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24. ERS: What to do if you don't like your job, based on Human Design Types
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Hi babe! Welcome to the "Ellisa Responds Series", where I answer one of your questions about purpose, Human Design, Gene Keys, spirituality, etc in 20 minutes or less. Bite sized, to the point, and full of practical magic!
Today I talk about what to do if you hate your job and exactly how you can reframe it, take action, and live a life you love.
I break down:
- why it's important for our health and wellbeing to have a job that we enjoy
- what core feelings to look out for based on the 5 Human Design types
- how to tell if you're in alignment based on the 5 Human Design types
- some practical tips on how to choose a job that fits your energy (Entrepreneurship, corporate, service-based industry, freelance + contracting)
I'd love to answer your question in an episode, you can email me at byellisamccoy@gmail.com and include any questions you have around purpose, human design, gene keys, spirituality, business, relationships, work, goals, etc. (if you'd like personalized advice be sure to include your birth information DOB, city and country of birth, exact time of birth AM/PM)
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Connect with me: www.instagram.com/iamellisamae
xx!
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Transcript
Introduction to the Podcast
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Hello, my friend. Welcome to the It's Happening For Me podcast. If you are obsessed with all things spirituality, personal growth and development, and living as your highest self, you are in the right place.
Alyssa's Journey of Self-Discovery
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I am your host, Alyssa, and I spent the majority of my teenage years and young 20s living totally out of climate. As I started to question my patterns and behaviors and actually got to know myself at the soul level, I realized that everything was happening for me.
Purpose of the Podcast Series
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Now, as a spiritual life coach and human design guide, I am here to share my voice, personal stories, human design wisdom, and learn from incredible individuals living their purpose. Join me each week as we walk the spiral path of purpose together. I cannot wait to dive in.
Exploring Purpose and Spirituality
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Hello, my friend. Welcome to the It's Happening for Me podcast. I am your host, Alyssa, and I am so glad you're here with me today. So welcome to the Alyssa Response series. So in this series, I'm going to be answering all of your questions around purpose, human design, gene keys, spirituality, and really just how to live our best, most authentic passion.
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beautiful purpose-driven lives.
Finding Joy and Purpose in Work
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So today we are going to be talking about the question of what do I do if I hate my job? Okay girl, so first of all just know that I have been there many times and I am going to help you in today in 20 minutes or less really dissect why it's so important that we do
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have a good work environment because all of us need to work. We need to make money in order to survive. But there's a way that we can really reframe this and get you set up into a position where you actually really enjoy spending your time at work. So whether you are someone who is really excited to
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step into your purpose and maybe create a business around it. Whether you are someone who is really excited to just have a traditional role and do like a side hustle or a side passion where you get to express yourself and that makes you feel really good. Or maybe you are somebody who is just confused and you want to explore all of your options so that you can really enjoy what you do and feel fulfilled.
Living Purposefully Beyond Work
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So no matter where you stand in that lineup, just know that
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You absolutely have a sole mission. You have a purpose, a reason for being here. It's not always necessarily tied to the work that we do, but it's really tied to who we be and how we show up in the work, how we show up in our relationships, how we show up with our family, how we show up expressing ourselves and being creative and living a life full of joy and pleasure. So just know that is your birthright. And if you feel any stickiness around your job right now,
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this episode is for you because I freaking got you. So here's the first thing. Our work is, like I said, not always necessarily tied to our purpose because our purpose is really the essence. It's the flavor of who we are, okay? You are so much more than your job. You are so much more than a paycheck. You
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are so worthy of love, of just being here, of just existing. And you don't need to tie your worth to your output or to something that you produce or to something that you have to quote unquote do. So this actually takes a lot of pressure off of us because now we can get into this place where
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we actually get to be really creative and step into the CEO versions of ourselves and figure out like, what would I actually be excited to do and get paid for it?
Aligning Work with Core Values
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And again, you don't have to be somebody who wants to be an entrepreneur. You can be someone who is really excited to work a traditional role, whether that's in corporate, whether that's like freelancing, whatever it is that makes you really excited about. And it couples your gifts, your innate talents, your skills,
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your education, that is where we want to go with your work. And it is so important that we work in an environment where we feel appreciated, we feel valued. You know, we align with the core values of the company or we're so aligned with our own core values that we create in our own company. Okay, so today I'm going to be breaking down the different human design types and I'm going to show you exactly where you may be
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off track, which is totally fine. This is why your work might feel like it sucks, why it might feel stressful or like resentful. You might feel bitter, all of the feelings. We're going to get into that based off of your human design type. And then I'm going to show you exactly how we can step in to your signature theme, which is for you, the feeling that you feel when you feel in alignment. Okay. This is the feeling that you were designed to feel
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in your day-to-day life. It's how you thrive. It is like the best feeling for your human design type. And then I'm going to give you some really quick brainstorming ideas on what you can do to change up your work situation if it's to the point where like you're just miserable and you don't want to be there anymore. Okay, because you deserve to love your life. Okay, so let's break down the types.
