reasons people are where they are is because of their limiting beliefs, which people are thieves and they're lucky and all this sort of stuff. It's trying to reprogram that fundamental mindset before anything can change.
00:10:01
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So if you believe, oh, I'm never going to be rich. No one, no one loves me. I'm unattractive. I'm unlucky, blah, blah, blah. What results do you think are going to happen off the back of that? If you feel like I never succeed at anything, I do. And that's a deep subconscious thing. It's not something that you maybe say to yourself in the mirror. Oh, I never achieve it. It's something that you might mutter to yourself. Does that make sense? Oh, yeah, she doesn't like me because of, you know, I've got a bent nose or my ears are big or my chin's funny or whatever it's going to be.
00:10:30
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That's your own view of yourself. It's insecurity. So the first thing that we need to transform is our mind because everything comes from that grey matter. You know, what's the difference between a professional athlete and someone who's not professional, assuming they've got a very similar ability? It's just a mindset. I mean, Cristiano Ronaldo is a prime example.
00:10:49
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look at the dedication that he's given and he's not that much technically better than some of the other footballers around he's just not but what he has got is discipline to eat the right foods motivation to be the best you know he calls himself the greatest so I'm actually I prefer Messi than Ronaldo but Ronaldo is a better example for his purpose he says look this is the goal I want I want to be the best so if you want to be the best how does the best behave so a daily routine or a daily habit is going to bring results over the long term
00:11:18
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One of the things that people get wrong is they get overwhelmed by a large task. So he's asked to say, look, I'm going to write a book this year. That sounds like a pretty big task, doesn't it? If you think of it on the face of it. A book in a year, it just seems very overwhelming. What if we broke that down into a daily goal or a daily segment? With a pizza, you don't eat the whole pizza at once. You don't roll it up and stuff it in your mouth. And some people might do. But yeah, they're probably not going to be on the healthier side, let's
Goal Setting and Strategic Planning
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say.
00:11:45
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So if we broke down that major goal into a goal that said, if we just write one page a day, which not that difficult by the end of the year, you've got 356 pages, 365 pages, 365 pages, that's enough to rub up. And let's, let's for argument sake, say there's not 365 pages as 300 pages. You've then got a few months to do all the editing, the printing, do the cover.
00:12:12
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proofread it, give it to one of your friends or family to read and by that year ends the call is done.
00:12:17
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Same with the you know the duo thing you said I've got goals of where I want to be or with the books and the coaching stuff you have to reverse engineer it you know to be in that top five or six in the country you need to be training four five six times a week you need to be conditioning stuff you need to work on the the strategy side so it's a chess game like boxing you know these sports they're not a you know a street fight they are fighting within a parameter of rules that require strategy to win
00:12:47
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You also do a lot of counseling as well, right? So this is a very good perspective that you have, but how do you teach people?
Coaching vs Counseling
00:12:55
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So the word counseling really forms part of that coaching side. So just to sort of explain the difference between sort of counseling and a coaching based approach.
00:13:05
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So the council is typically for someone who's had past trauma. So, you know, abused or they've been subject to substance abuse in the past. So it's trying to understand why that happened and what happened in the past that caused you to take those actions and look at why you're here today. Coaching, on the other hand, is to say, well, where are you now? Where do you want to be and how do we deliver and get you there? So as far as counselling goes, counselling is, you know, we do need to understand why you are, where you are.
00:13:30
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But what's more important than that is how we proceed forward. Because yeah, you know, we can look at the past, but the past isn't going to change now with it. The future is what we can
Holistic Financial Advisory Approach
00:13:39
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change. And that's really where all of that fits us together. It's an interesting question. Okay. And when you say you have, you know, a holistic approach to things like financial planning, how does that all begin? And then, you know, this is just for me, this is a bit of a basic question. What is financial planning?
00:13:57
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So finance in general is a very broad area, isn't it? You've got accountants, you've got legal finance guys, you've got tax accountants, you've got financial advisors, you've got stock brokers, the list goes on. So I'm in the financial advisory space, specifically in retirement planning. So it's people who are 55, 60, 65 years of age who want to use their pensions in the best way possible to provide them with income long term. That's it in a nutshell, really.
