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Releasing Judgement for your own Sake
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As I was talking about releasing the victim mentality last week, I felt it was important to talk about another mental pattern that may be affecting your healing: judgement. Every minute you spend judging others’ choices, is a minute that could have been spent in self reflection. My hope is that you begin to feel mentally AND physically lighter as you learn to release the spirit of judgement and gossip.
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Introduction: Welcome and Focus
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Welcome to the eat like a mother podcast where we take complicated topics surrounding hormones and metabolism and make them simple and applicable to your daily life as a woman. I'm your host, Castie Welfell.
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My hope is that you walk away feeling empowered to start taking radical responsibility for your health and lean into this body God created for you. Are you ready to eat like a mother? This podcast is meant for educational purposes only and is not meant to be taken as medical advice.
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Please consult your physician before making any dietary or lifestyle changes.
Upcoming Release: Simple Summer Meal Plan
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Hey, hey, and welcome back to this week's episode of the podcast. At the time that you're listening to this, it's the last week of May, which means we are wrapping up the month and we are jumping headfirst into summertime.
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If you follow me on social media, you'll know that in the next couple of weeks, i'm going to be releasing a new resource my simple summer meal plan if you are someone that needs help planning your meals getting creative ideas for recipes you really want to be on the lookout for this if you're not on my email list go ahead and sign up below in the show notes people on my email list will get exclusive early bird access and pricing you will not want to miss out on this guys if you have been following me for any amount of time you know that eating enough and eating
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well is one of the most important things that you can do to restore your metabolism, restore your thyroid function, help your hormones, all of those things. And so in this meal plan, I give you tools on how to make sure that you're eating enough, balancing your blood sugar, hitting 4,500 plus milligrams of potassium a day, because that is absolutely essential to restoring your metabolism.
Judgment and Criticism in Wellness
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plus a ton of tasty delicious wonderful recipes not to toot my own horn but they are pretty freaking great anyways be on the lookout for that i'm so excited to get this resource in your hands now for today's episode i want to talk a little bit about judgment in the wellness space last week i talked about releasing the victim mentality and how to know if you have the victim mentality and if it is keeping you stuck in your wellness journey.
Personal Growth vs. Judgment
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And as I was recording that podcast, I really started to think about not just this victim mentality that we have, but also this air of judgment and, well, why can't you just do this mentality that a lot of people carry on the other end of the spectrum?
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It's this idea of I know more than you, I'm better than you, and so I'm going to to turn my nose up at you and see you struggling and say, why can't you just fill in the blank?
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I don't understand why you can't just eat more food, why you can't just go on walks, why you can't just strength train, whatever it might be. There's this air of judgment of criticism that can be so easily taken on by people and we can look at other people and say well you just you're just not doing enough you're just not doing it right and i feel like on the one end the victim mentality is so pervasive and so important to talk about because it keeps you stuck
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But on the other end, this judgment, looking down your nose, constantly talking about the mistakes that other people are making or constantly pointing out these are all the things that these other people are doing wrong also keeps you stuck. Because while you are so busy looking at all of the things that everyone else is doing wrong, you really keep yourself from being able to reflect on how you can be improving. what what areas you really need a little bit more support in You know, if you're constantly saying, oh, well, that person's choosing this diet or that person is vaccinating their children or this person is doing this kind of exercise, whatever it is that is causing you to cast judgment, to be critical towards someone else.
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While you are doing that, what you're not doing is looking at how you can improve yourself.
Self-Improvement in Marriage and Health
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Before my oldest was born, my husband and I did this marriage, not conference, but it was like a marriage group thing at our church.
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It's called Re-Engage, and if you have that being offered at your church or at a local church around you, I highly recommend it. But my husband and I decided to do this because we we said we didn't want to be the couple that only does things to improve our marriage when our marriage is in the crapper. We really wanted to start pouring into our marriage and doing things to help our marriage grow stronger instead of just waiting until crap hits the fan, Right.
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The reason I'm telling you this is because one of the principles in Reengage, one of the principles that we were taught early on in our marriage, which I am so thankful for, is this idea of drawing the circle around yourself.
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What I mean by this and what we were taught is in conflict or in life, draw the circle around yourself and fix only who is within the circle.
