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Speaker: Hey!
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Speaker: We're matching!
Speaker: I'm, oh my god, wait!
Speaker: Oh my god, you got the gold and the green?
Speaker: Wait, we're literally wearing, you're wearing the men's version and I'm wearing the gold?
Speaker: This is the outfit, babe.
Speaker: It's the universe!
Speaker: This is the universe.
Speaker: Perfect timing, right?
Speaker: Even the exact shade is the same, right?
Speaker: Yeah, yeah.
Speaker: We don't do bright.
Speaker: We don't do brights, but our mind and our souls are bright, you know?
Speaker: Our souls shine so bright that it would be too much for flashy colors.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: How you doing?
Speaker: How are you feeling?
Speaker: I am so good.
Speaker: I love your vibe, by the way.
Speaker: Thank you so much for having me.
Speaker: Everything's groovy.
Speaker: I'm in Florida right now taking a trip from the Hamptons.
Speaker: I DJed a bunch of events over Fourth of July and then literally got the flu.
Speaker: Like, did you know that there's still a flu?
Speaker: Yeah, where did that come about?
Speaker: for COVID tests.
Speaker: I'm like, is this COVID though?
Speaker: Not COVID.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: But, and I was only down for like three days, but it was just still like, whoa.
Speaker: Your body was probably telling you, you need to take a break.
Speaker: My body was like, leave the hands.
Speaker: Reset.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: What about you?
Speaker: How are you?
Speaker: Where are you based?
Speaker: I'm in Los Angeles.
Speaker: nice yeah so i just been staying out the way working on work taking advantage of life and all the things and i haven't had a ig live interview in probably like two months so thank you for being here yeah yeah i just been so busy doing other things and
Speaker: It's a lot, but we're here.
Speaker: I'm happy your PR people reached out.
Speaker: Jordan, thank you.
Speaker: But yeah, let's get right into it.
Speaker: You know, to people who do not know Nicole Rose Steelings, you got to explain Steelings to me.
Speaker: I like that last name.
Speaker: She's a DJ, podcaster, big queen energy podcast, right?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: And mentor.
Speaker: They say you're into mentoring people.
Speaker: So I was actually
Speaker: However, you also do reality TV.
Speaker: You were on Summer House and what is it?
Speaker: Big Shot with Bethany, right?
Speaker: Is that the show?
Speaker: Bethany Frankel?
Speaker: Is that her last name?
Speaker: Yes, sir.
Speaker: I can assume that you haven't watched it.
Speaker: so no but you know what like i was doing some research on you and i couldn't find too many things like i was trying to figure out your birthday like what sign are you nothing showed up super like dl about all that but i'm a libra what's your sign oh no wonder lucky libra i'm a pisces
Speaker: Okay, nice.
Speaker: I'm not like super into astrology, but I know like a lot about my sign, but I'm not like... Yeah, Libra's a charming, very observant.
Speaker: They like balance and fairness.
Speaker: They got swag, they got style.
Speaker: They're really quiet but loud in a different way, subtle way.
Speaker: Look, here's the thing.
Speaker: My manager is a Libra.
Speaker: My lawyer is a Libra.
Speaker: My accountant is a Libra.
Speaker: Oh, so we were both done.
Speaker: Yeah, I get along with Libra.
Speaker: So we are in good cahoots.
Speaker: Maybe you were with the wrong bachelorette.
Speaker: I know.
Speaker: I was even trying to research your dating history.
Speaker: I'm like, who has she dated?
Speaker: Who is she dating?
Speaker: Is she in a relationship?
Speaker: I couldn't find anything.
Speaker: I'm so underwrapped with that.
Speaker: It's so funny.
Speaker: It was actually a sticking point.
Speaker: I broke up with somebody right before the pandemic.
Speaker: You know, everybody loses their, or like during the beginning of it, everyone was going haywire, right?
Speaker: And your phone background is all photos of you.
Speaker: And this is what I was like, you're never going to be on my Instagram, boo.
Speaker: You're not going to be my phone background.
Speaker: Like that can't be a requirement for the real- Were they clout chasing?
Speaker: Did they want the fame that came with the girl?
Speaker: No, I think he just like thought those things mean something.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: But my phone-
Speaker: by the way, now is my vision board.
Speaker: So there we go.
Speaker: Oh, and it was a vision board before it was just it had like my DJ gigs and stuff on it had more of what I wanted to manifest.
Speaker: He took it to be like,
Speaker: isn't this like a picture of us at the beach and like or whatever and i'm just like i'm not that girl like i'm not cheesy i'm not gonna pose my weapon until there's a ring on my finger you won't see a man up on my social media page put a ring on it i'm sorry fellas you hear from the queen big queen energy put a ring on it or you do not get to have it or enjoy it or endure it
Speaker: That's amazing.
Speaker: So let's talk about your upbringing.
Speaker: I did a little research and I was aware that you were raised by two brain surgeons, mom and dad, doctors.
Speaker: How was that experience growing up?
Speaker: And what did you learn the most about your mom and your dad being in the position and profession they were in?
Speaker: Well, I mean, like, needless to say, it kind of did a number on my own head.
Speaker: Everyone's analyzing everybody from every angle.
Speaker: Like, sitting down at our dinner table was like a firing squad of questions and suggestions for you to, like, improve your life.
Speaker: It was, you know.
Speaker: But I think it's a lot of it.
Speaker: It's funny, because it's a lot of the stuff that I use in daily life, right?
Speaker: So my mom is a neurologist.
Speaker: She's more of, like, body, right?
Speaker: Because that is.
