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Speaker: What is up everyone?
Speaker: Welcome back to Sex, Drugs, and Whatever.
Speaker: I'm Vera James and I have such a special guest for you all today.
Speaker: I have a good friend of mine for a while, Sadie Star, also known as StargirlMilf on Twitter and Minivins.
Speaker: Hey girl, hey, what's up?
Speaker: Hey, how are you?
Speaker: I'm so fucking good.
Speaker: I'm so excited.
Speaker: I try not to get too excited when
Speaker: we first spoke so I could get excited now.
Speaker: We've been talking for a long time.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: And I mean, I mean, we even have that collab out together.
Speaker: You've been such a great friend of mine like this last year.
Speaker: So it's been great.
Speaker: Same, like same.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: It's very nice to officially, I guess if you can even consider this meeting, I feel like half my fucking friends are,
Speaker: virtual friends nowadays, but I know.
Speaker: So tell us a little bit about yourself, ma'am.
Speaker: How did you get into sex work?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So, um, when I first started, I was actually in college or right out of college and I was living on my own with like five other roommates and like a three bedroom apartment.
Speaker: And I was super broke.
Speaker: So I was like, let me try out camming.
Speaker: And I gave it, um, a try for maybe like
Speaker: three months or so.
Speaker: And I was like, I don't think this is for me, never really made any money.
Speaker: And I was like, this is too difficult.
Speaker: Um, and then I kind of gave up on it for a really long time, never really got into it again.
Speaker: Um, but this last year I got back into it.
Speaker: Um, and I'll be honest, it was kind of the same thing with like, you know, money situation.
Speaker: I was like, I need it, you know, some extra pocket change.
Speaker: So I started, um,
Speaker: I want to say January of 2023.
Speaker: Um, I actually started out on panty deal again, and the original intent was to just sell panties, you know, make a little extra money.
Speaker: And then that kind of quickly turned into, you know, doing custom videos for different people.
Speaker: And then once I started kind of building that up, I was like, I'm just sitting on these videos.
Speaker: I need to find a site where I can, you know, resell these, um,
Speaker: And personally, I wasn't really interested in doing OnlyFans per se.
Speaker: So I found many vids and I was like, oh, this is perfect.
Speaker: It's a clip site.
Speaker: I can just upload these things.
Speaker: And then that kind of spiraled into what it is today.
Speaker: So, and I think throughout the last year, I really have found my niche.
Speaker: I found out that I play mommy very well, gentle mommy dom, all things taboo, all things role play.
Speaker: And I think this last year too, just being on many vids because it's such a fetish friendly site, I have discovered so many things that I didn't even think were fetishes.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: What is your, what is,
Speaker: the most unique or special request you've had let's say oh gosh um so definitely I think the first time I got like a nose fetish or sneezing custom request I was like people want to see me sneeze which I thought was like great because I deal with allergies year-round so I'm just naturally a very sneezy person and so that actually became um
Speaker: one of like my top selling fetishes was just sneezing nose fetish.
Speaker: And then I've dabbled in the like, you know, ass worship.
Speaker: And then that kind of went led to farting and all that stuff.
Speaker: But I try not to do a lot of that because I'm like, hi, you know, I know that there's a customer out there for it.
Speaker: So if it's like a simple customer request, I'll do it.
Speaker: But it's not something that sells well on my personal page.
Speaker: Because like I said, I've definitely marketed myself as
Speaker: mommy.
Speaker: And that's kind of what I rolled with.
Speaker: And that's what I enjoy doing the most is different types of role play.
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: I think I've always just been a natural mommy in a way.
Speaker: I've always been the mom in my group of friends.
Speaker: So that just came really natural to me.
Speaker: That's cool.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: That's what I like too.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I tried a couple other ways, but
Speaker: I mean, also just the sales, everybody has what everybody fucking wants.
Speaker: I can make a mommy video and it'll sell.
Speaker: immediately and then I'll try something else I mean even like sister doesn't do like as well you know yeah um one thing that I actually have been getting a lot of requests for have just been like cheating fantasies which actually have been selling pretty well but almost all of those are custom requests from one specific customer too he has like a cheating impregnation fantasy kind of like manipulation going on um
Speaker: I might know that one customer.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And so he'll buy like multiple at a time.
Speaker: And so they're so, those are pretty easy to sell too.
Speaker: But I actually, like I was telling you earlier before we hopped on, I was just editing a custom and it was actually really fun.
Speaker: It was a best friend's mommy role play.
Speaker: So I'm hoping that that sells too when I put it up on my actual store.
Speaker: I hope it sells for you too.
Speaker: Yeah, that one.
Speaker: Cuckolding.
Speaker: That one will be good for me as well.
Speaker: But it'll do the best if it's mommy with a fucking bully.
Speaker: Yeah, seriously.
Speaker: And I'm cuckolding his son.
Speaker: They're like, y'all love that shit.
Speaker: Y'all.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: I feel like you slap mommy in there somewhere and it's fine.
Speaker: It'll sell for sure.
Speaker: It will.
Speaker: It will.
Speaker: But it gets me.
Speaker: Then I still have an OnlyFans.
Speaker: I kind of regret it.