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So again, I also just want to say that.
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It doesn't matter what your human design type is, you can do whatever you want. So a lot of times there's a lot of stigma or confusion around like, oh, if I'm a projector, then I'm not meant to work hard. Or, oh, if I'm a generator, I'm not meant to manage or lead people. All of those are restrictions that the human brain likes to put on things when we learn these new systems and we learn these new ways of categorizing our energy.
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So I just want you to remember to stay very open. It doesn't matter what your human design type is. If you are excited, if you're passionate about doing a certain job or, you know, being a certain role, that is for you. That vision is for you. That
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Um, excitement, those breadcrumbs are for you for a reason. Otherwise you wouldn't be interested in it. So don't put yourself in any boxes. Okay. So let's start with projectors. So projectors, your birthright feeling of, you know, your signature feeling where you can know you're in alignment is you're going to feel successful. Okay. So you are meant to feel successful.
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If you're in a role that's out of alignment, you are going to be feeling bitterness. Okay, so this can be like bitterness, resentfulness. So I want you to really think if you're somebody who hates your job, I want you to take a moment and really think about your work situation. Is there
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any evidence that you have of where maybe you don't feel seen by your boss. Maybe you don't feel appreciated from your coworkers. Maybe you're constantly over-delivering and you're over-giving and you feel like nobody sees you. Nobody sees the value that you bring and it makes you feel bitter and it makes you feel resentful.
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Another thing here with projectors is maybe you are struggling a little bit with boundaries. So again, there can be a lot of people pleasing, a lot of comparison. Maybe you feel like you need to be working as hard and as fast as your peers.
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And when you see them putting out all of these new programs or when you see them at work just moving at a faster pace than you, if you're comparing yourself to your energetic outputs, you could be getting yourself into a space of burnout because as a projector, your energy is very different. Your energy is more finite and you're really here to use your genius to guide and
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lead people and see the bigger picture. Like you are so gifted at seeing what actually needs to be done to move the needle forward. Whereas other people might be so stuck in the details that they can't see this bigger picture. So if you're feeling bitterness or like resentfulness, really look at those relationships and see where do you feel like you're not being valued and where do you feel like you're not being seen and where do you feel like you might need to make some stronger boundaries.
Human Design Types and Job Alignment
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Okay, so moving on to manifestors. So, manifestors, you know that you're in alignment when you feel peace, okay? When you're out of alignment, you're going to feel anger. And so, where in your job do you feel like
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It's creating anger. And again, this could also be like people pleasing tendencies or maybe you feel like you don't have enough freedom for you. Like being micromanaged might feel, it will actually feel very shitty. Like you're not the type that wants to be micromanaged because you're so, you're such a bold force that is here to go out and initiate things.
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You're meant to initiate, to create, to make change. And so if you're in a role where maybe there's no creative freedom, maybe you are really feeling restricted by a micromanaging boss. You have to do everything maybe in a very step-by-step, confined way where you don't get to use any of your gifts of initiating. That could really cause anger.
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And then also just like not like I said, not feeling like freedom or not feeling feeling like repressed by your boss, you know, a boss who doesn't listen to you, or like makes you feel trapped can also feel like really yucky. So look to see where you have that going on.
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in your workplace. Moving on to generators. So generators, you are meant to feel satisfied by the work that you do. So you really are a builder. You're really a creator. You are here to do the doing. It makes you feel so satisfied and lit up to do things. And so when you're out of alignment, you might feel very frustrated. You're also someone who's really good at mastering
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one thing. So you're not so much as like, um, and again, this doesn't mean that you can't be multi passionate or you can't multitask, but your genius really lies in like this beautiful energy of being able to like focus in on one thing and be super good at it. So for you, you might feel frustrated at work if you feel very scattered. If you feel like you have too many projects going on at once and you're not able to like really hone in your energy on it.
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You might also feel frustration if you don't feel lit up by the work that you're doing because you are meant to feel satisfied by completing things and by really diving into them. So that's where you can look out for you.