Speaker: really like the makeup of the brain, right?
Speaker: But then my father was a forensic psychiatrist.
Speaker: So that was really like, how do people think like making profiles on people criminals like, Steve?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And so he was more like the thinker behind it.
Speaker: Like how do people's personalities develop?
Speaker: How do their entities shape who they are and the decisions that they make?
Speaker: And that's similar, funny enough to what we do in the mentorship.
Speaker: So you know what I mean?
Speaker: It all comes full circle, right?
Speaker: Yeah, yeah.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: And the thing is with your dad, I would love to have a conversation with him because I'm into human psychology.
Speaker: That's why I study astrology and numerology.
Speaker: So with someone in your position, like you said, the mentorship program you have and develop, being on reality TV and having a podcast.
Speaker: I feel like from what I've read that D-Gen is a passion of yours, but helping
Speaker: it's kind of like uh uh if it was college you're minor right like helping people but you're still passionate about it i feel like you like to make people feel good right with your and i couldn't find any playlists i went to spotify i'm like because i wanted to i i didn't
Speaker: My Instagram handle has, so we have big queen energy, chill queen energy.
Speaker: I have other types of options.
Speaker: Oh, because I was trying to understand your style of music, like what type of music you read to because I was like, I don't want to post this little story.
Speaker: She's not a fan of this artist or she doesn't even listen to this music.
Speaker: However, it was fine.
Speaker: But yeah.
Speaker: parents, you know, your mom is a neurologist and your dad was, what was his profession, his title?
Speaker: Psychiatry.
Speaker: Psychiatrist.
Speaker: So as a kid growing up, how did that generate you into becoming a star that you are today?
Speaker: And how did music play in your life growing up?
Speaker: And
Speaker: everything else you got, like being on reality TV, like where did all that come in for you?
Speaker: So it's funny.
Speaker: I think the easiest way to explain me to people who maybe don't know me, by the way, I love you, Jackie Extreme.
Speaker: You're a queen too.
Speaker: Some of these comments are great.
Speaker: And Ja'Ro, I love you.
Speaker: Love that you're here.
Speaker: He must follow you too because he's big into fitness.
Speaker: So he must have some mutual friends out there in the Insta sphere.
Speaker: But yeah, so I think for me, I was always
Speaker: an entertainer ever since I was, like, three years old.
Speaker: I wanted to just command the energy in the room, create good vibes, compliment people's outfits, style outfits together, sing and dance to TLC and Mariah Carey and Missy Ellic, whatever it was.
Speaker: I just had boundless energy, and I wanted to use that to have fun with other people and connect with other people in that process, right?
Speaker: So you're very astute in the way that you just looked at me online, had never had a conversation with me, and literally are like,
Speaker: That person knows my dad.
Speaker: That's amazing.
Speaker: Like, you never knew me, but you're like, you called it out.
Speaker: You're like, DJing is a hobby, right?
Speaker: It's more of a passion of yours, which I do see it as helping, right?
Speaker: Because I'm helping people experience joy.
Speaker: I'm helping them live their best lives.
Speaker: So that has value.
Speaker: But the real value, and you know, that was also what I did for, I've done that for so many years, right?
Speaker: I'm on like nine years of that, right?
Speaker: The real way that I want to help people now is shifted, right?
Speaker: And it's focused more on younger women, millennials and Gen Zs that I can teach them the tricks of the trade, how to rise to the top in their industry, especially if they're a performer of some sort, right?
Speaker: There's a lot of mindset stuff.
Speaker: I'm sure you know this because you're big into it, right?
Speaker: A lot of it is so mental.
Speaker: Yeah, it's mental and that's, you know, over the pandemic, I wrote a, you know, transformation book, change your mindset, change your energy, change your life.
Speaker: And now I'm working on developing digital products where I have a, you know, a coaching program, and I'm giving away like a free guide, a consistency formula, teach people how to be consistent and take advantage of their day to day, their goals and their action items.
Speaker: Because everybody wants something out of life.
Speaker: But I think some people
Speaker: don't know what to do to get that thing.
Speaker: They just look at people on Instagram and TV and say, well, I want to be that person, but they don't understand what that person does on a day to day basis.
Speaker: Our behavior affects our results, right?
Speaker: So you see the patterns of your mom and dad growing up subconsciously is
Speaker: know fixated your habits to be a dj to be a personality to uh to have a podcast right so with that being said how what is your mindset what is your intentions for like your brand your platform and just yourself in general like what is do you know nicole rose's mindset day to day how does she you know want to bring value in this world
Speaker: Yeah, so I think, you know, and so the mindset right is such a broad category.
Speaker: So for me, what I really realized, especially, it reaffirmed a lot of the things that I was already thinking about, already working on.
Speaker: Like, there'll probably be a book at some point.
Speaker: I already was creating the mentorship course, which we now teach.
Speaker: So we already have a bunch of girls enrolled, and we'll be rolling out a new group class in October for new people.
Speaker: what's the demographics or what's the age for the women uh is it from like 17 to 28 or 30 or right now our girls are between 23 and 33 34 she just turned 34 this week so and i so i know that's like not well because i purposely just don't it's not because i don't i don't have a problem with age but it's just that my dj management is very weird about it for whatever reason it's like modeling
Speaker: mean you're fine though your age has nothing to do with your look you know totally totally no botox is really everything um you look great though by the way but yeah so i think you know really it's a few different things but i call it like the mindset of a queen and it's really all about how do you attract your dreams it's about being fearless
Speaker: authentic and magnetic because i believe that those are the three tenets of living a rock solid life right of having a rock solid mindset and manifesting whatever it is that you want so the mindsets that i help people cultivate are it's really working through individual problems but it's it's so funny because it's like well i mean girls are girls right so the girls that i'm attracting i'm sure that my problems are not the same as
Speaker: everybody else's problems, not even everybody else's problems that are listening in right now.