Speaker: doing that because they're just now they're so strict and I can't I can put stepmom on there yeah but I don't even do a lot of stepmom shit yeah I know I'm I'm on fansly too and they're actually pretty um you know fetish taboo friendly but they actually just sent out a thing saying that they're like changing their terms of service and they are explicitly saying you have to call yourself step mommy now
Speaker: So painfully, I had to go back to all of my posts and like edit and put stuff in there in front of mommy.
Speaker: And I'm like, oh, this is so annoying.
Speaker: But I think it's just in general, the state of everything surrounding porn right now.
Speaker: All the credit card processors not wanting to work with not safe for work sites.
Speaker: So I'm really hoping ManyVids doesn't fall down that path because that would be pretty painful.
Speaker: Please y'all don't.
Speaker: Yes, please don't.
Speaker: I think they are doing mini-vids.
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: I'm just speculating.
Speaker: The push for safe for work content to try to be competitive and to keep some of those credit card people happy as well.
Speaker: But I don't know.
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: I hope y'all don't.
Speaker: I don't know what I would do.
Speaker: I know, seriously.
Speaker: And fend them.
Speaker: Which reminds me about, that is what my email was about today.
Speaker: I'm going to read John from, it just says, Fendom, help.
Speaker: Hey there.
Speaker: That's what it said.
Speaker: All lowercase.
Speaker: Hey, Vera.
Speaker: I have been dating this girl, Amanda, for about six months and it's perfect.
Speaker: We are falling in love.
Speaker: Oh, that's so cute.
Speaker: Like that good stage of love, too.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Where it's real fucking good and mushy.
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: It's great.
Speaker: I don't have much experience with relationships, so I'm constantly nervous.
Speaker: I will mess something up.
Speaker: A few weeks ago, Amanda was very vulnerable with me and told me she has fantasies about being dominated and humiliated in the bedroom.
Speaker: Mm-hmm.
Speaker: This is so new to me.
Speaker: Exclamation, exclamation, exclamation.
Speaker: I'm the complete opposite of dominant.
Speaker: We have an amazing sex life.
Speaker: And she even said, it's not a deal breaker or anything if I cannot do this.
Speaker: But I really want to make her happy and try it.
Speaker: Any advice on how to get into this?
Speaker: Where to start?
Speaker: Hmm.
Speaker: Ooh, that was a good little question.
Speaker: Y'all are coming up with the best shit.
Speaker: I love it.
Speaker: I'm here for the love, boo-boo.
Speaker: What?
Speaker: First of all, I think there is such a misconception about, like, that doms, like fin doms, you know, that they're just the ones that, like,
Speaker: get off on humiliation.
Speaker: And, like, I don't think that... I've never fucking met a dom that is actually the one, like, controlling the fantasy.
Speaker: Then you might, like, wanna... Like, you have some... I don't know.
Speaker: You might have something wrong with you if you actually get off by that shit.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So, I think you're very fucking normal for that.
Speaker: And...
Speaker: You've got to fucking be vulnerable and be able to really fucking laugh and like in the bedroom, be able to role play stuff.
Speaker: It's going to get silly and weird.
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: You're probably going to even feel embarrassed.
Speaker: I feel like that's what sex work has brought a lot of that type of stuff to my own bedroom where I didn't even realize how
Speaker: like shy and timid I was around a lot of things sex but yeah you just have to fucking and really like plan people in like BDSM when they talk about planning out a scene yeah you could even write exactly things like a script for yourself wouldn't you say Sadie
Speaker: Yeah, I would think so too.
Speaker: And I think, like what you just said, I think talking to your girlfriend and kind of getting an understanding of, you know, how she would like to be dominated or if there's things that, you know, she wants you to say.
Speaker: And I think most importantly to setting boundaries on that, because you don't want to take it too far and then really make her uncomfortable or say something that's going to make you uncomfortable.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I think boundaries is very healthy when starting out and just, you know, having that open line of communication and understanding what both of you will eventually, you know, get out of this.
Speaker: And to be honest, at first, it's going to feel awkward, of course, because you're not used to it.
Speaker: It's something that you have to get used to.
Speaker: But I think try it, you know, have that conversation with your girlfriend and
Speaker: get some ideas going and then try it once or twice.
Speaker: And if it doesn't come natural to you eventually, you know, then sit her down again and have that conversation and be like, Hey, I don't know if this is something that I can do.
Speaker: Yeah, exactly.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I think it's really great that y'all have the type of communication that you do.
Speaker: Like this email is giving green flags.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I love it.
Speaker: It's
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: It seems like a very healthy relationship.
Speaker: And if you don't like it, you don't have to do that shit again.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And I think too, it's good that she said, you know, if you're not comfortable with it, we don't have to do it.
Speaker: Whereas I feel like there are some people where like, this is a deal breaker if you can't, you know, if you're not going to do this.
Speaker: So green flags all around.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Thank you for writing in.
Speaker: Miss Sadie, what else?
Speaker: What else you've got going on over there on the other side of the U.S.?
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: It's been hectic to say the least, you know, just juggling a lot of different things in life and trying to make sure that I'm also maintaining my relationship with my husband and stuff.
Speaker: And it's just, I feel like
Speaker: I feel like when a lot of people get into sex work, they think that it's going to be this very simple, like, oh, I'm just going to, you know, take some nudes, make a couple videos and it's going to be fine.
Speaker: But no, there's a lot that goes into it.
