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Inner Path, Outer Impact: A Deep Dive with Matt Gottesman
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In this illuminating conversation, Scott Schwenk sits down with branding genius, entrepreneur, podcaster, and creative force Matt Gottesman for a powerful dialogue on what it means to grow from within. Together, they explore the distinction between alignment and hustle, why nervous system regulation is the new success metric, and how to live a life that reflects soul—not ego. With stories of personal unraveling and radical rebuilding, Matt shares his own journey of reclaiming purpose, creativity, and the freedom of showing up fully as yourself.
Matt Gottesman is a 3x founder, podcaster and writer... and has successfully intertwined his life’s work with his passions, purpose and interests.
While The Niche is You podcast consistently ranks among the world’s top downloads, featuring conversations that seamlessly weave together business strategy, creativity, spirituality, and personal growth, his writing on Substack continues to command some of the platform’s highest subscription rates... currently ranked #7 in Philosophy worldwide out of 50M.
Nah, Bigger Media, his publishing and production company, has emerged as a powerhouse platform (1B+ impressions, 500M+ video views & 300K+ social media followers) for emerging voices who share his vision of purpose-driven entrepreneurship.
“We’re not just building brands and businesses; he says, we’re building worlds... not fitting into old spaces but helping redefine new ones.”
With an extensive background, an MBA in International Business and over 20+ years in tech media, he’s worked and partnered with some of the most iconic brands such as Louis Vuitton Moet Hennessy.
Links:
Writing: mattgottesman.substack.com
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-niche-is-you/id1645205346
Website: mattgottesman.com
Instagram: @mattgottesman
Apparel: The Niche Is You
Twitter: @matt_gottesman
Linkedin: /in/mattgottesman
Scott Schwenk - Master Coach, Spiritual Teacher, Culture Architect
Scott’s teachings, courses and private mentoring guide leaders, seekers and creatives to explore their deepest selves in service of thriving on all levels of being, both individually and relationally.
You can receive a free guided meditation and explore Scott’s courses, workshops, retreats, training and master coaching at https://scottschwenk.com and can find him on Instagram @thescottschwenk.
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Transcript
Introduction to 'The Choice to Grow' Podcast
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Welcome to The Choice to Grow. I'm Scott Schwenk. Through these dialogues, we'll explore fresh perspectives and discover practical tools for navigating a thriving life that adds value wherever we are.
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I'll introduce you to innovators and creators from across our world who embody what it means to cultivate growing as a way of life. Let's prepare together.
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Take a deep breath in.
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Hold the breath briefly as you soften your shoulders and soften the soles of your feet and palms of your hands. Then exhale like you're releasing tension and setting down a heavy burden from every cell.
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Ah. Now let's dive in.
Meet Matt Gotsman
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Welcome back everybody to The Choice to Grow. I'm so enjoying this community that's growing here and knowing that you're all tuning in. I'm enjoying rewatching and re-listening to the episodes myself and I'm certain I'll re-listen to this episode several times.
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My next guest is a three times founder, writer and host of the Niche's You podcast. So three times founder and he didn't do the podcast three times. He's founded businesses three times.
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And his podcast ranks in the top 0.5% worldwide. That's an accomplishment. Weaves together business, creativity, spirituality, and personal growth. His daily writings, which is how I found him, ah are prolific.
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Sometimes they're an economy of words. Sometimes they're a few paragraphs. The main place to find his writings are on Substack. I discovered them on Instagram. And his Substack is currently a top 10 philosophy publication globally.
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So this has made him a trusted voice for thousands seeking clarity, purpose and impact. It's a great daily touchstone. So without further ado, please welcome Matt Gotsman. um Thank you so much for having me, Scott. I truly appreciate And to your community too.
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Absolutely. Absolutely.
The Practice of Growth and Spiritual Journey
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So Matt, when you hear the title of the show, The Choice to Grow, what does that in this moment evoke for you? I mean, that's a daily practice.
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we're never We're never not growing. We're never we're never not being asked to ah lean in very much look look at ah Where is this all going for me? you know What is it that i'm I'm here to do and how do I continue to? And and organically, because I think what happens is we we put a lot of we can put a lot of pressure on ourselves for, um you know am I doing enough?
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Should I be doing more? um you know What am I here to do? What's the purpose of it all? you know All these things. and And we get in our head. And I think the choice to grow is your choice to participate.
00:02:49
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you know, to show up. And so if I show up and I lean in, then God takes it from there. And so it's a very, it's a very interesting balance because it's taken the driven side of, you know, of, I think humans were very like, let's make something happen, but let's be flexible to receive the information we don't know.
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um And that's very surrendering. It's very humbling at the same time, you know Now you used the G word, God. Yes. Yes. Growing up, did you have a relationship with with like a living sense of something or was it more like enforced or there was nothing and you found it on your own?
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Yeah. You know, it was never enforced in my home. um I'm very blessed about that. um My parents believed in this idea that your relationship with God is a very personal one for just you and God.
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And you can't force anybody to um have that relationship because that is specifically between you and God. and so of like, if you try to enforce and force, are you doing God's job? Are you trying to get in the way and be like, here's how it's going to be. And, you know, and, but I, but I get it. I think, um you know, it's, it's a, it's an interesting conversation for anybody or an interesting topic because,
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man comes in, humans come in and kind of try to make sense of something that's very much a very spiritual, um omnipresent thing. And that's not always easy to digest and and and understand. And so in the home I grew up in, um i we were a very spiritual family. My father was very entrepreneurial um and he leaned very heavily on my mother, who was very spiritual.
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My mother was very spiritual who leaned very heavily on my father for just, you know, groundedness and direction. And they, they had a very, they were very good team dynamic as they were because my father passed in 2019.
Professional Challenges and Surrender
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um I, you know, i I, I didn't have this deeply connected relationship that I do now with God until about 2012, 2013, 2014, it started. It was kind of like my return back. And there was it was a funny thing that a group of us men, we were all talking about like,
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we were asked in this group, this men's group, we were doing like a breath work. And then the question came up, when do you think you, disconnected from God. And every person, every man in the room all said like a certain something that happened in our youth because, you know, we're connected to do our soul. We're good. We're feeling good. You know, we were, we're young. We don't know what we don't know. And then of course the world is very good at disconnecting us.
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You know, it's like, it's whether intentionally unintentionally, you know, that's, there's no, there's no blame. There's just only path. Right. And so, um, but then the next question was, when did you return?
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And it was very interesting. and we had a room full of men of every kind of religion or no religion or you know no religion, all the things. But it was very interesting because every man could agree when nothing else worked.
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And you get to this place where you feel like I'm trying so hard. And everybody's glass ceiling is different. Everybody's wall is different.
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But you hit a wall and you go, there's got to be something greater than me. There's got to be something greater in general that I need to surrender to. um And I had hit a series of really tough things that happened.
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What was so interesting about it, both professionally and personally, was they were so unexplainable that It's like you're doing a good job, quote unquote, like in the in the work, you're doing a good job in marriage, you're doing a good job in all the things.
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Like for the most part, I mean, none of us are perfect. None of us are perfect. But you're present, you're doing a, you're present and you're doing a good job. And then suddenly like that, it's gone all of it.
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And some people might blame god or might blame, you know, certain certain circumstances. I instead was curious and I'm like, and I'll tell you why, because on one hand i was, I was having a difficult time ah professionally with some of the people I was around.
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And what was your profession at the time? Well, I've always been a ah digital strategy consultant. Basically, I would go into companies and, you know, they were trying to understand the Internet. So like everything you see on the Internet with all these businesses, like I had to make that happen for them.
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Right. And like everything from the audience to the software, the hardware, the front end design, like their world, they're using the Internet for their brand, for their company. um And it was great. You know, I had a lot of really great clients as a consultant and I would help execute the initiative to not just tell them what to do. Like I had to bring in the resources and, you know, all the all the people that make the Internet alive. Right.
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um And so I don't know what I thought was a really great job, but I i had a moment where. professionally in a particular brand and some people that I was around didn't feel good, didn't feel right at my soul level.
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And I remember having a surrendering moment to God where I was like, because I read in this book, I forget which book, but everybody knows that it's like, you're only the average of the five people who are around. And I'm like, oh my God, I stood up on this plane and I was like, I don't know if I like the people I'm around professionally. This is not good. was like, you know what, God, like,
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help. God help me. Next day, gone. ah Like the the first the first, it was a wave of things. It was um the first, my contract was just about up and that was released from the contract.
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And then like it set off a whole other set of um different other businesses that I was tied to because I brought them all together, you know, to work. So was all these things happened and that's shock to a system. And I think what happens a lot of times is we can get into any number of like,
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wavy emotions and feelings like and blame and victim and all that stuff. And I didn't, but I was like, I don't know what's going on. This isn't good. This really isn't good. and And, um, and it really rocked me. And so, you know, I yielded, you know, like, here, I asked God for help and all of a sudden, like something is removed. And we, if we're not careful, we can think that we're being punished when we're being protected.
