We close out our season on identity by asking what happens when you stop being attached to having one. We also take a hard look at how the wellness industry sells 'letting go (of needs, emotions, oppression, etc)' back to us as a lifestyle brand.

Further reading:

 * Western Wellness Co-opts South Asian Culture: Decolonize [https://www.beginboundless.com/post/trendy-wellness-and-mental-health-practices-rooted-in-south-asian-culture-and-how-to-decolonize-them]
 * Conspirituality: The Dark Side of Wellness and How it Got so Toxic [https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/oct/17/eva-wiseman-conspirituality-the-dark-side-of-wellness-how-it-all-got-so-toxic]
 * Is American Buddhism the Same as Eastern Buddhism? [https://omf.org/us/is-american-buddhism-the-same-as-eastern-buddhism/]
 * Covid Adds to California Yoga Wellness QAnon Problem [https://www.latimes.com/california/story/2021-06-23/covid-adds-to-california-yoga-wellness-qanon-problem]
 * Understanding Liberation Therapy and Its Importance in Health and Healing [https://www.jubileeheals.com/post/understanding-liberation-therapy-and-its-importance-in-health-and-healing]
 * Unlearning (Internalized) Biphobia [https://www.goodreads.com/list/show/183936.Unlearning_Internalized_Biphobia_]

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Who Am I When I Stop Performing an Identity?

In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. discusses The Cold Loneliness of Adulthood and how spending so much time at work around people who do not care about your wellbeing can impact you.

Resources:

 * Mental Health in the Workplace [https://www.helpguide.org/wellness/career/mental-health-in-the-workplace]
 * Why Work Won't Love You Back (and That's OK) w/ Sarah Jaffe [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dOtN6IQv3uw]
 * Your Job Isn't Your Identity: Finding Meaning Outside of Work [https://lilycounseling.com/our-blog/your-job-isnt-your-identity-finding-meaning-outside-of-work/]

Further reading:

 * The Unspoken Complexity of "Self-Care" [https://blog.usejournal.com/the-unspoken-complexity-of-self-care-8c9f30233467]
 * Is It Time to Leave Your Therapist? [https://queeringpsychology.com/2019/02/24/is-it-time-to-leave-your-therapist/amp/?__twitter_impression=true]
 * The Conditioning That Fuels the Mental Health Epidemic for Black Men, and How to Stop It [https://blackyouthproject.com/the-conditioning-that-fuels-the-mental-health-epidemic-for-black-men-and-how-to-stop-it/] — by J.R. Yussuf
 * 7 Day Mental Health Workout Plan [https://goodmenproject.com/health/7-day-mental-health-workout-plan-dg/] — by J.R. Yussuf
 * 4 Questions Every Bisexual Guy Should Ask A Potential Therapist [https://www.menshealth.com/health/a37612551/bisexual-friendly-therapist/] — by J.R. Yussuf

Order my book: Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/739250/dear-bi-men-by-jr-yussuf/]

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 * Twitter hashtag #BisexualMenSpeak — a space for bisexual+ men & masculine-identified folks to speak for themselves about how being bisexual+ shapes the way they move through the world.
 * YouTube channel devoted to self-improvement, emotional literacy & forgiveness.
 * Ask a question: theotherfwordbook@gmail.com

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The Cold Loneliness of Adulthood

In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. discusses Decluttering, fashion & the mind. Resources:

rian's TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@thatadult?lang=en] (thatadult [https://thatadult.blogspot.com/])

anatta in Buddhism [https://www.britannica.com/topic/human-nature]

The Power of Style: How Fashion Shapes Your Identity [https://medium.com/@subhambehera07/the-power-of-style-how-fashion-shapes-your-identity-5e85e931035f] by Subham Behera [https://medium.com/@subhambehera07?source=post_page-----5e85e931035f--------------------------------]

Biography of Sociologist George Herbert MeadA Pioneer of Symbolic Interaction Theory [https://www.thoughtco.com/george-herbert-mead-3026491#:~:text=According%20to%20Mead's%20theory%2C%20the,language%2C%20play%2C%20and%20game] by Ashley Crossman


Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure by J.R. Yussuf is being published by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠North Atlantic Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.northatlanticbooks.com/] and distributed by Penguin Random House in Spring 2024, is now available for pre-order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.northatlanticbooks.com/shop/dear-bi-men/]



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Light reading: 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Unspoken Complexity of “Self-Care”⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://blog.usejournal.com/the-unspoken-complexity-of-self-care-8c9f30233467]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Is It Time to Leave Your Therapist? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://queeringpsychology.com/2019/02/24/is-it-time-to-leave-your-therapist/amp/?__twitter_impression=true]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The conditioning that fuels the mental health epidemic for Black men, and how to stop it⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://blackyouthproject.com/the-conditioning-that-fuels-the-mental-health-epidemic-for-black-men-and-how-to-stop-it/] by J.R. Yussuf 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠7 Day Mental Health Workout Plan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://goodmenproject.com/health/7-day-mental-health-workout-plan-dg/] by J.R. Yussuf 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠4 Questions Every Bisexual Guy Should Ask A Potential Therapist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.menshealth.com/health/a37612551/bisexual-friendly-therapist/] by J.R. Yussuf

J.R. created the Twitter hashtag #BisexualMenSpeak for bisexual+ men & masculine identified folks to have the space to speak for themselves & talk about how being bisexual+ impacts the way they move through the world, and maintains a YouTube channel devoted to self-improvement, emotional literacy & forgiveness. Ask a question: theotherfwordbook@gmail.com 

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Decluttering, fashion & the mind

In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. discusses How to Handle Being Accepted. Resources:

Internal Family Systems Therapy [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/internal-family-systems-therapy] via Psychology Today

The Fear of Acceptance: Are We Afraid of Being Rejected or Accepted? [https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-fear-of-acceptance-are-we-afraid-of-being-rejected-or-accepted#1] by John Amodeo PhD

What Is Symbolic Interactionism? [https://www.thoughtco.com/symbolic-interaction-theory-3026633] by Ashley Crossman

Toxic Positivity: The Dark Side of Positive Vibes⁠⁠ [https://thepsychologygroup.com/toxic-positivity/] by ⁠⁠Samara Quintero, LMFT, CHT⁠⁠ [https://thepsychologygroup.com/samara-quintero-lmft-cht/] and ⁠⁠Jamie Long, PsyD [https://thepsychologygroup.com/dr-jamie-long/]



Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure by J.R. Yussuf is being published by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠North Atlantic Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.northatlanticbooks.com/] and distributed by Penguin Random House in Spring 2024, is now available for pre-order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.northatlanticbooks.com/shop/dear-bi-men/]



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Light reading: 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Unspoken Complexity of “Self-Care”⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://blog.usejournal.com/the-unspoken-complexity-of-self-care-8c9f30233467]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Is It Time to Leave Your Therapist? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://queeringpsychology.com/2019/02/24/is-it-time-to-leave-your-therapist/amp/?__twitter_impression=true]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The conditioning that fuels the mental health epidemic for Black men, and how to stop it⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://blackyouthproject.com/the-conditioning-that-fuels-the-mental-health-epidemic-for-black-men-and-how-to-stop-it/] by J.R. Yussuf 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠7 Day Mental Health Workout Plan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://goodmenproject.com/health/7-day-mental-health-workout-plan-dg/] by J.R. Yussuf 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠4 Questions Every Bisexual Guy Should Ask A Potential Therapist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.menshealth.com/health/a37612551/bisexual-friendly-therapist/] by J.R. Yussuf

J.R. created the Twitter hashtag #BisexualMenSpeak for bisexual+ men & masculine identified folks to have the space to speak for themselves & talk about how being bisexual+ impacts the way they move through the world, and maintains a YouTube channel devoted to self-improvement, emotional literacy & forgiveness. Ask a question: theotherfwordbook@gmail.com 

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How to Handle Being Accepted