Speaker: And for me, I'm a very type A person.
Speaker: Like I need to have everything organized.
Speaker: I need to have lists and a schedule going.
Speaker: And when Easter had come around, I was out of town.
Speaker: And when I came back, I was just so discombobulated and I was so out of just sync with everything going on.
Speaker: And weeks later, I'm like, okay, I'm getting back into the groove of things and I'm actually having like a good set schedule.
Speaker: And I'm finally caught up on all my goddamn custom orders.
Speaker: That was like killing me.
Speaker: I'm never going to offer custom orders again in a contest.
Speaker: That was just awful.
Speaker: I did that.
Speaker: It's well last time.
Speaker: And yeah, I had them out for weeks.
Speaker: So I know that they're awesome about it.
Speaker: So yeah, I know.
Speaker: And it sucks too.
Speaker: Cause I only have like one day a week where I can really film.
Speaker: So yesterday I, last night was my night to film and I was running around like a chicken with its head cut off.
Speaker: I filmed like five or six videos in one night.
Speaker: And now this weekend I have to edit all of them, but I'm like at least,
Speaker: I'm finally caught up on my list and I, that was such a huge relief.
Speaker: You, I wish, I think you, didn't you say one time you were a cancer?
Speaker: That's not like cancer.
Speaker: No, I'm, I'm a Capricorn.
Speaker: That's what I meant.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: That is really what I meant.
Speaker: That's what I said in my fucking head.
Speaker: Like the regiment, like the schedules and shit.
Speaker: My life would drive you crazy.
Speaker: I can't.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And I told you I'm going through like the EMDR and it's just had me like everywhere.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: What about, I wanted to ask you, what do you think sex work has helped your relationship or not necessarily helped, but how has it affected it?
Speaker: Cause I've, yeah.
Speaker: In ways I didn't even know needed.
Speaker: Yeah, I think it's definitely at this point now, you know, a year into it, it's definitely helped.
Speaker: When I'll be completely candid, like when I first started, it was definitely, you know, I had that conversation with my husband when I started on Panty Deal, and he was down for it.
Speaker: But then when it kind of escalated to the videos, he was a little bit apprehensive, totally understandable, you know, because, you know, the internet is forever.
Speaker: eventually, you know, we, after many, many conversations, we, you know, we kind of came to an agreement that would make both of us feel comfortable, which is where like my schedule with everything kind of came in.
Speaker: So he knew what I was kind of getting up to on each days.
Speaker: And he understands now, you know, my filming nights are Thursday nights and he's out doing his thing Thursday night.
Speaker: So we kind of keep that separate, but when it comes to the bedroom, you know,
Speaker: we're trying so many new things that we've never tried before.
Speaker: Me, I've always been more of a submissive person.
Speaker: And, you know, when my husband and I first started dating and we first started getting married and all of my past relationship, I've definitely been more submissive.
Speaker: But now since doing this, I'm like, I like taking control and being that dom and he likes it too, which I, you know, it's so funny to see that reversal of roles
Speaker: Um, so that's definitely been fun just trying, you know, new things and it's, it's been good now.
Speaker: It's been definitely very helpful and very good.
Speaker: And he's getting more comfortable in front of the camera now too, which is great.
Speaker: Um, so yeah, all around, it's definitely helped us a lot.
Speaker: That's good.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I think the same thing.
Speaker: It's just helped me find my voice.
Speaker: You know, I'm like a huge advocate for
Speaker: mental health and I do discuss all the shit I'm going through a little bit online but like it's just really a huge part of my healing journey and I didn't didn't even mean it to be I really think that I randomly chose this profession a few years ago out of a trauma response and just fucking reckless and here sex work is
Speaker: I think sex work can be very empowering to women too, you know, because no matter what role you're playing in front of the camera, we're the ones in charge because we're the ones selling the product, you know, we're providing that fantasy for whoever is buying, whether it be a girl or a guy, but we're the ones taking control, you know, and I feel like
Speaker: the longer you've been in the industry, you know, the easier it is to kind of weed out the people who aren't that serious or the God forsaken time wasters.
Speaker: But at the same time, it's like, God, same.
Speaker: But it's like, when we say no, it's like, we say no.
Speaker: And people actually listen where it's like, I feel like, you know, I feel like sometimes in real life, no might not mean no to some people, which is really sad.
Speaker: And I think
Speaker: sex work is empowering in that way because like you said you find your voice in it and understand how to be confident in your decisions and how you display yourself yes yes girl yes speaking of those fucking time oysters oh god I don't they finally like leave me alone but no a time oyster might have even messaged me this morning I had blocked him
Speaker: And he came back around.
Speaker: And I just... Like, weird shit like that.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: It's like... What would you say to, like, new girls?
Speaker: Or just, like, what is your take on that?
Speaker: Because I was just so fucking unprepared for the deep levels of manipulation that these people are willing.
Speaker: They're fucking... They're experts, y'all.
Speaker: Oh, yeah.
Speaker: For years.
Speaker: And they're fucking insane.
Speaker: They will do...
Speaker: anything to try to get like 30 minutes of your time I mean hell 10 minutes isn't the craziest shit I definitely was underprepared for the amount of time wasters that came into that would come into my space um and I was definitely very naive in that aspect but I quickly learned um to value my time you know
Speaker: So I would say for like new girls stepping into the industry, if you kind of have a gut feeling that somebody is going to waste your time, trust that gut feeling.