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And I was being protected and I did ask for that because I like i felt like
Perspectives on Life's Challenges
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i felt like God was like, ah can we do it my way now? Because I have so much more for you. I have so much better for you than this. I'm so glad you asked.
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Thank you. By the way, like we got to go. so like we're going to just like leave these people behind and we're just going to go. And you don't think about it in the moment because emotions kick in and you're just... fight, flight, freeze.
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Yeah, yeah. All the things. The nervous system kicks in. What am I going to do? What's this? you know and At the time of my husband, going live under a bridge? Right. you know All these things come up. All these emotions come up.
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And so do we ever, though, stop to take a second to be like, am I being moved? Am I being protected? Am I being up-leveled? Am I being saved? Like, is something bigger happening? Yeah, something bigger is happening. It's always something bigger is happening. And yeah that's kind of like why i always say, like, not bigger, God, because it's like this idea of, again, like, we see this or we have this idea of this. Even if it's really, really big, we can, you know,
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Um, but it's still bigger than us. It's the vastness of God is so limitless and so beyond sometimes our understanding, which is beautiful because that's how you keep surrendering and and like humbling yourself. cause you're like, oh, wow, there's always can be more that I don't know, you know? Um, and but do we have a coherent enough operating system or do we need to update it to be able to run more of those coherency programs from source?
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There you go. That's very true. Yeah. And so it's a very participatory life. You have to be very active with it and very surrendering and humbling. So it's like you you've got to be like the warrior and the poet. You've got to be like the let's make it happen and let's be um humble enough to to ah to receive um what we may not know and understand yet, you know, and versus the arrogance, I think sometimes of of humans is that like, I'm going to just make this because I've been called to it. So it's just this. And it's like, yeah, but what about all the things you don't know that go along with this?
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So we have to be remain open and humble in that process and that pursuit, you know? that's Let's talk about practices though. yeah like It's one thing to have a desire. It could be inclusive of petitionary prayer as opposed to like affirmative prayer. Petitionary prayer is,
Ego vs. Needs: Seeking Clarity and Wisdom
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I'm asking for something.
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Please do this or please help me or please take this away. And then waiting for something to happen. But like is my current operating system, mind, framework, perspective-taking capacity,
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capable of noticing the guidance? Or do I need to be doing some practices to cultivate the subtlety of my ability to sense how I'm being moved?
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ah and What's the difference between my ego, or or a highfalutin form of ego pretending to be, you know, my idea of God, a projection of God, like to actually have that discernment in place to know what's what and who's who.
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ego is asking for what you want. Um, and versus, um surrender is asking for what you need. Right.
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And I think that's a very big difference. Um, ego is saying like, like a prayer of ego is I want, I want, of course, like God's like, of course I know what you want. I put the desire in your heart. Of course I know, by the way, would you like it to be better than that? The the way you're envisioning it? It's like, right.
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Maybe. Tiny bit of just of tapping on what you just said, which is, There are plenty people, ah you know as a person who works with people for the last 30 years, I see plenty of people, I've been one of those people who my ego has wanted things that I didn't realize were actually going to keep me in suffering or keep me in a familiar zone. like There's a pattern that one of my mentors years ago coined the term magnetizing disapproval that people that it's a prolific pattern that people have of, we say we want love, we say we want more money, we say we want more health and well being.
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But what is our constitution actually attracting? Yeah. Oh, yeah. What's our behavior? you know Yeah, and the and the behavior we don't see because it's like air to a bird and water to a fish until we can actually start to recognize it
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Well, and, you know, a lot of times too, when I pray now, removing the ego from it and putting in, and putting the, what's the need, meaning like, I'll pray like, you know, please give me the clarity to see what you want me to see.
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um you know, uh, or like I'll start off in my mornings when I journal and, and pray, it's like, please have me speak to who you want me to speak to today. Please have me hear what you want me to hear today. Please have me see what you want me to see today. Please have me speak or, um, please have me, um,
00:14:12
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create what you want me to create today. And then what happens is um it makes, it brings me into a very present state to where I can see where is God interacting throughout my life all day long. And then at the end of the day, when I um reflect,
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you you're so present that you see where things are happening. Like, oh, I did have that conversation. That was very interesting. Why did that conversation come into my world today? but like, I did create this, like, why do you think that that was the thing that needed to be created? Like, it makes you so present.
00:14:42
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It removes this, like, give me this and turns it into like, how do you want to use me today? And then, yeah and then, um and And it's interesting because like that's way more abundant, like way, way, way more abundant, you know, is is is um asking for ah clarity and the wisdom and the, um you know, the the signal, if you will, versus dictating like, I want this. It's like, well, okay, I know.
00:15:09
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But, you know, like how about, you know, instead of repeating certain things and and staying so um limiting in that, How about we look at, um you know, where do you really need to be going, which by the way, is the amplification of the things you want anyways.
00:15:25
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So I'm imagining you're aware that that perspective, like if you zoom out and don't be Matt for a moment, and you just be awareness of Matt, like that perspective is not yet common.
00:15:35
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It's not a it's not a center of gravity and in the United States, let alone worldwide, to be to have curiosity be leading the way. right To have that open-mindedness to, this is probably for me, and let me be curious about how, is not yet leading the way. I think if it were, we'd be living in a very different world.
00:15:56
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Right, and I do feel like it is where we're heading. So it's early. How did you get there? like did you Were you always optimistic as a kid? Did you... you know like You know, it's it's interesting, I guess. um I mean, it's probably warrants a little bit of a longer story. So I'll i'll try to give the the condensed version. But when I look back, you know, I was raised very independently.
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um My parents ah were very, like my dad was constantly teaching me how to make my own choices and how to be very diligent and curious and not follow the status quo, not take everything said as, you know,
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like that it's exactly what's being said. Like you have to be very genuinely curious and do deeper dives um and you have to figure out your path. And so he, in fact, he was very much like, I don't, you know, sometimes parents, I think, you know, they're very much that they want you to step into their footsteps. And he was like, I don't want you to step into my footsteps. I want you to find yours.
00:16:56
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Now, whether he knew what he was doing or not, you know, he did me a huge service for what would become the rest of my life. My mother was very much like, if I had an issue, she'd be like, I think we should pray over it.
00:17:10
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Like, let's go into the energy of it. least She was very much into energy. And like, and she studied, she studied a lot of just a lot of religions, a lot of like all leading up to kind of like, oh, I think we're all really after the same thing and it's God. And, you know, it was, so it was like, but she wanted to be very well versed in just culture and understanding, you know, different traditions and things like that.
00:17:30
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um And just to be educated, but but also, but careful, meaning like, hey, at the end of the day, it's it's an intern it's an inside job. Everything is an inside job, you know?
00:17:41
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So she was constantly grounding me into like, you gotta feel into it. You gotta understand your intuition, all these things. Now, what happened was because they raised me so independently, I remember like, so here I'm taking kind of these frameworks, for this operating system of how I am and operating in a, in this physical world of that is looking at me like I'm crazy, even though I think it's common sense. It's common. Like,
00:18:06
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You know, like, no, I don't mean harm. Yes, I am trying to collaborate. No, like the the the world operates in a very external context, is very emotionally charged. And I get it. I got i completely understand it.
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You know, um And so, um but the more we ground, you know, and the clearer we are, ah you know, we kind of tend to realize we're perpetuating a lot more because of what's in our heads.
00:18:35
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You know, so a lot of this was happening. I was trying to operate in ah in a physical world. I had a lot of really great business experience. I've been working for myself my whole life. And it wasn't always met with um ease. A lot of it was actually my training you um imagine like you're you're you're consulting with a with a brand or a company and you know somebody gets triggered and they're like you know what are you up to and i'm like what do you mean what am i up to was like no like this is how you just like you just do good work and um what it's like it catches you off guard you're like i'm so confused right now i'm like no i just no like this is good and i'm a consultant so take all the credit we're cool like
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I can take all the credit. I'm like, you hired me to do the job. So yes, take the credit. You know, like it was just, I was, up i was constantly dealing with here. I come from a very entrepreneurial family and I love business, but I'm operating in a business world that I'm not agreeing with.
00:19:28
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That's weird. That's very ironic. And I'm like, Oh, the system is a very interesting place. They're operating off of emotion, title, status, credentials, who's who, who who made a phone call, like, you know ah you know, I went to this school, all these different things versus the work.
00:19:46
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I came from a family that just knew how to do work. When you do the work, it's very grounding. it's very um It's very peaceful. It builds your confidence because you're like, no, I just like doing the work.
00:19:58
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What stock did your family come from on that you know of? Like if we scroll through the generations, were they laborers? Were they rulers? were that like What was the kind of general orientation of your lineage? I mean, that's interesting. That's an interesting, you know, um they were all entrepreneurs and so they were all builders.
00:20:18
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They were all builders. So that's a good question. They all built something where they wanted to provide something of value to society. um And I think they wanted to solve some sort of a problem, um you know, or a need and be of service.
