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Speaker: That was my friend's one piece of advice to me before starting a podcast was don't forget to hit record.
Speaker: All right.
Speaker: So I want to welcome everybody to Something's Brewing, where we fill your cup with inspiring conversations.
Speaker: I can't tell you the amount of times I've had conversations with the people, and I wish I had recorded them for others to listen to.
Speaker: So here we are, and I'm with Nick today.
Speaker: So Nick, thank you for being a guest on the show today.
Speaker: And I'd love for you to just take a moment to introduce yourself before we kick it off.
Speaker: Thanks, Laura.
Speaker: I'm excited to join you and chat with you.
Speaker: Greetings from Lincoln, Nebraska.
Speaker: It's a land of cows and corn.
Speaker: I am sure that, Laura, you've definitely been here.
Speaker: I can vouch for that, yes.
Speaker: You can vouch for that.
Speaker: Lots of cows and corn.
Speaker: Originally from Lincoln, I've lived in five different countries, Germany, Sweden, the UK, the US, of course, and India, and always worked in like
Speaker: the HR space on the sales team, so HR tech sales over the last nearly 20 years of my career.
Speaker: It's good to chat with you today.
Speaker: It's so good to chat with you.
Speaker: And for everybody who's listening, Nick and I formally worked together and built a nice relationship.
Speaker: Actually, when I went to Lincoln, I was able to spend 24 hours with Nick and get a little bit of a tour of whatever exists out there.
Speaker: Went from what, Omaha to Lincoln, or was it the other way around?
Speaker: We drove from Omaha to Lincoln.
Speaker: You're right.
Speaker: You nailed it.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: It was, I remember just putting my phone out the window and just like cornfields the entire time.
Speaker: So true.
Speaker: Oh my gosh.
Speaker: Well, I'm glad you love it out there and I'm sure there's more to do than corn and fields.
Speaker: So thank you for the intro.
Speaker: I really just want to start with, you know, what wellbeing, wellness, mental health, self-care, whatever anybody calls it these days, what does that mean to you?
Speaker: For me, it means a few different things.
Speaker: Like the meaning of it has changed over time.
Speaker: So I'd say at first it meant hard work because it didn't come naturally to me.
Speaker: And I think when people hear self-care, well-being, if you aren't deep into any specific practice, the imagery is usually like I'm getting a massage or something which is very, very passive and is like delivered to you.
Speaker: But for me, that's absolutely not what it is.
Speaker: It used to be that some years ago.
Speaker: But for me, the first word that comes to mind is hard work because you're trying to create intentionality around taking care of yourself.
Speaker: And that actually doesn't come natural to most people, I would say, based on the conversations I've had with many folks.
Speaker: So the first thing is hard work.
Speaker: The next word for me is essential.
Speaker: I do not show up
Speaker: authentically and wholly if I'm not taking care of myself.
Speaker: And so, you know, hard work and essential are vital to like total well-being.
Speaker: These are the words that sort of come to mind for me.
Speaker: The practices that I exercise, they vary from
Speaker: from yoga when we think about breath work and connecting with mind and body, but then also definitely the massages, big fan of massages.
Speaker: So good.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So good.
Speaker: So necessary.
Speaker: So it varies from one thing to the next.
Speaker: And yeah, it's the last thing I would say is it's, it's usually quite deeply personal.
Speaker: It needs to be something that you feel connected to that, that brings you joy, but also allows for reflection and growth.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: I love that for many reasons.
Speaker: One hard work for me, I think just hit a new definition lately where, you know, I've been in therapy for years, but I've, I've taken the logical side where I'm like, oh yeah, this leads.
Speaker: So this leads to this.
Speaker: And I never had the intentionality piece of
Speaker: actually purposely making the changes.
Speaker: And when they say change is hard, change is definitely hard, you know, for to rewire your brain.
Speaker: Like I'm somebody who like, I love to work out.
Speaker: That's a change I can definitely do.
Speaker: But when it comes to like habits in the mind that require change, that's a completely different thing for me.
Speaker: Yeah, that's right.
Speaker: It starts with mindsets there.