In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. discusses Taraji P Henson, showbiz, and toxic positivity. Resources:

Toxic Positivity: The Dark Side of Positive Vibes⁠ [https://thepsychologygroup.com/toxic-positivity/] by ⁠Samara Quintero, LMFT, CHT⁠ [https://thepsychologygroup.com/samara-quintero-lmft-cht/] and ⁠Jamie Long, PsyD [https://thepsychologygroup.com/dr-jamie-long/]

What Is Toxic Positivity—and Why Are Experts Saying It's Dangerous Right Now? [https://www.health.com/condition/infectious-diseases/coronavirus/what-is-toxic-positivity] by Claire Gillespie ‘Toxic Positivity’ Is Real — and It’s a Big Problem During the Pandemic [https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/toxic-positivity-during-the-pandemic] by Simone Marie Time to ditch ‘toxic positivity,’ experts say: ‘It’s okay not to be okay’ [https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/wellness/toxic-positivity-mental-health-covid/2020/08/19/5dff8d16-e0c8-11ea-8181-606e603bb1c4_story.html] by Allyson Chiu Pros & Cons of Going To Therapy [https://youtu.be/qkTWYO1-j7s] by J.R. Yussuf



Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure by J.R. Yussuf is being published by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠North Atlantic Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.northatlanticbooks.com/] and distributed by Penguin Random House in Spring 2024, is now available for pre-order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.northatlanticbooks.com/shop/dear-bi-men/]



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Light reading: 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Unspoken Complexity of “Self-Care”⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://blog.usejournal.com/the-unspoken-complexity-of-self-care-8c9f30233467]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Is It Time to Leave Your Therapist? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://queeringpsychology.com/2019/02/24/is-it-time-to-leave-your-therapist/amp/?__twitter_impression=true]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The conditioning that fuels the mental health epidemic for Black men, and how to stop it⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://blackyouthproject.com/the-conditioning-that-fuels-the-mental-health-epidemic-for-black-men-and-how-to-stop-it/] by J.R. Yussuf 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠7 Day Mental Health Workout Plan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://goodmenproject.com/health/7-day-mental-health-workout-plan-dg/] by J.R. Yussuf 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠4 Questions Every Bisexual Guy Should Ask A Potential Therapist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.menshealth.com/health/a37612551/bisexual-friendly-therapist/] by J.R. Yussuf

J.R. created the Twitter hashtag #BisexualMenSpeak for bisexual+ men & masculine identified folks to have the space to speak for themselves & talk about how being bisexual+ impacts the way they move through the world, and maintains a YouTube channel devoted to self-improvement, emotional literacy & forgiveness. Ask a question: theotherfwordbook@gmail.com 

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Taraji P Henson, showbiz, and toxic positivity

In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. Unpacks Black Boyhood (& Stan culture) w/⁠Mel⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@torontoparadise?lang=en] (@torontoparadise). Trigger Warning: mention of intimate partner violence from 11:40-13:40. Content Warning: Black male queerness is referenced as a potential saboteur for the enjoyment or authenticity of a film on Black boyhood from 58:32-59:15. Resources: Male Survivors dot org [https://malesurvivor.org/] Male Survivors of Abuse by Women Can Heal Without Misogyny [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/beyond-cultural-competence/202307/male-survivors-of-abuse-by-women-can-heal-without-misogyny] by Araya Baker, M.Phil.Ed. Black Boys Are Not Safe [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EtXPTGkuJIA] by F.D. Signifier Boosie, Black Boys, and Rape Culture [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KHebIPQSJWk] by Intelexual Media ⁠How to Set Healthy Boundaries: 10 Examples + PDF Worksheets [https://positivepsychology.com/great-self-care-setting-healthy-boundaries/]⁠.



