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Finding Your Voice and Break Free (Jimbo Paris Show #146 with Gresson Peiffor)
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In this episode, we're joined by Gresson, who has a remarkable story of breaking free from a traditional office job to embrace her true calling and share her wisdom with the world.
🔍 Let's familiarize ourselves with Gresson, as she shares her insights into the process of breaking free from self-imposed limitations and societal expectations.
💡 Get to the heart of her journey with an office job, but she always felt a deeper calling in her heart.She knew she had a larger role to play in the world, one where she could teach, inspire, and motivate others.
📚 Delve into Gresson's transformation from being known as the shy and quiet type to realizing her full potential is an inspiring testament to personal growth
💬 Collect individual viewpoints on valuable life lessons to tap into one's inner wisdom and power.
🎓 Study how to embrace your authentic self and shedding old identities is a powerful part of the journey.
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0:00 - Intro
0:05 - Identity and Self-discovery
3:20 - Cultural identity, trauma healing and personal growth.
10:47 - Gresson's personal journey of healing
17:35 - Healing from childhood trauma and toxic relationship.
22:45 - Healing, Self-awareness and relationships.
28:46 - Trauma healing and forgiveness.
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Transcript
Introduction to Bresson Piper
00:00:05
Speaker
I am Jimbo Paris and you are listening to the Jimbo Paris Show.
00:00:16
Speaker
All right. Hello, everyone. This is Jimbo here. Welcome again to the show today. We have Bresson Piper. So she's basically focused on a lot of things. She's a mental health advocate. She's a half Belgian, half Philippine one. And she's focused on kind of creating this journey for people and kind of discovering your true self.
00:00:41
Speaker
You know, she produces a lot of different things. She's, you know, this catalyst of spiritual transformation. She, you know, she tries to teach people to kind of get through trauma and to sort of tap into their potential. So again, very interesting woman. And yeah, let's get started.
Bresson's Mixed-Race Background and Challenges
00:01:01
Speaker
So how are you? Hello. Hello. I'm fine. Thank you for having me. All right. So I think the first question I need to ask you is, you know, who are you?
00:01:12
Speaker
Let me start by saying my name again, Gresson Pfeiffer. I live in Belgium. And like you said, I have Filipino background. I have a Filipino mother and a Belgian father. So I grew up as a mixed race woman. But of course, I didn't know about my Filipino identity way back then because I was born in Belgium. I was surrounded by Belgian people, the culture.
00:01:36
Speaker
the influences and those values. And of course, the first trip that I took to the Philippines is like when I was five years. So that awareness and that consciousness wasn't there yet. So I couldn't tap into it then. And I wasn't familiar with that side yet. So what was it like growing up in Belgium as a mixed person?
00:02:04
Speaker
It came with a lot of challenges, like at school, I wasn't, you know, sometimes children don't know how to go along with other cultures, other races, because they are not familiar with that. And then of course they shut me out somehow, because they must have sensed that I have a different energy, and they didn't know how to play with me. And that was my first encounter with racism, you know,
00:02:32
Speaker
I think it's familiar with people with different cultures, backgrounds. And it isn't easy because we as children, yeah, we don't understand. And if parents don't inform us, we get those limited beliefs and patterns installed in us.
00:02:53
Speaker
That must have been really, really difficult and challenging. And I think the next question I have is, how did you sort of begin to become comfortable with your Filipino side and begin to sort of embrace who you truly are?
Embracing Filipino Heritage
00:03:07
Speaker
Well, my first awakening experience started with my first trip to the Philippines when I was an adult. Like I was about 20, 21 years old. When I got off the plane, there was a sense of immoleality that I wasn't used to. It's like a reverse culture shock.
00:03:26
Speaker
It was like I got used to the Philippines and I didn't felt like homesick, you know? It was that familiar feeling. I felt like it was my second home and my mom kind of said to me like her friends and she herself, when they got back from the Philippines to Belgium, they got kind of depressed.
00:03:49
Speaker
And I was wondering why. What was so different about the Philippines than Belgium? Is there something specific? And I had to laugh when I got back that year when I was 21. I was like, oh my God, yes, you were right, because I got depressed as well. It took me one month to get used to Belgium again. So you sort of like the Philippines more than Belgium?