Speaker: When you think about embracing change,
Speaker: If it's something that somebody's telling you, you have to do, usually it doesn't take hold, then it's sort of a vanity change, which doesn't actually stick.
Speaker: But when you start to internalize it and say, hey, this is something I want to do.
Speaker: And I stress the word want, not need.
Speaker: This is something I want to do.
Speaker: This is for me.
Speaker: Then it starts to become a little bit easier to at least get started.
Speaker: If not, they actually keep it.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: And then the other side of just being uniquely personal to you, right?
Speaker: And that, that combined with the want, I think is so key because people, I think often wellbeing gets misinterpreted as you can take it like the meditation or massage side that you said of just like this fancy kind of wellness, right?
Speaker: Or
Speaker: the opposite where people are like, oh, I need to diet and that's restriction.
Speaker: And that's, I need to lose weight for whatever reason they have, but it's not something that they want to do.
Speaker: And then they feel like they're sacrificing, right.
Speaker: Versus doing something that they want to do that fills their soul and then might actually result in adding other wellbeing things and wellness things to their life that continuously and compliments each other and adds on to each other.
Speaker: You know, you're touching on something which is crucial.
Speaker: You're sort of comparing and contrasting restriction versus filling.
Speaker: And I think that that's a big part of it.
Speaker: And that is a part of the mindset.
Speaker: Like, am I looking at this as something which is going to limit my life?
Speaker: Or am I looking at this as something which is going to fulfill the life I want to live?
Speaker: And so it's a
Speaker: it's an important compare and contrast and, and, and it's a journey for everybody.
Speaker: It's an ongoing one.
Speaker: Even, even when I know it, even when I know, Hey, like probably shouldn't have that slice of cake.
Speaker: Like I'll still have that slice of cake.
Speaker: Just to think about like physical wellbeing because it, it, it brings something to my life as well.
Speaker: And so, you know, and not beating yourself up over it, you know,
Speaker: Yeah, yeah, exactly.
Speaker: Exactly right.
Speaker: I mean, if we're forcing ourselves into one way and we see I need to, then ultimately we've already created resistance, right?
Speaker: We've already created friction for ourselves to get to where we want to be or where we say we want to be.
Speaker: But there's other avenues to approach the idea of wellness and starting somewhere small that really resonates with you as a unique individual and fulfills something within you.
Speaker: And that's where every blueprint for everybody is different.
Speaker: And so there's not a one size fits all.
Speaker: And I, you know, I love that meaning for you.
Speaker: And I know that you've had your own experience with a health wake up call that led to kind of your own deeper personal journey.
Speaker: So can you share a little bit about that?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So it was November of 2019.
Speaker: My wife drove me to the emergency room and the ER doc told me that I have bilateral pulmonary emboli.
Speaker: which if you don't know what those words mean, I'm so happy for you.
Speaker: It's blood clots in either lung.
Speaker: And, you know, when you're sort of in your 30s, you still tend to feel rather invincible.
Speaker: At least I did, most certainly.
Speaker: And so I heard those words, but it actually took him a little bit of massaging for me to really truly understand, like, hey, this is very serious.
Speaker: He said one in three people don't make it.
Speaker: where you are right now, like this is a life threatening situation that you're in.
Speaker: I was in the hospital for a week.
Speaker: Honestly, the, like the physical recovery side was almost easy.
Speaker: It was like clockwork.
Speaker: Once I got started, I just really didn't quit.
Speaker: The doctor gave me some things I needed to do, which were very obvious from, uh, I needed to, needed to lose weight.
Speaker: I'm dangerously obese.
Speaker: Um,
Speaker: And, uh, you know, weighing close to 300 pounds with my six foot frame, it's just simply not something that that's sustainable.
Speaker: Uh, I, I needed to eat healthier, um,
Speaker: And at that moment, it was definitely needed to be more aware of my posture whenever I was traveling or sitting and working at my desk and generally just reframe what I saw as healthy exercise for a person of my age and stature.
Speaker: And so I worked on those things and over the course of seven, eight months, dropped down to nearly 210 pounds.