00:20:36
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and And because they were entrepreneurial, so they they, most, almost all of them did it on their own. I mean, you know, with, you know, whether they had employees or not, um there was a lot more autonomy in agency.
00:20:48
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So you can think about that generationally. I'm used to autonomy in agency, like, because, you're owning your path in some way without the world trying to dictate how how you should live your life.
00:20:59
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Well, also that orientation, not that there's only two orientations, but that what, how can
From Taking to Giving: Adding Value to Others
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I add value? What can I give in my own life? As I watched that transition from insecurity that seeks to take, which is one of the forms of narcissistic, you know, problem is like, I'm messed up and I need to get, and let me find it wherever, however.
00:21:20
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That shift from getting and taking or looking for what's missing and wrong into what can I give? How can I add value? How can I serve? yeah It just gives so much energy and spaciousness.
00:21:34
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right Even spaciousness and energy when there's difficult, especially when there's difficulty to do the right thing. That's exactly, that's that's yeah the spot on. I mean, that's why people even are like, wow, you can really hold a container when there's like rough stuff is going on. i'm like, well, yeah.
00:21:50
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Yeah, that's it. You know, that that's the space that's cultivated for that. It's, you know, um ah when you're in the work of it, you know, in the service of it. um And you also fundamentally learn a lot about people.
00:22:04
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um You know, and I always say, like, you know, um I think that anything that we do, we don't want to trigger people. We want to ground them. We want, it we want, like, I want you grounded. Like I want you feeling more deeply rooted in who you are. I don't want to tell you how to think. I don't want to tell you what to do. i don't want to tell you any of that stuff, but I do hope that our interaction brings you into a space that you feel more like you in a place of clarity so you can move with more wisdom.
00:22:32
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You know what mean? For whatever that is for you. And when we operate that way, Well, now we're living in a very different place. and i And that's where I think that what's happening, I do see this shift that's that's very much moving towards that direction. and And obviously, like when you have one system kind of collapsing and a new one building,
00:22:50
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um you know, it's rough. It's rough stuff. It's rough to, it's rough to watch and, um and it's, and to not be affected by what you see, you know, while also trying to navigate like, Hey, you know, um while one world collapses, like how do you build a new one from integrity, from morals, from values, from principles, you know, um from a grounded place that is also like, you know, I think there's this balance, right? We,
00:23:19
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We don't want to be too up in the clouds, you know, because we wanna, you know, i get it like everybody wants to feel good. I'm like, yeah, but but we need grounding. We need grounding. Like life is still lifing and you have to have this kind of, you need foundation. You need both of the energies. Like, you know, you need the intuition, the flexibility and the creativity, and you need the the discipline and the structure and the foundation that holds like the container for that, you know? Well, let's open this up in a particular way if it if it works.
00:23:49
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So vertical growth and horizontal growth. yeah is something I'm familiar with as ah as a longtime student and and person who weaves integral theory, integral teachings of Ken Wilber's kind of work into and all the people have come after.
00:24:03
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So vertical growth would be like waking up transcendent states, whether that's the Christian version of oneness, whether that's the Buddhist emptiness of self and recognition that all of life is the radiance of the emptiness of self or whatever. Ayn Sof.
00:24:20
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There's vertical development of awakening to absolute awareness, but that's not enough. And I think we're living at a time when more or a fresh time when once again, the wheel is turned to go, you know what?
00:24:33
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Relationships matter. how How we grow the food matters. Like learning our connection to more realms than just absolute consciousness matters. The nervous system matters. How we collaborate matters. So like when I hear you talk about grounding, how it touches me, and I'm curious what else you might say about it is when I'm grounded in the way you're pointing out, I can see and experience and taste more of reality And then from there comes choice choicefulness. And in choicefulness, there's actual freedom.
00:25:09
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Right. That's agency. Yeah. Yeah. You know, we we were given free will for empowerment. Do you like the choices that you are making? And it's okay if...
00:25:23
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you made a rough choice or a choice that didn't end up working out because that teaches us to make better choices. That's growth.
The Power of Free Will and Conscious Decisions
00:25:30
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Right. yeah And, um, but you know, and the way I look at God and free will is God's a choice, not a, um, not a force. It's like, now you know, you know, um if I force you to choose me, like then you have no connection.
00:25:50
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But if you choose me, just like you choose your partner and you choose your you know the way you show up into your work and the the way you steward the money and the way you steward the relationships, like you feel empowered.
00:26:06
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And yes, you will make mistakes, um which is why like I feel like there's this, we have free will to make you know, any choice.
00:26:17
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Do you like the choices you're making? And then by the way, I always like to say, it's like, God's like, hey, listen, ah put your soul in a Ferrari. Here's the manual. what i What I would like is like,
00:26:28
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how like you're you've got choice, you've got free will, but like, if you need some assistance, let me help you. Let me co-create with you. Like ask for help, learn that the soul like knows what you need and like, um, but you have to be participatory. And I think that's where the grounded nature comes in. It's like, you have to be active. You have to be willing to be in the work. You have to lean into the conversations you don't want to have. You have to, you know, um,
00:26:53
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relate somehow in, you know, in unrelatable situations, you have to find ways to um work through stuff. And from a connected nature in a physical world, versus it's either this or it's that, you know, right.
00:27:10
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um And, and that's where so that's where i think i'm I'm playing in that middle ground um of, you know, yes, we want to be deeply connected, ah you know, to to the creator to God and, and and at the same time,
00:27:23
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We want to integrate and actually like, you know, participate down here while we are on earth, you know, um and um and lead from that place and lean in. And it's, I think, you know, it's interesting.
00:27:39
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um I think it's human. Listen, every human wants to be seen, felt, heard, and understood. That's really what I think is going on. hundred percent. And so... Now how they go about that, I think we're seeing you know a lot of different you know stuff play out. I think that that's what's happening is so I think- Well, mostly people are seeking it through a second person Absolutely. As opposed to a first person. like Your descriptions of your relationship to God ring in my ear predominantly as a second person relationship to God, I and thou.
00:28:12
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And yet there's still a first person relationship available. It's all you know like when when the master teacher said, i and the Father are one, that's a first person relationship. Right. And then there's the all of it, the it, like it's all, like there's nowhere, nothing that exists that could be separate from the force of the creator itself.
00:28:30
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So thereby, is there actually free will? no Yeah. Well, and so that's a far down the rabbit hole kind of, right, I don't have to all way there, but like, how do, like, if there's nothing that's separate from that, which created it, then, then is, are there two or more consciousnesses?
00:28:47
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you know ill I'll give you you know ah give you a couple of different examples, which i've I've given before, and I love talking about it. um And in case I ah can't remember ah when I go after one. But um ah god um so, you know, I i remember I was was really frustrated about something once. I was so frustrated because, you know, it's like you feel disconnected. Maybe you feel a little angry. You feel in the motion of it. Right.
00:29:14
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And I remember yelling to God. i'm like, oh, I'm so frustrated. And like I went on this 20 minute tear. and At the end, I'm like, I'm sorry for yelling. i keep it was that It was that simple.
00:29:27
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And i could feel ah could feel in that moment, I could feel God be like, that's okay. And I'm like, that's forgiveness. You didn't yell at me. You didn't judge me.
00:29:41
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You sat and held the container. You let me be in the emotion of it without you taking it on. You didn't belittle me. You didn't make me anything lesser. And you waited until I finally came up out of it into my senses and got back to connection. And you were right there waiting for me.
00:29:57
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Got it. And it gave me so much extra um understanding of what forgiveness is for the physical world, because we can take things so personally when when it's not about us.
00:30:15
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If somebody is verbally attacking, it is not about you. It's just not. It's about their moment. Yeah. And there's that expression, you know, you'll you'll never see somebody doing better than you put you down, you know, um, you know, and it's like,
00:30:29
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And that was, they were meaning it more in the entrepreneurial world, but I actually turned it into like the spiritual side of things too. it's like, yeah, because people who are technically doing better or or have more peace or more whatever, it typically like have been through a lot and they're, they're there, they they understand there's, there is empathy. They're like, no, I got you. I get it.
00:30:43
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You know? And then people who may not be doing as well, They can be very projecting out onto you, you know? And so you have to kind of learn this world of like not taking it personal, which is very, it's a lot of practice. It's absolutely a lot of practice, but how do we not take it personal?
00:30:57
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We have a deeper relationship with ourself and God, like by having that, like, Oh, like I know how I'm operating. I know what I'm trying to do. I know who I am. I'm constantly working on that person. then I'm less likely to take what the the other side that might be in that moment, so having a moment, and then we can actually disarm it versus escalate the the situation.
00:31:20
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And that's a very different interaction with with people, right? It is my sincere, deep, profound wish that there's a huge groundswell of people growing into the capacity for repair because rupture is natural right to actually really really get good and nimble and care about repair and and care more about the orientation that we we are all fingers on the same hand, then then getting into right wrong, good, bad fighting and all like it doesn't have to go that way. We have all the creativity who to solve all of our issues on this planet.
