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Speaker: Yeah, it's a total missed opportunity to not enjoy where you're at because there is something for you in this exact season of life. Hey, everyone. Welcome back to another episode of Unprofessional Opinion. I'm Heather.
Speaker: I'm Taylor. Yeah. I loved it. That was great. Thanks. Thanks for being on. Thanks for being, well, inviting. Yeah. Like thanks for being on my show. Yeah. Thanks for being here, Heather. So Taylor used to run her own podcast. So you've just, you know exactly what you're doing. Yeah. It was anonymous. It wasn't on it. So actually that happened. So yeah, it was a few years ago. I was in a very different place in my life. And, um,
Speaker: Yeah, let's just say we hope my mom never finds it. Actually, I checked recently and I got taken down. Did it? I think after so many years or maybe it was, we actually had production. Did you really? No. In a studio, I was working at a marketing agency and we had a production agency doing all of it. I should probably put my leg up.
Speaker: Yeah, it was like very official and I think that they may have taken it down because like after so many years and they like hosting it. So maybe but I'm like, this is a this is a good thing. Yeah, take it out. Even though no one knew our voices were warped. We never said our names like completely anonymous. It was fun.
Speaker: the power that I feel like that would give someone. Oh, yeah. It's dangerous. It's dangerous. You overshare. And I'm already an overshare, as you will learn today. So yeah. Oh my gosh. That's so cool. Well, I'm super happy you are on today. Taylor, actually, the 30 Things I Learned Before 30 Minute Series was your idea at one of our connect groups for Bible Studies. Yeah, it was just a suggestion. But I loved it. I think it's really cool. We're both turning 30 this year.
Speaker: Your birthday's in June too, right? June 2nd. Okay. And up soon. Yeah. And you're just what? The six? 26. Okay. 26. Yeah. Okay. So it's just a big year for us. And I feel like 30 is a big milestone year. Honestly, any decade, it's like a big year, but I feel like your 20s are going to look so much different than our 30s just with like leaving school. I mean, you're still in school a little bit in your 20s and
Speaker: I don't know, just like the last period and finding yourself. It's so, it's such a learning period. Yeah. In your twenties. So there's a lot that's learned. Isn't there a stat that's like, maybe it's not a statistic. Maybe it's actually science that your brain isn't fully developed until you're like 26. Okay. Yeah. Something like that. Yeah. So yeah, you're still a kid. Like it's crazy. Am I holding this? Okay. Um, like even.
Speaker: When you're like like that, you're legally allowed to drink at 21 is actually kind of crazy Like my friend was just telling me that she was babysitting a 16 year old like or like house sitting with the 16 year old Yeah, just 16 like you can totally stay home alone, but parents were out of town She went to go get her driver's license. And so that day she started like driving on her own and
Speaker: And I was like, whoa, this teen feels really young. It does for people to just be out driving as late as they want. Like that. There's no curfew for you. I was irresponsible. So then, yeah, like at twenty one, the fact that you can legally get wasted feels really dangerous to me. And like it's just so again, it's like I think something I heard, you know who Lisa Harper is? Yeah.
Speaker: She's incredible. She's a speaker and an author and I've followed her for years and I love her and she has a podcast and something she just recently said is, um,
Speaker: no less at 60 than I knew at 20. And I think really what she means is in your 20s, you think you know everything. And I think the older you get, the less you know, because you just are being humbled by life. And there's just, I think now for me, like going into 30,
Speaker: Yes, there's pressure. Of course. Yes, there's the topic of what have you already learned. But I'm definitely in a place where I'm like, wow, I have so much to learn. I have so much growing to do still. So it's kind of like I'm more at peace knowing that
Speaker: I don't really have to have it all figured out, you know? Yeah. Just realized I still had music playing. I threw it in the background. Nice little background noise. Just a little background worship music. Yeah, I know. Love it. Yeah, that's great. Something you just said. Oh, oh, you mentioned, you know, driving or being able to drink at 21's Wild. I even just like, to your point about your brain being developed to like 26, 25. I even like that always comes back to me when I think of dating.