00:04:13
Speaker
yes definitely i feel more at home there they're more yeah you know hospitable they're more warm open and i kind of recognize myself in that but i kind of suppressed it when i was younger because
00:04:30
Speaker
i didn't know how to navigate that first thing and the second thing is like i kind of conformed to what society wanted and it didn't feel right so i suppressed it again 2014 but then i went back and back and back to the philippines and it took me like five trips
Self-Discovery and Identity
00:04:56
Speaker
to make me realize I feel like 80% is Filipino within me and like 20% is Belgian. And I was like, no way. I was totally shocked because that's when my journey started, like back to my authentic self. And I always wanted to attract more Filipinos in Belgium, but of course I couldn't because I wasn't authentic to myself. I was avoiding myself. Once you finally became authentic to yourself, how did you discover
00:05:24
Speaker
your true passion. And what is sort of your true passion? Yeah, I think it's now sharing my journey with others.
00:05:33
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like making them aware that they don't have to conform to society because i feel like like i explained before it's like a reverse pattern it will get you drained and we're kind of used to that because we like to feel the familiar feeling instead of going out of our comfort zone but it's when we heal
00:05:55
Speaker
And when we get out of our comfort zones, then we get to experience our better life. The things that are meant for us just come naturally, you know. How do you think your story has helped other people to sort of begin to get out of their comfort zones as well?
00:06:13
Speaker
Let me just tell you just a little bit more about how my childhood was like with my father and then I will pick up on your question.
Generational Trauma and Healing
00:06:22
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Like we all know there is generational trauma within us and I feel like I was like a mirror to my father. I must have triggered some things within him
00:06:37
Speaker
that made him lash out to me. I feel like back then he didn't know how to navigate through his trauma because he didn't manage to heal, but he kind of worked it out on me. But I see it now as a blessing because I can get to help other people navigate through their lives now with that.
00:06:57
Speaker
and he was kind of like dominant. Growing up with him felt kind of like a prison because I wasn't allowed to move around like a child would do. I was constantly like shushed down. I needed to keep quiet and I had some learning, how do you call it? I was slower learning.
00:07:22
Speaker
Yeah, I was much slower than others. I remember him always sitting next to me, like, you know, always impatient. I was coloring outside the lines. I wasn't cutting forms straight. But now I realize that that small thing is already a huge part in my journey right now because that made me feel controlled and get into people pleasing mode. And it's important for
00:07:51
Speaker
parents to see that those small things already have that kind of influence on their children. But again, it isn't their fault because they didn't know how to heal their own traumas.
00:08:04
Speaker
That is really fascinating. And what you're talking about there is sort of this idea that trauma can be carried over throughout the generations, basically. And what you're trying to do is even bigger than just helping other people with trauma, but you're trying to create a new generation of people that can better, okay, that's a really big problem.
00:08:27
Speaker
But it all starts within ourselves. We have our own learning curve in our own time. And whenever I encounter other people, I tell myself, like, I have planted the seed already within them. The rest is up to them. I can't make them change. It all starts within myself. And I think the next thing we get into now is sort of
00:08:55
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your book, you know, how did sort of your book play a role in kind of planting the seed? Did it play a role in planting the seed or did you use some other method to begin planting the seed? Yes, I think it started with a blog because I wanted to see people's reactions first on my writing style and everything. Is there an audience for this? And it really helped me because the best thing to do is to start small, small steps.
00:09:24
Speaker
and then you get to the bigger ones, you know? And then I started to have synchronicities sent by the universe that I should start something bigger because I already had 100 blogs and I wanted to reach more people. So I decided to do this in English because it's a universal language and to me it kind of speaks more from the soul and from the heart.
00:09:49
Speaker
and it kind of came to me while I was doing my healing and to me it was a blessing that it came true to me like a channeling because I was like getting all of a sudden all those ideas out of nowhere and I was stunned and I had to write it all down because when I didn't two hours later I lost my ideas and then I thought oh okay then we go to someone else
Creative Journey: Blogging to Book
00:10:18
Speaker
So when it came to writing your book, are you self-published? I made it available on Amazon because I wanted to have control over the cover. Because if I may have gone to a publisher, they may change the cover, but I didn't want it. I didn't want to change. I wanted to have my own influence, my own input, my own authenticity.