Speaker: But the women that I end up bringing on to our program end up having a lot of the same issues where it's really just that they need clarity.
Speaker: They need someone to hold their hand.
Speaker: and help them focus and write their purpose statements and understand exactly what their goals are.
Speaker: And then from the end of that, we build what I called the manifest mindset, which is a tool that you use for five minutes every morning that you read right before or after your meditation when you're in that alpha brainwave state that helps cement the things that you're trying to work on, right?
Speaker: Because like you even know this and you've been working on your mindset probably before people were talking about it because of fitness, right?
Speaker: You have to.
Speaker: to get to the next level but everyone can use that to get to their next level right so it's not that these girls aren't signing up because they want to be a dj but a lot of them might want to be a podcaster they want to be a tbo song qbc or they want to do they want to do all different you know one of them wants to be a life which they all want to do different things
Speaker: but it's helping them use these same mindset hacks building that tool meditating on it daily so that they can continue to have the confidence and build you know reverse some limiting beliefs etc so they can get to the next level does that make sense am i explaining that oh you're speaking my language i mean the paradigm shift the perspective the understanding the knowledge the information to change the situation people nicole rose give her a round of a
Speaker: up to her mentorship program ladies and fellas if you can if it's available um i just didn't i mean it's just called queens of creation but i like it has a niche so you have you know a audience that you want to you know reach out to i think it's great i think we all need some type of uh mental stimulation that's going to create a better future in life for our stuff because
Speaker: when I wasn't actively thinking about my goals.
Speaker: So at certain points throughout my 20s, I would be really goal oriented.
Speaker: I would be really reading about energy and mindsets and my money mindset.
Speaker: And I'd be really in that manifestation process.
Speaker: And I'd be achieving things quickly.
Speaker: And then sometimes life happens.
Speaker: I lost my father, one of the women who's
Speaker: I bet.
Speaker: Crazy.
Speaker: Send me a DM.
Speaker: Let's connect.
Speaker: But so it's like when, you know, we all fall off the wagon.
Speaker: So it's almost just like you need someone to give you the tools to get back on and to get back on to make sure it would take you if you had to go read 20 books.
Speaker: You're not going to do a bunch of workbooks, but you don't know exactly which ones are the right ones to get you where you want to go.
Speaker: So it's better because I can just assess where they're at and where they're trying to go and say, this is what makes sense for you to work on these next eight weeks.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Whereas it could take them longer, you know, and everybody's different.
Speaker: And everybody has different trigger points.
Speaker: So, you know, to speak on, to go back to that, so you said your dad passed away?
Speaker: Yeah, yeah.
Speaker: So about six years ago.
Speaker: And like, that was another like, you know, how did that shape your reality into who you are today?
Speaker: also a very, very big part of me wanting to build.
Speaker: I didn't know this was going to be a mentorship, but he was my mentor, right?
Speaker: And everything.
Speaker: He was a women's empowerment advocate.
Speaker: Like, it's just like so random, right?
Speaker: Like, I mean, but I grew up with a dad.
Speaker: And my mom, you know, is a
Speaker: Doctor was from a family of immigrants that were literally off the boat from Italy and didn't have a dollar when they got here, you know?
Speaker: So she obviously was really able to bootstrap it and pull herself up in the world.
Speaker: But my father was very, his mom was like the first older women of Wisconsin.
Speaker: And so his whole family was just very female empowerment focused way before that was a conversation at a dinner table.
Speaker: You know?
Speaker: And so I think for me, it just, I was kind of molded into this very, like, specific, it's seemingly random.
Speaker: It kind of all makes sense now, because all those experiences that I had helped build what I think is, I mean, the mentorship is by far the most rewarding work I have ever done in my life.
Speaker: Don't get me wrong.
Speaker: I love to see 1,000 people jumping up and down on the dance floor.
Speaker: I mean,
Speaker: some good time, you know, like you're living, right?
Speaker: That's like you're in flow, you're living, it's fun.
Speaker: It's like that crowd effervescence, right?
Speaker: There's a good psychology term for you.
Speaker: But I think with the mentorship, it's just using all those experiences, like from rising to the top and kind of my performance arena, manifesting the big shot, because that was a goal I had set to work with Bethany eight years before it actually came out.
Speaker: so i haven't even really talked about that and then you know just overcoming things that we're going to have to overcome in life like the loss of a parent especially the one who's your best friend you know and these are just real things that other people will need tools eventually to deal with as well yeah i mean i believe your dad energy is in that mentorship i believe his spirit you know is in that guiding you through it to help these people evolve and empower because what i've discovered on my journey as a man
Speaker: that the lack of empowerment from men to women is very high, right?
Speaker: Like they're not women, like men, we're not conditioned to program or even aware about the importance and the benefit of empowering women.
Speaker: You know, not only our mothers and our sisters and our aunts and friends, but even our partners and the people we live with and we love and we're told to
Speaker: provide and protect and it's like women don't need much from men, but they need something.
Speaker: And sometimes it's the smallest thing that makes a great impact.
Speaker: And it can be your words, it can be your energy, it could be talking to them in a way to let them know that it's going to be all right.
Speaker: And sometimes we don't know how to communicate our own feelings.