Speaker: Kind of what I do now.
Speaker: So if I get a request for a custom or somebody reaches out about something, I give them no more than two follow-ups and then they get an automatic block because if they're leaving me on bread and they're just not responding to me, I'm like, okay, you've wasted my time long enough and I don't
Speaker: I don't have the energy or the time to be playing your games.
Speaker: And then there's always the people who send you those really, really long scripts for custom video.
Speaker: And then you guys keep going back and forth on, you know, changing things or something.
Speaker: And then at the very end of the day, they just leave you on read and don't buy anything.
Speaker: And it's like,
Speaker: great.
Speaker: So you basically got a free sexting session out of it because we were, you know, exchanging ideas or something.
Speaker: And then on top of that, there are the guys who just message you for fun, trying to get a free sexting session out of it, which is so frustrating.
Speaker: But they, the second I, the second I sense that their conversation is trying to lead to something more sexual, I'm like, Hey, I don't like, let's not go there.
Speaker: If you want to tip me,
Speaker: cool, then we can go there, but let's get back to the point of the conversation.
Speaker: Do you want to buy something or not?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Because that's what it is at the end of the day.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I don't, I appreciate the true fans so much.
Speaker: Just the ones that, you know, say nice things on Twitter.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And like retweet your shit.
Speaker: And I'm telling like, I don't know why that's so triggering.
Speaker: I've not figured out, but time wasters,
Speaker: fucking so triggering it's so triggering to me I know I have definitely found some gems on many vids and I hold them very near and dear and you know I do talk to them just casually which is great you know I've gotten to know a lot of them not on a super personal level obviously to protect some you know privacy there
Speaker: but they are the type of people where I'll reach out like once in a while, like, Hey, how was your day?
Speaker: How's your week going?
Speaker: And we have a genuine conversation about that.
Speaker: And those are the fans that actually continuously spend money, you know, and support me.
Speaker: It's not just them giving me money and wanting to make money off of them.
Speaker: It's I've actually built a genuine relationship in a way with them.
Speaker: And I know that they would always, you know, support me and,
Speaker: they're so appreciative of my work, which also, you know, makes you feel good too when you have fans who are super stoked about whatever you put out.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Cause I even, sometimes I am such a nervous little mess.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Anxiety is just fucking horrible that I, I cannot talk even like
Speaker: you know, you've probably noticed it with me.
Speaker: Sometimes both of us will like disappear, even with like our friends.
Speaker: I just need like time to myself and like the real fans never pressure me.
Speaker: Yep.
Speaker: I just know that I'm a little fucking weirdo and yeah, you know, it's great.
Speaker: I do love y'all, but it's time wasters.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: Or too much.
Speaker: I know it's,
Speaker: It's, and I feel like too, like the genuine fans, like, like you said, you kind of disappear for a little bit, you come back and it's like, you guys have it missed a beat and they totally understand.
Speaker: Like there's been times where I've, you know, fallen off and not been able to respond to messages for like weeks at a time.
Speaker: And I come back and they're like, you're all good.
Speaker: Like, I hope everything's okay.
Speaker: And it's great.
Speaker: Like those genuine ones are definitely some gems.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: They are.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: Oh, shit.
Speaker: I thought you paused.
Speaker: Let me check.
Speaker: I need to look at my camera.
Speaker: I'm sorry.
Speaker: No, it's okay.
Speaker: Just to see if this motherfucker... I don't know if it's charging while it's... I hope it, like... Okay, I think it is charging while it's plugged in, but... Yeah, so if randomly my shit just cuts off, it'd be at least, like, 30 minutes.
Speaker: I just wanted you to be aware.
Speaker: So, what are some work?
Speaker: sites?
Speaker: What other sites?
Speaker: Fansly?
Speaker: What else are you on?
Speaker: So I'm on Fansly, ManyVids, Clips for Sale, and then obviously Twitter as well.
Speaker: I am on Sex Panther, but I'm not on it a ton.
Speaker: It's kind of just, you know, I have an account.
Speaker: If I hop on, I hop on, but it's not one that I'm extremely active on.
Speaker: But all of my platforms are Stargirl MILF.
Speaker: So easy to find me anywhere.
Speaker: What is your favorite part about this job?
Speaker: I think mine is, I'm so fucking into like filmography now.
Speaker: Like I just love making movies.
Speaker: I actually would love to do Safe for Work.
Speaker: stuff too but I don't I don't have the confidence yet so that's why I'm starting my podcast back up and then maybe but yeah what do you love about this job I think just the creativity you know I feel like um I'm getting my wheels turned turned like all the time just trying to think of like the next movie I can do and I've gotten really into filmography just like you when editing and
Speaker: I look back to videos from when I first started to how I'm editing videos now.
Speaker: And I'm like, this is so much better.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: I'm like, oh my gosh.
Speaker: And like, I'm getting to the point now where I'm like,
Speaker: do I need B-roll in this trailer or in this video?
Speaker: Do I need like a little, I'm like, do I need a little background music in the trailer or something to make it more interesting?
Speaker: It's not fun.
Speaker: Like when you get to that part, be careful.