00:10:43
Speaker
Yeah, you know, and additionally, I just wanted to say this, when it comes to that cover, how did you begin to incorporate that into your actual story? And what was so special about the cover that you had to be self published? What was so
00:11:01
Speaker
I think it's let me just say what it represents I'll start with that the background is like a place in El Nido in the Philippines and me with with the butterfly on my back is like also a picture I just asked somebody to draw it
00:11:22
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and put it into one picture because it represents my authentic self like 70% Filipino but also I was like walking on the water and that kind of represents my faith in the universe.
00:11:38
Speaker
like people will read in my book it's like everything happens for a reason and to me it's kind of like the universe was guiding me through my whole journey all along I had like those synchronicities that everything would play out just fine but of course we are programmed to choose fear above our intuition to choose other people's opinions above our own
00:12:06
Speaker
And now I'm slowly just changing the process by unlearning everything and just inserting my new beliefs and perspectives.
Deep Dive into Childhood Trauma
00:12:17
Speaker
Let's take a quick look at your website. We're also going to bring in our co-host, Gladys, here as well. And she'll be chiming into the questions here. So yeah.
00:12:27
Speaker
Hi Gerson, how are you? Hello, I'm fine, I'm fine. Yeah, I was at the backstage, so listening. And I was actually getting interested with you talking about the trauma you got from your father. So going back at that kind of situation, do you think there's a reason behind that? I mean, why was your father acting like that?
00:12:49
Speaker
yeah i believe the parents are soul needs and i think it's pretty clear that my story affirms it it kind of confirms that statement and i feel he just did the things he did because
00:13:07
Speaker
At that time, that's what he knew he was best for me. And it might be of his own upbringing as well because I had a conversation with him. I asked why he did that, why he treated me that way, but he couldn't answer it. He didn't know. Perhaps there is a background or there is a history, right? So for you, you feel like you are 80% Filipina, right? Yeah.
00:13:34
Speaker
Okay, so do you know any Filipino words? Yes, yes, I know plenty but... Just like what? So can you give an example? Who knows our Filipino viewers? Yeah, Suzy, that's like a key. Okay, so what else?
00:13:55
Speaker
You know, I really have to think about this because there's many and there's a lot of funny statements as well. I'm going to jump in with the last conversation you have with Jimbo regarding with your book and your experiences. So how do you handle those people who are not believing that in the process that just like what you have experienced?
00:14:18
Speaker
Nowadays, first of all, I don't take things personally. I remain open to other people's opinions and perceptions. And I try not to be influenced by that too much. And I'm also like choosing my circle. The people I want to measure. Because that's also important. Yeah, they always talk about Soul Track.
00:14:47
Speaker
Yeah, I just wanted to throw in here. You had a very interesting conversation there because I didn't know you were technically bilingual. But I think another thing was, you know, after experiencing those massive
00:14:58
Speaker
you know, traumatic experiences, you know, with, you know, your, your controlling lifestyle. When your father said, you know, I don't know, I don't know why that all happened, you know, what was going through your head at that time, because that must be a very well, at least if I was in that situation, that would have been a really odd answer.
00:15:18
Speaker
And for me, it's like I asked him those questions, but it feels like he didn't have the ability to give me the closure. So I had to like guess what happened for myself. I had to fill in the own blanks because of course my adult self knows, but my inner child is still stuck there. And then I was wondering, what am I going to tell my inner child?
00:15:45
Speaker
to get her out of those traumatic situations. Up until now, that is still a question in you. Haven't you asked that on your mother? What's wrong? Why is that my friend actually made that way? I guess she came up with the same answers like me.
00:16:02
Speaker
And I kind of find closure within that. Of course I have forgiven them, I've forgiven him, but I refuse to have him in my life right now because he keeps on poking those wounds. Yeah, he keeps on spreading lies about us.