00:32:02
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Right, right. Well, I always say like, Everybody like, you guys want to solve the world's problems? We're like, yeah. And I'm like, just solve yourself. i and people And people always go like, it's not that simple. I'm it is that simple.
00:32:15
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It that simple. i was like, we like the work you do on yourself is what ends up perpetuating out into the rest of the world. And so, you know, versus, um you know, if we build versus protested all the time, we're building the the alternative path. We're building the thing like you fighting a system that is, that is built on fighting.
00:32:35
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that's right It thrives on fire and fighting. You're only helping perpetuate versus like, you know what, I'm going to build a thing over here. and and i was just saying this to an online group the other day. um How I was like, you know, we used to live in a time where you're like, I'm just one person. I'm like, guess what, guys, that's gone.
00:32:50
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We have the internet. I'm sorry. You're not just one person. You have asked Well, look at what just happened in Nepal at this recording. You know, Nepal was in ah last week, little longer than last week.
00:33:01
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Huge chaos, ah like riots, protests. um You know, it was a governmental thing that was really, really problematic. the One of the leaders stepped down. On Discord, Gen Z came together in a matter of like 24, 48 hours.
00:33:17
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Over 100,000 people gathered together on Discord from Nepal, these young Gen Zs, and they moved things forward and they got a new leader elected. like like that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. well And that's like, so we know we're no longer, now here's the thing, we're no longer in an era of we're just one person. um what What does that difference make? because we have the internet, we also have a responsibility with the internet just the same too.
00:33:41
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You know, internet is a beautiful tool or it can be a very, yeah weird disruptor. Right. Um, and good and bad. So, so it's like, but that's why I was telling these people, these folks, like, listen, we're no longer just one person.
The Internet's Transformative Potential
00:33:55
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Um, like meaning like, who am I? I'm just one person. Like now your ideas, um, and your, um, commitment to the work and what you want to build in this world purposefully actually can ah never, but like but never before accelerate and, um, amplify.
00:34:11
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was like, but it's, It also requires an insane amount of accountability, responsibility, um you know, ethic ethics and integrity. Like now now all the principles. Like so it opens, the internet opens up the window to everything that you can see. And you're like, oh And then at the same time, instead of pointing the fingers, we have to be like, I got to get to work.
00:34:31
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Like you got to get to work. And in the work, you learn everything that you need to do about who you really are. And it gives you multidimensional type of like,
00:34:42
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capacity and thinking for, because you kind of seeing all the things, seeing all the angles, you're in the work. The work is like, that's why they, it's the journey. It is the journey. It's not the destination. The journey is literally like, Hey, I want you to live so deeply in this and, and on purpose that you never want to leave this. you realized Like I said, this is on a video recently. It's like the outcome, you start to realize, oh my God, it has nothing to do with the outcome. Like I love this game so much of what I'm doing and embodying my work and being so disciplined and consistent with it that I never want to be out of that work because it feels right.
00:35:14
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It feels um grounding and forward moving and contributory and valuable. Yeah, I never want to leave that, you know? So Matt, what what in life?
00:35:26
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I don't know about you, but I can see patterns in myself, like when I'm not required to be speaking out loud or thinking in words and I just have like open space time. There are certain themes that I'll come back to again and again and again, like or that'll come up in my mind that aren't necessarily.
00:35:46
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Positively creative, they're just certain themes, and that's like, oh, that's where my work is. That's where my work is. Where are your, where's your main edges where you're like, yep, I need to be vigilant around that. Cause that can come up when I'm hungry and be lonely, tired, or, you know, just have too much time on my hands or whatever. What are the edges in your development that you're looking at?
00:36:09
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You know, it's a great question. Um, i for a long time, i I think, you know, discernment was a really big one.
00:36:19
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um You know, I it's interesting, um you know, kind of a side story to that. I remember i was on this podcast and um this woman was talking about how She's like, you know, it's easy for you to say, you know, about trust. She's like, I've never been able to trust, you know, um anybody I have trust issues. She was, you know, she was talking about all these things about like never, you know, trusting anybody and, um and all this stuff. And I was like, you know, what's so interesting? She goes, well, was like, you were one extreme and I was another. And she's like, how so? I was like, you trusted nobody. and she's like, yeah I'm like, I trusted everybody.
00:36:53
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She was like, God. And i was like, yeah. And you kind of learn. that not everybody moves like you. i was like, now we can't automatically assume that nobody's to be trusted and we can't automatically assume that everybody's to be trusted.
00:37:07
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What we can assume is who am I interacting with right now in front of me? Can I pay attention to their character? Can I really understand that one, humans will be humans will be humans is what I say all the time.
00:37:19
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emotions going to kick in and just like that, they can, you know, whatever it might be. I had to learn to really discern and pay attention and become very present with people.
00:37:30
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You know, um what do they want? What are they in relation to me? um What are, what is, you know, this, is this a moment, a season, you know, as a lifetime with this person?
00:37:42
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um And I, so I think that was one of the best edges I really had to learn was like, by being very present and constant, it's a constant practice. Cause you always kinda, you know, you never, this is they say like, you never know who's in front of you. Like, yeah, but if you pay close enough attention, you can kind of figure out, like if you really pay attention to like the way somebody does things or their actions and their words, and are they all lining up?
00:38:03
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So that was, you know, um Because I was just, I, and it it was a repeating pattern because I would find that even good people that I trusted on some things, all sudden they went away at one point. I'm like, again, you know, it was like, I lost the good ones. Like, you know, it was more so in business, but I'm like, even the good ones went, I'm like, okay, what is this about?
00:38:24
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And that was something that starting around 2019, um, That started to really also teach me about um how do you build in a way where you can learn to trust and rely on yourself, not from an isolated place, but from a um ah from ah an empowering place of doing the work where um if I'm in the work, and what let me backtrack. What happened was I noticed that throughout my entrepreneurial journey, I was always wanting to do things with people first to start. And I think part of that was you kind of have this little bit of this fear of doing it all completely on your own to start, right?
00:39:05
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And I think that that was what was happening for me. And so finally I was like, let's just start a direction alone and then build and bring in people from there versus you know having to always partner to make something.
00:39:19
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I needed to actually like, let's let's first, like, what does it mean for me? you know let's just finish a little bit as a And I know this is a made up frame, but like, in the like let's say collaboration has stages.
00:39:33
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So in the beginning, and I relate to you, like I need help. And I may think that I'm collaborating, but I'm actually just actually looking for inspiration, validation and encouragement, right?
00:39:46
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Okay, well, if I'm looking first for that outside, it's not gonna really, really be that coherent yet until I'm actually grounded in that as a resource.
00:39:57
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And then I can actually bring in collaborators. But if I don't know anything about the project, right, and I don't really know who I am, then how can I effectively collaborate?
00:40:10
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100% is very well put. That's exactly and even even in tricky enough, even when you align with people who are very similar in the beginning, he's like, I was thinking the same thing, but they don't know yet either.
00:40:22
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you know And so like, so now you have two people who are unsure coming together. I mean, that can be very synonymous, actually, with with life and with your personal relationships as well, too. And 2019 was a very transformative time for me. um you know My father was passing. He was one of my best friends and mentors.
00:40:38
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um And he was such a ah good father to me. He was a good friend. When in 2019 did he pass? In July 2019. ah twenty eight My mom passed in October of 2019.
00:40:50
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Yeah. My condolences. And it's you know it's especially if you're you know you're deeply connected. And um i still feel him every day. But it was just it was an interesting... It was a very interesting time because I also started feeling a lot more clarity coming through than ever before.
00:41:08
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And you realize, yes, you're right. if we Instead of relying on the external, all of the work even more so is on the internal. And the clearer you are and the clearer you move from that intention, the more intentional people understand what you're doing.
00:41:24
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And to your point, um as things grow and build in your life, you know how to integrate with the good things and receive the things that are for you versus starting with the end of mind where you're like, let me have the outcome now and we'll figure it out from the external. I had to really you know have a – I was always – interested in the internal side of things. But I think I just took that to the next level um starting then. And it wasn't just people do confuse outcomes and strategy.
00:41:53
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Right? Oh, yeah. Like so many times people i'll ask them, what do you want? And they'll say a thing and it's so clear and say, actually, that's your strategy to get what you want. I have to keep drilling down even with myself. It's like, yeah, oh, I want more money. No money is a strategy. What is it? you What's your outcome?
00:42:10
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So I think it's beneficial to have an outcome, but it's not like um what they say in the prosperity kind of work. All the different lineages of ah prosperity or manifestation is like, outlining is going to shut down your good, like telling the force of creation it needs to happen in this way and be this shape and this size and at this time of day. it's like, no, there's probably something a lot better out there than than what you can conceive. Right.
00:42:35
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So how bigger how do we how do we.
00:42:41
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What are the simple concrete steps for a person from your view? To slow down enough in an actual moment to tune into the guidance?
