Become a Creator today!Start creating today - Share your story with the world!
Start for free
00:00:00
00:00:01
The Psychological Effects of Life In This New World
157 Plays4 years ago
Recommended
Transcript
Reunion and Psychological Effects Discussion
00:00:00
Speaker
Eddie Ice, what's up, buddy?
00:00:03
Speaker
Happy Friday, man.
00:00:04
Speaker
How you feeling?
00:00:06
Speaker
I'm feeling pretty good.
00:00:07
Speaker
Yeah?
00:00:08
Speaker
I can't complain.
00:00:09
Speaker
How about you?
00:00:10
Speaker
Hey, man, I got you here.
00:00:12
Speaker
I feel great now that we're together once again.
00:00:15
Speaker
You know what I'm saying?
00:00:15
Speaker
Absolutely.
00:00:16
Speaker
It's been too long.
00:00:17
Speaker
Way too long.
00:00:18
Speaker
Been forever, man.
00:00:21
Speaker
So, yeah, welcome to IG Live Talk, Bigger Talk.
00:00:25
Speaker
edition with me at Munson people.
Recounting The Bachelorette Friendship
00:00:28
Speaker
The topic of discussion is the psychological effects of life in this new world.
00:00:33
Speaker
Before we dive into that and get more into that process, we just going to talk about how you and I met, right?
00:00:40
Speaker
So to people who don't know, or maybe you do know, Matt and I met on season 13 of The Bachelorette, Rachel
00:00:49
Speaker
We were one of the one of 32 of 31 contestants and 31.
00:00:57
Speaker
Yeah, I had a moment on the show when I was in a really dark place.
00:01:00
Speaker
And this guy right here, Matty Nice, Matty Ice that I like to call him, pulled me out of that space, gave me some big brother perspective and feedback.
00:01:09
Speaker
And ever since then, 2017, we've been like, we've been tight.
00:01:13
Speaker
Absolutely.
Fitness Routine for Mental Grounding
00:01:14
Speaker
So Matt, man, tell me, talk to me, what's going on in your world, what's new, how has 2021 been treating you?
00:01:21
Speaker
I see you working out.
00:01:23
Speaker
Just give me a synopsis of what's been going on with yourself.
00:01:27
Speaker
I mean, yeah, the working out thing has been a bigger part of my life maybe than it ever has been.
00:01:35
Speaker
And I think mainly, you know, it's been about the mental effect that staying regimented with anything, you know, I don't care what it may be.
00:01:46
Speaker
I mean, for me, it's been fitness.
00:01:48
Speaker
But for somebody else, it could be to try to, you know, read a book a week.
00:01:54
Speaker
Right.
00:01:57
Speaker
spend more time with family.
00:02:02
Speaker
Everybody has to start each week, I feel like, with some sort of goal that keeps them grounded, that keeps them looking forward to something because the typical things that we would do for leisure, whether it be going out to eat, going to parties with friends, have been pretty much non-existent.
00:02:25
Speaker
yeah so to dial into something that is a little bit more routine and that you can invest yourself in um and have a goal have a goal at the end of that you know like i just turned 36 but you talk about the working out thing like i want to you look good you look good well i want to be in the best shape of my life in in spite of a pandemic
00:02:48
Speaker
yeah i want to know that like i had some odds stacked against me i couldn't get to the gym for when i you know initially started working out and uh i said it i said you know that doesn't matter i'm gonna do what i have to do i'll go back to the basics if i have to uh so like i pulled a lot of weights that i had from high school like out of storage yeah uh
00:03:14
Speaker
and stuff that was rusty you know some stuff i had to kick the dust off of but i said
00:03:21
Speaker
you know, there might be an obstacle or two in front of me to impede my progress.
Overcoming Obstacles and Focus
00:03:29
Speaker
But I'm going to overcome that.
00:03:30
Speaker
You know, I want to look back and say, you know, there was something that was really great that came out of the pandemic.
00:03:38
Speaker
And it also just had most to do with, like I said, just making myself feel better mentally.
00:03:44
Speaker
If I was focused on that, then I wasn't dwelling on all the other nonsense.
00:03:48
Speaker
Not nonsense, but it's just a lot of distractions.
00:03:52
Speaker
If you can put your head down and focus on a goal,
00:03:57
Speaker
you know, automatically your brain tunes out a lot of the stuff that it doesn't need.
00:04:00
Speaker
Right, distractions.
00:04:02
Speaker
Well, before we give them a look, some of that insight, I'm going to dive into questions.
00:04:06
Speaker
I got a game that I like to play, it's called Rapp, Fire.
00:04:10
Speaker
So I'm going to say two names, you got to pick one, you can't, you just got to go.
00:04:16
Speaker
Go ahead.
00:04:17
Speaker
Let me know, you ready?
00:04:19
Speaker
Yeah, when you are.
00:04:21
Speaker
Basketball or football?
00:04:23
Speaker
Basketball.
00:04:24
Speaker
Power or money?
00:04:27
Speaker
Ooh.
00:04:30
Speaker
I think money.
00:04:31
Speaker
It doesn't matter.
00:04:33
Speaker
There's no right or wrong, whatever comes to you.
00:04:35
Speaker
So money.
00:04:36
Speaker
All right, go ahead.
00:04:38
Speaker
Ben Gordon or Kimba Walker?
00:04:42
Speaker
You're tugging on my heartstrings there because both of those guys are... Kimba.
00:04:47
Speaker
Okay.
00:04:50
Speaker
UConn or UMass?
00:04:52
Speaker
Obviously, you know that.
00:04:53
Speaker
UConn.
00:04:55
Speaker
The Celtics or the Patriots?
00:04:58
Speaker
The Celtics.
00:05:00
Speaker
Good wine or good cigar?
00:05:04
Speaker
Good cigar.
00:05:05
Speaker
The Bachelorette or Bachelor in Paradise?
00:05:09
Speaker
Ah.
00:05:10
Speaker
Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha.
00:05:12
Speaker
I say the bachelorette for me.
00:05:15
Speaker
Oh, really?
00:05:15
Speaker
Okay, I like that.
00:05:17
Speaker
We just rolled the dice, we broke the ice.
00:05:20
Speaker
Yeah, so I didn't want to cut you off early because you were getting into something that was very vital and important for this discussion.
00:05:26
Speaker
So my first question to kind of break things down,
00:05:31
Speaker
in the pandemic of 2020, now we're into
Creating Structure and Routine
00:05:34
Speaker
2021.
00:05:34
Speaker
From your perspective, what do you think most people have been struggling with and what are the challenges you've seen consistent from your point of view?
00:05:47
Speaker
I think the challenge is, let's face it, the biggest one has got to be just the monotony of, you know, every day being the same as the day before.
00:05:58
Speaker
Yeah.
00:05:59
Speaker
I think that's difficult for people.
00:06:03
Speaker
I mean, I think very, very basically speaking, right?
00:06:07
Speaker
Everybody's life is typically, I mean, most people's life is typically like Monday through Friday, you look forward to the weekend, you know, and that's when you get together with family, with friends.
00:06:20
Speaker
But
00:06:23
Speaker
There's not even that to look forward to because obviously that's all on hold for the moment.
00:06:31
Speaker
So I mean, it's just, it's like every day is Groundhog Day.