Speaker: So we're thinking money is going to solve the problems, but things have changed.
Speaker: Women have their own money and their own businesses and they are their own leaders, but
Speaker: They want someone that can stand on it too and give them some confidence and empowerment from a different perspective.
Speaker: That's more intangible.
Speaker: It's not the flesh.
Speaker: That's not tangible.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Emotional support.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Emotional currency.
Speaker: I, who just understand all the things that we're working on.
Speaker: And it's, it's hard, right?
Speaker: Cause it's like, I can't understand everybody else's struggles.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Because obviously there are certain things about me, who I am and my identity that are considered privileged.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: I can understand all that, but I can ask, what is it like?
Speaker: Can you talk to me about it?
Speaker: Are you comfortable explaining that to me?
Speaker: And I think that conversation, it's happening between friends, but it also should be happening between romantic partners, right?
Speaker: There is a difference.
Speaker: Like, men do have it easier in a lot of ways.
Speaker: I saw a lot of discrimination
Speaker: when I first started DJing like nine years ago.
Speaker: Women weren't DJing.
Speaker: Everybody thought they were hiring me for a gig, and then we were having drinks, and I was going home with them after.
Speaker: It's like the most insulting thing, you know?
Speaker: So and that, I mean, that continued for a while until I literally was like, I will absolutely not work with any of you people.
Speaker: no, you know what I mean?
Speaker: I'm not treated like this.
Speaker: Even though I can say no in the moment, it's that setting those boundaries up front creates a whole different work atmosphere that's more positive and more uplifting and empowering than allowing people to have kind of, you know, to be able to have their idea that,
Speaker: they can you know manipulate the situation but i'm sure that happens still in djing and plenty of other careers that you know other women are in right you know me too just happened what was that two years ago it's like yeah you know what i mean
Speaker: And I think what you spoke on before is being authentic.
Speaker: And a lot of, I can't say, some of us are not authentic beings because we don't know who we are.
Speaker: So what happens is we project our fears on other people or we create these narratives that become reality for us.
Speaker: because we don't know who we are we're afraid to stand on our power and say no or we think if i don't do this then i'm never going to have opportunity that's not true that's a thought and epiphany that you're coming up with based on what's available right from perception the media from what your friends friends told you what that actress or actor went through it's not true but when you're confident and you're working on yourself the hardest work we will do in life is on ourselves yeah
Speaker: you're going to attract what you deserve right you're going to attract what's like you and most times coming up for me
Speaker: I didn't feel worthy, right?
Speaker: But it was all in my mind based on what I experienced.
Speaker: So I created that, took that, and made it my reality where I didn't have to attach to that attachment, you know?
Speaker: But if we don't know, we don't know.
Speaker: So it's so important and vital for all of us to understand who am I?
Speaker: What do I want?
Speaker: Why am I here?
Speaker: What is my purpose?
Speaker: You know?
Speaker: Eric, I think what you're, I want to hit on a few things that you're saying really important things.
Speaker: And I want to make sure everybody who's listening that we just drive it home a little further for them because this is a lot of value in my opinion.
Speaker: But so what you're saying is that people, you know, what we believe, who we are, what our values are, what our purposes, what our goals are,
Speaker: We might think about that once or twice, maybe once or twice a decade.
Speaker: But we should be thinking about that multiple times a year, at least once a year, because we're evolving.
Speaker: That's what the human nature is.
Speaker: We're always changing and growing.
Speaker: The minute that we stop growing and changing is the minute that we die, right?
Speaker: So yeah.
Speaker: It's incredible that we are these humans that are able to continually be learning and up-leveling ourselves.
Speaker: And so that's why this is so important, because if you are not setting the direction for your life, the trajectory for your future, someone else is.
Speaker: So who is that?
Speaker: Are you allowing your schedule, your busy social life, or your mom and your dad, what they think, or your friends, what they feel like?
Speaker: So somebody is setting that tone if you're not building that trajectory.
Speaker: So I think that's what the most important thing is, that I realize in my own experience from going through a period where I was really diligent about it to going through a period where I wasn't, right, with my dad dying and things I got a little out of whack and out of flow and whatnot.
Speaker: And then, you know, going back to this period where I am, where I'm helping other people kind of stay in that flow and get there and have a process set up so that you don't have to lose touch with your authentic self.
Speaker: Right?
Speaker: Because we're always changing.
Speaker: So you do have to do work to always stay connected.
Speaker: You got to do the work if you want it to work.
Speaker: Like someone told me years ago, young man, you always have to make money as long as you live.
Speaker: So don't let an opportunity going on TV or having a little bit of fame or acknowledgement go to your head because you got to continue your process of involvement and development to be the best you can be every day.
Speaker: And I tell myself every day I wake up, how can I add value?
Speaker: Do my people trust me?
Speaker: Do I trust myself?
Speaker: Am I benefiting from the work I'm putting in?
Speaker: If not, I need to do something different.
Speaker: So internal conversation, self-talk, a positive self-talk, a real talk will help you get out of yourself to help others help themselves, help you help everyone.
Speaker: And I think that's what you're doing with your mentorship program, your DJing and being on TV.
Speaker: By the way, Summer House.
Speaker: Can we talk about that a bit?
Speaker: How did that come about?
Speaker: One last thing on what you were saying is that you brought up a really interesting point about like your own personal worthiness where you were like, but you realize it was just a construct of your mind.
Speaker: It wasn't true.
Speaker: Nope.
Speaker: And, and by the way, you're such a lovable human.
Speaker: Like I love you very much.
Speaker: I already did.