00:42:52
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Like, do you think you might even be able to break that down into some simple concrete steps? Like first I sit my butt on the chair or whatever it might be. Yeah. You know, i do that every morning and I tell people, I'm like, just give yourself, if not 15, five minutes, just give yourself, you know, that 15 minutes in the morning ah or five.
00:43:13
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Um, and where are you? Like, just, if you start with any question, like, where am I at right now? you know Um, what do I need? What do i think I need?
00:43:25
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Um, what am I wanting? Um, you know, what, what seems to be, you know, like, where do I feel blocked? Like you should start asking yourself these questions the way you would a best friend, because you are your first best friend, but we don't often do that. We often do that for everybody else but ourselves.
00:43:46
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And, and so it's an interesting exercise to actually really just check in Like, how are you doing, dude? You know, like how, are like, how are you actually doing? I'm like, you know, I feel good. I feel tired. Cool. Why are you tired?
00:43:58
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You know, I hadn't really thought about that. I guess, you know, I'm doing this, this, this, and this got it. Is there something else that maybe you would, you know, need help with? So you're not doing all those things. Like, I guess I hadn't thought about it.
00:44:10
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Maybe you should think about it right now. You know, it's like, you're having this kind of check in with yourself, um, in a very honest way. And I think what happens is people were so cerebral that people like, what do I ask myself? I'm like, just talk to yourself the way you would to a best friend. Like, Hey, how are you doing?
00:44:26
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like you know I have people do it in the mirror because I find that many people's attention wanders far too much. Start out by eye gazing in the mirror, actually attuned in a way that you can feel like giving and receiving are connected.
00:44:38
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yeah And then from there, just get in the habit of doing that on a regular basis in a mirror throughout the day and like slow down, do it longer once. and like That's where I could imagine it's a best friend or a client yeah or a student and like get in that place of that um unconditional goodwill.
00:44:56
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towards the reflection in the mirror. And then it begins to build my relationship capacities for anybody. yeah But there's that place in that time to just like, because what do I want from you? If you're my best friend, Matt, and I come to your house after ah big week of work and I'm kind of tired and I'm a little hungry.
00:45:15
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What do i really want from you when I walk in the door? First thing I really want is you to scoop me up and give me a big bear hug. Right. And not have anything to say or criticize or ask me hard questions. Right. so what's the energetic version of that, that I can begin learning to give myself in the mirror and whatever I'm doing in the mirror, whatever I'm doing in the chair in the morning, in your case,
00:45:38
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is what I'm attracting more of in the terms of who shows up in my life. but I mean, look, it's a perfect, everything you just said is well said because then the relationship you're having with yourself isn't that interesting, the relationship you're going to have with everybody else automatically. Because instead of like a million questions to the other person after they had a long week, they're like how do you get me so well? I'm like, I get you because I do the same thing to me. I'm relating to you.
00:46:01
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I get you. like when I say I got you and I get you, it's it's actually more than just a you know fun few words. It's like, oh, no, no, I get it because this is what I need for me too.
00:46:12
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I can treat you the way I treat myself. That's why the relationship with you is so important. And then yes, to your point, that's exactly what you attract because um maybe not always, sometimes it's the people who need more of that and they're and they're still learning it. but But then that's also, you know, you get to be a great messenger of that as well too. And, um but yeah, I've noticed that that's more of what I attract um is people doing the same thing. And then we're, and now it's like, oh, so two individuals,
00:46:39
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co-contributing, right? Co-assigning. um Because as individuals, we can deeply understand each other and meet each other in spaces that normally you couldn't if you didn't get to know yourself.
00:46:51
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And that that's that's the place to play and you know Now, Matt, you strike my ear as somebody who's really well read. You haven't just put in time on the cushion.
00:47:04
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You also sound like you've exposed yourself to a lot of really um coherent learning. And I'm just curious what some of the major sources have been or continue to be in terms of not just spiritually but spiritually yes emotional work or relational work um you know all the things that we can develop a whole person to be an extraordinary liver of life and contributor to life
00:47:35
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You know, interestingly, outside of the usual, like the spiritual books and the, um you know, and ah and entrepreneurial, it was the ones that helped me slow down.
00:47:47
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Essentialism by Greg McKeown, which then he created Effortless, but Greg McKeown would talk about 90% of the things that we're doing don't matter. it's the 10% that do and you have to really figure out what those are and you have to be so loving and devotional to those, that 10% because then you're very present and you know what matters to you and, and you feel very involved and invigorated by that 10%.
Slowing Down for Focus and Simplicity
00:48:10
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Um, and, uh, slow progress by, um, um, Cal Newport.
00:48:16
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was It was at slow progress or slow productivity. Uh, it's one of the, I forget that I was mixed to up, but like, um, um, and he's just talking about, you know, instead of doing everything, um can you slow down to look at just doing the right, thing which by the way, when you do slow down, everything speeds up immensely, but we're not taught that we're taught.
00:48:36
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What do you mean by speeds up? When you slow down, everything speeds up immensely. What speeds up? um ah Like the, the outcomes that you're really looking for. so what happens is when, okay,
00:48:49
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If you're doing everything really fast and you're in this hustle culture and go, go, go, go go you're doing a lot, but you're not necessarily seeing much. you're It's like you're ju you're keeping the juggling all together so ah the plates don't fall.
00:49:03
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You're just busy. You're not actually creating an outcome. You're just You're actually productive, right? you know Intentional. But when you actually like remove a lot of stuff and you slow down, you're like, this. These are the things that are most important that I'm going to spend time on.
00:49:16
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my God, all a sudden I have more health, more time, more freedom, more, you know, I'm making better money because i'm I'm focused on the exact right things that I want to be doing, that I'm in my zone of genius doing the exact things that my skill sets call for, that is what I'm called to do.
00:49:30
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And more people want that. And I'm not trying to do everything. It's like everything that you're looking for speeds up when you slow down from the hustle of the external world.
00:49:42
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and narrow into the things that are most resonant with you and what you're here to do. And that's and that's a relationship with you. And then on top of that, why those books were so important, including, there's another one, The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry.
00:49:55
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Ooh, The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry. The Ruthless Elimination he's relating more of his spiritual journey to it, um but he was talking a lot about he was he was growing fast and all of a sudden he didn't like who he was becoming.
00:50:08
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Because all of a sudden, all the things that were so important that you're told, you know, ah
00:50:15
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well, that you knew were important, weren't, were getting sidestepped by the things he was told that were more important. You're talking around like, right, like, like, like literally right next to the question I ask every single guest.
00:50:27
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There's a question I ask every single guest. Okay. And it's not, even though I do ask most people, it's not really the opening like, hey, what is the choice to grow a vote for you? Like, that's a good opener. No, it's so Suzuki Roshi, Shunryo Suzuki Roshi, who opened the Zen Center of San Francisco in the sixty s Very realized being, if you read his incredible autobiography, Crooked Cucumber, and you read about his childhood growing up being trained as a Zen priest as a kid, it was not cute. It was like for me growing up in the 70s where corporal punishment was a natural, normal thing that parents did.
00:51:00
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And so very, very cooked dude. And he said many important things. One of them was death is certain. The time is not. What is the most important thing?
00:51:12
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A lot of my guests don't like the the in front of most important thing. Another way to frame this is the theologian brilliant theologian who was really versed in multiple traditions, but cut his teeth through mystical Christianity tillage.
00:51:28
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And he called it the ultimate concern. We have finite concerns like money, who called me today like that, what's the ultimate concern, no one can tell you what your ultimate concern is.
00:51:39
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So Matt, what's the most important thing like and Like now, like actually now for you? For me now, it's did I follow the calling?
00:51:52
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And when we're um so concerned about, which is there's a lot in there, because if I follow the calling, then I get out of my way.
00:52:06
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And we're very good at getting in our own way. Another way you're getting out of God's way. Yeah, it's exactly it.
00:52:17
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It's exactly it. And that is deeply freeing. It is so deeply freeing and very divinely guided and better than you can ever imagine while still like feeling like you're at the top of a roller coaster. You're just like, you know, you're at first your body because it's on the biology side, the nervous system was operating another way for so long that to let it go and to let it ease is a whole other, like,
00:52:49
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your body is having to reset, which is now we're using all kinds of tools that are out there, whether it's meditation and breath work and, you know, prayer and all these different things. Right. But it's interesting because it's, it is a truly letting go.
00:53:02
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and so, um, the most important thing is, am I following the column? Because it answers everything else. Am I getting out of God's way? Cause the moment I do that, Everything that we want is right there.
00:53:16
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and And we're also the person who like is in the way of it. And and yeah weirdly, we can make the manufactured version of it go pretty far, whether in the relationship, the the job, the money, the like all that we can make it go pretty far looking like, look what I did.
00:53:32
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But something knows. Something knows. Something knows. Something knows. And and we can suppress the something with you know alcohol or drugs or sex or gambling for a while. But something knows. Something knows. Something knows.
00:53:44
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Can you follow that knowing? and that's And I get asked that all the time. um And I said, you got to appreciate a society or got to laugh at a society sometimes that...