00:14:25
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So we look at how we should be invested, what's your risk category, what other income and expenses you've got coming in. Do you want to leave assets to your kids? Are you single, married, divorced, good health, poor health? And we sort of build a strategy off the back of that. So that's how the sort of finance side works. Does that answer your question? Just go back to your previous question, because I think there is something to add there as well.
00:14:48
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in terms of what your question was. How do I help people, whether it's with the wealth management side or the coaching side, it's about asking the right questions. So if you go to a car salesman, and he says, oh, this is the car you should take, you should take this, I don't know, BMW X5, this is the car you should have, how do you know what car they want? It's like, you know, the setup film, Wolf of Wall Street, you know, when he says sell me this pen,
00:15:13
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The whole reason he said to sell me this pen is he doesn't want you to say, oh, it's a blue pen, it's great, it's fantastic. You need to build a rapport and you need to understand what the other person's after. So with a car, as we said, if you want something that's great fuel economy, that's small around town, that is two door, that has got a power steering, cheap tires, an X5 is probably not going to be right for you. On the other hand, if you've got two big dogs, you drive off road and your budget is X,
00:15:41
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you want a German car, then the next side might be right for you. So what we need to establish is what does the other person want and can we deliver that? So with the coaching side, it's well, what do you want? Okay, X, Y and Z. Well, what are you doing at the moment that's going to get you there?
00:15:56
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Well, this is actually pushing me further in this direction when I want to go this direction. What is that down to a mental block? You've got the right habits, et cetera, et cetera. This is to help people navigate through. And actually, people have got their own answers inside. What I want to do, and that's to help people to improve their lives, whether that's the wealth management side and retire and enjoy themselves.
00:16:15
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whether it's the coaching side to actually fulfill their potential because I know I did this with myself you know I wasn't fulfilling my potential massively I always got the same feedback you know you you're really smart but you're not quite fulfilling the potential and that's why I've tried to make it a focus because look there's no point in chasing stuff Jim Rohn said that frustration is trying to find an above average job with above average pay without being an above average person
00:16:41
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That's what everyone's looking for. They want a 100 grand job, but they don't want to be a 100 grand person. They don't want to have the skill set. So this is what I started to realise is actually to get the ideal wife and family and car and house, you need to work on the value that you bring.
00:16:56
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It's what the first book's about, you know, becoming that person of value because you attract based on your value rather than to chase for the income. All right, well, yeah, that's true as well. And, you know, additionally, you know, I'm just gonna run to the rest because you've done so much here. Your IQ is, you said you love being in the top percent, so your IQ's in the top 2%, you know, that must have
00:17:18
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Did that do anything to you mentally? Did that give you a bit more confidence? Does it give people confidence? Do you even care? Well, there's two things. One is that there's not a direct correlation between IQ and success. You know, many of the most successful people aren't smart. They're just very good at what they do. IQ is your processing power, generally, and your ability to understand and comprehend information.
00:17:41
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So if you, you know, I don't know what laptop you've got there, but you get your i3, i4, i5, i7 processor, obviously the higher IQ, the faster the processing can be, fine. But it doesn't reflect that. As I said at school, you know, I was doing exams years before I was meant to, but I couldn't apply myself. You know, I had the ability, but there's no, you know, there's no, there's no application. If you've got a Bugatti Veyron, but there's no tires on the car,
00:18:02
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you can't put the power down and actually move forward. So you're better off having a Honda Accord with tyres that can actually move at a steady pace. The social and hierarchical demands or parts of the game that don't factor in with IQ. Socially, how well do you get on with people? What's your network like? Are you likeable? Looks matter as well. There was a psychological study done on
00:18:24
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the sentence is given to people based on their looks and the more attractive people both male and female got lesser sentences so everything matters so you know that's why as i said with the book you know physicality is actually the first chapter because without you know there's no point of a great mentality if you are not in a good place fitness wise because people do just book books by their cover naturally and if you know you've heard about the mind body connection
00:18:48
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Unless your body's in a good place, you know, your mind's not gonna be in a good place. So that's, you know, as I said, the first book's just like a go-to manual for how to bring everything together. The second book, and I'm quite excited about this one, that should be out by the end of the year, is about questions you should ask yourself.
Upcoming Book and Personal Growth
00:19:03
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So a question a day. So a first day might be, well, where do you want to be in five years' time? You write down where you want to be in five years' time. Then there's some additional points. You know, I put some input into have you thought about this? Have you thought about this? And then there's a second page as well to write down a more in detailed answer.