Speaker: Once you hit B-roll, like it's game over.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And it's just like, I, I'm naturally a very creative person and I actually have dabbled in like photography in the past, like film photography and also using, um,
Speaker: you know, digital cameras and stuff.
Speaker: And so I've always been such a sucker for like, good, a good camera.
Speaker: And so I think now that I'm having this more video format of an outlet, it's just really expanded my creativity.
Speaker: And I am naturally a shy person, or like, I wouldn't say shy, but kind of like closed off in real life, it takes me a little bit just to open up to people in real life.
Speaker: But in front of the camera, I'm like, hey, guys, like, what's up?
Speaker: You know what I mean?
Speaker: Like a different, completely different person comes out.
Speaker: And I think that helps with the creative juices as well.
Speaker: Me too.
Speaker: I don't, I don't fucking know how I started the crazy mommy.
Speaker: Yeah, I guess it was.
Speaker: I don't fucking know where that came from.
Speaker: Just that's another part of like, yeah, the creativity.
Speaker: I just come up with these fucking crazy ideas.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And yeah, but of course I'm not actually mean or crazy in real life.
Speaker: So it's just like fucking cool.
Speaker: It's fun to play a persona.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Where do I get to be just absolutely bonkers, insane, like locking up?
Speaker: somebody in the basement to fuck them.
Speaker: Like, that was the biggest... I remember that clip where you put him in, like, the cage.
Speaker: Oh, that was such a good little clip.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: Like, I love that.
Speaker: I gotta, like... But then I get so... Do you do this shit, too?
Speaker: Where, like... I swear once I've done something, once I have completed an idea or filmed something, I, like...
Speaker: can't make myself go back and like do it twice yeah the same like idea yeah that pisses me off why don't I I've got good ideas I could kind of use them twice there's been some times where I've you know recycled ideas and tried to change it up a little bit especially if I'm burnt out on ideas you know but I'm like I need to it's not that I necessarily feel the need to film something and put it out but it's that need to like
Speaker: I need to have that creative outlet in a way.
Speaker: And also what's really interesting with me and my husband's relationship is my husband's also a very creative person.
Speaker: So we bounce ideas off of each other, you know, and he helps me, he helps me kind of get certain angles, right?
Speaker: If he is home while I'm filming or something, I'll like take a quick clip and I'll be like, babe, look at this, like, does this look cool?
Speaker: And then he'll be like, no, change it this way or something.
Speaker: And he'll help me with like layouts on some of my flyers or posts or something.
Speaker: So it's nice to have him to bounce ideas off of and have his input as well, because he's a guy.
Speaker: So of course he like is going to have that guy perspective of what other males want to see.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I'm a poor husband.
Speaker: I bless him.
Speaker: He's, I hate to say he's not creative, but if I'm just being honest,
Speaker: super blunt he's not but he's he's oh my god the man is just so like black and white thinking that he can do anything he can fix he's like redone our whole fucking house he he'll like do shit like find to what are those fucking
Speaker: not go-karts but when they're four-wheelers he found two four-wheelers that something was wrong with them both for like four hundred dollars for two oh wow yeah and then fixed both of them for under a hundred dollars just by fucking looking on youtube and then sold them for like eight nine hundred dollars each
Speaker: shit like that like constantly yeah but no there's no like he doesn't come up with creative ideas and I'm always like oh babe I used to get really frustrated at him and now I kind of feel like shit about it it's just part of my like healing journey that yeah I got frustrated about everything way too easily not just in my husband but oh I I
Speaker: I'm the same way.
Speaker: You know, I feel like we're always constantly on a healing journey.
Speaker: And I am a firm, firm believer that everybody needs to be in therapy at some point of their life.
Speaker: I, if you don't think you need therapy, you need to be in therapy.
Speaker: Yes, please.
Speaker: Except I'm not fucking kidding.
Speaker: Maybe my little precious husband.
Speaker: Oh my God.
Speaker: He's so sweet.
Speaker: But you know, I plucked him over from England and,
Speaker: Where I just imagine that he lived this perfect little farm life.
Speaker: And I swear to God, he had no trauma.
Speaker: No trauma before me.
Speaker: I wonder what that's like.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: I ask him all the time.
Speaker: Like, baby, what is it like to just, like, have a little normal brain?
Speaker: And to be fair, like, I might have put a little damage on it those first few years we were dating.
Speaker: But, like, it's mostly...
Speaker: A trauma-free brain, which is unreal to me because of my background.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Really shitty people.
Speaker: So, yeah.
Speaker: But, I don't know.
Speaker: Yeah, his creativity.
Speaker: That's what we were talking about.
Speaker: We got way out.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: That's really sweet.
Speaker: I love that y'all can do that.
Speaker: And, yeah, you...
Speaker: I have watched you grow.
Speaker: I think me and you met only a few months after you came in.
Speaker: And you have grown so much.
Speaker: Oh, thank you.
Speaker: It's really been cool to watch.
Speaker: You know, because I usually just only have myself.
Speaker: So it's cool that we did, like, I don't think I've been in it that long.
Speaker: Well, about a year.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: When you got in.
Speaker: And I was still just a fucking idiot.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: It's been fun to...