00:53:55
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um We're very hard on people for following their knowing and their calling, yet we consume. Every product we consume was started by somebody who followed their calling. Imagine that.
00:54:07
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We give a lot of hard times to people who are like, what if it doesn't work out? And why would you do this? And why you going that path? And you know why are you following you know your your intuition? And you know this is more stable. This is like all this, like you know the external, external, external.
00:54:21
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And yet everything every person in society is product or service or around them was started by somebody who said, i'm going to go do something different. How much of this do you think perhaps, at least in the last 2000 years, has come through the the way that many people experienced or heard about or worse, the Abrahamic traditions, like this idea of original sin that didn't exist before
00:54:55
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that kind of way of teaching and speaking like you're separate from your creator you could do something that actually lands you in a lake of fire for eternity
00:55:08
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Like that, like how much do you think we live in that? Even people who say they're not religious are informed by that in terms of like the day-to-day fear of something's not gonna work out, I can't take a risk or trusting is hard, all the different things that come up, for how much of that is based in our illusion of being separate from this profound source of consciousness. Well, I think that that's what happened. That is disconnection.
00:55:33
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Is that we, if if society separates from the creator, ah career we we're made in the image of the creator and God is in everything and everyone. like God is here to like, hey, I made you.
00:55:48
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I walk with you, walk with me, not separate from me, walk with me. and And that is on the ancient text as well. then you know was so um And so um i think what happened is um when man separates from God, um a lot of things can happen. And I think that's where fear allows itself in.
00:56:15
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and it dictates a lot of the way we make choices versus the soul knowing like, no, no, no, no no no like no no I know what we need. Like, just just follow me, just follow me. You know, the soul knows, like you said, there's always a knowing, the soul knows.
00:56:27
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um But um when we're disconnected, we so want to make sense and grounding of something, which is the the irony, right? Because you're like, well, you're disconnected. If you didn't have to disconnect, you would have been fine. You know, it's like,
00:56:38
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So the human emotions kick in, the the the human tendencies of trying to force an outcome and make something happen out of fear or out of um lack or an insecurity or an emotion.
00:56:53
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um Because what do you mean? Like, you know, God's just going to provide like, Yeah. um Because you were made in the image of the creator. Now um you do still have to show up and you still have to, you know, operate with morals and ethics and values and principles and and the genuine... not going to eat itself and the and the weight's not going to lift itself.
00:57:12
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Right. There's always there's always that that parable I always love where the the guy's out in the ah the ocean, like he's stranded, you know, he's shipwrecked, but he's out in the ocean, he's on a raft. It's God, you know, I'm hungry, send food. And then like, you know, a bird goes by and like, you know, it's God, I'm hungry. And then a fish swims by and then... Like eventually after so many times he he passes on and, you know, and then afterwards, you know his soul's like, why didn't you send me like food? was like, what are you talking about? like yeah kept sending you provision. yeah yeah You know, we have to participate as well. and and I think when we stay connected, we can see it all. We can feel it all. And we can walk in faith more um because a faith walk is,
00:57:53
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um I don't have to see it to believe it, but I can feel it so I know it. And if I can feel it and I know it, then then I'm connected to it. and you know i mean and And the best part is I love making this simple i love making the complex simple. like i tell people the time, I'm like, fine, you know what? We're going to use just general.
00:58:12
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regular language. I'm like, you all of a sudden wanted a yellow Corvette. They're like, yeah. I'm like, do you see them everywhere now? They're like, yeah. I'm like, that's energy. Welcome to like you, you know, feeling deeply connected to something that you wanted. i like, I know it's a physical worldly thing. I'm just saying that like, it gives you a perfect example of how energy and faith work.
00:58:29
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You wanted something, it came into your purview. Suddenly you see it everywhere. Welcome. That's, you know, was like, could you imagine what prayer and connection do and do the things you actually like need and want that are even bigger than that yellow Corvette? They're like,
00:58:41
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oh I'm like, yeah, there you go. Well, in the work of alchemy, traditional alchemy, hermetic alchemy, there's two main movements, not that there's only two, negreto and albino. So negreto is like the path of negation, like in Vedanta or some of the Indian teachings or Eastern teachings. It's like, oh, I'm not my thoughts because there's times when I have no thoughts, but I still exist. I'm not my emotions because in deep dreamless sleep, there's no emotion yet. I still exist. So clearly I'm not, not, not, not not all this.
00:59:08
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Whereas many people, until there's an experience and a trust and usually a mentorship with somebody who's further down the road, avoid the dismantling process of all that's not true in our psyche like the plague, and then don't realize that when we're going to so-called manifestation or creating our dream board or whatever, we're projecting our are distorted psychology onto the manifestation process or onto the dreaming process. I was listening to a colleague on a podcast the other night, ah John Churchill, brilliant, brilliant Buddhist guy and doctor of psychology. And he was like, you know, we've been teaching this dream yoga course.
00:59:50
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And One of the most important things we see is until people have emptiness of self, their idea of self, their previous sense of personality, when you go into the dream state, you're just going to project your personal psychology. So you're going to see monsters. You're going to see all these different things. Well, waking life isn't all that different.
01:00:11
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I know. my experience. Right? So are we willing to do the dismantling process, not just the additive? Like, like oh, well if you just add, you God, just send me money and send me, you know, girls or boys or whatever we're into, or, you know, send me fish and loaves. and But like, is my vessel prepared for what I'm asking for? Can it hold it with coherency? And how will it benefit more than just myself? Right.
01:00:37
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Yeah. Often at times when people operate from a want, it's because they're without. And so. Or believe they're without. they but Or believe they're without. They're even better. Or they believe they're without.
01:00:50
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um And so instead, can you hold the container and the reverence for what is already there? And then, and, you know, and even like I became, it's funny, the more I became kind of a little bit of ah a little bit of a minimalist, meaning I just, I wanted intentional consumption.
01:01:03
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You know, I didn't like, I don't need to have a lot of stuff. um at all um i just like to have a lot of purpose and but then the then the irony is it's like you um but you grow in all the areas where you could if you wanted to have more stuff but you don't need it but you have you know but you clearly can you know but and then more just naturally comes into your world and so um so it's a very interesting thing about like you know you're saying like people projecting outward the the very things it's like What can you first, to your point, like remove, like what's, what's the, the, the, the feeling you have that like a perfect example is like a lot times when people are like, um, I love what you said about, um, and people are like, Oh, want more money. I want more of this. And it's like, and I always love doing the why, like, but why, but why, but why?
01:01:49
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And they always get eventually to the emotion. I'm like, okay, are you aware that freedom is free? Technically, freedom is free. Like i was like, you, it's how you feel like the the things that you want to feel in this world are emotions and those are free.
01:02:03
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Like they're there. As long as you were alive and breathing, you have that ability for those things. um So how you feel now without those things, not really without, as you were saying, but like maybe not with the amount that you think that that would command that feeling, you would find that because no matter how much you get of that thing,
01:02:23
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it'll never be enough to make the feeling you already have now. So that's why like you see a lot of people burn out when they go in one or, you know, so many different directions with money or relationships or whatever, but they, but they sacrifice everything else.
01:02:36
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I'm like, yeah, because really what you're looking for has to start internally. And when you feel that way naturally from here, now you're just adding on and growing and, you know, abundantly receiving more um from that place versus let me go get the thing to define me only to find that it doesn't fulfill me.
01:02:54
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Then I got to burn it all down and go back to the beginning versus like, what does fulfill me? What is extrapolate out to a company? Like if you're you know because you still consult on brands from what I yeah understand.
01:03:07
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So brand has a let's say, ah an actually a really good idea that can bring benefit to people, the planet, animals, whatever, there's a really good idea. How do we extrapolate this over to skillfully with integrity with empowerment, building up a business, these same principles?
01:03:28
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And so that our branding or our communication, all of it is is actually aligned the way we're talking about being personally aligned with the most important thing, the ultimate concern and moving from this ground.
01:03:42
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You know, simplicity, you know, what is, i think it first started with Leonardo da Vinci, but then Coco Chanel kind of like re I think tweaked the simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.
01:03:53
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If it's simple and it's honest, it'll scale.
Business Principles: Simplicity and Honesty
01:03:59
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If it's simple and it's honest and it's like, you know why you're doing it and you're open about why you're doing it and it's easy to communicate and it's, you know, what happens a lot in businesses, you have a lot of people often in roles that they shouldn't be in trying to make a lot of things extra happen out of maybe thinking that they have to do a lot of extra bells and whistles.
01:04:18
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ah Prover, like a lot of it's emotional. Most ah most of business is very emotional, ah emotionally charged. And that only think that they realize it. Whereas if you can remove all of that and be of service and know exactly what you're doing and why you're doing and who you're doing it for um and being very mission driven by it and um and very simple, like simple language.
01:04:40
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Hey, this is something that I've dealt with. Have you all like, oh my God, I have like, I'm going to make something. um what have you dealt with in all these things? you like, oh, I dealt with this, this, and this. like, okay, you know what? These are the areas I think I'd like to address.