00:06:37
Speaker
And I mean, that could just play on your brain a little bit.
00:06:40
Speaker
Yeah, as I say, too much of something can be dangerous, right?
00:06:47
Speaker
I like to look at it from a flip side where, let's say, maybe majority of people didn't like going to work every day.
00:06:54
Speaker
And then they got all this time off.
00:06:56
Speaker
And now they're like, damn, I appreciate it going to work.
00:07:00
Speaker
I want that normalcy back.
00:07:01
Speaker
I want to go to happy hour.
00:07:03
Speaker
I want to go over my friends or family members house and not
00:07:07
Speaker
happen to quarantine or be cautious or in fear you know I want I want normalcy so I think prior to this this this IG live talk that we're having I think we talked about the new norms right the mental capacity that we're all enduring like I told you yesterday like I woke up in a funk like damn like what about
00:07:32
Speaker
Last night I couldn't sleep, I was restless.
00:07:35
Speaker
And I was thinking, I was like, man, and you know, we all have our days, we're in and out.
00:07:39
Speaker
What happens is, for me, when I don't have a scheduled plan for the next day,
00:07:44
Speaker
Not that my day is not as important, it's just that nothing is forcing me to like if I have a client or I have to see someone or be on set at 7, 8 or 5 a.m.
00:07:53
Speaker
then I gotta go to bed at a certain time, right?
00:07:56
Speaker
I think to feed off what you're saying, I think we're lacking or what we don't have like we did before.
00:08:03
Speaker
with structure, right?
00:08:05
Speaker
So a system, order of operations where we know I got to be to work at this time, I got to be to class at this time, I do this on a weekend, I do this for happy hour.
00:08:15
Speaker
Now, we have to create our own structure.
00:08:19
Speaker
And it's funny, like probably about five years ago, maybe five or six, when I started to work for myself, I was lost because I had all this time.
00:08:30
Speaker
I had to like, create time
00:08:33
Speaker
to be in time, if that makes sense.
00:08:35
Speaker
I had to create my own schedule.
00:08:37
Speaker
And when I used to go on breaks at work, I didn't really need a break.
00:08:41
Speaker
I only went on a break because I was supposed to.
00:08:44
Speaker
Then when I got home, I'm like, I'm not even hungry.
00:08:48
Speaker
I think, you know, for you,
00:08:51
Speaker
for that structure that I think we're lacking or we're trying to recreate or redirect for ourselves, which structure have you put in place to keep your mindset intact, to keep your spirits up and just kind of keep you even keel without you getting overwhelmed, having anxiety, or maybe you have anxiety, or maybe you have days when you're feeling down and depressed or you're really severely
Family, Fitness, and Food as Anchors
00:09:16
Speaker
stressed.
00:09:16
Speaker
Like what's your structure that you created since the pandemic that's new?
00:09:21
Speaker
I mean, I basically have a holy trinity of, you know, anchors in my life, right?
00:09:30
Speaker
So family, family and friends would be one.
00:09:37
Speaker
you know my my that physical exertion that i really need to to get my endorphins flowing to just um feel engaged i make sure i do that in the morning right so i start every day like that so that's that's my first thing is first and then um and then like i said i mean i have a little niece so she brought up my day you know i make sure i see her a few times a week um
00:10:07
Speaker
There's like a level of innocence with, I mean, it's a shame that little kids are getting to know the world like this, you know, their introduction to society.
00:10:17
Speaker
Sadly enough, like my niece doesn't really, my niece doesn't really find it strange to see people with a mask on.
00:10:25
Speaker
Wow.
00:10:28
Speaker
I thought she'd be scared of somebody with a mask, right, naturally, but it's commonplace for her.
00:10:36
Speaker
But anyway, not to digress, I mean, that's one thing, my family, my fitness, and then, you know, I like to eat too.
00:10:47
Speaker
So I like to look forward to, if nothing else, you know, a nice dinner.
00:10:55
Speaker
And if anything,
00:10:57
Speaker
you know i saved a lot of money i mean i didn't spend a lot of money going out to eat usually usually i i drop some cash when it comes to going out boy like it ain't good eat good yeah but but basically what i did this year was i said i'm gonna take that money i'm gonna buy cleaner food better food and that's gonna you know that's gonna help the fitness part of it so i'm about to eat
00:11:22
Speaker
but I'm still gonna eat right and I'm gonna eat good.
Connecting with Others and Offering Support
00:11:26
Speaker
So you created some type of discipline, some new discipline.
00:11:29
Speaker
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:11:30
Speaker
Hey, listen, you look great, man.
00:11:32
Speaker
You look great.
00:11:33
Speaker
I think you're ready for another TV show, maybe a movie role, maybe the front of GQ magazine.
00:11:39
Speaker
No, seriously.
00:11:40
Speaker
I'm like, damn, you inspiring me.
00:11:42
Speaker
I got, listen, I got a lot of good people in my life that talk me up, that...
00:11:50
Speaker
That pushed me, but nobody like you, you know that, you know that.
00:11:55
Speaker
Brothers from my different mothers, man.
00:11:56
Speaker
Hey, I'm here for you.
00:11:58
Speaker
Because when I was in that dark space, you pulled me out.
00:12:01
Speaker
We did it back then, but we continue to do that for each other now.
00:12:05
Speaker
So I mean, that's what I would encourage people to do too, right?
00:12:08
Speaker
Yeah.
00:12:08
Speaker
Connect with people.
00:12:09
Speaker
I wish I did more of that.
00:12:11
Speaker
I wish I did more of... Connect with people.
00:12:14
Speaker
You hear that, guys?
00:12:15
Speaker
Connect more.
00:12:16
Speaker
I mean...
00:12:18
Speaker
I have a long list of people that I could reach out to and just say, how are things?
00:12:27
Speaker
How are you feeling?
00:12:27
Speaker
Because I think that a big component to this whole thing is people don't know what is okay, right?
00:12:34
Speaker
I mean, is it okay to feel...
00:12:39
Speaker
you know, to not feel okay with everything that's going on.
00:12:43
Speaker
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:12:43
Speaker
That's a good question.
00:12:44
Speaker
What do you think?
00:12:45
Speaker
Is it okay to not feel okay or is it okay?
00:12:47
Speaker
I mean, what do you think?
00:12:49
Speaker
I think it's okay to feel not okay.
00:12:51
Speaker
Absolutely.
00:12:52
Speaker
I agree with you more.
00:12:53
Speaker
And I think... Why is that you believe?
00:13:00
Speaker
Because it's like anything
Introspection and Valuing Life
00:13:01
Speaker
else.
00:13:01
Speaker
I mean, throughout... Is it relatable?
00:13:04
Speaker
It's real?
00:13:05
Speaker
It's definitely real.
00:13:07
Speaker
I mean, there should be...
00:13:10
Speaker
there should be forums, I mean, there should be lives just like you and I are having with people where they're basically venting on the emotions that they're going through, right?
00:13:21
Speaker
I mean, some people might be stuck in a place where, man, is this gonna last forever?
00:13:26
Speaker
I mean, I think in my opinion, it's gonna be a gradual return to a norm, right?
00:13:36
Speaker
Or whatever we consider to be normal.
00:13:39
Speaker
It's going to be gradual.