Speaker: Now I love you to know because we're much more connected than DMS.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: But like,
Speaker: like your worth is very high, but everybody's human, every human's worth is very, very high, right?
Speaker: Everybody, everybody's all energy.
Speaker: So everyone has the same worth, to be honest, right?
Speaker: Like, regardless of what they do for a living, if they're homeless or not, like, everybody has the same worth and it's high, right?
Speaker: But so my point with that is that
Speaker: Recognizing that those are just figments of our imagination because they feel real.
Speaker: Because we have that thought and we're biased to thinking that we're smart, we know everything, we think those thoughts are real.
Speaker: That's what propagates that bad limiting belief or whatever that, I just call them shitty beliefs.
Speaker: That's what propagates it, because it just keeps spiraling.
Speaker: Because the more you think the thought, the more real it becomes, because it creates new neural pathways in your brain.
Speaker: The grooves get deeper, and then it's easier for you to access that thought of unworthiness than that thought of confidence.
Speaker: And so that's what my biggest point is, is that right there, what you did where you acknowledged
Speaker: where you were having that mind, you needed that mindset adjustment.
Speaker: That's all it takes is just your simple ability to recognize that you're having an issue with it.
Speaker: Pause, take a deep breath and like write out an affirmation that you can read.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Sorry.
Speaker: I'm done mothering everybody.
Speaker: Is everybody bored?
Speaker: I hope not.
Speaker: We got to do your life path number.
Speaker: You say, so when's your B day?
Speaker: 10, 486.
Speaker: So 10, four, so one, four is five.
Speaker: So you have attitude number of five, one and nine is 10, 10 and eight is 18, 18 and six is 24.
Speaker: So two and four is six.
Speaker: 6 and 5 is 11.
Speaker: Wow.
Speaker: Lifepath 11 sounds like a healer.
Speaker: You're the healer.
Speaker: 11 is a master number.
Speaker: I'll give you more information after this and break it down and help you out.
Speaker: But you have a lot of magnetic power.
Speaker: You're here to heal people.
Speaker: It makes sense.
Speaker: Yeah, that's great.
Speaker: It makes sense.
Speaker: You have it.
Speaker: You have all that going on in your frequency.
Speaker: um yeah but summer house can we talk about that a bit because did that happen how did you get on that show and how did it come about did you manifest that did you have a friend of a friend like where did it all start for you yeah and then i'm gonna give you a fun fact about summer house once you tell me everything then i got an idea for you too okay um so it wasn't like something that i thought like
Speaker: I mean, maybe I did manifest it, right?
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: Actually I did.
Speaker: Here's why.
Speaker: First of all, let me rephrase that.
Speaker: We all manifest everything.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: So we don't know the connection.
Speaker: We have to ask our friends, ask your coach, your own mentor, dig deeper journal about it.
Speaker: Like meditate on it.
Speaker: The answers will come.
Speaker: There's always a connection.
Speaker: We all manifest.
Speaker: I did manifest it.
Speaker: I will take credit for that.
Speaker: I do.
Speaker: And the connection just came to me.
Speaker: The reason I manifested that is the Bethany thing was just more clear, right?
Speaker: Because I saw her on the Housewives in my mid-20s and I said, wow, she's a non-traditional entrepreneur.
Speaker: I want to be just like her.
Speaker: I don't have any examples of that in my immediate family.
Speaker: I'm going to like use her as my role model, right?
Speaker: So then to go work for her is just wild, right?
Speaker: Like,
Speaker: Oh, whoa, OK.
Speaker: Didn't, you know, but it's not like I was applying.
Speaker: They found me.
Speaker: It was just a very weird, easy thing.
Speaker: But with Summer House, you know, I named myself DJ Rose, Nicole Rose.
Speaker: Rose is my middle name, but we added the accent.
Speaker: So now it's the wine, right?
Speaker: So Whispering Angel found me.
Speaker: And they were like, we want to work with you.
Speaker: You know, this was back on their come up.
Speaker: This was years ago.
Speaker: I became their music director.
Speaker: this i had done only a few events with them and they called me in summer out season one they were seasons one and two i think they were the sponsors and they called me and they were like we have this cool opportunity for you we want you to be on this tv show with us i didn't know any of the kids i didn't know them at first i was just like all right my client says they're gonna take me out to the hamptons and pay me to film tv okay like
Speaker: My friends wanted to come.
Speaker: My girlfriend picked me up in her convertible and we just rolled out.
Speaker: I was like, there we go.
Speaker: Boom.
Speaker: Easy.
Speaker: But I mean, I guess in a way I did manifest that, right?
Speaker: Because it was all about the rosé in the beginning season.
Speaker: Rosé.
Speaker: Can I get some rosé, Nicole?
Speaker: Stealings.
Speaker: We want it still or we want it bubbly?
Speaker: I need some rosé.
Speaker: I thought about that.
Speaker: That's funny.
Speaker: Yeah, I mean, Stella Rose, we don't want to do that, but you know what I mean.
Speaker: However, so when did you go on Summer House?
Speaker: What year?
Speaker: What season was that?
Speaker: Oh my God.
Speaker: So I don't know the year, but maybe like 2017.
Speaker: I mean, I was seasons one and two.
Speaker: I don't think three.
Speaker: Would you go back on the show?
Speaker: Uh, yeah, they like called me to DJ or something.
Speaker: I don't know if I would like necessarily like sign up to, to like live in the house all summer, but they're filming now anyway, they must.
Speaker: I had somebody, one of the producers from the show reach out to me last summer.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Last summer.