Speaker: These men just don't, their brains are not fully developed. You can't do this. Poor things. No, poor things. Wait until they're a little bit older, but they don't know any better. I know. I'm honestly not feeling that hopeful. I'm happy for you, but I'm not feeling - Well, this is a new development and it just came out of nowhere and it fits for anybody. Yes. Age definitely is a factor, but I also think that how you spend your 20s
Speaker: the opportunity to do that. Yeah. So it's like as a guy, and not to speak for all men, but it's like you either use that time in your 20s to learn and be stupid and to grow up, or you develop habits that then are really hard to break. And by the time you're 30, 32, 35, 40,
Speaker: will determine where you're
Speaker: you may just kind of be set in your ways. So living like you're 20. Yeah. And that's how you find guys in the club that are like, yeah, 45. Yeah. I'm so grateful. All my time now is spent at church or pickle ball, which is not where I thought I'd be at 29, almost 30, but like, yeah.
Speaker: I'm like, okay, the quality of men, oh yeah, quality of men at church or pickleball are a lot better than like who I would have been meeting at the bars or stuff. Yeah, for sure. And I feel like it's a hit or miss at a bar. I mean, you could, I mean, we got a bars like, yeah.
Speaker: There's maybe like some gems, but you've got to like search through them at Skellig or something like that, you know? Yeah. Yikes. Okay. Well, this is a good segue into at least the first thing I have, 30 before 30. So my first one is you're continuing to learn about yourself. I kind of always thought that
Speaker: you know, someone that's five years older than me is just knows it all. They've experienced that life. They've, they've, I don't know. I just, they've maybe they're married or they have kids and they just know more than me, but really once you then get to that point, no one really knows exactly what they're doing. And so you're always learning about yourself. And it just kind of feels like, I mean, even my mom who's just turned 73, she feels like she's still learning about herself. Like she's still pushing herself into doing like pickleball and meeting friends and, you know, hanging out with church people. And so she's,
Speaker: getting out of her comfort zone. So even like at 73, you can learn about yourself and push yourself a little bit further. So I thought that was just something that I learned is that I learned about myself that I don't know at all. So I mean, in my late 20s, 29, 20, 30 this year, I just thought that I like knew myself well, and then
Speaker: Maybe hardships happen or just things happen and then those opportunities are what force you to learn more about yourself. 100%. That's at least one of the things that came to mind today. Yeah, or even you change because of what happens to you in your life. I don't know. Have you talked about your dad passing? Yes. Okay. You couldn't have known at a young age that that was going to happen.
Speaker: in your 20s. Most people lose their father later in life. That is going to change who you are. Therefore, you're going to learn new things about yourself. Part of why that journey never ends, even for someone in their 70s like your mom, is
Speaker: She's now navigating life as a single woman again. For me, at 22, I was so sure of who I was going to be for the rest of my life. Which is wild. 22 is so young. I was very privileged at a young age to know what I wanted to do career -wise. I was very motivated.
Speaker: We worked together in college and I was always really business -minded and just motivated to work hard. Which was so funny because I don't know what I did when we worked together. I was like, what was I tasked to do? You were just there to look cute and give tours. I was there to man the desk. Yeah, you did great. Which, side note, this is a freebie.
Speaker: I would, this is like not part of the ones we're going to talk about, but one I just thought of is that's so important, especially like career advice wise is always be nice to the people you work with, regardless if they're your boss or your employee or just a coworker. Yeah. Because honestly, I tell you all the time, I don't even think I was that nice. I definitely wasn't.