Why You Always Get Taken for Granted (And How to Quit) [https://allisonfallon.com/taken-for-granted/] by Allison Fallon

Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure by J.R. Yussuf is being published by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠North Atlantic Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.northatlanticbooks.com/] and distributed by Penguin Random House in Spring 2024, is now available for pre-order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.northatlanticbooks.com/shop/dear-bi-men/]



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Light reading: 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Unspoken Complexity of “Self-Care”⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://blog.usejournal.com/the-unspoken-complexity-of-self-care-8c9f30233467]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Is It Time to Leave Your Therapist? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://queeringpsychology.com/2019/02/24/is-it-time-to-leave-your-therapist/amp/?__twitter_impression=true]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The conditioning that fuels the mental health epidemic for Black men, and how to stop it⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://blackyouthproject.com/the-conditioning-that-fuels-the-mental-health-epidemic-for-black-men-and-how-to-stop-it/] by J.R. Yussuf 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠7 Day Mental Health Workout Plan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://goodmenproject.com/health/7-day-mental-health-workout-plan-dg/] by J.R. Yussuf 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠4 Questions Every Bisexual Guy Should Ask A Potential Therapist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.menshealth.com/health/a37612551/bisexual-friendly-therapist/] by J.R. Yussuf

J.R. created the Twitter hashtag #BisexualMenSpeak for bisexual+ men & masculine identified folks to have the space to speak for themselves & talk about how being bisexual+ impacts the way they move through the world, and maintains a YouTube channel devoted to self-improvement, emotional literacy & forgiveness. Ask a question: theotherfwordbook@gmail.com 

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Unpacking Black Boyhood w/Mel

In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. discusses The Human Bill of Rights [https://pete-walker.com/humanBillofRights.htm#:~:text=I%20have%20a%20right%20to%20seek%20healthy%20and%20mutually%20supportive,to%20grow%2C%20evolve%20and%20prosper.].



Rehabilitation or (Retiring) from the “Empath” identity and timeline [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Prfr9bZZtFE&t=2s].

How to Set Healthy Boundaries: 10 Examples + PDF Worksheets [https://positivepsychology.com/great-self-care-setting-healthy-boundaries/].

Digital Minimalism Whilst Black [https://medium.com/@Eedsmckenzie/digital-minimalism-whilst-black-a603c2f42e5a]

Why You Always Get Taken for Granted (And How to Quit) [https://allisonfallon.com/taken-for-granted/]

Personal Development School | Healing Your Insecure Attachment Style [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHQ4lSaKRap5HyrpitrTOhQ]



Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure by J.R. Yussuf is being published by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠North Atlantic Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.northatlanticbooks.com/] and distributed by Penguin Random House in Spring 2024, is now available for pre-order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.northatlanticbooks.com/shop/dear-bi-men/]



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Light reading: 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Unspoken Complexity of “Self-Care”⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://blog.usejournal.com/the-unspoken-complexity-of-self-care-8c9f30233467]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Is It Time to Leave Your Therapist? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://queeringpsychology.com/2019/02/24/is-it-time-to-leave-your-therapist/amp/?__twitter_impression=true]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The conditioning that fuels the mental health epidemic for Black men, and how to stop it⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://blackyouthproject.com/the-conditioning-that-fuels-the-mental-health-epidemic-for-black-men-and-how-to-stop-it/] by J.R. Yussuf 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠7 Day Mental Health Workout Plan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://goodmenproject.com/health/7-day-mental-health-workout-plan-dg/] by J.R. Yussuf 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠4 Questions Every Bisexual Guy Should Ask A Potential Therapist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.menshealth.com/health/a37612551/bisexual-friendly-therapist/] by J.R. Yussuf

J.R. created the Twitter hashtag #BisexualMenSpeak for bisexual+ men & masculine identified folks to have the space to speak for themselves & talk about how being bisexual+ impacts the way they move through the world, and maintains a YouTube channel devoted to self-improvement, emotional literacy & forgiveness. Ask a question: theotherfwordbook@gmail.com 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Curious Cat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://curiouscat.me/JRYussuf]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Venmo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://account.venmo.com/u/jryussuf]

If you like the sound of J.R.'s voice click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [www.JR-Yussuf.com/voiceover]. 