Speaker: And I just was like, nah, I'm fine.
Speaker: You know, but here's the thing.
Speaker: If Nicole Rose goes back on the show, I'll come on the show.
Speaker: let's let anybody watch it let's let it i love that i mean honestly like we would be a duo like a power that's what i'm saying it's like like partying and then having like deep heart to hearts and reading yeah yeah yeah that's what i'm saying they have a meaningful impact other than just to go to dogs like oh let's have fun but no that was like they didn't show this in the beginning of the big shot i got on set
Speaker: You see guidelines, whatever.
Speaker: And I haven't seen a human in like two weeks, maybe two and a half, maybe three.
Speaker: And I was like, chugging back Rose and I was like talking to everybody and I was reading everybody's auras.
Speaker: By the way, I do not have formal training in reading auras.
Speaker: So it's very weird.
Speaker: I can't read auras though.
Speaker: you read auras i can see people's auras me too but it's like yeah like i didn't know i could like literally do it until i showed up at the show and just started reading people's auras and people were like who is this like who do they let in here you know that would be a fun character to kind of have a story about i would love that it's like it's all part of my thing i love to be underestimated
Speaker: I played up the party girl and like, but watch me come through.
Speaker: Like I come through and I went through baby.
Speaker: Nobody's looking at me.
Speaker: They're not worried about me.
Speaker: They're focusing on the people they think are the real competition.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: But yeah, doing my own thing in the corner, you know,
Speaker: Wow.
Speaker: So we have to ask the question, how's the dating like?
Speaker: You're not dating anyone?
Speaker: I'm not dating anyone.
Speaker: Look at you.
Speaker: You're glowing.
Speaker: Come on.
Speaker: You're a boss.
Speaker: I'm glowing when I'm in the company of beautiful energy.
Speaker: So that's- Hey, there we go.
Speaker: I'll take it.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: I'm not, it's not that I won't date.
Speaker: It's just that, you know, I mean, I'll be really honest.
Speaker: I was like starting to see somebody when the TV show started launching and I was like, yo, first of all, I'm not feeling like marriage.
Speaker: Really, I'm not here to casually date.
Speaker: Like, so either we're friends or we're getting married and we're having babies.
Speaker: Oh, wow.
Speaker: Ultimatum.
Speaker: I don't play the minute.
Speaker: Stephen, yay or nay?
Speaker: Not an ultimatum.
Speaker: Just like, it's more like what I read from a person.
Speaker: Like, I know after like at least two, you know, I might get a... Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah....know in the first five minutes, right?
Speaker: So, like, I think part of it is that I'm picky.
Speaker: Part of it is that I was really just... I mean, weren't you overwhelmed when your show launched?
Speaker: I mean, it was just really like... Yeah, there's a lot going on.
Speaker: It's a lot going on and people say they can handle what comes with that TV appearance or that they can't.
Speaker: It's different when it's in person and it's really like you're on the screen and people are trying to either they want to support you or they want to date you but they don't know how because they're like
Speaker: And I'm like, yeah, they're fans or they know me from the show.
Speaker: People have insecurities.
Speaker: We all do.
Speaker: So a guy in a position dating someone like you, if he's not a secure or have a secure attachment, it might hinder his progress in a relationship with someone like you.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Because it's easy to say, yeah, I'm fine.
Speaker: I wasn't bothered.
Speaker: Then it happens and you're like, yeah, this is harder than I thought.
Speaker: So yeah, I get it.
Speaker: Totally.
Speaker: I mean, I think I and the other thing, too, is that I used to think like, OK, I'll date when when I'm done with all my travel.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: I'm never going to be done with all my travel.
Speaker: There's always travel.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: There's always another party.
Speaker: OK.
Speaker: And I'm ready.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: I'm never going to be done with all my travel.
Speaker: I'm never going to be done.
Speaker: I was like, oh.
Speaker: I'll date when I'm done building out this next program, which is like a second piece of the mentorship.
Speaker: And I'm just like, you know what?
Speaker: Screw it.
Speaker: So I signed up for Bumble and I'm going on a date on Thursday, but I have just.
Speaker: Everybody.
Speaker: Hey, tell Bumble, listen, they got money.
Speaker: Tell them they need to be paying you to be on their space.
Speaker: So Bumble, if you're watching, you need to pay the girl.
Speaker: But anyway.
Speaker: Yeah, so that's great.
Speaker: Let's date.
Speaker: Everyone go on a fun date and have some fun and dance and play the whole rose music while they're dating and have shots of rose.
Speaker: So let's talk about your podcast.
Speaker: Like I understand the term Bitcoin energy, but I don't really understand it.
Speaker: Can you like clarify or elaborate on that term and what it's about from your perspective?
Speaker: yeah so it's the mindset of queen right so it's kind of what we were talking about before it's that being fearless being authentic being magnetic being not you know not being afraid to unleash your your inner badass right just being the fuck you are and being unapologetic about it and i mean that's used a lot right so i'm trying to describe it in other ways but yeah big queen energy is it's just you know women
Speaker: And I mentor a lot of girls that have had this experience and I don't know what subset of the female population this is, but women that are a little extra and like I might be double extra, right?
Speaker: By some people's standards.
Speaker: Like I'm a little extra extra, right?
Speaker: So it's like- Are you Italian?
Speaker: I'm Italian, yeah.
Speaker: Oh yeah, you got that energy.
Speaker: I love it.
Speaker: Italians, they like, they're raw, they're real.