Speaker: To anyone listening that worked with me and Heather in college. I'm really sorry if I thought you were nice I'm so glad that you had a good Experience with me, but like I was true things come around people know each other. Yeah, it's back in Arkansas always They're still yeah, it always comes back around like I would have never guessed that we were working together in 2015 2016 and then we would be sitting here today after like a podcast doing so much life together through church and connect group at pickleball and all the things and
Speaker: you know, yeah, side note, like, or like on the flip side, there could be a relationship where like someone's your boss, but then one day
Speaker: they get hired on and you're their boss. You never know how the roles are going to switch and you never know who's going to ask someone, oh, do you know this person? Should I hire them for this or should I? People talk. Yeah. So I think that is one thing that's so invaluable is just you never know who knows who, you never know what a relationship's going to turn into. That was just a free night gift. Make sure you're nice, Phil. Free advice. Yeah.
Speaker: This is all free, but... Okay, is it my turn? Yeah. Okay. What's your first one? First unprofessional. I have some notes. Some unprofessional opinions. Very unprofessional. Oh, yeah. The first one that I wanted to talk about is... So I'm 29 and single. And single really for the first time in my 20s. I dated...
Speaker: my entire 20s. I was in an off and on seven year relationship and then an off and on relationship for the last few years that just ended a little over a year ago. I've tried to take 28 and 29 to be single.
Speaker: And there were some moments where I was broken up, but I think like the biggest thing that I've learned through that is what it actually means when people are like, date yourself, love yourself, be alone, you know, all those things. You just need alone time. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's like kind of something that you, that's the advice you hear. Yeah. And that's not the advice I'm going to give. I'm not going to be like, you need to date yourself.
Speaker: I think the advice that I would give or the opinion that I have having gone through hearing that advice and the breakups and stuff is you're not any more or less valuable if you are able to be alone or not. So there's different types of personalities and I think, do you like being alone?
Speaker: Yes and no. I used to hate it. Honestly, not until I was a little bit forced to live alone is when I could realize that I could be alone, if that makes sense. For example, my roommate at the last house before I was in this one, living together, she had a great opportunity to move.
Speaker: And I was like instant panic because like, Oh my God, we're going to have to find someone to live in this house or what happens to me. Yeah. And then I just had to like kind of shift my mindset. I would have talked about a little bit about that, but then I was like, okay, I can do this. And it was at least just for six months. Like I can do, you can do anything for six months. Um, and then I actually really enjoyed it. So I do love, uh, I mean, living alone alone time, you have a lot of alone time living alone. So.
Speaker: I learned to enjoy it and actually one of my 30 things before 30 that I put together was enjoy time by yourself, learn to just be by yourself because I honestly didn't spend much time by myself. Is that when you already talked about? Yeah. Okay. Yeah. But yeah, I just never, I don't know, I just was kind of scared of the silence. Yeah. It was kind of deafening to me and having, honestly having Cooper is so great because there's just like noise in the house. Yeah. Like having a dog is - Having a dog helps with anything. Oh my gosh. I don't know if I could do it if I didn't have a dog.
Speaker: Anyway, so you asked about like being alone. So I've learned to like to be alone, but I'm an extrovert. So I recharge with people. Same. Yeah, it's funny. So I lived alone for I had roommates all through college. And then when I moved to Dallas, I lived alone for five years. And through that time, I was off and on in relationships and, you know, worked a full time job.
Speaker: where I was around people all the time. And I would get home and I would immediately text someone to go to dinner, to go to walk, to do something. And it was actually not until like a couple years ago. So I was probably like 27. I had this super, I have these weird out of body experiences. Sometimes people think I'm nutso. They're like, what drugs are you on? I'm like, it's God.
Speaker: Um, but he just like talks to me in like these really crazy special moments. And I literally, um, wrote it down after it happened. Cause it was so cool, but I was kind of going through a breakup, um, spending more time alone and it was like post COVID, but like stuff was still weird. And I was watching bachelor in paradise and I like had this thought of like, um,
Speaker: Oh, I remember what it was. I had this thought in my mind and it was, we should go on a walk. And I was like, whoa, why did I just say we? And I felt like it was this kind of intimate moment with God where he was like, well, one, you're, you're never actually alone because you're with yourself. Like you are a whole human with or without other people around you. And then like secondly, if you're a believer, um, like God is always with you.