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If you're a manifesting generator, for you, you are here to feel peace and satisfaction. And so when you're out of alignment, you are going to feel frustrated and angry. And so what's really beautiful about manifesting generators are you guys are really here to
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be able to hold multiple different plates at once. So you are a really beautiful energy of multitasking, of having multiple passions. You're also really good at creating shortcuts and finding new ways and improving the old. So where a generator tends to be a little more traditional and following step-by-step processes, manifesting generators are really here to break the mold and create a new, more efficient way of doing things. So if you're in a role, again, where you don't have that freedom
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make shortcuts or to do things your way, that can lead to a lot of frustration and anger. Also, if you feel trapped, like you don't have that freedom from your boss, you're being micromanaged, that is also going to make you feel very frustrated and angry. So that's where you can look at for that.
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Reflectors! Reflectors! So you are here to experience surprise and delight, okay? When you're out of alignment, you are going to feel disappointment. So for you, Reflector, your biggest, biggest thing is your environment. So if you are working in an environment with people who are like
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very maybe unhealthy, like either physically, emotionally, if you're working for a boss who really doesn't take care of themselves and like they're sick often or their health is not there and you're spending a lot of time with them.
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you are feeling because you're so open, you're feeling all of this. And so you might be feeling like disappointment in your job because maybe you're also in an environment where other people aren't living their purpose and all of them are just kind of feeling stuck. Maybe they're all
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just going through the motions, just clocking in, but they're not really loving the work that they do. All of that yucky feelings, you feel that and you're reflecting that as well. So for you, it's very important to work in an environment where your boss is so inspiring and so motivating and you just are so lit up by the values of the company or
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your co-workers are healthy and they live healthy lifestyles and they're inspiring and they're a joy to be around. That's very important for you. Also, the physical environment of your office. If you feel like you're in an office where it's all of these cubicles and artificial lighting and everyone is just miserable all the time, you're going to be soaking that in and just resonating that.
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So it's very important that you feel good in the environments that you're in. If you're someone who is an entrepreneur and you work for yourself, it's so important to find the environments that you thrive in working and stick to those because that's really going to help with feeling this delight and just excitement and surprise with your day-to-day activities. So think about your human design type and really
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think about that? Like where in your life are you feeling in your in your work life? Are you feeling those more not self themes? And how can you use that as just like basic information to bring awareness to the fact of like what you don't enjoy about your job? Now here's the next thing. Let's talk about finding a job that works for you. It's very important that
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you pay attention to your not-self themes and to the feelings that you feel when you are your signature self. So again, for generators, satisfaction, projectors, that success, many gems, that peace and satisfaction, manifestors, that peace and reflectors, that surprise and delight. It's very important to think about that and think about the day-to-day activities you're going to be doing when you're looking for your next position. Because the thing is, is that if we're unsatisfied in our job, yeah, it might be the specific
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coworkers that we're working with, it might be the specific environment of the office, it might be the specific values and management style that we don't like, but it could just be that it's that type of work that we don't enjoy. Because you might see that maybe you'll jump ship and go to another company in the exact same field.
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these same patterns might come up, like the same stickiness with the coworkers might come up, even though it's a different person, because there's, there's something about that job or there's something about the way that you're spending your time that you just don't like. So that's something very important to look into is like, you want to think about like, how do you want to feel throughout the day? Like, do you feel like you're adding value? Do you feel like you are
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Are you helping people? Are you moving things forward? Are you creating things? Are you building things? Are you getting to use your creativity? Do you get to express yourself? Do you get to create new ways of doing things? Do you get to be in this energy of you and how you're here to really show up?
Gene Keys and Life's Work Sphere
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So what I will say is look in your jinkies and look at your life's work sphere, okay? Because that is what you're here to do. That is your conscious sun sign. That makes up 70% of your personality. And that is what you really want to lean into when you're thinking about what you do want to do. That's really going to help you if you're not satisfied in your job right now. So for me, my life's work is 54, jinkie 54. And that's all about drive, ambition,
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ascension is the civic state. And for me, the shadow of that would be greed. And so I'm really here to like in everything that I do, I'm here to be my best. I'm here to be freaking ambitious, to rise to the top, to be noticed by other people and like have my gifts called out. I'm here to really rise. And that's what I really love to do in everything that I do in my life. Like
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I can see that in every job I've ever had. I can see that in my business. I can see that in my school and everything I've ever done, I've always wanted to just like be better, to keep moving forward. It's very Capricorn energy. It's very like climbing the mountain. And so knowing that about myself, I know that I need to be in a company or within, you know, if I work for a company, like the company I work for right now, our core values are growth, learning, self-improvement.