Speaker: I don't know, it's just always get along with like,
Speaker: guys and guys like italians are just i don't know i guess it's just so authentic and real i love them party too yeah they party they don't they don't you like they're like yeah let's go like you know i love it for sure so i think it's it's really just about owning all the fullness of who she is she doesn't have to tone herself down she doesn't have to hide from this this and that she can just be a queen and let all that energy hang out and that's okay and
Speaker: people will love her or they won't and if they're set off by her energy that's only their own insecurities right so she is good with who she is so that's what big queen energy is all about it's just like helping other women get to that point where they're just like i'm good with me i'm good
Speaker: Damn, say that again.
Speaker: I'm good with me.
Speaker: There we go.
Speaker: That's an affirmation, people.
Speaker: I'm good with me.
Speaker: Thyself.
Speaker: I'm great with me.
Speaker: I love it.
Speaker: People are like pulling out their journal.
Speaker: They have to.
Speaker: So look, there's a segment in my podcast where I stop and they call it rapid fire.
Speaker: So I have some rapid fire questions.
Speaker: Are you ready?
Speaker: I am, sir.
Speaker: Let's get it.
Speaker: okay uh big shot or summer house oh uh probably yeah the house sounds weird but uh it's okay a lot more fun it's a lot more fun from a pure fun perspective i learned more on the big shot though from perspective dj or mentorship
Speaker: Oh my God, Eric, you are just like, I haven't had enough coffee for these today.
Speaker: Um, in my twenties, it was DJing in my thirties.
Speaker: It's now mentorship.
Speaker: Is that fair?
Speaker: I love it.
Speaker: Big money or big success.
Speaker: Aren't they the same?
Speaker: No.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Cause you can have a lot of money and have no success.
Speaker: the biggest goal is helping people.
Speaker: So I guess it's gotta be success, but I, I'm a firm believer that you have to be fairly compensated because I've been asked to work for free so many fucking times that it's like, stop asking women to work for free.
Speaker: Stop asking her work for free.
Speaker: None of we can't afford our own bills.
Speaker: Stop.
Speaker: Bumble pay her people, you know?
Speaker: Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker: Okay.
Speaker: This one is tricky, but we're going to see what you're going to answer.
Speaker: Um, queen energy, big queen energy or feminine energy.
Speaker: But they're the same, but I would take, I mean, I don't know.
Speaker: I mean, you gotta pick one.
Speaker: Big queen energy is more specific.
Speaker: Feminine energy is very broad.
Speaker: So we're going to go with big queen energy because we just talked about she's good with her, right?
Speaker: Feminine.
Speaker: I don't know.
Speaker: Is she in an insecure spot right now?
Speaker: We've all been there, but we don't want none of that.
Speaker: We just want the queen.
Speaker: Got it.
Speaker: Last but not least, this is kind of maybe a little tricky as well.
Speaker: Would you like to be known as an influencer or a celebrity?
Speaker: I mean, I just don't, I don't, it's not like I'm trying to be a celebrity, but I do not like the term influencer.
Speaker: We don't use it on any of our marketing collateral.
Speaker: I think it's probably the most vapid term.
Speaker: I mean, even my influencer friends will tell you, they're like, you're so lucky that you have a skill, right?
Speaker: It's like, not that editing content and producing great reels and stuff isn't a skill.
Speaker: It certainly is, especially now with how intense video has gotten.
Speaker: But like, I would rather be known for skills
Speaker: I think then just like influence is such a bad connotation, right?
Speaker: Even if they're killing the game, it just has a bad.
Speaker: They say skills pay the bills.
Speaker: There we go.
Speaker: But then they say it's not the skill of the man.
Speaker: It's the will of the man.
Speaker: I think, I don't know.
Speaker: Maybe it's like, uh,
Speaker: I don't know if it's the guy who wrote As A Man Think Of.
Speaker: I don't think it's him, but it's somebody in that whole stratosphere.
Speaker: Okay, but that actually makes sense because like... Yeah, because you can have skill all day, but you don't have the will to keep it going to advance it.
Speaker: Or my friend told me a year ago, he said, your talent will take you where your character cannot keep you.
Speaker: Interesting.
Speaker: In reverse, your character will take you where your talent can't keep you.
Speaker: so it's best to kind of like have both right like you do yeah that's it's funny we're already back to the mindset yeah mindset stuff hey mind over matter we always can do better so what do you have going on do you have any new shows coming out is there anything we can look forward to you you have like a jewelry line or book um appearance and by the way
Speaker: I'm big on frequency and energy, right, and vibration.
Speaker: When I did my research and looked at some of the events you DJed, I'm like, OK, I know she's a DJ, but how is she attracting those type of events?
Speaker: I think you did something for like the Governor's Ball, if I'm not mistaken.
Speaker: Maybe not that, but like I do a lot of high-end fast, fast, fast, art, Basil, art, Basil, there you go.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Parties at the maximum at the super bowl, not the main super bowl.
Speaker: Um, but I think some of it is lifestyle, right?
Speaker: It's, it's how you build your network.
Speaker: Who, you know, um, a lot of my clients are in fashion or luxury goods, but if you look at my brands, right.
Speaker: like even just yeah you flop you flop yeah you got a lot of swag that's how i was just saying you got your nails done let's see your nails let's see the nails hey there we go this would be trying to be patriotic you know oh libra energy coming through we know what's up
Speaker: So yeah, anything that you have that's coming out?
Speaker: It's the, you know, it's like you attract the clients that are like you.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Like I spent my life caring about style and art and like, what's like cultured stuff.
Speaker: And so then those things kind of find you, you know?
Speaker: So what's next though?