00:13:40
Speaker
And what I've been thinking about this week is, is it going to be strange to go back into a bar or restaurant?
00:13:49
Speaker
Yeah, we talked about that.
00:13:51
Speaker
Are you going to be in the gym and work out and not have a mask on and feel awkward?
00:13:56
Speaker
You know what I mean?
00:13:57
Speaker
Is it going to be different?
00:13:59
Speaker
The programming is programming us again for another life that we haven't lived that.
00:14:03
Speaker
And we're living it now.
00:14:05
Speaker
like I was telling you the other day I was watching a movie in a movie I saw a bunch of people and it kind of threw me off like oh not normal it's not it's not normal so I think more importantly than anything family connection being okay with not being okay right but also being super aware of not
00:14:29
Speaker
conditioning and programming ourselves to this new world where we don't feel safe without a mask or we're like overly anxious and overly cautious and overly protective and we're not living life but more importantly we're not experiencing life we're not experiencing
00:14:46
Speaker
us, you know, each other.
00:14:48
Speaker
Like I was telling someone months ago, if one of my neighbors fell and broke their leg or hurt something, I wouldn't just say, oh, I can't go over because I have a mask on, like I'm going to help them.
00:15:00
Speaker
You know, it's like, I can't be that way.
00:15:03
Speaker
So I try to tell people, you know, we got to live in love and not live in fear, because fear is what stresses us, what weakens the immune system that puts us in a low vibrational state, it's easy for us to get sick.
00:15:16
Speaker
Yeah.
Positive Mindset and Physical Health
00:15:18
Speaker
Well, I mean, again, that goes back to routine.
00:15:23
Speaker
Part of a routine, aside from eating right, would be, you know, are you taking a vitamin?
00:15:31
Speaker
Are you, you know, you're taking certain vitamins to, you know, boost your immune system?
00:15:37
Speaker
Are you taking vitamin C?
00:15:39
Speaker
Are you taking vitamin D?
00:15:41
Speaker
Are you getting outside a little bit?
00:15:42
Speaker
I mean,
00:15:46
Speaker
You have to, I told myself in the beginning, I'm like, if I stay physically strong, I don't know, maybe I was fooling myself.
00:15:54
Speaker
And if I can stay physically strong and maybe I can, you know, say I do get it.
00:16:02
Speaker
You know, I mean, my biggest fear has always been from the beginning.
00:16:05
Speaker
Older people in my life, parents.
00:16:08
Speaker
Yeah, parents.
00:16:09
Speaker
Mainly.
00:16:11
Speaker
um and other you know other older people that i that i come across so i mean i always felt like man if i if i stay strong then i can combat it if i if i get coveted or you know what i mean or i'll i'll i'll you know um
00:16:30
Speaker
it'll pass through my system faster than you know maybe you tell yourself building up because what people don't know I always say motion changes emotion right and when you're feeling good and when you're strong and you're confident you're putting yourself at a higher vibrational state and frequency where I feel like the virus only attacks people who immune system is weak and who is in a low vibrational state so someone who's
00:16:53
Speaker
depressed severely someone who's stressed out someone who's negative someone who is in fear I feel like the virus looks for those things right because it's like it wants it to feed itself so if you keep yourself healthy in shape feeling good wherever you pray meditate on hikes affirmations good music good people I tell people dance you know you know you gotta
00:17:18
Speaker
You got to create the energy you want to have in your life.
00:17:22
Speaker
You can't let the energy create you based on what's given like the news, other people projecting their fears onto you, the things we read about, knowing someone who might got it or have it, maybe someone passed.
00:17:34
Speaker
You can't let that be your reality because everybody's path and journey is different.
00:17:39
Speaker
That's why I think being aware in these moments and these times is so important.
00:17:43
Speaker
And granted, honestly, the good thing about it is people are more clean now probably.
00:17:48
Speaker
For sure.
00:17:49
Speaker
Right?
00:17:49
Speaker
Well, you know, we have far fewer flu cases than ever because people aren't contracting the regular flu because, you know, I mean, I go in the gym and
00:18:01
Speaker
the scent of hand sanitizer just runs rampant through the place.
00:18:08
Speaker
I mean, you watch everybody.
00:18:09
Speaker
They're diligent about cleaning their stuff.
00:18:13
Speaker
People distance themselves.
00:18:15
Speaker
Yeah, you know?
00:18:16
Speaker
I like to think, yeah, I mean, of course, you got to have it on you at all times.
00:18:19
Speaker
But no, I always think that you're in the gym and you're dealing with
00:18:24
Speaker
you know, people that have a healthier mindset and put that first
Maintaining Spirits and Positivity
00:18:29
Speaker
anyway.
00:18:29
Speaker
So they're not going to put themselves at risk.
00:18:32
Speaker
So, I mean, I was cautious getting back into the gym, but I think it's one of the better places you could be.
00:18:41
Speaker
But yeah, I definitely think there is something to that.
00:18:44
Speaker
You know, I mean, we always talk about it.
00:18:46
Speaker
If you keep yourself in a positive mind frame,
00:18:53
Speaker
then, and your spirits are up, then, you know, it's not like you're not a sitting duck.
00:18:59
Speaker
You're not just waiting for it to hit you, you know?
00:19:03
Speaker
So, yeah, I couldn't agree with you more.
00:19:05
Speaker
I think that you have to, you got to keep your spirits up.
00:19:09
Speaker
You got to, like I said, stay regimented.
00:19:12
Speaker
Make sure you do something every day.
00:19:14
Speaker
I mean, I said to you this morning,
00:19:17
Speaker
the whole deal is gonna be like when this ends and it is gonna end.
00:19:21
Speaker
Yeah.
00:19:22
Speaker
Who we gonna be and what we gonna
Changes in Dating and Vulnerability
00:19:24
Speaker
do.
00:19:24
Speaker
Absolutely.
00:19:26
Speaker
Yeah, let's move into like, so we got the mental aspects of the effects it could have on people but what do you think happens or is happening in a dating world, right?
00:19:36
Speaker
That's a good question.
00:19:37
Speaker
quarantine or people hanging out more than hanging out less or people getting in relationships or some people getting out of relationships because they're spending more time together what is your your overall scope on just dating in quarantine or in this pandemic has been like what's your percent i mean i think at first it was like
00:19:57
Speaker
non-existent but again now it's become the norm it's yeah like so i think i saw something on the today show the other day and they were talking about how you know something that was once not that it was i mean it was something that we you know everybody jokes about sliding into dms yeah that's that's your best bet if you want to try to meet somebody then slide
00:20:26
Speaker
If you want to meet somebody, just slide, slide into DM.
00:20:31
Speaker
Right there from that.
00:20:32
Speaker
So you've been sliding into DMs, Matt, or what?
00:20:39
Speaker
I heard that a few days ago and they were like, you know, that's the 2020, 2021 version of, you know, buying somebody a drink.
00:20:47
Speaker
That's a great analogy, wow.
00:20:51
Speaker
Actually, the other thing that was interesting to me was
00:20:56
Speaker
Go on your friend's account, right?
00:20:59
Speaker
So you have a female that you're just friends with or your boy's girlfriend or wife or something like that.
00:21:11
Speaker
You go through her feed and see who she follows and follows her back.