Speaker: And but I
Speaker: but I did it in a way which wasn't sustainable.
Speaker: I ran myself pretty much to vapors.
Speaker: I was barely eating and the mental and physical ramifications of that were pretty strong.
Speaker: And so like after that, my journey of like mental health truly started.
Speaker: I started to over time realize, hey, like I just faced death.
Speaker: And so there's all sorts of thoughts that sort of creep into your mind.
Speaker: um and finding finding a way over time to address that has always it will continue to be but it most certainly was a struggle at first I'll just very candidly say it I didn't expect that something like that would be happening to me especially at that point in time absolutely and uh so yeah it um it was it was intense it was really intense I was fortunate to have
Speaker: an extremely supportive wife, but Sonia, who was, who was there to be my coach also there to just kick me in the butt when I needed to be and daughter bringing sort of the play and joy to my life during the very challenging time and family and friends and colleagues showed up for me too.
Speaker: But like those two ladies of mine, they definitely were the ones who got me through the whole thing and continue to help bring joy to my life every day now.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Thank you for sharing and definitely a scary, scary instance to go through for sure.
Speaker: How would you say it kind of shaped your longer term vision on wellbeing or even historically what you weren't doing for yourself and how you changed that to better take care of yourself?
Speaker: Yeah, it's so, so it definitely helps me understand what self-care actually looks like.
Speaker: Um,
Speaker: Because I think I had it entirely framed incorrectly before.
Speaker: And so self-care starts with self-love.
Speaker: And self-love looks and shapes up in many different ways.
Speaker: And the way I treat my physical body as well as my mind is super important.
Speaker: I'm hard on myself.
Speaker: I have high expectations of myself.
Speaker: And so whenever I set my mind to do something, I tend to do it at all costs.
Speaker: All or nothing.
Speaker: Hence, you work in sales.
Speaker: Depends I work in sales.
Speaker: Oh my gosh.
Speaker: But that all or nothing mentality leads to burnout, leads to lots of missed expectations, can lead to anxiety.
Speaker: And so that's the first thing is reframing what self-care looks like and really actually understanding what loving myself means.
Speaker: And making sure that I surround myself with people who are supportive as well.
Speaker: From a work perspective, from a friend's perspective, family as well.
Speaker: And so that was definitely a big part of it, a big takeaway from there.
Speaker: The other thing I would say is, and this was a big one, exercise doesn't need to be painful.
Speaker: Reach that, yes.
Speaker: Yeah, exercise can be gentle and still have impact.
Speaker: Like when people talk about 10,000 steps a day, I mean, honestly, it's true.
Speaker: You don't need to be in pain physically.
Speaker: to accomplish a physically healthy life.
Speaker: And I think it's become so normalized in the society we live in.
Speaker: Like if you're not covered in sweat and sore in a couple of hours, you're doing it wrong.
Speaker: And I just, that was how I used to be.
Speaker: And I've been on my own journey of changing that as well.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: It's so hard.
Speaker: I mean, movement, I think is the key word versus exercise, right?
Speaker: And just moving, no matter what that looks like, has the benefits, physical benefits, psychological benefits that have been proven, you know?
Speaker: So one of the things that comes up for me is...
Speaker: there are a lot of people that don't look inward, right?
Speaker: We take care of other people first.
Speaker: And so one of the things that I've, and I've noticed it about myself where I've either looked for external validation or, you know, I'm taking care of others thinking that it fulfills myself.
Speaker: And then certain things happen.
Speaker: You know, you had your health scare.
Speaker: I had, you know, most recently two different infections due to stress.
Speaker: And I think that that has redefined you, you know, self-care and stress in my mind.
Speaker: And so how would you say that, you know, what is the encouragement for people to pause, right?
Speaker: Feeling that they deserve to know what self-care looks like for them, because it only means that they're going to be able to care for other people better.
Speaker: Yeah, that's a good point.
Speaker: Looking inward instead of looking outward.