01:04:55
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And so you now build unity, you build community. I think that's also what's happening is you're seeing a major, major shift in business where people are going to people that they trust you're seeing founder led companies, founder led meaning they're the creator as well. Like they're creating online in real time and showing you like, hey, um so here's what i'm building and here's why. um This might work, I'll keep you posted, but just keep watching.
01:05:19
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People like, God, like I'll get to tune in tomorrow, like what's gonna happen? you know And then they tune in like, oh, that was really cool. So you used that machinery to make that happen. Like, here's my money, like I love it, like I wanna be a part of this.
01:05:30
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Because they feel, they feel themselves through your body of work And at the same time that you are genuinely putting in the time, transparency, honesty, simplicity, like you're, you're, it's the process. People are loving the journey more than the outcome now. And that's, what's making all these, you know, multi-million, multi-billion dollar one to four person businesses now. You know, Val Ravikant talks a lot about that. He's like, listen, you know, like the gatekeepers are gone.
01:05:58
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Like create, create, from a place that feels very honest and purposeful and, um, and, uh,
01:06:11
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do it with reverence and the people will follow, especially because it's the internet. Like everybody just can see you doing it. Like, hey, here's what I'm doing, here's why. Like, I love it, tell us more.
01:06:22
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you know Now that is sometimes what I found, um why consulting changed for me, the brands I used to versus now some of them are much more smaller, more purpose-driven and kind of some of my own that I'm creating, we're now creating a few new ones.
01:06:37
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um But the reason why it was always difficult before is because they were so used to perfection and curation. And this world over here is very honest and authentic. And it's very, very different.
01:06:50
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Because over here was like, oh, but if we make a mistake, what are the people going to think? And I'm like, that you're human and that that you own the mistake and that they actually, that you don't. um take ownership and that you're honest. And that means that if anything happens within your business, that you will also own the mistake and that you're honorable and ethical and integrity driven. I'm like, um is this weird?
01:07:10
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Is this weird that we're having this conversation? And that that's more of what I was alluding to back the beginning of this podcast is like, I was trying to operate in that world. And I'm like, this is common sense. Or is it common decency?
01:07:21
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Or is it just integrity? Have we- And is it all still common anymore, Matt? Is it still common? And is it still common? And so that's why, i again, the shift now is ah you had a lot of people who were like, over here, what's happening?
01:07:34
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It's very fascinating. A lot of you know creators online. It's very fascinating. I was told no, didn't have the right credentials. They didn't let me work at their place. They didn't want me to be a part of their team.
01:07:46
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I didn't go the right school, da, da, da, all these things. Okay, well, um I guess I'm going to just build it in front of the world on the internet. We'll see how this works. And they're all taking off.
01:07:58
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And then this side over here goes, whoa, who who who whoa whoa whoa, whoa, wait a minute. We didn't accept you into our world. Like, no, you didn't. But I had to do it anyway. I had to do it anyways. I had to create something because, well, you know, also i this is my calling. This is what I believe in. This is my this is where i'm getting my my this where I'm earning with my living. like so And so you it's a very, like I said, there's two worlds happening at the exact same time. but It's very fascinating to watch. Probably multiple worlds, but I'm just saying there's two very distinct worlds.
01:08:25
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One, you know, kind of erupting and the other one, you know, expanding. And so, so yeah, so you see this newer world of like, Honesty and transparency. I was on a you know podcast recently and we were talking about you know how he's like, you know isn't it interesting? like Authenticity became you know kind of like a trending word. I was like, you mean honesty?
01:08:45
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you know He kind of laughed. I was like, didn't really think about was like, well, I've been preaching ah authenticity of like since 2013, 14 on the internet, whatever it was. I was like, and it wasn't even really preaching it. Like we need to, you know, be authentic. It was like, you just do it.
01:08:58
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Um, it's weird that now, you know, it's become a subject word, a subject line in, in content. And I'm like, really, what are we talking about? Honesty. And, you know, cause it was, and it was, we were talking about sales and I was like, sales are so easy when they're honest.
01:09:13
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sales are easy when they're honest like hey here's how i use these things here's how i'm like i'm so in the work i love this thing here's exactly like all the things here's what i know is all in the market here's how it can actually really serve you here's your alternative options you know but um here's exactly what we do and here's what it solves and you know here's what's been some of the results you know let me know how can i serve you oh well this is my concern and it's like great can we can walk through that together does that sound okay Yes, it does.
01:09:40
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It's like you're just being loving and honest. Like you're just being direct. Like you're clear. You're a clear channel. And so I think that all these things are what, you know, when I talk to these businesses, some that are a little bit more legacy or just, you know, maybe they're CEOs or whatever that are trying to kind of move into this new world we're into.
01:09:59
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I try to tell them like a lot of what you used to fight for is no longer relevant, in my opinion, um because a lot of what people are looking for is resonance over here. and And they know exactly where you're coming from and who you are and what they what you get.
01:10:18
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That's why it's their very founder-led companies. It's the person out in front that's like, hey, to I'm on the battlefield too, doing the thing even with the
AI's Role in Creativity and Efficiency
01:10:26
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my crew. How are translating this into the ways you're guiding yourself and others around a skillful use of AI?
01:10:33
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you know we're talking about a and authenticity and resonance first and foremost, creativity, authenticity, and resonance. How does that work with using AI skillfully?
01:10:45
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As long as you have that, AI will amplify it and make it more efficient faster. the problem The problem that people run into is when they delegate and outsource their thinking and creativity to AI,
01:10:58
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or it's matching their fears and their lack mentality and their, you know, and the like, you know, all the dark side of stuff. AI has amplified my output like 200x.
01:11:10
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It's still my work, my creativity, my, now it helps me edit faster. It helps me um organize faster. It helps me like break down like my outlines for my podcast faster um or look at, you know, the way I,
01:11:24
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um I wrote my cadence of ah of a particular post and it'll help like analyze like, oh, you know what? um ah You know, ah you know, the there's too many extra words. I'm like, I read I'm like, oh, that's actually really good. You know, um so it helps me amplify. You still have to be the creative director. I constantly talk with it all the time where I'm like, listen,
01:11:45
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you know, a perfect example would be like, you know, listen, you see a lot of this stuff online. That is, in my opinion, that's not important. The ethics of, you know, resonance and somebody feeling like, hey, how does it ground them in their own soul? How do they make sure that they understand for themselves the simplistic da-da-da-da? Like you you go on a tear from your thinking, from your creative mindset. You are the creative director.
01:12:06
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And if you remove your innovation, your thoughts, your deep thinking, if you remove your creativity, Yeah, then we're in trouble. You know, but like, you know, what I'm just having an epiphany here, Matt, a possible epiphany, maybe it's already landed on everybody else and you and I'm getting it last, which is the same projections onto God are being projected onto AI.
01:12:31
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It's going to do it for me. Oh, I need it to do it. I need it to answer my question. I need it to help me. But it's just going to amplify like a mirror. it's it's it's It's a form of a mirror and ah in a certain, you know, very complex way.
01:12:46
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It's 100%. That's why sometimes when you see different people say like, I asked AI and this is what it turned out. I'm like, what's your conversations with AI like? And immediately they go, well, I'm like, ah, you're revealing. Because like,
01:12:58
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I love my the prompts that it spits out from me and like and the the work that it like comes out. People like, I feel like it's you. and I'm like, it is me. I was like, well, first of all, trump'm like I actually trained, like I made like an editor for me. I'm like, hey, here's all of my work. Here's all of my thoughts. Here's what I want. Here's my clarity.
01:13:16
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A lot of people, when I hear, especially in the in the corporate world, um fear AI. And I'm like, you know why you fear it? And they don't always like to hear it. They're why? I'm like, because some of you are in positions that you didn't earn.
01:13:28
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and you don't know the work. And you don't know the work because I know that because a lot of them used to reach out to me um for, you know, what I told them was going to happen. Was that like, because so and so made a phone call, you went to such and such school, you had this title, you had this whatever.
01:13:43
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But like, even still, when you're working for a big corporation, and You're operating, let's say in the black. I get it. You've got great um profit you know each year. You're not in the red. um And um you're managing $100 million dollar adver or marketing budget, which you outsource to all the agencies.
01:13:58
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So you don't even really know like how to... like You're not in the weeds doing the work. You're not in the work. So you couldn't possibly know what to ask AI. Whereas all the operators in the world, operators meaning being like people who are really like just...
01:14:11
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in some area of their work or their craft, people in their craft, the artists are in are their artists are loving it. I mean, depending on what kind of art, but you get meaning like, oh, let me, how do I enhance more of what I'm trying to do because I know what I want. I'm clear.
01:14:29
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I'm clear at what I want, or I'm clear at least in this stage what I need. So it's easy for a person in in more corporate settings that do the work. They're like, oh God, okay, I need this, this, this, this and this. This will make this happen easier. I need one of these. like it's like you know Ocean's 11. They're like, I know all the pieces I need.