00:21:14
Speaker
And then somebody looks appealing to you and attractive to you, then you might have the friend try to set that up.
00:21:25
Speaker
so she might dm she might she might message a friend and say you know what what about so and so or maybe i have somebody for you but again that would happen in the normal world if we were out and about and two people met you know if you're if friends here's dinner and they were out with another friend who's single then that connection might be made after the fact but now you go the extra mile now you have to go do that no let me stop um
00:21:53
Speaker
Yeah, I mean, that's interesting.
00:21:55
Speaker
I mean, I also think that's what I've done.
00:21:57
Speaker
But it sounded like that option.
00:22:00
Speaker
I think dating and just relationships in general is a time for people to be more open, right?
00:22:06
Speaker
And vulnerable when they're meeting someone for the first time or a new time, right?
00:22:12
Speaker
you if they get no real it will be all experienced this year it's like what are you hiding from so many people lost jobs some people losing it in possessions and family people so it's like hey
00:22:25
Speaker
you know, just be free, be open, speak your truth, be authentic.
00:22:29
Speaker
Maybe this relationship can help you for the next one.
00:22:32
Speaker
Maybe this is one that can save you, you know, because sometimes you need a little bit of affection, you need a little bit of love, you need a hug, you need someone to call you and check in on you and tell you it's going to be okay.
00:22:42
Speaker
But at the end of the day, what I realized about the pandemic and everything that's going on,
00:22:48
Speaker
we're all connected right so it doesn't matter what race what creed what height what status we're all connected we're all affected all over the world it wasn't just america it was the world so i think you know moving forward mindful of that we're all in the same boat yeah yeah i mean um i mean there's a couple different ways to go about it like i was i was thinking about what you were saying before i mean
00:23:18
Speaker
this we're closer to the end than we are to the beginning,
Anxiety About Post-Pandemic Growth
00:23:22
Speaker
right?
00:23:22
Speaker
Yeah, absolutely.
00:23:24
Speaker
I mean, that's ideally the way you'd like to look at it.
00:23:27
Speaker
So I feel more anxiety, to be honest with you, I feel more anxiety about this whole thing ending, this pause period.
00:23:39
Speaker
Yeah.
00:23:40
Speaker
Where if you didn't evolve, then
00:23:46
Speaker
you did yourself a disservice, right?
00:23:48
Speaker
Hold on, hold on, hold on.
00:23:50
Speaker
Take a break.
00:23:50
Speaker
Can you say that again, please?
00:23:52
Speaker
If you didn't, if you didn't somehow evolve and you did yourself a huge disservice, you missed an opportunity, you know, become more.
00:24:00
Speaker
Yeah.
00:24:01
Speaker
Yeah.
00:24:01
Speaker
I mean,
00:24:03
Speaker
To me, there are, if you look hard enough, there are many opportunities for silver linings, right?
00:24:10
Speaker
Yeah.
00:24:11
Speaker
Take those silver linings and turn them into gold.
00:24:16
Speaker
That's what I've been saying to myself all along, right?
00:24:19
Speaker
I mean, the world is on pause.
00:24:21
Speaker
Yeah.
00:24:22
Speaker
If you felt like you were behind the eight ball with something, if you felt like you had some catching up to do, there were some advancements in your life that
00:24:34
Speaker
uh you felt you were you know not putting giving enough attention to well now now is your chance and there's still plenty of time right i mean we're at the midway but my biggest fear is my anxiety comes from not will we ever get out of this my comes from when we do get out of this what will i have to show for you i mean i want to look back and say man
00:25:00
Speaker
everything was on hold, right?
00:25:02
Speaker
And I had every opportunity to try to improve upon A, B, and C. Now, did I do it?
00:25:09
Speaker
Or did I let that whole, you know, did I let that whole period pass me by and came up short of what I was trying to do?
00:25:18
Speaker
So I want to emerge from this better in more ways than one.
00:25:24
Speaker
So that's my fear.
00:25:25
Speaker
I'm like, man, this thing is
00:25:28
Speaker
make sure that like um you're done execution I mean if I'm here and here in a couple weeks I gotta pick this up I gotta raise this level up you know I mean it's time to level up for everybody and you know there's still there's still months and months of time so my my point would be try to put a positive spin on it that way too I got time to do the things you know that I've been wanting to do or before yeah yeah yeah exactly
00:25:58
Speaker
And that's the ironic thing about the whole pandemic is that it forces you to look at yourself.
00:26:06
Speaker
Hell yeah, yeah.
00:26:07
Speaker
It's just buddy, so what are you waiting for?
Facing Fears and Embracing Change
00:26:10
Speaker
You have all the time in the world.
00:26:12
Speaker
Yeah, you got no excuse now.
00:26:14
Speaker
No excuse.
00:26:14
Speaker
So I feel like that was a positive.
00:26:16
Speaker
I also feel like people learned a lot about themselves through adversity, through pandemic.
00:26:23
Speaker
There were people that I know that's, you know, quote unquote, middle class or better.
00:26:28
Speaker
And they were like freaking out or it was just, you know, they was getting overwhelmed and a lot of people were.
00:26:35
Speaker
And it was like, I just feel bad for, you there?
00:26:39
Speaker
Yeah, I'll be right there.
00:26:40
Speaker
Hold on.
00:26:41
Speaker
My phone's done.
00:26:42
Speaker
Hold on.
00:26:48
Speaker
they stated that I just feel I just feel bad for like the poor people the people who don't have much it was like freaking out right and I was like interesting I was like I said look check this out
00:27:00
Speaker
the only reason this pandemic is affecting you is because it's affecting your people and your class, middle class or upper class, whatever you want to call it, right?
00:27:09
Speaker
But there have been people in poverty stricken areas, inner cities, who's been struggling and in a real pandemic most of their life.
00:27:19
Speaker
This is interesting, not to cut you off, but I'm on the treadmill this morning and I'm thinking to myself, you know,
00:27:30
Speaker
I mean, I don't want to say spoiled, but I've had it way too good for way too long, right?
00:27:35
Speaker
You know as well as anybody, right?
00:27:39
Speaker
It's been too easy to be comfortable.
00:27:42
Speaker
Yeah.
00:27:43
Speaker
I mean, this whole thing took you way outside your comfort zone.
00:27:48
Speaker
So I mean, again, like, I'll tell you what, to be honest with you, okay, we go back to the very basic thing about working out.
00:27:55
Speaker
I had some of my best workouts in the summer with just three weights out in the 95 degree weather.
00:28:02
Speaker
I felt like a savage because I had to go back to the basics, you know what I mean?
00:28:09
Speaker
You know what I mean?
00:28:11
Speaker
Hold on.
00:28:12
Speaker
You feel better because you had the basics.
00:28:15
Speaker
Elliot, absolutely.
00:28:16
Speaker
Absolutely.
00:28:18
Speaker
E, I made, I did so much more with less.
00:28:24
Speaker
That, you know, I mean, I always knew what I was doing.
00:28:27
Speaker
So, I wasn't shocked.
00:28:30
Speaker
But I did so much more with less that I even surprised myself.
00:28:35
Speaker
So, now, now when I am in the gym, I'm like, there's a certain edge to me that, again, over the next
00:28:45
Speaker
few months I have to get back.