Speaker: Your dogs, if they're around, are with you. It's like you aren't really ever alone. And I think sometimes the word alone can be such a negative connotation, like you're lonely, or you're all in it by yourself. You're alone with your thoughts. Like you wouldn't choose to be by yourself. Like you're isolated. And it's like this, for people that are extroverted at least, it's, yeah, it's like a bad thing.
Speaker: And I think in that moment I was like, Oh my gosh, like this is when people say love yourself, date yourself. It's not like just some cheesy internal thing. It's like, no, like,
Speaker: the same things that you'd go do with someone else, a friend, a partner, whoever, those things can be just as enjoyable if you go and do them alone. Does that make sense? Yeah. And it was like, I was like, am I like late to the game in realizing this? Like, does everyone get this? And I'm just like way behind.
Speaker: Since then, I have valued my alone time more, but another thing I remember processing in that moment, because I have some friends that love their alone time. They brag about it a little bit. They're probably wanting to talk about. How much they love their alone time.
Speaker: And this is not like a dig at any of them, but like some of them are married. And so I'm like, of course you love your alone time when you're married because you spend majority of your time not alone. So it's like an opportunity to do something that you don't always get to do.
Speaker: But when you live alone, there's nothing wrong with wanting to be with your friends. There's nothing wrong with being the type of person, this world needs people that like to be alone and this world needs people that don't like to be alone.
Speaker: In order to be a good mom, you kind of have to be okay with not being alone a lot. In order to be a good pastor, in order to be a good nurse, if you're in a role that deals with people in sales, you have to be able to feel recharged. There's a lot of times you just don't get a lot of time. So I think what I kind of have learned through all that is you don't have to
Speaker: in order to really value yourself, you don't have to follow this whole stigma of love yourself, date yourself. You don't have to love alone time. I think it's good to feel safe alone and to know that you are just as good on your own. I'm repeating myself at this point. You get the point. I love it. Yeah. No, it's good. It's a different perspective of being alone. I think basically you're saying, and correct me if I'm wrong, it's that you're never
Speaker: fully alone. You know, you've had the Holy Spirit, you've got protection, but it's also okay if you don't want to be alone. Yeah, and you have like, you are like, if you're, we all have like, the little person in our head that's like,
Speaker: I want to go on a walk. If you have that thought, it's like, yeah, take yourself on a walk. Yeah. Take yourself to dinner. You are a whole human that needs tending to. Yeah. It goes into my next 30 things before 30, which is you just got to take the first step. You've got to take the first step. Just try it. Just do it. This podcast was the same thing. And it's so hard to get that off paper sometimes.
Speaker: It's great to have dreams and be a dreamer, but it's another thing to actually execute it and just do the first step is honestly the hardest part. Because it's always like, what are people going to think about it? Are people going to listen? Are people going to judge? That does not matter. No one cares about things that you care about as much as you do, like your internal dialogue that you just mentioned. No one's thinking that hard about you. It's not that big of a deal. I think Pastor Earl said this before.
Speaker: You're not that cool. You think that you're just so cool that the world revolves around you. It really doesn't. That just helps me put things into perspective. What's the harm in doing this? If anything, what opportunities am I not going to receive if I don't take that step forward and starting the podcast and starting Dallas Pickleball and going to church in a few years and starting this new job?
Speaker: Just take the first step on that. If you feel like, oh, wow, that's not the right step, you can turn around and do something else. But you've got to step into that the season, the job, whatever it is, fill in the blank to know what it's going to be like. Yeah.
Speaker: I would say with that, which first of all, I am so proud of you for starting this. Seriously, I meant to say that at the beginning because you had mentioned it a couple times to me or just in Connect Group. It really does take a level of courage to just go and do something that you are putting yourself out there for the world to see.