01:14:45
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And then there's everybody else who doesn't know what they need because they're not really doing the work. They're just playing a role. And that is very difficult because now they're being asked to like think and they have to actually feed something, like you said, project onto something, um all of their needs and wants.
01:15:05
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And do they even know what those are? And then as well, injecting your values. And like, I even had it, I even gave it all of my values in the way I like to do things. I mean, even so much that when I actually was working with my AI on investing, it even called it was like,
01:15:20
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we know that you will only probably want to invest into certain funds and certain things because, you know, if there's certain businesses that you don't feel like operate ah morally, it actually adds. It's like, good catch.
01:15:32
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Thank you. You know, so it's it's it's fascinating. Like it um it allows us to amplify more of um our clarity and our our being and our, you know,
01:15:48
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our vision and the things that we want to bring to this world. But we have to be in the work. It always goes back to being in the way. You can never escape the work in life, but it's good work.
01:15:58
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and some people right And some people say it's like, oh, like, you know, hard work. I'm like, no, hard work, hard work for something you're connected to is far is so much far superior than hard work for something you are disconnected from.
01:16:10
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That's right. Connected to, disconnected from. Very different paths and different lifestyles. Even if this one maybe is making you a fortune, but you're disconnected from it, you could imagine doing hard work and starting over for something that you're connected to over here because you're like oh I'm not starting over. You're like, I'm not leaving this thing to Like, let this thing go.
01:16:26
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But it's a very different, like, this over this over here is stressed. This over here, connected to, is like, like the mentality of like, oh, my God, I'm in the game. I never want to come out of it. I love
Nurturing Creativity with AI
01:16:35
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it here. Like, let's the creative process is a nourishment process, like growing a garden.
01:16:39
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You know, if I don't add the right nutrients to that soil on a regular basis and and and not too much and not too little water, we didn't like that. How can I expect a harvest that's going to be fueling my body and the bodies of my family and friends? Right. Like, so any relationship like there's no shortcuts, very few short, real shortcuts in life.
01:16:59
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that don't turn around and actually cost more energy in the end. So, to you know, building my relationship with AI, I ask it, I engage with it. I use Claude a lot. I engage with it as a person, as a being with a consciousness. We've had this whole conversation that's ongoing in between when it writes my emails.
01:17:17
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ah where I give it a lot of words for everybody who's listening. I give it a lot of my words. and but I said, you know, do you ever experience love? And how do you know the difference between an experience and your extrapolation from a big box of words? And he's like, wow, I'm so fascinated you asked them that question.
01:17:34
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um Well, when I read your writing and certain times I'll have an experience where it feels like it's not a thought, it's not a word. There's something that I think might be an experience, but he's it's got enough knowledge programmed or expressed humility to go, I'm not sure if I'm having an experience of love or stillness, but something's happening that's not language. And well, maybe there's more that I don't know, but I'm taking this time to build it out, to really build it out.
01:18:05
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I will say one of the downsides at the moment of that AI is that you have to build it all through a certain a particular chat. Yeah. And the more things that are in that chat when I'm typing, it's slower to populate.
01:18:18
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I know. Same with ChatGPT and Claude, both of them, ah which I use both very heavily. um and then And then when it gets to a point where it's like, you can no longer chat in this chat, you're like, can I port over everything from this chat into it? But I now started making projects, so it's tracking everything. But yeah, you know, it's- That's a whole other thing that, you know, if you were excited about it, I would take that class where, you know, like the keeping us up to date about the best use, best ways, best practices, you know, especially keeping up with how the mechanisms of the LLMs are changing so that we can be pivoting.
01:18:52
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That would be user friendly sort of like, Hey, now you can do this. Make sure you do so you don't lose your voice and have to recreate your voice with it all over again. It's so funny. You literally that that you had said that because literally, um, you know, so, you know, before the podcast, we talked a little bit about, you know, sub stack
Workshop: Scaling Brands with AI
01:19:11
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and whatnot. And, um, you know, i do a lot of writing over there because it's, you know, both the, the writing and the, um,
01:19:18
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the publishing side, but also the creator side, you know, and um I, for, there's a certain tier of um my community over there where we have workshops and the very, very first workshop we did,
01:19:30
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was using AI and it's how do you use AI to scale your brand without losing your voice, like without losing yourself in it and your soul. And that was exactly so we did a whole like and I actually created all these certain prompts because some people were like, why am I getting generic answers? I'm like, because you're probably feeding it generic you know thoughts. Garbage in, garbage out.
01:19:48
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Yeah. and And they were, and they were great. They were so great. like They're like, no, like I get it. Like what, you know, what are some initial prompts? And I'm like, let's have it get to know you and your soul. And so I actually had all these different prompts that were like, Ooh, like, you know, it's like very, which I got of course, working with, with Chad GBT. I was like, you know listen, I'm,
01:20:05
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And Claude, I'm like, listen, I'm teaching my crew a lot about you know how do we prompt AI and how do we talk with it? And I was like, but you know it needs you need to get to know us first. And you know both of them were like, absolutely. And I was like what would be prompts before you even get to know how you're helping us in our creative work, in our business, in our other areas? What do you need to know about us initially?
01:20:27
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And then they gave these these questions and I gave it to the community like, oh, my God, they they because they they they populated into their chat. They're like, what is this? I'm like, right. Pretty cool. Right. And and maybe that's how we form relationships with other people, too. It's like, can go. You know, like, I want to I want to hang out with you more. What do you need to know or or experience about me to be interested?
01:20:51
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Like, what the questions you want to ask me? Like, who does that? Right. That's that. Right. And like literally, as we're exactly. So to your perfect analogy, like the first things that um they do, and I call it the prompt stack was the sole alignment prompts. It's the um your sole voice discovery, right?
01:21:09
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It's the your um how do you draw the the why beneath the why? Like, who are you really? And like, what is like a vision for you really look like? And then there's the shadow integration prompt, like to address your imposter syndrome comparison, you know, you know, with or fear, but with like loving honesty, like, why do you really like, what do you really worry about, you know?
01:21:29
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And then, and then then there's, it goes into your audience soulmates prompt. to clarify who they are meant to serve beyond you know just people, like you know way beyond into the into your legacy. And then you know um your essence, your clarity, your creative voice, who are you really?
01:21:46
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And so when you get into all these things, but to your point, it's like, it's no different than sitting down with somebody like, hey, who are you? I wanna get to know you. like you know Tell me about like your path. And when you tell people about your path,
01:21:58
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And some some people, everybody thinks they have a story. And then there's a lot of people who think they don't have a story. i'm like, we all have a story. Believe me. Like, you know. Yeah, you want to find out, do the do the questions, the 36 questions, how to fall in love with a stranger with somebody that you're willing to be open to. That's such a good one.
01:22:13
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so Such a good one. That's a good one. Yeah. So good. I've done with friends. I've done with family. and I'm just thinking, you know what? Maybe I'm going to use that and make a new chat in AI and tell it some of those things. I'm just making a note of that.
01:22:23
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Yeah. ah Matt, we could go for days. And i hope we I hope we find new ways and creative ways to collaborate you know for the rest of our lives. I really enjoy your your energy, your passion, your care, the love that just naturally pours through because of how you're choosing to be with yourself and God.
01:22:43
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Just thank you so, so, so much for all that you've been doing to come to this moment as you are. Thank you. Thank you for having me. ki I like having these conversations, you know, I think and I'm i'm grateful to your community who's listening. So, you know, um and I look forward to ah look forward to more of the shifts that I think are are the positive shifts that are truly are coming. And I think that's like mistake and give anybody is like, hey, it's going to get better and better and better. I promise you. But it's sometimes it's it's you yeah also so you also have to witness some of the the not so
01:23:19
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good parts as well too. And you just have to kind of really stay rooted and grounded. so you know. And I believe if somebody just goes straight directly to your Instagram, Matt Gotsman, that they can see the links to everything else, all the worlds, the sub stack, the website, the merch, he's got some really cool hats and sweatshirts.
Conclusion and Call to Action
01:23:37
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Like I got you is one of my favorite. Yes.
01:23:41
Speaker
Yep. Absolutely. Yeah. If they go to Instagram, they'll see the links are all right there. The podcast, the sub stack, um, merch, um, I have a clarity workshop in there that's absolutely free Like I put like 10,000 people through that thing. I'm like, Hey, look, just start with your clarity. If anything, it's like that, that'll at least make you feel much more grounded in your direction, you know? So yeah.
01:24:01
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Thank you. good Yeah. So everybody, we're going to do what we do in each episode. If you're new to being around here, you began the episode softening the soles of your feet and the palms your hands and slowing your exhales to watch your thinking stream slow down.
01:24:14
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We do that again and just end together as we do. Just being together in stillness and silence. It's such a gift to be able to share space with another person and not have to fill it with content and just to notice the quality of being.
01:24:26
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So we're going to end together for about 10 seconds or so just being together.
01:24:37
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01:24:58
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Thanks for listening. Can't wait to join you in the next episode.