00:28:48
Speaker
And I mean, it's a small thing.
00:28:50
Speaker
It's just that little bit of like a killer instinct that I was out of my way, way out of my comfort zone.
00:28:57
Speaker
Now I'm back in the gym.
00:28:58
Speaker
There's a lot of machines.
00:29:00
Speaker
It's comfortable.
00:29:01
Speaker
The temperature is right.
00:29:02
Speaker
You know what I mean?
00:29:04
Speaker
But every time I'm working out, I'm like, this is too comfortable.
Valuing Natural Experiences
00:29:11
Speaker
You know, I think I feel like this new age, this new world of technology and digital and social currency, right?
00:29:20
Speaker
It's great.
00:29:21
Speaker
But we forget what we were given when we got here on planet Earth without any technology or anything digital, you got your senses, right?
00:29:32
Speaker
You got your eyes to see, your nose to smell, your ears to hear, you got your limbs, your legs to walk.
00:29:39
Speaker
So yesterday, I took a walk and I was like, usually I would drive because I have transportation.
00:29:45
Speaker
I was like, we take for granted because of the world we live in and we've been living in it for so long, the necessities that we're giving without having anything attached to it.
00:29:56
Speaker
You know, eye contact, body language, nature, smell,
00:30:04
Speaker
hearing feeling walking like i said you know i'm gonna go for a walk you know i can always drive but we don't ever i don't get too many chances to walk unless i make time for it right right also important that this thing make us look at uh
00:30:20
Speaker
ourselves that the things we have naturally that make us us there's a book called um tuesdays with maury oh that's one of my favorite books yeah so i don't know if you remember um the moment in a book he was talking to uh his teacher professor
00:30:39
Speaker
And he was kind of like on his deathbed, right?
00:30:42
Speaker
And he told the young boy, he said, anytime someone's in a position that he is in, like, you know, ill, probably about to leave earth or whatever, never make someone who's severely ill or feeling sick feel like they are that way.
00:30:56
Speaker
Right, right.
00:30:57
Speaker
them normal, right, as if they were regular, like they were normal.
00:31:00
Speaker
Don't bring energy, don't feel sorry, don't feel down, don't bring that energy into their existence.
00:31:05
Speaker
But he said, you know what you got to do is you got to look outside and look at the trees and watch the leaves fall off and look at the sky and watch the wind blow the leaves off the tree.
00:31:16
Speaker
And he was like, that's when you get back to like really appreciate living
00:31:22
Speaker
Right, the intangible stuff, right?
00:31:25
Speaker
The parts that you can't really touch or see because maybe you're in a different position, but you can feel it.
00:31:34
Speaker
Like, man, look at the sun, man, it's just shining.
00:31:36
Speaker
Or look at the skies and the clouds.
00:31:38
Speaker
It's like we take those things for granted because we're always on the go and we always got to get done or we feel like we're going to miss something or if we don't do this and we need our phones.
00:31:49
Speaker
And it's like, hold on.
00:31:51
Speaker
bring you back we're here with matt munton from connecticut he's a sagittarius you know simple stuff right it's like sometimes we forget how we met a person because we're so great about who they are in front of us it's like hold on how did i meet you well i mean let me put it in in terms um that people that are probably on the live right now can can relate to because i'm sure we have a lot of bachelor fans but
00:32:21
Speaker
I mean, obviously, everybody knows that people find love on the show.
00:32:26
Speaker
Yeah.
00:32:27
Speaker
Friendships that were born, obviously, you know, example, example, a right here exhibit a, I mean,
00:32:35
Speaker
I gotta think that we all got closer because technology was eliminated.
Quarantine vs. The Bachelorette Isolation
00:32:42
Speaker
It was an expedited period of time, right?
00:32:45
Speaker
I mean, we all got to know each other so much faster than we would in a normal setting because our heads were not buried in a phone.
00:32:54
Speaker
We didn't have a TV.
00:32:55
Speaker
We had no distractions.
00:32:57
Speaker
I mean, you really, besides a book, you had nothing,
00:33:04
Speaker
Nothing that was a drain on your attention.
00:33:08
Speaker
This is probably not the right thing to say, but as far as the quarantine, just the simple form of being isolated.
00:33:27
Speaker
I think back to the Bachelorette days a little bit.
00:33:29
Speaker
I do.
00:33:29
Speaker
Like, you know, what about when we were in our hotel room for like,
00:33:35
Speaker
72 hours, you know, only, only, you know, the only human beings we saw was like, obviously producers, but I mean, you know, you had nothing to do, but, but sit alone by yourself for a few days before we started shooting.
00:33:53
Speaker
And, you know, alone with your with your nervous energy with your little bit of anxiety that we all had.
00:34:00
Speaker
So, I mean, I think back a little bit to a few years ago and some of what we went through then, just in terms of the quarantine, I'm not talking the bigger picture.
00:34:12
Speaker
There's much more serious shit going on, I understand.
00:34:14
Speaker
But I'm saying the simple quarantining period that we're going through now reminds me a little bit of that.
00:34:20
Speaker
And then just, you know, we didn't have access to all those things.
00:34:27
Speaker
So we sat around, we played cards.
00:34:29
Speaker
Yeah, yeah.
00:34:30
Speaker
Yeah, we talked.
00:34:32
Speaker
What was it, Man Chats?
00:34:33
Speaker
What was it, Man Chats?
00:34:34
Speaker
Where are the guys' shots?
00:34:35
Speaker
That's been so long.
00:34:36
Speaker
Man Chats.
00:34:37
Speaker
Yeah, yeah, yeah, Man Chats.
00:34:39
Speaker
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:34:39
Speaker
That's what we called them.
00:34:40
Speaker
That was the term for it.
00:34:42
Speaker
But I mean, that's what you had to do.
00:34:44
Speaker
You had to get back to just like, you know, getting to know one another.
00:34:49
Speaker
And that's the opportunity that everybody has now to make a phone call to somebody who they haven't talked to in six months to a year.
00:34:55
Speaker
You know what I mean?
00:34:57
Speaker
Catch up with them.
00:34:58
Speaker
See how they are, how their family has been, what their mental is like, what they feel.
00:35:06
Speaker
And sometimes it does feel like all we do is talk about this.
00:35:10
Speaker
It's good to have a balance, right?
00:35:12
Speaker
I mean, that's the one plus thing.
00:35:16
Speaker
of getting you know almost a year deep into this is this part of life now so we're not always talking about this new thing we're dealing with because we've been dealing with it so we can sort of move past a little bit but i think the occasional checking with people like what do you think about this that's going on or that that's going on and you know
00:35:38
Speaker
People need to put that out on the table.
00:35:40
Speaker
And again, talk about how you talk about your fears, your anxieties, what your concerns are.
00:35:48
Speaker
I'm just worried about this, I'm worried about that.
00:35:50
Speaker
I mean, I was relieved to hear that my father is gonna be able to now in Connecticut, some of the states have done it, where they dropped the age down to 65.
00:35:59
Speaker
you know, my father will get the vaccine and he's happy about that.
00:36:03
Speaker
I'm relieved to hear that too, because somebody in my life that could be susceptible just because he's older.
00:36:09
Speaker
Yeah.