Speaker: be able to watch you especially with like lighting oh yeah I'm a sucker for some good lighting oh my god that is what um me too I'm but you know what is crazy I can get better at lighting but I still don't fucking know the terminology I don't really know what like it's so fucking confusing there's always something to learn yeah like what my camera flickering
Speaker: This is what, I get a little screenshot.
Speaker: What causes the webcam flickering?
Speaker: The flickering you are experiencing is commonly due to the interaction between your camera shutter speed and the lights in your room.
Speaker: The electricity supply used to power lights uses AC, alternating current power.
Speaker: This rapidly oscillates the current.
Speaker: Oh, okay.
Speaker: What does that even mean?
Speaker: It is.
Speaker: Due to the frequency between the camera and the light source is out of sync.
Speaker: To get around this problem, the frame rate of your camera needs to match the frequency of the lights where you are at.
Speaker: The frame rate should be divisible by the number of light pulses.
Speaker: Are you fucking kidding me?
Speaker: So now we have to do division to figure out later?
Speaker: Oh, God, no.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So that's why my hubby picked my canon is now acting, which is fucking great.
Speaker: I love it, but I didn't want to do all this shit and be extra.
Speaker: I was just trying to use my little Logitech and like, leave me alone.
Speaker: Damn.
Speaker: What is all that?
Speaker: Like, I just want to plug in and have it work.
Speaker: Yeah, me too.
Speaker: Where do you feel like you get most of your ideas, your creativity?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: um watching sometimes they randomly come up um but I also watch like other creators or you know other porn videos just to kind of get an idea of what might be trending and hey listen many vids if you're watching give us back the trending search please I'm begging you but I
Speaker: Yeah, I do like watching other creators just to kind of spark that creativity.
Speaker: Sometimes they come naturally.
Speaker: Sometimes they come from my husband.
Speaker: Like that one video that I have where it's the mommy and son Netflix show gone wrong, where it's me and him.
Speaker: He actually came up with that idea.
Speaker: And that one was really fun to film.
Speaker: So yeah, it kind of comes just from like a bunch of different little places.
Speaker: I love that mine does too I get some of y'all have probably noticed I get a shit ton of inspiration from songs and like it doesn't even actually have to do with the song what is one of them that I've now why can't I think of a single one that's named after a song but oh like come on everybody
Speaker: like C-U-M, on everybody, came from the fucking Eminem song.
Speaker: But it actually, like, so it wasn't, like, directly linked, but I thought, damn, that'd be a good title for a porn.
Speaker: And I was like, what could that mean?
Speaker: And it was like, we were exposing our relationship to the whole family.
Speaker: It was kind of wild.
Speaker: That's fun.
Speaker: I like that idea.
Speaker: I've never thought of kind of getting at least title inspirations from songs because titles are definitely something that I struggle with.
Speaker: I'm trying to get less generic and have it be a little bit more eye grabbing, which I think I'm getting better at.
Speaker: But I feel like titles are always the hardest part because you're trying to think, okay, well, how can I describe this video that I'm about to put out in an interesting way?
Speaker: and make it make sense to what the video means.
Speaker: But without it being POV, boy, girl, deep throat, blow job, you know?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Cause that's what like all of my old videos, some of them I didn't even change are just like, boy, girl, POV, BJ.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Same, same with my old, same with my old videos too.
Speaker: And I'm just like, but now I think I'm trying to get a little bit more
Speaker: creative, like the custom that I just filmed.
Speaker: I called it desperate times, desperate needs, best friends, mommy.
Speaker: Because it was kind of like a desperation, cheating, best friends, mommy video.
Speaker: And I was like, okay, I think this is going to work.
Speaker: So yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah, I'll tell you my little hack to that.
Speaker: Probably because, yes, like you said, it is so frustrating to get to the end of a movie and not feel like your title adds up.
Speaker: So my brain now immediately first goes to the title.
Speaker: I first think, ooh, that would be a bomb-ass title for a porn.
Speaker: And I write it in my notes.
Speaker: Not even, like, with the Eminem song.
Speaker: I was like, ooh, that would be a really good title.
Speaker: Come on, everybody.
Speaker: Like, and we came on everybody in the family room.
Speaker: You know, like, so, yeah, getting outside of the box and doing shit like that.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And goddamn, I have...
Speaker: since I did an interview with painted rose on Wednesday and I don't know why, but I've been saying like, like, like, oh my God, like, I say it so fucking much.
Speaker: I mean, us, us here on the West coast, it's, I feel, I feel like the like is every third word for my sentence, but that's what happens when you grow up on the West coast, unfortunately.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Oh, like the valley.
Speaker: I forgot.
Speaker: That's literally where that shit came from.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I just, I, all my executive functioning is like leaving me.
Speaker: So that's where I get the likes from, but in editing, listening to that shit.
Speaker: Oh, I think that's why doing a podcast feels like,
Speaker: So much more vulnerable and weird exposing to me than actually doing porn.
Speaker: I guess.
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: I don't sit around and I'm doing all that shit.
Speaker: What's it called?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: What's it called?
Speaker: Like, it's not freestyling.
Speaker: What's the word?
Speaker: Improving.
Speaker: I'm improv and all that.
Speaker: And I don't sit around and say like, like, like.
Speaker: Why do I do it now?
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: So filler words, I'll get you, man.
Speaker: If I paid a little bit more for this, a little bit more than I'm going to pay for the program that records this, it would remove filler words.