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being the best, like being the best in our industry, trust, excellence, all of those are core values of my company and that is why I've been able to stay with them for so long and I keep promoting, I keep moving up. It's like I'm never stuck anywhere and so I feel so satisfied in that traditional corporate job while I'm building my business on the side because there's been times in my life where I've worked jobs or certain positions even with the same company where it wasn't aligned and I didn't feel
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satisfied. I felt frustrated. I felt stressed out. I felt just shitty all the time and I had no energy to work on my business. So that's getting to my next step. So here's the thing. If you're somebody who wants to work a traditional job, like you love corporate,
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And it's something that you really enjoy and you express yourself and your passions on the side doing something else. Maybe you really love that structure, like me, of that nine to five, that structure, that safety. The nine to five gives you, for me, it's 730 to four, but that gives me like a known routine structure, which is very good for my design. Like I thrive in routines. I thrive in this.
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Yeah, like basically routines. And so for me, it works so well because I know exactly what I'm going to be at work. I know exactly the time that I'm going to have off that I get to work on my business. The position that I have right now, I'm so good at it with my line too. It's like easy breezy genius. I'm amazing at it. I feel so lit up. I feel valued. When I get off work, I don't think about my job for one second. It's not stressful. I'm not taking it home with me. I'm not on call. So if you're somebody who's building your business on the side for your purpose or you're
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expressing yourself. Maybe you play music in a band on the side. Maybe you're an artist. Maybe you sell your art at farmer's markets. Maybe you're a gardener. Whatever you do, that makes you feel really good, but you also love your job. Maybe a nine to five would be good because that gives you the structure and then finding one that is less stressful so that you don't have to think about it when you're not at work.
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The second thing is, if you're not someone who likes a 9-5, if that feels yucky, for example, George is a manifesting generator. He hates that. He would hate having a certain time that he has to come in and out every day. So for him, anyone who doesn't like that, I would recommend, and if you want to work for yourself while you're building your business,
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I recommend getting a service industry job to where you go in, maybe work nights as like a server bartender, where you can get tips. So all day, and I actually got this idea from Lauren Bosnick from Skinny Confidential. So it's like all day, you have to work on your business, you have time to work out.
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to work on your body, work on your routines, work on your business. And then in the evenings, you go and work in a service industry job. You make tips, you make contacts, you know, you can talk about the things that you're doing on the side and you feel so fulfilled. And then you don't feel trapped. You don't feel like trapped to this nine to five. You have more freedom. That might make you feel really good. Another option, if that even feels like too much structure, is you can do like freelance work where you're like, you work from home.
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And you do freelance jobs for people, you know, like using your skills in your education, that's something they can do or be like a contract, doing contracted work because you get to pick your own hours. That gives you a little more structure. You're not necessarily building your own business. You know, you can go through temp agencies, you can go through different websites to get jobs. That can also be a great option.
Aligning Jobs with Values and Creativity
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At the end of the day, I want you to just think about what are your values? What is important for you? Do you like to work with people? Do you like to work solo?
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Do you like to work with the customer facing side of things? Do you like to work on the backend? Do you like to
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work collaboratively on teams or do you prefer to, again, be like a solo contrib, contributor? So look at all of those things. All of those things are going to help you find more fulfillment in your, in your life, more happiness in your job, which leads you to have that free time outside of work to also do the things that you love to spend time with your family, spend time with your friends, be creative because you absolutely are creative. I used to tell this to myself and I have had so many friends and peers that say that they're not creative, but you absolutely are.
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use that life force energy to be creative in whatever way and your life will feel better. So we're just over 20 minutes. I hope this little bite-sized gem was helpful. Again, if you're somebody who is struggling that you really hate your job for whatever reason, I hope this was helpful. I highly recommend getting a human design reading or a gene keys reading with me, which will help you dive into your exact skills, your traits, all of the things that you're really good at so that we can do a more
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a really more structured approach to getting you to live a life that you absolutely freaking love. Okay, so that is all for today and I will see you next time. Thank you, friend.
Engagement Invitation
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Thank you so much for being here and listening, Beauty. If you enjoyed this episode, please be sure to leave a review and share the episode with a friend who you know will love it. We can connect further on Instagram at I am Alyssa May, so come say hello, leave a comment of your favorite takeaway at my most recent post, and I cannot wait to connect. Thank you so much, and I will see you next time.