00:36:10
Speaker
He makes the cut, so he'll be able to get the vaccine.
00:36:13
Speaker
To me, that's a good thing.
00:36:15
Speaker
And so, you know, that makes me feel better.
00:36:18
Speaker
But
00:36:19
Speaker
Yeah, like what are your concerns?
00:36:20
Speaker
Well, most of the time you have a conversation with people and they say, well, I'm just worried about mainly my parents.
00:36:26
Speaker
You know, if I give it to them or if they get it, this relative has cancer or, you know, I'd hate to see them have to, you know, catch it.
00:36:36
Speaker
God only knows what might happen.
00:36:38
Speaker
So those are the kind of things that go through people's minds.
00:36:42
Speaker
So it doesn't hurt to just reach out to somebody if you have the opportunity to just,
00:36:49
Speaker
I think what you're really expressing and getting to in this moment is that it's love,
Love and Connection During Challenges
00:36:54
Speaker
right?
00:36:54
Speaker
Love, it's just love.
00:36:56
Speaker
Who be for themselves that are older because of love, because of family, because of togetherness, because of harmony.
00:37:02
Speaker
And I think if we intentionally say, you know what, today I'm going to get better, but I'm going to make sure I give a little love, right?
00:37:09
Speaker
And that can be in the form of a compliment, a text message, dancing, hugging someone, talking to someone, you know.
00:37:17
Speaker
love like if more of us more of us consciously every day say you know what i'ma live in a vibration of love and i'ma try to give that as much as i can no matter how bad it is on my end or bad it is in my environment i'ma love it don't have to be outrageous it could just be i'm gonna give away a dollar today um i'm gonna go hug someone i'ma ask someone if they need help or how are you doing like just check in
00:37:43
Speaker
That's all we need.
00:37:44
Speaker
I feel like if everyone was on the love frequency, a lot of these things would have been gone and out of place and out of mind because the love energy is so potent that it overtakes anything.
00:37:55
Speaker
And I think that's what we got to get to as well with one another now that we have all these times.
00:38:00
Speaker
How do I love my mother?
00:38:01
Speaker
How do I love my father?
00:38:03
Speaker
How do I love my spouse?
00:38:04
Speaker
How do I love my niece and my nephew in these different times?
00:38:08
Speaker
So, you know, it's important.
00:38:10
Speaker
It's a, you know, like, it's an opportunity to say to yourself, have I been a good son?
00:38:18
Speaker
Have I been a good brother?
00:38:20
Speaker
You know what I mean?
00:38:21
Speaker
All those things.
00:38:21
Speaker
So, but those are hard questions.
00:38:24
Speaker
And in a normal day and age, in a normal time,
00:38:28
Speaker
it's very easy with everything that we have going on and the pace that we're moving at to just bypass that thought but now you really and especially a lot of people are sitting you know by themselves a lot more than they usually would be yeah so now you really have to sit down with those with those questions and you have to look into the mirror and those really emotions yeah yeah and i mean and again
00:38:54
Speaker
Back to the idea of checking in with the people around us or reaching out to people who we haven't talked to in a while That was another that was another Sort of a I don't know the word I'm looking for but we didn't do that before because we were so busy right we were just on to the next thing to the next thing we were we had a schedule so something that
00:39:22
Speaker
that would just get lost in that in that hectic day-to-day routine would be i can't spend five minutes talking yeah it wasn't as intimate as we are now because we have intimacy is everything for all of us you know it's like just the attention to detail oh yeah absolutely and that's why i just don't think it was all bad you know yeah when you when you look back at at that
00:39:47
Speaker
you know, this year is going to be better, but a lot of 21 is going to be very similar to 20.
00:39:52
Speaker
Yeah.
00:39:54
Speaker
I just don't think it's all bad, you know, to look at 2020 and say, yeah, it did suck.
00:39:59
Speaker
We need to move past it.
00:40:00
Speaker
We need to get on to, you know.
00:40:03
Speaker
One of the best years of everybody's life because I feel the more we're forced to grow and evolve and be challenged with better outcomes, I think that's...
00:40:14
Speaker
because when you're comfortable let's say someone who's been in a relationship for 10 years right and both parties been going to work every day taking care of the kids right and now they got all this time together so one thing is they probably could spend more time together with the kids together who could have been they realize they're not as compatible as they once were yeah
00:40:34
Speaker
And so maybe they got to a deep rooted truth that it was like, wow, okay, how do we move forward?
00:40:40
Speaker
How do we still love each other and move our relationship?
00:40:43
Speaker
Or do we stay in the relationship?
00:40:45
Speaker
Because I think it's important to have crucial conversations.
00:40:49
Speaker
And I think the pandemic has brought all those things up into light for all of us.
00:40:54
Speaker
like who am I what am I going to be what I'm going to focus on okay if you lose a job how do you create a job how do you apply another job I'm going to make money you know it's forcing you to use your creative juice and to think outside the box so you can keep afloat and keep going so it's always good and and negatives to to any situation but I always override the good because if it wasn't sometimes I feel like
00:41:21
Speaker
if it wasn't for the dark if it wasn't for the bad there wouldn't be no light and there wouldn't be no good if that makes sense if we had everything i wanted as a child i wouldn't be who i am as an adult that makes sense so sometimes a little challenge and setbacks and hardships is it's not as bad as it seems they would they say what's the cliche uh the bad is really not bad and the good is really not good nothing is
00:41:48
Speaker
Yeah, I love that.
Dangers of Comfort and Growth Necessity
00:41:49
Speaker
But I mean, we talk about all the time like, you know, you know, my, a lot of people that we know,
00:41:59
Speaker
I mean, you go hard, like you, you, you, you do your best to engage with people on social and you're, you're always about your business.
00:42:09
Speaker
You're very, right.
00:42:10
Speaker
I mean, you're, you're always in motion.
00:42:13
Speaker
You're always making things done and you still manage to prop those around you up at all.
00:42:20
Speaker
But again, like I look at you, I say, well, you know,
00:42:25
Speaker
you know, is it a matter of like at some point you're going to slow down and you're always like, I can't slow down because it's a fight or flight mentality.
00:42:35
Speaker
Like, you've always had to go forward.
00:42:39
Speaker
You didn't want to go back to what it was before.
00:42:43
Speaker
You always wanted to make new opportunities for yourself.
00:42:45
Speaker
You always wanted to grow.
00:42:46
Speaker
You always wanted to flourish and embrace every new opportunity that came your way.
00:42:52
Speaker
But then, you know, when you talk to me, I'm a little more comfortable.
00:42:56
Speaker
I'm always, you know, kind of like, I'm a little more complacent.
00:43:02
Speaker
Like, you know, it's work, it's cool, you know.
00:43:05
Speaker
But, you know, I think that, you know,
00:43:11
Speaker
That's what I thought about this morning.
00:43:13
Speaker
It was just a matter of like it's always been too easy.
00:43:17
Speaker
That's real.
00:43:19
Speaker
Congratulations.
00:43:20
Speaker
That's real because to get to that revelation to that understanding since you've been searching.
00:43:26
Speaker
Yeah.
00:43:26
Speaker
That gave you an answer that can kind of lead to a new action and a new pattern.
Self-awareness and Personal Transformation
00:43:30
Speaker
That's how new energy to come into your realm into your world.