00:16:22
Speaker
so you have to say and up until now it is still hurting you inside yeah it still comes up if i just get one example he he kind of you know when it was raining he kind of picked me up with the bus and when the sun was shining he kind of picked me up by his car and that which made me think i think it was subconsciously back then
00:16:46
Speaker
which now make me think like does he even value me or does he value materials over his own child? Do you think someday that pain inside you will heal and then I guess it will take time to heal. Yeah but I think it's not only time I think it's to remove the limited beliefs and turn to self-love that will heal me more
00:17:11
Speaker
then time because time passes and I can choose not to do the inner work. But what happens then is I will keep attracting the same situations, the same people all over again. So now I'm choosing myself. I stop to self avoid and I'm facing all of the pain.
00:17:30
Speaker
because I know I have to and I have been already stepping like 50% already on the other side and I get like yeah those little glimpses of abundance already coming my way so I know I will be fine. It just takes that self-love and that time to you know that confront that inner child of mine. Excellent answer and I'm thinking now too you know what's
00:17:57
Speaker
What's sort of the future now that you've sort of developed all this skill set, all this experience? What's next in your journey?
00:18:07
Speaker
I'm working on a second book. I'm also thinking to do a children's book because it all starts. I think the age between three and seven are the most important ones. And if children ends up with one unhealthy parent, that's already enough. They should learn how to navigate through this and heal themselves. Try to get that self-awareness already at that age. I know it's like impossible.
00:18:37
Speaker
But maybe there is a chance. I think if I start with children, work with children, that will be also something nice that I'm thinking about. But I'm kind of seeing what the universe wants and I'm following the flow of the journey.
00:18:55
Speaker
Because if I want things too soon, I may just, you know, sabotage. And I've also been told I like an energy healer. So I think I'm now 31. So I'm thinking age 40, maybe start a coaching business slash energy healer, because I feel like there is going to be more and more people triggered nowadays. And they're going to want to tap in those modalities as well.
00:19:25
Speaker
Excellent, sir. We're reaching the end of our show here. This has been an amazing interview. Gladys, do you have any more questions you want to ask? What advice can you give to those people who also experience this kind of traumatic situation?
00:19:39
Speaker
I would say that they should find something how to suit themselves. It could be a walk in the park. It doesn't necessarily have to be meditations or energy through gets your work like I am doing. And I think 70% of my healing journey I have been doing by my own, by myself, on my own pace.
00:20:00
Speaker
But it's always nice to have those people around you that you can talk to, but you have to turn to somebody who makes you feel safe, heard, and seen. Because if you don't have that person around you, it won't make your situation much worse, I would say. What could be your message to your father?
00:20:20
Speaker
And that I am trying to forgive him because I understand what must have gone through within him. Because again, I feel like I was just a mirror. The intensity that I was in as a child must have been too much for him to handle. So of course, his anger came out. So I understand why it had to happen. And I'm now putting that pain into purpose.
00:20:47
Speaker
and I know I'll be fine so I'll be forgiving him but I'm not allowing him back yet I hope it will be possible I have to put myself first right now
00:20:59
Speaker
All right. So yeah, putting yourself first. Are there any final words you would like to say to the audience watching here right
Healing and Moving Forward
00:21:07
Speaker
now? Any kind of trauma what they're going through is validated. And I know it isn't an easy journey, but I managed to make my journey a fun journey because I get to re-experience myself. I get to discover myself all over again.
00:21:27
Speaker
So I'm trying to put the focus on that and not think about the pain that I still have to go through. And that way it's easier to navigate. And what I want to close off with is like, when you face a pain as soon as possible, I feel like the things
00:21:47
Speaker
meant for us will attract more easily and will come in flow. And like I said before, it's unfamiliar. That's most important to focus on instead of the familiar because we tend to attract the familiar because it's easy. But when we face all of our emotions, just consider what you will get like an endless possibilities.
00:22:13
Speaker
And finally, how can we reach you? My book is available on Amazon, any Amazon website. I'm having an account on Instagram. It's like rest and buy for underscore author. And yeah, like that. That's my summary. Because the book is also available in the Philippines for Filipino listeners. And also I have put some articles because I'm working together with a Filipino company
00:22:42
Speaker
called Bookshelf. They are like writing monthly an article about my book to find more information. You know what it is about and everything. Excellent. All right. Well, thank you for being on the show. It's really been a privilege. I want to also thank the audience here for watching us. This is the Jimbo Parrish Show. I'll see you again.
00:23:07
Speaker
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Speaker
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