Speaker: And for me, if a person's starting like an inner work journey for the very first time,
Speaker: journaling is is a big recommendation i've used it as a tool for points in time i'm not a daily writer writer in a journal i do write daily like on linkedin i i do i i do i have different forms of expression in a written manner which goes beyond writing emails for work um but uh but journaling honestly journaling and and if you treat your journal as this sort of
Speaker: safe guarded location where nobody will see it up then it allows you to actually explore how you're truly feeling about things um journaling every day is not for me but journaling is a fantastic tool for points in time um some folks some folks have multiple journals they write in every day based on like the the topic they're wanting to cover with themselves and i think that's amazing um and it's good you do you
Speaker: And so that's the thing I would say is like reflection in order to kickstart that inner work journey.
Speaker: And the most important question that I would recommend reflecting on is why?
Speaker: Why are you doing this?
Speaker: What is the impetus for change?
Speaker: Why are you sitting down and wanting to work on yourself?
Speaker: And really getting to the crux of that will allow you to start to develop practices that make sense for you.
Speaker: You might find out that what you thought you wanted to do for self-care or exercise or whatever it may be, isn't actually aligned with your why.
Speaker: And so aligning with your why through deep reflection, especially in a very private manner,
Speaker: Journaling is a great example because, hey, it's the cost of a notebook and a pen, I suppose.
Speaker: It's like, I'm sorry.
Speaker: Unless you have ink these days, I guess you need a pen.
Speaker: Yeah, yeah.
Speaker: Go find a feather.
Speaker: You can do a little ink and quilt.
Speaker: Like it's cost effective and all you need is time and your thoughts.
Speaker: And it's a good way to get started.
Speaker: I love that.
Speaker: I always come back to the why, you know, even in my like nutrition counseling days, it was always, you know, you know what to eat.
Speaker: Why are you here?
Speaker: You know, find your why, because that's what you're going to attach to.
Speaker: And that's where you're going to come back to every time you want to change or you're reaching a point of friction or anything like that to keep going.
Speaker: You have that why.
Speaker: And you mentioned burnout and different things like that, but I mean, you've worked in many startups, including the one we worked in together.
Speaker: And as we both know, they're breeding grounds for burnout and stress.
Speaker: And that can wreak havoc on the mind and the body, as we both have seen in different ways.
Speaker: Obviously, stress and burnout pertinent to any part of life, not just startups, but typically there's less people doing more.
Speaker: And in an earlier conversation you and I had, we mentioned burnout.
Speaker: You had mentioned burnout and the drive you had to form balance in your life.
Speaker: So I wanted to kind of dive into that a little bit of where stress has shown up for you and how you started to bridge the gap to find some balance for yourself between work and life.
Speaker: Yeah, it's an interesting question.
Speaker: When you started to frame it up, it definitely was looking at like high stress environments, right?
Speaker: When you think about startups, I think stress exists around every corner.
Speaker: And it's more about one, recognizing, hey, I'm stressed because there are a lot of folks who can't even recognize what stress looks and feels like on themselves.
Speaker: They might be able to see it on others.
Speaker: Like we talked about recognizing, helping externally other people.
Speaker: But internally, internally, being able to look at it and say, I feel stressed, I'm stressed, and it's not not healthy.
Speaker: It's okay to be nervous.
Speaker: It's not okay to be anxious.
Speaker: Right?
Speaker: Those are two very different words.
Speaker: And so the first thing is like recognizing stress.
Speaker: The second thing is understanding if it's something you can, if you can actually
Speaker: cope with, deal with.
Speaker: And the third thing, if you cannot, what change needs to happen.
Speaker: And so creating tools to be able to handle stress, which goes back to self-care, like we were talking, that's definitely a big part of it, getting in the yoga practice, getting in the meditation where you chant your daily mantra.
Speaker: All of these things
Speaker: and more are critical.
Speaker: Doing the breath work.
Speaker: I'm referencing things that, you know, have been extremely useful tools for me.
Speaker: Tools that are point in time to help sort of recenter and realign myself.
Speaker: I don't do them all every day.
Speaker: I do them when I think that they're most useful in the moment or in like chapters of time.
Speaker: And so that's what I would say.
Speaker: Recognize that you are stressed.