00:43:34
Speaker
And I think that's what everybody should do.
00:43:36
Speaker
That comfort, that comfortability factor does more harm than good.
00:43:41
Speaker
That's that, you know, from my experience, you know, when something's easy, it's easy to just get real, you know, just comfy in that position.
00:43:55
Speaker
Yeah.
00:43:57
Speaker
You know,
00:43:59
Speaker
what do you, you lose so much in the, in that, in that, you know, while you're just sitting back and relaxing.
00:44:05
Speaker
Yeah.
00:44:06
Speaker
It's been a, this has just been a process of like self evaluation, you know, where do I need to improve?
00:44:13
Speaker
And I mean, I don't know, I think it was a good thing.
00:44:16
Speaker
I mean, all along, like I'm, I'm single.
00:44:18
Speaker
I wasn't before the pandemic, I was not single.
00:44:21
Speaker
Like, so going through this besides family kind of on my own, the day to day is just,
00:44:28
Speaker
you know, it's a real opportunity for reflection and just trying to just trying to level up in many ways.
00:44:37
Speaker
So and you have.
00:44:39
Speaker
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:44:40
Speaker
I mean, I'd like to.
00:44:42
Speaker
You know, it hasn't been easy, but you did it.
00:44:44
Speaker
Yeah, the most thing is just having compassion for ourselves.
00:44:47
Speaker
I think what I've learned not only from you and, you know, I faced my fear of swimming this year.
00:44:54
Speaker
It taught me two things.
00:44:56
Speaker
to have compassion for myself right and to have patience for myself things don't just happen because i want them to happen or i gotta always be on like you always say i can take a step back and say it's all right that's all right that's all one place that you've you've definitely thrived right you've always been an athlete right how can i how can i basically participate in sport and not be thriving you know what i mean how can i not be
00:45:23
Speaker
at my best in this particular arena yeah well because it's just not something you're accustomed to right you know literally you got to dive in head first and make it happen i was so scared and shook feet but it taught me about fear in a different way and it also gave me respect for people who go after their dreams not knowing where it's going to take them because i didn't know what happened in this deep it was going to do to my spirit or soul but it wasn't about and that's why i want everyone listening and watching to get from this
00:45:53
Speaker
discussion is that it's not what we get or what we got from the pandemic or we get or we're getting for 2021 is what we're going to become.
00:46:03
Speaker
That's what it's always going to be about.
00:46:06
Speaker
Like you said, what are you becoming?
00:46:08
Speaker
What are you evolving to?
00:46:10
Speaker
What new patterns or new things you discovered about yourself?
00:46:13
Speaker
Because here's the thing, if everyone really on a soul level did work on themselves or try to figure out how they can improve, then the world will improve.
00:46:23
Speaker
We have to change we want to see we can't just project that we want change and say change if we're not changing.
00:46:29
Speaker
Yeah, but we have to have actions and patterns that change to make change.
00:46:35
Speaker
So in all, it ain't what we get in is what we become in.
00:46:38
Speaker
What we become in is we want to become more we want to do more but we also want
00:46:43
Speaker
We got to take, you know, like you said, you got a niece.
00:46:45
Speaker
I have a niece.
00:46:45
Speaker
I have nephews.
00:46:47
Speaker
What's that?
00:46:47
Speaker
You're going to look like.
00:46:48
Speaker
You've always said to me, you know, you want to set an example for them.
00:46:51
Speaker
That's huge.
00:46:52
Speaker
That's huge.
00:46:54
Speaker
The blueprint, man, you know, so I just think it's important for us to be aware of our positioning, who we are, what we are and what we believe ourselves to be, because sometimes the identity we created for ourselves is not actually who we really are.
00:47:08
Speaker
For the good and for the bad, you know?
00:47:11
Speaker
Yeah.
00:47:12
Speaker
You might, you might,
00:47:14
Speaker
you know, you might live in a little fantasy world where you're a better person than you actually are.
00:47:19
Speaker
Yeah.
00:47:19
Speaker
I mean,
00:47:21
Speaker
And so, man, I would just think that I haven't called this person, I haven't talked to that person or I haven't responded.
Emotional Ups and Downs
00:47:29
Speaker
It's so easy to not respond to a text now.
00:47:31
Speaker
You know what's crazy about what you just said?
00:47:34
Speaker
It's so easy not to talk to yourself and it's so easy not to respond to yourself.
00:47:38
Speaker
Yeah.
00:47:39
Speaker
And that's what the pandemic has forced us to, to talk to ourselves and respond to ourselves.
00:47:44
Speaker
Yeah.
00:47:44
Speaker
You know what I mean?
00:47:45
Speaker
Like, of course, we want to call and respond and talk, but we got to respond to what's in here.
00:47:51
Speaker
First.
00:47:51
Speaker
What am I afraid of?
00:47:53
Speaker
What's holding me back?
00:47:54
Speaker
Or am I really afraid if I don't get the vaccine?
00:47:57
Speaker
Am I really afraid if I get sick?
00:47:59
Speaker
Like, where's those thoughts coming from?
00:48:01
Speaker
Who's putting that fear and doubt in my system?
00:48:03
Speaker
So it's been a very introspective, reflective 2020.
00:48:08
Speaker
And then, you know, top of the year, we had that chaos at the White House in 2021.
00:48:14
Speaker
But it's everything is normal now when it comes to that.
00:48:18
Speaker
It's all how we respond now.
00:48:19
Speaker
And I think for most of us, we've been doing the best we can.
00:48:22
Speaker
And it's all right.
00:48:24
Speaker
And it's okay if it's not all right.
00:48:25
Speaker
Because we'll get through, right?
00:48:28
Speaker
Yeah, I mean, I got to think there are some people out there who'd be like, you know, I can't really say that this is bothering me, you know, more than more than
00:48:37
Speaker
it really should be.
00:48:38
Speaker
Maybe people like, you know, really having doubts and really uncomfortable and just verbalize that.
00:48:45
Speaker
Find somebody that you're close to and, you know, and there are other avenues too if you don't have anyone that you feel comfortable talking to.
00:48:54
Speaker
But I mean, you can't, you know, I've gone through days where like in the morning, I feel great.
00:49:02
Speaker
By the afternoon, I don't feel so good anymore.
00:49:04
Speaker
I mean,
00:49:06
Speaker
Monday, I'm not like this past week, I was a little bit, I was down, you know, but come Tuesday, I was up again.
00:49:15
Speaker
So don't let one day of, you know, everybody has an off day, right?
00:49:19
Speaker
But yeah, we'll bounce back, you know, know that the sun's gonna come out tomorrow.
00:49:23
Speaker
I mean, that's just the truth.
00:49:25
Speaker
That's just the truth, though, you know, like, don't give into that temporary,
00:49:31
Speaker
that temporary feeling.
00:49:34
Speaker
Yeah.
00:49:34
Speaker
Not forever, you know what I mean?
00:49:36
Speaker
Yeah, forever.
00:49:37
Speaker
And like you say, nothing really lasts forever anyway, good or bad, you know, it's just- Right, right.
00:49:44
Speaker
You know, but- Even things that you wish would last forever.
00:49:47
Speaker
Right.
00:49:47
Speaker
You know, it's just sometimes you got to move on and go on.