Speaker: Oh, interesting.
Speaker: I'm fucking cheap, so I'll have to remove them myself or leave them in there.
Speaker: So what else?
Speaker: Do you smoke pot?
Speaker: You smoke pot, don't you?
Speaker: Um, I have in the past, I actually haven't recently.
Speaker: Um, I obviously I, I was like the biggest stoner.
Speaker: Um, I mean, growing up in, you know, California, California and weed go hand in hand.
Speaker: Um, but I used to be the biggest stoner.
Speaker: Like I would smoke all the time.
Speaker: I would smoke spliffs, which is like tobacco and weed together.
Speaker: But then once I got pregnant, I was like, obviously I can't smoke weed.
Speaker: And I just haven't really picked it up again.
Speaker: And I don't think, I'm not necessarily scared about it.
Speaker: I think I just have so much going on in my life.
Speaker: And I know the type of stoner that I am, where it's like, if I smoke weed, I'm couch locked.
Speaker: I'm sitting on the couch with a bag of potato chips and just
Speaker: you know, getting lost in a movie or on my phone or something.
Speaker: And I'm, I need to be more productive.
Speaker: I'm giving myself a shit ton of grace.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I'm honest.
Speaker: I'm not the best stoner, but I am a fucking stoner.
Speaker: Like, yeah.
Speaker: I love smoking, but maybe one day when my anxiety chills out.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yay.
Speaker: So sorry about that.
Speaker: My camera went dead.
Speaker: And then what did I do?
Speaker: I kicked Sadie out of the room three times and her headphones stopped working, but we're back.
Speaker: We were going to talk about the family and friends, the support of,
Speaker: that we have yeah with our careers being sex workers yeah uh so for me um my really close friends know what I do or like what I dabble in my family does not know um to be frank I don't know if my family would be
Speaker: super supportive about it um but at least for now I'm just going to keep it kind of to myself um exact same yeah I think I I don't know I thought maybe we wouldn't be the same on that but a couple of my friends know and well my sister knows but
Speaker: I regret telling her.
Speaker: But, I mean, I don't think she'll tell anybody, but none of my family knows.
Speaker: And I don't really fucking know what they would think.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I think that's also kind of why I chose ManyVids, too, is because it's not as well-known as, like, OnlyFans or something.
Speaker: You know?
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: I agree with that.
Speaker: And
Speaker: I've not had any fucking issues with, um, with anything, like, being found out, nothing.
Speaker: And, honestly, I think something is fucked up with, like, my reaction, like, with, oh, goddammit, brain, no!
Speaker: I, like, can feel the fucking thought leave in my head.
Speaker: With, like, my reaction to, um, I don't fucking know.
Speaker: I'm just going to leave it.
Speaker: Yeah, I feel you.
Speaker: Sorry.
Speaker: I, like, honestly, to God, sometimes it's because I fucking smoke pot, too, but it was made ten times worse by long COVID.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Like, thoughts are just getting, like, sucked out of my head to never fucking...
Speaker: be sane again is the weirdest i know but as somebody that really fucking i do love drugs i love drugs i don't i don't use drugs anymore but like i love them if yeah they were like healthy i would do it all the time but um it's like a drug-like feeling so yeah i don't hate it it feels like something is stuck out of my head but yeah so yeah
Speaker: Yeah, I think I think it's very I'm always surprised.
Speaker: There's a lot of different situations out there that people have told their family, have not told their family, have told all of their friends.
Speaker: I mean, fuck.
Speaker: Painted Rose was telling me the other day that she gets recognized going out sometimes.
Speaker: I don't know where she lives and like I would not spread that information anyway, but like
Speaker: That's crazy to be.
Speaker: I don't know if I could handle that.
Speaker: I don't know if I could handle be recognized.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I don't.
Speaker: I like to be a little wallflower.
Speaker: You know.
Speaker: I like to just sit back.
Speaker: I don't want to be.
Speaker: I mean don't get me wrong.
Speaker: I love like the recognition.
Speaker: And being like appreciated and stuff.
Speaker: But I wouldn't want to be like recognized.
Speaker: Especially in public.
Speaker: Like what do you even say.
Speaker: If somebody comes up to you.
Speaker: You know.
Speaker: Y'all would see how good of like.
Speaker: I have a really fucking good resting bitch face.
Speaker: And I think I can, because I've had so many fucking narcissists or like people with different personality disorder, you know, um, fuck.
Speaker: He's about to leave again.
Speaker: What was I saying, Sadie?
Speaker: Uh, you were saying people narcissistic, uh,
Speaker: We were talking about being recognized in public.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Oh, because I've... Resting bitch face.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Thank you.
Speaker: I got it back.
Speaker: I can also, like, Greystone.
Speaker: Have you ever heard of that?
Speaker: Being, like, a gray rock.
Speaker: Or maybe it's gray rock.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Where you... Something like that.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Somebody can come up.
Speaker: This is how much I hate the people in my small town.
Speaker: They can come up and recognize me from, like, 20 years ago.
Speaker: I can fucking act like...
Speaker: I don't know or see them.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And they walk away.
Speaker: It's really scary.
Speaker: But it's.
Speaker: I'm the same way.
Speaker: That sounds horribly bitchy.