Speaker: And for those of you listening, the fact that you get to listen to Heather, I know that this is unprofessional opinions, but you really are. You're so wise and you have a piece about you that people don't always carry within themselves that you have. And I think the fact that you have
Speaker: to take in this kind of as a passion project. And when we first talked to like something that was so cool that you told me about this was that you just wanted to like help people. Like there was no like monetization goals or like how do I like, sure, if this thing takes off tomorrow, like you're not going to be disappointed. You're going to be glad it's growing. But you did it with a like servant heart of like, I
Speaker: know that this is something that I could use so I know other people must need it. It's kind of called a nudge. When you feel a nudge and you just went for it and you got the equipment and you've had friends on and you've been consistent. I think that's another thing. When you say take the first step, it's like
Speaker: sometimes people never move on an idea or a nudge because they don't know what it's gonna look like in a year or 10 years or is it gonna blow up or is it never gonna take off and it's like You never know unless you take the first step, right? You could literally like Dallas pickleball. So I started that in 2022 and
Speaker: Same kind of thing. I wouldn't say I was as selfless as I think you are, but... Okay, stop. Thank you. No, I mean, Dallas Pickleball is awesome. Thanks. If you haven't joined it, definitely sign up. Yeah, it's so special, but it's so cool because I could have never
Speaker: ever thought it would be what it is. And now I have a confidence in it. And I know that like God's in it so much to the point where I now also know that like, we haven't even scratched the surface. There's just like a new confidence that I have now after trying and after failing and after being consistent for a year and a half that I am just not really like worried anymore about what is going to happen to it. But um,
Speaker: Yeah, like taking the first step, I was like, I love pickleball and I love being around people like we just talked about. So why don't I put the two together? Why hasn't someone else thought of this? Yeah. And what's crazy is I was like, someone else probably has thought of this. Yeah. And they just didn't do it. Exactly. And actually like when I went to make the Dallas Pickleball Instagram, there were like two or three other
Speaker: types of like Dallas Pickleball Club Instagrams that I kind of followed and watched after for the next I like probably not that long, but like next few months and they never did anything with their Instagram. They like as far as I could see it never grew. I had 60 players in our first season. And we now have over 800 members in our league. I was going to say this past at least the Monday league is
Speaker: huge. Yeah, we have a total 800 members. And I think that like, I still have first steps I have to take, you know, but it was like, okay, being willing to rent the facility being willing to
Speaker: um, create the Instagram being willing to try a different league format, being willing to raise the price so I could get a nicer software. Like whatever those technical technical practical steps were. Um, yeah, it's always just like a step in the right direction. And okay. So like another example, I tried to start Dallas softball club this last fall. Yeah. Well, I think I was going to start it in the spring.
Speaker: And I was like, copy paste, like people are gonna love it, like easy money, like, but what's so funny is the difference was for sure my intentions. I love softball, but like, I definitely took that step in all honesty, as like an income generator, and as like an additional stream of revenue than I did with like,
Speaker: the true intention and passion behind it of like, I just want to bring people together. Yeah. Um, that was of course part of it, but, um, we had two people sign up and that was it.
Speaker: And I did the Instagram and I posted about it and I just kind of had to be okay with it, quote unquote failing. And you started it though. But it's like not even to me a failure because it's like, okay, cool. Now I know that like, that's not where I need to spend my time. Now I know that like,
Speaker: There are other softball leagues out there in Dallas that are doing a really great job and that is just not a need that I need to fill right now. Yeah. And so it's not a failure because at the end of the day I learned something from it.
Speaker: and there was a lesson and a takeaway in it for me. Great, that's a win. So I think it's just kind of how you look at it, and it's like, why would you not take the first step, whether it's a business, a podcast. Honestly, so I had the similar one of just do it, and I'm like, get the dog. Break up with the boy. Date the boy. Obviously, you don't want to be an impulsive person, but I think it's really important to
Speaker: If you're feeling a nudge, just do it because you probably already deep down know what's going to come from taking that jump, quit the job. Whatever those things are, again, I'm not saying be irresponsible. That is not the suggestion here.