00:49:51
Speaker
we're blessed man i'm happy that you jumped on today and gave us your perspective and the effects that your psyche has taken versus you know
Future TV Appearances and Opportunities
00:50:00
Speaker
the world and all of us is you know dealing with but uh before we get off here like you know tell us what's what's new in your world what you got going on what you looking forward to can we catch you on bachelor in paradise will we see you on tv soon someone just said love island i mean i don't know matt i mean i
00:50:18
Speaker
What's new in your world?
00:50:19
Speaker
What you focusing on?
00:50:20
Speaker
What's your intent?
00:50:22
Speaker
I did hear a rumor that, you know, to everybody out there who loves, you asked me the question, what do you love more, a Bachelor or a Paradise?
00:50:36
Speaker
I don't know.
00:50:37
Speaker
I come across people who like both.
00:50:39
Speaker
Okay.
00:50:40
Speaker
You know what I mean?
00:50:41
Speaker
Some people don't want to admit that Paradise is really what they look forward to.
00:50:46
Speaker
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:50:47
Speaker
I know that people were bummed out, were disappointed there was no VIP last year.
00:50:55
Speaker
And I did hear a rumor that they're going to do whatever they got to do.
00:50:59
Speaker
Come hell or high water, they're going to have Bachelor in Paradise this year.
00:51:03
Speaker
Even if they don't do it in Mexico, even if they got to do it in the States.
00:51:08
Speaker
yeah so i don't know that sounds interesting to me okay i like it i like it i like are you coming back as the penguin or what no god no the penguin is dead
00:51:22
Speaker
I mean, that had its time and its place, but... That was a chance though.
00:51:27
Speaker
You took a chance that a lot of people won't do and you advanced.
00:51:29
Speaker
You made top six.
00:51:30
Speaker
People don't know you made top six your first time on TV.
00:51:34
Speaker
You know what I'm saying?
00:51:34
Speaker
Like that's far.
00:51:36
Speaker
You travel, you know, you got out the house, you experienced some things.
00:51:40
Speaker
We was on a boat in the middle of the Pacific, you know.
00:51:43
Speaker
I was scared shitless.
00:51:44
Speaker
It's like good to know.
00:51:46
Speaker
I'd swim back then.
00:51:47
Speaker
Like ocean sickness, you know.
00:51:50
Speaker
I'd swim back then.
00:51:52
Speaker
Yeah.
00:51:52
Speaker
Is that a long time ago to you?
00:51:55
Speaker
Yeah, it does.
00:51:56
Speaker
It does.
00:51:56
Speaker
So much has happened, you know.
00:51:58
Speaker
It's like, damn.
00:51:59
Speaker
It doesn't, but it does.
00:52:00
Speaker
Yeah.
00:52:02
Speaker
So much has happened.
00:52:03
Speaker
So much.
00:52:04
Speaker
If you ask me, could I see myself back doing that kind of thing again?
00:52:10
Speaker
Definitely, definitely.
00:52:13
Speaker
The truth of the matter is like, I mean, there's not a lot of dating going on.
00:52:17
Speaker
I mean, not meeting a lot of new people.
00:52:20
Speaker
I mean, so the opportunity to go where there's going to be a lot of single women.
00:52:29
Speaker
and be on the beach hopefully somewhere sipping tequila tequila let's get it i don't know if i could pass it up to be honest yeah man so we'll see what happens
00:52:44
Speaker
Well, look, man.
00:52:46
Speaker
In the meantime... What's your advice for everybody out here before we get off?
Encouraging Optimism and Routine
00:52:51
Speaker
Give them some quick advice.
00:52:52
Speaker
I mean, you gave a lot throughout, but just at the top of your mind right now, what's calling you or what's telling you what to say or... I mean, if I were to... I mean...
00:53:08
Speaker
you got it like you said you got to dance you got to move yeah baby you know I mean I mean it takes I just I just think the negativity right and I get caught up in it worse than anybody but like you know oh we got to get out of this this just got to end but I don't think I don't think I don't think to you know there it's okay to have that
00:53:34
Speaker
you know, have those thoughts some days, but just make sure the majority of the time, you know, you're looking forward to next summer when most people are vaccinated and, you know, we can start getting out there.
00:53:48
Speaker
I mean, even this summer wasn't too bad.
00:53:50
Speaker
Like people were out, restaurants were open, you can sit outside.
00:53:54
Speaker
I mean, I'm in the Northeast, wintertime can be a little tough, but we got about 10, 12 weeks of this.
00:54:01
Speaker
When you put it that way, it doesn't seem that bad.
00:54:03
Speaker
This will end.
00:54:05
Speaker
We'll get back to some sense of normalcy.
00:54:07
Speaker
And then from there, we will, you know, we will gradually get closer and closer to what we remember as normal.
00:54:15
Speaker
So, um,
00:54:18
Speaker
just do something every day.
00:54:19
Speaker
I mean, I break a sweat.
00:54:21
Speaker
That's my thing.
00:54:23
Speaker
But for whatever makes you feel better, you got to do something every day that just gets you on to the next day and the next day and the next day and we'll be there before we know it.
00:54:36
Speaker
It's not going to take that long.
00:54:38
Speaker
Good habits, man.
00:54:39
Speaker
Good habits.
00:54:40
Speaker
Yeah, just get in the habit of
00:54:43
Speaker
you know find something that just makes you feel good and uh try to be optimistic it's not easy yeah uh and we'll get there you know we're on our way baby it's miracle season man matt munton everybody follow him matt underscore munton on instagram i don't know if you're on twitter or facebook but matt munson he's the man follow him he's in connecticut what part of connecticut murden the middle of connecticut
00:55:13
Speaker
Yeah, half hour from Hartford, half hour from New Haven.
00:55:18
Speaker
I can't make excuses because you only asked me 10 different times, come out to LA when you coming out here.
00:55:25
Speaker
So, you know, we're going to make that happen soon too.
00:55:29
Speaker
And then you'll be coming out here.
00:55:35
Speaker
I need that energy.
00:55:41
Speaker
Yeah, and then make sure people are watching your story because there's always positivity.
00:55:46
Speaker
There's energy out there.
00:55:48
Speaker
I mean, people are asking me like, what are you... Because I put up a lot of quotes and things like that.
00:55:53
Speaker
And people are like, when did you get so preachy, basically?
00:55:57
Speaker
But I'm like, we can't have enough positivity.
00:56:00
Speaker
It's like all hands on top right now, you know?
00:56:02
Speaker
Yeah, it's healing, yeah.
00:56:04
Speaker
Your positive vibe out there.
00:56:06
Speaker
Yeah, it's part of the format, it's part of the path and the journey, man.
00:56:10
Speaker
I love you, man.
00:56:11
Speaker
I appreciate you, my brother from another.
00:56:13
Speaker
Keep winning, keep learning, keep evolving.
00:56:16
Speaker
And maybe we'll see you on TV soon, man.
00:56:18
Speaker
You know what I mean?
00:56:18
Speaker
You never know.
00:56:20
Speaker
Amen.
00:56:22
Speaker
stay healthy stay wealthy inside out and be great man and uh yeah man just be maddy maddy nice maddy ice my guy i'm gonna talk to you soon all right bro okay