Speaker: But I promise you it's a horrible anxiety problem.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And I'm like disassociating or some weird shit.
Speaker: And I'll just like act like I don't fucking see them.
Speaker: So that's probably what I would do.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I'm the same exact way.
Speaker: I don't think I ever even thought of that being a possibility.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: But I bet there are girls that get recognized.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And that are out, you know, and that say this is who I am.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I mean, that's what geo blocking comes in handy for.
Speaker: But yeah, I mean, I think for me too is, you know, I have a very natural resting bitch phase and I do come off as like extremely intimidating because I am so tall, but yeah,
Speaker: And so I feel like if I ever were to get recognized, I would probably just scare them off.
Speaker: That'd be funny.
Speaker: How tall are you?
Speaker: I know I've asked you before, but... I'm six foot.
Speaker: That's awesome.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: Because I'm... I'm like a little bit above 5'8".
Speaker: Mm-hmm.
Speaker: And... From where I'm from, which is...
Speaker: small town.
Speaker: Like, that's fucking... I just... I was the tall girl.
Speaker: I was the tall girl.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And... Hell yeah.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: But, yeah, they probably would be scared of you.
Speaker: How tall is your husband?
Speaker: Is he taller?
Speaker: He's... I think he's like 5'9 or something, so I'm a little bit taller than him.
Speaker: Sexy.
Speaker: I'm... Me and my hubby are... He likes to say... I think he's got like half an inch on me.
Speaker: It's like...
Speaker: But I let him.
Speaker: So with heels on, I tower over him.
Speaker: Hell yes.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: Little short king.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: So we did a collab.
Speaker: How long has it been now, girl?
Speaker: I have no sense of time.
Speaker: I do not know.
Speaker: I think it's probably been, I think we did it towards the end of summer or early fall last year.
Speaker: I think so.
Speaker: That was so much fun.
Speaker: We, you know, check it out.
Speaker: What was it called?
Speaker: Two Moms, Two Sons, something like that.
Speaker: It was hot.
Speaker: One perverted plan.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: It was, it was fun.
Speaker: It was a really fun collab to put together.
Speaker: And I think our storyline just came very natural for us, especially since we, you know, we both play the mommy dom and we definitely sprinkled in a little bit of Fendom in there.
Speaker: It was really fun.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I wish more people enjoyed Finn Dom because I would just do straight mommy Dom content.
Speaker: Like that is all I would do.
Speaker: But it wouldn't sell as much as like the sweet, I don't know, you know, just like variety, I guess.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Which is fun.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah, we definitely need to do another one sometime.
Speaker: And we might already have something.
Speaker: One in the works.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: With another person as well.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: Three people are the price of one.
Speaker: Yeah, and we've been planning it for like fucking weeks.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: It just, we keep saying we're going to film.
Speaker: Did you film your part?
Speaker: I didn't film my part, but I filmed the, that intro.
Speaker: We'll call it the intro.
Speaker: So I filmed that.
Speaker: So I got to send that over, but I think next week I'll get to filming my part so we can finally start putting this together.
Speaker: But I think it's going to be very hot and very fun.
Speaker: And I know we've even already kind of talked about some editing things that we want to do in the video to make it more interesting.
Speaker: So it's going to be a good one.
Speaker: It is.
Speaker: I'm excited.
Speaker: I'm going to film mine this weekend.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I think I'm even going to make some boy girl content.
Speaker: My husband, yeah.
Speaker: He, something broke at his work yesterday.
Speaker: I don't even, I don't know what the fuck it was.
Speaker: Just maybe like a water line or something.
Speaker: So they are going to
Speaker: he randomly got off today and monday because we gotta fix it yeah so that's the type of shit in my old age that makes me horny like my husband randomly gets off two days i'm like yeah honey get in the fucking bedroom we are fucking i know we we have a camping trip
Speaker: coming up, I think in like, I'm like, oh my God, what day is it?
Speaker: The 26th?
Speaker: In like three weeks, I think we go on a camping trip and I'm already kind of brewing some ideas.
Speaker: Girl, that is another thing we were talking about earlier, how it has helped or changed our relationship.
Speaker: Like, yeah, me and my husband now just, it's just fun that I can center
Speaker: you know, my career around us, like traveling together and filming content, you know, and I mean, I would say now at least once a month we go somewhere just for the weekend.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Get a little adventurous.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And we've always had a really great relationship.
Speaker: It just, how cool that,
Speaker: I now have a job where I get to film myself fucking him and we travel more because of it.
Speaker: Like, yes, it's great.
Speaker: Fucking.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So what else girly pop?
Speaker: What else?
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: I think we covered a lot.
Speaker: This has been a fun little girly pop chat.
Speaker: I like it.
Speaker: I'm so fucking excited.
Speaker: This was the fucking best.
Speaker: Thank you.
Speaker: And I'll remind everybody can find you on Twitter at Stargirlmilf.
Speaker: Is that correct?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Stargirlmilf underscore.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: Yep.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And then many vids and fansly is just Stargirlmilf.
Speaker: Yes, and I'll also put everything in the description bio below.
Speaker: Thank y'all so much for fucking tuning in.
Speaker: Follow me, subscribe, whatever the fuck you have to do here, and see you next week.
Speaker: Bye.
Speaker: All right.
Speaker: Bye.