Speaker: Identify how you can cope with that stress.
Speaker: And if the coping isn't working, is it something that
Speaker: you can change, whether it's your environment or, you know, taking a break from something, whatever it may be.
Speaker: You brought up work environments.
Speaker: I mean, startups notoriously are like high stress, all hands on deck.
Speaker: Everyone pick up an aura and row.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: building the plane as we're falling off the cliff imagery.
Speaker: And so it's like, hey, that is the startup world.
Speaker: And if you don't have a solid mental health practice, then the likelihood of you burning out in startups is extremely high.
Speaker: I've been a part of three startups, a fourth company that was sort of like perpetually in startup mode, even though it was a publicly traded company.
Speaker: I've also worked at IBM and then I work at another, you know, large organization now today, Qualtrics with 6,000 folks.
Speaker: And it's like,
Speaker: Each of them had different stress factors.
Speaker: Each of them had people who were extremely helpful for me in my journey, as well as people who were unfortunately the antagonist in the story.
Speaker: And it all just goes back to those three steps.
Speaker: Are you stressed?
Speaker: What can you do with it?
Speaker: And if you can't handle it with yourself, what change can you make with your environment?
Speaker: The word that comes to mind as you're speaking is just self-awareness.
Speaker: And I think that that's something, right?
Speaker: Like that's the biggest thing here that we're talking about.
Speaker: It's just sitting, almost sitting with yourself, right?
Speaker: And being honest with yourself, which are two very hard things to do, but without the self-awareness, we're on autopilot.
Speaker: You know, we don't even realize certain things.
Speaker: And I think that that's where some of the danger is.
Speaker: you know, if I can use that word comes in where you're most like your worst enemy at that point, you know?
Speaker: So there's a lot of people that don't feel they have the time to do it or don't have the self-awareness to even know that they might be stressed out.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Or like you mentioned before, being a, you know, a sales guy who has the perfectionistic kind of background that wants to drive and continue driving.
Speaker: It's hard to pause.
Speaker: You know, it's hard to take that step back and we're not used to slowing down.
Speaker: We're used to, you know, being faster and faster.
Speaker: And we think that that's a sign of doing well, right?
Speaker: But is that doing well for ourselves?
Speaker: Yeah, I love what you're touching on.
Speaker: So it makes me think of like two different things.
Speaker: One, I have a friend who always used to say, probably still says, he just hasn't said it in recent times to me, but things have never been this fast as they are now and things will never be as slow as they are today.
Speaker: Meaning we're going, the world is continuing to accelerate.
Speaker: And so like allowing ourselves to break away from that speed and actually hit the pause button does take self-awareness.
Speaker: And that leads to the second thing, self-awareness, good news.
Speaker: It's a boostable behavior.
Speaker: It's something you can actually improve on.
Speaker: It's not stuck and locked in the position that you're at.
Speaker: And you just like simply have to be at that level of self-awareness.
Speaker: You can become more self-aware with intentional effort and time.
Speaker: Again, that takes hard work.
Speaker: Self-awareness is a part of self-care, a part of mental health.
Speaker: And so like back to the very first thing we said, it's hard work, but it's worth it.
Speaker: And you have to want it.
Speaker: You know, you have to identify that there's like a change that can exist, right?
Speaker: And say, this is how I'm feeling now, but how do I want to feel?
Speaker: And there's that, you know, that space in between of how you're going to fill that, you know, how you're going to get from A to B.
Speaker: Yeah, 100%.
Speaker: Oh my gosh.
Speaker: Love that.
Speaker: You also mentioned your presence on LinkedIn.
Speaker: So I'm somebody who journals every day.
Speaker: And obviously that's something that you do as needed.
Speaker: And that's part of the unique self-care routine that we develop for ourselves.
Speaker: You also use LinkedIn as a platform for yourself to share a lot about your personal journey as well as motivating others.
Speaker: So what inspires you with that?
Speaker: And what are you looking to inspire in others?
Speaker: What has LinkedIn done for you?
Speaker: Hey, thanks for bringing that up.