00:19:18
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and then day two will be a different question, day three, day four, et cetera. You know, one of the questions might be, what personality type are you? And we'll list them out and, you know, what jobs are good, what jobs are bad for you. Because by the end of the year, you should have a much better understanding of your own self. And it might give you even one gem to change the trajectory of your life, you know? So, and the good thing is, is I'm not telling you, I'm guiding to an extent that you're going to write down your own thing. And then you can review that and you can look at, you know, 12 months later, you go back, oh, where did I want to be in Farbeez? Oh yeah, you know, part way there.
00:19:48
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or things have changed. I'm going to suggest doing it in pencil anyway when the book comes out so that people can maybe not reuse it, but maybe adjust stuff and say, well, actually, that's changed and then use it as a guide. Because if you haven't got a sat nav on or a destination, you end up moving around, taking any job that comes up just because it's available and you're available.
00:20:10
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Mistakes are a good thing. You should seek out failure. If you're not failing, you're not trying hard enough because I could not fail. I could just walk to the shopping bag. I'm like, yeah, success, success, success. But I'm not developing anything. If I go to my Everest and let's say I didn't summit, at least I'm challenging myself for something and I've developed, learned something. And I might go again and succeed next time. You know, most people watch.
00:20:32
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Not everyone who goes to every first time would sum it because it depends on the weather, it depends on the team, it depends on you, obviously, as a person. You've got to put yourself outside your comfort zone physically, mentally, emotionally, whatever it's going to be. It's the only way to develop. A lot of people want to be courageous. Everyone wants to be courageous, disciplined, focused, funny, etc.
00:20:55
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But let's just put it this way. To be courageous, you have to put yourself in fearful situations. Courage does not mean that you don't get scared by anything. Courage means that you're scared, but you continue to do it anyway. To be fearless is to not have fear. Courage is actually having fear and moving forward. So to be courageous by design, you have to put yourself in fearful situations.
00:21:17
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to develop a courage otherwise you're not courageous. So people want the courage but they don't want to put themselves into shitty situations. Talking about the judo thing, I entered the competition for the ranking events when I was well before when I should be but I had the courage like why am I scared of just normal you know Tom, Nick or Harry just because they have got this you know black belt and their
00:21:37
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Disname doesn't mean nothing to me. You know, I'm scared. Well those come back to that you're not scared But you've you've got some some inherent fear there that you have to say look I've got to stand up and that's where the coverage comes from So do you have to do that? You have to be fearful when some in some respects, you know If you are fearful that you are gonna quit your job and start something Sometimes that means that you're doing the right thing because as a stoic said the obstacle is the way sometimes it serves an obstacle in the way That means that is the way to go, right?
00:22:06
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It's not a case of moving from the obstacle and meandering around. Go the way of the obstacle, develop the skill set to overcome that obstacle and then obviously beyond that you'll develop many skill sets over the years and become the person that you evidently want to become anyway. Well you have given a load of gems in this episode. Thank you. Thank you very much for having me on us.
00:22:32
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I think that you've asked some really good questions and the conversations flow well. As you said, sometimes it's just a case of brain dumping. I say something and I'm like, this is relevant as well because I want to try and give as much information to obviously yourself and your listeners as possible.
00:22:48
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and I think the better the more you can give the better even if I help one person two people
Engagement and Resources
00:22:54
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three people from this podcast they can maybe help one two three people and and that's how you you know you make a major change all right well are there any that was a great statement there but are there any final kind of words you would like to say to the audience so if anyone wants to sort of reach out and I'll have some
00:23:09
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some coaching or read any of the books. I'm sure you'll provide that as well, Jimbo, but Vanquish Transformational Coaching is the coaching side and we can have just initial free chat, there's no issues there. The books-wise Become a Person of Value is the book that's out on sale at the moment on Amazon and the second book is yet to be named but it will be a question a day and it will be interactive so you can maybe do some of your own coaching if that makes sense with some of those questions. So yeah, that's what I would say. Obviously get in touch.
00:23:39
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And we can help to improve your life moving forward. All right. Thanks, Jevon. All right. So this is the Jimbo Parish show. We're just going to kind of end it off here. First of all, six-figure university. These are a group of women here teaching you how to make six figures.
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00:24:30
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00:25:03
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