Speaker: Like it has to be something boiling up or cooking up for you.
Speaker: Like you just working on the work or you have something and.
Speaker: pending or planning like in life relationship so there is maybe a secret project that i okay uh but hopefully can share more when it becomes official you know you never like to talk about things too before they before
Speaker: And, you know, in actuality, not that I won't talk to it about like with my mom or something like that, but myself, I talk to myself all the time, you know.
Speaker: But just really the mentorship is my main focus and rolling our group format out to more women for the fall.
Speaker: It's just, it's
Speaker: It's like astounding to see what this first class results are so far.
Speaker: We're not complete, but we're halfway through.
Speaker: And it seems to be pretty life changing for people.
Speaker: And I'm just, I'm so excited to see.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: It's just one by one, like that impact that we have on one person's life, on their mindset, then they're nicer to their colleagues and their husband and their kids.
Speaker: And then, you know, one of them goes on to make something that cures cancer.
Speaker: You never know.
Speaker: Right.
Speaker: Oh yeah, absolutely.
Speaker: Snowball effect.
Speaker: So how do you, is that a qualification process?
Speaker: How do people enroll in your mentorship program?
Speaker: Where's the avenue for that for them?
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: So we have a page on our website up, the apply link will be up next week, but they can DM me if you're interested, just DM me and I will send you more information.
Speaker: We just have a little short assessment so I can understand, you know,
Speaker: if you're going to spend your time and your money with us, is it a good fit for you too?
Speaker: So where are you at currently?
Speaker: It's really not a fit for someone who has never read a self-development book or done any work on themselves.
Speaker: Because I think this would be where the course starts would be just a little over their head.
Speaker: So I might suggest something getting them at their level more.
Speaker: It's for people who are just kind of on that path.
Speaker: to evolution.
Speaker: They don't need to be there yet, but they've just maybe they've done therapy or something.
Speaker: They've started trajectory already.
Speaker: Absolutely.
Speaker: And so playlists.
Speaker: I need can we get a Nicole Rose playlist?
Speaker: Where should I go?
Speaker: Where can I find it?
Speaker: Like I need to listen to your music.
Speaker: I need to understand who you really are through your music.
Speaker: My cousin always say just ask someone their favorite song, by the way, I want to know yours, and that'll tell you who they really are.
Speaker: and he's a libra he's a libra so he loves music as well but i got that from him i have like one favorite song because i love all different genres too and as a dj like it is my job to understand every genre of music whether it's what i would listen to in my own home or not right but right now like i am obsessed with heat waves that's been like kind of my jam for the last month it'll probably shift in two days right because i get like sick of things
Speaker: And whose song is that?
Speaker: I'm not aware of the song, so you got to put me on.
Speaker: Heat waves in the middle of June.
Speaker: You didn't listen to it all of June?
Speaker: No.
Speaker: Who is it by?
Speaker: I'm a fan.
Speaker: And I'm like, oh, yeah, bro.
Speaker: I didn't know.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Oh, I was like, where's my phone?
Speaker: But we're on it.
Speaker: But everyone, you know, what I'm talking about, you just put in heat waves.
Speaker: It's going to be right up for you.
Speaker: I'm having a brain fart.
Speaker: I got up at 6 a.m.
Speaker: for my hot yoga class today.
Speaker: Well, good job.
Speaker: You showed up today.
Speaker: I showed up, honey.
Speaker: Well, I appreciate you.
Speaker: I appreciate your energy, your intellect, and everything you got going on, helping all the women that want to be helped and degen and mentoring and bringing in Bitcoin energy.
Speaker: I know it's not always easy, but you show up.
Speaker: And when you show up, you get results.
Speaker: that's it for us if there's anything else you want to share add or any motivational tips or inspirations that you can give the people before we get off here and by the way where can people find your social handles i mean we know your instagram but what about twitter maybe on tick tock i don't know if you use snapchat so do you or you know you can just know
Speaker: so i mean you if anybody's listening to the podcast version instagram as you type in nicole rose it'll pop up it's nicole rose stillings it's uh it should be at the top of that list and then it tick tock is the same thing twitter is nicole rose underscore xo because my original account got hacked don't even get started um but yeah like i think instagram we're most active on but we are getting more tick tock friendly so we're happy to connect and meet people wherever they want to
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: And by the way, HBO Max is where we can find you on Big Shot with Bethany, right?
Speaker: Yes.
Speaker: Yeah.
Speaker: Is that out now?
Speaker: It's out now.
Speaker: All the seven episodes have aired.
Speaker: You can binge it and you will be sitting on the edge of your seat if you like me at all.
Speaker: If you have any, any ounce of compassion in your heart for me, you will be sitting on the edge of your seat as I go head to head with Bethany on The Bethany Show.
Speaker: So
Speaker: as you should.
Speaker: Some people have to be challenged to change or understand your perspective.
Speaker: So, big queen energy, you got to get it or don't, you know.
Speaker: But that's it.
Speaker: Like I said, Nicole, thank you.
Speaker: And hey, to the people from Summer House, you want to get Nicole on, I'll come on and, you know, and do the damn thing.
Speaker: So, appreciate it.
Speaker: Two for one, baby.
Speaker: Take two shots and you might get one.
Speaker: so much for having me Eric you have such beautiful energy let's please stay connected would love to meet you sometime and I'll send you your life path number once we get off here so you can kind of dig deeper and have some questions for yourself the more we know about us the more we can evolve as a human being because things that make sense more but you'll see we'll talk thank you I appreciate it all right bye-bye good night thanks guys bye