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And that's always stuck with me. It's been such a great tool in my marriage because whenever there's a conflict, whenever there's a dispute, whenever I'm frustrated with my husband or whatever it is, I remind myself to draw the circle around myself and I can only fix who is inside the
Controlling Personal Health Choices
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circle.
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And I feel like this principle, this concept, this idea, whatever you want to call it, really does apply to health and wellness because it's so easy to look at other people, whether it's through the lens of the victim saying, oh, well, of course they can do that because they have fill in the blank or through the lens of judgment and criticism. Well, they need to be doing this, that and the other.
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Whatever you tend towards, I want you to remember to draw the circle around yourself and only work on who is inside the circle. Because at the end of the day, you cannot control the choices that other people make.
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You cannot control whether or not they go on a certain diet. You cannot control whether or not they take certain supplements or choose certain medications for their family. And honestly, that's none of your business.
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Yeah, I have very strong opinions on how I think the body should be nourished. I have very strong opinions on pharmaceuticals. I have very strong opinions on how i go about health and wellness and things like that.
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But when I was finally able to stop looking down my nose at people, to stop criticizing, I opened up a whole new world of freedom and peace when I stopped looking down my nose at other people, when I stopped getting upset when people close to me or even random people. Y'all, I i work on the internet, right? So I see all of the dumb things that people do all of the time, okay? Okay.
Finding Peace Through Non-Criticism
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When I stopped caring so much about what everyone else is doing, i found so much freedom and peace in my own life. And I want to gift that to you right now. You don't need to be looking at what everyone else is doing.
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You can disagree with them. You can disagree with people. You can have very strong opinions and convictions for yourself. But when you take that a step further and start gossiping, when you take that a step further and you start talking to other people about what so-and-so is doing and how it's so bad for you or whatever, I'm going to tell you right now that that will make you sick.
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Gossip is destructive and not just because of what it does to your relationships with people and how you grow relationships with other people. But it's destructive to your spirit and to your physical well-being. It may seem super harmless. It may seem fun. It may actually even feel cathartic for you to talk about other people and all of the things that they're doing wrong and why they're not able to do this, that, and the other. Why they're not seeing healing.
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But I'm telling you right now, what they do is none of your business. It's really not. There's a time and a place to have open conversation with someone. If someone is struggling and they need help and they want someone to walk alongside them in this journey, and if they are asking questions and they are receptive, that's a whole different story.
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But if you're just... seeing what they're doing, casting criticism, not asking any questions, not getting curious, and then going and talking to other people about it to help you yourself feel better, that needs to stop.
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Not just because of what it does to your relationships, but because of what it does to you physically.
Impact of Gossip on Health
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If you wanna heal, if you wanna release weight, if you want to improve your energy, if you wanna improve your skin, your digestion, your physical body is so closely related to your thought life, to your emotions, to your spiritual health.
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Because God didn't create us as just separate entities, as just robots with no emotions, no depth, no soul. God created us interconnected body, soul, and spirit.
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And if any one of those things is off, you're going to have an issue with one of the other areas. So if you are critical, if you are casting judgment on people, and then if you are then going and talking about that with other people and participating in gossip, you are choosing self-destruction.
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You are choosing for physical bodily breakdown, and that needs to stop. it's so sneaky because it feels harmless because you think, oh, it's not hurting anybody, but it is. It's hurting
Aligning Mind, Body, and Spirit
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you.
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So this is just another little loving kick in the butt that I wanted to talk about today because I realized as I was talking about the victim mentality last week that it doesn't really give a full scope of this whole mind, body, spirit phenomena that God created.
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And while it's important to see if we are operating from a victim mentality and making excuses as to why we can't do certain things. It is also extremely important to make sure that we are not in turn looking down our nose at people and talking with ugliness or gossip or whatever it might be.
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And again, this is not for them. this is for you. It will rot your bones. It will destroy your physical body and it needs to stop. I love you guys. I hope you found this week's episode encouraging, if not a little kick in the butt.
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Y'all know that I'm always here for this.
Conclusion and Call for Engagement
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Thanks for taking the time to listen. i love you guys and I'll see you next week.
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And we'll be sure to shout you right back out. Let's get this message to as many women as possible until next time, friend.