Speaker: It's just like yeah, take a step like literally if you're feeling right now Whatever that thing is in your head as you're listening to this and you're like, oh like I've been putting this off I think that like just trying something is never gonna hurt you That's great Do you have a second one and a third you have two more right? Yeah, I do. Okay. What's your second one? Oh
Speaker: Okay. Let me readjust for this one. Okay. This one kind of falls into what you were just talking about the, um, next step. Yeah. This is if you lean into what you really want, can you trust God will catch you? And I actually heard this from someone that they said like the universe, but I, um, believe that God is my universe and, um,
Speaker: I think the tough part about this is sometimes we can have faith in God that he is who he says he is or he is going to provide all the things you hear. God is our provider. He's our protector. He's our healer. You say you believe those things and then it's like you start to believe for something
Speaker: and you get scared that if it doesn't happen, you're going to be disappointed. You're going to blame God. You're going to question why it didn't happen the way you thought. For example, we probably both have friends in our lives that have either tried for kids or are trying for kids.
Speaker: I think it can be really scary to pray and believe and ask. I have a lot of friends that have tried for kids and so far, all of them have had a cool story to say or some of them maybe are in it right now.
Speaker: It can be really scary to pray and believe that God is going to fulfill your desire to have a child. And I'm not speaking from experience here, so that's a disclaimer, but I've seen it. And then you almost are like, oh, well, if I don't ever have kids, it'll be okay. But it's like, will it really be okay? And I think it's like,
Speaker: Not that we should challenge God, but it's like he literally promises to fulfill the desires of our heart. And so it's like you just have to believe that if you actually believe for something, that he's actually going to fulfill it.
Speaker: And of course there's always that even if he doesn't, but that doesn't mean you should shy away from believing it. I think we kind of use that as like a like get out free card of like disappointment. And so like right now I have some really big things I'm believing for.
Speaker: Um, like really big. I've always had just like bigger dreams or like just something in my gut that tells me that I'm like made for more. Yeah. And I think sometimes like with pickleball now, I believe that Dallas pickleball is going to grow like times a million what it is right now.
Speaker: And I don't know what that looks like. I don't know if that's expanding to other cities. I don't know if that is a facility. I don't know, like I don't know, like just in numbers and dollar. I don't know what that looks like. But I do know like that's something that I feel like I've heard from the Lord that he has promised me not because I'm so great and this is like something he's given to me, but because he is actively using and working
Speaker: in the hearts of people in the community of Dallas Pickleball Club. So it's like I have to now believe that he told me that and even when I get scared, even when I feel disappointed, even when I don't see it happening on the timeline that I thought it would happen or in the ways I thought it would, can I really trust that if I believe for something big that God is actually going to follow through with it? Yeah. I mean, that's real.
Speaker: I think back to when my mom met my dad. It was her first marriage. They met at 42, and she thought she would be single for the rest of her life. She was hoping to be a mother and be a wife one day, but you just don't know. It's hard to have that trust that it actually will happen because it's like, what if this is the path? I don't know. Maybe it's truly not supposed to be this way, so it's really hard to
Speaker: balance on what is the right path. And I think, yeah, to your point, if these are things that are really, really important to you and you've, I don't know, you really want that. I think that, I mean, maybe that's what kept her really grounded and kept putting her in the right positions to then meet a spouse, which she was going to like singles groups and stuff like that. So she was still believing for it and it happened. And so I used to always say like, if I'm single,
Speaker: I'm not going to complain about being single until I'm 42. And if I haven't found someone, then I can start kicking and screaming. Yeah. Yeah. No, that's good. Because she believed for it and it happened, but it's so hard to just not fall too far down the rabbit hole that it's never going to happen. But I think that's really good to mention. Okay. So my third is, I just think it's so funny that, I mean, it's a corporate term, but even friends say this to everyone, so busy.