Speaker: I, you know, for me, it all anchors back to why I even use the platform.
Speaker: And it actually allows me to show up in a way that brings joy for me and hopefully to others.
Speaker: And my why for actually sharing on LinkedIn and engaging with other folks' content, especially the content that I get excited about is to reflect, to connect, and to humanize experiences.
Speaker: So actually reflecting on my own journey and
Speaker: sharing that outwardly to help normalize some of the positive and negative experiences that people face daily to connect.
Speaker: I like to literally just connect individuals to each other, whether they're trying to look for a job, they're trying to
Speaker: you know, grow and develop a podcast for the first time, whatever it may be, it brings me joy to bring like minded people together.
Speaker: And I don't need to get anything from it other than like this, you know, borderline altruistic happiness.
Speaker: And, and then the last thing is to humanize experiences like we're people we're all living, breathing,
Speaker: individuals, even if we're trying to put our best foot forward and present like this, this beautiful portrait of the life we lead, everyone actually has, you know, bad days.
Speaker: And so it's like, let's just bring a touch of humanity back to the conversation.
Speaker: And so that's, that's sort of the why.
Speaker: And it allows me to stay centered with the content I share with the voice I bring, how I show up,
Speaker: And then the people I follow, the ones who sort of, you know, I guess, give me inspiration on a daily basis.
Speaker: And I have all sorts of folks that I get excited to check my newsfeed for and see what it is they drop for the day.
Speaker: It's just, it's a good thing.
Speaker: It's a good thing from my point of view.
Speaker: Well, the idea of humanity is so necessary on a platform that's specifically geared towards professional life.
Speaker: And I think one of the last things that I was really eager to talk to you about is like this dichotomy that exists between, you know, employee well-being and personal well-being and how we've become so separate in identifying the two as two separate things.
Speaker: When in reality, everybody's encouraged to bring themselves to work.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: So we identify with how do we enhance employee well-being?
Speaker: But it's kind of the same thing.
Speaker: You know, I don't know if you agree with that or or not, but by having them separate buckets, I think is creating an issue in our society as well.
Speaker: You know, it's interesting.
Speaker: It varies from person to person and from company culture to culture.
Speaker: Like right now, the manager I have, she's fantastic about supporting me with everything that I'm doing when it comes to how I work, how I show up at work, but also like my personal life as well.
Speaker: If I have something that comes up, I have a daughter who's seven and seven-year-olds are needy.
Speaker: Like, let's be really honest.
Speaker: They have lots of needs.
Speaker: They should.
Speaker: They're only seven.
Speaker: They can't take care of themselves.
Speaker: Hey, 32-year-olds are needy too.
Speaker: I think everyone's needy.
Speaker: This is true.
Speaker: At least if they're not saying it, then that means they're not expressing the needs.
Speaker: And so like being able to just, you know, shoot a text and say, hey, you know, I know we're supposed to meet, but I got to go do this for my daughter.
Speaker: And just being like shamelessly supported makes a huge difference.
Speaker: I've had work experiences where that wasn't the case.
Speaker: I've had work experiences where it was toxic positivity.
Speaker: But then on the other end, I've also had work experiences where people
Speaker: whether they're a manager, a colleague, whatever it may be, whomever it may be, they show up for you.
Speaker: When I was admitted to the hospital, one of the first people to come and visit me was my boss, who's the managing director of this 50-person services startup.
Speaker: He came into the hospital, he sat down with me, and he just sat with me.
Speaker: And I'll never forget that.
Speaker: I'm beyond grateful for people showing up in such ways.
Speaker: And so I think everyone's had varied work experiences.
Speaker: And that's why we hear so often people don't leave companies, they leave managers.
Speaker: And so when we sort of put it in this bucket of personal versus professional or at work well-being, for me, all of it comes down to the community you operate in or the ecosystem you're in or the company team culture that you're operating in.
Speaker: And if it doesn't fit you, if it doesn't support you, easier said than done.
Speaker: go find one that does.
Speaker: That's, that's the only, like, that's the only thing I can think of.
Speaker: It sort of goes back to those three steps of stress.