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--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/letshealalready/message

The Human Bill of Rights

In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. discusses combating the winter blues aka S.A.D. (seasonal affective disorder) with Rob of the howdo_uwantit [https://open.spotify.com/show/4bKIroM7GqHYRkG13iRcLN] podcast.



⁠14 Ways to Ease Seasonal Depression⁠ [https://www.everydayhealth.com/depression/treatment/ways-to-ease-seasonal-depression/] by ⁠Beth W. Orenstein⁠ [https://www.everydayhealth.com/authors/beth-w-orenstein/] and ⁠Michelle Pugle⁠ [https://www.everydayhealth.com/authors/michelle-pugle/]⁠ ⁠ [https://www.everydayhealth.com/depression/treatment/ways-to-ease-seasonal-depression/]



Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure by J.R. Yussuf is being published by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠North Atlantic Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.northatlanticbooks.com/] and distributed by Penguin Random House in Spring 2024, is now available for pre-order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.northatlanticbooks.com/shop/dear-bi-men/]



Subscribe for exclusive content ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.patreon.com/JRYussuf] 



Light reading: 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Unspoken Complexity of “Self-Care”⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://blog.usejournal.com/the-unspoken-complexity-of-self-care-8c9f30233467]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Is It Time to Leave Your Therapist? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://queeringpsychology.com/2019/02/24/is-it-time-to-leave-your-therapist/amp/?__twitter_impression=true]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The conditioning that fuels the mental health epidemic for Black men, and how to stop it⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://blackyouthproject.com/the-conditioning-that-fuels-the-mental-health-epidemic-for-black-men-and-how-to-stop-it/] by J.R. Yussuf 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠7 Day Mental Health Workout Plan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://goodmenproject.com/health/7-day-mental-health-workout-plan-dg/] by J.R. Yussuf 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠4 Questions Every Bisexual Guy Should Ask A Potential Therapist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.menshealth.com/health/a37612551/bisexual-friendly-therapist/] by J.R. Yussuf

J.R. created the Twitter hashtag #BisexualMenSpeak for bisexual+ men & masculine identified folks to have the space to speak for themselves & talk about how being bisexual+ impacts the way they move through the world, and maintains a YouTube channel devoted to self-improvement, emotional literacy & forgiveness. Ask a question: theotherfwordbook@gmail.com 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Curious Cat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://curiouscat.me/JRYussuf]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Venmo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://account.venmo.com/u/jryussuf]

If you like the sound of J.R.'s voice click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [www.JR-Yussuf.com/voiceover]. 

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Laughing Through the Winter Blues w/Rob

In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. goes over 10 Green Flags That It's (Probably) Safe To Be Vulnerable [https://youtu.be/W0ibuHmjiXc?si=2PlAKm_Qua7-PsRG] by Heidi Priebe.



8 Relationship Green Flags You Should Definitely Pay Attention To [https://www.self.com/story/relationship-green-flags]by Amanda Chatel



Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure by J.R. Yussuf is being published by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠North Atlantic Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.northatlanticbooks.com/] and distributed by Penguin Random House in Spring 2024, is now available for pre-order ⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.northatlanticbooks.com/shop/dear-bi-men/]



Subscribe for exclusive content ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.patreon.com/JRYussuf] 



Light reading: 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Unspoken Complexity of “Self-Care”⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://blog.usejournal.com/the-unspoken-complexity-of-self-care-8c9f30233467]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Is It Time to Leave Your Therapist? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://queeringpsychology.com/2019/02/24/is-it-time-to-leave-your-therapist/amp/?__twitter_impression=true]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The conditioning that fuels the mental health epidemic for Black men, and how to stop it⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://blackyouthproject.com/the-conditioning-that-fuels-the-mental-health-epidemic-for-black-men-and-how-to-stop-it/] by J.R. Yussuf 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠7 Day Mental Health Workout Plan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://goodmenproject.com/health/7-day-mental-health-workout-plan-dg/] by J.R. Yussuf 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠4 Questions Every Bisexual Guy Should Ask A Potential Therapist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.menshealth.com/health/a37612551/bisexual-friendly-therapist/] by J.R. Yussuf