Speaker: You're so quote -unquote busy. I like to like do how are you good? Just busy just busy. I saw it today. Just like how are things going? It's busy. It's so annoying and everybody is busy But that should never be an excuse why you're not doing something or why you're not seeing people So if something is important to you fill that in the blank or if a person's important to you You will make time for that. Everybody is busy
Speaker: So that's what I've learned. Um, it was, I, there was someone I used to work with, she was on leadership at my first job and I'd always go up to her desk and ask her question. I'm like, how are you so busy? It's like, when are you not busy? Like we're all busy. I get it, but busy with what? What are you so busy with? That's what I'm like, Oh my gosh. Yeah. With what? Tell me, how are you filling your time? I mean, that's, yeah, if you're that busy, reprioritize what matters to you. And if you're busy doing what matters to you, great.
Speaker: But if there's other things, you're going to have to squeeze it in somehow. So that was, that was at least my third was everybody's busy. So just take that out of your vocabulary. I'm talking to myself too. Oh, that's so good. Yeah. No, I'm the queen of busy. Everyone knows, everyone's like, Taylor, you're so busy. And I'm like, yes, I am. I really am. Like I really feel every hour of my day stays. I'm busy.
Speaker: But, like, I'm never too busy to spend one -on -one time with a close friend or... People are that important to you. Church is a priority to me. Pickleball. Like, I don't have to be at the league now. I have part -time employees that can be there. But it's important for me to be there. I make the time. Like, I think that... Yeah. And also, I think that, like, being busy is glorified.
Speaker: that somehow... So we talked about in the Bible study, it was about busyness. The one that you weren't able to make? Oh, here in the midst of... Yeah, it was about busyness. It's exactly what you're saying is what we were talking about. I was prioritizing the wrong things and should have been here, but... Yeah, I think it's okay to have a day of rest. Yeah, I was like, Heather, you got this one, I'm going to bed. Don't worry about that.
Speaker: Also, 8 p .m. bedtimes are severely underrated. I've never done that. You should try it. How long? When do you wake up? Like six. Okay. So you're getting a full night sleep. Like 10 hours. That's not a sleep. It is the best thing ever. But imagine waking up at 6 a .m. just like a spring chicken. Yeah. I would love that.
Speaker: And I bought a hatch alarm clock. Oh, you did? Literally, hatching like a stranger. Literally, hatch alarm clocks. Unplanned, yeah. They light the room. And then the one that I have, chirps. So it's like little birds outside your window. It's honestly, I can sleep through it. It's like, this is nice. Anyways, I think that busyness is glorified in today's culture.
Speaker: but like somehow if you're busy, it's important. And it's like actually a lot of times, like I have to check myself of some of the things I'm busy with. I'm like, wait, like I'm not even getting, I'm not making money. I'm not spending time with people I actually want to spend time with. It's not benefiting me spiritually. So like if there's things I'm busy with that are just kind of taking, then like they probably just need to go. And that can be hard, but that is better than being busy.
Speaker: My turn. That's great. Yeah. Take us home. What's your third? I know these, but I just like need the crutch of looking at my phone every time. Okay. My last one is actually tattooed on my body.
Speaker: And my grandma doesn't know that, so if she watches this, I don't think she'll watch or listen to this, but. So my - She's gonna be like, what? She's gonna like a tattoo. She's gonna like text your mom. Of my husband, it's of my grandpa's, not my grandpa's face. Okay, so I gotta - Take a step back. Back to like serious. So my grandpa passed away in 2020, and he was more like a dad to me because my dad was kind of in and out of my life.
Speaker: uh growing up and my grandparents lived down the street from my mom so i was there literally every day after school so i think most people are close to their grandparents but i feel like
Speaker: my sister and I were abnormally close to our grandpa. He passed away in 2020 and he was pretty much at the point where he couldn't communicate anymore. He hadn't really said a lot of words for maybe a few days, maybe a week or two.