Speaker: Like, am I stressed?
Speaker: What can I do with it?
Speaker: If I can't handle it by sort of working on myself internally, what can I change externally?
Speaker: And so that's,
Speaker: That's the thought that comes to mind for me.
Speaker: It just, it varies from person to person.
Speaker: And I don't know.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: The other thing I'll add is there still is like remnants of stigma around like mental health at work.
Speaker: And so yeah,
Speaker: And as a result, we see things like EAP systems are underutilized so that the benefits that a company provides often therapy is an underutilized thing, even though it's fully paid for and free and people can use it, you know, usually six, 10 sessions, whatever it is, find a therapist, talk about something that's bothering you.
Speaker: Most people look at it and go, well, that's actually me giving up.
Speaker: And that's just, that's simply not true.
Speaker: It's actually you being at your strongest point.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: The stigma is there, but it,
Speaker: I don't think you can do broad brushstrokes.
Speaker: I think it varies from like individual to individual.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And I'll pull in our other theme of self-awareness, right?
Speaker: If you need something and you know, you need something being able to advocate for yourself,
Speaker: in your workspace is going to be another key aspect for you, you know, and knowing whether you have a supportive manager or not is going to be paramount to a decision that you make, you know, if that's something that really means something to you.
Speaker: I agree.
Speaker: I agree.
Speaker: Knowing that you can actually be vulnerable with boundaries and
Speaker: give a shout out to Brene Brown, who is amazing.
Speaker: If you feel like you can be vulnerable appropriately at work, then you're in a good spot.
Speaker: Honestly, like it shouldn't be seen your manager or your colleague relationships shouldn't be seen as like this parking lot for negativity or problems.
Speaker: But to be able to say, hey, I have this going on.
Speaker: I'd like to talk about it for a couple minutes or like I need your help.
Speaker: That's that's great.
Speaker: That's a good situation.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: If anything, you learn about, you know, who you're working with, you know, and you can make a stronger decision for yourself and advocate for yourself even more from there.
Speaker: But give somebody the opportunity to be there for you, I would say.
Speaker: Well, as we do, you know, wrap up, I feel like I could talk about this with you forever.
Speaker: There's so many avenues to take this, but I guess I always like to end with like, what advice would you have for others?
Speaker: If you could give people one thing to do today to enhance their own feeling of self-care, what would that be?
Speaker: I'd say the advice is stop and reflect.
Speaker: It's hard for me to think about it because so many people will be at different points in their journey.
Speaker: So some will be just getting started.
Speaker: Others will be well down the track.
Speaker: And I think it's always advisable, even if it doesn't feel natural to stop what you're doing and reflect and make sure you're on the right path or getting started on the right path.
Speaker: Um,
Speaker: So that self-reflection, the concept of journaling or speaking with a therapist or finding that friend who actually is a solid sounding board, who isn't just going to echo back to you what it is they think you want to hear.
Speaker: So stop and reflect is what I would say.
Speaker: And then the point of reflection is always going to come back to the why.
Speaker: Am I working toward my why?
Speaker: And if I'm not, then I'm probably headed in the wrong direction.
Speaker: Love it.
Speaker: Thank you.
Speaker: Anything else that you want to add or where people can find you to find some inspiration?
Speaker: You can find me on this podcast.
Speaker: That's right.
Speaker: I love it.
Speaker: I love it.
Speaker: Oh my gosh.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Connect with me on LinkedIn.
Speaker: I'd love to be connected.
Speaker: No need to take time sending a personalized note, but let me know if you've got some posts you've got out there that you want me to engage with or shoot me a note.
Speaker: I'd be happy to chat it up.
Speaker: So yeah, I'm on LinkedIn.
Speaker: You can definitely find me there.
Speaker: Love it.
Speaker: Thank you, Nick.
Speaker: It's been great chatting with you and I'm sure we'll have you back on the podcast and speak with you a little bit more in depth with some of these topics.
Speaker: So thank you again.
Speaker: And let us know in the comments what resonated with you and if there's any questions that you have for Nick as well.
Speaker: Thank you all for listening.