J.R. created the Twitter hashtag #BisexualMenSpeak for bisexual+ men & masculine identified folks to have the space to speak for themselves & talk about how being bisexual+ impacts the way they move through the world, and maintains a YouTube channel devoted to self-improvement, emotional literacy & forgiveness. Ask a question: theotherfwordbook@gmail.com 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Curious Cat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://curiouscat.me/JRYussuf]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Venmo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://account.venmo.com/u/jryussuf]

If you like the sound of J.R.'s voice click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [www.JR-Yussuf.com/voiceover]. 

⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.patreon.com/JRYussuf]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Writing Website⁠ [https://jryussuf.com/]

--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/letshealalready/message

Grab Sometimes-Impatient merch here: https://jryussuf.us9.list-manage.com/track/click?u=e93993ded9bf55b683865779e&id=7e5c0b3ac7&e=4effee5e6d

10 Green Flags That It's Safe To Be Vulnerable

In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. discusses effective ways of coping with rejection with DJ Dimple [https://www.tiktok.com/@djdimple_bk].



4 Strategies to Cope With Rejection [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/conquering-codependency/202106/4-strategies-cope-rejection] by Sharon Martin, DSW, LCSW



Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure by J.R. Yussuf is being published by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠North Atlantic Books⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.northatlanticbooks.com/] and distributed by Penguin Random House in Spring 2024, is now available for pre-order ⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.northatlanticbooks.com/shop/dear-bi-men/]



Subscribe for exclusive content ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠ [https://www.patreon.com/JRYussuf] 



Light reading: 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Unspoken Complexity of “Self-Care”⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://blog.usejournal.com/the-unspoken-complexity-of-self-care-8c9f30233467]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Is It Time to Leave Your Therapist? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://queeringpsychology.com/2019/02/24/is-it-time-to-leave-your-therapist/amp/?__twitter_impression=true]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The conditioning that fuels the mental health epidemic for Black men, and how to stop it⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://blackyouthproject.com/the-conditioning-that-fuels-the-mental-health-epidemic-for-black-men-and-how-to-stop-it/] by J.R. Yussuf 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠7 Day Mental Health Workout Plan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://goodmenproject.com/health/7-day-mental-health-workout-plan-dg/] by J.R. Yussuf 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠4 Questions Every Bisexual Guy Should Ask A Potential Therapist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.menshealth.com/health/a37612551/bisexual-friendly-therapist/] by J.R. Yussuf

J.R. created the Twitter hashtag #BisexualMenSpeak for bisexual+ men & masculine identified folks to have the space to speak for themselves & talk about how being bisexual+ impacts the way they move through the world, and maintains a YouTube channel devoted to self-improvement, emotional literacy & forgiveness. Ask a question: theotherfwordbook@gmail.com 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Curious Cat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://curiouscat.me/JRYussuf]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Venmo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://account.venmo.com/u/jryussuf]

If you like the sound of J.R.'s voice click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [www.JR-Yussuf.com/voiceover]. 

⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠ [https://www.patreon.com/JRYussuf]

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Writing Website⁠ [https://jryussuf.com/]

--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/letshealalready/message

Grab Sometimes-Impatient merch here: https://jryussuf.us9.list-manage.com/track/click?u=e93993ded9bf55b683865779e&id=7e5c0b3ac7&e=4effee5e6d

Coping With Rejection w/DJ Dimple

The Let’s Heal Already Podcast is a podcast for the sometimes-impatient, sometimes-cranky person doing some healing.

J.R. Yussuf (@letshealalready) · Zencastr

J.R. Yussuf (@letshealalready)

The Let’s Heal Already Podcast is a podcast for the sometimes-impatient, sometimes-cranky person doing some healing. This podcast will cover ground on a variety of topics from mental wellness and emotional literacy, to Blackness, to masculinity and femininity, to ending misogyny and patriarchy, to last but not least, bisexuality and ending sexual shame.

Let's Heal Already Podcast