Speaker: and i went over there one night to bring him and my grandma dinner and this was like he was at a point where like you had to like feed him so it's like really intimate moments like when you're feeding
Speaker: a family member, you don't really think about it. It's a pretty intimate thing because especially your grandpa, he's this man in my life that has always been seen as a protector and older and stronger and wiser and now I'm feeding you. I'm sure it was a weird dynamic.
Speaker: That already is special. My grandma, my sweet grandma, I'm very much like her. She was kind of feeling the silence, just like, oh, his name is David. Dave, Taylor's here. What do you have to say to her? Do you want to tell her how proud of her you are? She was kind of just talking.
Speaker: And I literally just like touched her leg and I was like, Nana, it's okay. Like, we just don't have to talk. And we were silent for like five minutes. And then all of a sudden, he just started talking. And he like gave me a blessing and he ended up dying like two days later. And I was really the only one that got that it was so special. Um,
Speaker: I think sometimes I feel bad that the rest of my family didn't get that moment. But I got a really special moment with him where he said a few things that was just like advice as he was passing. And he said some things like, I'm proud of you. I hope you continue to grow in your relationship with others and your relationship with God and do good in the world. But the thing that he said that stuck with me so deeply was he just said, it won't come all at once.
Speaker: And when he said that, I just like broke down. It was like exactly what I needed to hear in that moment. And since then, I'm like, man, what did that mean? Like there's so many ways you could interpret that. And I think what he was saying was, if you are, I mean, this goes for anyone, but especially if you are a driven individual and you want
Speaker: You want things for your life. You want a husband. You want a wife. You want a healthy family. You want kids. You want a good job. You want the vacation home. You want the American dream. You want the money. Whatever those things are. I think the reason it won't come all at once is because you're having it all is always going to be changing. Kind of like how you started the podcast of it
Speaker: you're always learning about yourself because your life is always changing. I think that the things that you want in life are going to grow. We're never really happy with where we're at. It's like once you get married, then you want kids. Once you have kids, then you want the big house. Once you have the big house, then you want the vacation home. Then you got the college. It's like there's always something. And it just gave me such a good reminder of
Speaker: Taylor, like you're 26, you're 29. You're in this, it will even be a reminder when I'm 35, when I'm 40 of like, it won't come all at once. And this is coming from someone that died in his eighties that like did have it all by the time he was passing. I don't think there was anything else more he could have wanted for his life. He felt like he was accomplished. Um, so yeah.
Speaker: That's my last one. I love that. It's just so easy to get caught up in just wanting everything at once. I think that's just like the culture nowadays too. So it's such a good reminder too.
Speaker: know that it will all come at once. And I think we wouldn't be grateful and thankful for the things that we have if it did. So, and like you said too, if it, maybe it's all coming at once, but then there's like more to come too. So it's really not all, you know, we can't see the full book of our lives, but we're like seeing different pages a little bit more and more. Yeah. Like it's a total missed opportunity to not enjoy where you're at because there is something for you in this exact season of life.
Speaker: regardless of if you're single, dating, engaged, married, divorced, whether you're newly at a job or you've been somewhere for 10 years, whether you are years and years into your spiritual walk or you are just now kind of like, is God real? Whatever stage of life you are in, a new dog parent or you've had dogs for forever, whatever those things are, enjoy those moments that you're in because
Speaker: Yeah. Like it sounds cheesy, but like you won't get them back. You will change your perspective and like one day you will have a different version of like having it all. So don't rush away the moment that you're in, you know? Yeah. I can't think of a better way to close that. So that's awesome. Thanks so much for sharing these. These were really good. I know you've mentioned a couple of these in our small group too. So I'm really glad that everyone was able to listen to it. Thanks for having me. Yeah, absolutely. Well, thanks so much for listening guys and we will see you next time.
